哭泣其实有着振夺心情的力量
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| 0:04 | According to the American Academy of Ophthalmology, we create 15 to 30 gallons of tears a year. | 根据美国眼科学院,我们每年创造15到30加仑的眼泪. |
| 0:11 | I am what you would call a high-volume producer. | 我是你们所谓的高产量制片人 |
| 0:14 | Now, even though we do create less tears as we age, I figure by the time I'm 80, I will | 现在,尽管我们创造的眼泪随着年龄的增长减少, 我估计当我80岁的时候,我会 |
| 0:20 | have filled up 40 average-sized bathtubs. | 已经填满40个平均大小的浴缸。 |
| 0:23 | Now, crying in my early years? | 现在,哭在我早年? |
| 0:25 | Not something I would brag about. | 我不会吹嘘的 |
| 0:27 | When I was five, I thought it was a good idea to practice writing my name on the side of | 五岁时,我认为这是一个好主意 练习写我的名字在侧面 |
| 0:31 | the house. | 那个房子 |
| 0:32 | Outside the house. | 户外. |
| 0:33 | Mama didn't agree with me much. | 妈妈不太同意我的看法 |
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| 1 | According to the American Academy of Ophthalmology, we create 15 to 30 gallons of tears a year. | 根据美国眼科学院,我们每年创造15到30加仑的眼泪. |
| 2 | I am what you would call a high-volume producer. | 我是你们所谓的高产量制片人 |
| 3 | Now, even though we do create less tears as we age, I figure by the time I'm 80, I will | 现在,尽管我们创造的眼泪随着年龄的增长减少, 我估计当我80岁的时候,我会 |
| 4 | have filled up 40 average-sized bathtubs. | 已经填满40个平均大小的浴缸。 |
| 5 | Now, crying in my early years? | 现在,哭在我早年? |
| 6 | Not something I would brag about. | 我不会吹嘘的 |
| 7 | When I was five, I thought it was a good idea to practice writing my name on the side of | 五岁时,我认为这是一个好主意 练习写我的名字在侧面 |
| 8 | the house. | 那个房子 |
| 9 | Outside the house. | 户外. |
| 10 | Mama didn't agree with me much. | 妈妈不太同意我的看法 |
| 11 | She handed me a toothbrush and said, here, scrub. | 她递了牙刷给我,说,在这里,擦洗。 |
| 12 | So I did. | 所以我就这么做了 So I did. |
| 13 | I'd sit at the dining room table for what seemed like an eternity. | 我会坐在餐厅的桌子上 做一个永恒的事情 |
| 14 | I didn't want to eat my vegetables. | 我不想吃我的蔬菜。 |
| 15 | You probably know the feeling. | 你可能知道这种感觉。 |
| 16 | I'd miss all my favorite shows and cry like crazy. | 我会怀念我最喜欢的节目 哭得像疯子 |
| 17 | Crying was always associated with something bad. | 哭总是和坏事有关 |
| 18 | Fortunately, I grew up. | 幸好我长大了 |
| 19 | I stopped writing on the walls, started eating my vegetables, and I entered the wonderful | 我不再写在墙上,开始吃我的蔬菜, 我进入了美妙的 |
| 20 | world of motherhood. | 母亲的世界。 |
| 21 | And let me tell you, crying takes on a whole new meaning. | 让我告诉你,哭有全新的意义 |
| 22 | I was nine months pregnant, and I was sitting on the couch, looking at the front door where | 我怀孕九个月, 我坐在沙发上,看着前门 |
| 23 | my bags were packed, waiting for me, because I was hopeful that today would be the day. | 我的行李都打包好了 等着我 因为我希望今天是那一天 |
| 24 | I settle in a little bit more, and I think to myself, you know, we could put humans into | 我稍稍安顿下来,我想自己,你知道, 我们可以把人类投入 |
| 25 | space, but we can't seem to figure out when a baby will be born. | 空间,但我们似乎不知道 婴儿何时出生。 |
| 26 | And then I feel this pressure build up in my chest. | 然后,我感觉到压力 积聚在我的胸口。 |
| 27 | My throat get really tight, and I just burst into tears. | 我的喉咙很紧, 我突然流泪。 |
| 28 | And you know what? | 你知道吗? |
| 29 | I had no idea why. | 我不知道为什么 |
| 30 | And not knowing why at the time, well, that just got me more upset. | 也不知道当时为什么 那让我更难过 |
| 31 | So I eventually was just upset for being upset. | 我最终因为不高兴而心烦意乱 |
| 32 | I took a deep breath, and I let it out, thought that would help. | 我深呼吸了,我说出来,觉得这样会有用 |
| 33 | But no, it didn't. | 但是没有 |
| 34 | Then my brother walks in with his smirky grin, and he says to me, what's wrong with you? | 然后我哥哥笑着走进来 他对我说,你怎么了? |
| 35 | I said nothing, just leave me alone. | 我什么都没说 别烦我 |
| 36 | And he did. | 而且他确实这么做了 |
| 37 | He ran as fast as he could. | 他跑得尽可能快 |
| 38 | And you know what I did when he left. | 你知道他走的时候我做了什么 |
| 39 | I cried even harder. | 我哭得更厉害了 |
| 40 | I was ashamed and embarrassed, just like when I was a kid. | 我感到羞愧和尴尬 就像小时候一样 |
| 41 | Now, lucky for me, I only had to look at that bag sitting by the front door for another | 现在,我走运了,我只好看着坐在前门边的袋子 换了另一个 |
| 42 | nine days, right before my expected day to delivery. | 9天,就在我预期的交货日期之前 |
| 43 | And finally, my body said it was time. | 最后,我的身体说这是时间。 |
| 44 | And after 18 hours of feeling, my body tried to expel this little human that weighed about | 经过18小时的感受,我的身体试图驱逐 这个小人类的重量 |
| 45 | the size of a bowling ball. | 和保龄球一样大 |
| 46 | And hours of pushing so hard that I thought for sure this baby was stuck within a heartbeat. | 数小时的推力 以至于我以为这个孩子被卡在心跳中 |
| 47 | My beautiful baby girl, Jennifer, entered the world. | 我美丽的宝贝女儿珍妮弗进入了这个世界. |
| 48 | And I looked at her, and she cried, and then I just cried. | 我看着她,她哭了,然后我就哭了。 |
| 49 | All of that emotion and pressure that I had inside just seconds before was immediately | 刚才我内心的情感和压力 都立刻 |
| 50 | replaced with the most joyous sense of relief that I had ever felt. | 换成我曾经感受到的最快乐的解脱感 |
| 51 | And after nine months of crying over these fears and anxieties and crazy out-of-control | 在为这些恐惧和焦虑 以及疯狂的失控哭泣了九个月之后 |
| 52 | hormones, that was instantaneously transformed into the deepest, most heartfelt, happiest | 荷尔蒙,被瞬间转化成 最深,最衷心,最快乐的 |
| 53 | cry of my life. | 呼唤着我的生活。 |
| 54 | And I had no control. | 我无法控制 |
| 55 | Those really hard tears, those happy tears, those overwhelming joyful tears, they had | 那些真的硬的眼泪, 那些快乐的眼泪, 那些令人高兴的眼泪, 他们有 |
| 56 | nowhere to go but out. | 没有别的地方可去 除了出去。 |
| 57 | And it was those tears, that moment, that incredible high, that inspired me to birth | 正是那些眼泪,那一刻, 那不可思议的高, 激励着我诞生 |
| 58 | three more little miracles and start to help others have their own. | 三个小奇迹 开始帮助别人拥有自己的 |
| 59 | I became a childbirth educator, and I started a whole new relationship with tears. | 我成为了一名分娩教育家,我用眼泪开始了全新的关系. |
| 60 | It was early in my 30 years of teaching, I had a class touch my heart like no other. | 早在我30年的教学中, 我有一个班级 触摸我的心像其他。 |
| 61 | The topic for the night, emotions of pregnancy, go figure. | 晚上的话题 怀孕的情绪 想想看 |
| 62 | And it was important for the class to first learn about the emotional changes and responses | 班级必须先了解情绪的变化和反应 |
| 63 | during pregnancy, and how when we cry, it can feel like the body's trying to push out | 在怀孕期间,当我们哭的时候, 感觉好像身体想推出来 |
| 64 | that extra emotion, almost like it's processing what it can't hold inside, like an exhaust | 那种额外的情感, 几乎像它处理什么 它不能持有里面, 像排气 |
| 65 | port for extreme feelings of sadness, joy, or even relief after days, years of anticipation | 充满悲伤、欢乐甚至解脱的极端情感的港湾, |
| 66 | of that one magical moment. | 那个神奇的时刻 |
| 67 | It can literally feel like your body is squeezing out all that emotion in the form of water | 感觉好像你的身体 挤出所有的情感 水的形式 |
| 68 | coming from our eyes, our tears. | 从我们的眼睛,我们的眼泪。 |
| 69 | Now tears were always expected during my classes, not mine this time, the new mom's. | 我上课时总是会流眼泪 这次不是我,是新妈妈的 |
| 70 | And this night and this class, it was way different. | 今夜和这个班级 都不一样了 |
| 71 | I had just finished talking about the emotional changes of pregnancy, and I went in to talk | 我刚刚说完怀孕的情绪变化 我进去谈谈 |
| 72 | about the couvade syndrome. | 关于库瓦德综合症。 |
| 73 | Now the word couvade comes from a French term couvert, which means two broods, similar to | 现在库瓦德一词来源于一个法语术语couvert,意思是两个broods,类似于 |
| 74 | birds protecting a nest. | 鸟类保护巢穴. |
| 75 | Well, who better to protect this nest than the expecting mother's partner? | 谁比期待的母亲的伴侣更能保护这个巢穴? |
| 76 | Also called a sympathetic pregnancy, the couvade syndrome is a real life phenomenon where the | 也叫同情性怀孕 库瓦德综合症是一种真实生活现象 |
| 77 | non-pregnant partner can take on pregnancy characteristics like mood swings, loss of | 非怀孕伴侣可以承担怀孕的特征,如情绪波动,失去 |
| 78 | sleep, weight gain, and for some, a really intense drive to do something new and unexpected | 睡眠,体重增加, 和一些, 一个非常激烈的驱动 做一些新的和意想不到的事情 |
| 79 | like buy a new sports car or start a new hobby like gourmet cooking. | 比如买辆新的运动车 或者开始做美食烹饪之类的新爱好 |
| 80 | The class usually laughs a little bit after that and that's it. | 课中通常会笑到后面一点,就是这样. |
| 81 | We end the night, but it didn't end there. | 我们结束了夜晚,但它没有结束在那里。 |
| 82 | When I finished my sentence, this big, burly father-to-be stands up, and I thought for | 当我完成我的句子, 这个大的, 粗糙的父亲要站起来, 我想 |
| 83 | sure he was leaving. | 他肯定要离开 |
| 84 | But instead, in a really gruff, commanding way, he says, all right, you guys, how many | 但是,实际上, 在一个真正的烦恼,指挥的方式, 他说,好吧,你们,有多少 |
| 85 | of you have cried during this thing? | 你们有哭过吗? |
| 86 | You know her pregnancy. | 你知道她的怀孕情况。 |
| 87 | I scan the class to make sure everybody was OK. | 我扫描了课堂,以确保大家没事。 |
| 88 | They were fine. | 他们很好。 |
| 89 | They were just very intent on what was going to happen next. | 他们只是非常想 接下来会发生什么。 |
| 90 | And then one gentleman raises his hand and says, I have. | 然后一位绅士举起手说,我有。 |
| 91 | And then another, and the stories just flowed. | 然后又一个,故事流传下来。 |
| 92 | Even this really quiet gal, she was the fiance of one of the expecting moms. | 即使是这个非常安静的女孩, 她是一个未婚夫 一个期待的母亲。 |
| 93 | She looks at her and she says, see, I told you my crying was normal too. | 她看着她,她说,你看, 我告诉你,我的哭也是正常的。 |
| 94 | The class connected. | 班级相连. |
| 95 | They validated each other. | 他们互相验证 |
| 96 | And we all walked away with a new respect for the non-pregnant partners that night. | 那晚我们都怀着对非怀孕伴侣的新尊重离开了 |
| 97 | For me, that solidified my passion to embrace those tears. | 对我来说,这巩固了我的热情 拥抱这些眼泪。 |
| 98 | Then it got better. | 然后它变得更好。 |
| 99 | On the last night of that same six-week class, one of the expecting moms came up to me. | 在同一个六个星期的课的最后一晚 一个期待的妈妈来找我 |
| 100 | She asked to talk to me privately. | 她想和我私下谈谈 |
| 101 | And I said, of course. | 我说,当然。 |
| 102 | And we went into the corner. | 我们进入了角落。 |
| 103 | And she says, I need to thank you for saving my relationship. | 她说,我需要感谢你 救了我的关系。 |
| 104 | I let her go on. | 我让她继续 |
| 105 | And she tells me that her husband was considering leaving her over her mood swings, | 她告诉我,她丈夫 考虑离开她 在她的情绪波动, |
| 106 | out of control crying, and his turmoil and anger over this pregnancy. | 失去控制地哭泣, 他的混乱和愤怒 对于这个怀孕。 |
| 107 | But he didn't leave. | 但他没有离开。 |
| 108 | She went on to tell me that they realize now it's OK to cry. | 她接着告诉我,他们意识到现在哭是好的。 |
| 109 | And he had told her that when he cries, he doesn't feel as angry. | 他告诉她,当他哭的时候, 他并不觉得生气。 |
| 110 | Wow. | 珃 |
| 111 | Not only did crying bring my class together, it kept that couple together. | 不仅哭让我的班级聚在一起 也让那对夫妇在一起 |
| 112 | And his comment about anger was really, really intriguing to me. | 他关于愤怒的评论 对我来说非常有趣 |
| 113 | So I looked around, did some research. | 所以我四处看看,做了一些研究。 |
| 114 | And sure enough, Dr. Orrin Hasson, an evolutionary psychologist, | 当然了 奥林·哈森博士 进化心理学家 |
| 115 | he had some theories about when tears blur our vision, | 他有一些理论 关于当泪水模糊我们的视觉, |
| 116 | it really has the ability to sometimes reduce our ability to react to that anger. | 它确实有能力 有时降低 我们的反应能力 对于愤怒。 |
| 117 | But the tears weren't the anger. | 但眼泪不是愤怒 |
| 118 | They were more like the release valve. | 他们更像是释放阀 |
| 119 | And though many of us, we try to keep those tears inside, | 虽然我们很多人 都想把眼泪放进去 |
| 120 | but letting them out really may be the better move. | 但放他们出去可能更好 |
| 121 | Keeping them inside can amplify our feelings of anger or sadness. | 让他们留在里面会增加我们的愤怒感或悲伤感。 |
| 122 | And while we're releasing those tears, our hormones inside, they're on high alert. | 当我们释放这些眼泪时, 我们的荷尔蒙在里面, 他们处于高度戒备状态。 |
| 123 | And we know this. | 我们知道这一点。 |
| 124 | Because of Dr. William Frey, a biochemist, | 因为威廉博士 佛雷,生物化学家 |
| 125 | he found that inside of our emotional tears, | 他发现在我们感情的泪水里 |
| 126 | not our everyday, like, yawning tears, but our emotional tears, | 不是我们每天一样,打呼噜的眼泪, 而是我们的情感眼泪, |
| 127 | 有高浓度的压力激素 和Leucine enkephalins, | |
| 128 | which, easier on my tongue, is endorphins. | 我舌头上更容易的内啡素 |
| 129 | And while our stress hormones are helping our bodies out, | 当我们的压力激素 帮助我们的身体, |
| 130 | our endorphins, those feel-good chemicals, | 我们的内啡素, 那些感觉良好的化学品, |
| 131 | they're helping to act as a pain reliever to boost our mood. | 他们正在帮助做一个缓解疼痛 来提升我们的心情。 |
| 132 | Now, who wouldn't want that? | 现在,谁不想呢? |
| 133 | There are two triggers for the release of endorphins for most of us. | 对于我们大多数人来说,释放内啡素有两个诱因. |
| 134 | Stress and pain. | 压力和痛苦 |
| 135 | And for a woman giving birth, experiencing both stress and pain, | 对于一个分娩 承受压力和痛苦的女人来说 |
| 136 | endorphins, they are a gift. | 内啡酸,它们是礼物。 |
| 137 | As the labor progresses, those endorphins will rise | 随着劳动力的进步,内啡素会上升 |
| 138 | to help her with a potentially long labor. | 帮她做长工 |
| 139 | As a result, the mom is better able to cope, | 因此,妈妈更能应付 |
| 140 | and she can feel more alert and almost euphoric after the birth. | 她可以感到更警惕 和几乎兴奋 产后。 |
| 141 | Crying is just awesome. | 哭太厉害了 |
| 142 | I wish there was a bigger word. | 我希望有一个更大的词。 |
| 143 | Crying offers us an opportunity for physical relief, | 哭让我们有机会获得身体上的缓解 |
| 144 | for intimacy between two individuals, | 因为两个人之间的亲密关系, |
| 145 | and ultimately, it promotes physical and mental well-being. | 最后,它促进身心健康。 |
| 146 | And as an expression of our most intense, | 作为我们最激烈的表现 |
| 147 | interior human experiences, | 人类的内部经历 |
| 148 | there is no need to be embarrassed, | 没必要尴尬, |
| 149 | no need to be ashamed, and no need to run away. | 没必要感到羞耻 也不必逃跑 |
| 150 | We need to have a healthy relationship with crying | 我们需要有一个健康的关系 与哭泣 |
| 151 | and change the way we view tears. | 并改变我们看待眼泪的方式。 |
| 152 | We see them as overwhelming and scary and confusing | 我们把他们看成 令人惊恐和困惑 |
| 153 | when they're really beautiful, soothing and reassuring. | 当它们真的美丽, 安慰和安慰。 |
| 154 | They're not to be seen as some screeching alarm bell | 他们不会被看成是尖叫的警钟 |
| 155 | that something is wrong, | 东西是错的, |
| 156 | but rather a natural functionality of our amazing bodies. | 而是我们惊人身体的自然功能 |
| 157 | Crying is as essential to me as breathing. | 哭跟我呼吸一样重要 |
| 158 | And now, if I'm caught crying on that couch | 现在,如果我在沙发上哭起来 |
| 159 | by my wonderful husband, who has had to learn way more | 由我美丽的丈夫, 他不得不学习更多 |
| 160 | about crying than he ever wanted to, he doesn't run away. | 他一直想哭,他不会逃跑 |
| 161 | He'll ask me why I'm crying, and I'll let him know | 他会问我为什么哭 我会让他知道 |
| 162 | I just need my release. | 我只是需要我的释放。 |
| 163 | He'll take my hand. | 他会抓住我的手。 |
| 164 | And you know what I'll do, I will let it all out. | 你知道我会怎么做,我会让这一切出来。 |
| 165 | And then I'm gonna sink into that deep sense of intimacy, | 然后我会沉入 深深的亲密感, |
| 166 | an extraordinary sense of relief | 一种非凡的解脱感 |
| 167 | that only my tears can bring. | 只有我的眼泪能带来 |
| 168 | Thank you. | 谢谢 |
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