（中英附文稿）Benny Blanco：失败、自我怀疑与持续
字幕摘录
| 时间 | 英文 | 中文 |
|---|---|---|
| 0:00 | 今天在Mel Robbins播客上 只有Benny Blanco有不可思议的故事 | |
| 0:08 | I would cold call record labels and then I'd call and I'd say uh yes uh I'm calling on behalf of | 我会冷打唱片标签 然后我会打电话,我会说 嗯是的 我打电话代表 |
| 0:15 | Jay-Z we need to speak to uh. | Jay -Z 我们得和呃谈谈 |
| 0:16 | From his 12-time Grammy nominated songwriting and producing career | 从他的12次格莱美提名 歌曲写作和制作生涯 |
| 0:21 | Benny has 29 number one hits. | 班尼有29个头号命中 |
| 0:24 | Justin Bieber's Love Yourself, Ed Sheeran's Don't, Katy Perry, Rihanna, | 贾斯汀·比伯的爱你自己,埃德·希兰的唐,凯蒂·佩里,里汉娜, |
| 0:28 | Maroon 5. | 马龙五号 |
| 0:28 | Benny will teach you how to eliminate self-doubt. | 本尼会教你如何消除自我怀疑 |
| 0:31 | You're stopping yourself because | 你停下来是因为 |
| 0:33 | you're scared and you don't need to be scared. | 你害怕,你不需要害怕。 |
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| 序号 | 英文 | 中文 |
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| 1 | 今天在Mel Robbins播客上 只有Benny Blanco有不可思议的故事 | |
| 2 | I would cold call record labels and then I'd call and I'd say uh yes uh I'm calling on behalf of | 我会冷打唱片标签 然后我会打电话,我会说 嗯是的 我打电话代表 |
| 3 | Jay-Z we need to speak to uh. | Jay -Z 我们得和呃谈谈 |
| 4 | From his 12-time Grammy nominated songwriting and producing career | 从他的12次格莱美提名 歌曲写作和制作生涯 |
| 5 | Benny has 29 number one hits. | 班尼有29个头号命中 |
| 6 | Justin Bieber's Love Yourself, Ed Sheeran's Don't, Katy Perry, Rihanna, | 贾斯汀·比伯的爱你自己,埃德·希兰的唐,凯蒂·佩里,里汉娜, |
| 7 | Maroon 5. | 马龙五号 |
| 8 | Benny will teach you how to eliminate self-doubt. | 本尼会教你如何消除自我怀疑 |
| 9 | You're stopping yourself because | 你停下来是因为 |
| 10 | you're scared and you don't need to be scared. | 你害怕,你不需要害怕。 |
| 11 | I'm gonna look at the camera and you don't need | 我会看着镜头,你不需要 |
| 12 | to be scared. | 被吓坏了。 |
| 13 | I still have imposter syndrome. | 我还有假冒症候群 |
| 14 | You? | 你吗? |
| 15 | I still do. | 我还在想 |
| 16 | Overcome failure. | 克服失败。 |
| 17 | See I fail all the | 你看,我失败了所有 |
| 18 | time look I just f***ed up just now okay so that's a that's a perfect keep that in nobody take that | 时间看,我只是f***了 刚才好,所以这是一个完美的保持 在没有人拿 |
| 19 | out. | 出来。 |
| 20 | And reset your mind for success. | 并重定心智圆满. |
| 21 | Look at me I'm not like it's not like some special thing I | 你看我,我不喜欢它 像一些特殊的事情我 |
| 22 | have no special power I wasn't born with anything special I'm just a normal guy I get to the brick | 没有特别的力量,我生来没有特别的东西, 我只是一个普通的人,我得到砖头 |
| 23 | wall and I like I like I like throw it to the ground I run I jump through it I might break my | 墙和我喜欢我喜欢把它扔到地上 我运行 我跳过它,我可能会打破我的 |
| 24 | neck or something but I'm gonna die trying to do it. | 脖子什么的,但我会死 试图做到这一点。 |
| 25 | Here's what you need to do. | 这是你需要做的。 |
| 26 | Benny Blanco | 班尼布兰科 |
| 27 | welcome to the Mel Robbins podcast. | 欢迎来到梅尔・罗宾斯播客。 |
| 28 | Oh my gosh. | 天呐 |
| 29 | Are we on? | 我们开始吗? |
| 30 | We're on. | 我们开始了。 |
| 31 | Oh wow okay I'm ready. | 哦,哇,好吧,我准备好了。 |
| 32 | So am I. | 我也一样。 |
| 33 | Here's where I want to start. | 这里是我想开始的地方。 |
| 34 | Okay. | 摆 |
| 35 | If the person listening takes everything to | 如果监听者带走一切 |
| 36 | heart that you're about to share based on your life experience and your crazy career | 根据你的生活经历和疯狂的事业 你将要分享的心 |
| 37 | about the importance of failure the importance of how you handle self-doubt if they really take | 失败的重要性 如何处理自我怀疑的重要性 如果它们真的采取 |
| 38 | to heart what you're going to teach us today what the heck could change about my life? | 今天你要教给我们什么 我的生活会有什么变化? |
| 39 | I got a few things one I'm from Virginia I'm not from Los Angeles I am not from New York City | 我有一些事情,我是从弗吉尼亚来的 我不是从洛杉矶来的,我不是从纽约来的 |
| 40 | I did not grow up with famous parents I did not grow up with a ton of money I was like a funny | 我从小没有和有名的家长一起长大 我从小没有一大笔钱 |
| 41 | {\fn黑体\fs22\bord1\shad0\3aHBE\4aH00\fscx67\fscy66\2cHFFFFFF\3cH808080}看着孩子 {\fn黑体\fs22\bord1\shad0\3aHBE\4aH00\fscx67\fscy66\2cHFFFFFF\3cH808080}不知怎的 {\fn黑体\fs22\bord1\shad0\3aHBE\4aH00\fscx67\fscy66\2cHFFFFFF\3cH808080}我真没有那么多天赋 | |
| 42 | an incredible amount of talent I'm not the hottest guy you've ever seen in your life | 难以置信的天赋 我不是你见过的最性感的人 |
| 43 | but somehow I married the most beautiful talented woman on planet earth I did everything I wanted | 但不知怎的,我嫁给了地球上最美丽的天才女人 我做了我想要的一切 |
| 44 | to do in my career and I'm still searching for new amazing opportunities every day like look if | 我每天都在寻找新的奇妙机会 就像看 |
| 45 | you're five four and you want to be in the NBA I'm gonna root for you but it might be an uphill | 你才五四岁,你想参加NBA... ...我会为你加油... ...但这可能是个上坡路 |
| 46 | battle I'd say almost everything in the world you can do you can do most of the things if you work | 战斗,我会说几乎世界上的一切,你可以做 如果你工作,你可以做大多数的事情 |
| 47 | hard at it it's just about getting started okay so everyone always gives nine million excuses why | 硬的只是开始,好,所以每个人都会给900万个借口 |
| 48 | they're not gonna do something why they can't so they'll they'll say oh um I'm gonna write this | 他们不会做一些他们不能做的事 所以他们会说 哦,嗯,我要写这个 |
| 49 | book but oh shit first I gotta get a typewriter oh no I'm not gonna do a typewriter I'll do it | 书,但哦狗屎 首先,我要得到一个打字机 哦不,我不会做一个打字机,我会做到这一点。 |
| 50 | on my phone no no I gotta be old school and I gotta do it uh I gotta write it by hand and | 不,不,我要是老了,我必须做到这一点... ... |
| 51 | by then there's it's been three weeks and you're still figuring out what apparatus you're gonna use | 到那时已经三周了 你还在想你要用什么仪器 |
| 52 | to write your book and it's just about starting now start today I don't care whatever idea you | 写你的书 今天才刚开始 我不管你怎么想 |
| 53 | have if you have one idea and it's usually the idea you're too scared to tell anyone because | 如果你有一个想法 通常你害怕告诉任何人 |
| 54 | you're embarrassed you're shy you want all of the above start doing something to move that from here | 你不好意思,你害羞 你想让上面的人 都做点什么,从这里开始 |
| 55 | to here I'm asking you to move it three and a half inches forward so just three and a half | 我请你往前走三寸半 这样就三寸半 |
| 56 | inches forward today if you can do that just start to do it and you know what the thing you | 如果你能做到这一点 开始做,你知道你在做什么 |
| 57 | start off doing might not be the thing you do in the end but you'll probably land somewhere pretty | 开始做可能不是你最后做的事情 但你可能会降落的地方漂亮 |
| 58 | fucking cool like I thought I was gonna be the biggest singer rapper in the world when I was | 真他妈的酷,我以为我会成为 世界上最大的歌手说唱歌手 当我是 |
| 59 | 11 years old that didn't happen for me but I did get to do some pretty cool shit along the way | 11岁那事我可没发生过 但我在路上做了些很酷的事 |
| 60 | so just start somewhere you right on the back of this book I wrote this book to show you why | 所以从这本书的背面开始 我写这本书是为了告诉你为什么 |
| 61 | it's the key to success failure yeah every hero you've ever had has failed more times than you | 成功的关键是失败 每一个你曾经有过的英雄 |
| 62 | can imagine nobody is keeping a score card on your life except you and if they are they're an a-hole | 可以想象除了你 没人会给你的人生留记分牌 如果是你的话 他们就是个洞 |
| 63 | embrace failure and never look back why do you think it's so hard for people to start why do we | 拥抱失败,永远不要回头 为什么你们觉得人们很难开始 为什么我们 |
| 64 | get so up in our heads what are we afraid of Benny I think it's really hard for people | 这么高的头脑 我们怕Benny什么 我觉得这对人们来说是很难的 |
| 65 | to start the engine because there's so many what ifs there's so many things well what if I post | 启动引擎,因为有这么多 如果有这么多的事情好 如果我张贴 |
| 66 | this and then my friends from when I was younger make fun of me because it looks like I'm trying | 这,然后我的朋友 从我年轻的时候取笑我,因为 它看起来像我在努力 |
| 67 | to be like too reachy or too preachy or to this or to that and then someone says well what if | 变得太夸张 或太讲道 或这个或那个 然后有人说得好 如果 |
| 68 | I post my music video and it gets zero views well what if I try out for the basketball team | 我张贴我的音乐录影带,它得到 零观看好 如果我尝试为篮球队 |
| 69 | and I don't make it I'm and what if I you know go to acting class and they tell me I'm bad | 如果我知道去上表演课 他们却说我不好 |
| 70 | people are scared of being embarrassed okay and it's something that we were taught and it's not | 人们害怕尴尬 好吧,这是我们被教过的东西 |
| 71 | I feel every day okay I feel every single day and one of my friends one of my friends told me | 我每天都感觉好,我每天都感觉好 我的朋友之一告诉我 |
| 72 | he said he was going through a tough time he very successful had something that failed in his career | 他说他经历了一段艰难的时期 他的事业很成功 却失败了 |
| 73 | and he like couldn't get over it and he said you're standing on a soap box talking about how | 他喜欢无法克服, 他说你站在一个肥皂盒上 谈论如何 |
| 74 | you're going to do something and it's going to be the biggest best thing in the world and | 你会做一些事情, 这是世界上最大的最好的事情, |
| 75 | you know 90 of the time it is he said but even when you fail you just wake up the next day | 你知道他说过90次 但即使你失败了 第二天就醒了 |
| 76 | and you just go about it you just go about it like nothing happened and I started thinking | 你只是去它,你只是去它 像没事发生,我开始想 |
| 77 | about it and I said well I guess I have like a failure to amnesia what does that mean failure | 关于它,我说得好 我想我有失忆症 这是什么意思失败 |
| 78 | to amnesia or amnesia to failure an amnesia all the time look I just fucked up just now | 失忆 失忆 失忆 失忆 |
| 79 | okay so that's a that's a perfect thing keep that in nobody take that out I'm not taking that | 好吧,这是一件完美的事情 保持在没有人 取出来,我不拿 |
| 80 | okay so I you have an amnesia to failure meaning you forget about failure if you forget about the | 好吧,所以我有一个失忆 失败意味着你忘了失败 如果你忘了 |
| 81 | failure I feel like everyone else is going to forget about it like look like okay okay did you | 失败了,我觉得大家都会忘记的 就像看起来还好一样 |
| 82 | I want to make sure that as you're listening you actually heard what Benny just said that if you | 我想确保,当你在听 你实际上听到什么 本尼刚才说,如果你 |
| 83 | forget about the failure everyone else is going to yes okay look this what do you oh so he's holding | 忘了失败吧 其他人会同意的 看看这个 你是什么 |
| 84 | a board that says yeah anyone listening I'm holding a board it says failure okay this is | 上面写着"是的" 任何听到我拿着的就是"失败" |
| 85 | this is you this is me we are this board we are together we both have lots of failures but if we | 这就是你,这就是我,我们是董事会 我们在一起,我们有很多失败 但如果我们 |
| 86 | just go like this and we go like that and we go like that and you just pretend that I'm really | 像这样走 我们像这样走 你假装我是真的 |
| 87 | good at racing and there's none of those little specks of failure there anymore right now we have | 赛车很厉害 现在已经没有这些失败的弱点了 |
| 88 | okay so you're looking at this right now this is me you don't see failure you see nothing | 好,你现在在看这个,这是我,你没有看到失败,你什么也没看到 |
| 89 | it's so true but hold on you know what I see when I look at you what because this is one of the | 是真的,但你坚持住 当我看着你时,我看到了什么 因为这是其中之一 |
| 90 | reasons when we when you and I first started talking and I think you are such an incredibly | 当我们开始说话的时候,我觉得你是如此令人难以置信 |
| 91 | powerful and unique teacher I really do and yet I was like okay and how do I get over the fact | 强大而独特的老师,我真的很做, 但我像没事, 我如何克服事实 |
| 92 | and overcome the fact that when somebody looks at you and sees your career or sees you in the | 并克服一个事实,当有人看着你 看到你的职业生涯或看到你在 |
| 93 | public eye and sees all the accomplishments there's that distance that's sort of like okay well you | 公众的眼睛,看到所有的成就... ...有那种距离... |
| 94 | about like how I'm gonna get like happiness in my life or meaning in my life do you see what I mean | 关于如何我会得到 像幸福在我的生活中 或在我的生活的意义 你明白我的意思 |
| 95 | and so people look at you and only see the accomplishments but they don't see the failures | 人们看着你,只看到成就,却看不到失败 |
| 96 | that got you here because nobody's looking at those failures what do you remember about Michael | 你在这里是因为没人在看这些失败 你记得迈克尔什么 |
| 97 | Jordan he dunked from the foul line he scored like the most amount of points out of anyone maybe | 乔丹他从犯规线上灌篮 他得分最多 也许任何人得分最多 |
| 98 | LeBron broke that now I don't even know but at that time it was that so you're sitting there | 勒布朗打破了,现在我什至不知道 但在那个时候,这是 所以你坐在那里。 |
| 99 | you're looking at Michael Jordan and what do you are you counting all his misses he took the most | 你在看迈克尔·乔丹 你算什么 他最想念他 |
| 100 | shots out of anybody and it's like he he's not he he's not sitting there saying like I took | 开枪打人 好像他不是那样 他不会坐在那里说 |
| 101 | 22 shots today I shouldn't take any more I only made six of them no he's gonna shoot the fucking | 今天22枪,我不该再拍了 我只拍了6枪... |
| 102 | lights out until he gets what he wants and I feel like you me we're all doing the same thing I | 熄灯,直到他得到他想要的 我感觉你我一样 我们都在做同样的事情 |
| 103 | should be the exact person you're listening to look at me I'm not like it's not like some | 应该是你正在听的那个人 看着我... ... |
| 104 | special thing I have no special power I wasn't born with anything special I'm just a normal guy | 特殊的事情,我没有特殊的力量 我生来没有特殊的东西 我只是一个正常的人 |
| 105 | who works really hard and gets what I want because most people when they get up to that line | 他们很努力地工作 得到我想要的 因为大多数人都到了那条线 |
| 106 | where it's just a brick wall okay you're sitting at a brick wall most people they get to the brick | 在那里,它只是一个砖墙... ...... ...你坐在砖墙上... |
| 107 | wall they go uh it's a brick wall I'm gonna turn around me I get to the brick wall and I like I | 他们走的墙,呃,这是一个砖墙 我要转过身去 我得到砖墙,我喜欢我 |
| 108 | like throw it to the ground I run I jump through it I might break my neck or something but I'm | 就像把它扔到地上一样,我运行 我跳过它,我可能会打破我的脖子什么的,但我 |
| 109 | gonna die trying to do it and that's just if you have the motivation and you just keep going you | 如果你有这个动机 继续干下去 |
| 110 | don't let anybody tell you you can't do something because of this this and that you just you're | 不要让任何人告诉你 你不能做一些事情 因为这 而你只是你 |
| 111 | you can do it you can do whatever you want if you put your mind to it almost well Benny you know | 你可以做到这一点,你可以做任何你想做的 如果你将你的头脑 几乎很好本尼你知道 |
| 112 | fascinating is that a lot of at least for me personally I can see years wasted waiting for | 有趣的是,至少我个人可以看到很多 浪费多年等待 |
| 113 | either somebody to pick me or somebody to notice or somebody to give me permission or the perfect | 要么有人选我 要么有人注意到 要么有人允许我 |
| 114 | conditions and as everybody's been waiting around for some like other person right to give you the | 条件和每个人都在等待 像其他人一样的权利给你 |
| 115 | signal yeah what it's easy to miss is that the only person that's actually stopping you from doing | 信号 耶 很容易错过的是 唯一能阻止你的人 |
| 116 | something is you and you're stopping yourself because you're scared and you don't need to be | 东西是你,你停止自己 因为你害怕,你不需要是 |
| 117 | scared I'm gonna look at the camera and you don't need to be scared nothing bad is going to happen | 怕我看着摄像机,你不必害怕 不会有什么坏事发生 |
| 118 | except maybe you you're right where you started and you just gotta keep working harder at it | 但也许你说得对 你开始的地方,你只要继续努力 |
| 119 | and I'll tell you one thing I've been at the top and had to go all the way back to the down | 我要告诉你一件事,我一直在顶端 不得不一路回到下 |
| 120 | to the bottom and come back up has ever happened to you have you ever been at the top of your game | 回到最底层,回来 曾经发生 在你曾经在你的游戏的顶端 |
| 121 | and fallen down so far you don't even know where you could go and then you gotta climb all the way | 跌落到现在,你甚至不知道 你要去哪里,然后你必须一路攀登 |
| 122 | back up yes 41 three kids under the age of 10 we were doing great my husband was in the restaurant | 支持是41,三个10岁以下的孩子 我们做得很好 我丈夫在餐厅里 |
| 123 | business things went sideways we found ourselves 800 grand in debt liens hit the house I lost my | 生意进展顺利 我们发现80万债务留置权 撞到我失去的房子 |
| 124 | job couldn't pay for groceries like yeah and what'd you do I claw well first of all I drank myself | 工作付不起杂货费,是的,你做了什么,我先抓好我喝了 |
| 125 | into the ground and then laid around in misery and bitched at my husband and blamed the world | 然后躺在悲惨的地上 对我丈夫发牢骚 |
| 126 | my problems and that didn't work and then I finally got so sick of where I was and I got so sick of | 我的问题和那没有工作, 然后我终于变得如此恶心 我在哪里,我变得如此恶心 |
| 127 | waiting for somebody else to rescue me and I got so disgusted by the spiraling that I was creating | 等待别人来救我 我被我创造的螺旋式所厌恶 |
| 128 | and the envy that I felt watching other people progress in their lives like I literally got | 和羡慕,我觉得看着别人 在他们的生活进步 像我字面上得到 |
| 129 | just disgusted with myself and the stagnation and the self-loathing that I just had this moment | 只是厌恶我自己 和停滞和自我厌恶 我刚刚有这一刻 |
| 130 | where I just said if I actually want to change my life prove it do you remember where you were | 我只是说,如果我真的想改变我的生活 证明你还记得你在哪里 |
| 131 | yes where were you I was lying in bed on a Tuesday morning February 2008 and then how | 是的,你在哪里 我躺在床上 一个星期二 2008年2月的早晨,然后如何 |
| 132 | many things do you think you tried before things started going your way like how many how many | 在事情开始之前 你试过很多事情 比如说有多少 |
| 133 | times did you try to get a job try to do this try to get money it was do you know I mean it took | 你曾经试图找份工作 尝试这样做 试图得到钱 你知道我的意思是它花了 |
| 134 | every day all day long that's my life and you know my life but when you say that you don't | 每天都有,这就是我的生活,你知道我的生活 但当你说,你不 |
| 135 | have any special talents I really look obviously I know convince me because I don't believe that | 我看起来有特别的才能 很明显我知道说服我 因为我不相信 |
| 136 | okay here's what I think it's a special talent to start but I think you can teach us how to do it | 好吧,我认为这是 一个特殊的才华开始, 但我认为你可以教我们怎么做 |
| 137 | yes I know if I show up every day if I just show up okay that's the first thing you got to do just | 是的,我知道如果我每天出现 如果我只是出现 好吧,这是你要做的第一件事 |
| 138 | show up okay I just show up not even I maybe I don't know even what I'm doing but if I show up | 好吧,我只是出现 即使我也许不知道 我在做什么,但如果我出现 |
| 139 | and eventually if I show up there might not be the other guy there and they just need the next best | 最终,如果我出现 可能没有另一个人在那里 他们只是需要下一个最好的 |
| 140 | thing and I happen to be like it's really not that complicated look it seems so complicated | 事情,我碰巧 喜欢它真的不是那么复杂 看起来它看起来如此复杂 |
| 141 | it seems daunting for me I started okay I had a dream I wanted to be a musician a professional | 我开始做梦,想当音乐家 |
| 142 | musician okay music is going to be my life and I just I have no connections 0.0 connections so | 好吧,音乐会是我的生活 我只是没有连接 0.0 所以, |
| 143 | there's nothing there's nothing there there's no point of entry zero I can't even go show up | 什么都没有,没有进入点 零,我甚至不能去出现 |
| 144 | somewhere I don't know where it is to show up it's so true so I would go and I would wait outside | 我不知道在哪里出现 它是那么真实 所以我会去,我会在外面等 |
| 145 | of recording studios when I was probably at this point like 10 11 10 or 11 yeah I'd go to a studio | 录音室 当我可能 此时此刻 10 11 10 或 11 |
| 146 | I'd have my mom take me I'd go to a studio and I'd wait outside and I'd wait for a person to | 我会让我妈妈带我去一个工作室 我会在外面等一个人 |
| 147 | walk out and I'd say do you make music and that was I would just ask and then I'd say can I do | 出去,我会说,你 做音乐,我只问, 然后我会说,我可以做 |
| 148 | anything here can I do this can I do that and I was just trying to be in the room because if you | 任何我能做的,我可以做到这一点, 我只是试图在房间里 因为如果你 |
| 149 | show up and you're in the room something's gonna go down something's gonna happen you're gonna | 出现,你的房间 有东西会掉下来 事情会发生,你会 |
| 150 | either learn you're gonna get an opportunity like so much of it is just showing up and then finding | 要么知道你会得到一个机会 就像这么多 它只是出现,然后找到 |
| 151 | the room okay that's the first two things okay and your mom you figured out where recording | 房间好,这是头两件事好, 你妈妈你明白在哪里录音 |
| 152 | you're showing up and I remember the turning point for me is the first form of social media | 你来了 我记得我的转折点是 社交媒体的第一形式 |
| 153 | came out okay and it was called well the first form that I got was called my space okay and | 出来好,它被叫做好 我得到的第一种形式 被叫做我的空间好 |
| 154 | I got on my space okay so again showing up yes putting yourself in the room these can be real | 我得到了我的空间 好,所以再次出现 是的,把你自己的房间 这些可以是真的 |
| 155 | rooms they can be digital rooms yep and we didn't even have a computer at this point so I would do it | 房间可以做成数字房间 此时我们甚至没有电脑 所以我会做 |
| 156 | at lunchtime in the library and I would do anything I could to get in touch with people | 在图书馆的午餐时间 我会尽我所能与人联系 |
| 157 | so first thing I started doing is I would cold call record labels okay and let's say I was calling | 所以,我开始做的第一件事是 我会冷打唱片标签 好,让我们假设我是打电话 |
| 158 | Interscope Records I would call up and I'd say is Jimmy I've been there Jimmy I've been | 我会打电话来 说吉米我去过那里 |
| 159 | Interscope Records I'd say is Jimmy I've been there and then I would look up who Snoop Dogg | 我要说的是我去过的Jimmy 然后我会查谁叫Snoop Dogg |
| 160 | or Tupac score I'd look up who their lawyer was I'd look up online and then I call and I'd say | 或者Tupac的分数 我会查查他们的律师是谁 我会在网上查查 然后打电话说 |
| 161 | uh yes uh I'm calling on behalf of Jay-Z this is Michael Guido we need to speak to uh you know | 嗯,是的 我代表Jay -Z打电话 这位是Michael Guido 我们需要和 呃,你知道的 |
| 162 | Jimmy uh immediately and you know half the time they wouldn't do it but occasionally | 吉米,嗯,立即,你知道一半的时间 他们不会这样做,但偶尔 |
| 163 | I would get put through okay so I'd be put through to the president of the company and I'd say | 我会通过好,所以我会通过 通过公司总裁,我会说 |
| 164 | oh I'm sorry this isn't uh Michael Guido I just want to let you know this is Benny Blanco I have | 哦,对不起,这不是... Michael Guido... 我只想告诉你这是我的本尼布兰科 |
| 165 | all this music I want to show you blah blah blah and I'd get hung up on and but eventually I | 我想给你们看这些音乐,我会挂断,但最终我 |
| 166 | started becoming friendly with the interns with the people that answered the phone and I I I you | 开始和那些接电话的人的实习生友好起来 而我,我和你 |
| 167 | know and I kept those relationships up till this I mean my manager my manager of my career is a | 我和他们的关系一直保持到现在 我是说我的经理 我的事业经理是个 |
| 168 | I met when I was 16 years old doing all these same shenanigans working for people interning | 我16岁时就认识了 做这些蠢事 为别人工作 |
| 169 | for people and I still am with him 20 something years later and a lot of those people I first | 对人来说,我仍然和他在一起 20年之后,很多的人我先 |
| 170 | {\fn黑体\fs22\bord1\shad0\3aHBE\4aH00\fscx67\fscy66\2cHFFFFFF\3cH808080}我还有20年的恋情 {\fn黑体\fs22\bord1\shad0\3aHBE\4aH00\fscx67\fscy66\2cHFFFFFF\3cH808080}现在公司的领导们 | |
| 171 | later and I started I had no idea what I was doing but I got up I woke up and I did the same | 后来,我开始 我不知道我在做什么,但我起床 我醒来,我做了同样 |
| 172 | {\fn黑体\fs22\bord1\shad0\3aHBE\4aH00\fscx67\fscy66\2cHFFFFFF\3cH808080}我从床上出来 {\fn黑体\fs22\bord1\shad0\3aHBE\4aH00\fscx67\fscy66\2cHFFFFFF\3cH808080}我每天开始 | |
| 173 | every day the best day I can for that day okay and the only way you don't get better | 每一天,我能够为那一天做最好的一天 好,唯一的方法 你没有得到改善 |
| 174 | is if you don't get out of bed and getting out of bed doesn't just mean getting out of bed | 如果你不下床 下床 不意味着就下床 |
| 175 | getting out of bed means going and attacking the day and as long as you start attacking the day | 下床意味着去攻击一天 只要你开始攻击一天 |
| 176 | it will get better thank you to today's partner Expedia you know if you haven't booked your next | 感谢今天的搭档Expedia 如果你还没有订下下一个 |
| 177 | trip yet now's the time let me your friend remind you you deserve to go do something exciting | 让你朋友提醒你 你该做点刺激的事 |
| 178 | because travel can make you feel alive in so many different ways in fact research tells you and me | 因为旅行可以让你有生命的感觉 在很多不同的方式 事实上研究告诉你和我 |
| 179 | that travels one of the most important things that you can do for yourself your happiness your health | 旅行最重要的事情之一 你可以为你自己做 你的幸福,你的健康 |
| 180 | in fact most people make a big life decision after traveling and you don't have to go that far yeah | 事实上大多数人在旅行后都会做一个重大的决定 你不必走那么远 |
| 181 | you could fly halfway around the world but it could just be a quick weekend getaway or even | 你可以飞到半个世界 但这可能是一个快速的周末 逃离甚至 |
| 182 | exploring the neighboring town it all counts as travel because you're getting out of your day-to-day | 探索邻镇 都算旅行 因为你每天都要离开 |
| 183 | and experiencing something new and Expedia makes it easy flights hotels vacation rentals cars | 和体验一些新东西 和Expedia 使它容易飞行 酒店度假租车 |
| 184 | activities all in one place and when you bundle you can save up to 30 with everything you need | 活动全部在一个地方进行,当捆绑时,您可以节省最多 30 个,随您需要的一切 |
| 185 | in one app life is short so stop waiting and book the trip and the beauty of having everything in | 在一个应用生活是短暂的,所以停止等待 并订旅行 和拥有一切的美 |
| 186 | with Expedia is that you can go from an idea to booked in minutes no jumping between sites no | Expedia是,你可以从一个想法 预订在几分钟内 不跳跃在站点之间 |
| 187 | hassle sign in to save savings very Expedia the one place you go to go places I want to read to | 麻烦的签个字来节省积蓄 Expedia 你要去的地方 |
| 188 | you from what is going to be a blockbuster bestseller this book I love the color thank you | 这本书我很喜欢颜色 谢谢 |
| 189 | this is page 72 okay here's a fun fact you're never going to feel ready to start if you wait | 这是第72页 这是有趣的事实 如果你等的话 你永远不会准备好开始 |
| 190 | around until you feel prepared or like you have enough experience or like you know how it all | 直到你准备好或喜欢 你有足够的经验或喜欢 你知道如何这一切 |
| 191 | works I will come back to check on you in five years and you will still be standing exactly | 五年后我会回来看你的 你仍然站着 |
| 192 | where you are right now success is not worrying about the inevitable failure that comes from not | 现在,你在哪里成功 并不担心 不可避免的失败 来自于不 |
| 193 | totally knowing what you're doing it's about going all in with so much conviction that everyone | 完全知道你在做什么 这是关于去所有 有这么多的信念,每个人都 |
| 194 | believes you including yourself then rolling the dice what does that mean right before I do | 相信你包括你自己 然后掷骰子 这是什么意思 在我之前 |
| 195 | something I get scared but it's a different type of scared I'm not scared to do it I'm just it's | 有些事我很害怕,但那是另一种类型的恐惧 我不害怕这样做 我只是它 |
| 196 | about to happen it's about to happen and there's that moment where you go do I want everyone to | 马上就要发生了 那一刻你要去,我希望大家 |
| 197 | know this do I want everyone knows do I fuck it and then you just and then you just go for it | 我要让所有人都知道 我操了它,然后你就去 |
| 198 | and I'm always gonna go for it because if I believe it if I can sell a dream to myself | 我总是会去它,因为如果我相信它, 如果我可以卖一个梦想给自己 |
| 199 | and to the people around me it's it's gonna start work it's just gonna start swaying in your | 对我周围的人来说 它会开始工作 它会开始摇动你 |
| 200 | direction like the gravity will pull it's gonna it's like if you have the energy on your side and | 像重力一样的方向会拉动它 就像你身边有能量一样 |
| 201 | you're moving forward even if some things are pushing you back eventually you're gonna be able | 即使有些事情把你推回去 最终你还是会成功的 |
| 202 | {\fn黑体\fs22\bord1\shad0\3aHBE\4aH00\fscx67\fscy66\2cHFFFFFF\3cH808080}而大多数人都觉得很难完成 {\fn黑体\fs22\bord1\shad0\3aHBE\4aH00\fscx67\fscy66\2cHFFFFFF\3cH808080}很多人 | |
| 203 | don't believe in themselves well what would you say to the person who's listening like I want that | 不要相信自己好 你会怎么跟听的人说 |
| 204 | yes yes and I don't believe in myself maybe they've been rejected after trying for a little bit it's | 是的,是的,我不相信我自己 也许他们已经被拒绝了 经过一点点尝试,这是 |
| 205 | taking too long and so that self-doubt is really there what would you say to the person who's | 花了太长时间,所以自我怀疑 真的在那里 你会说什么的人 |
| 206 | listening who's like Benny I want that but I don't know how to start believing in myself | 听谁像班尼... ...我想要,但我不知道如何开始相信自己 |
| 207 | how bad did the rejection hurt okay that's first what I want to know how bad was it being rejected | 拒绝会有多痛 首先我要知道被拒绝有多糟 |
| 208 | is it bad yeah you ask someone out when you're a kid and they say no and you're embarrassed for a | 你小时候约人出去,他们说不,你很尴尬 |
| 209 | few hours and then you come back to school the next day and nobody gives a shit because a new | 几个小时,然后你回来 学校第二天,没有人在乎 因为一个新的 |
| 210 | person got asked out and rejected so first you got to know how bad did it hurt to be rejected | 有人被约出去拒绝 所以首先要知道被拒绝有多痛苦 |
| 211 | and it's I promise you you're sitting there you're talking to yourself right now and you're saying | 我保证你坐在那 你现在在自言自语 |
| 212 | it's not that bad in your head you want to say it's worse you really want to say it was this | 你脑子里还不是那么坏 你想说 更糟的是 你真的想说 是这个 |
| 213 | terrible thing and I couldn't get out of bed for 16 years no it wasn't that bad it wasn't that bad | 糟透了 我16年都睡不着 没那么糟 |
| 214 | it sucked it sucked for a second it wasn't that bad okay so rejection's not that bad so that's not | 它吸了它一秒钟,它不是那么糟糕 好吧,所以拒绝不是那么糟糕,所以这不是 |
| 215 | okay is it gonna be hard yeah it's gonna be hard what you you just want to like immediately be the | 好吧,它会是艰难的... ... |
| 216 | best at something in the world no you're gonna have to work at it okay you're gonna have to work | 最好在世界上的东西... ...... ...... |
| 217 | at it and you're gonna fail and you're gonna have so many barriers and you're gonna have so many | 你会失败的 你会有这么多障碍 |
| 218 | times where you want to quit but you're not gonna because you know that if you do quit you're just | 你想退出的时代,但你不会 因为你知道,如果你真的退出,你只是 |
| 219 | giving space for that other person trying the same thing to just get right ahead of you oh god | 给另一个人空间 尝试同样的事物 刚刚在你前面 |
| 220 | that's a good one yeah that the second you quit you actually just open the door for someone else | 好样的,是啊,你一辞职 就为别人开门 |
| 221 | I think what you're talking about is really interesting because a lot of people believe | 我认为你在说什么真的很有趣 因为很多人相信 |
| 222 | that the path to getting what they want should or will be easier than it needs to be and it will be | 获得他们想要的东西的道路应该或将会比它需要的容易,而且将会是 |
| 223 | right let's talk about that like it's gonna be harder yeah like it's gonna be so much harder | 好吧,让我们来谈谈 喜欢它会是更难 耶,就像它会是那么难 |
| 224 | than you think it is you're gonna work harder than you've ever worked in your life and you're | 比你想象的要更努力的工作 比你这辈子做过的还要努力 |
| 225 | gonna want to quit i want to quit all the time i'm exhausted i'm tired like we're all tired | 我想退出,我想退出所有的时间 我累了,就像我们都累了一样 |
| 226 | everyone is tired i'm looking at are you tired yes you don't you're i know you're shaking your | 每个人都累了 我看着你累了 是的,你没有 我知道你在摇动你的 |
| 227 | head yes we're all tired everyone is tired i'm tired doing a thing that i love more than anything | 是的,我们都累了 每个人都累了 我累了做一件我最爱的事 |
| 228 | in the world but i'm i'm tired because i'm putting in the hours and i'm doing and you know sometimes | 在世界上,但我累了 因为我把时间,我做,你知道有时 |
| 229 | look i'll be for real with you sometimes i've been working all day okay and i finally get home i'm | 看,我会是真的和你在一起 有时我工作了一整天 好,我终于回家 |
| 230 | exhausted it's you know it's eight i gotta make dinner um selena's waiting for me she's been | 筋疲力尽了,你知道八点了 我得做晚饭 um selena在等我 她一直在 |
| 231 | waiting to eat and yet sometimes i come home and i'm exhausted and and and i know i have to give | 等着吃饭,但有时我回家 我累坏了 我知道我必须给 |
| 232 | that to her because she wasn't she wasn't part of that day she her day is just starting now with me | 对她来说,因为她不是那天的一部分 她的一天才刚开始跟我在一起 |
| 233 | success comes in so many different forms and if i get to come home and i listen to everything she's | 成功有这么多种形式 如果我能回家,听她的一切 |
| 234 | saying and she tells me about her whole day and we get to connect on a deeper level like that's a | 说着,她告诉我 关于她的整个一天, 我们得到连接 在更深的层次 像这是一个 |
| 235 | whole different that's my other that's another sign of success i didn't fail i succeeded you know | 完全不同,这是我另一个成功的迹象 我没有失败,我成功 |
| 236 | well i i really got something out of what you just said so i want to hover right here for a minute | 好吧,我真的从你刚才说的话中得到了一些东西 所以我想在这里徘徊一会儿 |
| 237 | because you said something that has never quite hit me that way which is when you get home after a | 因为你说过一些 从未打过我的话 也就是你回家后 |
| 238 | long stressful day and you are walking in and your wife selena's there her day with you is just | 漫长的紧张的一天,你正在走进来 你的妻子Selena在那里 她和你在一起的日子只是 |
| 239 | starting and after being with chris for 32 years yeah i will tell you that poor man typically gets | 开始和Cris在一起32年了 我会告诉你 可怜的男人通常得到 |
| 240 | the worst of me even though he is my favorite person in the world and deserves the best but i | 虽然他是我世界上最爱的人 也是我最值得的 |
| 241 | had never thought about framing it as your kids or your spouse or your friend or your brother or | 从来没有想过把它设定为 你的孩子,你的配偶,你的朋友,你的兄弟, |
| 242 | mom their day is starting with you when you walk in at the end of the day of course of course look | 妈妈 他们的一天从你开始 当你走进一天的尽头 当然看 |
| 243 | you're not going to win every time like i've i've and i'm competitive until the thing's over like | 你不可能每次赢 我和我的竞争 直到事情结束 |
| 244 | let's say it's like i'm in a race to get a song number one or to get number one on the uh the book | 假设我是在比赛 获得一号歌 或者在书上获得一号 |
| 245 | charts or i'm i'm going to give it my all and i'm going to be competitive as shit and do everything | 要不然我就全力以赴 全力以赴 |
| 246 | i can or if i want to get that job i'm going to do everything i can and then at the end whether | 我可以或如果我想得到那份工作 我会尽我所能,然后最后... |
| 247 | i get it or not that's the end i did my absolute hardest i put all the effort i could possibly do | 我尽力了 我尽力了 |
| 248 | into it and i'm happy that's success to me whether it's technically a failure or not that is still | 我很高兴这对我来说是成功的 不管技术上是失败还是失败 |
| 249 | success to me that is the definition so do you have a trick like if you put your all into something | 成功对我来说,这就是定义 所以,你有一个诡计,比如如果你把 你的所有的东西 |
| 250 | and then it doesn't happen yeah is there a way you unhook yourself from the fact that it didn't | 然后它没有发生 是的,是有一个方法 你解开自己的事实,它没有 |
| 251 | happen yet i say what else could you have done you did every if you do i only am mad at myself | 发生什么,我说,你还能做什么 如果你这样做,我只生气自己 |
| 252 | if i didn't do all the things sometimes things don't work sometimes it's not the right time | 如果我不做所有的事情 有时事情不起作用 有时不是时候 |
| 253 | not the right place i might i'm not going to give up on that passion but i might have to go back to | 我可能不会放弃那种激情 但我可能得回去 |
| 254 | the drawing board and say okay how did this not work like what what can i do differently this time | 画板和说好,怎么没有工作 像什么我可以做不同 这次 |
| 255 | to make this work for me and sometimes working doesn't mean being number one on the chart like | 做这个为我工作,有时工作 并不意味着在图表中第一,喜欢 |
| 256 | for me to know that this resonated with people for me to know this or that and i look at it | 让我知道这与人们的共鸣 让我知道这个或那个 |
| 257 | if i did everything i possibly could do it's complete and the only way that stays a failure | 如果我做了一切 我可能做的是完全的 只有这样才能保持失败 |
| 258 | and doesn't get flipped into a success is if i didn't learn from what happened during that failure | 如果我不从失败中吸取教训 就不会成功 |
| 259 | what i wanted to unpack with you benny is the fact that it is also hard to not do it it is hard | 我想跟你Benny打包的就是 也很难不做 |
| 260 | to sit in the self-doubt it is hard to say all the what-ifs it is hard to think | 很难说出什么是很难思考的 |
| 261 | about all the things you could be doing and watching everybody else do it and at some point | 你可能做的每件事 看着其他人做,有时 |
| 262 | understanding that either one doing it or not doing it is hard oh my god they're both painful | 知道做或不做都很难 他们都很痛苦 |
| 263 | everything is look that's what i'm saying it's like everything in life is going to be hard at | 一切都是看起来,这就是我要说 它就像生活中的一切是很难的 |
| 264 | some point that's just how it works the best things in the world you say you have a kid you | 有一点,这就是它是如何工作 在世界上最好的事物 你说你有个孩子 |
| 265 | love your kid something's going to be fucking hard you have a relationship you love i don't care if | 爱你的孩子 事情会是他妈的很难 你有你爱的关系 我不管 |
| 266 | it's the best relationship in the world it's hard because two people are fitting together and two | 这是世界上最好的关系 很难 因为两个人在一起 两个人在一起 |
| 267 | people have completely different lives and they have to coexist and live together let's say you're | 人有完全不同的生活 他们必须共处 生活在一起 让我们假设你们 |
| 268 | working in a job with let's say you're working for someone it's going to be hard because you're | 做一个工作,我们假设你为某人工作 这将是很难的,因为你是 |
| 269 | going to have to do things for that person above you let's say that person above you is having a | 得为你上面的人做点什么 假设你上面的人 |
| 270 | shitty day and they're taking it out on you like it's going to be hard it's all going to be hard | 糟糕的一天,他们要拿它出来 像你会很难 它会一切都会很难 |
| 271 | so it your point's perfect because it's like if it's all going to be hard at least do something | 所以你的观点是完美的,因为它就像 如果这一切是很难的,至少做一些事情 |
| 272 | that's going to have some relief somewhere rather than just sitting in a hole that's always going | 那会有一些解脱的地方, 而不是仅仅坐在一个洞 总是去 |
| 273 | to be a hole of misery what is this big fear that you got over i wouldn't say got over okay but okay | 一个痛苦的洞 什么是大恐惧 你得到了过,我不会说得到过 好吧,但好吧 |
| 274 | so i was on an airplane in 2009 so i get on the plane my plane instantly is a terrible flight | 所以我在2009年在飞机上 所以我在飞机上... ...我的飞机瞬间是一个可怕的飞行 |
| 275 | like it couldn't be worse it's like one of those flights where no one's allowed to go to the | 更糟糕的是,这就像一个航班 没有人可以去 |
| 276 | bathroom there's no drinks no anything that's the sign that that things are dangerous when | 卫生间里没有饮料 没有任何东西 表明事情很危险 |
| 277 | they don't put the cart and well they had it up at the beginning and it flew down the thing | 他们不把推车和好 他们有它起 在一开始,它飞下来的东西 |
| 278 | so it's it's tense get off the plane get on another plane that's like this big and and i'm | 所以,这是紧张的 下飞机 得到另一架飞机 像这么大,我 |
| 279 | connecting it's like me and my three friends and i can like smell what the pilot had for lunch | 连接起来就像我和我三个朋友 我都能闻到飞行员午餐吃的东西 |
| 280 | and then i i tell my manager i say on the way back i say like i don't know if i can fly home | 然后我告诉我的经理 我在回来的路上说 我好像不知道能不能飞回家 |
| 281 | and i remember i took a train home so i took a train back to new york from florida yeah so and | 我记得我坐火车回家 所以我坐火车从佛罗里达回纽约 |
| 282 | i was like oh it was so annoying but then i get home and i fly again a few times i remember i had | 我当时很烦人 但后来我回到家 飞了几次 |
| 283 | a girlfriend at the time in london i'm going to see her it's okay like i'm okay but i'm like | 那时候在伦敦的女朋友,我要见她... ... ...... |
| 284 | really on edge like every little bump is like making me nervous on the way home this was back | 像每一次小碰撞一样紧张 就像在回家的路上让我紧张 |
| 285 | the day i don't even know if it's like this anymore where like your tv came out of like a | 那天我甚至不知道它是否是这样了 你的电视从哪冒出来的 |
| 286 | thing next to the rest or whatever and i remember i'm on there we hit a bump and my tv thing just | 其它东西或什么的 我记得我在那里 我们撞了一下,我的TV的东西只是 |
| 287 | flies off and i'm like i'm never flying again at this point first i like my brother drives me across | 飞走,我就像我再也不飞了 在这一点上,我先喜欢我哥哥载我过去 |
| 288 | country for the first time and then my uh my friends did then i took a train then i took a | 第一次是乡下 然后我的朋友做了 然后我坐火车 |
| 289 | bus then i started taking a tour bus and i really never flew again really after that i um for how | 巴士之后我开始坐旅游巴士 之后我再也没坐过飞机 |
| 290 | long i flew a handful of times after 2009 and i flew once in 2018 then i flew once in like 2019 | 2009年后我飞了几次 2018年我飞了一次 然后2019年我飞了一次 |
| 291 | and then i flew once like a week or two ago or like a month ago really i flew a month or two ago | 然后,我飞过一次 像一周或两周前 或像一个月前 真的我飞过 一两个月前 |
| 292 | for this book because i said if i'm talking about failures and successes and coming over | 因为这本书,因为我说 如果我说的是失败和成功 和过来 |
| 293 | how could i not get on a plane and i was scared but i didn't hit the snooze button | 我怎么可能没上飞机,我很害怕,但我没有按响铃 |
| 294 | i woke up i attacked the day and i got on the plane and then i went and i ate tacos um but | 我醒来,我攻击了一天, 我得到了飞机, 然后我去吃玉米饼,嗯,但 |
| 295 | i was scared i was scared but i did it i was convincing myself that i was going to do it i | 我很害怕,我很害怕 但我做到了 我说服自己 我会做到这一点,我 |
| 296 | don't know if i'm cured forever but i was still very scared but i did it i did it and then i'll | 不知道我是否永远痊愈 但我仍然很害怕 但我做到了 我做到了,然后我会 |
| 297 | tell you something i'll tell you i'll tell you a few stories one time i was me and ed sheeran | 告诉你一些事情 我会告诉你一些故事 有一次我是和Ed Iuran |
| 298 | were finishing the divide album okay and that's like his album with shape of you perfect castle | 在完成 分裂专辑好, 这就像他的专辑 形状 你完美的城堡 |
| 299 | on the hill like so many so many big songs and he said i want to finish the album in my hometown | 在山上像这么多大歌 他说我想在家乡完成专辑 |
| 300 | {\fn黑体\fs22\bord1\shad0\3aHBE\4aH00\fscx67\fscy66\2cHFFFFFF\3cH808080}在苏福克 {\fn黑体\fs22\bord1\shad0\3aHBE\4aH00\fscx67\fscy66\2cHFFFFFF\3cH808080}你知道海岸 {\fn黑体\fs22\bord1\shad0\3aHBE\4aH00\fscx67\fscy66\2cHFFFFFF\3cH808080}就像英格兰的水一样 {\fn黑体\fs22\bord1\shad0\ | |
| 301 | i i don't i i i don't fly and he knew i didn't fly and he said come on man just fine i said i | 我没有,我不飞,他知道我不飞 他说来的人只是很好,我说 |
| 302 | can't fly and he said well what if we take a boat so we took a boat from new york city to london | 他不会飞,他说好 如果我们坐船 所以我们坐船 从纽约市到伦敦 |
| 303 | and it was seven and a half days and we watched the titanic on the boat oh my god you're a glutton | 才七天半 我们看着船上的巨型巨型巨型巨型巨型巨型巨型巨型巨型巨型巨型巨型巨型巨型巨型巨型巨型巨型巨型巨型巨型巨型巨型巨型巨型巨型巨型巨型巨型巨型巨型巨型巨型巨型巨型巨型巨型巨型巨型巨型巨型巨型巨型巨型巨型巨型巨型巨型巨型巨型巨型巨型巨型巨型巨型巨型巨型巨型巨型巨型巨型巨型巨型巨型巨型巨型巨型巨型巨型巨型巨型巨型巨型巨型巨型巨型巨型巨型巨型巨型巨型巨型巨型巨型巨型巨型巨型巨型巨型巨型巨型巨型巨型巨型巨型巨型巨型巨型巨型巨型巨型巨型巨型巨型巨型巨型巨型巨星巨型巨型巨型巨型巨型巨型巨型巨型巨型巨型巨型巨型巨型巨 |
| 304 | for punishment and we made we actually made a lot of the album on the boat there's a documentary | 我们做了很多专辑 在船上有纪录片 |
| 305 | out about the whole experience um and and i'm crazy and i i i still i wanted to prove i could | 关于整个经历,嗯,我疯了 我仍然想证明我可以 |
| 306 | do this because i like i have to practice what i preach but yeah it still haunts me it's still | 做这个是因为我喜欢练习我所讲的 但是它仍然困扰着我 |
| 307 | hard it's still i did it but it was tough it was really hard and i'm gonna have to do it again | 很难,我还是做了,但很辛苦 真的很难,我要再做一次 |
| 308 | and i'm gonna have to do it again but yeah i'm literally taking a boat in a few weeks to europe | 我得再做一次,不过我几周后要搭船去欧洲 |
| 309 | again again again how does it feel to know that that fear is stopping you from making certain | 再说一遍,知道恐惧让你无法确定 |
| 310 | decisions it's it doesn't stop me from making decisions because i work so hard that i have to | 做决定并不阻止我做决定 因为我很努力地工作 |
| 311 | find a way to do it so i still get to whatever destination i need to but yeah it's stupid are | 想办法,这样我才能到达任何我需要的目的地 但是,是的,这是愚蠢的 |
| 312 | you kidding me it's not stupid it is very real it's very stupid it doesn't very real stupid and | 你开玩笑吧,这不愚蠢,它非常真实 非常愚蠢,它并不非常愚蠢, |
| 313 | real don't don't mean like it's it's stupid and and sometimes look i'm not saying you have to be | 真实的不意味着它像 它是愚蠢的, 有时看起来我不是说 你必须 |
| 314 | i am the furthest version from perfect that there is i mess up constantly i'm the same guy who will | 我是离完美最远的版本 我总是搞乱我 |
| 315 | go in and i'll say something i'll say oh why did i say that that was so stupid i shouldn't say that | 进去,我会说一些话 哦,为什么我说那太蠢了 我不该说 |
| 316 | or or i'll have you know always i'm still i still have imposter syndrome you i do i mean i still do | 或者我会一直让你知道 我仍然有冒牌货综合症 |
| 317 | like put me at the scene in the last time you had imposter syndrome when i walked in here today | 就像上次我走进来的时候 把我放到现场一样 |
| 318 | really i'm saying when i walked in and there was a bunch of people in here the first thing that i | 真的,我是说当我走进来 和有一群人在这里 首先,我 |
| 319 | said i said oh why are all these people here for me this is like shouldn't they just do their stuff | 我说,哦,为什么所有这些人 都在这里对我来说 这就像不应该 他们只是做他们的东西 |
| 320 | and and i got and i and i and i started getting embarrassed and and and sometimes i'll be like | 我开始感到尴尬 有时候我会像 |
| 321 | always when i'm doing one of these things i'm like well why does a person want to listen to | 总是当我做这些事情之一 我很喜欢很好 为什么一个人想听 |
| 322 | what i have to say and and i think that's also part of what helped me get to where i am today | 我不得不说,我想这也是帮助我走到今天这个地步的一部分 |
| 323 | i just want people to really know like it's very easy for me and mel to sit here and say like you're | 我只是希望人们真正知道, 像我和梅尔非常容易坐在这里, 并说像你 |
| 324 | gonna do this and you're gonna do that but like i know for us there's always there's forms of | 你会这样做,你会这样做 但是,我知道,对我们来说, 总是有 形式 |
| 325 | self-doubt there's times when we don't feel like doing it there's times when i wake up and i say | 自我怀疑,有时,我们不 想这样做 有的时候,我醒来说 |
| 326 | fuck i can't do today the point i'm trying to make is i feel like sometimes people will start | 我他妈的今天不能做 我想说的是 我觉得有时候人们会开始 |
| 327 | what they're doing and then they'll regress and they'll have that moment and they'll say oh | 他们在做什么,然后他们会倒退, 他们会有那一刻,他们会说哦 |
| 328 | it's already gone it's i i i i stopped i can't do it and it's not true it's not true you're just | 它已经走了,我停止了 我不能做到这一点,这不是真的 |
| 329 | gonna get up and you're gonna work twice as hard tomorrow it's not always perfect and that's okay | 起来,你明天要工作两倍 明天不总是完美的,没关系的 |
| 330 | and it's okay to fail and it's okay to be bummed about failing too but in the back of your head | 失败也没关系 失败也没关系 但在你的脑后 |
| 331 | you still got to be like today i couldn't do it i couldn't fight i wanted to i couldn't do it | 你还是要像今天一样 我做不到 我无法抗争 我无法抗争 |
| 332 | and tomorrow i'm gonna work fucking three times as hard i want to make sure as you're listening | 明天我会努力工作三次 我想确保你听到 |
| 333 | you really heard something really important that benny just explained which is when it comes to | 你真的听到一些很重要的事 班尼刚刚解释了 当涉及到 |
| 334 | success and creating the life that you want or going after goals that you really feel called to | 成功和创造你想要的生活 或去追求你真正感觉被召唤的目标 |
| 335 | go after the skill is not that you just start and you keep going and then suddenly it gets easier | 之后的技巧 并不是你刚刚开始,你继续走 然后突然变得更容易 |
| 336 | the actual skill that creates the things that you want is continuing to wake up for decades and not | 创造你想要的东西的实际技能 持续地唤醒了几十年,而不是 |
| 337 | feel like it continuing to have it be really hard continuing to question what you're doing | 感觉就像它继续 它真的很难 继续质疑你在做什么 |
| 338 | and the skill becomes showing up anyway that's what i kind of hear you saying that like it's | 我听到你这么说 |
| 339 | not about that if you just keep showing up and you just keep producing the music or you just | 如果你继续出现 继续制作音乐 或者你只是 |
| 340 | keep posting the videos or you just keep trying to lose the weight that it's going to get any | 继续张贴视频,否则你就继续减肥,因为这样会增加 |
| 341 | easier because i don't think it does no that's people's biggest misconception look i'll tell | 因为我不认为那不是人们最大的误解 我会说 |
| 342 | you a story tell me a story i the year is maybe 2015 i don't even know i'm so bad with years | 你的故事告诉我一个故事... ...我一年也许就是2015年... ...我甚至不知道我有多糟糕... |
| 343 | i was a really successful producer and songwriter and i can you stop before you tell the story can | 我是一个非常成功的制片人和作曲家 在你讲故事之前你可以停下来 |
| 344 | you just tell the person who's listening like like what does that mean like how old were you | 你只要告诉在听的人 像是你多大了 |
| 345 | when you signed your first record deal well i signed my first record deal when i was seven | 你签了第一笔唱片合约 我七岁时签了第一笔唱片合约 |
| 346 | eight seven eighteen okay eighteen my first like real real one basically i started writing songs | 8 7 18 好 18 我的第一个像真正的一样 我开始写歌 |
| 347 | for other people okay i had a knack for it i guess and i was able to create most of like the | 对其他人来说,好吧,我有一个诀窍 我想,我能够创造 大部分喜欢 |
| 348 | soundtrack for like kids childhood from a certain from a certain era i hate talking about myself but | 像孩子童年一样 从某个时代开始 我最讨厌谈论自己 |
| 349 | for all intents and purposes i was at the top of the charts for many many years for writing | 多年来我一直居于图表之首 写作 |
| 350 | most of the popular songs at any given time just give the person a couple like because somebody | 大多数流行歌曲在任何特定时间 仅仅给人一对情侣 像因为某人 |
| 351 | might not know what you're talking about hold on i'm gonna you're not talking about kids bop no i'm | 可能不知道你在说什么 坚持住... ... |
| 352 | gonna i'm guys this is so embarrassing just because i always forget i'm gonna i'm gonna | 我会是男人 这太尴尬了 只是因为我总是忘记 我会去 |
| 353 | literally wikipedia myself i'll read a few katie perry i kissed a girl katie perry hot and cold | 维基百科中的相关条目: 维基百科中的相关条目: 维基百科中的相关条目: 维基百科中的相关条目: 维基百科中的相关条目: 维基语录 |
| 354 | Britney长矛马戏团 呃 Kesshia的tiktok Kesshia的 等等 Kesshia的爱是我的药 | |
| 355 | Katie Perry的加州女孩 Katie Perry的十几岁梦 呃 Rihanna钻石马龙5 | |
| 356 | 5个公用电话 5个地图 5个动物 Ed Forman's don't | |
| 357 | Ed Serman's whole xl 我们的专辑,呃... | |
| 358 | 水,呃,Senorita 通过Sean mendez和camila Cabello 在那里,我的意思是,我不做伟大的没有 | |
| 359 | no that like gives good context so let's go back to the story now that we have the context you | 不,那会给好的背景,所以让我们回到我们的故事 现在有背景你 |
| 360 | said it was like 2015 here's it we're going even earlier okay great okay so i was really in a good | 说这就像2015年,这里,我们要去 甚至更早,好吧,很好 所以我真的在一个好 |
| 361 | position okay i had all the success all these number ones and i was finding it hard to get | 位置好,我所有的成功 这些数字之一,我发现很难得到 |
| 362 | the work i wanted and i was like why is this so difficult and i was like still running into the | 我想要的作品,我就像为什么 这么困难,我就像还跑进 |
| 363 | same problems i always thought and when i was younger and i was making these songs oh well | 同样的问题,我一直想 当我年轻,我正在做这些歌曲 哦好 |
| 364 | once i have all the hits everyone's just going to come to me i was still running into the same | 一旦我得到了所有的点击 每个人都会来找我 我还是会碰到同样的 |
| 365 | problem and honestly it was even worse because people were like oh well you made any song you | 老实说,问题更严重了 因为人们都喜欢哦... ... |
| 366 | played them has to be the biggest song in the world because they're expecting something that's | 演奏他们必须是世界上最大的歌 因为他们期待的东西 |
| 367 | so um larger than life and i was on tour with ed sheeran okay and the defiant ones had just come | 我和Ed Irmaan一起巡回演出 叛逆者刚刚来 |
| 368 | out by uh doc it's a documentary with dr dre and jimmy iven and i remember sitting backstage at | 博士,这是一部纪录片 有Dre博士和Jimmy Iven 我记得坐在后台 |
| 369 | gilette stadium with ed sheeran and it was his first time ever playing a stadium show and we | 和Ed Iuran一起的Gilette体育场 这是他第一次参加体育场表演 |
| 370 | were watching defiant ones and it just finished and he stood up and he said man they did so much | 看着那些叛逆的人 刚刚结束 他站起来说他们做了这么多 |
| 371 | in their life what the fuck are we doing with our lives and literally as he said what the | 他们的生活中,我们到底在做什么 我们的生活,和字面上,他说什么 |
| 372 | fuck are we doing with our lives a man comes backstage and says all right ed you're on | 他妈的我们做我们的生活 一个男人来后台 说所有的权利 ed,你上 |
| 373 | and ed went and played in front of 75 000 people and i remember right after that i called my manager | 艾德在七万五千人面前演奏 我记得在那之后我打电话给我的经理 |
| 374 | he's right outside the guy i've known since i was 15 and i said we got to do something different | 他就在我15岁时认识的人外面 我说我们得做别的事 |
| 375 | no one's taking my music the artists are changing that idea isn't i need to put out the music myself | 没有人拿走我的音乐 艺术家们正在改变这个想法... ... |
| 376 | i need to be the record label the artist the publisher everything and two days before | 我需要成为唱片标签艺术家 出版商的一切 两天前 |
| 377 | me and ed had made a demo together and the demo was the beginnings of a song called east side | 我和Ed一起做了一个演示 演示是一首叫东边的歌的开始 |
| 378 | okay and i told him i said hey i think i really want to use east side for my artist project i want | 好吧,我告诉他 我说,嘿,我想 我真的想用东边 我的艺术家项目,我想要 |
| 379 | to become an artist and i thought ed was gonna say dude what the fuck are you talking about just | 成为一名艺术家 我以为Ed会说 |
| 380 | make songs for us that's it and he looked at me he said i can't believe it's taken you so long to | 给我们做歌 就这样 他看着我 他说我不敢相信你花了这么长时间 |
| 381 | do this you should totally become an artist ed tells me to do it the song's amazing i love it | 做这个,你应该完全成为一个艺术家 ed告诉我做到这一点 这首歌的惊人 我喜欢它 |
| 382 | go to ed i say ed i want you on the song he says no he said i'm putting out my own music for the | 去ED,我说ED,我要你 在歌曲 他说不 他说我放我自己的音乐 |
| 383 | {\fn黑体\fs22\bord1\shad0\3aHBE\4aH00\fscx67\fscy66\2cHFFFFFF\3cH808080}明年不能唱这首歌 {\fn黑体\fs22\bord1\shad0\3aHBE\4aH00\fscx67\fscy66\2cHFFFFFF\3cH808080}我说好的 | |
| 384 | i say you gotta be on this song no response okay then i say all right no one wants to record it | и弧眔硂簈 ⊿Τ氮 |
| 385 | then i say wait i think this song should be a duet okay and i'm at my house one day | 那我说等一等 我觉得这首歌应该是一首二重唱 有一天我会在我家 |
| 386 | and i'm recording halsey and i said i got this song that i did with ed and i wanted | 我在录荷西的歌 我说我有这首歌 我和Ed一起唱 我想 |
| 387 | i'm making my own artist thing and and she was like you're making an artist project and i thought | 我在做我自己的艺术家的事情 她就像你在做一个艺术家项目 我想 |
| 388 | she was like i thought it was like gonna be like what are you doing she was like that's awesome of | 她就像我以为它会 像你在做什么 她就像这是真棒 |
| 389 | course i'll do it so within like 20 minutes she does her verse on the song so now i have one | 当然,我会做到这一点 在20分钟内 她做她的诗歌 所以我现在有一个 |
| 390 | on the song i somehow get put in touch with khalid at the time and this is like he was | 这首歌我不知怎么和卡利德联系了 这就像他 |
| 391 | really top of the charts at this point and i said i have this song i want you to be on it | 此时此刻,我说有首歌要你唱 |
| 392 | and he says let's do it so he records the song okay then we get to the point where the song's | 他说让我们做到这一点,所以他记录 歌曲好 然后我们得到的点 歌曲的 |
| 393 | out to come out and i send khalid the song back and he said i hate my vocals i have to redo it | 出来,我送卡丽德歌回来 他说我讨厌我的声音 我必须重做 |
| 394 | or the song can't come out and i said we got one more day the song has to be sent to master with | 或者这首歌不能出来 我说我们还有一天时间 这首歌要寄给主人 |
| 395 | all odds stacked up against us we get that done okay so song is recorded it's finished | 所有的机会都堆积在我们身上,我们得到 做到这一点,好,所以歌曲被记录下来 它结束了 |
| 396 | i say we're home free everything's good all the powers that be all the label owners the | 我说我们回家自由了 一切都很好 所有那些拥有标签的人 |
| 397 | managers it gets all fucked up song's not coming out anymore okay song's not coming out we wait | 管理者会把歌弄得一团糟 歌声不会传出去 |
| 398 | more months now we're 10 months after you know things were gonna happen so many start and stops | 几个月了,我们10个月后 你知道事情会发生 这么多开始和停止 |
| 399 | and i finally get to the point where i'm about to give up and i have a call someone in the deal is | 我终于到了我要放弃的地步 我有一个电话 有人在交易是 |
| 400 | not budging and it's either this way or the highway and it was something that was unworkable | 没有萌芽,它不是这种方式,就是高速公路, 它是一件不可行的事情 |
| 401 | and i remember everyone was like well we did it we we gave it our best shot i said i'm gonna call | 我记得每个人都很好,我们做到了 我们给了它我们最好的一击,我说我要打电话 |
| 402 | it one more time and i smoothed the deal out immediately called all my people everyone did it | 再来一次,我把交易搞定了 立刻叫所有人来做 |
| 403 | we finally get the song out okay song comes out and i'm like let's go and i was like and and | 我们终于把歌弄出来 好歌出来,我就像我们走了,我就像, |
| 404 | doesn't really do anything like it's like going but it's like | 并没有真正做任何事情 像它去,但它就像 |
| 405 | and i'm like okay and then starts picking up a little bit okay then a little more | 我像没事,然后开始 拿起一点点,然后多一点 |
| 406 | then a little more and it was the longest climb to number one in radio history the longest it's | 然后再多一点 这是无线电史上爬第一的最长时间 |
| 407 | taken for a song to get from the bottom to the top now i have my first hit song as an artist | 拍到一首歌 从下到上 现在我有了我作为艺术家的第一支命中曲 |
| 408 | now that long story i took there that was just one story in the process of making an album | 现在,长话短说,我在那里 这只是一个故事 在制作专辑的过程中 |
| 409 | and to you you saw this song come out be incredibly successful you definitely didn't realize all the | 而对于你,你看到这首歌出来 令人难以置信的成功 你绝对没有意识到所有 |
| 410 | conversations i had staying up trying to get this song to happen you definitely didn't i had so much | 我不停地想让这首歌发生 你绝对没有我这么多 |
| 411 | doubt i was questioning it all the time i was questioning every second of the way and then i | 怀疑我一直在质疑它 我每分每秒都在质疑 |
| 412 | got there and we did it and i could have given up and i could have hit the snooze button and i | 到了那里,我们做了它,我可能已经放弃了, 我可以打响snooze按钮,我 |
| 413 | could have knocked and i could have looked when failure was written all over that board that i | 本来可以敲门的 我本来可以看看 当失败被写在 整个板子上,我 |
| 414 | threw around but i just got up and i kept doing it and i don't know why i kept doing it i kept | 扔来扔去,但我刚起来,我一直做 我不知道为什么我一直做 |
| 415 | putting my foot in front of the other even if i didn't know why i was doing it and then we got | 把我脚放在另一个人面前 即使我不知道我为什么要这样做 然后我们得到了 |
| 416 | there and we did it and we did it and a thing that was just a little dream backstage at a show | 在那里,我们做了它,我们做了它 和一件事,这只是 一个小小的梦想后台 在一场表演 |
| 417 | became the rest of my life i love the story so much and one of the reasons why is because | 成为我的余生 我非常喜欢这个故事 也是原因之一 |
| 418 | as you go along the trajectory of what sounded like almost a two year long project almost yeah | 你走的轨迹 听起来就像一个几乎两年长的项目 |
| 419 | and the various points there was infinite infinite moments where you could have just | 以及各种观点 有着无限无限的瞬间 |
| 420 | been like fuck this yeah i it is done okay i got the no i'm exhausted i'm not doing this anymore | 一直他妈的这 耶,我结束了 好吧,我有 没有我累坏了 我不再这样做了 |
| 421 | and in those infinite moments all it takes is one person to still believe and that person is just | 在无尽的瞬间 一个人仍然相信 |
| 422 | and it's one of the things that you've kind of been saying over and over that if you | 这也是你说过的其中之一 如果你 |
| 423 | wake up every day and say i'm just gonna move this song forward three inches today | 每天醒来 说今天我要把这首歌向前三英寸 |
| 424 | and i'm gonna do it again tomorrow and i'm gonna do it again tomorrow until i get enough momentum | 明天我再来一次 明天我再来一次 直到我有足够的动力 |
| 425 | to make the phone call yeah and inch it forward three more inches and what's amazing about that | 打个电话,再向前三英寸,有什么了不起的 |
| 426 | because i really want you to sit with this as you think about where you are in your life | 因为我真的希望你坐在这 当你想 你在哪里你的生活 |
| 427 | is how many days you wake up and you're the no and you're coming up the reasons why you can't | 你醒了多少天,你是"不" 而你来的原因,你不能 |
| 428 | inch it forward or find another way and you know you talked to benny about the what ifs right and | 向前进或另找办法 你知道你和Benny谈过了 如果... |
| 429 | you sit in the what if and what if what if and we don't ever ask ourselves what if it all works out | 你坐在那里,如果和如果 如果我们永远不问自己,如果一切都成功 |
| 430 | what if i make one more phone call and i can get the deal done what if i ask one more time | 如果我再打一个电话,我就能做交易 如果我再问一次 |
| 431 | what if it works my mom you know she never chased her dreams never my mom worked as a person who | 如果能成功,我妈妈 你知道她从来没有追逐过自己的梦想... ... 我妈妈从来没有工作过 |
| 432 | set up the jewelry at like jc pennies and macy's her she eventually landed in a job that she did | 把珠宝装在Jc硬币上 macy就是她 最终她完成了一份工作 |
| 433 | like where she worked at an assisted living home and she was giving back to people i asked her i | 就像她在一个受助家庭工作 她正在还给别人 我问她我 |
| 434 | said i said why didn't you chase your dreams you know when she was younger she was a model and then | 我说你为什么不追逐你的梦想 你知道当她年轻时 她是模特 然后 |
| 435 | painted and she had all these dreams and she said i wasn't taught to believe when you went to school | 她画了这些梦 她说你上学时我没学会相信 |
| 436 | you went to school they told you you're supposed to do this and you're supposed to get a job and | 你上过学 他们告诉你你应该这么做 你应该找到工作 |
| 437 | you're supposed to not make a mess you're not supposed to make the world tries to tell you not | 你不应该弄得一团糟 你不应该让世界 试图告诉你不要 |
| 438 | to make a mess they try to be really clean and you got to do as you're told and you got to get your | 弄得一团糟,他们试图 真正干净,你必须做 你被告知,你得到你的 |
| 439 | job and then you got to go here and then you got to do this and then for 30 years you work and then | 工作,然后你必须去那里,然后你必须做到这一点, 然后30年你的工作,然后 |
| 440 | maybe you'll get social security and there's like they're telling you all these things and we're | 也许你会得到社会保障 他们好像在告诉你这些事情 |
| 441 | just supposed to sit back and take them at face value and just listen the reason why i want this | 只是应该坐下来, 把他们放在面值上, 只是听听为什么我想要这个 |
| 442 | book to happen is because i know there's so many people out there that have ideas thoughts concepts | 书的发生,因为我知道有这么多的人 那里有思想概念 |
| 443 | uh musical ability acting talent that can make the world a better place and and and inspire us | 音乐能力 演艺天赋 可以让世界更美好 并激励我们 |
| 444 | and change us thank you for saying that because i do get both sad and frustrated because i see | 改变我们 感谢你这么说 因为我既伤心又沮丧 因为我看到了 |
| 445 | that inside every single person there is this untapped potential there is a story to tell there | 每个人内心都有这个未开发的潜力 有个故事要讲述 |
| 446 | is a song to sing there is a book to write there is a difference to make there's something to build | 歌唱有书写 有不同之处 造物 |
| 447 | to create to connect with and i think it is so sad and i and i say sad because i can see now | 创造与我联系 我觉得这太悲哀了 我和我会说悲伤 因为我可以看到现在 |
| 448 | looking backwards benny the decades the decades where i was the one who was in my way i was the | 往后看 贝尼 数十年 我才是妨碍我的人 |
| 449 | loudest no i was the one saying it's not going to work i was the one saying not you not now who do | 最大声的不是,是我说这行不通的 是我说不是你现在做 |
| 450 | think you are what are people going to think that i was the one that blocked it and i think for a lot | 认为你是什么 人们会认为 是我挡住了它,我觉得很多 |
| 451 | of us that is the biggest barrier to starting and you'll never believe if you don't actually see | 我们最大的障碍 开始,你永远不会相信 如果你没有真正看到 |
| 452 | yourself start taking that first step you know one of the things you talk about benny is that | 你开始迈出第一步 你知道你谈论Benny的一件事就是 |
| 453 | life is like a stool and that there are three legs to really focus on and i think this is really | 生活就像一个凳子, 有三条腿真正关注, 我认为这是真的 |
| 454 | helpful particularly if everything feels overwhelming okay i have a stool here yep so | 特别是万一一切变得不堪重负... ...我有一个凳子在这里,所以... |
| 455 | your life is this stool okay so this is success this is this is the end goal okay now you have | 你的生活就是这个凳子 好,所以这是成功 这是最终目标 好,现在你有 |
| 456 | three legs a stool is made of three legs okay now mal when you're when you're thinking of what | 三条腿 一个凳子由三条腿组成 现在好了 当你在想什么的时候 |
| 457 | three things are that make up your life what what are they you know most people say | 有三样东西可以让你过上美好的生活 他们是什么 你知道大多数人会说 |
| 458 | you know like career relationships self-care health whatever it is whatever your three are what are | 你知道,像职业关系 自我护理健康 无论它是什么 不管你的三是什么 |
| 459 | your three just just you it doesn't have to be the same as mine oh well it would definitely be | 你三个只是你 它不必跟我一样 哦,好吧,那肯定就是 |
| 460 | like relationships and family okay so family is right here for sure okay uh the other one would be | 像关系和家庭 好吧 所以家庭就在这里 肯定的好 呃 另一个会是 |
| 461 | like it would be really about like purpose and impact so it's kind of career okay you know like | 就像它真的会 像目的和影响力 所以它是一种职业 |
| 462 | yeah an impact purpose and impact yeah and then the uh third would be health because if you don't | 是啊,一个撞击的目的和撞击 是的,然后,呃 第三个是健康,因为如果你不 |
| 463 | have your health you don't have a life okay health i don't have three arms but i'm i'm grabbing all | 保持健康,你没有生命 健康,健康,我没有三只手臂 但我要抓住一切 |
| 464 | these stool these these these uh legs okay so let's say let's say you're crushing it you own a | 这些凳子 这些... ...这些... ... |
| 465 | company you're you have the fucking ferrari the lamborghini everything's good but your kids hate | 公司,你得到了他妈的 费拉里 羊肉基尼 一切都很好 但你的孩子讨厌 |
| 466 | you okay so that's your that that that's the relationship and family okay your kids hate you | 好了,所以这就是你的 关系和家人... ... |
| 467 | okay so now i'm gonna let go okay what just happened uh your life sucks your life sucks okay | 好吧,所以现在我要放手了 好吧,刚才发生的事... ... |
| 468 | now we're we're we're pulling this back up in life when you can get that combination of the three | 现在,我们是,我们正在拉这个 后在生活中,当你可以得到 组合三 |
| 469 | then nothing's stopping you nothing nothing in the world and it's and and i i recently got that | 世界上什么都没有能阻止你 我最近才得到这个 |
| 470 | i recently got that in probably the last five years and i feel more stable than i ever have | 我最近得到了这一点,也许 在过去五年里,我感觉 比以前更稳定 |
| 471 | in my entire life and if all those those little pegs those legs are strong then you're rocking | 在我的一生中,如果所有这些小钉子 这些腿是强壮的,那么你在摇摆 |
| 472 | if they aren't you got to realign sometimes you got to step back you got to get up and do my method | 如果他们不是,你必须调整 有时你必须退后,你必须站起来 做我的方法 |
| 473 | you got to do whatever it is to realize that it's not working yeah everything can wait until | 你一定要做任何事 才能意识到它不起作用... |
| 474 | i get this back in balance exactly that's your method i want to read to you from your | 我得到这个平衡 准确的是你的方法 我想从你的阅读 |
| 475 | best-selling book this is page 108 and it's really about timing and the importance of timing | 畅销书 这是第108页 是关于时间和时间的重要性 |
| 476 | everything in life is about timing my relationship with selena is another great example we first met | 生活中的一切都是关于我和Selena的关系 是我们第一次遇到的又一个伟大的例子 |
| 477 | about 15 years ago we worked together five or six years after that and then again five or six years | 大约15年前,我们一起工作 五六年之后,然后再次 五六年 |
| 478 | after that and had a casual friendship during the time then we started dating a few years after that | 在那之后,在那个时候,我们有过一段偶然的友谊 然后我们开始约会 几年之后 |
| 479 | now she's my wife we always talk about how it never would have worked out if it were at a | 现在她是我老婆了 我们总是说如果在 |
| 480 | different time or place in our lives because neither one of us would have likely been ready | 我们生活的不同时间或地点 因为我们都不可能准备好 |
| 481 | so what had to change about your life in order for the timing to be right and for you to be ready to | 因此,你的生活必须改变什么 以便时机是正确的,你准备 |
| 482 | the relationship that you have now i had to figure out that work-life balance i was filling up | 你的关系,现在我不得不找出 我的工作与生活平衡 我填补 |
| 483 | the career side a little too much i had to get healthy and that means physically mentally all of | 事业方面,有点过分 我不得不得到健康, 这意味着身体上所有的精神 |
| 484 | that i had to understand myself i think i also had to learn i was always i always wanted to do | 我不得不了解自己 我想我也必须学会 我一直想这样做 |
| 485 | so much i wanted to fulfill my destiny i had so many things i wanted to do and i realized over time | 我很想完成我的命运 我有很多事情想做 |
| 486 | it doesn't have to happen overnight it can honestly sometimes waiting and getting there slowly | 它不必一夜之间发生, 它可以诚实地有时等待 并慢慢到达那里 |
| 487 | makes it even better when you get to the finish line so was it even on your radar i mean you guys | 当你到达终点线时会更好 所以在雷达上也是 |
| 488 | knew each other for 15 years which i find to be really interesting no she asked me out there's | 认识了15年,我觉得很有趣 没有,她问我有 |
| 489 | imposter syndrome i didn't even think of it i wasn't even on my radar as if it would be a date | 冒牌货综合症 我甚至没想到 我甚至没有在我的雷达上 仿佛这是一个约会 |
| 490 | and then when we were on our first date she's like well i i want to warn this if it was our | 然后当我们第一次约会时 她感觉很好 我想警告一下 如果这是我们的 |
| 491 | and i said d oh wow okay and then then i'm thinking about it like that no it wasn't even | 我说,哦,哇好 然后,我这样想 它不是甚至 |
| 492 | i always think those are the best type of relationships when you're friends with someone | 我总觉得你和别人做朋友时 关系最好 |
| 493 | and you know them and then once you are there it's like there's not too much to learn like it's | 你了解他们,一旦你在那里... ...就好像没什么好学的 |
| 494 | so scary starting a new relationship it's like being with a new therapist it's like oh | 开始新的关系太可怕了 就像跟新治疗师在一起 |
| 495 | i gotta tell i was already with someone they know my backstory what i gotta i gotta catch you up to | 我得说我已经和别人在一起了 他们知道我的背面 |
| 496 | 38 years of speed so it's like so she already knew she knew me it obviously didn't know me | 38年的速度 所以她已经知道我了 显然不认识我 |
| 497 | deeply like that but she knew me and there was there was a rapport there so it made it easy and | 那样很深 但她认识我 那儿有个关系 所以很容易 |
| 498 | comfortable how did you get clear about what you actually wanted because you said something that | 感觉很舒服 你是怎么清楚你真正想要的 因为你说了些什么 |
| 499 | me about like really understanding how you wanted to love and be loved i wrote a list with my | 我很喜欢真正理解 你是如何想 爱和被爱 我写了一个列表与我的 |
| 500 | therapist you did yep my therapist we made a list of what i'll tell you exactly what we did we | 理疗师你做了我的理疗师 我们列了一份清单 我会告诉你我们到底做了什么 |
| 501 | i said i really want to find the right partner and i'm doing something wrong i'm doing i can't | 我说我真的想找到合适的搭档 而我做错事了 我不能 |
| 502 | find the person that i'm going to spend the rest of my life with and i want to do that | 找到我要和他共度余生的人 我想这么做 |
| 503 | and we came up with some guidelines and a list okay first he said i want you to write down | 我们想出了一些准则和清单 他先说我要你记下来 |
| 504 | what you think your ideal partner should be okay the first thing on my list was age appropriate | 你觉得你的理想伴侣应该没事 我名单上的第一件事就是年龄合适 |
| 505 | okay so i wanted to date someone that was the i i you have to be very honest with yourself and i | 好吧,所以我想 约会的人,我是 你必须非常诚实 自己和我 |
| 506 | said i have never had that on a list i mean that is so that was that was age appropriate okay okay | 说我从来没有有 在名单上 我的意思是,这就是说,这是适龄 好吧 |
| 507 | then the second thing on my list was um someone who's nice nice caring compassionate like | 我名单上的第二件事就是... 一个善于关爱的人 |
| 508 | someone who's a nice person okay the third thing on my list was i wanted someone who woke up | 我名单上第三件事就是 我想要一个醒过来的人 |
| 509 | generally happy who wasn't so sad when they woke up and if they were sad they were doing something | 他们醒来的时候没有这么伤心,如果伤心的话,他们正在做一些事情。 |
| 510 | about it like they were going to therapy they were taking medicine if they need to they were | 就像他们要去治疗 他们正在服用药物 如果他们需要,他们是 |
| 511 | doing yoga they were actively trying to because sometimes people just wake up sad that's just part | 做瑜伽,他们积极尝试 因为有时候人们只是 醒来悲伤,这只是一部分 |
| 512 | of how it is um and and i had a list of things and these were like broad things it wasn't like | 和它是如何的,嗯,我有一个列表 事情,这些是像宽阔的东西 它不喜欢 |
| 513 | i want they're like left toe longer than they're right like these are like broad things and if it | 我希望它们像左脚趾比右脚长 就像这些是宽阔的东西,如果它 |
| 514 | didn't meet those like first five or six things couldn't even pursue don't waste your time don't | 前五六件事都找不到 别浪费时间了 |
| 515 | don't waste your time wow i want to just broaden this to the person listening because as i hear | 不要浪费你的时间,哇,我想要只是拓宽它的人听 因为我听到 |
| 516 | this story i can't help but think what would be on my list yeah and as we think about taking on | 这个故事我忍不住想 在我的名单上会有什么 |
| 517 | this exercise because it's true you can get so focused on the outside or the chemistry or | 因为它是真的,你可以 如此专注于外部或化学或 |
| 518 | whatever it may be that you don't stop and think on an average tuesday yeah who is it that i want | 不管是什么,你不会停下来 想在平均的周二 是的,谁是我想要的 |
| 519 | to be with and what does it feel like and what's important to me and i'm not sure a lot of us have | 在一起 感觉怎么样 对我很重要 |
| 520 | ever stopped to write that down so if you had to give if you had to give some counsel to the person | 曾经停止写下来,所以如果你必须给 如果你必须给一些律师的人 |
| 521 | who's listening about like guidelines about the list what would you say okay if you're going to | 谁在听像 指南关于列表,你会说什么 如果你要去 |
| 522 | this cut off all the people right now that you know aren't on that list even if it's easy it's | 现在所有的人都被切断了 即使很简单,你也知道不在名单上 |
| 523 | something like for your sake and for their sake cut off all the people that don't make the list | 为了你 也为了他们 切除所有不列清单的人 |
| 524 | you're about to make i think you need to find someone that's both nice to themselves and nice | 璶琵и谋眔惠璶т 癸 |
| 525 | to you okay i think you need to find someone that you can imagine spending the rest of your life with | 对你来说,好吧,我想你需要 找到一个人,你可以想象 在你的余生与 |
| 526 | like you have to you're you're essentially trying to find your best friend okay does that person | 就像你必须,你本质上是 试图找到你最好的朋友,好吗? |
| 527 | make you laugh can you be fine staying home and not going out with any of your friends | 逗你笑,你在家不跟你朋友出去 |
| 528 | and not having fomo because you're with the best person in the world because i know i can | 而不是因为你和世上最好的人在一起 因为我知道我可以 |
| 529 | i know i could let everything else in the world happen and it doesn't matter doesn't matter i'm | 我知道,我可以让世界的一切发生, 没关系,我 |
| 530 | with my best friend one of the things i love about this recommendation of making a list | 与我最好的朋友,我喜欢的东西之一 关于这个建议 列出一个清单 |
| 531 | is that you mentioned that a lot of people struggle with feeling worthy | 你提到很多人都觉得值得 |
| 532 | and so you end up settling for somebody that doesn't treat you that well the simple act of | 所以你最后会找一个 对你没有那么好的人 |
| 533 | making this list and allowing yourself to consider what you actually want is an act of saying i'm | 制作这份清单 让你自己考虑一下 你真正想要的就是说 |
| 534 | so benny i if the person who's listening yes takes one action after listening to everything | 所以,Benny,如果有人在听... ...是的... ... |
| 535 | that you have taught us and shared with us today what do you think the most important thing to do | 你教过我们,今天和我们分享你认为最重要的事情 |
| 536 | after listening to this is i want you to do a few things i don't want you to do one thing | 听完这个之后,我要你做一些事情 我不想你做一件事 |
| 537 | i want you to right after right after this is done okay i want you to either grab a pen paper | 做完后马上给你拿笔纸 |
| 538 | your cell phone however you want to write things down your laptop and i want you to make a list of | 不管你想把电脑上的东西写下来 我要你列个清单 |
| 539 | something you want to do maybe it's one thing maybe it's 10 things maybe it's 20 i want you | 你想做的事 也许是一件事 也许有十件事 |
| 540 | to make a list of some things you want to do and i want you to pinpoint just one you're going to | 来列出一些你想要做的事 我想要你只确定一个 |
| 541 | focus on right now okay if one comes to mind 20 comes to mind find that one you're going to focus | 现在集中注意力 好的,如果有人想到 20 来发现你要去集中注意力 |
| 542 | on okay then i want you to make another list of the first things you have to put together | 好吧,那我要你再列一份清单 列出你需要整理的第一批东西 |
| 543 | to to get that moving in the right direction then i want you today not tomorrow today go like this | 今天不要明天这样走 |
| 544 | and move it even a centimeter forward okay and then just keep that same momentum and you know | 再往前移动一厘米,然后保持同样的动力,你知道的 |
| 545 | some days you might let it sit still or might go back one inch but i want you to keep doing that | 有一天你可能会让它静静地坐着 或者退一步 但我希望你继续做 |
| 546 | i promise you i promise you you will be in a better place than you were before you started | 我答应你,我答应你 你会在一个比你开始之前更好的地方 |
| 547 | this podcast what if it all works out not what if it will all work out that's true | 这个播客如果一切都成功的话 如果一切都成功的话 |
| 548 | especially if you don't quit like i think that's actually the secret it works out if you don't | 特别是如果你不放弃 就像我认为这其实是 秘密,如果你不这样做 |
| 549 | like you can't fail if you don't quit you can't you can't you might still be working at the same | 就像你不会失败,如果你不退出,你就不能 你不能,你可能仍然工作 在相同的 |
| 550 | thing for a while but you're not going to fail that's right benny blanco what are your parting | 不过你不会失败的 这是正确的Benny Blanco 什么是你的分离 |
| 551 | words try to do what you want that's going to like fulfill you and don't just go along with | 文字试着做你想做的事,那会 满足你,不要随心所欲 |
| 552 | what you were taught to by some archaic thing in a textbook. | 在教科书里被一些古老的东西教的 |
| 553 | And yeah, be yourself, because everyone else is taken. | 是啊,做你自己, 因为其他人都被带走了。 |
| 554 | Benny Blanco. | 班尼布兰科 |
| 555 | Five, four, three, two, one. | 五,四,三,两,一。 |
| 556 | Oh my God, there he goes, everybody. | 哦,我的上帝,他走了,每个人。 |
| 557 | Benny Blanco. | 班尼布兰科 |
| 558 | And before I sign off, I want to make sure I acknowledge you. | 在报名之前 我想确认一下你 |
| 559 | Thank you for hitting play. | 谢谢你打球 |
| 560 | Thank you for listening all the way to the end. | 谢一心谛听到最后. |
| 561 | I am so excited that you got to experience this, | 我太兴奋了,你必须经历这个, |
| 562 | and thank you in advance for sharing | 并提前感谢您分享 |
| 563 | a little Benny Blanco wisdom with everybody in your life. | 班尼・布兰科的智慧 与每个人在你的生活中。 |
| 564 | And one more thing, | 还有一件事 |
| 565 | in case no one else tells you this today, | 如果今天没人告诉你 |
| 566 | as your friend, I wanted to be sure to tell you | 作为你的朋友 我想告诉你 |
| 567 | that I love you and I believe in you. | 我爱你,我相信你。 |
| 568 | And I believe in your ability to create a better life. | 我相信你有能力创造更好的生活 |
| 569 | There's no doubt in my mind | 我心中毫无疑问 |
| 570 | that there was something very specific | 有非常具体的事情 |
| 571 | that Benny shared today | 班尼今天说的 |
| 572 | that was exactly what you needed to hear right now. | 这正是你需要听到的 现在。 |
| 573 | So go do it. | 所以去做到这一点。 |
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