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| 时间 | 英文 | 中文 |
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| 0:00 | I'm considering leaving my husband over a lock on one of our doors and refusing to open it. | 我考虑把我丈夫关在门上 拒绝打开 |
| 0:06 | I'm not going to lie, this does seem a little bit dramatic, but let's read the story and see | 我不会说谎,这看起来有点戏剧化, 但让我们读一下故事,看看 |
| 0:14 | if it's dramatic or not. | 如果它是戏剧性的或不。 |
| 0:15 | Hi everyone. | 大家好,你们好 |
| 0:16 | Very sad to be posting this, but I, female29, am considering | 贴了这个很伤心 但我,女性29,正在考虑 |
| 0:21 | separating from my husband 33 male of five years over a big issue we had a couple of days ago. | 和我丈夫分居了33个5年的男性 我们几天前有个大问题 |
| 0:27 | I feel like it's probably a build-up of multiple issues that led up to this being like the final | 我觉得这很可能是 多个问题堆积而成 导致这一点 像最后 |
| 0:32 | thing because I don't think you just leave someone over one thing. | 因为我不认为你只是 留下一个人的事情。 |
| 0:35 | I think it's like a build-up of | 我觉得这就像一个积聚 |
| 0:36 | things constantly that you never talked about, never addressed, and then you just let it build | 你从未谈论过的事情 从未提及过 然后你就让它建起来 |
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| 1 | I'm considering leaving my husband over a lock on one of our doors and refusing to open it. | 我考虑把我丈夫关在门上 拒绝打开 |
| 2 | I'm not going to lie, this does seem a little bit dramatic, but let's read the story and see | 我不会说谎,这看起来有点戏剧化, 但让我们读一下故事,看看 |
| 3 | if it's dramatic or not. | 如果它是戏剧性的或不。 |
| 4 | Hi everyone. | 大家好,你们好 |
| 5 | Very sad to be posting this, but I, female29, am considering | 贴了这个很伤心 但我,女性29,正在考虑 |
| 6 | separating from my husband 33 male of five years over a big issue we had a couple of days ago. | 和我丈夫分居了33个5年的男性 我们几天前有个大问题 |
| 7 | I feel like it's probably a build-up of multiple issues that led up to this being like the final | 我觉得这很可能是 多个问题堆积而成 导致这一点 像最后 |
| 8 | thing because I don't think you just leave someone over one thing. | 因为我不认为你只是 留下一个人的事情。 |
| 9 | I think it's like a build-up of | 我觉得这就像一个积聚 |
| 10 | things constantly that you never talked about, never addressed, and then you just let it build | 你从未谈论过的事情 从未提及过 然后你就让它建起来 |
| 11 | up until it overflowed. | 直到它溢出为止。 |
| 12 | The straw that broke the camel's back, that one. | 那个把骆驼的背弄断的稻草 |
| 13 | My husband has always | 我丈夫总是这样 |
| 14 | cared about his things and he puts all his valuables in his office where he works remotely three days | 关心他的东西,他把所有的贵重物品 放在他的办公室,在那里他远程工作三天 |
| 15 | a week. | 一个星期 |
| 16 | He put a lock on the outside of the office door six months ago to supposedly keep his things | 他六个月前在办公室门外锁上锁 以为他的东西 |
| 17 | safe from our destructive toddler. | 免得我们那有破坏力的小孩 |
| 18 | Fair enough, fair enough, but if it's a toddler can he even | 足够公平,足够公平, 但是如果这是一个孩子,他甚至可以 |
| 19 | reach the door handle? | 到达门把手? |
| 20 | Maybe, but I'm pretty sure you can just lock the door from the outside. | 或许吧,但我敢肯定,你可以 从外面锁门。 |
| 21 | I | 一、导 言 |
| 22 | don't think you need to put like a separate lock because that's kind of what it sounds like he did | 别以为你们需要单独锁上 因为那听起来就像他那样 |
| 23 | here. | 在这里。 |
| 24 | I let it go but found it a bit odd since the key is usually nowhere to be found. | 我让它走了,但发现它有点奇怪 因为钥匙通常找不到地方 |
| 25 | Oh that's fair. | 这很公平 |
| 26 | Anyway, I recently went in the office to get our bird's perch out of the room and he was hovering, | 总之,我最近去办公室 取出我们的鸟的食谱 房间和他徘徊, |
| 27 | acting really suspicious. | 表现得很可疑 |
| 28 | He defensively said, what do you need in there? | 他防守地说,你需要什么? |
| 29 | Yeah, he's hiding | 是啊,他躲起来了 |
| 30 | something. | 东西。 |
| 31 | He is hiding something and I said the bird's perch but then instantly felt he was hiding | 他隐瞒了什么,我说那只鸟的潜伏物... ...但立刻觉得他藏起来了 |
| 32 | something from me. | 从我的东西。 |
| 33 | I also noticed he locked the door after that. | 我也注意到他在那之后锁了门 |
| 34 | After we put our toddler to sleep, | 等我们把小孩哄睡后 |
| 35 | I told him I needed to go in the room to change the sheets on our guest mattress because we have | 我告诉他我需要去房间 换一下客人床垫上的床单 |
| 36 | visitors soon. | 马上就有访客了 |
| 37 | He was acting defensive again and said he would do it another time. | 他再次采取防御行动,并说下次会这么做. |
| 38 | That is when I | 那时我 |
| 39 | said, what are you hiding in there? | 你在里面藏着什么? |
| 40 | Valid question. | 有效问题。 |
| 41 | I'm surprised she asked it just so directly, | 我很惊讶她这么直接地问了 |
| 42 | which is good. | 这是很好的。 |
| 43 | Just be direct. | 直说吧 |
| 44 | You are getting really defensive and it's weird that I am locked | 你越来越防守了,我被锁着很奇怪 |
| 45 | out of a space in my own home and have to ask permission to enter. | 从我家里的空间里出来 并且必须申请进入许可 |
| 46 | He got more defensive until | 他得到了更多的防御 直到 |
| 47 | I eventually said you need to unlock the door and let me see what is in there because you are hiding | 我最终说,你需要解锁门 让我看看里面是什么 因为你藏着 |
| 48 | something. | 东西。 |
| 49 | Long story short, he admitted to hiding weed in the room and playing video games when I go | 长话短说,他承认把大麻藏在房间里 当我去玩电子游戏 |
| 50 | Okay, depending on where it is, this could be illegal. | 好吧,取决于它在哪里, 这是违法的。 |
| 51 | If it's in Canada or I'm pretty sure | 如果它在加拿大,或我相当确定 |
| 52 | a lot of states in America, it's fine. | 美国很多州,都很好 |
| 53 | It's marijuana weed. | 这是大麻草。 |
| 54 | It's legal. | 谓法界. |
| 55 | But if it's in like | 但是如果是这样的 |
| 56 | a different country, then yeah, it could be highly illegal, especially if it's like Korea or something | 不同的国家,然后是的, 它可能非常非法, 尤其是如果它是像韩国什么的 |
| 57 | or somewhere in Asia. | 或在亚洲的某个地方 |
| 58 | And playing video games, I don't think there's anything wrong with playing | 玩电子游戏,我不觉得有什么错 |
| 59 | video games. | 电子游戏。 |
| 60 | I guess it's just a little weird. | 我想只是有点怪 |
| 61 | He's hiding it from his wife. | 师向妻藏之. |
| 62 | Maybe she doesn't | 也许她不会 |
| 63 | like him playing video games. | 就像他玩电子游戏 |
| 64 | So that's the only time that he can play it. | 所以这是他唯一能演奏的时间. |
| 65 | But I don't know. | 却不知. |
| 66 | I | 一、导 言 |
| 67 | don't know about that. | 这我可不知道 |
| 68 | But he refused to open the door. | 但他拒绝开门. |
| 69 | I told him I'm going to sit by the door | 我告诉他我要坐在门边 |
| 70 | until he unlocks it because I think he is hiding something worse since those things aren't that | 直到他打开它 因为我觉得他隐瞒了更糟糕的事情 因为那些东西不是 |
| 71 | big of a deal. | 说来话长 |
| 72 | Yeah. | 对 |
| 73 | Okay. | 摆 |
| 74 | Probably in a country where it doesn't matter. | 也许在一个没有关系的国家 |
| 75 | You guys, he literally | 你们这些家伙,他字面上 |
| 76 | refused. | 拒绝。 |
| 77 | I tried begging. | 我试着乞求。 |
| 78 | I tried getting the door lock open. | 我试着把门锁打开 |
| 79 | I tried everything I can think of. | 我尽我所能了 |
| 80 | Not only would he not unlock the door, but he was gaslighting me the entire time telling me I'm | 他不仅不会打开门 而且他一直对我说 |
| 81 | and it must be my pregnancy hormones thinking there was something else in there. | 一定是我怀孕的荷尔蒙 以为里面有别的东西 |
| 82 | Yeah. | 对 |
| 83 | So the | 所以说 |
| 84 | gaslighting and like telling you you're crazy, especially using a pregnancy against you. | 口香糖 就像告诉你你疯了 特别是用怀孕来对付你 |
| 85 | Like | 喜欢 |
| 86 | come on, man. | 来吧,伙计。 |
| 87 | It's your child in there. | 这是你的孩子在那里。 |
| 88 | Like have some respect. | 喜欢有一些尊重。 |
| 89 | Really. | 真的吗? |
| 90 | He said that if he opens the | 他说,如果他打开 |
| 91 | door, he would be giving into my pushiness. | 门,他会让我的冲动。 |
| 92 | It's your wife. | 这是你的妻子。 |
| 93 | It's not like your enemy or some like | 不像你的敌人或者别人 |
| 94 | FBI agent or someone trying to search your home without like any probable cause or warrant. | FBI探员 或试图搜查你家的人 没有任何可能的理由或搜查令 |
| 95 | It's | 这是 |
| 96 | your wife. | 你的妻子,你的妻子。 你的妻子,你的妻子。 |
| 97 | Just be honest. | 老实说 |
| 98 | He also kept touching my leg and telling me he was sorry. | 他还不停地碰我的腿 告诉我他很抱歉 |
| 99 | I'm going | и璶ǐ |
| 100 | through this like I was making all of this up in my head. | 就像我在脑海中编造这一切 |
| 101 | Manipulator. | 操纵者. |
| 102 | Unfortunately, I got too tired | 很不幸,我太累了,我有点累了 |
| 103 | around 2 a.m. Keep in mind, I'm pregnant having to deal with this and told him I'm going to sleep | 上午2时左右 记住,我怀孕了 不得不处理这件事 并告诉他我要睡觉了 |
| 104 | and whatever he's hiding there, he can get rid of in the morning, but I'm done. | 不管他藏在那里,他早上就能摆脱,但我完了 |
| 105 | In the morning, | 早上的时候 |
| 106 | the room was perfectly staged with his little weed pen out and switch game. | 房间的布置很完美 他的小草笔和交换游戏。 |
| 107 | He has changed a lock on | 他换了锁 |
| 108 | the door to a normal one that only locks when someone is in the room, but still seems to see | 正常的门 只有在有人在房间里才锁门 但似乎还是看到了 |
| 109 | no problem with what he has done. | 他的所作所为没有问题 |
| 110 | He is still adamant that it is perfectly normal to lock a | 他仍然坚持 锁门是完全正常的 |
| 111 | door from the outside if you have important things in there. | 如果里面有重要东西的话 从外面打开门 |
| 112 | He also said there was nothing | 他还说什么都没有 |
| 113 | else in there and he just couldn't for the life of him let me in after I said we needed to go | 在那里,他只是不能 他的生命,让我进去,因为我说,我们需要去 |
| 114 | through his stuff. | 通过他的东西。 |
| 115 | If you have nothing to hide, you would just show it. | 如果你没什么可隐瞒的,你只会展示出来。 |
| 116 | And even if you did have | 即使你确实有 |
| 117 | something to hide, you should just show it anyway because it's your wife. | 隐藏的东西,你应该 只是显示它反正,因为它是你的妻子。 |
| 118 | He said that was controlling | 他说,这是控制 |
| 119 | behavior and giving in would be saying that was okay. | 行为和让步就是说,这是好的。 |
| 120 | Like I said, it's your wife. | 就像我说的,这是你的妻子。 |
| 121 | I guess what | 我猜是这样 |
| 122 | I'm saying is, is it normal to put a lock on an office door even on the outside? | 我的意思是,这是正常的 在办公室门上锁 即使外面? |
| 123 | Would the separation | 是否分离 |
| 124 | be the best next step? | 成为下一步最好的一步? |
| 125 | I have a toddler and a baby coming and really don't want to have to do this | 我有一个孩子和一个孩子来了, 真的不想这样做 |
| 126 | alone if I don't need to. | 不需要的话就一个人 |
| 127 | Okay, so this was not an overreaction and the husband is sus or the husband | 好吧,所以这不是反应过度 丈夫是苏斯或丈夫 |
| 128 | is very very sus. | 是很特别的 |
| 129 | I would imagine it's either something actually like illegal or he's cheating. | 我想他要么是违法的 要么是在作弊 |
| 130 | One of those two things. | 其中一个东西。 |
| 131 | Maybe he was keeping like uh like lingerie or some something because it | 也许他像 内衣之类的东西一样 |
| 132 | sounded like there was a bed in there since she said she needed to change the sheets inside the | 听起来好像里面有张床 因为她说她需要换床单 |
| 133 | room. | 房间 |
| 134 | That room. | 那个房间 |
| 135 | So it's his office slash like guest bed or maybe she needed to get sheets out | 所以,这是他的办公室 斜像客床 或者也许她需要 得到床单出来 |
| 136 | of there. | 这里。 |
| 137 | Something like that. | 类似的东西。 |
| 138 | Probably something like that. | 可能就是那样 |
| 139 | First comment. | 初评. |
| 140 | What was behind that door | 门后面是什么 |
| 141 | was more important to him than your trust which he has lost. | 对他来说 比你失去的信任更重要 |
| 142 | Yeah honestly the most important thing | 是啊,老实说,最重要的事情 |
| 143 | in a relationship is the trust between the people and if you break that trust is very very hard to | 关系是人民之间的信任 如果你打破了这种信任 |
| 144 | get back and you can get it back but you just need to be honest and open and not be like so guarded | 回来,你可以把它拿回来... ...但你只需要诚实,开诚布公... ...而不是像这么小心 |
| 145 | like this person. | 就像这个人 |
| 146 | Yes if he did something bad it's best to just admit it, show her, be completely | 是的,如果他做了坏事 最好还是承认一下,给她看,彻底的 |
| 147 | honest and then let her decide what she wants to do from there. | 诚实的,然后让她决定 她想从那里做什么。 |
| 148 | Someone else commented yes he was | 别人说,是的,他是 |
| 149 | hiding something in there. | 里面藏着东西 |
| 150 | If you're lucky it's something he's just embarrassed by that he doesn't | 如果你走运的话,他只是觉得很尴尬 |
| 151 | want to share but if it's not that I'd guess hard drugs or a porn habit that's borderline cheating | 想要分享,但如果它不是 我猜测硬毒品或色情习惯 这是边缘欺骗 |
| 152 | or illegal illegal since apparently he needs somewhere private to indulge. | 或非法的,因为他显然需要 某处私人放纵。 |
| 153 | You could try | 你可以试试 |
| 154 | asking him for a drug test to see how he responds. | 要求他做药检 看看他的反应 |
| 155 | I was thinking porn habit that's a bit on the | 我觉得色情习惯有点 |
| 156 | illegal side. | 非法方面。 |
| 157 | Unfortunately that was my guess as well. | 不幸的是,这也是我的猜测。 |
| 158 | I can't think of anything you wouldn't at | 我什么都想不起来,你不在 |
| 159 | least let your spouse see and know about such as guns weed and weird collection of pickled medical | 至少让你的配偶看到和知道 诸如枪草和怪异的收集 腌制的医学 |
| 160 | subjects unless it's something much more disturbing that you knew would be a marriage nuke. | 除非是更令人不安的事情 你知道会是一个婚姻核。 |
| 161 | So I'm | ┮и琌 |
| 162 | immediately leave him over the lock was to keep her out not the toddler. | 立刻把他关在锁上 是为了让她远离孩子 |
| 163 | Yeah that is really weird | 是啊,这真的很奇怪 |
| 164 | I don't think I would trust this person because definitely he's hiding something that she would | 我想我不会相信这个人 因为他肯定在隐瞒她会做的事 |
| 165 | not be okay with and something that he would rather break her trust over than to let her see it so | 他宁愿破坏她的信任 也不愿让她看到 |
| 166 | honestly whatever it is it's probably really really really bad really bad. | 老实说,不管它是什么 它可能真的真的很糟糕 真的很糟糕。 |
| 167 | You need to get | 你需要得到一个 |
| 168 | him to explain or you need to leave either one. | 他来解释,或者你需要离开其中之一。 |
| 169 | I would flat out tell him if you're not telling me | 如果你不告诉我,我会告诉他 |
| 170 | truth I would assume it's CP and will act accordingly. | 老实说,我假设这是CP, 并将相应行事。 |
| 171 | OP replied I actually did bring | OP回答说,我确实带来了 |
| 172 | up CP because of how crazy this was to me. | 因为这件事对我太疯狂了 |
| 173 | What are you hiding in that so bad you refuse to open | 你藏在什么 如此糟糕 你拒绝打开 |
| 174 | even if I threaten divorce? | 即使我威胁离婚? |
| 175 | How did he react? | 他有什么反应? |
| 176 | I think you know something is wrong. | 我想你知道有问题 |
| 177 | Do you have | 你有没有 |
| 178 | a safe place to go right now because if it's something like CP you are pregnant and that | 一个安全的地方,现在去 因为如果它的东西像CP 你怀孕了,而且 |
| 179 | means you need to get free ASAP and it means you really need to take his computer and hard drive | 这意味着你需要尽快得到免费 意味着你真的需要拿走他的电脑和硬盘 |
| 180 | somewhere and have them look at it because if he is doing something like that he cannot have custody | 某处让他们看看 因为如果他在做这样的事情 他不能有监护权 |
| 181 | rights to your child. | 儿童的权利。 |
| 182 | He cannot. | 他不会的 |
| 183 | It's very true. | 实相甚深. |
| 184 | It's really really scary like obviously I hope | 这真的很可怕 就像我显然希望 |
| 185 | it's not something like this. | 不是这样的 |
| 186 | This would really be the worst outcome because they do have a toddler | 这将是最糟糕的结果 因为他们确实有一个孩子 |
| 187 | and another child on the way and if this is what he's hiding she needs to get out of there | 和另一个孩子在路上,如果这就是他所隐藏的 她需要离开那里 |
| 188 | immediately. | 马上 |
| 189 | Yeah a lot of people in the comments are saying probably CP. | 是的,很多人在评论中说 可能是CP。 |
| 190 | It's probably CP. | 也许是CP. |
| 191 | That's | 这是 |
| 192 | fucked up man. | 他妈的男人。 |
| 193 | Yeah I'll get his computers get his hard drives get all that stuff and give it to | 是的,我会得到他的电脑 得到他的硬盘 得到所有的东西,并把它给 |
| 194 | anyone around him. | 他周围的人 |
| 195 | Next story. | 下一个故事。 |
| 196 | A few years ago despite being younger than me he treats me like a baby and started doing | 几年前,尽管比我年轻 他把我当婴儿看待,开始做 |
| 197 | everything for me. | 一切为我. |
| 198 | He always takes me to work and picks me up after work since I don't have a car. | 他总是带我去上班 下班后接我 因为我没有车 |
| 199 | Without him I would have walked or taken public transport. | 没有他,我会走或坐公交车。 |
| 200 | I've always been grateful to him for | 我一直感谢他 |
| 201 | doing this. | 这样做。 |
| 202 | Not only that but he also does all the housework. | 不仅如此,他还做家务 |
| 203 | He does most of the grocery shopping | 他经常买杂货 |
| 204 | and cooking and cleaning and laundry. | 烹饪 清洁 洗衣 |
| 205 | When we go on a trip he plans everything. | 当我们去旅行时 他计划了一切 |
| 206 | Life with him was | 和他一起生活着 |
| 207 | so convenient that I got used to doing nothing by myself in a few years. | 这么方便,我习惯了 在几年内自己什么都不做。 |
| 208 | All my friends say that | 我所有的朋友都这么说 |
| 209 | they are jealous that I have such a good boyfriend who does everything for me. | 他们嫉妒我有这么好的男朋友 做我的一切。 |
| 210 | I thought so too but | 我也这么想,但是 |
| 211 | suddenly I realized that I can't do anything by myself anymore. | 突然意识到我无法再一个人做任何事了 |
| 212 | When he goes on a business trip and | 他出差时 |
| 213 | leaves me alone for a week I find it so stressful and exhausting to do house chores like cooking | 离开我一个星期,我发现 做家务如做饭,压力很大,很累 |
| 214 | and cleaning which I always did by myself before meeting him. | 在见到他之前,我总是自己打扫 |
| 215 | I became much less independent than | 我变得不那么独立了 |
| 216 | I was 10 years ago and I don't feel like myself anymore. | 10年前,我不再感觉自己了。 |
| 217 | On the other hand I feel like I'm finally | 另一方面,我觉得我终于 |
| 218 | receiving the love and treatment I didn't receive from my parents and it's compensating my miserable | 得到的爱和待遇 我没有得到从我的父母 它补偿了我的痛苦 |
| 219 | childhood. | 童年时 |
| 220 | He says I need to be treated like a baby now because I didn't have the chance | 他说我现在需要像婴儿一样对待 因为我没有机会 |
| 221 | in my childhood. | 在我童年时期 |
| 222 | I'm aware that this isn't healthy in the long term. | 我知道这从长远来看是不健康的. |
| 223 | What should I change? | 我该改变什么? |
| 224 | TLDR I used | 三角洲 我曾经 |
| 225 | to be an independent person but my boyfriend treats me like a baby and does everything for me and now | 做个独立的人... ...但我男朋友把我当婴儿看待... ...为我做一切... |
| 226 | I can't do things like house chores by myself. | 我不能一个人做家务 |
| 227 | I lost the independent person I was and turned into | 我失去了独立的人,我变成了 |
| 228 | a baby. | 一个婴儿。 |
| 229 | Okay before we read comments I don't want to sound like rude or like mean but it kind of | 好吧,在读评论之前 我不想听起来像粗鲁或刻薄,但有点 |
| 230 | sounds you've got complacent and just didn't help and what was it for like 10 years? | 听起来你自满了 却没帮上什么忙 10年了? |
| 231 | Yeah you've | 是啊,你已经 |
| 232 | been together 10 years and you're telling me you haven't once cleaned or cooked in that whole 10 | 在一起10年了,你告诉我 你从来没有清理过 或煮了整10年 |
| 233 | years and now you're like saying oh you don't feel like yourself. | 几年,现在你就像说 哦,你不觉得像自己。 |
| 234 | You kind of just went down | 你刚刚倒下了 |
| 235 | this path as well and I feel like you should take responsibility. | 这条路也一样,我觉得你应该承担责任。 |
| 236 | It sounds like you're really blaming | 听起来你真的在责怪我 |
| 237 | your boyfriend for treating you like this when I know there's a lot of people that would like to | 你男朋友这样对待你 我知道有很多人想 |
| 238 | be treated like this. | 被这样对待。 |
| 239 | You say that yeah you don't know how to cook and clean anymore. | 你说是的 你再也不会做饭和打扫了 |
| 240 | Those things | 那些东西 |
| 241 | aren't like really like difficult rocket science things like there's a broom a mop there's also | 不像火箭科学那样困难 就像有扫帚 还有拖把 |
| 242 | youtube you can literally search it if you don't know and for cooking I mean I don't really know | you can 字面上的搜索,如果你不知道 和烹饪,我的意思是我真的不知道 |
| 243 | how to cook at all I'm not a good cook but if there's a recipe I can follow it. | 如何做饭,我不是一个好厨师 但如果有食谱,我可以遵循它。 |
| 244 | One cup of this | 一杯这个 |
| 245 | boil for that long this temperature I can follow a recipe. | 这么长的温度,我可以跟随食谱。 |
| 246 | I don't know just uh let's see what some | 我不知道 只是呃,让我们看看什么 |
| 247 | people in the comments are saying. | 人们在评论中说。 |
| 248 | First comment girl you got a guy like this start picking up the | 第一个评论女孩 你有一个这样的家伙开始拿起 |
| 249 | efforts and put in 50% rather than him doing 90% and you both are set if he continues doing all | 努力并投入50% 而不是他做90%, 你们两个被设定 如果他继续做所有 |
| 250 | this he's going to be burnt out sooner or later. | 他迟早会被烧焦的 |
| 251 | I was thinking that too I'm like for 10 years | 我也在想,我就像十年一样 |
| 252 | he's been doing this I guess he's just like that type of person but I feel like after 10 years | 他一直在做这个 我想他就像那种人 但我觉得十年之后 |
| 253 | cooking cleaning and he goes to work like he hasn't burnt out yet like that's some stamina. | 做饭打扫,他去工作 就像他还没有烧焦一样... ... ...... |
| 254 | Someone replied yeah bro loves her too much but I think doing everything for her isn't healthy she | 有人回答说,是的,兄弟太爱她了 但我觉得为她做任何事 是不健康的,她 |
| 255 | should talk to him about this without making him feel guilty they replied I don't even think that | 应该和他谈谈 而不让他感到内疚 他们回答我甚至不认为 |
| 256 | kind of talk is that necessary like it doesn't have to be something big haha I think him driving her | 那种谈话是有必要的 就像它不需要什么大哈哈 我认为他开车送她 |
| 257 | to and from work is fine as long as it's not out of the way or anything a car is super convenient | 上班和下班都很好 只要不挡路或任何东西 车都超方便的 |
| 258 | yeah I don't think there's any problem with like the driving to work like I know a lot of people | 是啊,我不觉得有什么问题 像开车去工作 像我知道很多人 |
| 259 | that don't drive and if especially if it's on the way it's not really a big deal it's more like the | 不开车 如果在路上的话 也不是什么大事 |
| 260 | house chores and the cooking part that like he does all the work yeah then that one maybe needs | 家务和烹饪部分,喜欢他做 所有的工作 是的,那么一个人可能需要 |
| 261 | frankly I'm confused why she's asking what she should change she knows what to do | 坦白说,我不明白为什么她问 她应该改变什么 她知道该怎么做 |
| 262 | because she lived it did she forget how to cook or vacuum or something she just needs to put | 因为她活了下来 她忘记了如何做饭或吸尘什么的 |
| 263 | in half the effort lol yeah it just kind of sounds like she's low-key lazy and now instead of like | 一半的努力,对,只是听起来像 她的低调懒惰 现在而不是喜欢 |
| 264 | just doing it like vacuuming or sweeping or something she's writing a reddit thread someone | 只是做它像真空或扫荡 或东西 她写一个红线某人 |
| 265 | replied this is not love it's slavish servility indulging a person in this way is in fact | 回答说,这不是爱 它的奢华的仆从 以这种方式欺负一个人实际上是 |
| 266 | diabolical hatred it is like starving a person of what they need okay this person is on something | 恶毒的仇恨,就像饿死一个人 他们需要的东西,好吧,这个人在某事上 |
| 267 | good thing they got freaking downvoted into oblivion holy ratio then the comment below that | 幸好他们被否决为 遗忘的圣比 然后下面的评论 |
| 268 | lmao imagine calling a person doing chores and acts of service of their own free will | 想象一下,称一个人做家务 做自己的服务行为 |
| 269 | diabolical hatred really touch some grass yeah bro that that was a terrible terrible take bro | 恶毒的仇恨真的触动了一些草 耶,兄弟,那是一个可怕的恐怖 带兄弟 |
| 270 | get out of here someone replied why not start microdosing household chores y'all got any more | 出去吧 有人回答说为什么不开始做小活儿 你们还有别的 |
| 271 | chores drugs care chore abuse resistance education bro now they're low-key clowning on her bro | 家务劳动 毒品护理 胆小鬼 抗虐教育 兄弟 现在他们低调地嘲笑她的弟弟 |
| 272 | someone else commented some of these comments are gentle parenting you too much oh by the way | 别人说这些话是温柔的 照顾你太过分了 哦 对了 |
| 273 | she's like 35 or something right now it's good that you're aware that you become too codependent | 她现在像35岁什么的 很高兴你意识到你变得太依赖了 |
| 274 | but from your comments it seems like you're still resistant to making any changes of course it's | 但从你的评论来看 你似乎仍然拒绝做任何改变 当然是 |
| 275 | good to let your partner love and support you but if you feel like you're losing independence and | 很高兴让你的伴侣爱和支持你 但如果你觉得自己失去独立 |
| 276 | too lazy useless then i think changes should be made start by doing more of an even split of the | 懒惰无用,那么我认为应该先做一些改变 做一个甚至分成 |
| 277 | household chores and making your own plans reach out to the friends and make sure you have your | 做家务 做自己的计划 联系朋友 确保你有你的 |
| 278 | own life separate from him sitting around and being bored if he's gone is not okay you can do | 自己的生活与他分开 坐在周围, 无聊,如果他走了是不好的,你可以做 |
| 279 | household chores and things by yourself if you were able to in the past you just need to change | 如果你能过去,你只需要改变 |
| 280 | your mindset and push yourself more because also at the end of the day you have to be able to support | 你的思想意识和自我推动 也因为你最终必须能够支持 |
| 281 | take care of yourself to an extent we never know what the future holds op replied you are right i | 照顾好自己 在某种程度上,我们永远不知道 未来会是什么 行动回答你是对的我 |
| 282 | feel so bad about myself for not being able to have fun without him it doesn't help that i'm | 我为没有他无法玩乐而感到难过 这帮不了我 |
| 283 | living abroad now and don't have any school friends here so he's pretty much my only real | 住在国外,没有学校的朋友在这里 所以他几乎是我唯一的真实 |
| 284 | friend in this country someone else commented girl wtf start doing shit and stop making him | 这个国家的朋友 有人评论说 女孩wtf 开始做狗屎 停止让他 |
| 285 | do everything yeah i don't know this guy just seems like a really like a nice guy like a yes | 做所有的事,是啊,我不知道这家伙 只是看起来像一个真正的好人 像一个是 |
| 286 | man like i understand like doing stuff uh like access service is a love language but like doing | 男人喜欢我理解 做一些事情 喜欢访问服务 是一种爱情语言 但喜欢做 |
| 287 | everything for 10 years to the point where your girlfriend can't even cook and clean on her own | 10年来你女朋友连做饭和打扫都没有 |
| 288 | it is a bit excessive i do agree with this person start doing shit and stop making him do everything | 这有点过分了 我同意这个人 开始做狗屎 停止让他做任何事情 |
| 289 | facts someone replied to that yes people are being way too nice to op in my opinion she refuses to | 有人回答说, 是的,人们是太好 行动在我看来,她拒绝 |
| 290 | take responsibility even the title suggests that she's some kind of victim in this situation | 连标题都说她就是这种情况下的受害者 |
| 291 | {\fn黑体\fs22\bord1\shad0\3aHBE\4aH00\fscx67\fscy66\2cHFFFFFF\3cH808080}当解决方案是最容易解决的 | |
| 292 | one forces her to be that way and her blaming her boyfriend for being her own lack of character is | 她责怪男友自己缺乏性格 |
| 293 | huge red flag oh oh someone some people are commenting that he's abusive and that she posted | 有人评论他虐待她, |
| 294 | another story like another thread that she was saying he's abusive yo let me read that by the | 另一个故事,像另一个线 她说他虐待哟 让我读一下 |
| 295 | same person yeah someone said the fact that opi had posted in the r slash abusive relationships | 有人说Opi在虐待关系上贴过 |
| 296 | and described being physically assaulted by him more than once was not surprising to me without | 被他多次殴打 对我来说并不奇怪 |
| 297 | looking her past posts i was thinking of compensating or something you hit the nail okay but i was not | 看着她过去的帖子 我在想补偿 或者你撞到钉子的东西 |
| 298 | planning on reading this one but let's read this boyfriend slapped my chest a few times does it | 打算读这个,但让我们读这个男朋友 扇了我几下胸口 |
| 299 | beating this is the same person that posted the i'm not independent post we were going on | 打了他,就是那个贴了我不是独立帖子的人 |
| 300 | vacation and my boyfriend was sleeping in so i tried waking him up i told him babe wake up | 度假时我男朋友睡了 我试着把他吵醒 我告诉他宝贝醒来 |
| 301 | we're gonna be late he was extremely annoyed and he yelled at me so i left him alone later we departed | 我们要迟到了 他非常生气 他对我大吼大叫 于是我离开他 |
| 302 | and the argument continued while we were driving i yelled at him then he hit my chest real hard | 我们开车时,争论还在继续 我对他大喊大叫 然后他狠狠地打我的胸 |
| 303 | i was so shocked i thought he punched me but he insists it was slapping because his hand was open | 我太震惊了 我以为他打了我 但他坚持要拍是因为他的手开着 |
| 304 | i thought he hit me with a fist because it felt so heavy and strong on my chest that it was hurting | 我以为他用拳头打我 因为我胸口很重很强 痛得要命 |
| 305 | for a while i slapped his chest back as an automatic reaction to what just happened then | 有一阵子我打他的胸 作为对刚才发生的事情的自动反应 |
| 306 | he immediately slapped my chest again i said i didn't know you were a girlfriend beater he said | 他马上又打我的胸口 我说我不知道你是个打女朋友的 |
| 307 | it was not a beating it's slapping slapping is not beating you were yelling at me so i slapped you | 不是打,是打,是打,是打,是打,是你骂我 所以我打了你 |
| 308 | it's a normal reaction i said you shouldn't beat your girlfriend in any case and the word beat | 这是正常的反应,我说 你不应该打你的女朋友 无论如何,这个词击败 |
| 309 | him so much he ranted at me do not use that word i didn't beat you i said whether it was punching | 他对我大吼大叫 别用那个词 我没打你 我说是不是在打你 |
| 310 | or slapping it's still physically attacking me he insists it is okay and understandable to slap me | 或扇耳光 仍然在人身攻击我 他坚持这样可以理解的 |
| 311 | when we were in an argument holy shit and he did not beat me bro no physical contact no hitting no | 我们吵架的时候 他没有打我兄弟 没有身体接触 没有打 |
| 312 | nothing is ever acceptable ever ever ever especially an argument especially an argument dude that's | 没有什么可以接受的 特别是一个争论 特别是一个争论的家伙 |
| 313 | this guy is just an abuser what the fuck dude he added it is legal to physically hit someone who | 这家伙只是个虐待者 他妈的他加了什么 身体上打人是合法的 |
| 314 | is yelling at him i don't know if that's true let me google that is it legal to physically hit | 对他大喊大叫 我不知道这是否是真的 让我用Google来打他 |
| 315 | someone who is yelling at you no it is not legally permissible to physically hit someone simply | 对你大吼大叫的人 不 法律不允许随便打人 |
| 316 | because they are yelling at you so yeah that's not legal i think we could have all guessed that | 因为他们在对你大喊大叫 这样不合法 我想我们可以都猜到了 |
| 317 | though thank you everyone for your insights and sharing your experience i really appreciate them | 感谢大家的洞察力和分享经验 我真的很感激他们 |
| 318 | just adding a few more information later he said i was yelling at him in the argument | 刚才又补充了几个消息 他说我当时在吵他 |
| 319 | and that's threatening him i said you yelled at me first so you threatened me first according to | 威胁他 我说你先骂我 所以你先威胁我 |
| 320 | your definition he said it's different get the fuck out of here bro it's always different come on | 你的定义,他说这是不同的 得到他妈的离开这里,兄弟 它总是不同的 来吧, |
| 321 | and he had the right to yell at me you don't have the right to yell at anyone dude especially your | 他有权利骂我 你没有权利骂任何人 尤其是你 |
| 322 | partner because i woke him up several times when he wanted to sleep more is he a child yes he said | 搭档,因为我吵醒他几次 当他想多睡一觉时,他是一个孩子 是的,他说 |
| 323 | was playing the victim because i yelled at him in the car which is threatening him grown man by the | 我在车里对他大喊大叫 威胁着他长大了 |
| 324 | way so he slapped me only to shut me up so when i asked him so you think it's okay to hit someone | 那样他扇我耳光只是为了让我闭嘴 所以当我问他的时候 你觉得打人没关系 |
| 325 | physically weaker than you when they yell at you he responded it was not cool but how else could | 他们对你大吼大叫时身体很虚弱 他回答说这不酷 但还能有什么办法 |
| 326 | i shut you up bro this guy this is a really weird messed up relationship you don't shut someone up | 我让你闭嘴,兄弟 这家伙这段感情很怪异 你不给别人闭嘴 |
| 327 | or do that you just leave the situation i understand you're in a car you can go out like take a | 或做你刚刚离开的情况 我知道你在一辆车上 你可以出去像拿一个 |
| 328 | break or go to the gas station fill up go in splash water on your face grab a snack you physically | 休息或去加油站 灌满水 泼在脸上 |
| 329 | distance yourself you don't try to shut the other person up by beating them dude what growing up my | 离自己远一点,你不会试图通过打他们来阻止另一个人 |
| 330 | parents physically abused me and he knows that when i said he's not different from my parents | 父母虐待我 他知道当我说他和我父母没什么不同时 |
| 331 | beating me and blaming me that i deserved it he said given your situation with your parents i | 打我,责怪我,我活该 他说鉴于你和你父母的处境 |
| 332 | think it's not cool to slap you even though you were yelling at me i asked so it's okay to | 虽然你对我大吼大叫,但拍你一巴掌并不酷 |
| 333 | physically attack someone who was not abused by their parents what about your ex-girlfriend is | 人身攻击没有被父母虐待的人 你的前女友是 |
| 334 | okay to slap her if she yells at you because her parents didn't abuse her he remained quiet i guess | 如果她对你大吼大叫 因为她父母没有虐待她... ...他还是很安静 |
| 335 | that means he thinks it's okay and he still wants to justify what he did he once jokingly jokingly | 也就是说他觉得没事 他还想为他做过的事辩护 他曾经开玩笑 |
| 336 | choked me before and i totally freaked out i'm guessing that was done in bed that time he | 之前掐死我,我完全吓坏了 我猜他那次在床上被吓坏了 |
| 337 | apologized and said he would never do it again he really didn't choke me again since then but now | 道歉,说他再也不会这样做了 从那以后他真的没有再掐我,但现在 |
| 338 | he physically hit me for the first time i told him you choked me before and now you slapped me | 他第一次打我,我告诉他 你以前掐我,现在你打我 |
| 339 | what are you going to do next punch me kick me that's how domestic violence escalates he didn't | 你接下来要怎么揍我? 那样家庭暴力才不会升级 |
| 340 | respond anything to that yeah you kind of need to leave dude i think based on the last post you have | 任何回应 对,你需要离开的家伙 我认为根据你最后的帖子 |
| 341 | just become so dependent on him because he does everything for you that now he's gonna start | 变得如此依赖他 因为他为你做了一切 现在他要开始 |
| 342 | slowly like abusing you and doing all this stuff because he thinks he can get away with it you you | 慢慢地喜欢虐待你 做所有这些事情 因为他觉得他能逃脱它 你 |
| 343 | talk to him and it doesn't seem like he understands at all what he did if someone shows you they're | 和他谈谈,他似乎完全不明白 他做了什么,如果有人告诉你他们是 |
| 344 | a physically violent person bro just look at that accept it and go especially if you were abused | 一个身体暴力的人兄弟,只要看看 接受它,特别去 如果你受到虐待 |
| 345 | as a child and growing up no one should ever have to go through that and no one should ever | 小时候,长大后, 任何人都不应该经历, 任何人都不应该 |
| 346 | ever have to go through that again in their relationship because your relationship is going | 因为你们的关系要继续 |
| 347 | to last if you're together for your whole life it's going to last a lot longer the abuse you had | 如果你一辈子在一起 虐待会持续很久 |
| 348 | when you were a kid people are commenting you can't stay with someone who thinks there are | 当你还是个孩子的时候 人们在评论 你不能和认为有 |
| 349 | {\fn黑体\fs22\bord1\shad0\3aHBE\4aH00\fscx67\fscy66\2cHFFFFFF\3cH808080}在这样的情况下 {\fn黑体\fs22\bord1\shad0\3aHBE\4aH00\fscx67\fscy66\2cHFFFFFF\3cH808080}可以打你的胸口 | |
| 350 | some serious damage nailing someone in their sternum and if he's already choked you once | 有严重损伤的人被钉在胸前 如果他已经掐住你一次 |
| 351 | you're in serious danger you need to get out yeah tell him to take his fucking somatics and | 你身处严重危险,你需要离开 是的,告诉他 取他的他妈的体操和 |
| 352 | hit the fucking road there's no reason for you to continue dating this complete loser | 去他妈的路 你没有理由继续和这个失败者约会 |
| 353 | none who gets to decide what someone has a right to do he's just making stuff up he's an abuser | 没有人能决定一个人有权做什么 他只是在编造一些东西 他是个虐待者 |
| 354 | i'm sorry i hope you can stay safe leave him now he's an abuser and it will only get worse if he's | 对不起,我希望你能保持 安全离开他 现在他是一个虐待者, 只会更糟 如果他是 |
| 355 | already put hands around your neck you're on dangerous ground based on the last post and | 已经把手放在脖子上... ...根据最后的帖子... |
| 356 | this post was three years ago and the last post was eight months ago so that means she's | 这个职位是三年前 最后一个职位是八个月前 |
| 357 | still stayed with him yeah i think she needs to get out of this situation i don't think it's | 仍然和他在一起 我觉得她需要摆脱这种局面 |
| 358 | healthy for her and especially the dynamic they have together she's just probably feels like she's | 特别是他们在一起的活力 她可能觉得自己很健康 |
| 359 | unable to leave and he feels like he can treat her however he wants and he doesn't have to apologize | 无法离开,他觉得自己可以 对待她,无论他想要什么 他不必道歉 |
| 360 | he doesn't have to admit his fault he doesn't have to like take responsibility for his actions he | 他不必承认他的过错 他不必为他的行为负责 |
| 361 | thinks he could just do whatever and she's just not going to do anything leave next story boyfriend | 觉得他可以做任何事情 她不会做任何事情 留下下一个故事的男朋友 |
| 362 | 19 male and i 17 female were mugged he ran away and left me alone with the mugger i can't see him | 19个男的和我17个女的被抢劫 他逃跑了 让我和那个我看不见的抢劫犯单独在一起 |
| 363 | in the same light anymore i don't know why i think this isn't like the uk or something | 在同样的光线下,我不知道为什么 我觉得这不是像 uk什么的 |
| 364 | i'm low key think it's in the uk yesterday i was hanging out with my boyfriend and we were | 我低调以为昨天我和男朋友在一起 |
| 365 | in not so great part of our city suddenly a guy approached us to ask for directions and asked us | 突然有个家伙来找我们 问我们方向 |
| 366 | to help him get there and we helped him stupid i know after getting there he pulled out a knife | 帮助他到达那里,我们帮助他 愚蠢的,我知道在那里后,他拔出刀 |
| 367 | {\fn黑体\fs22\bord1\shad0\3aHBE\4aH00\fscx67\fscy66\2cHFFFFFF\3cH808080}他要我们所有的钱 {\fn黑体\fs22\bord1\shad0\3aHBE\4aH00\fscx67\fscy66\2cHFFFFFF\3cH808080}男朋友跑了 {\fn黑体\fs22\bord1\shad0\3aHBE\4aH00\fscx67\fscy66\2cHFFFFFF\3cH808080}留下我和你男朋友的抢劫犯一起 | |
| 368 | a bitch literally in this situation i understand it's like normal to be afraid at the very least | 一个婊子在这种情况下,我理解 这是正常的,至少害怕 |
| 369 | man let your girlfriend run away and you can stand there kind of distract her because one you | 男人让你的女朋友跑了 你可以站在那里 那种分散她的注意力 因为一个你 |
| 370 | probably run faster than your girlfriend just realistically unless she's like like really | 也许跑得比你女朋友快 除非她真的喜欢 |
| 371 | really fast as well you probably run faster than her so give her like time to like run away and | 你跑得可能比她快 所以给她时间喜欢逃跑 |
| 372 | get help or say like yo go get help like run stay with this guy make sure he doesn't start chasing | 去找人帮忙,或者说像你一样去找人帮忙 就像和这家伙一起跑一样 确保他不会开始追 |
| 373 | like attacking you then the boyfriend just just talk him down if he wants money okay give the | 就像攻击你,那么男朋友只要 说服他,如果他想要钱,好吗? |
| 374 | fucking guy money like whatever give him money he has a knife maybe you know how to fight maybe | 他妈的家伙的钱,无论给他什么钱 他有一把刀,也许你知道如何战斗 |
| 375 | you don't is like the hundred dollars in your wallet worth your life give him give him what | 你不像你的钱包里的一百块 值得你付出生命给他什么 |
| 376 | he wants he wants money okay take it your girlfriend should be the first one to exit that situation and | 他想要钱 好吧 你女朋友应该第一个退出 |
| 377 | run away and you should be the one that stays behind luckily he just wanted my money so i gave | 逃跑,你应该是一个 留在后面幸运的他只是想要我的钱 所以我给了 |
| 378 | him all the money i had and then he went away i hope you break up with this guy by the way like | 我的钱都给他了 然后他走了 我希望你和这家伙分手 |
| 379 | really after that i went inside a bar and called my parents my parents were furious with boyfriend | 之后我进了一家酒吧 打电话给我父母 我父母对男朋友很生气 |
| 380 | and tried to call him but he did not pick up when we went to the police and then returned home | 并试图打电话给他,但他没有接 当我们去报警,然后回家 |
| 381 | and after maybe two hours i received a call from my boyfriend asking where i was and telling me he | 过了两个小时 我接到男朋友的电话 问我在哪里 并告诉我他 |
| 382 | alerted the police i exploded on him and he did not even apologize but kept telling me he did the | 报警说,我爆炸了他 他甚至没有道歉,但一直告诉我他做了 |
| 383 | best he could this man does not care about you dude if a person cares about you bro they would | 要是有人在乎你,他就不会在乎你 |
| 384 | put themselves in danger before you are ever in danger like really my question is is there any | 在你陷入危险之前 把自己置于危险之中 就像真的 我的问题是 有没有 |
| 385 | way to recover from this my image of him is shattered till the our boyfriend left me during | 如何从中恢复 我对他的形象被粉碎 直到我们男朋友离开我期间 |
| 386 | a mugging i can't see him in the same light anymore let's read some comments i personally | 抢劫我再也见不到他了 让我们来读我个人的一些评论 |
| 387 | don't think so i'm also so sorry this happened to you i saw a post similar to this a few months | 我不这么认为,我也非常抱歉 这发生在你身上 我看见了一个类似这个的帖子 几个月 |
| 388 | back where a girl was in the same situation but she was with her boyfriend and her brother her | 回到一个女孩 处于同样的处境 但她和她男朋友和弟弟在一起 |
| 389 | boyfriend immediately ran away while she and her brother stood their ground and fought and she | 男朋友立刻逃走,而她和她的兄弟 站在他们的地上,战斗,她 |
| 390 | was struggling to get past the two vastly different reactions i think the consensus back then was also | 那时的共识也是 |
| 391 | no there's no way to get past it and neither reaction is particularly wrong but they broke | 没有办法克服它 也没有反应是特别错误的 但是它们都坏了 |
| 392 | up because the girl needs someone who will stay and fight with her just like the boyfriend needs | 因为女孩需要一个人 留下来和她战斗 就像男朋友需要的那样 |
| 393 | to be with someone who will instinctively run off with him yeah i guess i guess that makes sense if | 和一个本能地和他私奔的人在一起 我猜如果 |
| 394 | both partners are like the partners that are like flight instead of fight because i guess there's | 两个搭档都喜欢像飞行而不是战斗的搭档 因为我猜有 |
| 395 | two reactions fight or flight if they both run off like immediately that's good if they both stay | 两次反应 战斗或飞行,如果他们都 跑得像马上,这是好的,如果他们都留下来 |
| 396 | and fight that's good but if one runs off and one doesn't particularly the guy runs off and the girl | 和战斗,这是好的 但如果一个人跑掉,一个人不 特别的家伙跑走,女孩 |
| 397 | doesn't that's a problem that is a problem yeah i think if you just really care about someone | 这不是个问题吗? |
| 398 | love them and care about their safety even if you were the person that is a flight person the one | 爱他们 关心他们的安全 即使你是一个飞行的人 |
| 399 | that runs away you would stay there and let them either run away or stay there with them and like | 逃跑的你呆在那里 让他们要么逃跑 要么和他们呆在一起 |
| 400 | confront the situation you know two hours two hours girl you could have been long dead by then | 面对你认识的两小时两小时的女孩 你可能早就死了 |
| 401 | you're incredibly lucky that you got away unharmed i don't think you could get past this that boy is | 你很幸运,你逃脱了 没有伤害,我不认为你能 度过这个男孩是 |
| 402 | not only a coward but he cares so little he waited two goddamn hours to even check if you | 不只是个懦夫,他在乎的太少 他等了两个小时,甚至检查你是否 |
| 403 | deserve so much better than this facts dude really traditional gender roles aside i don't | 值得比这个事实更好的男人 真正的传统性别角色,我不 |
| 404 | think i could maintain a friendship with someone who abandoned me like this let alone an intimate | 我想我可以保持一个友谊 与一个人谁抛弃了我 像这样,更不用说亲密 |
| 405 | romantic relationship unfortunately you'll never see him the same again there's no coming back from | 很不幸,你再也见不到他了 不会再有再回来的机会了 |
| 406 | solid proof that he wouldn't even try to consider your safety in a scary situation i couldn't stay | 确凿的证明 他甚至不会考虑你的安全 在一个可怕的情况下 我不能留下 |
| 407 | with someone like that i am a woman and a girlfriend of mine friend that's a girl not someone i was | 和这样的人在一起 我是一个女人 也是我朋友的女朋友 |
| 408 | dating was approached was approached by a sketchy dude when we were in paris one night i had walked | 约会被一个矮小的家伙接近 当我们在巴黎一个晚上 我走过 |
| 409 | directions because we were lost i see that dude she looked freaked out instinctually i ran over | 因为我们迷路了 我看到那个男人 她看起来吓坏了 直觉上我跑过去 |
| 410 | to protect her safety and numbers doesn't matter if you are dating or not yeah it seems like everyone | 为了保护她的安全 和数字不重要 无论你是否约会 |
| 411 | in the comments is saying you can't get over it he should have stayed there he should have protected | 在评论中说 你无法克服 他应该呆在那里 他应该保护 |
| 412 | you he should have showed he cared about your safety more than his fear but he didn't show that | 他应该证明他关心你的安全 而不是他的恐惧 但他没有证明 |
| 413 | and he ran away so can you get over this probably not probably not and i don't think he would change | 他逃走了 所以你能克服这一切 可能不会的 我觉得他不会改变 |
| 414 | because that's like his base raw reaction next story help i 26 female think my boyfriend 30 male | 因为那就像他的基本生反应 下一个故事帮助我26女认为我的男朋友30男 |
| 415 | is exaggerating or faking his illness saw someone's post yesterday about navigating life with a | 在夸张或假装他的病 昨天有人的帖子 关于航海生活 |
| 416 | partner who has fibromyalgia myalgia myalgia and felt so inspired to post here i'm hoping | 有纤维球菌的搭档 希望他们能在这里发帖 |
| 417 | y'all can give me some solid advice i 26 female have been with my boyfriend 30 male for a little | 你们可以给我一些忠告 26个女人和我男朋友在一起30个男人 |
| 418 | under two years in the time we've been together his chronic pain which isn't connected to any | 我们在一起时不到两年 他的慢性疼痛与任何 |
| 419 | particular slash non-condition as he refuses to go to the doctor has gotten worse and worse | 由于他拒绝去看医生,他越来越糟糕了 |
| 420 | it's reached a point where he's also incapable of doing chores or house projects he's usually too | 到了他也无能力做家务或做家务的地步 |
| 421 | exhausted slash in pain to make or agree to plans and getting him to do anything outside the house | 在痛苦中筋疲力尽的斜刀 来制定或同意计划 并让他做任何事情 在房子之外 |
| 422 | together is like pulling teeth his objections always revolve around his pain and fatigue | 在一起就像拔牙 他的反对总是围绕他的痛苦和疲劳 |
| 423 | i've never suffered from chronic pain and thank god and i'm not one to judge or accuse someone | 我从来没有遭受过慢性疼痛 感谢上帝 我也不是一个判断或指责某人的人 |
| 424 | of making it up since the pain itself is invisible and my boyfriend looks perfectly healthy but he's | 因为疼痛本身是隐形的 我的男朋友看起来很健康 |
| 425 | been unemployed for about four months and i'm starting to question things first of all what is | 失业了四个月 我开始怀疑什么是什么 |
| 426 | fibromyalgia fibromyalgia is a chronic disorder characterized by widespread musculoskeletal pain | 纤维球菌(fibromyalgia fibromyalgia)是一种慢性障碍,其特征是广泛出现肌肉骨骼疼痛. |
| 427 | fatigue sleeping problems and cognitive difficulty okay so it's widespread pain on your whole body | 疲劳的睡眠问题和认知困难 好,所以它普遍存在 在你的全身疼痛 |
| 428 | on the inside okay i'm starting to feel delftful for a number of reasons and the main ones are that | 我开始觉得很怪异 原因很多 主要是 |
| 429 | a he never turns down his friend's invitations to hang out even when the activity is something | 他从不拒绝朋友的邀请 出去玩 即使活动是件大事 |
| 430 | physically intense like kayaking or going hiking or going to a music festival and b he is never | 像皮划艇、徒步旅行、去音乐节 那样激烈的体力 |
| 431 | too tired slash in pain too much pain to have sex over time it's almost made it seem like he's | 痛苦中太累了 痛苦中太重了 不能再做爱了 |
| 432 | conveniently in an unbearable amount of pain when he has to do something he isn't all that interested | 当他不得不做一些事情时 他却不感兴趣时 很容易承受痛苦 |
| 433 | in i.e chores and i'm starting to feel hurt that he just doesn't seem to want to hang out with me | 我开始觉得很伤心 他似乎不想和我在一起 |
| 434 | outside of what we do lazing around the house i've never accused him of faking or exaggerating his | 除了我们在屋里乱晃之外 我从未指控他假装或夸张 |
| 435 | pain but i've tried to talk to him about doing more fun stuff together and it always circles back to | 痛苦,但我一直想和他谈谈 做更多有趣的事情在一起, 它总是环回 |
| 436 | his pain or him accusing me of trying to keep him from spending time with his friends which i'm not | 他的痛苦或他指责我 试图阻止他花时间 与他的朋友,我不是 |
| 437 | trying to do by any means i've done a ton of research into autoimmune disorders and other | 试图通过任何手段做 我已经做了一吨研究 自动免疫障碍和其他 |
| 438 | conditions that could be causing his problems always bringing my findings and suggestions to | 可能给他带来麻烦的条件 总是把我的调查结果和建议带到 |
| 439 | him but he just doesn't believe a doctor or any traditional medicine will help him i'm also bothered | 他只是不相信医生或任何传统医学会帮助他 我也很担心 |
| 440 | because when we go to family outings or parties that we're both invited to it's rare but it does | 因为当我们去 家庭外出或聚会 我们都被邀请参加 这是罕见的,但它确实 |
| 441 | happen he will talk anyone who will listen ears off about how bad his chronic pain is and how | 碰巧他会跟听别人说 他的慢性疼痛有多严重 |
| 442 | frustrating it is to not be able to find a solution the thing is he's not actually looking for a | 令人沮丧的是,它无法找到一个解决方案 事情是他实际上没有寻找一个 |
| 443 | solution he just smokes weed every day and calls that good enough while lamenting and complaining | 他每天都抽大麻 一边叹息一边抱怨 |
| 444 | that his body is the way that it is he also refuses to return to work because of his pain | 他的身体就是那样 他也因为痛苦而拒绝回去工作 |
| 445 | for additional context he seems to have really extreme muscle spasm tightness particularly in | 对于额外的上下文,他似乎有 真正的极端的肌肉痉挛紧,特别是在 |
| 446 | his back i'm happy to support him through hard times but the fact that he won't work is getting | 他的背 我很乐意支持他度过艰难的时光 但他不工作的事实 |
| 447 | concerning and i feel severely stuck i'm not interested in supporting him financially on a | 我感到很不自在 我不想在经济上支持他 |
| 448 | long-standing basis but at the moment i partially am by covering some of his expenses if this post | 久而久之,但目前我承担了部分费用,如果这个员额 |
| 449 | makes me a total a-hole for questioning the degree of my boyfriend's chronic pain so be it i just need | 让我大吃一惊 来质疑我男朋友的慢性疼痛程度 |
| 450 | so here are my questions where do i go from here you need to force your boyfriend to go to a doctor | 所以,这是我的问题 我从哪里去在这里 你需要强迫你的男朋友去看医生 |
| 451 | go somewhere to get actual treatment if this pain is real by the sounds of it your doubts are very | 如果这种痛苦是真实的,你就会怀疑 |
| 452 | fair he's never in too much pain to go hang out with his friends or have sex but when it comes | 公平而言,他从不痛苦到和朋友约会 或做爱,但一旦发生 |
| 453 | to chores and stuff he doesn't like oh the pain that is suspicious do you think it's possible | 和他不喜欢的东西 哦 疼痛是可疑的 你觉得这是可能的 |
| 454 | that my boyfriend is using his pain as a crutch very possible people do it all the time should | 我男朋友用他的痛苦当拐杖 很有可能的人总是这么做 |
| 455 | put some kind of ultimatum in place that will get him medical care slash attention if it's severe | 如果病情严重 会让他得到医疗照顾 |
| 456 | i don't think an ultimatum is ever like a first resort that's more like a last resort it sounds | 我不认为最后通牒 永远像第一 更像最后的手段 它听起来 |
| 457 | like you're kind of getting pushed to the edge and it's been like four months when since he's | 就像你被推到边缘 已经四个月了 |
| 458 | been like out of work and stuff and complaining about his pain so i don't think an ultimatum is | 像是没工作 抱怨他的痛苦 所以我觉得最后通牒不是 |
| 459 | out of the question your advice is appreciated no problem my boyfriend's chronic pain is highly | 恕我直言 我男朋友的慢性疼痛很严重 |
| 460 | questionable and i'm not sure how i can motivate him to get better i'm worried i may just be | 我不确定我怎么能激励他好起来 我担心我可能只是 |
| 461 | taken advantage of at this point let's read some comments even if he does have chronic illness | 趁现在,我们看看一些评论 即使他有慢性病。 |
| 462 | he isn't doing anything to get a diagnosis or treatment and he's willing to push on | 他没有做任何事情 得到诊断或治疗 他愿意推动 |
| 463 | for things that benefit him and only him he's also developed a drug addiction he has no plans of | 对于有益于他的东西,只有他,他 也发展了一个吸毒瘾 他没有计划 |
| 464 | {\fn黑体\fs22\bord1\shad0\3aHBE\4aH00\fscx67\fscy66\2cHFFFFFF\3cH808080}我是个慢性病 {\fn黑体\fs22\bord1\shad0\3aHBE\4aH00\fscx67\fscy66\2cHFFFFFF\3cH808080}我正在努力寻找答案 | |
| 465 | and help because living like this sucks i do everything in my power to support my partner | 和帮助,因为生活这样的烂 我竭尽所能支持我的伴侣 |
| 466 | care for our home while sometimes that's not a ton i always prioritize contributing to my household | 照顾好我们的家 有时这不是一吨 我总是优先为家里捐钱 |
| 467 | over kayaking which even if i could push through to do would put me down for a week this man is | 划皮划艇,即使我能挺过来 也会让我下水一个星期 |
| 468 | using and taking advantage of you disabled or not he also has dumped this onto you without you | 利用和利用你的残疾与否,他也把这个丢给你了,没有你 |
| 469 | consenting to be his financial caretaker you're not married there is no sickness and health here | 同意做他的金融管理员 你没有结婚 这里没有疾病和健康 |
| 470 | leave him this right here it's one thing if he was busting his butt trying to find a solution but | 留他在这里,这是一件事 如果他打他的屁股试图找到一个解决方案,但。 |
| 471 | nothing he's unemployed and not searching for a solution to get him back to work is he on | 他没有失业 也没有寻找办法让他回去工作 |
| 472 | unemployment what are his plans for contributing to the household considering his inability to | 考虑到他没有能力,他为家庭缴款的计划是什么? |
| 473 | function do you see yourself continuing a life with him and what would that look like it's a | 你是否看到自己继续和他一起生活 那看起来像什么 |
| 474 | big question do you want kids do you want to travel is he an excellent homemaker this combination of | 问个大问题 你想要孩子吗 你想旅行吗 |
| 475 | misery because of my pain and the guilt because my partner has to take care of me is enough to drive | 痛苦是因为我的痛苦和愧疚 因为我的伴侣必须照顾我 足以开车 |
| 476 | me into self-hatred most days the fact that her boyfriend is just content with his life without | 她的男朋友只是满足于他没有生命 |
| 477 | making any steps to feel better is wild as someone with chronic pain even if he wasn't lying i'd | 做任何步骤 感觉更好 是野性的人 有慢性疼痛 即使他没有说谎 |
| 478 | leave him chronic pain fucking sucks i've been there it's been over 13 years now but it kind of | 离开他 慢性疼痛他妈的烂 我去过那里 已经超过13年了 但有点 |
| 479 | just sounds like he slowly made you into his bang maid either he's faking it so he doesn't have to | 听起来好像他慢慢地把你变成他的女仆 要么他假装这样 这样他就不必了 |
| 480 | work or do any chores or he has no interest in improving his situation which isn't sustainable | 工作或做任何杂务 或他对改善自己的处境没有兴趣 这不可持续 |
| 481 | if the person isn't going to pursue medical help or disability benefits lol girl break up with him | 如果当事人不寻求医疗帮助 或残疾津贴 拉尔女孩分手了他 |
| 482 | he's lying to you even if he wasn't the fact that he doesn't believe in science medicine | 就算他不相信科学医学 也骗你 |
| 483 | refuses to see doctors is telling enough i can't even fathom how you're staying attracted to a man | 拒绝看医生已经说得够多了 我连你如何被男人吸引都不知道 |
| 484 | who refuses to look after himself he doesn't even want to better himself for your future together | 谁拒绝照顾自己 他甚至不想为了你的未来 |
| 485 | imagine in five 10 30 years times yikes if that man truly loved you he'd do anything possible to | 想象在5年10年30年的时间里 如果那个男人真的爱你 他会尽一切可能 |
| 486 | get better and get his life on track to provide you with a good life yeah so everyone is saying | 改善生活,让他的生活走上正轨 让你过上美好的生活 |
| 487 | yeah this guy's a liar and if he even if he wasn't he's not even trying to make his situation better | 是啊,这家伙是一个骗子,如果他 即使他不是,他甚至没有 试图改善他的状况 |
| 488 | and get better for you and for your future and do you really want to do this for years and years | 并且为你和你的前途好起来 你真的想这样做多年 |
| 489 | and years probably not it's best to just cut it move on but we do have an update so let's read | 多少年了 最好还是继续吧 但我们有最新消息了 |
| 490 | that update thank you to everyone who responded to my post and was so compassionate and kind it | 感谢各位回应我的文章, |
| 491 | was incredible to hear from so many people who actively battle chronic pain illness and those | 如此多积极治疗慢性疼痛的人 和那些 |
| 492 | with loved ones who do i hope to continue deepening my empathy towards anyone who is | 希望能继续加深我对任何人的同情 |
| 493 | struggling with an invisible illness on to my update armed with some fresh perspectives and | 面对一个隐形的疾病 在我的更新 有一些新的视角, |
| 494 | some fresh frustrations lol i talked to my boyfriend and told him that he needs to see a doctor i or | 我和男朋友谈过 他需要去看医生 |
| 495 | i will no longer be able to support him financially and stand by while he remains unemployed and | 在他失业时 我将无法继续赡养他 |
| 496 | unmotivated to get the help he needs i also addressed that idea of managing | 没有动机去得到他需要的帮助 我也谈到了管理 |
| 497 | balancing his energy levels differently so that we're able to share household responsibilities | 平衡他的能量水平不同 这样我们才能分担家庭责任 |
| 498 | more effectively spend quality time together and keep him doing the things he loves with his friends | 更能有效地相处 和朋友一起做他喜欢的事 |
| 499 | his response was really bad he told me that if i'm not willing to step up and clean around the house | 他的反应很不好,他告诉我,如果我不愿意 站出来打扫房子 |
| 500 | something i'm already doing then there's no use living together and that my efforts to clean are | 我已经在做一些事了 住在一起是没用的 而我努力清理 |
| 501 | and not good enough for his standards anyways he was also really mad that i haven't taken initiative | 也不足以达到他的标准 他也很生气 我没有主动 |
| 502 | to take care of yard products and car repairs he sat there and spouted off a whole list of things | 照顾院子里的产品和修车 他坐在那里 并吐出一整列表的东西 |
| 503 | i'm not noticing and cleaning and once again he was focused on this idea that i don't like his | 我没有注意到和清洁 再次他专注于这个想法 我不喜欢他的 |
| 504 | friends slash i'm jealous of them and want him spending less time with them which isn't true at | 我嫉妒他们,希望他少花时间陪他们 这不是真的 |
| 505 | all this guy just sounds like he wants to use you and suck you drive everything you have and then | 所有这家伙只是听起来 他想利用你 吸你驱动你的一切,然后 |
| 506 | he'll discard you once there's nothing else this really stung he basically brushed over everything | 他会抛弃你 一旦没有别的东西,这真的刺他 基本上刷在一切 |
| 507 | i said and focused on my perceived faults this told me everything i needed to know and i told him | 我说并专注于我的感知错误 这告诉我所有我需要知道的,我告诉他 |
| 508 | i was leaving he was just mad not sad or hurt at all i'm still crying excessively over his whole | 我离开他时,他只是生气... ...没有悲伤或伤害... ... |
| 509 | reaction i still don't know how real or unreal his chronic pain is but i guess it doesn't matter | 我仍然不知道他的慢性疼痛有多真实 但我猜这不重要 |
| 510 | anymore thank you everyone for your support and kindness i'm truly at a loss tldr my boyfriend of | 感谢大家的帮助和好意 我确实失去了我的男朋友 |
| 511 | almost two years and i have separated over his inability to address his chronic pain someone | 差不多两年了,我因为他不能治好他的长期痛苦而分居了 |
| 512 | replied opi i remember your first post i know you're very sad right now and you have a right to be | 回答 opi 我记得你的第一个帖子 我知道你现在很伤心 你有权利做 |
| 513 | but don't like grief overstates welcome you are so much better off and he's just lost his bang made | 但是不要喜欢悲伤的过度夸张 欢迎你这么好过 而且他只是失去了他的爆炸 |
| 514 | expect him to come crawling back when he realizes you're serious don't believe anything he says | 等他意识到你是认真的 就会回来 别相信他说的 |
| 515 | this internet stranger is proud of you you deserve someone who can be your partner regardless of | 这个网路陌生人以你为傲 你配得上一个可以做你搭档的人 |
| 516 | illness that doesn't mean they're critical or cruel oh man the idea of an unemployed | 疾病并不意味着他们是 批评或残忍 哦,男人的想法 失业 |
| 517 | constantly stoned lay about accusing someone else of not stepping up his mind boggling good on you | 不停地乱扔石块 指责别人不增加 他的头脑 |
| 518 | for not letting him take advantage of you anymore listen to me you will wait a week or two or four | 你再不让他利用你 听我说 你就会等一两四星期 |
| 519 | but he will try to come back to you you did everything for him no one else is going to do | 但他会试着回到你身边 你为他做了一切 没有人会做 |
| 520 | that while taking on financial burdens yeah he's toast he was absolutely faking it you don't need | 当他承担财政负担时... ... ...... |
| 521 | to think twice about it update us when he comes crawling back or once his parents are done with | 想想看,当他爬回来或者当他父母死后,更新我们 |
| 522 | him good for you now remember this from the other day and i was so upset that you did all that for | 他对你有好处,现在记住这 从那天起,我非常难过,你做了这一切。 |
| 523 | so long you're going to be much better off in life and i'm excited for you overall i think she made | 这么久以后,你的生活会好很多 我为你兴奋,我觉得她做了 |
| 524 | the right decision by breaking up yes breaking up hurts you know leaving something leaving what | 正确的决定是分手 是分手会很痛 你知道留下什么 |
| 525 | you're familiar with especially if you've been together for that long like two years in the long | 你特别熟悉,如果你已经 在一起了这么久,就像两年在漫长 |
| 526 | run once you get over it you're going to realize you're much better off and you can find someone | 一旦你克服了它,你就会意识到你的生活会好得多,你可以找人 |
| 527 | that's willing to you know work with you contribute help you financially you know support you as well | 愿意与你共事 提供经济帮助 |
| 528 | go do things with you and just want to be with you and not just use you so definitely made the | 和你做一些事情 只是想和你在一起 而不是利用你 |
| 529 | right decision here make sure to subscribe i'll see you guys next video bye bye | 下个视频再见 |
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