TED演讲：爱是勇气，是陪伴，是无声的支持！
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| 时间 | 英文 | 中文 |
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| 0:04 | This is for my mom, even though when I called her to say, | 这是给我妈的 虽然我打电话让她说 |
| 0:09 | 嘿,你听说过TED,T -E -D, | |
| 0:12 | she said, oh my god, Kelly, it's not another virus, is it? | 她说,我的上帝,凯莉, 这不是另一个病毒,是吗? |
| 0:24 | As a 21-year-old, I was drawn to the word brave. | 21岁时,我被引向"勇敢"这个词. |
| 0:28 | I had a soft spot for ripping yarns and the people who could tell them. | 我有一个软点 用来撕开纱线 和那些可以告诉他们的人。 |
| 0:33 | So, odyssey on the brain, I went out adventure collecting. | 所以,在大脑上,我出去冒险收集。 |
| 0:37 | Without knowing how to spell starboard or which side it referred to, | 不知如何拼写右舷或者它指的是哪一边 |
| 0:42 | I got on a 46-foot boat, | 我坐46英尺长的船 |
| 0:44 | and I sailed from Malta to Tunisia to Sicily. | 我从马耳他航行到突尼斯到西西里 |
| 0:48 | I traveled 11,000 miles over 13 months to seven different countries | 我花了13个月跑11,000英里到7个不同国家 |
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| 1 | This is for my mom, even though when I called her to say, | 这是给我妈的 虽然我打电话让她说 |
| 2 | 嘿,你听说过TED,T -E -D, | |
| 3 | she said, oh my god, Kelly, it's not another virus, is it? | 她说,我的上帝,凯莉, 这不是另一个病毒,是吗? |
| 4 | As a 21-year-old, I was drawn to the word brave. | 21岁时,我被引向"勇敢"这个词. |
| 5 | I had a soft spot for ripping yarns and the people who could tell them. | 我有一个软点 用来撕开纱线 和那些可以告诉他们的人。 |
| 6 | So, odyssey on the brain, I went out adventure collecting. | 所以,在大脑上,我出去冒险收集。 |
| 7 | Without knowing how to spell starboard or which side it referred to, | 不知如何拼写右舷或者它指的是哪一边 |
| 8 | I got on a 46-foot boat, | 我坐46英尺长的船 |
| 9 | and I sailed from Malta to Tunisia to Sicily. | 我从马耳他航行到突尼斯到西西里 |
| 10 | I traveled 11,000 miles over 13 months to seven different countries | 我花了13个月跑11,000英里到7个不同国家 |
| 11 | without a plan or a phone or a credit card. | 没有计划或电话或信用卡。 |
| 12 | Just $3,800 in travelers' checks, | 只有3800美元的旅行支票, |
| 13 | which, if you're under 30, | 如果你不满30岁 |
| 14 | was like a little booklet of perforated ... | 就像一本穿孔的小册子... |
| 15 | I don't know. | 师曰. |
| 16 | And some expired antibiotics my mom made me bring. | 还有我妈妈给我带的过期抗生素 |
| 17 | And then, running out of money, | 然后,钱用光了, |
| 18 | I landed as a nanny for two kids, four and seven, | 我当了两个孩子的保姆 四个和七个 |
| 19 | who had just lost their mom. | 刚刚失去妈妈的人 |
| 20 | I moved into their house so I could cover things. | 我搬进他们家是为了掩饰事情 |
| 21 | On the three days a week, | 每周三天时间 |
| 22 | their dad worked as a flight attendant for Qantas. | 他们的爸爸是Qantas的空姐 |
| 23 | I smeared sunblock on their noses and Vegemite on their toast. | 我在他们的鼻子上涂了防晒霜,在他们的烤面包上涂了Vegemite。 |
| 24 | I rathered to sleep at night, I cleaned the counters. | 我宁愿晚上睡觉,清理柜台 |
| 25 | The heavy lifting was left for the truly brave, | 举重是留给真正勇敢的人的 |
| 26 | a man who organized his emotions and answered the hardest questions | 一个组织情绪 回答最难的问题的人 |
| 27 | such that his kids and hers | 这样他的孩子和她的孩子 |
| 28 | could feel a modicum of safety in a patently unsafe world. | 在一个明显不安全的世界中,可以感到一点安全。 |
| 29 | Questions like, what is cremation? | 诸如此类的问题,什么是火葬? |
| 30 | And what happens to us if you die? | 如果你死了我们怎么办? |
| 31 | And so it is that I stood witness to the unfotografable, unmeasurable bravery | 所以,我站着见证了 不可调味,不可计量的勇敢 |
| 32 | of some guy named Jim in Sydney, Australia. | 在澳大利亚悉尼有个叫吉姆的人 |
| 33 | And over the years since, | 多年来, |
| 34 | I find I just can't stop cataloging these Olympic achievements in family life. | 我发现我无法停止 记录这些奥林匹克成就 在家庭生活。 |
| 35 | The really big things often come with a game plan and a team of experts | 真正的大事 往往有一个游戏计划和一个专家团队 |
| 36 | and enough adrenaline to lift a school bus over your head. | 和足够的肾上腺素 升起校车在你的头上。 |
| 37 | But inside, every crisis you think you might be ready for | 但内心,每一次危机,你认为 你可能准备好 |
| 38 | are a hundred dirty surprises that are not in the playbook. | 是一百个肮脏的惊喜,没有在游戏本上。 |
| 39 | I had stage three cancer in my 30s, | 我30多岁时得了三级癌症 |
| 40 | and I can tell you that following the chemo schedule | 我可以告诉你,按照化疗时间表 |
| 41 | didn't take nearly as much courage | 一点勇气都没有 |
| 42 | as admitting to my husband that sex felt less sexy | 向我丈夫承认性爱感觉不那么性感 |
| 43 | after my boobs, which were once a real strong suit for me, | 在我的胸部之后, 这曾经是 一个真正的强我的西装, |
| 44 | were made weird and uneven by a surgeon's knife. | 被外科医生的刀子弄得怪怪的 |
| 45 | Here's a surprise. | 这是惊喜 |
| 46 | My friend's father, in his final days, addled by dementia, | 我的朋友的父亲, 在他的最后几天, 加上痴呆症, |
| 47 | chased her around the second floor with a fork he hid in his pajamas. | 用他藏在睡衣里的叉子把她追到二楼 |
| 48 | They tell you there will be loss. | 他们告诉你会有损失的 |
| 49 | They don't tell you you will be required to love your dad, | 他们不告诉你,你必须爱你爸爸, |
| 50 | even as he's coming for you with silverware. | 即使他带着银器来找你 |
| 51 | I've interviewed 228 people from my PBS show and my podcast, | 我采访了228人 从我的PBS节目 我的播客, |
| 52 | people with huge careers, | 拥有巨大事业的人们, |
| 53 | Grammys and Pulitzers and NBA championships, | 格莱美奖和普利策奖和NBA冠军, |
| 54 | and I listen to their stories, and I'm duly impressed. | 我听了他们的故事 我很佩服他们 |
| 55 | But I tell you the ones they know the best, | 但我告诉你 他们最了解的人 |
| 56 | the ones they can't tell without choking up. | 那些他们无法分辨而不窒息。 |
| 57 | The moment when Bryan Stevenson's grandmother | 布莱恩·史蒂文森的祖母的那一刻 |
| 58 | or Steve Kerr's father | 或者史蒂夫·克尔的父亲 |
| 59 | or Samantha Power's stepfather | 或是萨曼莎的继父 |
| 60 | or Cecile Richards' mom | 或者塞西尔·理查兹的妈妈 |
| 61 | was right there with the right words | 刚才说的对 |
| 62 | or the right silence at the right moment. | 或右寂静于正时. |
| 63 | This bravery I'm talking about might even be better understood | 我说的这种勇敢可能更好理解 |
| 64 | if you look at the smaller moments of injury in family life | 如果你看 家庭生活中较小的伤害时刻 |
| 65 | when there's not really an answer, | 当没有一个真正的答案, |
| 66 | or it might be your fault, | 也可能是你的错 |
| 67 | or it might remind you of something you'd rather forget, | 或者让你想起一些你宁愿忘记的事 |
| 68 | or because people are so suggestible | 或因为人们如此有魅力 |
| 69 | and the wrong tone or expression or phrasing | 和错误的语气或表达式或措辞 |
| 70 | might somehow make things worse. | 可能会让事情变得更糟 |
| 71 | Say your kid was dropped from a group text. | 说你的孩子是从一个集体短信上掉下来的 |
| 72 | They were in it, they mattered, they belonged, and then poof. | 他们在那里,他们很重要, 他们属于,然后poof。 |
| 73 | Or your husband blew the big deal at work, | 或者你丈夫在工作时搞砸了 |
| 74 | or your mom won't wear the diapers | 不然你妈就别穿尿布了 |
| 75 | that would really help her get through mahjong on Wednesdays. | 那会帮她周三打完麻将 |
| 76 | And how should we calibrate the exquisite bravery | 如何校准精致的勇敢 |
| 77 | to respond productively | 做出富有成效的反应 |
| 78 | when someone in our family looks at us and says, | 当我们家里有人看着我们说 |
| 79 | Do I know you? | 我认识你吗? |
| 80 | I weigh myself before and after every meal. | 每顿饭前后我自重. |
| 81 | I hear voices. | 我听到声音。 |
| 82 | I steal. | 我偷东西 |
| 83 | I'm using again. | 我又开始用药了 |
| 84 | He raped me. | 他强奸了我 |
| 85 | She says I raped her. | 她说我强奸了她 |
| 86 | I cut myself. | 我割伤了自己。 |
| 87 | I bought a gun. | 我买了枪。 |
| 88 | I stopped taking the medication. | 我不再吃药了 |
| 89 | I can't stop making online bets. | 我不能停止在网上下注。 |
| 90 | Sometimes I wonder if more life is really worth all this effort. | 有时我想知道更多的生命是否真的值得所有的努力。 |
| 91 | Bravery is the great guts | 勇敢是伟大的勇气 |
| 92 | to move closer to the wound, | 靠近伤口, |
| 93 | as composed as a war nurse holding eye contact | 作为战争护士 保持眼睛接触 |
| 94 | and saying these seven words, | 并说这七个字, |
| 95 | Tell me more. | 告诉我更多。 |
| 96 | What else? | 还有什么? |
| 97 | Go on. | 继续 |
| 98 | That's how the Braves shine, that's all they do. | 这就是勇者们的光芒,这就是他们所做的一切. |
| 99 | They say, Tell me more. | 他们说,告诉我更多。 |
| 100 | What else? | 还有什么? |
| 101 | Go on. | 继续 |
| 102 | Even if they're scared of what might happen next, | 即使他们害怕接下来会发生什么 |
| 103 | even if they have no training or experience to prepare them for this moment, | 即使他们没有训练 或经验 让他们为这个时刻做准备, |
| 104 | even if it's late and they have an early flight. | 即使很晚了 他们还有早班飞机 |
| 105 | Here's two things the Brave don't do. | 勇者不作此两事. |
| 106 | They don't take over and become the hero. | 他们不会接手成为英雄 |
| 107 | Like it's a battle and the moves are so obvious, | 就像一场战斗 动作如此明显 |
| 108 | you just pick up a weapon with your ripped pecs and ropey veins | 你只是拿起武器 与你撕裂的皮克和绳索脉 |
| 109 | and start slaying. | 并开始杀人。 |
| 110 | In families, bravery is mostly just sitting there | 在家庭里,勇敢大多只是坐在那里 |
| 111 | with a posture that communicates, | 以能交流的姿态, |
| 112 | I can hear anything you want to tell me, | 我可以听到任何你想告诉我, |
| 113 | and a nice warm face of love | 和美丽的温暖的爱脸 |
| 114 | that says, This is so hard, | 说, 这太难了, |
| 115 | but you will figure it out. | 但你会明白的 |
| 116 | Personally, I thought love meant action. | 我个人认为爱意味着行动 |
| 117 | I had no idea it could be so still. | 我不知道它会这么静。 |
| 118 | When things get hairy for one of my people, | 当事情变得毛发 我的人之一, |
| 119 | everything in me wants to grab a clipboard, | 我内心的一切都想拿剪贴板 |
| 120 | make a to-do list and start calendaring appointments. | 编制待办事宜列表并开始日历预约。 |
| 121 | Because where there's love, there's attachment. | 因为有爱的地方就有依恋. |
| 122 | And I don't care what the gurus say. | 亦不思议古鲁士言. |
| 123 | What's happening to them is also happening at least at some level to us. | 他们身上发生的事情 对我们来说至少是某种程度 |
| 124 | And all that can accidentally put us center stage, | 所有能不小心把我们放在舞台上的东西 |
| 125 | no longer the coach or the minister, | 不再是教练或部长 |
| 126 | but rather one of the afflicted. | 却是一个受难者。 |
| 127 | But these gritty endurance types I've been admiring | 但是这些可怕的耐力类型 我一直在欣赏 |
| 128 | have no self and no needs and no agenda, | 没有自我,没有需要,没有议程, |
| 129 | or at least they know how to override all that | 或至少他们知道如何推翻所有 |
| 130 | for the main character, who is not us. | 对于主角,谁不是我们。 |
| 131 | The second thing the Brave don't do? | 勇者不做的第二件事吗? |
| 132 | Leave or hide inside work or hobbies | 离开或隐藏在工作或爱好中 |
| 133 | or some other socially acceptable busyness. | 或者其他社会上可以接受的忙碌 |
| 134 | In my worst moments, | 在我最糟糕的时刻 |
| 135 | when sitting on my hands is just unbearable, | 当坐在我的手是令人无法忍受的, |
| 136 | I have dreamed of going to get an MFA in Paris. | 我梦想在巴黎找一个医生 |
| 137 | Because if I can't help, why do I have to watch? | 因为如果我帮不了忙,我为什么要看? |
| 138 | It would be nice to leave and start again. | 最好能离开 重新开始 |
| 139 | Hardly anyone who's been in a long marriage | 几乎没有人曾经有过长婚 |
| 140 | hasn't at least wondered how it is that the object of their desire | 至少没想过 他们的欲望目标是什么 |
| 141 | has become so burpy and farty, | 变得如此粗糙和放屁, |
| 142 | so bingo-armed and turkey-necked. | 所以宾果武装和火鸡颈部。 |
| 143 | Sometimes I see myself naked, | 有时我看见自己裸体, |
| 144 | stretch marks from pregnancies, | 怀孕后的长痕; |
| 145 | scars from cancer surgeries, | 癌症手术的伤疤, |
| 146 | other things that I don't feel you need to be visualizing right about now. | 其它我觉得你不需要想象的东西 |
| 147 | And I think it's a miracle that man stays with me. | 我觉得男人留在我身边是个奇迹 |
| 148 | But you know, he's not untouched by time either. | 但是你知道,他也不是没有时间。 |
| 149 | And that's just the physical. | 这仅仅是物理的。 |
| 150 | I mean, who here hasn't wanted to be with someone | 我的意思是,谁在这里 不想与某人 |
| 151 | who hasn't seen us eating on the toilet or bitching at the Comcast guy, | 他没看到我们在马桶上吃东西 也没看到康卡斯特那个家伙 |
| 152 | leaving behind our own humiliating history, | 留下我们自己的耻辱历史 |
| 153 | maybe with the nice person we met at art school in Paris? | 也许和我们在巴黎艺术学校遇到的好人在一起? |
| 154 | It's an option. | 这是一个选择。 |
| 155 | People take it. | 众取之. |
| 156 | The brave hang around. | 勇者徘徊处. |
| 157 | They are available and ready to bear witness. | 他们随时可以作证。 |
| 158 | The final act of bravery was made clear for me | 最后的英勇行动已经向我表明 |
| 159 | during a conversation with my friend Liz | 在和我的朋友丽兹谈话时 |
| 160 | while she was dying at 46. | 她46岁时去世 |
| 161 | She said she had this weird, long, totally convincing dream | 她说她做了一个奇怪的 漫长的 完全令人信服的梦 |
| 162 | where all the parents who, as she put it, had to leave early | 在那里,所有的父母,如她所言, 不得不提前离开 |
| 163 | were gathered. | 被收集起来。 |
| 164 | And there she was, one of thousands of moms and dads, | 她在那里, 上千个父母之一, |
| 165 | and they were on folding chairs, | 他们坐在摇椅上, |
| 166 | looking down at the world below through a thick glass floor. | 透过厚厚的玻璃地板 俯瞰下方的世界 |
| 167 | And in this imaginary space her subconscious created, | 在她潜意识创造的虚构空间里 |
| 168 | there was one rule. | 有一个规则。 |
| 169 | You could watch your child's life unfold, | 你可以看着你孩子的生活展开, |
| 170 | but you could only intervene once. | 但你只能干预一次 |
| 171 | In Liz's dreams, a perfect dream, she never had to intervene. | 在丽兹的梦中,一个完美的梦,她从不干预. |
| 172 | She had given them enough while she was here. | 她在这里的时候给了他们足够的钱。 |
| 173 | The final act, then, of the truly brave is leaning back | 那么,真正勇敢者的最后行动就是向后倾斜 |
| 174 | and letting them go. | 并让他们走。 |
| 175 | The reward for all this bravery? | 这些勇敢的奖励? |
| 176 | Not gold medals, not hero shots for Strava, | 不是金牌,也不是史特拉瓦的英雄枪手 |
| 177 | not ringing the bell at the New York Stock Exchange | 在纽约证券交易所没有敲钟 |
| 178 | or owning the dinner party with Burning Man stories, | 或拥有晚宴 与燃烧人的故事, |
| 179 | I think you know who you are. | 我想你知道你是谁。 |
| 180 | Maybe not even thanks. | 也许甚至不谢谢。 |
| 181 | The reward is a full human experience, | 奖励是人类的丰富经验 |
| 182 | complete with all the emotions at maximum dosage, | 完成所有的情绪 在最大剂量, |
| 183 | where we have been put to great use | 在那里,我们得到了巨大的利用 |
| 184 | and found another centric love | 找到了另一个核心的爱 |
| 185 | that is complete in its expression and its transmission. | 它的表达和传递是完整的。 |
| 186 | The reward is to end up soft and humble, empty and in awe, | 报答是软而谦逊 空虚而敬畏 |
| 187 | knowing that of all the magnificence we have beheld, | 知道我们所感受到的万能, |
| 188 | from cradle to grave, | 从摇篮到坟墓, |
| 189 | the most eye-popping was interpersonal. | 人际关系是眼力最强的 |
| 190 | So here's to anyone who notices and reads between the lines, | 敬那些注意到和读懂线条的人 |
| 191 | who asks the right questions but not too many, | 问正确问题的人不多, |
| 192 | who takes notes at the doctor's office and wipes butts young and old, | 谁在医生的办公室做笔记 擦屁股年轻老, |
| 193 | who listens, holds and stays. | 他们倾听,坚守和停留。 |
| 194 | We who, untrained and always a little off guard, | 我们谁,未经训练, 总是有点戒备, |
| 195 | still dare to do love, | 还是敢做爱, |
| 196 | to be love. | 成为爱。 |
| 197 | That's brave. | 这是勇敢的。 |
| 198 | Thank you. | 谢谢 |
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