TED：如何找回存在感
字幕摘录
| 时间 | 英文 | 中文 |
|---|---|---|
| 0:04 | When we think about the most meaningful jobs in the world, | 当我们想到世界上最有意义的工作时 |
| 0:09 | firefighters are among the top of the list, right? | 消防员名列前茅,对吧? |
| 0:12 | While most of us run from danger, they run straight into it, | 虽然我们大多数人都从危险中逃出来 他们却直接撞上了它 |
| 0:17 | risking their lives to save ours. | 冒着生命危险拯救我们 |
| 0:20 | The impact of their work is undeniable. | 他们工作的影响是不可否认的。 |
| 0:25 | At least, that's what I had always assumed | 至少,这是我一直以为 |
| 0:29 | until I met a firefighter named Greg. | 直到我遇到一个叫格雷格的消防员 |
| 0:32 | Who told me that even firefighters can struggle | 谁告诉我,即使是消防员也会挣扎 |
| 0:36 | to see the impact of their work. | 以了解他们工作的影响。 |
| 0:39 | Really? | 真的吗? |
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| 1 | When we think about the most meaningful jobs in the world, | 当我们想到世界上最有意义的工作时 |
| 2 | firefighters are among the top of the list, right? | 消防员名列前茅,对吧? |
| 3 | While most of us run from danger, they run straight into it, | 虽然我们大多数人都从危险中逃出来 他们却直接撞上了它 |
| 4 | risking their lives to save ours. | 冒着生命危险拯救我们 |
| 5 | The impact of their work is undeniable. | 他们工作的影响是不可否认的。 |
| 6 | At least, that's what I had always assumed | 至少,这是我一直以为 |
| 7 | until I met a firefighter named Greg. | 直到我遇到一个叫格雷格的消防员 |
| 8 | Who told me that even firefighters can struggle | 谁告诉我,即使是消防员也会挣扎 |
| 9 | to see the impact of their work. | 以了解他们工作的影响。 |
| 10 | Really? | 真的吗? |
| 11 | How? | 怎么会? |
| 12 | How can that be? | 怎么会这样? |
| 13 | I remember asking Greg, and he explained with a story. | 我记得他问过格雷格 他用一个故事来解释 |
| 14 | When he was a rookie, | 当他是一个新手, |
| 15 | he and his crew were called to a horrific car wreck. | 他和他的船员被叫到一个可怕的车祸。 |
| 16 | A woman was trapped inside, | 一个女人被困在里面, |
| 17 | her legs were pinned under the twisted steel. | 她的腿被绑在扭曲的钢下 |
| 18 | Greg's training took over. | 格雷格的训练接管. |
| 19 | He looked for an opening, and he found a jagged opening, | 他寻找一个开口, 他发现一个堵塞的开口, |
| 20 | slid through to put his heavy bunker coat around the woman | 滑过去把他的厚重的地堡外套 贴在女人身上 |
| 21 | to shield her from the glass as they worked to rescue her. | 在他们努力救她的时候 把她挡在玻璃上 |
| 22 | Greg promised he would stay by her side, | Greg答应过要留在她身边的 |
| 23 | and they would get her out, and they did. | 他们会救她出来,他们做到了。 |
| 24 | But here is the part of Greg's story that stuck with me. | 但这里是格雷格的故事 和我在一起的部分。 |
| 25 | After that intense experience, | 经历如此激烈之后 |
| 26 | Greg would never know what happened next. | Greg永远不会知道接下来会发生什么 |
| 27 | Did the woman survive? | 那个女人活下来了吗? |
| 28 | Did she ever walk again? | 她有再走路吗? |
| 29 | Did their efforts that night make any difference? | 当晚他们的努力有什么不同吗? |
| 30 | It surprised me to learn that firefighters rarely hear | 听说消防员很少听到 |
| 31 | about the outcomes of their rescues. | 他们的救援结果 |
| 32 | Over time, that lack of closure can erode morale, | 随着时间的推移,缺乏封闭会削弱士气, |
| 33 | fuel burnout, even cynicism. | 燃料消耗,甚至是愤世嫉俗 |
| 34 | So, years later, when Greg became fire chief, | 几年后 格雷格成为消防队长 |
| 35 | he created a system to change that. | 他创造了一个系统来改变这个。 |
| 36 | He tracked the outcomes of rescues | 他追踪救援结果 |
| 37 | because he wanted his firefighters to know | 因为他想让他的消防员知道 |
| 38 | when their efforts had saved a life or eased someone's suffering. | 他们的努力拯救了生命 或缓解了别人的痛苦 |
| 39 | Because Greg knew something vital. | 因为格雷格知道一些重要的事 |
| 40 | It is not enough to do important work. | 做重要工作是不够的。 |
| 41 | We need to know our work makes a difference. | 我们需要知道我们的工作会有所改变。 |
| 42 | We need to know we matter. | 我们必须知道我们很重要。 |
| 43 | I'm a journalist, and for the past six years, | 我是记者 过去六年 |
| 44 | I've interviewed hundreds of people around the world like Greg, | 我采访过世界各地数百人 像格雷格, |
| 45 | asking them a question. | 问他们一个问题。 |
| 46 | Do you feel like you matter? | 你觉得你很重要吗? |
| 47 | For too many, the answer was no. | 对于太多的人来说,答案是否定的。 |
| 48 | A doctor I interviewed described feeling powerless | 我采访的一位医生 描述自己无能为力 |
| 49 | now that insurance companies were denying her patients the care they needed. | 现在保险公司拒绝给她病人提供他们需要的治疗 |
| 50 | A college student described feeling like she only mattered | 一个大学生说,她只是觉得 |
| 51 | when her GPA was high and her weight was low. | 当她的GPA高,体重低。 |
| 52 | An elderly man described feeling like he mattered less this way. | 一个老人形容他觉得这样不重要 |
| 53 | He said the hardest part of aging is that people stop relying on you. | 他说老化最难的就是人们不再依赖你 |
| 54 | What these stories and the scientific research make clear | 这些故事和科学研究表明 |
| 55 | is that to thrive in life, we need to know we matter. | 为了在生活中繁荣,我们需要知道我们的重要性。 |
| 56 | That is, to feel valued | 也就是说,觉得很受重视 |
| 57 | and to have an opportunity to add value to the world. | 并有机会为世界增值。 |
| 58 | When we feel like we matter, we show up fully, | 当我们觉得我们很重要, 我们完全出现, |
| 59 | we want to connect, we want to engage, we want to contribute. | 我们想要连接,我们想参与,我们想作出贡献。 |
| 60 | But when we are made to feel like we don't matter, | 但是,当我们被 感觉像我们不重要, |
| 61 | we often withdraw. | 我们经常退出。 |
| 62 | Some of us might turn to substances or self-harm | 我们有些人可能会变成物质或自我伤害 |
| 63 | to try to alleviate that pain. | 试着减轻痛苦 |
| 64 | Others lash out in anger, | 其他的愤怒者, |
| 65 | road rage, online attacks, political extremes. | 道路愤怒 网络攻击 政治极端 |
| 66 | These are all desperate attempts to say, | 这些都是绝望的企图说, |
| 67 | I'll show you I matter. | 我会告诉你我很重要。 |
| 68 | And this is about to get worse. | 事情会越来越糟 |
| 69 | As AI erases jobs that once gave people a sense of identity and purpose, | 由于AI抹去了曾经赋予人们认同感和使命感的工作, |
| 70 | millions more will face this crisis of mattering. | 数百万人将面临这种重要的危机。 |
| 71 | The job ahead for us is not just to keep up with machines, | 我们面前的工作不仅仅是跟随机器 |
| 72 | it's to protect what it means to be human, | 保护人类的意义 |
| 73 | to feel valued, | 觉得价值, |
| 74 | and the responsibility we have | 我们的责任 |
| 75 | to remind others that they are valued too. | 提醒其他人,他们也受到重视。 |
| 76 | In my research, I found that the places where we live and work | 在我的研究中,我发现 我们生活和工作的地方 |
| 77 | can either fuel this crisis | 要么助长危机 |
| 78 | or be a key to solving it. | 或者成为解决问题的关键 |
| 79 | I visited a factory in Phillips, Wisconsin, | 我参观了威斯康辛州菲利普斯的一家工厂 |
| 80 | where each workstation had a card | 每个工作站都有一张卡 |
| 81 | that talked about how the piece being made fit into the final product. | 说到如何把作品融入最终产品 |
| 82 | On that card was a photo | 那张牌上有张照片 |
| 83 | and a story of the person who would one day use it. | 以及有一天会使用它的人的故事 |
| 84 | That story card was a powerful reminder to workers | 那张故事卡能有力地提醒工人 |
| 85 | that they weren't just assembling parts. | 他们不只是收集零件 |
| 86 | They were building something meaningful. | 他们正在建造一些有意义的东西。 |
| 87 | Mattering at work is not some soft, squishy, nice-to-have idea. | 工作上的事不是什么温柔的 粗糙的 明智的主意 |
| 88 | It's actually good business. | 其实生意不错 |
| 89 | When employees know they matter, they work harder, | 当员工知道他们很重要, 他们更努力地工作, |
| 90 | they stay more loyal, | 他们更忠诚, |
| 91 | and they bring more energy to their roles. | 他们给角色带来了更多的能量。 |
| 92 | To matter, we need to feel valued, | 重要的是,我们需要 感到价值, |
| 93 | but we also need a chance to add value. | 但我们也需要一个机会来增加价值。 |
| 94 | And in my research, I uncovered a formula for doing this. | 在我的研究中,我发现了一个这样做的公式。 |
| 95 | Identify a need in the world or in your community or in your neighborhood, | 确定世界或社区或社区的需求, |
| 96 | and then use your strengths, your resources, your talents to meet it. | 然后利用你的力量 资源 才能来迎接它 |
| 97 | I interviewed a woman named Julie outside of Boston, | 我采访了一个叫朱莉的女人 在波士顿外面, |
| 98 | who discovered this for herself firsthand. | 他亲自发现了这个 |
| 99 | For two years, Julie was her mother's full-time caregiver. | 两年来,朱莉是她母亲的全职照顾者. |
| 100 | When her mother passed away, | 当她母亲去世时, |
| 101 | Julie described feeling unmoored, purposeless. | 朱莉描述的感受是无忧无虑的,毫无目的的. |
| 102 | But instead of retreating inward in her pain, | 但与其在痛苦中退缩 |
| 103 | Julie had the courage to look outward for a new way to matter. | 朱莉有勇气向外看 寻找新的重要方法 |
| 104 | And when she did, she noticed two needs in her community, | 而当她这样做, 她注意到两个需求 在她的社区, |
| 105 | grieving families like hers, | 像她这样的悲痛家庭 |
| 106 | who were struggling with what to do with their loved ones' belongings, | 他们正在挣扎着如何处置他们所爱的人的财产, |
| 107 | and other families who were rebuilding after a fire | 以及其他在火灾后重建的家庭 |
| 108 | or experiencing homelessness. | 或无家可归。 |
| 109 | So Julie connected the two. | 朱莉把两者联系起来了 |
| 110 | With a friend, she started to collect gently used home goods | 和朋友一起 她开始温柔地收集家用物品 |
| 111 | and deliver them to people who could use them. | 把他们交给能使用的人 |
| 112 | That simple act of care has transformed thousands of lives, | 这种简单的关爱行为 改变了成千上万人的生命, |
| 113 | including Julie's. | 包括朱莉的书 |
| 114 | All of us here will go through painful life transitions, | 我们在这里都会经历痛苦的生活转变, |
| 115 | the loss of a loved one, | 失去亲人, |
| 116 | an illness, | 一个疾病, |
| 117 | maybe an empty nest, | 也许是一个空巢, |
| 118 | even retirement. | 甚至是退休。 |
| 119 | These transitions can shake our sense of mattering to its core. | 这些转变可以动摇我们对于其核心的重要性感. |
| 120 | But like Julie, | 但就像朱莉一样 |
| 121 | we have an opportunity, | 我们有机会 |
| 122 | even a responsibility, | 即使是责任, |
| 123 | to make ourselves useful again. | 使我们再次有用。 |
| 124 | The way back can start small, | 回来的路可以开始小, |
| 125 | checking in on a neighbor | 问候邻居 |
| 126 | or appreciating out loud a colleague who's always so kind and supportive. | 或大声感谢一个 总是那么善良和有支持力的同事 |
| 127 | What you will find | 你会找到的 |
| 128 | is that the fastest way to feel like you matter again | 让你感觉自己又重要了 |
| 129 | is to remind someone else why they do. | 就是提醒别人为什么这么做 |
| 130 | Now, at this point, some of you may be thinking, | 现在,在这个时候, 你们中有些人可能会想, |
| 131 | the problem isn't that I don't matter, | 问题不在于我无所谓 |
| 132 | it's that I matter too much at home, at work, | 我在家里,在工作上都很重要 |
| 133 | what you wouldn't give to matter just a little bit less. | 你所不会付出的只是少一点 |
| 134 | Am I right? | 是吗? |
| 135 | Well, this too can be thought of as a crisis of mattering. | 这也可以认为是重大危机 |
| 136 | True mattering is not about stretching ourselves to the breaking point. | 真正的问题不在于把我们自己拉到突破点。 |
| 137 | It's about balance, | 这是关于平衡, |
| 138 | balancing our own needs with the needs of others. | 平衡我们自己的需要和他人的需要。 |
| 139 | For years, I have personally struggled to find this elusive balance. | 多年来,我个人一直在努力寻找这种难以捉摸的平衡。 |
| 140 | And then I read a study conducted at the Mayo Clinic | 然后我读了马约诊所的研究 |
| 141 | that showed me how. | 这告诉我如何。 |
| 142 | Researchers there were testing a simple intervention | 研究人员在测试一个简单的干预 |
| 143 | to strengthen resilience. | 增强复原力。 |
| 144 | They recruited a group of medical professionals, | 他们招募了一批医疗专业人员 |
| 145 | who were also mothers, | 他们是母亲, |
| 146 | and they had them meet for one hour a week | 他们让他们每周见面一个小时 |
| 147 | to share their struggles and to support one another. | 分享他们的斗争,相互支持。 |
| 148 | After three months, | 三个月后, |
| 149 | the researchers found significant improvements | 研究人员发现有重大改进 |
| 150 | in these participants' mental health and well-being. | 这些参与者的精神健康和福祉。 |
| 151 | Their cortisol levels, the stress hormone, had dropped. | 他们的皮质醇水平,压力激素,已经下降。 |
| 152 | These women also reported feeling like better parents. | 这些妇女还报告说,她们觉得自己是更好的父母。 |
| 153 | Why? | 为什么? |
| 154 | Because as caregivers, | 因为作为照顾者, |
| 155 | when we are surrounded by a strong network of support, | 当我们被一个强大的支持网络包围的时候, |
| 156 | we've become more resilient, | 我们变得更有弹性了, |
| 157 | and that resilience ripples out to our kids. | 抗御力会波及我们的孩子 |
| 158 | This is not an isolated finding. | 这不是一个孤立的结论。 |
| 159 | Decades of resilience research find that a child's resilience | 数十年的复原力研究发现,儿童的复原力 |
| 160 | is rooted in the resilience of the adults in their lives. | 其根源在于成年人的适应力。 |
| 161 | And adult resilience | 和成人的适应力 |
| 162 | is rooted on the depth and support of our relationships. | 它植根于我们关系的深度和支持。 |
| 163 | Now, as caregivers, we're often told, | 作为照顾者 我们经常被告知 |
| 164 | put your oxygen mask on first. | 先戴上氧气罩 |
| 165 | But this research revealed something deeper to me. | 但这次研究揭示了我内心深处 |
| 166 | Friends are the oxygen. | 朋友是氧气 |
| 167 | We need one or two or three people in our lives | 我们需要一两三个人 |
| 168 | who know us intimately, | 他们熟悉我们, |
| 169 | who can see when we are struggling, | 他们能看见我们挣扎的时候, |
| 170 | and who will reach over and put that oxygen mask on for us. | 谁来帮我们戴上氧气罩 |
| 171 | That is a very different level of support | 这是非常不同的支持水平 |
| 172 | than we normalize in our busy culture today. | 比我们今天繁忙的文化正常化 |
| 173 | But here's how I've come to look at it. | 然此经略观. |
| 174 | When I don't reach out for help, | 当我不伸出援手 |
| 175 | not only do I deny myself the support I need, | 我不仅否认自己 支持我所需要的, |
| 176 | I also deny my friend the chance of being a helper, | 我也拒绝我的朋友做帮手的机会 |
| 177 | a feeling needed, | 一种需要的感觉, |
| 178 | like she matters to me. | 就像她对我很重要一样 |
| 179 | So the next time you hesitate, | 所以下次你犹豫的时候 |
| 180 | I hope you'll remember this. | 我希望你能记住这一点。 |
| 181 | Asking for help isn't weak. | 求救不虚弱. |
| 182 | It is an act of generosity. | 这是慷慨之举。 |
| 183 | Now, to matter, it is a very personal experience, | 现在,重要的是, 这是一个非常个人的经验, |
| 184 | but it's also relational, | 但也有关系 |
| 185 | and it has the power to connect our disconnected world. | 它有力量连接我们失去联系的世界 |
| 186 | A wonderful example of this is taking place | 一个很好的例子正在发生 |
| 187 | at the Dutch supermarket chain Jumbo, | 在荷兰超市连锁Jumbo, |
| 188 | where they have instituted slow checkout lanes, | 他们在乐园中设置了慢检道, |
| 189 | where the cashiers take extra time to chat, | 那些收银员需要时间聊天 |
| 190 | especially with elderly customers. | 特别是老年顾客 |
| 191 | Amazing, right? | 厉害吧? |
| 192 | This simple fix for loneliness | 这很简单的孤独 |
| 193 | has now been rolled out in nearly 200 locations. | 现已在近200个地点推出。 |
| 194 | The lesson for us? | 给我们的教训? |
| 195 | We don't need to build new spaces to unlock each other's mattering. | 我们不需要建造新的空间来解锁彼此的事务. |
| 196 | We just need to be more intentional about the spaces we already have. | 我们只是需要更有意的 关于我们已经拥有的空间。 |
| 197 | Once you see the world through the lens of mattering, | 一旦你从物质的视角看世界 |
| 198 | you can't unsee it. | 你不能不看出来 |
| 199 | It may even start to feel like a responsibility. | 它甚至可能开始感到 责任。 |
| 200 | It has for me. | 对我来说是 |
| 201 | It has changed how I show up now for my family, | 这改变了我现在为我的家人出现的方式 |
| 202 | my friends, my colleagues, | 我的朋友,我的同事们, |
| 203 | even strangers I meet on the street. | 甚至是我在街上遇到的陌生人 |
| 204 | Affirming each other's worth, | 确认彼此的价值, |
| 205 | it's not just the right thing to do, | 这不仅仅是正确的事情, |
| 206 | it is the glue that holds a healthy society together, | 是胶水支撑着一个健康的社会, |
| 207 | and we need this now more than ever. | 我们现在比以往更需要这个 |
| 208 | What I have learned in these hundreds of conversations is this, | 我在数百次谈话中学到的就是, |
| 209 | that deep down, we are all searching for the same thing, | 在内心深处 我们都在寻找同样的东西 |
| 210 | to know who we are and what we do, | 要知道我们是谁和我们做什么, |
| 211 | make a difference in this world. | 改变这个世界 |
| 212 | We want to know that our lives, our very existence, matters. | 我们想知道我们的生活,我们的生存,都很重要。 |
| 213 | Thank you. | 谢谢 |
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