【TED演讲】什么是真正的自信？拥有它，一切皆有可能
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| 0:18 | When I was choosing the cover design for my first book, there was really no question. | 当我为我的第一本书选择封面设计时,确实没有问题. |
| 0:24 | The version with my face big on the cover was the one that stood out the most, plus | 封面上有我长脸的版本 是最突出的版本 |
| 0:31 | it fit so well with my message. | 它很符合我的信息。 |
| 0:34 | And more than anything, I wanted to connect with my readers. | 最重要的是,我想和读者联系。 |
| 0:42 | But everyone in the traditional publishing world told me not to do it. | 但传统出版界的每个人都告诉我不要这样做. |
| 0:47 | They said for this kind of book, the cover should be all text, maybe a small illustration. | 他们说,对于这种书,封面应该都是文字,也许是一个小插图. |
| 0:53 | Much like the Tim Ferriss, Malcolm Gladwell, Gary Vaynerchuk books it was associated with. | 很像蒂姆·费里斯,马尔科姆·格拉德韦尔,加里·瓦伊纳楚克的书 |
| 1:00 | It would be unbelievably scary to not listen to those experts and instead listen to myself. | 不听这些专家的话,而是听自己的话,那将是令人难以置信的可怕。 |
| 1:11 | Trust me, especially as a female entrepreneur, not only was I scared of being criticized | 相信我,特别是女企业家 我不仅害怕被批评 |
| 1:20 | or of people thinking I was vain or full of myself, but you might be surprised to hear | 或认为我是虚无或充满自我的人 但你可能惊讶于听到 |
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| 1 | When I was choosing the cover design for my first book, there was really no question. | 当我为我的第一本书选择封面设计时,确实没有问题. |
| 2 | The version with my face big on the cover was the one that stood out the most, plus | 封面上有我长脸的版本 是最突出的版本 |
| 3 | it fit so well with my message. | 它很符合我的信息。 |
| 4 | And more than anything, I wanted to connect with my readers. | 最重要的是,我想和读者联系。 |
| 5 | But everyone in the traditional publishing world told me not to do it. | 但传统出版界的每个人都告诉我不要这样做. |
| 6 | They said for this kind of book, the cover should be all text, maybe a small illustration. | 他们说,对于这种书,封面应该都是文字,也许是一个小插图. |
| 7 | Much like the Tim Ferriss, Malcolm Gladwell, Gary Vaynerchuk books it was associated with. | 很像蒂姆·费里斯,马尔科姆·格拉德韦尔,加里·瓦伊纳楚克的书 |
| 8 | It would be unbelievably scary to not listen to those experts and instead listen to myself. | 不听这些专家的话,而是听自己的话,那将是令人难以置信的可怕。 |
| 9 | Trust me, especially as a female entrepreneur, not only was I scared of being criticized | 相信我,特别是女企业家 我不仅害怕被批评 |
| 10 | or of people thinking I was vain or full of myself, but you might be surprised to hear | 或认为我是虚无或充满自我的人 但你可能惊讶于听到 |
| 11 | that until pretty recently, I was also painfully camera shy. | 直到最近,我还很害羞地拍下来。 |
| 12 | So I almost didn't do it, but I did, and I had the guts to do it because I spent years | 所以我几乎没有这样做,但我做到了,我有勇气这样做 因为我花了多年 |
| 13 | doing something that I call banking confidence, and I want to tell you exactly how I do it | 做一些我称之为银行信心的事 我想告诉你我是如何做到的 |
| 14 | so that you can do it too. | 这样你也可以做到这一点。 |
| 15 | At first it was accidental, stemming from just a strong desire to do everything my way. | 起初是偶然的, 仅仅出于强烈的渴望 做我的一切方式。 |
| 16 | Like many of us, when I graduated from college, I wanted to save the world as long as I could | 和我们很多人一样,当我大学毕业的时候, 我想尽可能地拯救世界 |
| 17 | do it my way. | 照我说的做 |
| 18 | And I didn't see why I couldn't. | 我看不出为什么我不能。 |
| 19 | I had graduated from a top school with an economics degree, I founded a non-profit in | 我从一所有经济学学位的顶级学校毕业 我创立了一个非营利公司 |
| 20 | microfinance, I taught a class on the subject, I even did a fellowship in social entrepreneurship. | 微额供资,我教了一门关于这个课题的课, 我甚至做了一个社会创业奖学金。 |
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| 22 | massive amounts of money for enterprising women in developing countries. | 为发展中国家的创业妇女提供大量资金。 |
| 23 | And I wanted to be in charge. | 我想当主事 |
| 24 | I wanted autonomy. | 我想要自治权 |
| 25 | I wanted freedom and flexibility to be respected and well paid. | 我希望自由和灵活性得到尊重和报酬丰厚。 |
| 26 | But turns out, shockingly, there were no open positions for a queen bee boss of everything | 但是,令人震惊的是,没有公开的立场 一个蜂后老板的一切 |
| 27 | entry level CEO. | 一级首席执行官。 |
| 28 | Well, if I couldn't get the perfect job, I wasn't going to settle. | 如果我找不到完美的工作 我就不会和解了 |
| 29 | So instead, I offered my services to a non-profit for free, just so I could run the whole project | 所以,我提供免费服务给一个非营利组织, 让我可以管理整个项目 |
| 30 | exactly the way I wanted. | 这正是我想要的。 |
| 31 | While I did that, I was trying to get my own social enterprise off the ground. | 当我这样做的时候,我正试图让自己的社会企业从地面上消失. |
| 32 | And since doing these things my way didn't pay, literally, I also hustled nights and | 自从我做了这些事之后, 我并没有付出任何代价, 字面上,我还忙碌的夜晚, |
| 33 | weekends as a bartender to support myself and make it happen. | 周末做个酒保 养活自己 让它实现 |
| 34 | I didn't know it at the time, but this was the first time that I took a leap. | 当时我不知道,但这是我第一次跳跃. |
| 35 | When you ignore convention and instead go towards something you really want and take | 当你无视会议 转而追求你真正想要的东西 |
| 36 | a leap with no clear path to success, you start thinking something really game changing. | 一个没有明确的成功之路的飞跃, 你开始思考一些真正的游戏改变。 |
| 37 | But I'll admit, between you and me, initially, that whole no clear path to success piece | 但我会承认,在你和我之间, 首先, 整个没有明确的路径 成功的一部分 |
| 38 | really got the best of me. | 真的很受我欢迎 |
| 39 | But by this point, all my friends had a leg up on me in their fields, either in their | 但到现在,我所有的朋友 都在他们的田地上踩着我的腿 |
| 40 | first year of law school or business school, or they'd just been banking money and experience | 法学院或商学院的第一年, 或者他们只是银行钱和经验 |
| 41 | in whatever career they had chosen. | 无论他们选择什么职业 |
| 42 | And I felt so behind. | 我感觉很落后 |
| 43 | This is usually when people start questioning themselves, right? | 这通常是当人们开始质疑自己,对不对? |
| 44 | But I was banking something, too. | 但我也有银行业务 |
| 45 | I just didn't know it yet. | 我只是还不知道 |
| 46 | I was so ready to pounce on my thing. | 我本想踩到东西 |
| 47 | I started scrolling through job listings on Craigslist for ideas and I came across | 我开始在Craigslist上 滚动工作列表 来寻找想法 我发现 |
| 48 | this cryptic post. | 这个密码帖子。 |
| 49 | I couldn't tell what the job was, but it hit some key points. | 我分不清是什么工作,但它击中了一些关键点。 |
| 50 | Be your own boss. | 做你自己的老板吧 做你自己的老板吧 |
| 51 | Make your own hours. | 做你自己的时间。 |
| 52 | Unlimited earning potential. | 收入潜力无限. |
| 53 | Plus, the office was three blocks from my apartment. | 另外,办公室离我的公寓还有三个街区 |
| 54 | No commute. | 不许通勤. |
| 55 | I scheduled an interview out of pure curiosity. | 我安排采访是出于好奇 |
| 56 | The next day, I met with Nick, who made a great case for why I would crush it. | 第二天,我会见了尼克, 他为为什么我会粉碎它做了一个很好的理由。 |
| 57 | So what was it? | 那这是什么? |
| 58 | Real estate. | 房地产 |
| 59 | I knew nothing about real estate. | 我对房地产一无所知 |
| 60 | Wasn't that interested in it, frankly, but when he explained what the job entailed, | 坦白地说,他并不是很感兴趣 但当他解释工作的意义时 |
| 61 | I thought, yeah, I could see myself getting pretty good at that. | 我想,是的,我可以看到自己 变得相当好。 |
| 62 | I just loved that I would succeed or fail based solely on my efforts. | 我只是喜欢,我将成功或失败 仅凭我的努力。 |
| 63 | So I jumped in with two feet. | 遂以两尺跃入. |
| 64 | Pretty soon, I was showing $10,000 a month apartments, hustling for sure, | 很快,我展示 每月一万块的公寓,确定, |
| 65 | but also making fat commissions now and then until 2008 happened. | 直到2008年, 也开始生产脂肪佣金。 |
| 66 | What I know now is that when you have banked enough confidence, | 我现在知道 当你有足够的信心时 |
| 67 | because you have taken enough leaps, big external threats like great recessions | 因为你已经迈出足够的跃进, 巨大的外部威胁像大衰退 |
| 68 | won't easily undermine you. | 不会轻易破坏你的 |
| 69 | But back then, I didn't have it yet. | 但那时我还没有拿到 |
| 70 | In fact, back then, I tried all kinds of things. | 事实上,那时,我尝试了各种各样的事情。 |
| 71 | I helped open a cafe pizzeria. | 我帮开了一家咖啡馆 |
| 72 | I produced theater. | 我制作了剧场。 |
| 73 | I worked for a small tech startup. | 我为小科技公司工作 |
| 74 | I even lived off of selling art on the street in Manhattan for an entire summer. | 我甚至为了在曼哈顿街上卖艺术品而活了整整一个夏天 |
| 75 | But meanwhile, it seemed like everyone around me knew what their mission in life was except me. | 但与此同时,我身边的每个人都知道 除了我之外,他们的使命是什么 |
| 76 | I wondered, am I just being stubborn, insisting on doing everything my way? | 我在想,我是不是太固执了,坚持按我的方式行事? |
| 77 | And for what? | 为了什么? |
| 78 | I felt like I had nothing concrete to show for it. | 我觉得我没什么具体的东西可以证明 |
| 79 | But I was wrong. | 但我错了 |
| 80 | And I want to tell you a story about how it took a breakdown on a beach in paradise | 我想告诉你一个故事 如何在天堂的海滩上崩溃 |
| 81 | to make me see what I really had been banking that whole time. | 让我看看我以前到底在银行里做什么 |
| 82 | By 2010, I was ready to take this whole my way thing to the next level. | 到2010年,我准备把这整个我的方式 到下一个层次。 |
| 83 | I wondered, what's better than being a CEO, being a retired CEO? | 我想知道,还有什么比当首席执行官,当退休首席执行官更好呢? |
| 84 | I mean, don't we all just want to live on the beach and enjoy our lives? | 我们是不是都只想在海滩上生活 享受生活? |
| 85 | So when my fiance Steve and I heard about a farm in the British Virgin Islands | 所以当我未婚夫史蒂夫和我听说 英属维尔京群岛的一个农场 |
| 86 | that would let young, scrappy people like us work in exchange for food and rent in paradise, | 那会让年轻, 废墟的人像我们一样工作 以换取食物和租金 在天堂, |
| 87 | it sounded like a great opportunity to see if maybe we could bypass this whole system. | 这听起来是一个很好的机会 看看我们能不能绕过整个系统 |
| 88 | Maybe we could move straight to paradise, enjoy our lives, | 也许我们可以直接搬到天堂 享受我们的生活 |
| 89 | skip the career, and not even need money. | 跳过事业,甚至不需要钱。 |
| 90 | We had no idea what to expect. | 我们不知道该期待什么 |
| 91 | We had only exchanged a couple one-line emails with the farmer before we went. | 我们去之前只和农民 交换过几封单行邮件 |
| 92 | Our instructions when we arrived were to exit the airport, walk to the end of the road, | 我们到达机场时 指示我们离开机场 走到尽头 |
| 93 | and then ask someone on the beach for Aragorn. | 然后在沙滩上找人找亚拉冈 |
| 94 | And yes, the farmer's name was actually Aragorn. | 是的,农民的名字其实是阿拉冈。 |
| 95 | So that's what we did. | 这就是我们所做的。 |
| 96 | Sure enough, the first person we found pointed to this | 当然,我们发现的第一个人指着这个 |
| 97 | welding art studio hut down the beach, and there he was. | 在沙滩上焊接艺术工作室 他在那里 |
| 98 | And despite the fact that within hours of arriving, | 尽管在到达后的几小时内 |
| 99 | we were covered in unbearable bites by these invisible bugs they call flying teeth. | 我们被这些隐形的虫子 笼罩着难以忍受的咬伤 他们称之为飞行牙齿 |
| 100 | And the fact that we had no electricity, no internet, | 而事实上,我们没有电,没有互联网, |
| 101 | and we literally had to gather sticks to build a fire for every meal we ate. | 我们不得不收集棍子 来制造火,我们吃的每一顿饭。 |
| 102 | It really was paradise. | 这真的是天堂。 |
| 103 | After just a couple of hours of farm work each morning, | 每天早上在农场工作几个小时后 |
| 104 | the day was ours to hitchhike around the island and do whatever we wanted. | 那天是我们搭便车在岛上 做我们想做的事 |
| 105 | And despite the flying teeth, it was nearly perfect. | 尽管牙齿飞扬,它几乎是完美的。 |
| 106 | Here I was with the love of my life. | 我和我的爱在一起 |
| 107 | Zero responsibility, no need for money, | 没有责任,不需要钱 |
| 108 | and all the time in the world to just read and think and be. | 和所有的时间 在世界上只是阅读,思考和成为。 |
| 109 | I had everything I wanted. | 我拥有我想要的一切 |
| 110 | I had everything I thought everyone wanted. | 我拥有了大家想要的一切 |
| 111 | So it was a shock when one day, sitting on one of the many private beaches | 有一天,坐在众多的私人海滩上,令人震惊 |
| 112 | with the crystal clear water and the sugary white sand | 结晶清澈的水 和糖质白沙 |
| 113 | and the perfectly placed palm trees all around us, | 和我们周围布置完善的椰枣树, |
| 114 | I started to sob uncontrollably. | 我开始无节制地哭泣 |
| 115 | I thought I would feel different, but I didn't. | 我以为我会觉得自己不同,但我没有。 |
| 116 | I felt empty. | 我感觉空虚。 |
| 117 | And I know this is a cliche, but it was so poignant in that moment, | 我知道这很陈词滥调 但那一刻我感觉很糟 |
| 118 | sitting on the hot sand. | 坐热沙上. |
| 119 | It was like I had been in a desert, | 就像我在沙漠里一样 |
| 120 | desperately trying to get to an oasis in the distance, | 迫不及待地想到遥远的绿洲 |
| 121 | only to find out when I finally got there, it was a mirage. | 我终于到了那里 才发现那是个幻影 |
| 122 | It didn't exist. | 它并不存在。 |
| 123 | We all believe we are going to arrive one day on the mountaintop | 我们都相信 总有一天我们会到达山顶 |
| 124 | and then have everything we want | 然后拥有我们想要的一切 |
| 125 | and be the confident and successful people we want to be. | 成为我们想要的自信和成功的人。 |
| 126 | I was sobbing because I was mourning the loss of that idea. | 我哭是因为我为失去这个想法而悲伤。 |
| 127 | But when it disappeared, it's like it cleared the way | 但当它消失, 它就像它清理了道路 |
| 128 | to see what I really had been doing that whole time. | 看我一直以来都在做什么 |
| 129 | I had been taking leap after leap into unknown territory | 我跳进未知的领地后 就开始跳跃 |
| 130 | and with each experience, banking more confidence in myself | 凭着每一次经验,银行业都对自己有信心 |
| 131 | that I could take on anything, everything. | 我可以承担一切,一切。 |
| 132 | It was so obvious. | 很明显 |
| 133 | How come I hadn't seen it before? | 为什么我以前没看过? |
| 134 | I'm here arguing that the more confidence you bank, | 我在这里争论, 你越信任, |
| 135 | the more opportunities you open up for yourself in the future. | 将来你为自己打开更多的机会 |
| 136 | And you do this by taking leaps, | 你这样做是跳跃, |
| 137 | even when the outcome is scary or unknown, | 即使结果可怕或不明 |
| 138 | or when there's no clear path to success. | 或于无明修行成就道时. |
| 139 | While other people were banking money, | 当其他人是银行的钱, |
| 140 | I was banking confidence. | 我是银行的信心。 |
| 141 | The kind of true confidence. | 那种真实的信心。 |
| 142 | You cannot use the fake it till you make it strategy to get. | 你不能用假的 直到你做出策略 |
| 143 | And now I can go after what I want in life | 现在我可以去追求我想要的 |
| 144 | with my foot all the way on the gas because I have a little secret. | 因为我有个小秘密 |
| 145 | When you make it true for yourself | 当你把事实变成真实 |
| 146 | that anything you try will bank more confidence. | 任何你尝试的 将会增强信心。 |
| 147 | You cannot make a wrong move. | 你不能做错事 |
| 148 | And my business is really a manifestation of this. | 我的生意就是这个的体现。 |
| 149 | As a branding studio in Brooklyn, | 作为布鲁克林的一个品牌工作室, |
| 150 | we named our company something that would make anyone uncomfortable. | 我们给公司取了个名字 让大家都不舒服 |
| 151 | Worst of all, design. | 最糟糕的是设计 |
| 152 | I charge audacious prices and I make my clients pay | 我收取大胆的价钱 我让客户付钱 |
| 153 | in full upfront. | 在完全前卫。 |
| 154 | I'm okay saying a lot of things a lot of people don't like. | 说出很多人不喜欢的很多话 |
| 155 | And I push people to do a lot of things that make them very uncomfortable. | 我促使人们做很多让他们非常不舒服的事。 |
| 156 | And people always ask me, | 人们总是问我, |
| 157 | where do you get the confidence to say that, | 你从哪里得到 信心说, |
| 158 | to charge that, | 充电, |
| 159 | to do that? | 这样做? |
| 160 | This, this is how I get it. | 我就是这样得到的 |
| 161 | It's not because I'm some business genius | 不是因为我是生意天才 |
| 162 | and it's certainly not because I was born with it. | 当然不是因为我天生就带着它 |
| 163 | I have experienced that taking leaps is the only way to bank true confidence. | 我经历过,跳跃是建立真正信心的唯一途径。 |
| 164 | When I had to make the decision to face my fear | 当我不得不做决定 面对我的恐惧 |
| 165 | and put my face on my book cover, | 把我的脸放在书封上 |
| 166 | I was ready. | 我准备好了。 |
| 167 | I had been training for that moment. | 当时我一直在训练 |
| 168 | And if you Google me now, you'll laugh because my face is everywhere. | 如果你现在用谷歌搜索我 你会笑的 因为我的脸到处都是 |
| 169 | And by the way, I care so much less about the judgment now. | 顺便说一句 我现在更不在乎判决了 |
| 170 | I want you to imagine what you could do in your life | 我要你想象你一生能做些什么 |
| 171 | if you took the leaps you don't take | 如果你跳跃,你不会走 |
| 172 | because you're scared things won't work out the way you want them to. | 因为你害怕事情不会按你想的那样发展 |
| 173 | And instead took them because taking leaps banks confidence, | 取而代之是因为银行信心飞跃 |
| 174 | no matter what happens. | 不管发生什么事 |
| 175 | I dare you to try. | 我敢你试试。 |
| 176 | And no matter what, you will have done something so valuable for yourself. | 不管怎样,你都会为自己做出如此宝贵的事 |
| 177 | You will have freed up unlimited possibilities in your life. | 你会释放出无限的可能性 在你的生活中。 |
| 178 | And I don't know exactly what you will discover | 我不知道你会发现什么 |
| 179 | in your revelation in paradise moments, | 在你的启示 在天堂的时刻, |
| 180 | but I promise it'll be something amazing, | 但我保证,这将是一件令人惊奇的事, |
| 181 | something only you will discover if you take a leap. | 只有你跳跃才能发现的东西 |
| 182 | Thank you. | 谢谢 |
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