【TED演讲】陌生人如何拯救了我的生命
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| 0:06 | 12 years ago, my buddy drags me out to a dive bar in Calgary. | 12年前 我的朋友把我拖到卡尔加里的一个潜水酒吧 |
| 0:11 | I'm broke, depressed, and feeling totally lost. | 我破产 沮丧 感觉完全迷失了 |
| 0:16 | The server comes over and mentions she's a hula hooper. | 服务器过来说她是个呼拉机 |
| 0:21 | Something shifts in me. | 我有些东西变了 |
| 0:24 | It's excitement, like this fizzing sensation that starts in my stomach but then moves up | 兴奋,像这种发抖的感觉 从我的胃开始,然后向上移动 |
| 0:29 | into my chest. | 进入我的胸口 |
| 0:31 | Because I say, well, that's really neat. | 因为我说,嗯,这真的很整洁。 |
| 0:34 | I juggle glow-in-the-dark balls, kind of like this. | 我像这样在黑暗中玩耍 |
| 0:39 | And she says, well, there's this really cool circus in town. | 她说 镇上有个很酷的马戏团 |
| 0:44 | You should audition. | 你应该试镜。 |
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| 1 | 12 years ago, my buddy drags me out to a dive bar in Calgary. | 12年前 我的朋友把我拖到卡尔加里的一个潜水酒吧 |
| 2 | I'm broke, depressed, and feeling totally lost. | 我破产 沮丧 感觉完全迷失了 |
| 3 | The server comes over and mentions she's a hula hooper. | 服务器过来说她是个呼拉机 |
| 4 | Something shifts in me. | 我有些东西变了 |
| 5 | It's excitement, like this fizzing sensation that starts in my stomach but then moves up | 兴奋,像这种发抖的感觉 从我的胃开始,然后向上移动 |
| 6 | into my chest. | 进入我的胸口 |
| 7 | Because I say, well, that's really neat. | 因为我说,嗯,这真的很整洁。 |
| 8 | I juggle glow-in-the-dark balls, kind of like this. | 我像这样在黑暗中玩耍 |
| 9 | And she says, well, there's this really cool circus in town. | 她说 镇上有个很酷的马戏团 |
| 10 | You should audition. | 你应该试镜。 |
| 11 | So I do. | 我也这么想 |
| 12 | For 10 years, I perform in more than 100 shows with this circus. | 10年来,我在这个马戏团演出了100多场演出. |
| 13 | I meet one of my best friends in the world and actually get to do fulfilling work that | 我遇见我最好的朋友之一 在世界上,实际上得到 完成的工作 |
| 14 | I love, all because of a conversation with a stranger. | 我喜欢,都是因为和陌生人谈话 |
| 15 | Now I wish I could say that joining the circus cured my depression, but of course it wasn't | 现在,我希望我能说,加入马戏团 治愈了我的抑郁症, 但当然不是 |
| 16 | that easy. | 很简单 |
| 17 | A few years later, I was still struggling and having suicidal thoughts. | 几年后,我仍在挣扎,并有自杀的想法。 |
| 18 | So with the support of my therapist, I tried antidepressants, which helped. | 因此,在我的治疗师的支持下, 我尝试了抗抑郁药, 这帮助。 |
| 19 | But I still needed something to get me out of bed in the morning, and I kept going back | 但我还是需要一些东西 让我在早上起床, 我不停地回去 |
| 20 | to that conversation that got me into the circus. | 和那个让我进入马戏团的谈话 |
| 21 | I wonder, you know, what would happen if I met a stranger every day for a year? | 我不知道,你知道, 如果我每天遇到一个陌生人 一年? |
| 22 | So I do it. | 所以,我这样做。 |
| 23 | For 365 days in a row, I intentionally meet at least one new stranger every day, and this | 连续365天,我故意每天至少 遇到一个陌生人,这个 |
| 24 | profoundly changes my life. | 深刻改变了我的生活。 |
| 25 | To start, I was meeting people just to occupy my mind, but instead, they totally filled | 首先,我和别人见面只是为了占据我的头脑, 但相反,他们完全充斥着 |
| 26 | my heart. | 我的心脏。 |
| 27 | Meeting strangers saved my life. | 遇到陌生人救了我的命 |
| 28 | I gained self-confidence, met a long-term partner, and eventually no longer needed medication, | 我得到了自信,遇到了一个长期伴侣, 并最终不再需要药物, |
| 29 | all because of this journey of human connection. | 都是因为这段人类联系的旅程 |
| 30 | Today, I believe meeting strangers can help us address not only the obvious epidemic of | 今天,我相信与陌生人见面 不仅能帮助我们应对 |
| 31 | loneliness in the world, but also the more subtle hidden epidemic of mediocrity, where | 孤独在世界上, 但也隐藏着更微妙的流行病 平庸,在那里 |
| 32 | too many people are living disconnected, unfulfilled lives. | 太多的人生活断绝 生活没有完成 |
| 33 | Here's the magic I discovered. | 这是我发现的魔法 |
| 34 | Something remarkable happens in most conversations between strangers. | 在大多数陌生人的对话中 发生了一些令人瞩目的事 |
| 35 | I call it the information gift exchange. | 我称之为交换礼物 |
| 36 | You learn something from them, or they learn something from you. | 你从他们那里学到一些东西, 或者他们从你那里学到一些东西。 |
| 37 | That's how I got into the circus, and that changed everything for me. | 所以我才进入马戏团 这改变了我的一切 |
| 38 | Take a moment and think about something that excites you. | 慢慢想想让你兴奋的东西 |
| 39 | Maybe a new app, or a book, or some cool life hack. | 也许是新程序,或者一本书,或者一些很酷的生活黑客。 |
| 40 | That piece of information is a gift that you could share to spark or join a conversation. | 那件资料是一份礼物,你可以分享 来点火或加入谈话。 |
| 41 | Ah, rejection. | 啊,拒绝。 |
| 42 | Yeah, I was worried about this too. | 是啊,我也担心这个。 |
| 43 | But in my entire year of meeting strangers, rejection almost never happened. | 但在我认识陌生人的这整年里, 拒绝几乎从来没有发生过。 |
| 44 | Not until day 50. | 直到第50天为止 |
| 45 | And it turns out that's pretty normal. | 结果很正常 |
| 46 | Studies show that when we do start a conversation, we're welcomed about nine times out of ten. | 研究表明,当我们真正开始对话时,欢迎我们十次中大约九次. |
| 47 | And sure, that one rejection could still sting, but think about the other nine that could | 当然,一个拒绝仍然会刺痛, 但想想另外九个可以 |
| 48 | lead to new friendships, improved social health, or incredible adventures. | 导致新的友谊,改善社会健康,或者不可思议的冒险. |
| 49 | Because connection lives at the edge of your comfort zone. | 因为连接就在你舒适区的边缘 |
| 50 | If we don't step outside that edge, we miss the opportunities, experiences, and people | 如果我们不走出这个边缘, 我们错过了机会,经验和人 |
| 51 | waiting for us. | 等着我们 |
| 52 | So how do you actually do it? | 那你是怎样做到的? |
| 53 | You start small. | 你从小开始 |
| 54 | When you feel the impulse to speak to someone new, and you freeze up, you're not broken. | 当你觉得有冲动去和新人说话,然后冷冻起来的时候,你没有被打破. |
| 55 | You're human. | 你是人类 |
| 56 | That hesitation is your nervous system trying to protect you, but I argue that it's holding | 犹豫不决是你的神经系统 试图保护你, 但我认为它保持 |
| 57 | you back from something so beautiful. | 你从这么漂亮的东西回来。 |
| 58 | Luckily, there's another voice that you can choose to follow. | 幸运的是,还有另一种声音 你可以选择跟随。 |
| 59 | Your curiosity. | 你的好奇心。 。 。 |
| 60 | It's always there. | 常在处. |
| 61 | It's a little quiet, but it's whispering. | 虽稍静而微语. |
| 62 | Look closer. | 仔细看 |
| 63 | Ask a question. | 问曰. |
| 64 | Curiosity shifts your focus from, what should I say, to, what can I learn? | 好奇心将你的注意力从,我应该说什么,转移到,我能学到什么? |
| 65 | And that shift could change the trajectory of your life. | 这种转变可以改变你的生活轨迹。 |
| 66 | Oh, and by the way, it's not all about you, right? | 哦,顺便说一句,这不是所有关于你,对不对? |
| 67 | When you reach out to another human being, you might be connecting with someone who's | 当你联系到另一个人时, 你可能会联系到一个 |
| 68 | desperately longing for human connection. | 渴望人类的联系 |
| 69 | Recently discovered a concept that captures this beautifully. | 最近发现了一个能捕捉到这个美丽的概念. |
| 70 | Microbravory. | 微肠. |
| 71 | Small intentional acts of courage that push us just a little bit past our comfort zone, | 小小的故意的勇气行为 把我们推过舒适地带 |
| 72 | but then open the doors to transformation. | 然后打开转机的门 |
| 73 | Here's an example you can try. | 举个例子 |
| 74 | I've got this rule, right? | 我有这个规则,对不对? |
| 75 | Every time I see someone wearing glasses that I genuinely like, I tell them. | 每次我看到有人戴着真正喜欢的眼镜,我就告诉他们. |
| 76 | And 100% of the time, I get a smile or a thank you or even a story. | 100%的时间,我得到一个微笑 或谢谢你,甚至一个故事。 |
| 77 | So I've heard, oh, I just like bold glasses or I got them because they're funky or I wear | 所以我听说,哦,我只是喜欢 大胆的眼镜或我得到了它们 因为它们是怪异的或我穿 |
| 78 | them because they make me feel like a superhero, right? | 因为它们让我觉得自己像个超级英雄 对吧? |
| 79 | That's micro bravery. | 这是微小的勇敢。 |
| 80 | One sentence, one moment of connection. | 一句话,一分钟的连接。 |
| 81 | But do me a favour, if you're going to hand out compliments, make it about style and not | 但帮我个忙 如果你要恭维的话 说出风格而不是 |
| 82 | about people's bodies. | 关于人们的身体。 |
| 83 | And these moments, they build something in you, because I wasn't always able to talk | 这些瞬间,他们在你身上造了些东西 因为我并不总是能说话 |
| 84 | to people. | 对人们。 |
| 85 | That's me. | 这就是我。 |
| 86 | Back when I was a bullied, insecure, skinny 16-year-old kid, I'm lingering by my locker | 回到我这个被欺负,无保障,瘦瘦的16岁小孩时,我被我的储物柜拖着 |
| 87 | staring at these two impossibly cool guys. | 看着这两个酷酷的家伙 |
| 88 | There's a nod of fear in my stomach and I'm sweating. | 胃中有畏而发汗者. |
| 89 | Inspired by my older sisters, I'm running for student council. | 受姐姐的启发,参加学生会竞选. |
| 90 | Weird move for a super shy kid with one friend and no confidence. | 对于一个超级害羞的小孩来说 奇怪的举动 只有一个朋友,没有自信 |
| 91 | But I just force my awkward self over to them and say, sorry to bother you, but can I give | 但我只是把尴尬的自我逼到他们面前 说,对不起打扰你, 但我能给 |
| 92 | you a flyer? | 你是一个传单? |
| 93 | One guy smiles and says, hey, I know your older sister. | 一个人笑着说,嘿,我知道你的姐姐。 |
| 94 | That's awesome that you're running. | 这是真棒,你运行。 |
| 95 | The knot loosens. | 结解. |
| 96 | I chat with these guys and survive. | 我和这些家伙聊天 并生存下来。 |
| 97 | I get elected and talking to people gets easier. | 我当选了 和别人说话就容易多了 |
| 98 | And easier. | 更简单 |
| 99 | Because these small moments of micro-bravery, they build momentum. | 因为这些微骨化的小瞬间,它们建立了动力. |
| 100 | And I really feel that our world could use some of that positive momentum right now. | 我真的觉得,我们的世界现在可以使用一些积极的势头。 |
| 101 | Like, don't you think we've become a little too distracted and disconnected from one another? | 喜欢,你不认为我们已经 有点太分心 和彼此脱节? |
| 102 | Right? | 对吧? |
| 103 | Choosing connection through small acts of micro-bravery or that information gift exchange | 通过微骨小行为或信息交流选择联系 |
| 104 | are powerful ways to push back against the epidemics of loneliness and mediocrity. | 是一种强大的手段,可以对抗孤独和庸俗的流行病。 |
| 105 | To start, you don't have to join the circus or hit rock bottom. | 首先,你不必加入马戏团 或击落摇滚。 |
| 106 | For me, choosing just to be present and to slow my life down, as well as to look up from | 对我来说,选择只是在场, 并放慢我的生活, 以及抬头从 |
| 107 | my phone and trust my curiosity, led to a more meaningful life. | 我的手机和信任我的好奇心 带来了更有意义的生活 |
| 108 | So what about you? | 那你怎么办? |
| 109 | Could you talk to a stranger today? | 你今天能和陌生人谈谈吗? |
| 110 | Because that one small act might not just change your day. | 因为这个小动作 可能不会改变你的生活 |
| 111 | It might change your life. | 它可能改变你的生活。 |
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