TED演讲：不那么混蛋地对自己，有什么好处
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| 0:04 | A few years ago, I signed up for something called a 360 review. | 几年前,我报名参加一个叫做360评论的节目. |
| 0:12 | If you've ever worked in the corporate world, | 如果你曾经在公司工作过 |
| 0:14 | you probably have heard of this diabolical exercise. | 你可能听说过这种邪恶的动作 |
| 0:19 | It's an anonymous survey with your bosses, peers and direct reports, | 这是一次匿名调查 与你的老板,同行和直接报告, |
| 0:23 | and the idea is to get a panoramic sense of your strengths and weaknesses. | 想法是获得你优缺点的全景感. |
| 0:27 | I opted for the colonoscopy version of a 360 review, | 我选择了结肠镜 360评论版本, |
| 0:32 | which included my wife, my brother and two of my meditation teachers | 包括我的妻子,我的兄弟 和我的两个冥想老师 |
| 0:35 | in all 16 people gave hour-long confidential interviews, | 所有16个人都进行了长达一小时的保密访谈 |
| 0:39 | and I was then handed a 39-page report brimming with blind quotes. | 然后,我收到一份39页的报告,上面有盲文。 |
| 0:46 | I can tell you're looking forward to hearing the results, sadists. | 我看得出来你们期待听到结果 虐待狂 |
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| 1 | A few years ago, I signed up for something called a 360 review. | 几年前,我报名参加一个叫做360评论的节目. |
| 2 | If you've ever worked in the corporate world, | 如果你曾经在公司工作过 |
| 3 | you probably have heard of this diabolical exercise. | 你可能听说过这种邪恶的动作 |
| 4 | It's an anonymous survey with your bosses, peers and direct reports, | 这是一次匿名调查 与你的老板,同行和直接报告, |
| 5 | and the idea is to get a panoramic sense of your strengths and weaknesses. | 想法是获得你优缺点的全景感. |
| 6 | I opted for the colonoscopy version of a 360 review, | 我选择了结肠镜 360评论版本, |
| 7 | which included my wife, my brother and two of my meditation teachers | 包括我的妻子,我的兄弟 和我的两个冥想老师 |
| 8 | in all 16 people gave hour-long confidential interviews, | 所有16个人都进行了长达一小时的保密访谈 |
| 9 | and I was then handed a 39-page report brimming with blind quotes. | 然后,我收到一份39页的报告,上面有盲文。 |
| 10 | I can tell you're looking forward to hearing the results, sadists. | 我看得出来你们期待听到结果 虐待狂 |
| 11 | But I'm going to make you wait a second, | 但我要让你等一下 |
| 12 | because I should give you a little background on me. | 因为我应该给你一些关于我的背景 |
| 13 | I used to be an anchorman. | 我以前是锚手 |
| 14 | I worked at ABC News for 21 years. | 我在ABC新闻工作了21年 |
| 15 | It was a very stressful job. | 这是一个非常紧张的工作。 |
| 16 | In fact, I had a panic attack live on the air in 2004, | 事实上,我于2004年在现场直播了恐慌症。 |
| 17 | while delivering some otherwise mundane headlines. | 发些普通的头条新闻 |
| 18 | The good news is that my nationally televised freakout | 好消息是,我的全国电视剧吓坏了 |
| 19 | ultimately led me to meditation, | 最终导致我冥想 |
| 20 | which I had actually long rejected as ridiculous. | 我早就拒绝了这个荒谬的说法 |
| 21 | I was raised by a pair of atheist scientists. | 我由一对无神论科学家抚养长大. |
| 22 | I'm a fidgety, skeptical guy, | 我是一个虚无,怀疑的家伙, |
| 23 | and that kind of led me to unfairly lump meditation | 那种导致我 不公平的一次性冥想 |
| 24 | in with aura readings, vision boards and dolphin healing. | 与气读数,视觉板和海豚愈合。 |
| 25 | But the practice really helped me with my anxiety and depression, | 但练习真的帮助了我 焦虑和抑郁, |
| 26 | and so my goal became to make meditation attractive to my fellow skeptics | 所以我的目标 使冥想吸引我的怀疑者 |
| 27 | by ditching the New Age cliches and liberally using the F-word. | 通过抛弃新时代的陈词滥调 并自由使用F字。 |
| 28 | To my great surprise, | 我很惊讶 |
| 29 | this unorthodox approach turned me into a quasi-self-help guru. | 这种非正统的做法把我变成了一个准自助的大师。 |
| 30 | And a few years into this trip, | 还有几年的旅程 |
| 31 | I decided that I wanted to get a sense | 我决定,我想得到一个感觉 |
| 32 | of whether my inner work was having outer results. | 我的内在工作是否取得了外在成果 |
| 33 | Was meditation making me a nicer person? | 冥想让我成为一个更好的人吗? |
| 34 | And that's why I signed up for the 360. | 这就是为什么我报名了360。 |
| 35 | And now I will tell you about the results. | 现在我告诉你结果。 |
| 36 | The first 13 pages were dedicated to my sterling qualities. | 前13页是献给我杰出品质的。 |
| 37 | People talked about how hardworking and intelligent I was. | 人们说我有多勤奋和聪明 |
| 38 | Many also said meditation had made me more caring. | 许多人还说,冥想使我更加关心。 |
| 39 | But then came 26 pages of beatdown. | 但后来出现了26页的被打倒. |
| 40 | Um ... | 那个... |
| 41 | The first blow was that some reviewers noted | 第一个打击是一些审查人员指出, |
| 42 | that I had a penchant for being rude to junior staffers, | 我对初级职员很不礼貌 |
| 43 | which was deeply embarrassing. | 这很尴尬 |
| 44 | But it only got worse. | 但它只是变得更糟。 |
| 45 | I was called emotionally guarded, | 我被叫做情感守护, |
| 46 | a diva and an authoritarian. | 一个女神和一个独裁者。 |
| 47 | I don't know why that's funny. | 我不知道为什么这很有趣。 |
| 48 | (*Laughter*) | (* 笑声*) |
| 49 | Some people even questioned my motives for promoting meditation. | 有人甚至质疑我提倡冥想的动机. |
| 50 | It got so bad that at one point, my wife who was reading it with me | 事情变得如此糟糕,有一点,我的妻子 谁读它与我 |
| 51 | got up and went to the bathroom and cried. | 起来去洗手间哭 |
| 52 | I think for me, the most painful part was realizing | 我觉得对我来说 最痛苦的部分是意识到 |
| 53 | that the aspects of my personality that I was most ashamed of | 我最惭愧的人格 |
| 54 | and had really tried to hide | 并试图隐藏 |
| 55 | were in fact on full display for everybody. | 事实上,是 完全展示给大家。 |
| 56 | And those included my two most prominent and problematic demons, | 包括我两个最突出 最有问题的恶魔 |
| 57 | anger and self-centeredness. | 愤怒和自我中心。 |
| 58 | (*Clears throat*) | (* 清喉* ) |
| 59 | Sorry, I've never talked about this publicly before. | 对不起,我从来没有公开谈论过这一点。 |
| 60 | Um ... | 那个... |
| 61 | Thank you. | 谢谢 |
| 62 | I thought we weren't supposed to applaud authoritarians here at TED. | 我认为我们不应该在TED上 赞美独裁者。 |
| 63 | (*Laughter*) | (* 笑声*) |
| 64 | Bottom line, meditation had helped, for sure, | 底线,冥想当然有帮助, |
| 65 | but I clearly retained the capacity to be a schmuck. | 但我显然保留了成为笨蛋的能力 |
| 66 | And I am not alone in this. | 我并不孤单 |
| 67 | All kinds of bad behavior have been on the rise. | 种种恶行渐起. |
| 68 | Reckless driving, unruly airline passengers, | 毫无顾忌的驾驶 粗鲁的航空公司乘客 |
| 69 | violent crime, | 暴力犯罪, |
| 70 | online bullying, | 网上欺凌, |
| 71 | workplace incivility, tribal antagonism, | 工作场所不文明、部落对抗、 |
| 72 | even general self-centeredness. | 乃至通达自性. |
| 73 | At times, it can really feel like our social fabric is unraveling. | 有时,它会真的感到我们的社会结构正在瓦解。 |
| 74 | So after my 360, I decided to do some work on myself | 之后,我决定自己做一些工作 |
| 75 | and to see if I could also learn some things | 看看我能否学到一些东西 |
| 76 | that by extension might help the species. | 由此可以帮助物种。 |
| 77 | I pulled every lever at my disposal. | 我利用了一切手段 |
| 78 | I did psychotherapy, communications coaching, | 我做了心理治疗 通信指导 |
| 79 | bias training, couples counseling and more. | 偏见培训、夫妇咨询等等。 |
| 80 | And while I was really grateful to be able to do all of this stuff | 虽然我真的很感激 能做所有这些事情 |
| 81 | and all of it helped, | 和所有的帮助, |
| 82 | I was still finding myself too often getting selfish or snippy. | 我仍然发现自己太 经常变得自私或讨厌。 |
| 83 | So I signed up for a nine-day silent retreat | 于是我报名参加为期九天的静静退会 |
| 84 | where I would practice a kind of meditation | 在那里我会练习一种冥想 |
| 85 | that has been shown to boost your capacity for warmth. | 证明能增强你的温暖能力 |
| 86 | It's called loving kindness, | 这叫慈爱 |
| 87 | which, as you might imagine, sounded to me like Valentine's Day | 正如你所想象的 听起来就像情人节 |
| 88 | with a gun to my head. | 用枪指着我的头 |
| 89 | Um ... | 那个... |
| 90 | But I was in it to win it. | 但我是为了赢得它 |
| 91 | I really wanted to be a nicer person. | 我真的想成为一个更好的人。 |
| 92 | I kept getting tripped up, though, | 虽然我一直被绊倒 |
| 93 | because the woman who was running the retreat, my teacher, | 因为那个领导撤退的女人 我的老师 |
| 94 | her name is Spring Washam, | 她叫斯普林・瓦沙姆 |
| 95 | she kept insisting that if I wanted to be less of a jerk to other people, | 她一直坚持,如果我想 少一个混蛋别人, |
| 96 | I needed to start by being less of a jerk to myself, | 我首先要从自己少一个混蛋开始 |
| 97 | which I thought was the kind of thing you hear from Instagram influencers | 我认为那是你从Instagram 影响者那里听到的 |
| 98 | and spin instructors. | 和旋转导师。 |
| 99 | So ... | 所以说... |
| 100 | And she even went so far as to suggest | 她甚至说 |
| 101 | that when I saw my demons emerging in meditation, | 当我看到我的恶魔在冥想中出现的时候, |
| 102 | I should put my hand on my heart and say to myself, | 我该把手放在心上 对自己说 |
| 103 | it's OK, sweetie, I'm here for you. | 没关系,亲爱的,我在这里为你。 |
| 104 | Hard pass. | 硬通过。 |
| 105 | (*Laughter*) | (* 笑声*) |
| 106 | Pass Adina. | 传阿迪纳. |
| 107 | I was not going to do that. | 我不会那么做的 |
| 108 | But over the ensuing days of nonstop meditation, | 但在接下来的不断冥想中 |
| 109 | I did notice that my twin demons were in full effect. | 我注意到我的双胞胎恶魔已经完全生效了 |
| 110 | My anger had me rehearsing glorious, expletive-filled speeches | 我的愤怒让我排练辉煌,充满激情的演讲 |
| 111 | I would deliver to my boss about the various promotions I deserved. | 我会把我应得的各种晋升 交给我的老板 |
| 112 | My self-centeredness had me writing my own five-star Amazon reviews | 我的自我本性让我写了自己的五星亚马逊评论 |
| 113 | for my various books, | 为了我的书, |
| 114 | praising my elegant prose and rugged good looks. | 赞美我优雅的散文 和崎岖的帅气。 |
| 115 | And ... | 还有... |
| 116 | In the face of all of this roostering and rage, | 面对所有的鸡和愤怒, |
| 117 | I layered on an avalanche of self-criticism. | 我压在了自我批评的雪崩上 |
| 118 | I told myself a whole story about how I was an incurably self-obsessed, | 我告诉自己一个故事 关于我是如何 一个无法治愈的自我迷恋, |
| 119 | cranky monster | 怪兽 |
| 120 | who had a cloven hose and a retractable jaw. | 他有一个丁香管 和可收回的下巴。 |
| 121 | After about five or six days of drinking from this fire hose, | 喝了五六天的消防水管后 |
| 122 | I caved. | 我崩溃了 |
| 123 | Mid-meditation, I put my hand on my heart, | 中药,我把手放在心上 |
| 124 | and while I definitely was not going to call myself sweetie, | 虽然我绝对不会叫自己亲爱的 |
| 125 | I did silently say to myself, | 我默默地对自己说 |
| 126 | it's all good, dude, I know this sucks, but I've got you. | 一切都很好,伙计,我知道这很糟糕, 但我有你。 |
| 127 | This was very strange and embarrassing. | 这是非常奇怪和尴尬的。 |
| 128 | But in this moment, I had an epiphany. | 但此时此刻,我有一个觉悟. |
| 129 | I realized that my demons were actually just ancient, | 我意识到我的恶魔其实只是古老的 |
| 130 | fear-based, neurotic programs, | 基于恐惧的神经病程序, |
| 131 | probably injected into me by the culture or by my parents, | 可能是文化或父母给我注射的 |
| 132 | and they were trying to help me. | 他们试图帮助我。 |
| 133 | It was the organism trying to protect itself. | 是那个试图保护自己的生物 |
| 134 | And when I stopped fighting them, they calmed down for a few seconds. | 当我停止与他们战斗时,他们冷静了几秒钟。 |
| 135 | I didn't have to slay them. | 我没有杀死他们。 |
| 136 | I just had to give them a high five. | 我只能给他们一个击掌。 |
| 137 | And this counterintuitive extension of warmth was not, I realized, | 而这种反直觉的延伸 温暖不是,我意识到, |
| 138 | it was not indulgence, it was radical disarmament. | 这不是宽恕,而是激进的裁军。 |
| 139 | Here's the way I think about this. | 我是这样想的 |
| 140 | At any given moment, we humans have two choices, | 在任何特定的时刻,我们人类有两个选择, |
| 141 | or two spirals that are available to us. | 或者两个螺旋 我们可以得到。 |
| 142 | The first is what my friend Evelyn Tribolet calls the toilet vortex. | 第一个是我的朋友伊芙琳·特里博莱特所说的马桶漩涡. |
| 143 | The reason why this looks childish and ridiculous | 这看起来很幼稚和可笑的原因 |
| 144 | is that I drew it myself. | 是我自己画的 |
| 145 | It's OK, sweetie, you're good at so many other things. | 没事的,亲爱的,你擅长其他很多事情 |
| 146 | I probably shouldn't make fun of the thing I'm going to try to get you to do. | 我可能不应该取笑 我试图让你做的事。 |
| 147 | But the toilet vortex might start like this. | 但马桶漩涡可能是这样开始的 |
| 148 | You're picking on yourself because you don't like the way you look in the mirror, | 你挑剔自己 因为你不喜欢你照镜子的样子 |
| 149 | you're unhappy with your level of productivity, | 你对生产力水平不满意 |
| 150 | or you have failed to achieve ketosis, whatever, | 或者你没能实现酮化,不管怎样, |
| 151 | and then you take that out on other people, | 然后,你拿出来别人, |
| 152 | and then you are feeling more miserable, | 然后你感到更悲惨, |
| 153 | and then down you go. | 然后你们下去。 |
| 154 | The vastly superior alternative is what I call the cheesy upward spiral. | 我称之为俗气的螺旋上升 |
| 155 | This one was drawn by a professional. | 这个是专业画的 |
| 156 | As your inner weather gets bombier, | 由于你的内在天气越来越强, |
| 157 | because you've learned how to high-five your demons, | 因为你学会了如何击掌你的恶魔 |
| 158 | that shows up in your relationships with other people, | 出现在你和别人的关系中, |
| 159 | and because relationships are probably the most important variable | 因为关系可能是最重要的变量 |
| 160 | when it comes to human flourishing, | 当人类繁荣的时候, |
| 161 | your inner weather improves even further, | 你的内在天气会进一步好转 |
| 162 | and up you go. | 起来吧 |
| 163 | And that is the whole point here. | 这就是重点所在。 |
| 164 | Self-love, properly understood not as narcissism, | 自爱,正确理解 不是自恋, |
| 165 | but as having your own back, | 但作为你自己的背, |
| 166 | is not selfish. | 这不是自私。 |
| 167 | It makes you better at loving other people. | 让你更爱别人 |
| 168 | And the flip side of this was on full display in my 360. | 这个翻转的一面在我的360中完全展现出来。 |
| 169 | All the ways in which I was torturing myself | 所有折磨自己的方式 |
| 170 | showed up in my relationships with other people, | 出现在我和别人的关系中 |
| 171 | and as those relationships suffered, so did I. | 和这些关系遭受, 我也是。 |
| 172 | Taken together, my two excellent drawings | 集在一起,我的两幅优秀的画 |
| 173 | represent a kind of amateur, unified field theory of love. | 代表着一种业余,统一的田野爱情理论. |
| 174 | I call it | и硂 |
| 175 | me, comma, a love story. | 我,逗号,爱情故事。 |
| 176 | That's a deliberately ridiculous name, | 这是一个故意荒谬的名字, |
| 177 | but I am actually pretty serious about using the word love. | 但我真的很认真的想用爱这个词 |
| 178 | Granted, it's a confusing term, | 同意,这是一个混淆的术语, |
| 179 | because we use it to apply to everything from our spouses to our children | 因为我们用它来应用 从配偶到孩子的一切 |
| 180 | to gluten-free snickerdoodles, | 以无忧无虑的口味, |
| 181 | but I am comfortable embracing the broadness of the term. | 但我对这个术语的宽泛性感到欣慰。 |
| 182 | I consider love to be anything that falls within the human capacity to care, | 我认为爱情是属于人类能力范围的一切 |
| 183 | a capacity wired deeply into us via evolution. | 一种通过进化深入我们体内的能力 |
| 184 | It's our ability to care, cooperate and communicate | 这是我们关心,合作和沟通的能力 |
| 185 | that has allowed homosapiens to thrive. | 这使得同性恋者得以兴盛。 |
| 186 | And it is a failure to exercise that muscle, | 而不能锻炼这种肌肉, |
| 187 | it is a lack of love, | 这是缺乏爱, |
| 188 | that I think is at the root of our most pressing problems, | 我认为是我们最紧迫问题的根源, |
| 189 | from inequality to violence to the climate crisis. | 从不平等到暴力到气候危机。 |
| 190 | Obviously, these are all massive problems | 很明显,这些都是大问题 |
| 191 | that are going to require massive structural change, | 需要大规模结构改革, |
| 192 | but at a baseline, | 但有一个基线, |
| 193 | they also require us to care about one another. | 他们也要求我们互相关心 |
| 194 | And it is harder to do that | 更难做到 |
| 195 | when you're stuck in a ceaseless spiral of self-centered self-flagellation. | 当你被困在无休止的螺旋 自我中心自燃。 |
| 196 | Thank you. | 谢谢 |
| 197 | So I guess what I'm trying to say here is, | 所以我想说的是... |
| 198 | there's a geopolitical case for you to get your shit together. | 有个地缘政治的案子要你处理 |
| 199 | And the massively empowering news | 和巨大的授权新闻 |
| 200 | is that love is not an unalterable factory setting, | 爱不是无法改变的工厂环境 |
| 201 | it is a skill that you can train. | 这是你能训练的技能 |
| 202 | It's actually a family of skills. | 这其实是一个技能的家族. |
| 203 | After my 360, I learned a whole bunch of practices for upping my love game, | 我的360之后,我学到了一大堆 练习我的爱情游戏, |
| 204 | and I'm going to share two with you right now | 我现在就跟你分享两个 |
| 205 | that I think would be very easy to integrate into your life. | 我认为很容易融入你的生活 |
| 206 | The first is to boot up a practice of loving-kindness meditation. | 首先是启动爱心冥想的实践. |
| 207 | I should say that it does not require you to subscribe | 我要说的是,这不需要你同意 |
| 208 | to some fancy metaphysical program, | 给一些精致的物理程序, |
| 209 | and it shouldn't take up too much time, | 它不应该花太多时间, |
| 210 | maybe a few minutes, a couple times a week, to start. | 也许几分钟,一周几次,开始。 |
| 211 | The instructions are really simple. | 这些指示非常简单。 |
| 212 | Find a reasonably quiet place, | 找个安静的地方 |
| 213 | assume a comfortable position, | 做一个舒适的位置, |
| 214 | close your eyes | 闭上眼睛 |
| 215 | and begin by envisioning a really easy person. | 并开始设想 一个真正容易的人。 |
| 216 | Maybe a good friend, maybe a pet. | 也许是好朋友,也许是宠物 |
| 217 | And then you repeat in your mind, | 然后你在你的脑海里重复, |
| 218 | four phrases, may you be happy, may you be safe, may you be healthy, | 四句,愿你快乐,愿你安全,愿你健康 |
| 219 | may you live with ease. | 愿你轻松地生活。 |
| 220 | After you've generated a little warmth, | 在你发热之后 |
| 221 | you do a bait and switch and move on to yourself. | 你做个诱饵 换个位置 继续往前走 |
| 222 | Once again, you conjure the image and send the phrases. | 再次,你召集图像并发送短语。 |
| 223 | After that, it's on to a mentor, somebody who's helped you in your life, | 在那之后,它是一个导师, 一个帮助你生活的人, |
| 224 | then a neutral person, somebody you might overlook, | 一个中立的人,一个你可能忽略的人, |
| 225 | then a difficult person, probably not hard to find, | 然后是一个困难的人,也许不难找到, |
| 226 | and then we finish with all beings everywhere. | 然后,我们结束 与所有的人在任何地方。 |
| 227 | To some of you, this may seem forced and trickly, | 在你们中有些人看来,这似乎是强迫和狡猾的, |
| 228 | but it's worth noting that the research shows | 但值得注意的是 研究显示 |
| 229 | that this practice has physiological, psychological | 这种实践具有生理和心理特征 |
| 230 | and even behavioral benefits. | 甚至行为上的好处。 |
| 231 | The other practice I'm going to recommend | 我建议的其他做法 |
| 232 | is to start consciously counter-programming against your inner critic. | 开始自觉地反制你的内在评论家 |
| 233 | Next time you notice yourself going down the toilet, | 下次你注意到自己下厕所的时候 |
| 234 | if nobody's looking, put your hand on your heart | 如果没人看,把手放在心上 |
| 235 | and talk to yourself the way you would talk to a good friend. | 和你自己说话的方式 你会与一个好朋友说话。 |
| 236 | For ambitious people, this may be a little scary, | 对于野心勃勃的人来说 这也许有点可怕 |
| 237 | you might fear it's going to erode your edge, | 你可能害怕它会侵蚀你的边缘, |
| 238 | but research shows that this process of replacing your sadistic inner tyrant | 但是研究显示,这个过程 取代你虐待的内在暴君 |
| 239 | with a supportive inner coach who has high standards | 与支持性 内导师高标准 |
| 240 | but is not a jerk about it, | 但它不是一个混蛋, |
| 241 | makes you more likely to reach your goals. | 让你更容易达到目标 |
| 242 | Now, I will cop to the fact that even though I've now retired from my job | 瞷и穦玂靡 瞷и竒瞒秨и |
| 243 | as a newsman and am a full-time meditation evangelist, | 作为一名记者,也是一名专职的冥想传教士, |
| 244 | I still go down the toilet on the regular, | 我还是经常去厕所 |
| 245 | but I'm much more likely to access the upward spiral these days. | 但我现在更可能进入螺旋上升 |
| 246 | In fact, three years after my 360, I got another one, | 事实上,在我360年之后的三年里, 我又得到了一个, |
| 247 | because I never learned, | 因为我从没学过 |
| 248 | and this one was way different. | 而这个是完全不同的。 |
| 249 | People gushed about how much I had changed | 人们都说我变了多少 |
| 250 | as a friend and a mentor and a colleague. | 作为朋友、导师和同事。 |
| 251 | They talked about specific meetings where I used to be a prosecutor | 他们谈到我曾经是检察官的具体会面 |
| 252 | and was now delightful. | 和现在的乐趣。 |
| 253 | One person said his ego is shrinking, which I think was a compliment, | 一个人说他的自尊心在缩小 我认为那是在恭维 |
| 254 | and another person said he's finding his heart, | 另一个人说他正在寻找他的心脏, |
| 255 | which the new me let pass. | 新的我让通过。 |
| 256 | After she finished reading, my wife turned to me and said, | 读完书后,我妻子转过来对我说 |
| 257 | congratulations, now you're boring. | 恭喜,现在你很无聊了 |
| 258 | (*Laughter*) | (* 笑声*) |
| 259 | I'm hoping that was a joke, because in my opinion, | 我希望那是个玩笑 因为我认为 |
| 260 | upping your love game is anything but boring. | 升起你的爱游戏 除了无聊什么。 |
| 261 | It's countercultural because it cuts against the never-enoughness | 这是反文化的,因为它削减 与永远不够 |
| 262 | and always-behindness that society seems to want us to feel. | 社会似乎希望我们感受 |
| 263 | It's courageous because it's hard to look at your demons, | 这是勇敢的,因为很难看你的恶魔, |
| 264 | and it's happiness-producing because when you high-five your demons, | 这是幸福的产生 因为当你击掌你的恶魔, |
| 265 | they don't own you as much. | 他们没有拥有你那么多。 |
| 266 | And all of that makes you more generous and more available. | 所有这一切都让你 更加慷慨,更多的可用。 |
| 267 | If that sounds grandiose or touchy-feely to you, | 如果这听起来很壮观或敏感 |
| 268 | let me put it to you another way. | 让我用另一种方式告诉你 |
| 269 | The view is so much better when you pull your head out of your ass. | 风景好得多 当你把头从屁股里拉出来。 |
| 270 | (*Laughter*) | (* 笑声*) |
| 271 | Thank you very much. | 谢谢 |
| 272 | (*Applause*) | (*鼓掌*) |
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