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| 0:00 | Good morning class of 2025, members of the board, President Eisgruber, the 2025 class government | 2025年早班 董事 Eisgruber主席 2025年班政府 |
| 0:07 | and the 2025 class day committee. | 和2025年课日委员会。 |
| 0:10 | Thank you for giving me this honour. | 谢谢你给我这个荣誉。 |
| 0:12 | I'm truly grateful and | 我真的很感谢 |
| 0:13 | humbled to be here. | 谦己至此. |
| 0:15 | And good morning to your families, professors, friends and anyone here | 早安,你的家人,教授,朋友和这里的任何人 |
| 0:19 | just to say they've been to Princeton without actually having to take a writing seminar. | 只是说他们去了普林斯顿 却不用参加写作研讨会 |
| 0:25 | I've heard the trauma bond is real. | 我听说创伤联系是真的 |
| 0:29 | You made it. | 你来了 |
| 0:30 | You survived precept. | 你活下来了 |
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| 1 | Good morning class of 2025, members of the board, President Eisgruber, the 2025 class government | 2025年早班 董事 Eisgruber主席 2025年班政府 |
| 2 | and the 2025 class day committee. | 和2025年课日委员会。 |
| 3 | Thank you for giving me this honour. | 谢谢你给我这个荣誉。 |
| 4 | I'm truly grateful and | 我真的很感谢 |
| 5 | humbled to be here. | 谦己至此. |
| 6 | And good morning to your families, professors, friends and anyone here | 早安,你的家人,教授,朋友和这里的任何人 |
| 7 | just to say they've been to Princeton without actually having to take a writing seminar. | 只是说他们去了普林斯顿 却不用参加写作研讨会 |
| 8 | I've heard the trauma bond is real. | 我听说创伤联系是真的 |
| 9 | You made it. | 你来了 |
| 10 | You survived precept. | 你活下来了 |
| 11 | You survived Dean's date. | 你活下来了Dean的约会。 |
| 12 | You survived walking all the way to the dinky in the rain only to find out it was cancelled. | 你在雨中一路走到冰冷的地方幸存下来 只是为了发现它被取消了 |
| 13 | You survived the email from your professor that started with just a gentle reminder and ended with | 你从教授的电子邮件中幸存下来 一开始只是温柔的提醒 |
| 14 | existential dread. | 生存的恐惧。 |
| 15 | You've learned to interpret emails from Nassau Hall like they're ancient texts, | 你学会了解释拿骚大厅的邮件 就像古老的文字一样 |
| 16 | vague, mysterious and I've heard slightly threatening. | 模糊的,神秘的,我听到一些威胁。 |
| 17 | You survived group projects | 你幸存下来的团体项目 |
| 18 | where one person wrote the entire thing and everyone else mostly contributed. | 一个人写了整件事 其他人大多都贡献了 |
| 19 | Anxiety. | 焦虑。 |
| 20 | You survived accidentally calling a professor dude. | 你意外地活了下来 给教授打电话 |
| 21 | You survived that one week when the wi-fi | 你活了一个星期 当Wi -fi |
| 22 | died, the laundry machines were broken and you were three seconds away from dropping out and | 洗衣机坏了 你离退学还有三秒钟 |
| 23 | becoming an influencer. | 成为一个影响者。 |
| 24 | Honestly, if you've made it through four years at Princeton, | 说实话 如果你在普林斯顿度过了四年 |
| 25 | you're qualified for anything. | 你有资格做任何事 |
| 26 | Except maybe explaining what bicker actually is | 除了解释什么是争吵 |
| 27 | to someone who didn't go here. | 给一个没来过的人 |
| 28 | Can someone actually explain it to me later? | 以后有人能解释给我听吗? |
| 29 | But in all seriousness, congratulations. | 但说真的,恭喜你 |
| 30 | You are truly the best and brightest minds with hearts | 你们是真心最优秀最聪明的人才 |
| 31 | dedicated to service. | 专门服务。 |
| 32 | I'm truly humbled to share this day with you. | 我很恭敬地与你分享这一天。 |
| 33 | Now, I have a confession for | 现在,我有一个忏悔 |
| 34 | you. | 你们 |
| 35 | I didn't go to my own graduation. | 我没有去我自己的毕业。 |
| 36 | No ceremony, no cap toss, no awkward moment of wondering, | 没有仪式,没有扔帽子, 没有尴尬的时刻想知道, |
| 37 | do we hug the dean? | 我们拥抱院长吗? |
| 38 | I missed the occasion my parents had been waiting for their entire lives. | 我错过了父母一辈子都在等待的机会。 |
| 39 | And why? | 为什么? |
| 40 | Because I decided to become a monk. | 因为我决定当和尚. |
| 41 | My parents were thrilled. | 我父母很激动 |
| 42 | And by thrilled, | 很高兴, |
| 43 | I mean deeply concerned for my mental stability. | 我是指对我的心理稳定深感关切。 |
| 44 | I had three choices growing up as an Indian | 我有三个选择 作为一个印第安人长大 |
| 45 | immigrant. | 移民。 |
| 46 | To be a doctor, a lawyer or a failure. | 成为医生,律师或失败者. |
| 47 | I chose monk. | 我选和尚. |
| 48 | They didn't make me feel bad, | 他们没有让我感到难过, |
| 49 | but they did send me a TED talk titled Why We Make Bad Decisions by Dan Gilbert, who coincidentally | 但是他们确实给我发了一篇TED演讲,题目是“为什么我们做坏决定” 丹·吉尔伯特,他恰巧是 |
| 50 | got his PhD from Princeton. | 从普林斯顿获得博士学位 |
| 51 | So it's kind of a full circle moment for me, I guess. | 对我来说,这有点像一个圆形的时刻。 |
| 52 | When I was invited to speak at Princeton, my first thought was, I'm so humbled and grateful | 当我被邀请去普林斯顿演讲时 我的第一个想法是 我很谦卑和感激 |
| 53 | to be here. | 在这里。 |
| 54 | But my honest thought was, I hope I say something worthy of their time. | 但我的诚实想法是,我希望我说一些值得他们时间的东西. |
| 55 | That self-doubt, | 那自以为是的人 |
| 56 | that inner critic, that voice, it's still there. | 那个内在的批评者, 那个声音,它仍然在那里。 |
| 57 | The one that's been with me since I was eight | 从我八岁起就和我在一起的那个 |
| 58 | years old, standing on a stage, giving my first speech ever. | 年老,站在舞台上,第一次演讲 |
| 59 | My mum had volunteered me to speak | 我妈妈主动让我说话的 |
| 60 | and sing at my school's Diwali assembly. | 在我的学校迪瓦利集会上唱歌 |
| 61 | I was dressed in what looked like a toga, | 我穿的像长袍 |
| 62 | and considering I was slightly overweight, a lot of me was hanging out. | 而且考虑到我有点超重, 我有很多人挂出。 |
| 63 | And I started to sing, | 我开始唱歌, |
| 64 | I'm definitely not a singer, and everyone began to laugh. | 我绝对不是歌手 大家都开始笑了 |
| 65 | I forgot my words and everyone began to | 我忘了我的话 每个人都开始 |
| 66 | laugh even more. | 笑得更厉害了 |
| 67 | I then looked down to read the next line, only I couldn't because my tears had | 然后我低头看下一行 只因为眼泪 |
| 68 | 捣烂 words字. | |
| 69 | Everyone began to laugh harder. | 大家都开始笑得更厉害了 |
| 70 | Now to make things even worse, if that was even | 现在把事情弄得更糟,如果那是平 |
| 71 | possible, my teacher came on stage, put her arm around me, and walked me off stage. | 可能,我的老师来到舞台, 把她的手臂围着我, 并带我离开舞台。 |
| 72 | And that was | 这是 |
| 73 | my first experience of public speaking. | 我第一次公开演讲 |
| 74 | And all I could think about was what my friends thought of | 我能想到的就是我的朋友们想的 |
| 75 | me. | 来啊 |
| 76 | When I got rejected by a girl in my teens, I played it over and over in my head for days. | 当我在十几岁的时候被一个女孩拒绝的时候, 我一遍又一遍地在脑子里玩了好几天。 |
| 77 | Not because she rejected me, but because I was scared of what she thought. | 不是因为她拒绝了我 而是因为我害怕她的想法 |
| 78 | When I became a monk | 当我成为和尚时 |
| 79 | after college, I was worried if my parents would ever understand. | 大学毕业后,我很担心我父母是否会理解 |
| 80 | I was scared of what they thought. | 我害怕他们的想法 |
| 81 | Three years later when I left the monastery, I felt like I'd failed. | 三年后我离开修道院,觉得自己失败了. |
| 82 | Then I applied for jobs, | 然后我申请了工作 |
| 83 | 40 rejections, not even interviews, rejections despite having a first class degree. | 40次拒绝,甚至没有面试,尽管有一级学位,但还是被拒绝. |
| 84 | And when I finally got one as a consultant, you'll be happy to know, | 当我终于有一位顾问的时候 你会很高兴知道 |
| 85 | I thought, I'm behind everyone. | 我想,我落后于每个人。 |
| 86 | What will they think of me? | 他们会怎么看我? |
| 87 | When I quit my stable career to pursue | 当我退出稳定事业去追求 |
| 88 | media, I feared what my colleagues would say. | 我担心我的同事们会说什么 |
| 89 | When I pitched my video ideas to three executives, | 当我把我的视频想法 三个主管, |
| 90 | one said I was too old. | 有人说我太老了 |
| 91 | The second said I was too young. | 第二说太年轻了 |
| 92 | The third said I was the right age, | 第三个说,我是正确的年龄, |
| 93 | but it was the wrong time. | 但时间不对 |
| 94 | I was 28 and confused. | 我当时28岁,很困惑。 |
| 95 | I had no idea what would come next. | 我不知道接下来会发生什么 |
| 96 | When I started my podcast, a production company backed out two weeks before launch. | 当我开始播客时,一个制作公司 在发射前两周就退出了。 |
| 97 | They said, | 他们说, |
| 98 | and I quote, it would never be big. | 我引证,它永远不会是大。 |
| 99 | When I wrote my first book, 14 imprints wanted me to change the | 当我写我的第一本书时, 14个印记想要我改变 |
| 100 | name. | 名称。 |
| 101 | They said no one wanted to think like a monk. | 他们说没人想像和尚一样思考 |
| 102 | And now as I stand here in front of you today, | 今天我站在你们面前 |
| 103 | at Princeton, one of the most prestigious institutions in the world, | 在普林斯顿, 世界上最有声望的机构之一, |
| 104 | I still catch myself wondering, what are you going to think of this speech? | 我还在想 你对这个演讲有什么看法? |
| 105 | When you Google the words will I ever, the first thing that comes up is will I ever find love? | 当你谷歌的话,我会永远, 第一件事是,我会永远找到爱? |
| 106 | The second thing is will I ever be enough? | 第二件事是,我会永远足够吗? |
| 107 | And the third is will I am net worth? | 第三,我会是净值吗? |
| 108 | It's true. | 这是真的。 |
| 109 | Check it out. | 检查出来。 |
| 110 | We go from love to worth to money really, really quick. | 我们从爱到值钱 非常非常快 |
| 111 | It's 70 million, by the way, if anyone's wondering. | 有七千万,顺便说一句 如果有人想知道的话 |
| 112 | But being enough is something | 但足够是一回事 |
| 113 | we all struggle with. | 我们都在挣扎 |
| 114 | In 1902, Charles Horton Cooley wrote, I'm not what I think I am. | 1902年,查尔斯·霍顿 库利写道,我不是我想的那样。 |
| 115 | I'm not what you think I am. | 我不是你想的那样 |
| 116 | I am what I think you think I am. | 我和你想的一样 |
| 117 | Let that blow your mind for | 让你的心碎 |
| 118 | a moment. | 一会儿 |
| 119 | In 1902, Charles Horton Cooley wrote, I'm not what I think I am. | 1902年,查尔斯·霍顿 库利写道,我不是我想的那样。 |
| 120 | I'm not what you think | 我不是你想的那样 |
| 121 | I am. | 没错 |
| 122 | I am what I think you think I am. | 我和你想的一样 |
| 123 | Which means we live in a perception of a perception | 这意味着我们生活在一种感觉中 |
| 124 | of ourselves. | 我们自己。 |
| 125 | Let me break that down even more. | 让我把事情更清楚一点 |
| 126 | What it means is if I think you think I'm smart, | 意思是如果我认为你觉得我很聪明 |
| 127 | then I feel smart. | 然后我觉得很聪明。 |
| 128 | But if I think you think I'm weak, well then I feel weak. | 但是如果你认为我软弱 那我感觉软弱 |
| 129 | This is the trap and the world lures us in. | 这是陷阱,世界引诱我们进入。 |
| 130 | You feel pressure to broadcast your wins, | 你感到压力 广播你的胜利, |
| 131 | to post a new job, the proposal, the highlight reel, to do things people agree with, celebrate | 发布一份新工作, 提案,亮点 胶卷, 做人们同意的事,庆祝 |
| 132 | and consider important, to stay visible, to stay relevant, to stay impressive. | 并且认为重要, 保持可见, 保持相关性, 保持令人印象深刻。 |
| 133 | Because the world rewards what's impressive. | 因为世界会奖励令人印象深刻的东西. |
| 134 | You feel pressured to prove you're doing well | 你感到压力 证明你做得很好 |
| 135 | before you've even figured out what that means for you. | 在你还没搞清楚那对你意味着什么之前 |
| 136 | The world will constantly push you | 世界会不断推你 |
| 137 | to perform success. | 以取得成功。 |
| 138 | But if there's one message I want you to walk away with today, it's this. | 但如果我今天要你带着一个信息走,那就是这个。 |
| 139 | You have to disappear. | 你必须消失。 |
| 140 | I know a few parents just sat up straight like someone said gap year. | 我知道一些父母只是坐直了 就像有人说的差距年。 |
| 141 | Don't worry, when I say disappear, I don't mean your kids need to ghost their student loans | 不要担心,当我说消失, 我不是说你的孩子需要 鬼上他们的学生贷款 |
| 142 | and shave their heads to become monks. | 并剃头成僧. |
| 143 | You still go to work, you still show up, but you stop | 你还去上班,你还来,但你停下来 |
| 144 | announcing every move and start building something that speaks for itself. | 宣布每一个动作,开始建造一些能说明问题的东西. |
| 145 | Disappearing means doing | 消失意味着做 |
| 146 | the work. | 这工作。 |
| 147 | It means doing the work in the dark. | 意思是在黑暗中工作 |
| 148 | It means building in private what you don't need | 意思是私下建造你不需要的东西 |
| 149 | to prove in public. | 公开证明。 |
| 150 | It means doing the work when no one's watching. | 意思是在没人看的时候做工作 |
| 151 | You stop worrying about what | 你别再担心什么了 |
| 152 | people think and start valuing what you believe. | 人们思考并开始重视你所相信的 |
| 153 | Because the life that looks good or sounds good | 因为生活看起来好或听起来好 |
| 154 | is nothing compared to a life that feels good. | 和感觉好的生活相比,没什么 |
| 155 | Now this all might seem like strange advice coming | 现在,这一切似乎 奇怪的建议来了 |
| 156 | from someone whose entire career exists online in the public eye, but I would not be where I am | 从一个在公众眼中 拥有整个事业的人那里, 但我不会在那里我 |
| 157 | today if I didn't disappear not once but twice. | 如果今天我没有消失一次,而是两次 |
| 158 | The first time I became a monk, the second time | 我第一次成为和尚,第二次 |
| 159 | I left a stable consulting job to start sharing what I'd learned from the monks. | 我离开一个稳定的咨询工作开始分享我从僧侣那里学到的东西. |
| 160 | At my first event, | 在我的第一次活动中, |
| 161 | no one showed up. | 没有人出现。 |
| 162 | I practiced to an empty room. | 我练习到一个空房间。 |
| 163 | At my second event, no one showed up again. | 在我的第二个活动中,没有人再次出现。 |
| 164 | I practiced to an empty room again. | 我又去空房间练习了 |
| 165 | By then I realized I had to fire the person who was putting | 那时我意识到我不得不解雇了那个 |
| 166 | out the flyers. | 把传单拿出来 |
| 167 | That person was me by the way. | 顺便说一句,那个人就是我。 |
| 168 | For years I spoke to rooms of five to ten people. | 多年来,我和5到10人的房间交谈。 |
| 169 | I learned about their stories, learned about their challenges and some of them became beautiful | 我了解他们的故事,了解他们的挑战 有些变得美丽 |
| 170 | friends that I still have today. | 今天我还有朋友 |
| 171 | There was no pressure for success in those tiny rooms and I | 这些小房间没有成功的压力 我 |
| 172 | was free to fail, experiment and grow in private. | 是自由的失败, 实验和成长的私人。 |
| 173 | And that's what's fascinating. | 这才是令人着迷的。 |
| 174 | If you look at | 如果你看着 |
| 175 | world-class entrepreneurs that you admire, the artists that you look up to, business people that | 你敬仰的世界级企业家 你仰慕的艺术家 商人 |
| 176 | you aspire to be like and creatives, guess what? | 你渴望成为 和创造力,你知道吗? |
| 177 | They all disappeared. | 他们都消失了。 |
| 178 | Kobe Bryant practiced at | 神户布莱恩特在 |
| 179 | 4am when no one was watching. | 凌晨4点 没人在看 |
| 180 | Warren Buffett sat in a quiet room in Omaha reading. | 沃伦·巴菲特坐在奥马哈读物的静室里. |
| 181 | 80% of his | 他的80%的奖金 |
| 182 | was spent studying financial statements, reports and books. | 用于研究财务报表、报告和账簿。 |
| 183 | Lady Gaga played dive bars in a glitter | Lady Gaga 在闪光灯下玩潜水棒 |
| 184 | leotard for audiences of six. | 六位观众的睡衣 |
| 185 | Spanx创始人Sarah Blakely 把她的想法保密 | |
| 186 | for an entire year even from her friends and family because she didn't want them to prevent | 一整年,甚至从她的朋友和家人 因为她不希望他们阻止 |
| 187 | her from taking a risk. | 她不会冒险的 |
| 188 | Christopher Nolan wrote the script for Inception over a period of about | 克里斯托弗·诺兰为Inception写了一段时期的剧本 |
| 189 | 10 years. | 十年时间 |
| 190 | He initially conceived the idea when he was 16. | 他最初在16岁时构思了这个想法. |
| 191 | Steven Spielberg made short films in his | 史蒂文·斯皮尔伯格在他的短片 |
| 192 | garage before ever stepping on a set. | 车库之前,从来没有踩到一组。 |
| 193 | They trained while no one was watching. | 他们训练时没人看 |
| 194 | They built | 他们建造了 |
| 195 | without broadcasting. | 没有广播。 |
| 196 | They worked in silence so they could rise without noise. | 他们默默地工作,以便他们能够无声地站起来. |
| 197 | So whilst everyone | 所以当每个人 |
| 198 | is putting pressure on visibility, feel comfortable becoming invisible. | 给能见度带来压力, 觉得自己变得隐形。 |
| 199 | But that's hard when everyone's | 但是,这很难,当每个人都 |
| 200 | life is on show. | 生活在节目中。 |
| 201 | Step off stage as often as you can. | 尽量离开舞台 |
| 202 | Today you all graduate together but from tomorrow | 今天你们一起毕业,明天再毕业 |
| 203 | you'll have your own pace, your own time. | 你会有自己的速度,你自己的时间。 |
| 204 | Some of you will get promoted first. | 你们有些人会先晋升 |
| 205 | Some of you will get | 你们有些人会得到的 |
| 206 | promoted last. | 最后晋升。 |
| 207 | Some of you will exit your company first. | 你们有些人会先离开你的公司 |
| 208 | Some of you will never start one. | 你们中有些人永远不会开始 |
| 209 | Some of | 有点 |
| 210 | won't get married at all. | 不会结婚的 |
| 211 | Everything will be documented. | 一切如来悉皆具记. |
| 212 | So how do you disappear in a world | 所以,你如何消失在一个世界 |
| 213 | obsessed with being seen? | 沉迷于被人看见? |
| 214 | Remember this ancient story. | 记住这个古老的故事. |
| 215 | A young student once asked the Buddha, | 一个年轻的学生曾经问过佛教徒 |
| 216 | what do you gain from meditation? | 你从冥想中得到什么? |
| 217 | The Buddha replied, nothing. | 菩萨答言无. |
| 218 | The student looked confused and | 学生看起来很困惑 |
| 219 | then why do you meditate? | 那你为什么冥想呢? |
| 220 | The Buddha said, I don't meditate because of what I gain. | 菩萨摩诃萨说我不因所得而冥想. |
| 221 | I meditate because of what I lose. | 我沉思是因为我失去了什么。 |
| 222 | I lose anxiety, insecurity, doubt and fear. | 我失去了焦虑、不安全、怀疑和恐惧。 |
| 223 | As you leave Princeton, people will ask you, what do you want to gain? | 当你离开普林斯顿, 人们会问你, 你想得到什么? |
| 224 | A title, a salary, a house, | 头衔 薪水 房子 |
| 225 | a family and all of those are vital and valuable. | 一个家庭,所有这一切是重要和宝贵的。 |
| 226 | You've proven your work ethic time and time again. | 你反复证明了你的职业道德 |
| 227 | You've shown what you're capable of. | 汝已显其能. |
| 228 | I know you will be ambitious about what you want to gain | 我知道你会野心勃勃 想要得到什么 |
| 229 | but I hope you will be just as ambitious about what you want to lose. | 但我希望你对想要失去的东西同样有野心 |
| 230 | Lose the need for approval, | 失去批准的必要, |
| 231 | lose the obsession with comparison, lose the fear of not being enough. | 失去对比较的痴迷 失去对不够的恐惧 |
| 232 | What we gain makes us | 我们的收获让我们 |
| 233 | successful but what we lose makes us fulfilled. | 成功,但我们失去的东西 使我们实现了。 |
| 234 | Especially lose envy. | 特别是失去嫉妒 |
| 235 | Envy doesn't tell you what | Envy没有告诉你什么 |
| 236 | you want, it distracts from what you already have. | 你要的,它会分散你已经拥有的。 |
| 237 | Envy will make you lose good friends | Envy会让你失去好朋友 |
| 238 | and find bad ones. | 并找到坏的。 |
| 239 | You're already successful. | 你已经成功了 |
| 240 | You're going to be even more successful. | 你会更成功 |
| 241 | I have no doubt about that. | 我对此毫不怀疑。 |
| 242 | The only thing that can ruin it is comparing your win to someone else's. | 唯一能毁掉它的东西 就是把你赢的和别人的比起来 |
| 243 | Envy won't stop your success. | Envy不会阻止你的成功的 |
| 244 | It's comparing your win to someone else's that will make you feel | 将你的胜负与别人的胜负相比较 会让你觉得 |
| 245 | like you're never enough. | 就像你永远不够。 |
| 246 | And contrary to popular belief, the cure for envy isn't success. | 而与大众信仰相反的是,对嫉妒的治疗不是成功的. |
| 247 | The cure for envy is study. | 对嫉妒的治疗是学习。 |
| 248 | When your friend wins, don't scroll past, study them. | 当你的朋友赢了, 不要滚动过去,学习他们。 |
| 249 | How did they build that? | 他们是怎么建造的? |
| 250 | How did they stay consistent? | 他们是怎么保持一致的? |
| 251 | How did they recover from their | 他们是如何从 |
| 252 | failures? | 失败? |
| 253 | Celebrate them. | 庆祝他们 |
| 254 | There's this beautiful word in Sanskrit that I loved. | 梵语中有我所爱之妙语. |
| 255 | It's called mudita. | 名为泥塔. |
| 256 | It means to take joy and pride in watching someone else's success. | 意为在看别人的成功中取悦和骄傲. |
| 257 | I hope that you'll | 我希望你会 |
| 258 | practise this with the people you're sitting next to right now. | 和现在坐在你旁边的人一起练习 |
| 259 | There are four decisions you'll make | 你会做四个决定 |
| 260 | in life that matter more than almost any other. | 在生活中,它的重要性 比几乎任何其他。 |
| 261 | Ask for guidance, sure, get advice, learn from the | 要求指导,当然,得到建议,学习 |
| 262 | people you trust, but don't let these decisions be defined by other people's opinions. | 你信任的人, 但不要让这些决定 被别人的意见定义。 |
| 263 | Because at the | 因为在那 |
| 264 | day, you're the one who has to live with them. | 白天,你必须和他们住在一起。 |
| 265 | The first decision is one you'll make every single day. | 第一个决定是你每天都会做的 |
| 266 | The first decision you'll have to make is how you feel about yourself. | 你要做的第一个决定是 你对自己的感觉 |
| 267 | It's not a decision you'll | 这不是你的决定 |
| 268 | make once. | 做一个。 |
| 269 | It's a decision you'll make every single day, every morning in the mirror, every night before | 这是一个决定,你会做出的每一天, 每早晨在镜子里,每晚前 |
| 270 | you sleep. | 你睡觉。 |
| 271 | Some days you won't like what you see. | 有时候你不会喜欢你看到的 |
| 272 | You'll mess up at work, say the wrong thing at home, | 你会在工作上搞砸 在家里说错话 |
| 273 | fall short of who you want to be. | 不如你想成为什么样的人 |
| 274 | Your self-perception will be tested, but you don't pass | 你的自我认知会受到考验 但你没有通过 |
| 275 | by pretending or being perfect. | 假装或完美 |
| 276 | You pass by choosing again and again to show up for yourself | 你经过一次又一次的选择 为自己而出现 |
| 277 | and the people you love better than you did yesterday. | 还有你比昨天更爱的人 |
| 278 | The second decision is this. | 第二个决定就是这个。 |
| 279 | Who you choose to love and who you choose to love you. | 你选择爱谁 你选择爱谁 |
| 280 | According to social psychologist Dr David | 根据社会心理学家大卫博士的说法 |
| 281 | McClelland, this decision can influence up to 95% of your success or failure in life. | McClelland,这个决定可以 影响你95%的成败 |
| 282 | Not your grade, | 不是你的成绩, |
| 283 | not your GPA, not your first job title. | 不是你的GPA,也不是你的第一个职称。 |
| 284 | Who you let close. | 你让谁关闭。 |
| 285 | Sometimes you won't know if you chose right | 有时候你不会知道,如果你选择正确 |
| 286 | until you're right in it. | 直到你是对的。 |
| 287 | 12 months into my marriage, we were four months away from being | 结婚12个月后 我们离结婚还有4个月 |
| 288 | broke in a new country with 30 days left on our visa. | 我们的签证还剩30天 |
| 289 | I sat my wife down and I told her. | 我坐下来告诉她 |
| 290 | She looked at me and quietly said, I trust you. | 她看着我 悄悄地说 我相信你 |
| 291 | That wasn't the moment I knew she was the right | 不是那一刻 我知道她是对的 |
| 292 | person. | 个人。 |
| 293 | It was the next morning when she looked at me dead serious and said, I think I want to buy a | 第二天早上,她看着我 死了严重的说,我想买一个 |
| 294 | car. | 车 |
| 295 | I just told her we might be able to stay in the country. | 我刚刚告诉她我们也许可以留在这个国家 |
| 296 | Rent, groceries, and maybe the visa, | 房租、杂货和签证 |
| 297 | if we were lucky, that was the budget. | 如果我们幸运,那是预算。 |
| 298 | And she wanted to add a ficus. | 她想再加点药 |
| 299 | So off we went to Home Depot | 我们去了家庄 |
| 300 | 10 a.m. on a Saturday morning like it was the most normal thing in the world. | 周六早上早上10点 就像是世界上最正常的事一样 |
| 301 | That was the moment I | 那一刻我 |
| 302 | knew she was the right person. | 知道她是对的 |
| 303 | I take life too seriously and she doesn't at all. | 我对生活太认真了,她完全没有。 |
| 304 | The plant sadly | 可悲的是,这植物 |
| 305 | died that winter, but thankfully our relationship survived and is still growing. | 但幸好我们的关系得以幸存 并且还在发展 |
| 306 | Don't fall in love | 别爱上我 |
| 307 | too fast. | 速度太快了,我们该走了 |
| 308 | You don't truly know someone until you've seen them when they're tired, stressed, broke, | 你没有真正认识的人 直到你看到他们 当他们累了,压力,破碎, |
| 309 | or hangry. | 或饥饿。 |
| 310 | The right person will make you make the hard times easier. | 合适的人会让你更难相处 |
| 311 | The right person will make the | 正确的人会做出 |
| 312 | hard times easier. | 困难时期更简单 |
| 313 | And don't forget about your parents. | 别忘了你父母 |
| 314 | The American Time Use Survey says that | 美国时间使用调查说 |
| 315 | by the time you turn 21, you've likely already spent about 90% of the total in-person time you'll | 等你21岁的时候 你可能已经花光了 个人时间的90% |
| 316 | ever have with your parents. | 曾经与你的父母。 |
| 317 | Interview your parents, record their stories, learn every lesson you | 采访你的父母,记录他们的故事, 学习你的一切教训 |
| 318 | possibly can from them. | 也许可以从他们。 |
| 319 | You can earn more money, more titles, more goals, but you'll never earn back | 你可以赚更多的钱, 更多的头衔,更多的目标, 但你永远不会赚回来 |
| 320 | time with your parents. | 时间与你的父母。 |
| 321 | The third decision is what you do for a living. | 第三个决定就是你靠什么谋生 |
| 322 | Try to do what you love, | 试着做你爱的事 |
| 323 | and if you can't, find meaning in what you do. | 如果你做不到, 找到意义在你做什么。 |
| 324 | You spend a third of your life at work. | 你用你生命的三分之一工作。 |
| 325 | That's around 90,000 hours. | 9万小时左右 |
| 326 | Don't settle for hating it. | 别因为恨它而安心 |
| 327 | That doesn't mean your job has to be your | 这并不意味着你的工作必须是你的 |
| 328 | passion, but it also doesn't mean you have to feel like you're trading your soul for a salary. | 激情,但这也并不意味着你必须感觉自己在用灵魂换取薪水. |
| 329 | Focus on what it gives you. | 专注于它给你的。 |
| 330 | Stability for the people you love, structure while you build something | 稳定你所爱的人, 结构与你建造的东西 |
| 331 | else, a chance to bring love and you into the role. | 否则,一个机会 带爱和你进入角色。 |
| 332 | When I worked at Accenture, I was a consultant by | 我在Accenture工作时,是一位顾问 |
| 333 | day and a meditation teacher by lunch. | 一天和一个冥想老师在午餐前。 |
| 334 | I'd run sessions for my colleagues during breaks and after | 休息期间和休息后,我都会为同事开课 |
| 335 | hours, not because it was part of my job description, but because I needed it, and so did they. | 小时,不是因为它是我工作描述的一部分, 而是因为我需要它,他们也是。 |
| 336 | I remember one day, one of the rugby lads came up to me. | 我记得有一天 一个橄榄球男孩来找我 |
| 337 | That's the British version of a jock, | 这是英国版本的慢跑者, |
| 338 | but with better hair and worse manners. | 头发和礼仪都更好 |
| 339 | He pulled me aside and said, | 他把我拉到一边说 |
| 340 | Jay, I want to learn how to meditate, but none of the girls can find out. | 杰伊,我想学习如何冥想, 但没有一个女孩能发现。 |
| 341 | Apparently they were all | 显然他们都是 |
| 342 | into him, and he thought meditation might ruin his street cred, consultants. | 他以为冥想会毁了他的街头信用 顾问 |
| 343 | So after work, | 所以,下班后, |
| 344 | we grabbed two chairs, turned off the lights and sat across from each other. | 我们抓住两把椅子,关了灯 然后坐在对面 |
| 345 | Three minutes into deep breathing and boom, the door swings open. | 三分钟后深呼吸和爆炸 门就开了 |
| 346 | The exact group of girls he | 确切的一组女孩他 |
| 347 | was worried about walk in. | 担心走进来。 |
| 348 | They take one look at us sitting there in the dark, eyes closed, | 他们一眼看着我们坐在黑暗中 闭上眼睛 |
| 349 | breathing like monks on a blind date, and they just lose it. | 呼吸就像和尚在相亲时, 他们只是失去了它。 |
| 350 | Laughter, chaos. | 欢笑 混乱 |
| 351 | He was mortified. | 他感到羞耻。 |
| 352 | No recovery. | 没有康复。 |
| 353 | But here's what he told me months later. | 但这是他几个月后告诉我的 |
| 354 | Meditation helped him manage the anxiety | 冥想帮助他应付焦虑 |
| 355 | he'd never talked about. | 他从没说过 |
| 356 | That showed me how desperately we needed stillness in a world | 这说明我们很需要静静 |
| 357 | designed to burn us out, and it gave me the confidence to follow my path. | 它让我有信心走我的路 |
| 358 | Later, I would go | 后来,我会去 |
| 359 | back to Accenture to teach meditation and many seminars, and I still have incredible relationships | 回到Accenture 教冥想和很多研讨会, 我仍然有不可思议的关系 |
| 360 | with the leaders I once worked for. | 我曾经为那些领导工作过 |
| 361 | So here's the truth. | 所以这是事实。 |
| 362 | Even if you don't love your job, | 即使你不爱工作 |
| 363 | bring what you love into it. | 带上你爱的东西 |
| 364 | Love the people, love the growth, and if you can't find | 爱人民,爱成长,如果你找不到 |
| 365 | any love in it, use that feeling as your signal to move. | 任何爱,用这种感觉作为信号移动。 |
| 366 | Always, always trust this signal. | 永远,永远相信这个信号。 |
| 367 | 85% | |
| 368 | jobs that will exist in 2030 haven't been invented yet. | 2030年将存在的工作还没有发明出来。 |
| 369 | The average American changes careers five to | 美国人的平均职业变化 |
| 370 | seven times in their lifetime. | 他们一生中七次 |
| 371 | I can't wait to see what you do in the next five years. | 我等不及要看你在接下来的五年里做什么了. |
| 372 | The world is waiting for you. | 世尊等诸天. |
| 373 | The fourth decision and maybe the most important is how you serve | 第四个决定,也许最重要的是 你如何服务 |
| 374 | humanity. | 人类 |
| 375 | Most people never get to this one. | 大多数人都来不了这个 |
| 376 | They get busy chasing the next job, the next move, | 他们忙着追逐下一个任务 下一步 |
| 377 | the next upgrade, but if you skip this question, I believe you skip the one thing that leads to | 但如果你跳过这个问题 我相信你跳过导致 |
| 378 | true fulfillment. | 真正的满足。 |
| 379 | In the monastery we were taught, it's not about how much you give, | 在修道院里,我们被教导, 它不是关于你付出多少, |
| 380 | it's about how much you hold back. | 这是关于你坚持多少。 |
| 381 | Whether you have a little or a lot, your time, energy, | 无论你有一点还是很多, 你的时间,精力, |
| 382 | and resources are far more meaningful when they're not just for you. | 资源更有意义 当它们不只是为你。 |
| 383 | One study found that | 一项研究发现, |
| 384 | just for two hours a week improves mental health and extends life expectancy. | 每周只有两个小时 才能改善精神健康 延长预期寿命 |
| 385 | But the situation in this country is much worse. | 但是,这个国家的局势要糟糕得多. |
| 386 | Over 59 million US adults, nearly one in four, | 超过5,900万美国成年人, 近四分之一, |
| 387 | live with a mental illness. | 患有精神疾病。 |
| 388 | Only 47% of those individuals receive treatment. | 只有47%的人得到治疗。 |
| 389 | But that's not the shocking part. | 但这不是令人震惊的部分。 |
| 390 | This is. | 这是。 |
| 391 | The average delay between the onset of mental illness | 精神疾病发作之间的平均延误 |
| 392 | and receiving treatment is 11 years. | 接受治疗的时间为11年。 |
| 393 | And that's what keeps me going. | 这才是让我继续前进的原因 |
| 394 | Recognizing there is so much | 认识这么多 |
| 395 | more to do in the world. | 更在世间. |
| 396 | Remember, your purpose does not have to be your job. | 记住,你的目的 不一定是你的工作。 |
| 397 | Your purpose does | 你的目的确实如此 |
| 398 | not have to be big. | 不必大一点 |
| 399 | Your purpose does not have to make you money. | 你的目的不一定要赚钱 |
| 400 | Your purpose does not have to make | 你的目的不一定要达到 |
| 401 | you famous. | 你名声大噪。 |
| 402 | Your purpose can be something you do on the weekends. | 你的目的可能是在周末做点什么 |
| 403 | Your purpose can be something | 你的目的可能是什麽 |
| 404 | you do in the evenings. | 你晚上会的 |
| 405 | Your purpose is something no one can take away from you. | 你的目的就是让人无法夺走你 |
| 406 | So find something you care about. | 所以找点你在乎的东西 |
| 407 | Find something that breaks your heart open a little and then | 找到让你心碎的东西 打开一点点,然后 |
| 408 | get involved. | 参与其中。 |
| 409 | You don't need a million dollars. | 你不需要一百万块 |
| 410 | You don't need a title. | 你不需要头衔 |
| 411 | Use your passion in the | 利用你的热情 |
| 412 | service of others and it will become your purpose. | 服务他人,它将成为你的目的。 |
| 413 | I want to end with a couple of practical things | 我想说几句话 |
| 414 | you can do to put this into practice. | 你可以做这个实践。 |
| 415 | First, try this. | 先试试这个 |
| 416 | For one full day, track every time you feel | 一整天,每次你感觉 |
| 417 | the urge to ask someone what they think about what you're wearing, what to eat for dinner, | 渴望问一个人 他们怎么看你穿什么, 吃什么吃饭, |
| 418 | what TV show to watch, what job to apply for. | 什么电视节目要看, 什么工作要申请。 |
| 419 | Write it all down. | 写下来 |
| 420 | Who you wanted to ask, | 你想问谁? |
| 421 | what decision you were avoiding, what answer you were hoping for. | 你所避免的决定 以及你所希望的答案 |
| 422 | And then for seven days, | 之后七天, |
| 423 | go on an opinion fast. | 尽快发表意见 |
| 424 | No asking, no polling the group chat, no crowd sourcing your direction. | 没有询问,没有投票 集体聊天, 没有人群寻找你的方向。 |
| 425 | It's your life. | 这是你的生活。 |
| 426 | Don't let anyone else hold the remote. | 别让别人拿着遥控器 |
| 427 | Disappear for a while and when you come back, come back as you. | 暂时消失,当你回来的时候, 回来像你一样。 |
| 428 | Tomorrow, some of you will wake up | 明天你们中有些人会醒来 |
| 429 | with a job offer in your inbox. | 在你的收件箱里有一份工作 |
| 430 | Some of you will wake up with no idea of what comes next. | 你们中有些人醒来时不知道接下来会发生什么。 |
| 431 | Some of you have a five-year plan in a colour-coded spreadsheet. | 你们中有些人在彩色编码电子表格中有一个五年计划. |
| 432 | You know who you are. | 你知道你是谁。 |
| 433 | Some of you are still pretending to understand what a fellowship in global policy innovation | 你们中有些人还在假装 了解全球政策创新的研究金 |
| 434 | actually is. | 其实是的 |
| 435 | And all of that, it's okay. | 所有这一切,没关系。 |
| 436 | Because there's no right pace. | 因为没有合适的节奏. |
| 437 | There's no right path. | 道无对. |
| 438 | Only the one that's real for you. | 只有那一个是真实的给你。 |
| 439 | Every day, starting tomorrow, write down one thing you did | 从明天开始,你每天写一件事 |
| 440 | that required effort, even if no one saw it. | 这需要努力,即使没有人看到。 |
| 441 | Not what you achieved, not what got praise, | 不是你们的成就,不是你们获得的赞誉, |
| 442 | just what took energy, courage and discipline. | 需要精力、勇气和纪律 |
| 443 | Maybe you got out of bed when you didn't want to. | 也许你不想要的时候就下床了 |
| 444 | Maybe you sent an email you were avoiding. | 也许你发了一封你躲藏的邮件 |
| 445 | Maybe you stayed calm in a difficult conversation. | 也许你在艰难的对话中保持冷静 |
| 446 | Maybe you showed up for yourself when it would have been easier not to. | 可能你为了自己而出现... ...当它会比较容易。 |
| 447 | Because when you start | 因为当你开始 |
| 448 | measuring your day by effort, not recognition, you begin to feel accomplished without needing | 以努力来度量你的一天, 而不是承认, 你开始感觉完成 不需要 |
| 449 | to be noticed. | 会被注意。 |
| 450 | Class of 2025, you'll have an idea that people roll their eyes at. | 2025年的课,你会有一个想法, 人们滚开的眼睛。 |
| 451 | Build it anyway. | 总之要建起来 |
| 452 | You'll want a job that no one thinks you'll get. | 你会想要一份没人认为你会得到的工作。 |
| 453 | Apply anyway. | 随便你 |
| 454 | You'll dream of a path | 你会梦见一条路 |
| 455 | that doesn't come with a title or salary. | 没有头衔和薪水 |
| 456 | Take it anyway. | 拿着吧 |
| 457 | You'll feel like an imposter | 你会觉得自己是个冒牌货 |
| 458 | in rooms you've earned your way into. | 在你进过的房间里 |
| 459 | Walk in anyway. | 进去吧 |
| 460 | You'll be the least experienced person | 你是最没经验的人 |
| 461 | at the table. | 在桌边。 |
| 462 | Speak anyway. | 说吧 |
| 463 | You'll mess up, fall short and second guess everything. | 你会把事情搞砸的, 短路和第二猜测一切。 |
| 464 | Learn anyway. | 学着点 |
| 465 | You'll wonder if it's worth it sometimes. | 你会怀疑它是否值得有时。 |
| 466 | Keep going anyway. | 继续走 |
| 467 | Because if you do what you want, | 因为如果你做你想做的, |
| 468 | they'll misunderstand you. | 他们会误解你的 |
| 469 | And if you do what they want, they'll misunderstand you. | 如果你做他们想做的事 他们会误解你的 |
| 470 | And if you do nothing, they'll misunderstand you. | 如果你什么都不做 他们会误解你的 |
| 471 | And if you do something, they'll misunderstand you. | 如果你做点什么 他们会误解你的 |
| 472 | So live a life that would make your younger self proud, your older self grateful, even if it | 因此,生活会 让你的年轻自我骄傲, 你年长的自我感激, 即使它 |
| 473 | confuses everyone in between. | 混淆了每个人在两者之间。 |
| 474 | Congratulations. | 祝贺你 |
| 475 | Thank you so much. | 非常感谢 |
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