5种教养方式如何影响孩子一生
字幕摘录
| 时间 | 英文 | 中文 |
|---|---|---|
| 0:03 | In theory, there are only four styles of parenting. | 在理论上,只有四种养育方式. |
| 0:07 | Authoritarian parents are controlling and demand obedience without considering the child's point of view. | 权威父母在不考虑孩子观点的情况下控制和要求服从. |
| 0:15 | Permissive parents are loving but don't exert any control. | 允许的父母是爱的,但不要施加任何控制。 |
| 0:19 | There are no rules. | 没有规则。 |
| 0:21 | Authoritative parents are firm but loving. | 权威的父母是坚定的,但爱。 |
| 0:24 | They encourage independence within limits. | 它们鼓励在限度内独立。 |
| 0:28 | Neglecting parents are uninvolved and often uninterested in their own child. | 被忽略的父母是无动于衷的,常常对自己的孩子不感兴趣. |
| 0:34 | Recently, a fifth style was proposed, but we will come back to that later. | 最近,有人提出了第五个风格,但我们稍后再谈这个问题。 |
| 0:41 | The styles range from controlling and demanding to complete freedom, | 风格从控制和要求自由, |
| 0:45 | and from cold and unresponsive to loving and receptive. | 从寒冷和无反应 到爱和接受 |
展开字幕全文（75 条）
| 序号 | 英文 | 中文 |
|---|---|---|
| 1 | In theory, there are only four styles of parenting. | 在理论上,只有四种养育方式. |
| 2 | Authoritarian parents are controlling and demand obedience without considering the child's point of view. | 权威父母在不考虑孩子观点的情况下控制和要求服从. |
| 3 | Permissive parents are loving but don't exert any control. | 允许的父母是爱的,但不要施加任何控制。 |
| 4 | There are no rules. | 没有规则。 |
| 5 | Authoritative parents are firm but loving. | 权威的父母是坚定的,但爱。 |
| 6 | They encourage independence within limits. | 它们鼓励在限度内独立。 |
| 7 | Neglecting parents are uninvolved and often uninterested in their own child. | 被忽略的父母是无动于衷的,常常对自己的孩子不感兴趣. |
| 8 | Recently, a fifth style was proposed, but we will come back to that later. | 最近,有人提出了第五个风格,但我们稍后再谈这个问题。 |
| 9 | The styles range from controlling and demanding to complete freedom, | 风格从控制和要求自由, |
| 10 | and from cold and unresponsive to loving and receptive. | 从寒冷和无反应 到爱和接受 |
| 11 | Each authoritative, permissive, authoritarian and neglectful parents have their place. | 每个权威、宽容、专制和忽视的父母都有他们的地位。 |
| 12 | To understand what it means to grow up with parents from each end of the spectrum, | 为了了解与父母一起成长的意义 |
| 13 | we can imagine the lives of four children. | 我们可以想象四个孩子的生活 |
| 14 | Sara's parents are authoritarian. | 萨拉的父母是专制的. |
| 15 | They love their girl, but they believe that strict rules are important | 他们爱自己的女孩,但他们认为严格的规则很重要 |
| 16 | to make Sara become well-behaved and fit into society. | 让Sara变得行为良好并适应社会 |
| 17 | If Sara cries, she's told to stop. | 如果莎拉哭了, 她被告知停止。 |
| 18 | If she talks back, she is sent to the corner for time out. | 如果她回话,她会被送到角落休息。 |
| 19 | If she forgets to take care of her chores around the house, | 如果她忘了照顾她的家务 在房子周围, |
| 20 | she is not allowed to play with her toys. | 她不能玩她的玩具。 |
| 21 | Sara learns that suppressing her emotions and following her duties is the way to get through the day. | Sara得知压制她的情绪和履行她的职责是渡过这一天的方法. |
| 22 | To get the love of her parents and to avoid making them upset, she becomes obedient. | 为了得到她父母的爱,避免让他们心烦意乱,她变得顺从. |
| 23 | However, because Sara was never allowed to decide for herself or follow her intrinsic interests, | 然而,因为萨拉从未被允许为自己决定或遵循她的固有利益, |
| 24 | as an adult, she doesn't know what she really wants. | 作为一个成年人,她不知道 她真正想要什么。 |
| 25 | She begins living a life that seems perfect to her parents and society, | 她开始过着她父母和社会认为完美的生活, |
| 26 | but might leave her unhappy on the inside. | 但可能让她不高兴 |
| 27 | Permissive parents, like those of Peter, enjoy their little boys so much | 允许的父母,像彼得的父母, 享受他们的小男孩这么多 |
| 28 | that they believe they should fulfill all his wishes, give him full freedom and never say no. | 他们相信他们应该实现他的所有愿望,给予他充分的自由,永远不要拒绝。 |
| 29 | Peter enjoys full control over his parents and gets whatever he wants. | 彼得完全控制着他的父母 得到他想要的一切 |
| 30 | If he doesn't want to walk, he'll be carried. | 其人若不欲行,必载之. |
| 31 | If he wants ice cream, ice cream he gets. | 如果他想要冰淇淋,他就会得到冰淇淋。 |
| 32 | If he wants to play games, he'll be playing them all night. | 如果他想玩游戏 他整晚都会玩 |
| 33 | Peter grows up completely without borders and does whatever he thinks is right. | 彼得成长时完全没有国界,做他认为正确的事情. |
| 34 | He never coped with conflict and he did not learn to control his emotions. | 他从未面对过冲突,也没有学会控制自己的情绪。 |
| 35 | The fact that he always got what he wanted made him a bad loser. | 他总是得到他想要的东西 使他成为一个坏的失败者。 |
| 36 | As he grows older, he often acts inconsiderate and doesn't know his limits. | 随着年龄的增长,他常常表现得不体贴,不知道自己的极限. |
| 37 | Arthur's authoritative parents respect their child's needs, | 阿瑟权威的父母尊重孩子的需要, |
| 38 | but believe that kids need freedom within certain limits. | 但相信孩子需要一定范围内的自由 |
| 39 | Arthur can freely play, but when he's done, he needs to help tidy up. | 亚瑟可以自由演奏,但完成后需要帮助整理. |
| 40 | He is allowed to eat ice cream, but only on Sundays. | 允许他吃冰淇淋,但星期天才吃 |
| 41 | Screen time is limited to 30 minutes a day. | 屏幕时间限为每天30分钟. |
| 42 | There may be conflict, but the parents listen to what Arthur has to say and then lay down the rules. | 可能有冲突,但父母听亚瑟的话,然后规定规则. |
| 43 | Arthur learns that some things are difficult, | 亚瑟知道有些事情很困难 |
| 44 | but his parents give him all the support he needs to get through it. | 但他的父母给了他所有他需要的支持 通过它。 |
| 45 | He develops the strength to endure hardships and to continue following his interests and passions. | 他培养出力量来忍受苦难,继续追随自己的兴趣和激情. |
| 46 | In class, he bravely expresses his own opinions in an appropriate manner. | 在课堂上,他勇敢地以适当的方式表达自己的意见. |
| 47 | During breaks, he can show his emotions and act freely. | 在休息期间,他可以展示自己的情感,自由行动. |
| 48 | As an adult, he agrees to rules only after they have been discussed and he feels like he understands them. | 作为成年人,他只同意在讨论过规则后才同意规则,他觉得自己理解规则. |
| 49 | Neglectful parents are usually not present in their children's life. | 忽视的父母通常在孩子的生活中不在场. |
| 50 | Nora often feels completely alone in the world. | 诺拉在世界上经常感到完全孤独. |
| 51 | She experiences full freedom to do anything she wants to and has plenty of imagination, | 她有完全的自由做任何她想做的事 并且有丰富的想象力 |
| 52 | but she never receives any feedback or even attention. | 但是她从未收到任何反馈甚至关注 |
| 53 | Nora realizes that it doesn't matter what she does because no one cares anyway. | 诺拉意识到她做什么不重要 因为反正没人在乎 |
| 54 | The lack of attention leads to a lack of trust in herself and others. | 缺乏关注导致对自己和其他人缺乏信任。 |
| 55 | She becomes insecurely attached, unable to form healthy relationships, | 她变得没有安全感,无法形成健康的关系, |
| 56 | and develops a negative image of herself. | 并发展出她自己的负面形象。 |
| 57 | To stop feeling unworthy of love, she tries not to feel anything at all. | 为了不再感到不值得爱, 她试图不觉得任何东西。 |
| 58 | In recent years, over-involved parents who are present in every aspect of their child's life | 近些年来,参与儿童生活各个方面的过度父母 |
| 59 | are often referred to as the fifth style. | 常被称为第五风格. |
| 60 | These parents are also known as snowplows, removing obstacles out of their kids' path, | 这些家长也被称为雪犁, 清除他们的孩子道路上的障碍, |
| 61 | or helicopter parents who hover about and micromanage every aspect of their child's life. | 或直升机家长 徘徊和微观管理 他们的孩子生活的各个方面。 |
| 62 | Since they won't let their children do anything alone, | 既然他们不让他们的孩子单独做任何事 |
| 63 | the children can't learn to overcome challenges by themselves. | 孩子们无法独自学会克服挑战 |
| 64 | Research infers that these children don't like to solve difficult problems, like perseverance, | 研究推断这些孩子不喜欢解决困难问题,比如坚持不懈, |
| 65 | and may even procrastinate in protest when something requires a lot of effort. | 甚至可能拖延抗议 当某事需要大量努力。 |
| 66 | Since most research on parenting is based on self-reports and was done in the US and Europe, | 由于大多数关于父母身份的研究都是根据自我报告进行的,在美国和欧洲, |
| 67 | it is not clear how strongly the observed effects will hold up in controlled observational experiments | 目前尚不清楚所观测到的效应在受控观测实验中会维持多久。 |
| 68 | or in other parts of the world. | 或在世界其他地区。 |
| 69 | The four parenting styles were first introduced by psychologist Diana Baumrind. | 这四种养育方式最早由心理学家戴安娜·鲍姆林德提出. |
| 70 | For good parenting, she advised | 为了照顾好孩子 她建议 |
| 71 | Add to that the wise words of Maria Montessori to | 此外,玛丽亚·蒙泰索里还有一句明智的话: |
| 72 | What do you think? | 你觉得呢? |
| 73 | Should parents resort to a specific style, | 如果父母采取特定的方式, |
| 74 | or should they decide what's best to do in a given situation, | 或者他们应该决定 在特定情况下应该做什么 |
| 75 | as long as they don't neglect or abuse their child? | 只要他们不忽视或虐待孩子? |
该视频共有字幕 75 条。解锁更多字幕为会员功能，请移动到 价格