外网播放超1000万的TED：如何消除潜意识中的自我怀疑和拖
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| 时间 | 英文 | 中文 |
|---|---|---|
| 0:17 | Thank you. | 谢谢 |
| 0:19 | Why is it that intelligent people procrastinate? | 为什么聪明的人会拖延? |
| 0:23 | Why is it that people that | 为什么人们 |
| 0:25 | are so self-motivated often self-sabotage? | 这么有自我动机 常常是自我破坏? |
| 0:29 | And why is it that no matter how many new | 为何不管有多少新的 |
| 0:30 | business opportunities we get or new skills we try to learn, many of us just are simply | 我们获得的商业机会 或我们尝试学习的新技能, 我们许多人只是简单的 |
| 0:35 | finding different ways of earning the same amount of money or achieving the same kind | 寻找不同的方式赚取相同数额的金钱或获得相同种类的金钱 |
| 0:39 | of level of success as if there was kind of a glass ceiling above our head that we were | 就像我们头上的玻璃天花板一样 |
| 0:45 | Now one thing we do know is it's not down to lack of resources or opportunity. | 现在我们知道一件事,不是因为缺乏资源或机会。 |
| 0:49 | We live in a time in | 我们生活在一个时代 |
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| 序号 | 英文 | 中文 |
|---|---|---|
| 1 | Thank you. | 谢谢 |
| 2 | Why is it that intelligent people procrastinate? | 为什么聪明的人会拖延? |
| 3 | Why is it that people that | 为什么人们 |
| 4 | are so self-motivated often self-sabotage? | 这么有自我动机 常常是自我破坏? |
| 5 | And why is it that no matter how many new | 为何不管有多少新的 |
| 6 | business opportunities we get or new skills we try to learn, many of us just are simply | 我们获得的商业机会 或我们尝试学习的新技能, 我们许多人只是简单的 |
| 7 | finding different ways of earning the same amount of money or achieving the same kind | 寻找不同的方式赚取相同数额的金钱或获得相同种类的金钱 |
| 8 | of level of success as if there was kind of a glass ceiling above our head that we were | 就像我们头上的玻璃天花板一样 |
| 9 | Now one thing we do know is it's not down to lack of resources or opportunity. | 现在我们知道一件事,不是因为缺乏资源或机会。 |
| 10 | We live in a time in | 我们生活在一个时代 |
| 11 | history where there are more resources and opportunity than ever before. | 在历史上,资源和机会比以往任何时候都多。 |
| 12 | In fact there's | 事实上 |
| 13 | many people that have access to resources and opportunity that really never get the | 许多获得资源和机会的人,实际上永远得不到 |
| 14 | bat off the shoulder and take a swing at life and the results are mediocre or disappointing. | 拍下肩膀 挥动生命 结果平庸或令人失望 |
| 15 | And then there's other people. | 后有众生. |
| 16 | Those who have access to virtually no resources or no opportunity | 几乎没有资源或机会的人 |
| 17 | and against all of the odds went out and created magic for the rest of us to go wow and stand in | 与所有的机会并肩而出 创造了魔法,让我们其他人去哇哇并站在那里 |
| 18 | awe of. | 惧怕。 |
| 19 | People like Colonel Sanders who retired broke at 65 before starting KFC. | 像桑德斯上校这样的人 退休前65岁就破产了 |
| 20 | Obviously | 很明显 |
| 21 | Oprah. | 奥普拉 |
| 22 | People like Helen Keller. | 海伦·凯勒这样的人 |
| 23 | Or even Albert Einstein who dropped out of school at 15 and | 甚至是15岁辍学的阿尔伯特·爱因斯坦 |
| 24 | then failed the entrance exam for the Zurich Polytechnic. | 后来苏黎世理工大学的入学考试失败. |
| 25 | No. | 没有 |
| 26 | You see if you want to master | 你看你想不想掌握 |
| 27 | class in taking away the excuse that resources and opportunity are the reason why you're | 以资源和机会为借口, |
| 28 | not successful, go study any of the lives of the people on screen. | 不成功,去研究屏幕上的人的生活 |
| 29 | You see as human | 你视之为人 |
| 30 | beings our nervous system is hardwired for comfort. | 我们的神经系统很坚固 为了舒适 |
| 31 | Whereas the essence of what makes | 而本质是什么 |
| 32 | us us, some would say our soul, is hardwired for growth. | 我们,有些人会说,我们的灵魂, 硬化成长。 |
| 33 | And it's managing that dynamic | 它正在管理这个动态 |
| 34 | tension between how good a comfort zone feels and the innate calling of our potential that | 舒适区的感觉和我们潜力的内在呼唤之间的紧张关系 |
| 35 | lies outside of that that causes the frustration for most people and keeps them on that hamster | 在那之外 给大多数人带来挫折 让他们留在仓鼠上 |
| 36 | wheel of mediocrity. | 圆融之轮. |
| 37 | So how do we unravel that? | 那么,我们如何解析呢? |
| 38 | Well let's look at the human brain. | 让我们看看人类的大脑。 |
| 39 | See what separates us from almost all of the animal kingdom, the crowning achievement of | 看什么把我们和几乎所有的动物王国分隔开来, 这是伟大的成就 |
| 40 | human biology, is the front part of the brain. | 人类生物学是大脑的前身 |
| 41 | What's known as the neocortex or the frontal | 所谓的新科特克斯或前卫 |
| 42 | lobe. | 叶曰. |
| 43 | And that neocortex operates at a brain wavelength of alpha or beta. | 大脑波长为α或β。 |
| 44 | And one of the | 其中一个 |
| 45 | challenges is that that doesn't get turned on until we're about 7 years old. | 挑战在于,直到我们7岁左右才被打开。 |
| 46 | See kids | 看孩子们 |
| 47 | operate in delta and theta which is why babies sleep so much and why kids live in that magical | 在三角洲和西塔进行手术 这也是为什么婴儿睡得那么多 以及为什么孩子们生活在魔法中 |
| 48 | fantasy world where they're operating at theta with no critical thinking. | 幻想世界,他们在Theta的操作 没有批判性的思考。 |
| 49 | Now it also | 现在也是 |
| 50 | means children are very impressionable and why Aristotle is widely quoted as saying that | 意思是说孩子们很有感觉 亚里士多德为什么被广泛引用 |
| 51 | give me the child for 7 years and I'll give you the man. | 把孩子给我7年 我就把那个人给你 |
| 52 | But what happens when we drill | 但我们钻钻时会怎样 |
| 53 | down on that? | 下来呢? |
| 54 | Why is that important to why we procrastinate or self-sabotage? | 为什么这对我们拖延或自我破坏很重要? |
| 55 | Well I'll | 我会的 |
| 56 | give you an example. | 举个例子 |
| 57 | Let's say it's dad's turn to take little Johnny shopping and the | 假设轮到爸爸 带小约翰尼购物 |
| 58 | he's got to go out and get the job done. | 他必须出去把工作做完 |
| 59 | And one thing you need to know about dad, he's | 有件事你需要知道 关于爸爸,他 |
| 60 | got his own stuff to deal with right now. | 现在有他的东西要处理 |
| 61 | He's figuring out how to pay the credit card bill | 他在想办法支付信用卡账单 |
| 62 | that was hired this month than he thought. | 他本月被雇佣了 |
| 63 | He's worried about whether the boss is going | 他担心老板会不会去 |
| 64 | to be downsizing soon. | 很快会缩小规模 |
| 65 | And he's still reeling from the lack of intimacy that morning caused | 那天早上他还因为缺乏亲密关系而心烦意乱 |
| 66 | by a fight that he had with his wife. | 是因为他和妻子的争吵 |
| 67 | He's dealing with the stuff as we all do. | 他像我们一样处理这些事情 |
| 68 | Now little | 现在小 |
| 69 | Johnny doesn't live in that world and so when they get to the checkout, as every good retail | 强尼不生活在那个世界上 所以当他们到了结账, 每一个好零售 |
| 70 | psychologist knows, they place the products at the eye height of the people you're trying | 心理学家知道,他们把产品放在你努力的人的高度 |
| 71 | to sell to. | 卖到。 |
| 72 | And so Johnny sees the toys and Johnny wants a toy and he's like daddy, daddy | 所以约翰尼看到玩具,约翰尼想要玩具 他就像爸爸,爸爸 |
| 73 | can I have a toy? | 能给我个玩具吗? |
| 74 | And daddy comes out of his mind fog and says no you can't have a toy. | 爸爸从他的思想雾里出来 说不能有玩具 |
| 75 | For starters he doesn't think he can afford it but now's just not the time. | 首先,他觉得自己买不起 但是现在不是时间 |
| 76 | But as parents | 但作为父母 |
| 77 | will understand children are prime examples of the ability to be persistent, are they | 将理解儿童是能坚持下去的主要例子,是否 |
| 78 | not? | 不是吗? |
| 79 | And so little Johnny says daddy, daddy I want a toy, please can I have a toy? | 所以小约翰尼说爸爸,爸爸 我想要一个玩具, 请给我一个玩具? |
| 80 | See | 见 |
| 81 | little Johnny doesn't live in a world of credit card debt and in his frustration on dealing | 小强尼不生活在信用卡债务的世界里 他对交易感到沮丧 |
| 82 | with his stuff and trying to handle the kids and all the other stuff, daddy snaps out and | 和他的东西,并试图处理 孩子们和所有其他的东西,爸爸snap out和 |
| 83 | says listen you can't have a toy, you don't deserve it, you're not good enough, you're | 说不能有玩具,不值得,你不够好,你是 |
| 84 | not behaved enough today. | 今天表现不够好 |
| 85 | And daddy thinks that'll just keep him quiet while he goes | 爸爸觉得这样就能让他安静下来 |
| 86 | back to dealing with his big world problems. | 继续处理他的世界大问题 |
| 87 | But what's happening right now is quite significant. | 但是现在发生的事情相当重要。 |
| 88 | You see little Johnny doesn't hear dad's frustration, all Johnny hears is that I'm not good enough, | 你看,小约翰尼没有听到爸爸的挫折, 所有约翰尼听到的是,我不够好, |
| 89 | I'm not worth it and I'm undeserving and probably spends a large part of the rest of his life | 我不值得,我不值得 并且可能花他大部分的余生 |
| 90 | unconsciously acting out that behaviour to justify why he's right, including self-sabotaging | 不知不觉地表现出来 证明他为什么是对的 包括自我破坏 |
| 91 | if the threat of success comes along to challenge that inner model of the world. | 如果成功的威胁伴随着挑战世界的内在模式。 |
| 92 | You see when | 你看,当 |
| 93 | it comes to being able to work with psychology and after thousands of hours of working with | 和几千小时的工作后 |
| 94 | people all over the world, I've come to know that the undisputed first law in psychotherapeutic | 我终于知道 精神治疗的第一法则 |
| 95 | intervention and other areas, you know the undisputed first law of personal growth is | 干预和其他领域,你知道,无可争议的第一 法则个人成长是 |
| 96 | this, that people will never rise above the opinion of themselves. | 这,人们永远不会超越自己的观点。 |
| 97 | Now one of the challenges | 现在的挑战之一 |
| 98 | that opinion is largely formed in our childhood years, sub seven, from the perception of where | 这种观点主要形成于我们童年时代,即从对何地的认知出发的7级以下. |
| 99 | we think we did or didn't get love from the people we most wanted it from. | 我们觉得我们是否得到了爱 从我们最想要的人。 |
| 100 | Hmm, I usually | 嗯,我通常会 |
| 101 | let people sit with that one for a while. | 让大家和那个一起坐一会儿 |
| 102 | It also mirrors the first law of relationships | 也反映了第一种关系定律 |
| 103 | which I firmly believe states that no one can ever love us more than we love ourselves. | 我坚信,没有人比我们爱自己更爱我们。 |
| 104 | Now one of the other challenges on that is that we are also creatures of habit. | 现在这方面的其他挑战之一是,我们也是习惯的产物。 |
| 105 | Now what | 现在怎么办 |
| 106 | does that mean? | 这是什么意思? |
| 107 | That means that that prefrontal cortex, that neocortex, that frontal lobe | 这意味着前额皮层,新皮层,前额叶 |
| 108 | that serves all of that executive decision making is prime real estate. | 它服务于所有的行政决策 是主要的房地产。 |
| 109 | In fact the brain | 事实上,大脑 |
| 110 | weighs one fiftieth of the body weight but takes up twenty percent of all of the calories. | 体重是体重的50% 但摄取了20%的热量 |
| 111 | So when it comes to using that frontal lobe, evolution has some shortcuts. | 因此,在使用前叶时,进化有一些捷径. |
| 112 | It says well | 说得好 |
| 113 | clearly you're using intelligence to make the decision. | 显然你用情报来决定 |
| 114 | So it should be a good decision. | 故应善决定. |
| 115 | So when you choose the fries instead of the salad, it doesn't care, its job is to adapt. | 所以当你选择薯条而不是沙拉时, 它不在乎,它的工作就是适应。 |
| 116 | And if you make that decision over and over again, then rather than take up critical thinking, | 如果你一次又一次地做出这个决定, 那么,而不是采取批判性的思考, |
| 117 | which is meant to serve you intelligently, it hands it over to the midbrain and it becomes | 这是为了明智地服务你, 它把它交给中脑,它变成 |
| 118 | an unconscious behavior or pattern or what we also call a habit. | 一种无意识的行为或模式 或者我们所说的习惯 |
| 119 | So now you order the | 所以,现在你订购 |
| 120 | fries just because it's what you do, you don't even question it. | 薯条只是因为你这样做, 你甚至不质疑它。 |
| 121 | Now that can be very useful | 现在,这可能是非常有用的 |
| 122 | when it comes to learning or not learning how to have to walk every day but it also | 当它涉及到学习或不学习 如何每天必须走路,但它也 |
| 123 | sets up some challenges. | 设置一些挑战。 |
| 124 | You see we suddenly arrive at work on our day off and we don't | 你看,我们突然到了上班 我们休息的一天,我们不 |
| 125 | know why. | 知道为什么吗? |
| 126 | Or we suddenly get home and realize where did the last two kilometers or two miles | 或者我们突然回到家 发现最后两公里跑到哪里去了 |
| 127 | of driving go? | 开车去? |
| 128 | Wow, how did I avoid all of the crazies? | 哇,我怎么躲过所有的疯子? |
| 129 | Good old midbrain at work. | 不错的中脑工作。 |
| 130 | But | 不过 |
| 131 | the deeper challenge to that as creatures of habit is the fact that we're using our | 作为习惯的生物,我们面对的更深层挑战 就是我们利用我们 |
| 132 | conscious brain only a small amount of the time, that critical decision making, the rest | 有意识的大脑只有一小部分时间, 关键的决策,其余的 |
| 133 | of the time, like 95% of the time is what I call people sleeping awake. | 95%的时间都是我所说的睡着的人 |
| 134 | In fact I'll | 其实我会的 |
| 135 | give you an analogy. | 给你一个比喻。 |
| 136 | What do you imagine that the conscious mind is an ant? | 意识意识是蚂蚁是什么? |
| 137 | Here he is, | 他来了 |
| 138 | cute little fella. | 可爱的小家伙。 |
| 139 | Ants are industrious, they're hard working, they're determined, they're | 蚂蚁勤奋,勤奋工作,决心坚定. |
| 140 | going to get the job done. | 来完成这项工作。 |
| 141 | This is your conscious mind. | 这是你的意识 |
| 142 | In fact this particular ant went to | 事实上这只蚂蚁去了 |
| 143 | a personal development seminar last week. | 上周的私人发展研讨会 |
| 144 | He set his goals and he's marching north | 他定了目标,向北进军 |
| 145 | confidently in the direction of his achievements. | 有信心地朝着他的成就方向前进. |
| 146 | The problem is he's marching over the back | 问题是他从后面走过来 |
| 147 | of an elephant that's heading south, our unconscious mind, with all of our limiting patterns, limiting | 一头向南走的大象, 我们的无意识的头脑, 和我们所有的限制模式, 限制 |
| 148 | beliefs and all of the other unresolved self issues that go on there. | 以及所有其它尚未解决的自我问题。 |
| 149 | And we start to see | 我们开始看到 |
| 150 | why we self-sabotage. | 为什么我们自我破坏。 |
| 151 | See, how do you get that elephant moving in the right direction? | 看,你怎么让大象朝正确的方向移动? |
| 152 | Let me give you another example, another analogy. | 让我再举另一个例子和另一个类比。 |
| 153 | The mind is like a compass needle. | 心如罗盘针. |
| 154 | In fact | 其实 |
| 155 | it can only point in one direction at a time. | 它只能指向一个方向 |
| 156 | But when we're operating from our ants, that | 但当我们从蚂蚁身上操作时 |
| 157 | 5% of the time where we're conscious and using free will, we can grab that compass needle | 5%的时间,我们有意识 并使用自由意志, 我们可以抓住罗盘针 |
| 158 | and we can point it anywhere. | 我们可以指向任何地方。 |
| 159 | That's what free will allows us to do. | 这就是自由意志允许我们做的。 |
| 160 | And if we're feeling | 如果我们感觉 |
| 161 | down, we can go choose to watch a comedy or call a friend who can cheer us up. | 下来,我们可以选择看喜剧 或者打电话给一个朋友 谁可以让我们高兴。 |
| 162 | If we're | 如果我们 |
| 163 | feeling low on energy, we can go put the kettle on and make ourselves a coffee or a drink. | 觉得能量不足 我们可以去把水壶上 给自己弄杯咖啡或饮料 |
| 164 | But 95% of the time we're not doing that. | 但95%的时间我们不这样做。 |
| 165 | And as soon as we let our hand off of that | 一旦我们放手 |
| 166 | compass needle consciously, it will always drift back to its default magnetic north, | 罗盘针自觉地 它会一直飘回它默认的磁性北面 |
| 167 | which unfortunately for most people is more negative than positive. | 不幸的是,这对大多数人来说是消极的,而不是积极的。 |
| 168 | See? | 看到没? |
| 169 | And that leads | 这导致 |
| 170 | us to our third challenge. | 我们的第三个挑战。 |
| 171 | And that is something you may want to really tattoo on the inside | 这是你可能想要真正 纹身在内部 |
| 172 | of your eyelids. | 还有你的眼皮 |
| 173 | And that is that environment trumps will. | 这就是环境胜过意志。 |
| 174 | What do I mean by that? | 这是什么意思? |
| 175 | I mean | 我是说 |
| 176 | that our intention will always be beaten by our environment over time. | 我们的意图将永远被我们的环境击败。 |
| 177 | For example, let's | 比如,让我们 |
| 178 | say that you're a music fan, but you don't like jazz. | 说你是音乐迷 但你不喜欢爵士乐 |
| 179 | That's for the other people. | 这是给其他人的 |
| 180 | You're | 琌 |
| 181 | kind of a country and western kind of guy or girl. | 一种国家 一种西部 一种男人或女孩。 |
| 182 | And you listen to country and western | 你听乡村和西部 |
| 183 | in the car going to work, but your car's broken down this week, so your good neighbor | 你的车本周坏了,所以你的好邻居 |
| 184 | around the corner that works at the same place has offered to give you a lift. | 在同一个地方工作的那个角落 已经提出送你一程 |
| 185 | So you're | 原来你是 |
| 186 | going to share the 45-minute drive to work and back for the next five days. | 将共享45分钟的车程 工作并返回 接下来的五天。 |
| 187 | But they | 但是他们 |
| 188 | listen to jazz. | 听爵士乐。 |
| 189 | Now, I don't care what you think consciously. | 现在,我不管你怎么想 |
| 190 | Within three days I know | 三天之内我就知道了 |
| 191 | what's going to happen. | 会发生什么事? |
| 192 | Within three days in the car, you're tapping your feet to the | 在车里三天内,你就会踩到脚 |
| 193 | beat. | 节拍。 |
| 194 | Within five days, you're humming it in the shower. | 五天内,你在洗澡时哼着它 |
| 195 | You see, we don't get to choose | 你看,我们没有选择 |
| 196 | whether or not we get programmed. | 无论我们是否被编程。 |
| 197 | We're programmable by design. | 我们是可编程的 |
| 198 | We can only choose how we want | 我们只能选择我们想要的 |
| 199 | to be programmed. | 将编入方案。 |
| 200 | Another way of saying that is you can have all of the intention to be | 另一种说法是 你可以拥有所有的意图 |
| 201 | as warm and hot as you like. | 随你喜欢的温热 |
| 202 | You can raise your body temperature. | 可以提高体温. |
| 203 | You can put on some | 你可以穿点 |
| 204 | big clothes. | 》狝 |
| 205 | But if you choose to live in a freezer, the environment's going to win | 但是如果你选择住在冷藏室里 环境就会胜利 |
| 206 | over time. | 随着时间的推移。 |
| 207 | In other words, you can read all of the positive affirmations. | 换句话说,你可以读到所有正面的肯定. |
| 208 | You can stand | 你可以站起来 |
| 209 | in front of the mirror and say that you believe in yourself. | 在镜子前说,你相信自己。 |
| 210 | But if you live with somebody | 但如果你和别人住在一起 |
| 211 | who is constantly pulling you down, somebody who is reminding you of why you're not good | 不断把你拉下来的人 提醒你为什么你不好 |
| 212 | enough and why it won't work, at some point you're going to start to believe it. | 和为什么它不会工作, 在某个时候,你会开始相信它。 |
| 213 | That's | 这是 |
| 214 | the law of conformity. | 遵义之法. |
| 215 | If you hang out with nine recreational drug users, I've got news | 如果你和九个娱乐性吸毒者在一起 我有消息 |
| 216 | for you, you're most likely going to become the tenth. | 对你来说,你最有可能 成为第十。 |
| 217 | If you hang out with nine positive | 如果你和九个阳性在一起 |
| 218 | people that look at life through the lens of how we can, not why we can't, to hold up | 透过我们如何看待生命 而不是为什么不能 |
| 219 | a mirror for each other's greatness, to be midwives to each other's dreams instead of | 彼此的伟大之镜 成为彼此梦想的助产士 |
| 220 | them, you're likely going to become the tenth or you'll leave the environment. | 他们,你可能会 成为第十 否则你会离开环境。 |
| 221 | It's the | 这是 |
| 222 | 95% law, the law of conformity. | 95%的法律,符合法律。 |
| 223 | So how do we change that? | 那么,我们如何改变? |
| 224 | Well, there's three tips that | 嗯,有三个提示 |
| 225 | I want to share with you that will help turn this around. | 我想和大家分享一下 有助于扭转局面 |
| 226 | I'm a pretty simple guy, so I | 我是一个很简单的人,所以我 |
| 227 | want to give you some pretty simple tips. | 想给你一些很简单的提示 |
| 228 | I'm going to break it into three things. | 破为三事. |
| 229 | The | 那个 |
| 230 | first is stop putting the wrong things in. | 首先要停止放错东西 |
| 231 | You see, as I said, we are adaptation machines. | 正如我所说,我们是适应机器。 |
| 232 | Our bodies, our physical bodies adapt to our environment. | 我们的身体,我们的身体 适应我们的环境。 |
| 233 | We don't get to choose that. | 我们没有选择。 |
| 234 | We only get to choose the environment we put them in. | 我们只能选择我们给他们的环境。 |
| 235 | If it's the gym or McDonald's, the | 如果这是健身房或麦当劳, |
| 236 | body doesn't care, its job is to adapt. | 身体不在乎,它的工作是适应。 |
| 237 | But it's the same with our mind. | 但是我们的想法是一样的 |
| 238 | So stop putting | 所以别装了 |
| 239 | the wrong programming in. | 错误的编程。 |
| 240 | In other words, if you think of the two biggest things that | 换句话说,如果你想到两个最大的事情 |
| 241 | impact us unconsciously more than anything else, it's the mainstream media and our peer | 是主流媒体和我们的同伴 |
| 242 | group of who we hang with. | 和我们在一起的一群人 |
| 243 | Let's touch on the media for a second. | 让我们接触一下媒体。 |
| 244 | Now, for those of | 现在,对于那些 |
| 245 | you that still think that the mainstream media is about reporting the news, I've got news | 你仍然认为主流媒体 是报道新闻,我有消息 |
| 246 | for you. | 给你的 |
| 247 | You're in Disneyland. | 你在迪士尼乐园 |
| 248 | See, the job of the media is not to report the news, you're | 你看,媒体的工作 不报道新闻,你是 |
| 249 | kidding me. | 开什么玩笑 |
| 250 | The job of the mainstream media is to stimulate another part of the brain | 主流媒体的工作是刺激大脑的另一部分 |
| 251 | called the amygdala, which is designed evolutionarily to notice negative before positive so that | 叫做amygdala,它的设计是进化的,在阴性之前发现阴性,这样可以 |
| 252 | they can hook your attention out of the mass of the crowd and record you as a viewing statistic | 他们可以把注意力从人群中拉出来 把你记录成一个观看的统计 |
| 253 | to justify rate cards and advertising. | 说明收费卡和广告的理由。 |
| 254 | The media is not a charity. | 媒体不是慈善机构。 |
| 255 | So I haven't watched | 所以我没看 |
| 256 | a news report or read a newspaper for pretty much 17 years now. | 新闻报导 或阅读报纸 差不多17年了。 |
| 257 | For those of you that still | 对于你们这些仍然 |
| 258 | watch things like, is it CNN, constant negative news? | 经常看到负面新闻吗? |
| 259 | I've got news for you. | 我有一个消息给你。 |
| 260 | From what I understand, | 据我所知, |
| 261 | it's all the same news. | 这都是同样的新闻。 |
| 262 | It's the same news it was 17 years ago. | 这和17年前一样 |
| 263 | It's just happening to | 它只是发生 |
| 264 | different people. | 不同的人。 不同的人。 |
| 265 | And so you cannot watch the news and be positive. | 所以,你不能看新闻 和积极的。 |
| 266 | It's like saying, | 这就像说, |
| 267 | I want to be healthy and I smoke. | 我想保持健康,抽烟 |
| 268 | It just doesn't work. | 它只是没有工作。 |
| 269 | You can go to the gym as many | 你可以去健身房一样多 |
| 270 | times as you want, but if you're smoking, you can't be healthy. | 但是如果你抽烟,你就不能健康。 |
| 271 | It's a binary equation. | 二义方程. |
| 272 | And if you're being programmed by the mainstream media, you can't have that default magnetic | 如果你被主流媒体编程, 你不能有这种默认磁性 |
| 273 | north move away from being negative. | 向北移动 远离负面。 |
| 274 | It's constant programming. | 不断编程. |
| 275 | People say, well, how | 人们说,嗯,如何 |
| 276 | do you know what's going on in the world? | 你知道这世界上发生了什么吗? |
| 277 | I'm like, you're kidding me? | 开玩笑吧? |
| 278 | Yeah. | 对 |
| 279 | Everything's | 这一切都是 |
| 280 | going on in the world. | 继续世间. |
| 281 | A far better question would be, what do you want to choose to focus | 一个更好的问题是,你想选择什么 |
| 282 | on? | 继续? |
| 283 | Think of the Amazon rainforest at night. | 晚上想想亚马逊雨林 |
| 284 | Yeah, everything's going on. | 是啊,一切都发生了。 |
| 285 | But the media | 但媒体 |
| 286 | want to take your little flashlight in your hand and point it and say, oh my goodness, | 想要把你的小手电筒放在手里 指着它说,哦,我的上帝, |
| 287 | look at this. | 看看这个。 |
| 288 | It's a snake eating a rat versus you saying, yeah, but have a look at this | 是蛇吃老鼠对你说的 但看看这个 |
| 289 | hummingbird being born. | 蜂鸟诞生了 |
| 290 | So it's a choice. | 所以这是一个选择。 |
| 291 | So I have no clue what's going on in the world. | 故不知世间事. |
| 292 | I have every clue what's going on in my world. | 我知一切世间事. |
| 293 | And if something's important enough, it'll | 如果有重要的事发生的话 |
| 294 | find me. | 来找我。 |
| 295 | So stop programming yourself with why the world won't work and start taking | 所以,停止编程你自己 与为什么世界不会工作 并开始采取 |
| 296 | charge of where you point your flashlight. | 指向手电筒的位置 |
| 297 | Now the other thing is about peer group. | 现在另一件事是关于同伴团体。 |
| 298 | Now | 现在 |
| 299 | some people say, yeah, I could probably change my friends and some of us maybe should, but | 有些人说,是的,我也许可以 改变我的朋友,我们中的一些人也许应该,但 |
| 300 | I can't change my family. | 我无法改变我的家庭。 |
| 301 | Yeah, my brother's the most negative person I know. | 我哥哥是我认识的最消极的人 |
| 302 | My mother-in-law's | 我婆婆的书 |
| 303 | always telling me I'm not good enough for her son or whatever it may be. | 总是说,我不够好 给她的儿子或它可能是什么。 |
| 304 | Well, I know | 这我知道 |
| 305 | we can't change our family. | 我们不能改变我们的家庭。 |
| 306 | And looking at the reasons why you chose your parents is | 看看你选择你父母的原因 |
| 307 | another TED talk. | 另一个TED演讲。 |
| 308 | But the best advice I can give is love your family, choose your friends. | 但我能给最好的建议是爱你的家人 选择你的朋友 |
| 309 | Now the second thing, start putting the right things in. | 现在第二件事,开始把正确的东西放进去。 |
| 310 | Now we live in a time in society | 现在我们生活在社会的一个时代 |
| 311 | where there's so much great information, whether it's a podcast, whether it's inspirational | 这里有这么多伟大的信息, 无论是播客,还是灵感 |
| 312 | interviews, whether it's books or the lives of some of the people we looked at earlier. | 采访,无论是书,还是我们之前看到的一些人的生活. |
| 313 | Every single day or at least every single week, if you want to take your compass needle and start | 每一天或至少每星期 如果你想拿你的罗盘针开始 |
| 314 | remagnetizing it in a positive direction by exposing yourself to the kind of information | 通过让自己面对这种信息 重新放大它,朝积极的方向发展 |
| 315 | that supports your potential and your greatness and where you want to go. | 支持你的潜力和你的伟大 以及你想去的地方。 |
| 316 | There's no excuse for | 没有借口 |
| 317 | not being able to do that now in a society where it's so available. | 在一个社会里无法做到这一点 现在它是如此可用。 |
| 318 | But if you're not choosing to | 但是如果你没有选择 |
| 319 | do that, by default, you're going to be hooked into somebody else's agenda. | 这样做,默认,你会 迷上别人的日程。 |
| 320 | If you don't start | 如果你不开始 |
| 321 | filming as the star of the movie in your life, by default, you're going to end up as a film | 作为电影的主角 在你的生活中, 默认,你会结束 作为一部电影 |
| 322 | extra in somebody else's. | 额外在别人的。 |
| 323 | And then the third point, get the things that shouldn't be in there | 然后第三点,拿那些不该放在里面的东西 |
| 324 | out. | 出来。 |
| 325 | What do I mean by that? | 这是什么意思? |
| 326 | You know, work with a decent mentor or a coach that understands how | 要知道,工作 一个体面的导师或教练 理解如何 |
| 327 | to navigate the minefield of human behavior. | 导航人类行为的雷区。 |
| 328 | Somebody that isn't just going to teach you | 某个不会教你的人 |
| 329 | skills, but somebody that can reach in and find those unconscious patterns and be able to rip | 技术,但能伸手 找到那些无意识的图案 |
| 330 | them out for good. | 他们永远出去。 |
| 331 | I'll give you an example. | 举个例子 |
| 332 | I had a client come to me a while back who said, | 我之前有个客户来找我说 |
| 333 | I want to learn time management. | 我想学习时间管理。 |
| 334 | Now, a normal coach or what have you would probably teach them | 现在,一个正常的教练 或者你有什么可能教他们 |
| 335 | some good time management skills. | 一些良好的时间管理技能。 |
| 336 | But within two minutes, it was easy to see that time management | 但是在两分钟之内,很容易看到时间管理 |
| 337 | wasn't the issue. | 这不是问题所在。 |
| 338 | The real issue was his inability to deal with rejection. | 真正的问题是他无法处理拒绝的问题。 |
| 339 | And therefore, he was | 因此,他是 |
| 340 | saying, he wasn't saying no to people, because by saying no, it would trigger a rejection response. | 说,他不是说不 对人,因为说不,会触发拒绝的反应。 |
| 341 | And therefore, he was saying yes to too many things. | 因此,他答应了太多的事情。 |
| 342 | And therefore, there was too much on | 因此,这里太多 |
| 343 | his calendar. | 他的日历。 |
| 344 | And therefore, he thought he needed time management. | 因此,他认为他需要时间管理。 |
| 345 | You get the idea? | 明白了吗? |
| 346 | You see, when we're able to start addressing things like unconscious programming, when we start to | 你看,当我们能开始 处理诸如无意识编程, 当我们开始 |
| 347 | create the best habits that we can by programming ourselves consciously, when we start grabbing | 创造出最好的习惯,我们通过自觉编程, 当我们开始抓住 |
| 348 | that compass needle and bringing it over to the right direction so that the 95% of the time we're | 将罗盘针带到正确的方向 这样我们95%的时间 |
| 349 | sleeping awake, we're able to be who we need to be. | 睡醒了,我们可以成为我们需要的 |
| 350 | That's when we can start to achieve the real | 这时候我们可以开始实现真正的 |
| 351 | game in town, which is self mastery. | 游戏在城里,这是自我掌握。 |
| 352 | See, before you spend another penny on workshops or skills or | 你看,在你再花一分钱 用于工作坊或技能或 |
| 353 | anything, work on yourself. | 做点什么 做点什么 |
| 354 | See, mastering the game of self throughout human history has been the | 在整个人类历史中 掌握自我游戏 |
| 355 | number one recommendation of virtually everybody that achieved it and then preach the benefits of | 第一项建议是,几乎每个人都做到了这一点,然后宣传其好处。 |
| 356 | it to people that usually weren't listening. | 给那些通常不听的人 |
| 357 | But by mastering our sense of self, we're able to walk | 但是,通过掌握我们的自我意识,我们可以走路 |
| 358 | into a room where everything's descending into chaos and retain our center. | 进入一个房间 一切都陷入混乱 并保持我们的中心。 |
| 359 | When everything's | 当一切 |
| 360 | breaking down around us with the eye of the storm, it's like, move, I'll handle it. | 用暴风雨的眼光冲破我们, 它就像,移动,我会处理它。 |
| 361 | See, that's the | 你看,这是 |
| 362 | best way that you'll be able to handle uncertainty. | 最好的办法,你会 能够处理不确定性。 |
| 363 | And when we commit to self mastery, we give | 当我们致力于自我掌握,我们给予 |
| 364 | ourselves the best shot of becoming the best and greatest versions of ourselves that we can be. | 我们自己成为我们自己最好的和最伟大的版本的最好机会。 |
| 365 | And then we get to become the example and the invitation to others. | 然后我们就能成为榜样 和邀请他人。 |
| 366 | Not the imposition. | 不是强加。 |
| 367 | Nobody | 没有人 |
| 368 | changes because you tell them to. | 改变是因为你告诉他们。 |
| 369 | People change because they're inspired to change. | 人之所以变化,是因为他们受到变化的启发. |
| 370 | And we can | 我们可以 |
| 371 | inspire them by being the example and the invitation. | 通过成为榜样和邀请来激励他们。 |
| 372 | And at that point, we have a chance | 那时,我们有机会 |
| 373 | of being able to really make a change in this world. | 能够真正改变这个世界 |
| 374 | Make a difference, which is what the world | 改变世界 |
| 375 | needs right now. | 现在需要。 |
| 376 | And ultimately, be the embodiment of what Gandhi said, which was to be the change | 最终,成为甘地所言的化身 也就是改变 |
| 377 | you wish to see in the world. | 你想在这个世界看到。 |
| 378 | Thank you and God bless. | 谢谢上帝保佑你 |
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