TED演讲：20%夫妻正在经历"无性之困"，如何拯救当代婚姻
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| 时间 | 英文 | 中文 |
|---|---|---|
| 0:15 | It's been said if you never want to have sex again | 有人说如果你再也不想做爱了 |
| 0:19 | Get married | 结婚 |
| 0:22 | Sex is one of the most contentious issues in marriage today | 性是今天婚姻中最有争议的问题之一 |
| 0:27 | second only to finances | 仅次于财务 |
| 0:30 | There are many married couples that have not had sex for months even years | 有很多已婚夫妇连几个月都没有做爱 |
| 0:35 | And that's okay as long as they're okay with it and happily married | 只要他们能接受 幸福地结婚 |
| 0:40 | The problem arises when one person in the relationship wants sex and the other doesn't | 当关系上一个人想要做爱 而另一个人不想做爱时 就会出现问题 |
| 0:48 | According to a national newspaper survey of approximately 10,000 respondents mostly married men | 根据全国报纸对大约10 000名受访者的调查,大多数是已婚男子。 |
| 0:55 | 75% | |
| 0:58 | Were satisfied in their relationship, but more than 50% were dissatisfied with their sex lives | 两人的关系很满意,但超过50%的人对自己的性生活不满 |
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| 序号 | 英文 | 中文 |
|---|---|---|
| 1 | It's been said if you never want to have sex again | 有人说如果你再也不想做爱了 |
| 2 | Get married | 结婚 |
| 3 | Sex is one of the most contentious issues in marriage today | 性是今天婚姻中最有争议的问题之一 |
| 4 | second only to finances | 仅次于财务 |
| 5 | There are many married couples that have not had sex for months even years | 有很多已婚夫妇连几个月都没有做爱 |
| 6 | And that's okay as long as they're okay with it and happily married | 只要他们能接受 幸福地结婚 |
| 7 | The problem arises when one person in the relationship wants sex and the other doesn't | 当关系上一个人想要做爱 而另一个人不想做爱时 就会出现问题 |
| 8 | According to a national newspaper survey of approximately 10,000 respondents mostly married men | 根据全国报纸对大约10 000名受访者的调查,大多数是已婚男子。 |
| 9 | 75% | |
| 10 | Were satisfied in their relationship, but more than 50% were dissatisfied with their sex lives | 两人的关系很满意,但超过50%的人对自己的性生活不满 |
| 11 | We're having sex don't get me wrong. | 我们做爱不会错的 |
| 12 | We're just having sex at the wrong time and with the wrong people | 我们只是在错的时候和错人做爱 |
| 13 | I'll get to that later | 我待会再谈 |
| 14 | We're having sex before we get married ten years on average | 我们结婚前做爱 平均十年 |
| 15 | so we are effectively in a long-term relationship and | 因此,我们有效 在一个长期的关系, |
| 16 | Potentially quite sexually bored before we even mess up the marital bed and that has its consequences | 在搞砸婚床之前 可能会很厌倦性生活 |
| 17 | Most brides today do not have sex on their wedding nights and | 今天的新娘在结婚的夜晚没有做爱 |
| 18 | 50% of men would not have married their spouse had they known their marriage was going to be | 50%的男子如果知道自己的婚姻将会是 |
| 19 | sexless | 无性别 |
| 20 | So everybody wants to know just how much sex are married people having whether they are in | 所以每个人都想知道 有多少性爱是已婚的人 他们是否在 |
| 21 | Heterosexual relationships or same-sex unions you all want to know what's going on at the Jones's well not much | 异性恋关系或同性结合 你们都想知道 在琼斯的井里发生了什么 |
| 22 | Only about seven percent of married couples set the sheets ablaze | 只有约7%的已婚夫妇将床单点燃 |
| 23 | most married couples have sex a little bit more than once a week for the first decade of | 在前十年里,大多数已婚夫妇的性行为 每周略多于一次 |
| 24 | Their marriage it decreases after that so they have sex about 58 times a year and | 他们的婚姻会减少,所以他们每年约58次做爱 |
| 25 | 20% of | 占20% |
| 26 | marriages meet the criteria as a sexless marriage and that | 婚姻符合无性别婚姻的标准,以及 |
| 27 | Defined by the experts is sex less than ten times a year | 专家对性别的定义是每年不到10次 |
| 28 | So why aren't we having sex in our marriages? | 那为什么我们结婚时不做爱? |
| 29 | Well, there's a little known | 嗯,有一点已知 |
| 30 | chemical in the brain conveniently called PEA or P and it's responsible for | 化学物质在大脑中被称作PEA或P 它负责 |
| 31 | The elation the excitement and the euphoria that you feel when you meet somebody that you are | 当你遇到你这样的人时 激动和兴奋 |
| 32 | Sexually interested in it's a fantastic feeling this chemical is scorching through your blood vessels | 性上对它感兴趣 是一种奇妙的感觉 这种化学物质正在烧穿你的血管 |
| 33 | You are so happy. | 你真是太高兴了 |
| 34 | That's how powerful | 如此强大 |
| 35 | This little chemical is well what happens after two years that chemical | 这种小化学品是两年后发生的 |
| 36 | Diminishes as does sexual frequency | 迪米尼谢和性频率 |
| 37 | that's just about the time you might get married or may have conflict in your relationship and | 那时你可能要结婚 或者在恋爱中发生矛盾 |
| 38 | That is why communication is key to great sex | 这就是为什么沟通是大性的关键 |
| 39 | Now there's another reason we're not having sex in our relationship and that has to do with the sex education | 现在还有另一个原因 我们的关系没有发生性关系 这和性教育有关 |
| 40 | That we provide I'd like to share a story about myself | 我们提供的,我想分享关于我自己的故事 |
| 41 | When I was a teenager, my mother came racing into my bedroom and she said Maureen | 我十几岁的时候 我妈跑到我的卧室 她说莫琳 |
| 42 | Please tell me you have not allowed a boy to French kiss you | 请告诉我你不允许一个男孩亲你 |
| 43 | She was feeling terrible that this sex education came a bit late | 她觉得很糟,因为性教育来晚了一点 |
| 44 | I was feeling horrifically guilty as an Irish Catholic girl that I'd French kissed a number of boys | 作为一个爱尔兰天主教女孩,我感觉很内疚 我亲了几个男孩 |
| 45 | by that stage | 到那个阶段 |
| 46 | We teach girls and women that sex is dirty and sex is bad or it's overrated | 我们教女孩和妇女,性是脏的,性是坏的,或是被高估的 |
| 47 | We say you're just gonna get a sexually transmitted infection anyway, or you might get pregnant this whole fear-based thing | 我们说,你只是要去 性传染感染反正, 否则你可能会怀孕 这整个基于恐惧的事情 |
| 48 | Frightens women from enjoying sex and we never talk about pleasure | 让女人不敢享受性生活 我们从不谈论快乐 |
| 49 | with girls and women or orgasm and in fact some women say | 与女孩和妇女或高潮 事实上,一些妇女说 |
| 50 | Orgasm is not important and that the journey is just as good as the destination. | Orgasm并不重要,旅程也和目的地一样好. |
| 51 | I disagree | 我不这么认为 |
| 52 | Of course, I'm the one who French kissed all the boys as an Irish Catholic girl | 当然,我是一个法国吻 所有男孩作为一个爱尔兰天主教女孩 |
| 53 | It's like getting on a train | 就像上火车一样 |
| 54 | With your lover and you are going to the most pleasurable place on the planet. | 与你的爱人,你要去 最愉快的地方在地球上。 |
| 55 | You are so excited | 你这么兴奋 |
| 56 | You're getting lubed up with all the free drinks they're giving you this is amazing and | 你被他们给你的免费饮料弄得一团糟 |
| 57 | Just before you reach your destination | 就在你到达目的地之前 |
| 58 | He gets off and you don't | 他下车了,你不下车 |
| 59 | You get my point | 你明白我的意思了吗? |
| 60 | Now the sex education we have for boys and men that's entirely different. | 现在我们对男孩和男人的性教育是完全不同的。 |
| 61 | It's a global program | 这是一个全球方案 |
| 62 | It's free. | 自由无碍. |
| 63 | It's accessible to everybody and it's known as | 人人都可以访问它,它被称为 |
| 64 | internet pornography | 互联网色情制品 |
| 65 | Fantastic and it does nothing to teach men and boys about intimacy | 好极了 教男人和男孩亲近一点也没用 |
| 66 | Which is really important to men and boys or how to make love to anybody | 这对男人和男孩都很重要 或者对任何人做爱 |
| 67 | also | (单位:千美元) |
| 68 | We have a paucity of information about sexual health for our LGBTQ I | 我们的LGBTQ I的性健康信息很少 |
| 69 | Community and we need to add to that | 社区与我们需要增加 |
| 70 | Now marriage can rapidly go from a holy matrimony to holy hell with the finances the kids the houses | 现在婚姻可以迅速从神圣的婚姻走向神圣的地狱 与财政 孩子们,房子 |
| 71 | The illness, I mean you may have signed up for sickness and health, but that was long before you'd ever witnessed a man cold | 疾病,我的意思是,你可能已经报名 疾病和健康, 但这是很久以前,你曾经看到一个男人寒冷 |
| 72 | And and how about that richer or poorer thing ladies? | 怎么样 富人或贫穷的事情 女士们? |
| 73 | We're gonna have to start going for richer | 我们要开始更富有了 |
| 74 | Most women today are working inside and outside of the home | 今天,大多数妇女在家庭内外工作 |
| 75 | We're doing the lion's share of the housework because according to research men don't feel they're that good at it and we're | 我们正在做狮子的家务 因为根据研究 男人不觉得他们很擅长,我们是 |
| 76 | Bridging the gap between growing children and aging parents | 缩小儿童与老年父母之间的差距 |
| 77 | We are exhausted doing it all and never doing it. | 我们精疲力尽 做这一切,从来没有做到这一点。 |
| 78 | And when we are doing it, we're checking our smartphones | 当我们这样做,我们检查 我们的智能手机 |
| 79 | Ten percent of people check their smartphones during sex | 10%的人在做爱时检查智能手机 |
| 80 | 35% | |
| 81 | immediately afterward | 紧接着 |
| 82 | We are | 我们是 |
| 83 | connected to the internet | 与互联网连接 |
| 84 | We are connected to the internet and | 我们连上了互联网 |
| 85 | disconnected from our would-be lovers | 和我们未来的情人断绝关系 |
| 86 | Maybe this is the reason that the most common sex position for married couples is | 也许这就是为什么 已婚夫妇最常见的性别地位是 |
| 87 | doggy style | 狗的样式 |
| 88 | No, no, no, it's not what you're thinking get your minds out of the gutter | 不,不,不,这不是你想的 让你的思想走出沟壑 |
| 89 | This is the one where he's on all fours and begs and she plays dead | 这是他四人行走,乞求,她装死 |
| 90 | I have a clinical practice where I see patients that have sexual dysfunction and there are two questions that I ask everybody and | 我有一个临床实践,在那里我看到病人 有性功能障碍, 还有两个问题,我问每个人, |
| 91 | The first one is are you sexually active? | 第一个是你性活跃吗? |
| 92 | It's obvious and | 很明显 |
| 93 | When I ask women they never say yes or no. | 当我问女人,她们从来不说是或否。 |
| 94 | Well, they never say yes, but they never say yes or no | 好吧,他们从来没有说是,但他们从来没有说是或否 |
| 95 | They say | 他们说 |
| 96 | Sometimes sort of I'm not sure | 有时我不确定 |
| 97 | he is or | 他是或者说 |
| 98 | they say I'm | 他们说我 |
| 99 | Married I say well that means no to me. | 结婚我说得好, 这意味着不对我来说。 |
| 100 | They say yes, you're right. | 他们说是的 你说的对 |
| 101 | It is no | 没有 |
| 102 | most men | 大多数男人 |
| 103 | Complained that women never initiate sex | 抱怨妇女从未开始性行为 |
| 104 | The reason for this is because once again the sex education we provide to women | 原因是我们再次向妇女提供性教育 |
| 105 | women falsely believe | 女人们都不相信 |
| 106 | that female sexual interests desire | 女性性利益欲达到的目的 |
| 107 | precedes sexual activity when in actuality it | 性活动发生前 |
| 108 | Is sexual activity that prompts sexual interest and desire? | 性活动引起性兴趣和欲望吗? |
| 109 | sexual arousal emerges as a result of | 性兴奋因 |
| 110 | sexual activity | 性活动 |
| 111 | so you guys I know | 所以你们我知道 |
| 112 | Intimacy is important to you | 亲近对你很重要 |
| 113 | the most important question that reflects this that I received from you is | 我从你那里收到的最重要的问题 |
| 114 | How much masturbation is too much masturbation? | 多少自慰太过自慰? |
| 115 | so I | 所以说 |
| 116 | Just say well as long as you can go to work you should you should be fine | 只要说得好,只要你可以去工作,你应该没事 |
| 117 | And then I realize | 然后我意识到 |
| 118 | That that's perhaps all that you're doing at work | 也许这就是你在工作中所做的一切 |
| 119 | so I | 所以说 |
| 120 | Know intimacy is important. | 了解亲密关系很重要。 |
| 121 | You want to come home and you want to make love to your wife if you're in a heterosexual relationship | 你想回家 想和你妻子做爱 如果你有异性恋关系 |
| 122 | so after a long and | 过了很久 |
| 123 | Quite possibly very hard day | 可能很难熬 |
| 124 | You come home to a bit of chaos perhaps | 你回家也许有点混乱 |
| 125 | But you've just got sex on the mind and she says did you remember the milk and you're like darn the milk | 但你脑子里只有性 她说你记得牛奶 你就像该死的牛奶 |
| 126 | I forgot the milk | 我忘了带牛奶 |
| 127 | Don't beat yourselves up about it. | 别自欺欺人 |
| 128 | If not for the milk. | 若不为乳. |
| 129 | We have Facebook | 我们有脸书 |
| 130 | Hormones, I'm feeling a little tired tonight. | 荷尔蒙 今晚我有点累了 |
| 131 | Okay, my stomach's sticking out. | 好吧,我的胃的坚持了。 |
| 132 | I'm feeling kind of fat. | 我感觉有点胖 |
| 133 | Can't do it tonight | 今晚办不到 |
| 134 | Didn't we have sex last month and you're like that was actually last year | 上个月我们不是做爱了吗 你就像去年一样 |
| 135 | You don't get it. | 你不明白这一点。 |
| 136 | I mean literally you don't get it, but you're like she's amazing | 我的意思是,字面上你不明白, 但你像她惊人 |
| 137 | She's works in and outside of the home. | 在家内外作业. |
| 138 | She does a great job with the kids. | 她和孩子们相处得很好 |
| 139 | She volunteers | 她自愿参加 |
| 140 | She even has time for girls nights out | 她晚上有时间泡妞 |
| 141 | I brought a friend home after one such girls night out as we approached her house | 我带一个朋友回家 在一个这样的女孩晚上 当我们接近她的房子 |
| 142 | Drove up. | 举拂子曰. |
| 143 | She looked up to her bedroom window saw that the lights were on and she said, uh | 她看着她的卧室窗户看到灯亮着 她说 |
| 144 | Donnie's waiting up for me. | 唐尼等着我呢 |
| 145 | Do me a favor drive around the block a few times | 帮我兜圈子好几次 |
| 146 | Until the light goes out. | 直至灯灭. |
| 147 | I said listen | 我说听 |
| 148 | You get in there and make love to your husband before somebody else does | 你进入那里,和你的丈夫做爱 比别人做 |
| 149 | Because that is one thing that will increase a woman's sexual desire when someone else wants her man | 因为当别人想要男人时 女人的性欲就会增加 |
| 150 | still unconvinced | 还是没有说服力 |
| 151 | she said I | 她说我 |
| 152 | Decided to extol the health and beauty benefits that sex has for a woman a | 决定赞美性对女性的健康和美感 |
| 153 | youthful glow | 年轻的光芒 |
| 154 | better sleep | 睡个好觉 |
| 155 | wrinkle free skin | 皱纹自由皮肤 |
| 156 | Keep driving. | 继续开车 |
| 157 | She said there is a device that will increase anybody's sexual desire and that happens to be the Mercedes Benz | 她说,有一个装置会增加任何人的性欲 而且碰巧是奔驰奔驰 |
| 158 | Format a convertible SL and it comes in 64 colors | 格式化可转换 SL, 它以64 种颜色出现 |
| 159 | But if that doesn't do it the desire to have a baby will rev up any woman's sex drive | 但是如果这样不行 想要一个孩子的欲望 就会让任何女人的性欲回升 |
| 160 | The problem is having that baby is likely to kill it along with any marital eroticism a couple may have had | 问题在于,如果孩子生下来 很可能会与任何婚姻色情行为同时发生 |
| 161 | because a lot of people believe that | 因为很多人相信 |
| 162 | motherhood and being sexual is | 母性与性爱 |
| 163 | incongruous | 不和谐 |
| 164 | John John跟踪我上了LinkedIn 两年 才鼓起勇气 | |
| 165 | To make an appointment about his sexless marriage | 预约他的无性婚姻 |
| 166 | He'd been married for seven years and they had never consummated the relationship | 他已经结婚七年了 他们从未结过婚 |
| 167 | Their parents were pressuring them to have | 他们的父母在给他们压力 |
| 168 | Children because they wanted grandchildren when they came into my clinical practice | 孩子们来我临床时想要孙子 |
| 169 | The second question that I ask everybody that enters my clinical practice most unfortunately is have you ever experienced? | 我最不幸地问到所有进入我临床实践的人 第二个问题是 你有没有经历过? |
| 170 | sexual abuse or | 性虐待或性虐待 |
| 171 | Unwanted sexual advances as a child | 小时候不想要的性进步 |
| 172 | This was the first time this gentleman had learned that his wife had experienced sexual abuse as a six year old at the hands | 这是这位先生第一次得知 他的妻子在手上六岁时遭受性虐待 |
| 173 | Of her best friend's father | 她最好的朋友的父亲 |
| 174 | She thought sex was dirty. | 她认为性是肮脏的。 |
| 175 | She hated sex | 她讨厌做爱 |
| 176 | We need a worldwide moratorium on ending sexual violence on our children boys and girls because it happens to both | 我们需要全世界暂停终止对男童和女童的性暴力,因为这两种情况都是如此。 |
| 177 | healing from sexual abuse | 治疗性虐待 |
| 178 | Takes a lifetime | 一辈子 |
| 179 | Ella had lived a lifetime a | 艾拉一生都过着 |
| 180 | widow | 寡妇 |
| 181 | She said she wasn't sexually active, but she hoped to be I thought fantastic | 她说她没有性活动,但她希望成为我 觉得很棒 |
| 182 | Somebody is going to have sex here, but she said the problem Maureen is | 有人会在这里做爱, 但她说问题莫琳是 |
| 183 | That these old guys can't get it up anymore. | 这些老家伙再也受不了了 |
| 184 | I said well Ella you might have to go for a younger guy | 我说好,艾拉,你可能得去找一个年轻人 |
| 185 | She said what's younger when you're 84? | 她说你84岁时更年轻? |
| 186 | 70 the | 70个 |
| 187 | Yes | 对 |
| 188 | Yes, some of you are saying the hard truth is | 是的,你们有些人说 很难的事实是, |
| 189 | That men in their 30s and 40s may experience erectile dysfunction | 30到40岁的男人 可能会出现勃起障碍 |
| 190 | Ella is going to have to go for a millennial | 艾拉得去一个千年 |
| 191 | So you're all probably thinking what's the big deal? | 你们可能都在想这有什么大不了的? |
| 192 | Why treat my erectile dysfunction? | 为什么治疗我的勃起功能障碍? |
| 193 | Well, I liken the penis to a plane if the pilot can't get the plane up in the air and keep the plane | 好吧,我把阴茎比作飞机 如果飞行员不能让飞机升空,保持飞机 |
| 194 | In the air for the entire trip was probably a problem with the engine | 整个旅程在空中 可能是引擎的问题 |
| 195 | So if you can't get your penis up and keep it up for the entire sexual experience | 所以,如果你不能得到你的阴茎 保持它的整个性经验 |
| 196 | There's likely a problem with your engine. | 你的引擎可能有问题 |
| 197 | Well, that's your heart | 那是你的心脏 |
| 198 | Erectile dysfunction is the canary in the coal mine and it may signify | 功能障碍是煤矿中的金丝雀 它可能意味着 |
| 199 | Cardiovascular disease it may also indicate | 心血管疾病,也可能是 |
| 200 | Diabetes so these two medical conditions in addition to low testosterone stress | 除了睾丸酮应激性低之外,还有糖尿病 |
| 201 | Substance use and abuse | 药物使用和滥用 |
| 202 | excessive alcohol consumption | 饮酒过量 |
| 203 | unresolved conflict | 未解决的冲突 |
| 204 | Financial issues all of those may contribute to low sexual desire and you may end up in a sexless marriage | 经济问题 所有这些都可能导致性欲低落 你可能最终陷入无性婚姻 |
| 205 | George presented to my clinical practice at age 40. | George40岁时给我的临床实践介绍. |
| 206 | He decided to settle down | 他决定安顿下来 |
| 207 | He was marrying a beautiful and accomplished woman in a few months. | 几个月后他娶了一个美丽而有成就的女人 |
| 208 | There's only one problem | 只有一个问题 |
| 209 | George was gay | 乔治是同性恋 |
| 210 | George | 乔治 |
| 211 | Could not bear to tell his family that he was gay | 不敢告诉他家人他是同性恋 |
| 212 | Because he felt it would have shamed the entire family. | 因为他觉得这会让全家蒙羞 |
| 213 | I said George you're going to end up in a sexless marriage | 我说乔治,你终究会陷入无性婚姻 |
| 214 | He said tell me something. | 他说告诉我 |
| 215 | I don't know | 我不知道,你觉得呢? |
| 216 | So George said to me his plan was this | 所以乔治跟我说他的计划是 |
| 217 | Well when my parents die | 当我的父母死了 |
| 218 | I'm then going to divorce this woman and I'm going to marry the man that I love and I said George | 然后我要和这个女人离婚 我要和我爱的男人结婚 我说乔治 |
| 219 | You are not thinking straight | 你脑子不清醒 |
| 220 | The | 那个 |
| 221 | Sex is the barometer of the state of affairs in a marriage | 性是婚姻状态的晴雨表 |
| 222 | People who live in sexless marriages report feeling frustrated | 生活在无性婚姻中的人表示感到沮丧 |
| 223 | unloved | 无爱 |
| 224 | undesirable | 不受欢迎 |
| 225 | unattractive and the worst of all lonely and | 没有吸引力 最糟糕的孤独和 |
| 226 | Loneliness has been shown to increase | 孤独度有所上升 |
| 227 | Vascular resistance and elevate blood pressure and lead to an early death | 血压升高并导致早死 |
| 228 | You are more likely to die from loneliness than you are from obesity or excessive alcohol consumption | 比起肥胖或酒精消费过度 你更有可能死于孤独 |
| 229 | When I educate women and I say if you're not having sex with your husband | 当我教育女人,我说如果你没有和你丈夫发生性关系 |
| 230 | Someone else may | 可能还有别人 |
| 231 | They get upset and they say that I'm blaming women for men's bad behavior | 他们生气了 他们说我怪女人的坏行为 |
| 232 | When in actuality, I'm doing a community service | 其实我是在做社区服务 |
| 233 | You see men in sexless marriages | 你看到男人在无性婚姻中 |
| 234 | Cheat to remain in that marriage in general and women cheat to leave a sexless marriage and | 欺骗性地留在婚姻中 女人欺骗离开无性婚姻 |
| 235 | Women cheat too. | 女人也骗人 |
| 236 | Nobody ever thinks we do we're just sneakier about it. | 没有人认为我们这样做 我们只是偷偷摸摸的。 |
| 237 | We just don't get caught | 我们只是不会被抓 |
| 238 | We're socialized very differently. | 我们的社会化非常不同。 |
| 239 | This is one thing we have on you guys | 这是你们身上有的 |
| 240 | women cheat with other men and women cheat with other women and | 女人跟男人作弊 女人跟女人作弊 |
| 241 | Technology has made cheating accessible for everybody from the politician to the stay-at-home parent | 技术让政客们和家里的家长们 都能利用欺骗 |
| 242 | That quick swipe right can lead to an online | 那个快速的刷子右转可以导致在线 |
| 243 | passionate love affair from texting to sexting to secret phone conversations | 从发短信到色情到秘密电话交谈 |
| 244 | The more two people communicate online the more likely an in-person encounter will occur | 在网上交流的人越多 就越有可能发生面对面的相遇 |
| 245 | But you can always blame your genes | 但你总能怪你的基因 |
| 246 | The gene DN4n has been isolated in cheaters and the sexless marriage | DN4n基因被隔离在骗子和无性婚姻中 |
| 247 | Just the environment to turn on that gene it's based on a system of pleasure and reward | 只有环境可以打开基因 它基于一个快乐和奖励的系统 |
| 248 | The stakes are high the reward substantial. | 利害关系重大 回报重大。 |
| 249 | It is the perfect cocktail | 这是完美的鸡尾酒 |
| 250 | To turn that love drug back on PEA and the cycle begins again | 把爱的药重新用在PEA上 循环重新开始 |
| 251 | historically | 历史上 |
| 252 | Marriage was not based on | 婚姻并非基于 |
| 253 | Mutual love but rather it was an institution to acquire of all things in-laws | 彼此相爱,而是一种制度 获得一切的姻亲 |
| 254 | Property and | 财产和 |
| 255 | physical labor but at the turn of the 20th century in America | 体力劳动,但到了20世纪之交 |
| 256 | egalitarian ideals and the emerging Hollywood movie industry | 平等的理想和新兴的好莱坞影业 |
| 257 | Burdened marriages with promising romantic love forever, and now we're living forever | 婚姻充满了充满希望的浪漫爱情 现在我们永远活着 |
| 258 | Fantastic. | 厉害 |
| 259 | Congratulations. | 祝贺你 |
| 260 | You get to have sex with the same person for the rest of your life | 一辈子都和同一个人做爱 |
| 261 | The second most common question that I hear from patients is when does sex end? | 我从病人那里听到的第二个常见问题是 性何时结束? |
| 262 | Well a 44 year old asked me he said when does sex end Maureen 65 I answered him this way a 22 year old | 一个44岁的人问我 他说什么时候性爱结束 莫琳65 我这样回答他 一个22岁的人 |
| 263 | Asked me when does sex end Maureen 35 everybody's older until you get there | 问我性爱什么时候结束 莫琳35岁了,直到你到那里 |
| 264 | I'm here to tell you that sex never ends if you're healthy you can have a | 我是来告诉你 如果你健康的话 性爱永远不会结束 |
| 265 | you're healthy you can have a great sex life well into your 80s and | 你身体健康 80多岁就能过上伟大的性生活了 |
| 266 | 90s | 90s (英语). |
| 267 | Sex is good for you | 性对你有好处 |
| 268 | Sex is healthy yet sex is shrouded in shame in the ancient aristocracies | 性是健康的,而性却被遮蔽在 古代贵族的耻辱中 |
| 269 | The wealthy men had courtesans for pleasure and concubines for quick sex in the way. | 富人有礼,以乐为乐,妾以快性为道. |
| 270 | We're going | 我们要走了 |
| 271 | Computers will be our concubines | 电脑是我们的妾 |
| 272 | Internet pornography our mistress of the day | 互联网色情 我们的情妇的一天 |
| 273 | Technology is fast replacing human connection at high speed | 技术快速取代了人类高速连接 |
| 274 | So how do you rev up the sexless marriage? | 所以,你如何恢复 无性婚姻? |
| 275 | Sex is about blood flow | 性爱是血流 |
| 276 | Sexercise | 性别 |
| 277 | Every day you want to have a daily workout. | 你每天都想每天锻炼一下 |
| 278 | It increases your agility your stamina | 它会增强你的敏捷性 你的敏捷性 |
| 279 | Women will experience more sexual sensation | 女人会有更多性感觉 |
| 280 | When blood is flowing to the genitalia it also helps to treat erectile dysfunction | 当血液流入生殖器时,它也帮助治疗勃起功能障碍 |
| 281 | Also get help for any of the sexual dysfunctions you may have | 还要为你的性功能障碍寻求帮助 |
| 282 | Vaginal dryness it's an issue that happens to women who have who are on the oral contraceptive pill who are breastfeeding | 阴道干燥是口服避孕药的妇女哺乳时遇到的问题 |
| 283 | Perimenopausal postmenopausal and there are treatments for you pay more attention to your spouse than you do your smartphone | 后经期后期的Perimenopausal 和有治疗 你更关注你的配偶 比做你的智能手机 |
| 284 | Spend more time in your bedrooms than you do your boardrooms or your bedrooms are going to become boardrooms | 在卧室里花更多的时间 比你做你的董事会或你的卧室 会变成董事会 |
| 285 | Deal with your marital issues | 处理你的婚姻问题 |
| 286 | Go to sleep in the same bed at the same time and don't bring anything or anyone into your marriage | 在同一时间睡在同一个床上 不要带任何东西或任何人进入你的婚姻 |
| 287 | Except for a great sex toy and a darn good sex therapist | 除了一个很棒的性玩具和一个优秀的性治疗师 |
| 288 | You must establish guidelines that govern those moments when you are struck by someone's attractiveness | 你必须制定准则 来指导你被别人的吸引力所打击的那一刻 |
| 289 | outside of your marriage | 在你的婚姻之外 |
| 290 | But don't think for a second that you have to have sex with the same person for the rest of your life | 但别以为一辈子都得和同一个人做爱 |
| 291 | That's not what I mean in your mind. | 你心里不是这个意思 |
| 292 | That is | 这是 |
| 293 | Fantasy is key | 最终幻想是关键 |
| 294 | Your brain is your largest sex organ and one more thing. | 你的大脑是最大的性器官 还有一件事 |
| 295 | I would like to leave you all off with a bang | 我想把你们都抛在一边 |
| 296 | Settle all marital arguments in the bedroom naked | 在卧室裸体解决所有婚姻争论 |
| 297 | Settle all marital arguments in the bedroom. Naked | 在卧室里解决所有婚姻争论 裸体 |
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