没人告诉你的二十几岁那些事【TED演讲】
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| P1 | 没人告诉你的二十几岁那些事【TED演讲】 中英双语 | 17:46 |
| P2 | 没人告诉你的二十几岁那些事【TED演讲】 英文字幕(中文外挂 | 17:46 |
P1 · 没人告诉你的二十几岁那些事【TED演讲】 p01 中英双语 (P1)
字幕摘录
| 时间 | 英文 | 中文 |
|---|---|---|
| 0:02 | The answer is yes, I did play basketball, yeah. | 答案是 是的 我打过篮球 |
| 0:08 | I remember the exact day in place, my entire life changed, and I didn't even know it. | 我记得确切的日期, 我的整个生活改变了, 我甚至不知道它。 |
| 0:16 | It's April 26th, and I'm 18 years old, I'm in the gym. | 4月26日 18岁在健身房. |
| 0:21 | I'm listening to a podcast, as I usually do when I work out, and I heard the podcast guest | 我在听播客的歌 就像我工作时常听的 我听到播客的客人 |
| 0:28 | in my ear say something I'd heard so many of these 30 to 60-something psychologists, | 在我的耳朵里,说一些我听到 这么多这些30到60的东西心理学家, |
| 0:36 | activists, authors, and business leaders say many times before. | 活动家、作者和商界领袖在之前多次发言。 |
| 0:42 | If I had the same mindset now that I did in my teens or 20s, I'd be miserable. | 如果我现在有同样的心态 像我在十几岁或二十多岁的时候做, 我会很悲惨。 |
| 0:48 | I was such an idiot, and I remember every time I heard those statements expressed with | 我真是个白痴,我记得每次听到这些讲话 |
| 0:55 | a laugh, it made me feel sad. | 笑一个,这让我感到悲伤。 |
| 1:00 | I was entering college. | 我进入大学。 |
展开字幕全文（206 条）
| 序号 | 英文 | 中文 |
|---|---|---|
| 1 | The answer is yes, I did play basketball, yeah. | 答案是 是的 我打过篮球 |
| 2 | I remember the exact day in place, my entire life changed, and I didn't even know it. | 我记得确切的日期, 我的整个生活改变了, 我甚至不知道它。 |
| 3 | It's April 26th, and I'm 18 years old, I'm in the gym. | 4月26日 18岁在健身房. |
| 4 | I'm listening to a podcast, as I usually do when I work out, and I heard the podcast guest | 我在听播客的歌 就像我工作时常听的 我听到播客的客人 |
| 5 | in my ear say something I'd heard so many of these 30 to 60-something psychologists, | 在我的耳朵里,说一些我听到 这么多这些30到60的东西心理学家, |
| 6 | activists, authors, and business leaders say many times before. | 活动家、作者和商界领袖在之前多次发言。 |
| 7 | If I had the same mindset now that I did in my teens or 20s, I'd be miserable. | 如果我现在有同样的心态 像我在十几岁或二十多岁的时候做, 我会很悲惨。 |
| 8 | I was such an idiot, and I remember every time I heard those statements expressed with | 我真是个白痴,我记得每次听到这些讲话 |
| 9 | a laugh, it made me feel sad. | 笑一个,这让我感到悲伤。 |
| 10 | I was entering college. | 我进入大学。 |
| 11 | I didn't want to be miserable, and then I felt actually pretty irritated. | 我不想痛苦,然后我觉得很烦恼 |
| 12 | I refused to be miserable. | 我拒绝痛苦。 |
| 13 | Much of this refusal of misery had to do with that just five months earlier, I had sat hand | 5个月前,我曾坐过手 |
| 14 | in hand with my dad as he passed away after a six-year battle with the terminal disease | 和我父亲一起度过了六年的绝症之战 |
| 15 | ALS. | (原始内容存档于2018-09-26). AlS. |
| 16 | Following that experience, I promised myself I would not spend a moment of my life hating | 经历之后,我答应自己,我不会花 我一生的一刻恨 |
| 17 | it, as I learned that time is never promised. | 正如我所得知的 时间永远不会得到保证 |
| 18 | My irritation intensified as I reflected on the fact that these personal development leaders | 当我反思这些个人发展领袖时,我的烦恼加剧 |
| 19 | are rarely talking to young people specifically. | 很少特别与年轻人交谈。 |
| 20 | This didn't make any sense to me because I thought, aren't we the ones that need to know | 这对我没有任何意义 因为我想,是不是我们需要知道 |
| 21 | this stuff about growth, mindfulness, and emotions the most? | 关于成长, 觉悟, 和情感的最? |
| 22 | Over the next decade, I was supposed to determine a field of study or career, potentially find | 在接下来的十年里,我应该确定一个研究领域或职业领域, 可能发现 |
| 23 | a life partner, decide where to live, handle personal finances and retirement, maybe even | 生活伴侣,决定在哪里生活, 处理个人财务和退休,也许甚至 |
| 24 | start a family, and many other decisions that had lifelong impacts. | 以及许多其他有终身影响的决定。 |
| 25 | But here I was with thousands of other high school seniors receiving the same piece of | 但在这里,我与成千上万其他高中高年级学生 得到同样的一块 |
| 26 | for most of the adults in our lives. | 对于我们生活中的大部分成年人来说 |
| 27 | You've got time, you'll figure it out, I just don't think you need to worry about it. | 你有时间,你会想出办法的 我只是觉得你不必担心 |
| 28 | And although this advice is slightly anxiety-reducing in the moment, we are rarely, if ever, given | 虽然这个建议在目前稍有减少焦虑, 但我们很少,如果曾经,给予 |
| 29 | practical, emotional, and decision-making training, making the anxiety-reducing moments extremely | * 进行实际、情感和决策培训,使减少焦虑的时刻变得极为复杂; |
| 30 | short and fleeting because we didn't know how to navigate these decisions we had to make. | 短暂而短暂,因为我们不知道 如何引导这些决定 我们不得不做出。 |
| 31 | And so, with that aha moment in the gym, I found my mission, to change the rhetoric of | 所以,在健身房的那一刻, 我找到了我的使命, 改变言辞, |
| 32 | what your teens and 20s could and should be, which brings me to today. | 你的十几岁和二十多岁能和应该是什么, 这让我来到今天。 |
| 33 | And after a bit more study, it turns out teenage Livy had some very valid points, two points | 经过多一点研究,发现小李维 有一些非常合理的点,两点 |
| 34 | in specific. | 具体而言。 |
| 35 | Down to a neurological level, how we train our brains now in our 20s truly matters when | 下到神经层面,如何训练我们的大脑 现在我们的20多岁 真正重要的是何时 |
| 36 | it comes to setting ourselves up for a less stressful and more fulfilling life. | 来让自己过上更轻松更充实的生活 |
| 37 | Your brain is a complex system of neurological pathways. | 你的大脑是一个复杂的神经系统。 |
| 38 | You can think of it like a complex system of roads. | 你可以把它想象成一个复杂的道路系统。 |
| 39 | The more you drive specific routes, the more ingrained those habits and behavioral patterns | 你驾驶特定路线越多,这些习惯和行为模式就越根深蒂固 |
| 40 | become. | 成为。 |
| 41 | And that is why it's so important we start specifically choosing which routes we continue | 这就是为什么它是如此重要 我们开始特别选择 我们继续的路线 |
| 42 | to drive down now, because it will be much more painful and difficult to rewire your | 现在开车下去, 因为那会更痛苦 和困难 重新连接你的 |
| 43 | mind 30 years from now when your mental software has become hardware. | 30年后你的精神软件变成了硬件 |
| 44 | And point number two, teenage Livy was also onto the fact that the decisions we make in | 第二点,十几岁的李维 也注意到我们的决定 |
| 45 | our 20s do matter, but that is why we need proper emotional and mental skills to help | 我们的20多岁的确很重要, 但这就是为什么我们需要 适当的情感和精神技能来帮助 |
| 46 | guide us in those decisions. | 指导我们作出这些决定。 |
| 47 | Meg J., PhD clinical psychologist, notes in her newly revised book, The Defining Decade, | Meg J.,临床心理学博士,在其新订正的书《界定十年》中指出, |
| 48 | these statistics that might shake up any young adult a bit. | 这些统计可能让任何年轻的成年人略感震撼。 |
| 49 | 85% of life's most defining moments happen before age 35. | 85%的人生最决定性的时刻发生在35岁之前。 |
| 50 | Not the most important, not the best moments, but life definers are often happening before | 并不是最重要的,也不是最好的时刻, 但是生命定义者经常发生在之前 |
| 51 | your mid-30s. | 30多岁 |
| 52 | Your 20s coincide with your peak childbearing years. | 20多岁与你最繁忙的生育年代吻合 |
| 53 | More than 50% of us will be living with, dating, or married to our life partner by age 30. | 我们50%以上的人将在30岁之前与我们的生活伴侣生活在一起、约会或结婚。 |
| 54 | Your earning power is generally decided in your first 10 years of work. | 你的赚钱能力一般是在你工作的头十年决定的. |
| 55 | And as you probably know, in your childhood, that's where you will have peak brain development. | 正如你可能知道的那样,在你的童年时期, 那就是你的大脑发展高峰。 |
| 56 | But your personality and your brain changes more in your 20s than any time before or after. | 但你的个性和大脑在20多岁时的改变 比之前或之后的任何时间都多. |
| 57 | These statistics show us that the decisions you make in your 20s do, in fact, matter. | 这些统计数字显示,你20多岁时所做的决定确实很重要。 |
| 58 | But to any young adult listening, I do want to note, these are statistics, correlation | 但对于任何年青的成年人,我确实想指出,这些是统计,关联 |
| 59 | does not always mean causation, but still, whether we like it or not, we do have some | 但不管我们喜不喜欢,我们确实有一些 |
| 60 | big decisions to make over the next decade. | 在未来十年中做出重大决定。 |
| 61 | Let's dig even deeper. | 让我们更深入地挖掘。 |
| 62 | We are humans, not statistics, as I mentioned. | 正如我提到的,我们是人类,不是统计。 |
| 63 | So instead of going to Google, I went to humans to create my own type of study on the matter. | 因此,我不去谷歌,而是去人类那里 创造出自己研究这个问题的类型。 |
| 64 | I spent my career thus far talking to today's teens and 20-somethings about what they actually | 我花了我的职业生涯到目前为止 与今天的十几岁和二十几岁 谈论他们实际上 |
| 65 | need to feel more prepared for their life. | 需要为他们的生活做更多的准备。 |
| 66 | I wrote a book answering their questions. | 我写了一本书来回答他们的问题。 |
| 67 | I started a podcast educating them on the topics that their parents or the education | 我开始播客教育他们 关于他们父母或教育的话题 |
| 68 | system generally weren't teaching them. | 系统一般不会教他们 |
| 69 | I created an online platform reaching millions of them worldwide. | 我创建了一个在线平台,覆盖全世界数百万人。 |
| 70 | And now I stand here today being a physical representation of what is often represented | 现在我站在这里 代表经常代表的东西 |
| 71 | as a statistic. | 作为统计。 |
| 72 | Where are our teens and 20-somethings struggling most? | 我们的十几岁和二十几岁的人 在哪里挣扎? |
| 73 | The common thread did not have to do with being addicted to their phones. | 共同的线索与被他们的手机上瘾无关. |
| 74 | It didn't have to do with being bullied by their peers or being overly stressed about | 和被同龄人欺负或过度强调无关 |
| 75 | school or work. | 学校或工作。 |
| 76 | The common thread was much more conclusive. | 共同的线索更具有结论性。 |
| 77 | A feeling of being constantly at war with their minds. | 一种与他们的思想不断交战的感觉. |
| 78 | But it's not the 21st century that is the culprit of this mental mass distress. | 但并不是21世纪的罪魁祸首 是这种精神大规模困扰。 |
| 79 | It's that historically we have rarely, if ever, put any true emphasis on the development | 历史上我们很少真正强调发展 |
| 80 | of emotional and decision-making skills. | 情感和决策技能。 |
| 81 | We need change. | 我们需要改变。 |
| 82 | Our young adults, our children, our parents raising our children and young adults need | 我们的青壮年,我们的孩子,我们的父母 抚养我们的孩子和年轻的成年人需要 |
| 83 | better mental and emotional skills to better create a future for themselves, their families, | 更好的精神和情感技能 更好地为自己,他们的家庭创造未来, |
| 84 | their communities, and society at large. | 他们的社区和整个社会。 |
| 85 | What is going on inside of each of us creates the reality of what is happening outside of | 我们每个人的内心正在发生的事情 创造了现实 |
| 86 | each of us. | 我们每个人 |
| 87 | These emotional skills, these are not what we call soft skills. | 这些情感技能,这些并不是我们所说的软技能. |
| 88 | These are life-changing, life-saving, society-altering skills. | 这些是改变生命、拯救生命、改变社会的技能。 |
| 89 | So how do we make this change? | 那么,我们如何做这个改变? |
| 90 | Well, it turns out changing the way society functions on a mass scale is a little bit | 事实证明,改变社会运作方式的 大规模是有点 |
| 91 | difficult, which, you know, is probably not very shocking. | 很难,你知道的, 这可能并不非常令人震惊。 |
| 92 | But still, with my work with young people over the years, I have found three core pillars | 但是,随着我多年来与年轻人的合作,我找到了三个核心支柱 |
| 93 | of information that can help young people have a simple foundation of better emotional | 能够帮助年轻人拥有更好的情感基础的信息 |
| 94 | intelligence, better decision-making skills, and empathetic self-guided growth. | 智力,更好的决策技能,以及自导自演的成长. |
| 95 | Which brings us to pillar number one, unlearning. | 这让我们来到了第一支柱,不学习。 |
| 96 | There are many unhelpful social constructs that weigh down today's youth, being the | 有许多无益的社会结构 压低了今天的年轻人,是 |
| 97 | great on your paper determines your intelligence, or you're supposed to be nothing but young | 在你的报纸上,伟大的决定了你的智慧, 或者你应该只是年轻 |
| 98 | and dumb right now, or my personal favorite, this needs to be the best time of your life. | 和哑巴现在, 或我个人的最爱, 这需要是你生命中最好的时间。 |
| 99 | So annoying. | 真烦人 |
| 100 | But the most harmful of all is the way many of us are socially conditioned to determine | 但其中最有害的是我们中许多人 被社会条件决定 |
| 101 | what a happy and successful life looks like and how to actually achieve it. | 一个快乐和成功的生活 是什么样子 以及如何真正实现它。 |
| 102 | My dad was a very money-driven man, caring, but very money-driven. | 我爸爸是一个非常金钱驱动的人, 关心,但非常金钱驱动。 |
| 103 | And as his daughter, I inherited a lot of that money-driven energy, the idea that if | 作为他的女儿,我继承了很多 金钱驱动的能量, 这个想法,如果 |
| 104 | I just made enough money, that's where I would find peace. | 我只是赚了足够多的钱, 在那里我会找到和平。 |
| 105 | But for years, I watched that same mindset tear him apart. | 但多年来,我看着同样的心态把他撕裂。 |
| 106 | Absolutely destroying his ability to have peace. | 彻底毁了他拥有和平的能力。 |
| 107 | And I didn't want that. | 我也不想这样 |
| 108 | So I asked myself, okay, if I can't determine the success of my life based off of money | 所以我问自己,好吧, 如果我不能确定 我的成功生活 依靠金钱 |
| 109 | or status, power, net worth, how do I determine that I'm living a successful life? | 或地位,权力,净值, 我如何确定 我生活的成功? |
| 110 | How do I gauge it? | 我怎么判断? |
| 111 | And I contemplated that question for a really long time until I found an answer. | 我考虑这个问题很长一段时间 直到找到答案。 |
| 112 | Living in alignment. | 住对齐. |
| 113 | Living in alignment is aligning your core priorities, your actions, and your thoughts with your | 生活一致就是调整你的核心优先事项、行动、思想 |
| 114 | deepest core values. | 最深的核心价值。 |
| 115 | So when your head hits the pillow at night and you can ask yourself, am I living as aligned | 所以当你晚上头撞到枕头 你可以问自己 我是否像以前一样生活 |
| 116 | as I can in this moment? | 此时此刻,我可以吗? |
| 117 | And you can truthfully answer that question with yes, that is what peace feels like. | 你可以诚实地回答这个问题,是的,这就是和平的感觉。 |
| 118 | Because there's nothing more to long for. | 因甚么处来长. |
| 119 | With that mindset, the only person that is in charge of your success is you. | 以这种心态,唯一能让你成功的人就是你. |
| 120 | And that's a very blissful, fulfilling, and freeing feeling. | 这是一个非常幸福,满足,和自由的感觉。 |
| 121 | I urge you to take audit of what social conditionings and mindsets you have inherited, question | 我敦促你接受审计 你继承了什么社会条件和心态 质疑 |
| 122 | why you think, believe, act, or speak in the way that you do. | 为什么你会这样想 相信 行动 或说话 |
| 123 | And from there, you can reconstruct your views to be more aligned with you and the future | 从那里,你可以重建你的观点 与你和未来更加一致 |
| 124 | that you want to have for yourself. | 你想给自己。 |
| 125 | As we unlearn social conditionings, we free up space to then create an authentic way of | 随着我们解开社交环境,我们腾出空间,然后创造出一种真正的方式 |
| 126 | being, which brings us to pillar number two, being. | 这让我们来到了第二支柱 |
| 127 | How do we design an authentic way of being for ourselves? | 我们如何设计一种真正的自我? |
| 128 | What does that mean? | 这是什么意思? |
| 129 | In order to align our way of being, we must become healthier and more self-aware individuals. | 为了调整我们的生活方式,我们必须更加健康,更加自觉。 |
| 130 | So how do we do this? | 那么,我们如何做到这一点? |
| 131 | Most of you, I would imagine, know the common answers to this question. | 我想你们大多数人都知道这个问题的共同答案。 |
| 132 | Therapy, journaling, meditation, breath work, reading, and other growth methods. | 治疗,期刊,冥想,呼吸工作,阅读,以及其他生长方法. |
| 133 | But what I want to talk to you about is why we do these things. | 但我想跟你说的是 为什么我们做这些事情 |
| 134 | Why put forth the effort? | 为什么要努力? |
| 135 | Because if you've gone through any sort of intentional growth process, you know it's | 因为如果你经历了 任何一种有意的成长过程, 你知道这是 |
| 136 | pretty gruesome and it's pretty hard. | 相当可怕,而且很困难。 |
| 137 | So why do we do this? | 我们为什么要这么做? |
| 138 | I want you to think of it like this. | 我要你这样想 |
| 139 | For analogy's sake, let's say your life goal is to build a house, but you've never built | 为了类比的缘故,让我们假设你的人生目标 是建造一个房子, 但你从来没有建造过 |
| 140 | a house before. | 以前住过的房子 |
| 141 | So the only way that you can do this is by building your house in the way everyone around | 所以,你唯一能做到这一点的方法 就是用周围的人建造你的房子 |
| 142 | you teaches you to build a house. | 你教你怎么盖房子 |
| 143 | And after 20 years of living in this house that you built, you come to realize that maybe | 你在这所房子住了20年之后 你意识到也许 |
| 144 | some of the practices people taught you about building a house probably weren't the best. | 人们教你的建造房子的一些做法 可能并不是最好的 |
| 145 | And you know this, because there's areas of your house that are starting to warp or | 你也知道,因为你家有些地方 开始扭曲或 |
| 146 | crumble or malfunction. | 崩溃或故障。 |
| 147 | We use these growth methods to gain the tools that no one ever taught us. | 我们使用这些增长方法来获得没有人教过我们的工具. |
| 148 | We can then use those tools to rebuild so we can live in a house that doesn't feel | 我们可以用这些工具重建 这样我们就可以住在一个没有感觉的房子 |
| 149 | like it's consistently falling apart. | 就像它一直崩溃一样 |
| 150 | As we learn how to reconstruct our views in a way that is more aligned for each of us, | 当我们学会如何以更符合我们每个人的方式重建我们的观点时, |
| 151 | our foundation becomes sturdier as our communication skills improve. | 随着我们沟通技能的提高,我们的基金会变得更加稳固。 |
| 152 | The leaking in our bathroom stops as we learn to trust people again. | 我们的浴室的漏水 停止了,因为我们学会了重新信任别人。 |
| 153 | Our A.C. kicks back on as we learn how to better emotionally regulate. | 我们的AC在学习如何更好地调节情绪时,又恢复了活力. |
| 154 | And pillar number three is doing. | 第三根支柱正在做。 |
| 155 | Some years ago I had convinced my mom to jump out of a plane with me in New Zealand. | 几年前我说服了我妈 和我一起从新西兰的飞机上跳下去 |
| 156 | And she had asked me if I had checked the safety record for this company that we were | 她问我有没有查过这家公司的安全记录 |
| 157 | jumping with, and I told her I had. | 我告诉她我有 |
| 158 | I didn't. | 我没有。 |
| 159 | And so as we were sitting in the parking lot, I started looking up reviews and articles. | 所以当我们坐在停车场, 我开始寻找评论和文章。 |
| 160 | And it turns out a plane of theirs had crashed just a month earlier, but no one died. | 他们的一架飞机在一个月前坠毁 但没人死 |
| 161 | So I figured that we'd probably be fine. | 所以我觉得我们可能没事 |
| 162 | So like the wonderful daughter I am, I told my mom it was perfectly safe. | 就像我这个好女儿一样,我告诉我妈它很安全 |
| 163 | And we went inside. | 我们进去了。 |
| 164 | And considering that I'm here today and she's in the audience, we did live. | 而考虑到我今天在这里, 她的观众,我们确实活着。 |
| 165 | So that's good. | 所以这是很好的。 |
| 166 | But the interesting thing about skydiving is that it doesn't at all feel how you expect. | 但跳伞的有趣之处在于 它完全感觉不到你的预期 |
| 167 | The world always made it seem so scary and chaotic. | 世界总是让它看起来如此可怕和混乱。 |
| 168 | But it's not that scary and it's not very chaotic. | 但它不是那么可怕,也不是非常混乱。 |
| 169 | You're falling too fast for your brain to even recognize what's happening. | 你坠落得太快了 你的大脑甚至都认不出发生了什么 |
| 170 | And before you know it, you're just slowly floating and you're enjoying the view. | 在你意识到之前,你只是慢慢地漂浮,享受着风景. |
| 171 | Skydiving is more serene than anything else. | Skydiving比其他任何东西都更安静. |
| 172 | And I've come to realize that making bold changes in our life is very much similar to skydiving. | 我逐渐意识到, 大胆地改变我们的生活 与跳伞非常相似。 |
| 173 | The people in our life that have never jumped, have never actually gone skydiving, are generally | 我们生活中从未跳伞过 从未真正跳伞过的人 一般来说 |
| 174 | the ones that are giving it the reputation of it being so scary and chaotic. | 那些给它留下如此恐怖和混乱的名声的人 |
| 175 | The same goes for making bold changes. | 做出大胆改变也是如此。 |
| 176 | The people that have never actually done it or understand that they even can are usually | 从来没有真正做到这一点或明白 他们甚至可以 |
| 177 | the people that are making us or contributing to us feeling afraid. | 那些让我们感到恐惧的人 |
| 178 | Quitting a job you hate or coming out to your parents, ending the relationship that you | 放弃你讨厌的工作 或出来找你的父母,结束你的关系 |
| 179 | know is not serving you is scary. | 知道不为您服务是可怕的。 |
| 180 | It is very scary. | 这是非常可怕的。 |
| 181 | But if it does feel right and there's a way to make it work, it will bring you more peace | 但是,如果它确实感觉正确,有办法让它发挥作用,它会给你带来更多的和平 |
| 182 | than chaos. | 而不是混乱。 |
| 183 | It will bring you more peace than chaos. | 这会给你带来更多的和平 比混乱。 |
| 184 | It will allow you to live more aligned. | 它可以让你更加团结 |
| 185 | And that is why it will bring you this underlying essence of peace. | 这就是为什么它会给你带来 和平的根本本质。 |
| 186 | The courage to jump when you know you're being self is urging you to do so. | 当你知道自己是自我的时候,跳起来的勇气就是敦促你这样做. |
| 187 | That is the art of pillar number three, doing. | 这是第三支柱的艺术,正在做。 |
| 188 | Unlearning, being, and doing. | 学不学,是,和做。 |
| 189 | The concepts that I teach are not wildly unique, and yet when I share them with young people, | 我所教的概念并不是独一无二的, 但是当我和年轻人分享这些概念时, |
| 190 | they harvest life-changing results. | 他们收获改变生命的成果。 |
| 191 | When I share these simple mental and emotional skills, I get feedback, DMs, and messages | 当我分享这些简单的心理和情感技巧时, 我得到反馈,DMs,和讯息 |
| 192 | like this. | 像这样 |
| 193 | I'm 18 years old, and I'm raising me and my little sister in a small apartment, and | 我18岁了 我和我的小妹妹在一间小公寓里长大 |
| 194 | your videos have helped with so much of the stress. | 您的视频帮助 这么多的压力。 |
| 195 | I read your book, and I don't feel so afraid anymore, or I considered making another suicide | 我读过你的书 我不再感到害怕 或者我考虑再自杀一次 |
| 196 | attempt last night, and your videos saved my life. | 昨晚的尝试, 你的视频救了我的命。 |
| 197 | We must stop this generational cycle of underdeveloped mental and emotional skills, as it is one | 我们必须停止这种智力和情感技能不发达的世代循环,因为它是 |
| 198 | of the deepest roots of societal suffering. | 社会苦难的根源。 |
| 199 | To any young person listening, our 20s don't need to be so confusing, and they don't need | 对听话的年轻人来说 我们20多岁的人不需要这么困惑 他们不需要 |
| 200 | to be miserable. | 变得悲惨。 |
| 201 | Start being intuitive and intentional as soon as possible, no waiting for a traumatic event | 尽快开始直觉和故意的 不要等待创伤事件 |
| 202 | or the stereotypical midlife crisis to change and to grow. | 或定型的中年危机 改变和增长。 |
| 203 | Take radical responsibility as soon as possible, as this is where joy and fulfillment are born. | 尽快承担重大责任,因为这是快乐和成就的诞生地。 |
| 204 | An idea we're spreading to every teen and 20-something. | 我们向每个十几岁和二十几岁的人传播一个想法。 |
| 205 | The sooner you grow, the better. | 越快成长越好 |
| 206 | Thank you. | 谢谢 |
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| 时间 | 英文 | 中文 |
|---|---|---|
| 0:02 | The answer is yes, I did play basketball, yeah. | 答案是 是的 我打过篮球 |
| 0:08 | I remember the exact day in place, my entire life changed, and I didn't even know it. | 我记得确切的日期, 我的整个生活改变了, 我甚至不知道它。 |
| 0:16 | It's April 26th, and I'm 18 years old, I'm in the gym. | 4月26日 18岁在健身房. |
| 0:21 | I'm listening to a podcast, as I usually do when I work out, and I heard the podcast guest | 我在听播客的歌 就像我工作时常听的 我听到播客的客人 |
| 0:28 | in my ear say something I'd heard so many of these 30 to 60-something psychologists, | 在我的耳朵里,说一些我听到 这么多这些30到60的东西心理学家, |
| 0:36 | activists, authors, and business leaders say many times before. | 活动家、作者和商界领袖在之前多次发言。 |
| 0:42 | If I had the same mindset now that I did in my teens or 20s, I'd be miserable. | 如果我现在有同样的心态 像我在十几岁或二十多岁的时候做, 我会很悲惨。 |
| 0:48 | I was such an idiot, and I remember every time I heard those statements expressed with | 我真是个白痴,我记得每次听到这些讲话 |
| 0:55 | a laugh, it made me feel sad. | 笑一个,这让我感到悲伤。 |
| 1:00 | I was entering college. | 我进入大学。 |
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| 1 | The answer is yes, I did play basketball, yeah. | 答案是 是的 我打过篮球 |
| 2 | I remember the exact day in place, my entire life changed, and I didn't even know it. | 我记得确切的日期, 我的整个生活改变了, 我甚至不知道它。 |
| 3 | It's April 26th, and I'm 18 years old, I'm in the gym. | 4月26日 18岁在健身房. |
| 4 | I'm listening to a podcast, as I usually do when I work out, and I heard the podcast guest | 我在听播客的歌 就像我工作时常听的 我听到播客的客人 |
| 5 | in my ear say something I'd heard so many of these 30 to 60-something psychologists, | 在我的耳朵里,说一些我听到 这么多这些30到60的东西心理学家, |
| 6 | activists, authors, and business leaders say many times before. | 活动家、作者和商界领袖在之前多次发言。 |
| 7 | If I had the same mindset now that I did in my teens or 20s, I'd be miserable. | 如果我现在有同样的心态 像我在十几岁或二十多岁的时候做, 我会很悲惨。 |
| 8 | I was such an idiot, and I remember every time I heard those statements expressed with | 我真是个白痴,我记得每次听到这些讲话 |
| 9 | a laugh, it made me feel sad. | 笑一个,这让我感到悲伤。 |
| 10 | I was entering college. | 我进入大学。 |
| 11 | I didn't want to be miserable, and then I felt actually pretty irritated. | 我不想痛苦,然后我觉得很烦恼 |
| 12 | I refused to be miserable. | 我拒绝痛苦。 |
| 13 | Much of this refusal of misery had to do with that just five months earlier, I had sat hand | 5个月前,我曾坐过手 |
| 14 | in hand with my dad as he passed away after a six-year battle with the terminal disease | 和我父亲一起度过了六年的绝症之战 |
| 15 | ALS. | (原始内容存档于2018-09-26). AlS. |
| 16 | Following that experience, I promised myself I would not spend a moment of my life hating | 经历之后,我答应自己,我不会花 我一生的一刻恨 |
| 17 | it, as I learned that time is never promised. | 正如我所得知的 时间永远不会得到保证 |
| 18 | My irritation intensified as I reflected on the fact that these personal development leaders | 当我反思这些个人发展领袖时,我的烦恼加剧 |
| 19 | are rarely talking to young people specifically. | 很少特别与年轻人交谈。 |
| 20 | This didn't make any sense to me because I thought, aren't we the ones that need to know | 这对我没有任何意义 因为我想,是不是我们需要知道 |
| 21 | this stuff about growth, mindfulness, and emotions the most? | 关于成长, 觉悟, 和情感的最? |
| 22 | Over the next decade, I was supposed to determine a field of study or career, potentially find | 在接下来的十年里,我应该确定一个研究领域或职业领域, 可能发现 |
| 23 | a life partner, decide where to live, handle personal finances and retirement, maybe even | 生活伴侣,决定在哪里生活, 处理个人财务和退休,也许甚至 |
| 24 | start a family, and many other decisions that had lifelong impacts. | 以及许多其他有终身影响的决定。 |
| 25 | But here I was with thousands of other high school seniors receiving the same piece of | 但在这里,我与成千上万其他高中高年级学生 得到同样的一块 |
| 26 | for most of the adults in our lives. | 对于我们生活中的大部分成年人来说 |
| 27 | You've got time, you'll figure it out, I just don't think you need to worry about it. | 你有时间,你会想出办法的 我只是觉得你不必担心 |
| 28 | And although this advice is slightly anxiety-reducing in the moment, we are rarely, if ever, given | 虽然这个建议在目前稍有减少焦虑, 但我们很少,如果曾经,给予 |
| 29 | practical, emotional, and decision-making training, making the anxiety-reducing moments extremely | * 进行实际、情感和决策培训,使减少焦虑的时刻变得极为复杂; |
| 30 | short and fleeting because we didn't know how to navigate these decisions we had to make. | 短暂而短暂,因为我们不知道 如何引导这些决定 我们不得不做出。 |
| 31 | And so, with that aha moment in the gym, I found my mission, to change the rhetoric of | 所以,在健身房的那一刻, 我找到了我的使命, 改变言辞, |
| 32 | what your teens and 20s could and should be, which brings me to today. | 你的十几岁和二十多岁能和应该是什么, 这让我来到今天。 |
| 33 | And after a bit more study, it turns out teenage Livy had some very valid points, two points | 经过多一点研究,发现小李维 有一些非常合理的点,两点 |
| 34 | in specific. | 具体而言。 |
| 35 | Down to a neurological level, how we train our brains now in our 20s truly matters when | 下到神经层面,如何训练我们的大脑 现在我们的20多岁 真正重要的是何时 |
| 36 | it comes to setting ourselves up for a less stressful and more fulfilling life. | 来让自己过上更轻松更充实的生活 |
| 37 | Your brain is a complex system of neurological pathways. | 你的大脑是一个复杂的神经系统。 |
| 38 | You can think of it like a complex system of roads. | 你可以把它想象成一个复杂的道路系统。 |
| 39 | The more you drive specific routes, the more ingrained those habits and behavioral patterns | 你驾驶特定路线越多,这些习惯和行为模式就越根深蒂固 |
| 40 | become. | 成为。 |
| 41 | And that is why it's so important we start specifically choosing which routes we continue | 这就是为什么它是如此重要 我们开始特别选择 我们继续的路线 |
| 42 | to drive down now, because it will be much more painful and difficult to rewire your | 现在开车下去, 因为那会更痛苦 和困难 重新连接你的 |
| 43 | mind 30 years from now when your mental software has become hardware. | 30年后你的精神软件变成了硬件 |
| 44 | And point number two, teenage Livy was also onto the fact that the decisions we make in | 第二点,十几岁的李维 也注意到我们的决定 |
| 45 | our 20s do matter, but that is why we need proper emotional and mental skills to help | 我们的20多岁的确很重要, 但这就是为什么我们需要 适当的情感和精神技能来帮助 |
| 46 | guide us in those decisions. | 指导我们作出这些决定。 |
| 47 | Meg J., PhD clinical psychologist, notes in her newly revised book, The Defining Decade, | Meg J.,临床心理学博士,在其新订正的书《界定十年》中指出, |
| 48 | these statistics that might shake up any young adult a bit. | 这些统计可能让任何年轻的成年人略感震撼。 |
| 49 | 85% of life's most defining moments happen before age 35. | 85%的人生最决定性的时刻发生在35岁之前。 |
| 50 | Not the most important, not the best moments, but life definers are often happening before | 并不是最重要的,也不是最好的时刻, 但是生命定义者经常发生在之前 |
| 51 | your mid-30s. | 30多岁 |
| 52 | Your 20s coincide with your peak childbearing years. | 20多岁与你最繁忙的生育年代吻合 |
| 53 | More than 50% of us will be living with, dating, or married to our life partner by age 30. | 我们50%以上的人将在30岁之前与我们的生活伴侣生活在一起、约会或结婚。 |
| 54 | Your earning power is generally decided in your first 10 years of work. | 你的赚钱能力一般是在你工作的头十年决定的. |
| 55 | And as you probably know, in your childhood, that's where you will have peak brain development. | 正如你可能知道的那样,在你的童年时期, 那就是你的大脑发展高峰。 |
| 56 | But your personality and your brain changes more in your 20s than any time before or after. | 但你的个性和大脑在20多岁时的改变 比之前或之后的任何时间都多. |
| 57 | These statistics show us that the decisions you make in your 20s do, in fact, matter. | 这些统计数字显示,你20多岁时所做的决定确实很重要。 |
| 58 | But to any young adult listening, I do want to note, these are statistics, correlation | 但对于任何年青的成年人,我确实想指出,这些是统计,关联 |
| 59 | does not always mean causation, but still, whether we like it or not, we do have some | 但不管我们喜不喜欢,我们确实有一些 |
| 60 | big decisions to make over the next decade. | 在未来十年中做出重大决定。 |
| 61 | Let's dig even deeper. | 让我们更深入地挖掘。 |
| 62 | We are humans, not statistics, as I mentioned. | 正如我提到的,我们是人类,不是统计。 |
| 63 | So instead of going to Google, I went to humans to create my own type of study on the matter. | 因此,我不去谷歌,而是去人类那里 创造出自己研究这个问题的类型。 |
| 64 | I spent my career thus far talking to today's teens and 20-somethings about what they actually | 我花了我的职业生涯到目前为止 与今天的十几岁和二十几岁 谈论他们实际上 |
| 65 | need to feel more prepared for their life. | 需要为他们的生活做更多的准备。 |
| 66 | I wrote a book answering their questions. | 我写了一本书来回答他们的问题。 |
| 67 | I started a podcast educating them on the topics that their parents or the education | 我开始播客教育他们 关于他们父母或教育的话题 |
| 68 | system generally weren't teaching them. | 系统一般不会教他们 |
| 69 | I created an online platform reaching millions of them worldwide. | 我创建了一个在线平台,覆盖全世界数百万人。 |
| 70 | And now I stand here today being a physical representation of what is often represented | 现在我站在这里 代表经常代表的东西 |
| 71 | as a statistic. | 作为统计。 |
| 72 | Where are our teens and 20-somethings struggling most? | 我们的十几岁和二十几岁的人 在哪里挣扎? |
| 73 | The common thread did not have to do with being addicted to their phones. | 共同的线索与被他们的手机上瘾无关. |
| 74 | It didn't have to do with being bullied by their peers or being overly stressed about | 和被同龄人欺负或过度强调无关 |
| 75 | school or work. | 学校或工作。 |
| 76 | The common thread was much more conclusive. | 共同的线索更具有结论性。 |
| 77 | A feeling of being constantly at war with their minds. | 一种与他们的思想不断交战的感觉. |
| 78 | But it's not the 21st century that is the culprit of this mental mass distress. | 但并不是21世纪的罪魁祸首 是这种精神大规模困扰。 |
| 79 | It's that historically we have rarely, if ever, put any true emphasis on the development | 历史上我们很少真正强调发展 |
| 80 | of emotional and decision-making skills. | 情感和决策技能。 |
| 81 | We need change. | 我们需要改变。 |
| 82 | Our young adults, our children, our parents raising our children and young adults need | 我们的青壮年,我们的孩子,我们的父母 抚养我们的孩子和年轻的成年人需要 |
| 83 | better mental and emotional skills to better create a future for themselves, their families, | 更好的精神和情感技能 更好地为自己,他们的家庭创造未来, |
| 84 | their communities, and society at large. | 他们的社区和整个社会。 |
| 85 | What is going on inside of each of us creates the reality of what is happening outside of | 我们每个人的内心正在发生的事情 创造了现实 |
| 86 | each of us. | 我们每个人 |
| 87 | These emotional skills, these are not what we call soft skills. | 这些情感技能,这些并不是我们所说的软技能. |
| 88 | These are life-changing, life-saving, society-altering skills. | 这些是改变生命、拯救生命、改变社会的技能。 |
| 89 | So how do we make this change? | 那么,我们如何做这个改变? |
| 90 | Well, it turns out changing the way society functions on a mass scale is a little bit | 事实证明,改变社会运作方式的 大规模是有点 |
| 91 | difficult, which, you know, is probably not very shocking. | 很难,你知道的, 这可能并不非常令人震惊。 |
| 92 | But still, with my work with young people over the years, I have found three core pillars | 但是,随着我多年来与年轻人的合作,我找到了三个核心支柱 |
| 93 | of information that can help young people have a simple foundation of better emotional | 能够帮助年轻人拥有更好的情感基础的信息 |
| 94 | intelligence, better decision-making skills, and empathetic self-guided growth. | 智力,更好的决策技能,以及自导自演的成长. |
| 95 | Which brings us to pillar number one, unlearning. | 这让我们来到了第一支柱,不学习。 |
| 96 | There are many unhelpful social constructs that weigh down today's youth, being the | 有许多无益的社会结构 压低了今天的年轻人,是 |
| 97 | great on your paper determines your intelligence, or you're supposed to be nothing but young | 在你的报纸上,伟大的决定了你的智慧, 或者你应该只是年轻 |
| 98 | and dumb right now, or my personal favorite, this needs to be the best time of your life. | 和哑巴现在, 或我个人的最爱, 这需要是你生命中最好的时间。 |
| 99 | So annoying. | 真烦人 |
| 100 | But the most harmful of all is the way many of us are socially conditioned to determine | 但其中最有害的是我们中许多人 被社会条件决定 |
| 101 | what a happy and successful life looks like and how to actually achieve it. | 一个快乐和成功的生活 是什么样子 以及如何真正实现它。 |
| 102 | My dad was a very money-driven man, caring, but very money-driven. | 我爸爸是一个非常金钱驱动的人, 关心,但非常金钱驱动。 |
| 103 | And as his daughter, I inherited a lot of that money-driven energy, the idea that if | 作为他的女儿,我继承了很多 金钱驱动的能量, 这个想法,如果 |
| 104 | I just made enough money, that's where I would find peace. | 我只是赚了足够多的钱, 在那里我会找到和平。 |
| 105 | But for years, I watched that same mindset tear him apart. | 但多年来,我看着同样的心态把他撕裂。 |
| 106 | Absolutely destroying his ability to have peace. | 彻底毁了他拥有和平的能力。 |
| 107 | And I didn't want that. | 我也不想这样 |
| 108 | So I asked myself, okay, if I can't determine the success of my life based off of money | 所以我问自己,好吧, 如果我不能确定 我的成功生活 依靠金钱 |
| 109 | or status, power, net worth, how do I determine that I'm living a successful life? | 或地位,权力,净值, 我如何确定 我生活的成功? |
| 110 | How do I gauge it? | 我怎么判断? |
| 111 | And I contemplated that question for a really long time until I found an answer. | 我考虑这个问题很长一段时间 直到找到答案。 |
| 112 | Living in alignment. | 住对齐. |
| 113 | Living in alignment is aligning your core priorities, your actions, and your thoughts with your | 生活一致就是调整你的核心优先事项、行动、思想 |
| 114 | deepest core values. | 最深的核心价值。 |
| 115 | So when your head hits the pillow at night and you can ask yourself, am I living as aligned | 所以当你晚上头撞到枕头 你可以问自己 我是否像以前一样生活 |
| 116 | as I can in this moment? | 此时此刻,我可以吗? |
| 117 | And you can truthfully answer that question with yes, that is what peace feels like. | 你可以诚实地回答这个问题,是的,这就是和平的感觉。 |
| 118 | Because there's nothing more to long for. | 因甚么处来长. |
| 119 | With that mindset, the only person that is in charge of your success is you. | 以这种心态,唯一能让你成功的人就是你. |
| 120 | And that's a very blissful, fulfilling, and freeing feeling. | 这是一个非常幸福,满足,和自由的感觉。 |
| 121 | I urge you to take audit of what social conditionings and mindsets you have inherited, question | 我敦促你接受审计 你继承了什么社会条件和心态 质疑 |
| 122 | why you think, believe, act, or speak in the way that you do. | 为什么你会这样想 相信 行动 或说话 |
| 123 | And from there, you can reconstruct your views to be more aligned with you and the future | 从那里,你可以重建你的观点 与你和未来更加一致 |
| 124 | that you want to have for yourself. | 你想给自己。 |
| 125 | As we unlearn social conditionings, we free up space to then create an authentic way of | 随着我们解开社交环境,我们腾出空间,然后创造出一种真正的方式 |
| 126 | being, which brings us to pillar number two, being. | 这让我们来到了第二支柱 |
| 127 | How do we design an authentic way of being for ourselves? | 我们如何设计一种真正的自我? |
| 128 | What does that mean? | 这是什么意思? |
| 129 | In order to align our way of being, we must become healthier and more self-aware individuals. | 为了调整我们的生活方式,我们必须更加健康,更加自觉。 |
| 130 | So how do we do this? | 那么,我们如何做到这一点? |
| 131 | Most of you, I would imagine, know the common answers to this question. | 我想你们大多数人都知道这个问题的共同答案。 |
| 132 | Therapy, journaling, meditation, breath work, reading, and other growth methods. | 治疗,期刊,冥想,呼吸工作,阅读,以及其他生长方法. |
| 133 | But what I want to talk to you about is why we do these things. | 但我想跟你说的是 为什么我们做这些事情 |
| 134 | Why put forth the effort? | 为什么要努力? |
| 135 | Because if you've gone through any sort of intentional growth process, you know it's | 因为如果你经历了 任何一种有意的成长过程, 你知道这是 |
| 136 | pretty gruesome and it's pretty hard. | 相当可怕,而且很困难。 |
| 137 | So why do we do this? | 我们为什么要这么做? |
| 138 | I want you to think of it like this. | 我要你这样想 |
| 139 | For analogy's sake, let's say your life goal is to build a house, but you've never built | 为了类比的缘故,让我们假设你的人生目标 是建造一个房子, 但你从来没有建造过 |
| 140 | a house before. | 以前住过的房子 |
| 141 | So the only way that you can do this is by building your house in the way everyone around | 所以,你唯一能做到这一点的方法 就是用周围的人建造你的房子 |
| 142 | you teaches you to build a house. | 你教你怎么盖房子 |
| 143 | And after 20 years of living in this house that you built, you come to realize that maybe | 你在这所房子住了20年之后 你意识到也许 |
| 144 | some of the practices people taught you about building a house probably weren't the best. | 人们教你的建造房子的一些做法 可能并不是最好的 |
| 145 | And you know this, because there's areas of your house that are starting to warp or | 你也知道,因为你家有些地方 开始扭曲或 |
| 146 | crumble or malfunction. | 崩溃或故障。 |
| 147 | We use these growth methods to gain the tools that no one ever taught us. | 我们使用这些增长方法来获得没有人教过我们的工具. |
| 148 | We can then use those tools to rebuild so we can live in a house that doesn't feel | 我们可以用这些工具重建 这样我们就可以住在一个没有感觉的房子 |
| 149 | like it's consistently falling apart. | 就像它一直崩溃一样 |
| 150 | As we learn how to reconstruct our views in a way that is more aligned for each of us, | 当我们学会如何以更符合我们每个人的方式重建我们的观点时, |
| 151 | our foundation becomes sturdier as our communication skills improve. | 随着我们沟通技能的提高,我们的基金会变得更加稳固。 |
| 152 | The leaking in our bathroom stops as we learn to trust people again. | 我们的浴室的漏水 停止了,因为我们学会了重新信任别人。 |
| 153 | Our A.C. kicks back on as we learn how to better emotionally regulate. | 我们的AC在学习如何更好地调节情绪时,又恢复了活力. |
| 154 | And pillar number three is doing. | 第三根支柱正在做。 |
| 155 | Some years ago I had convinced my mom to jump out of a plane with me in New Zealand. | 几年前我说服了我妈 和我一起从新西兰的飞机上跳下去 |
| 156 | And she had asked me if I had checked the safety record for this company that we were | 她问我有没有查过这家公司的安全记录 |
| 157 | jumping with, and I told her I had. | 我告诉她我有 |
| 158 | I didn't. | 我没有。 |
| 159 | And so as we were sitting in the parking lot, I started looking up reviews and articles. | 所以当我们坐在停车场, 我开始寻找评论和文章。 |
| 160 | And it turns out a plane of theirs had crashed just a month earlier, but no one died. | 他们的一架飞机在一个月前坠毁 但没人死 |
| 161 | So I figured that we'd probably be fine. | 所以我觉得我们可能没事 |
| 162 | So like the wonderful daughter I am, I told my mom it was perfectly safe. | 就像我这个好女儿一样,我告诉我妈它很安全 |
| 163 | And we went inside. | 我们进去了。 |
| 164 | And considering that I'm here today and she's in the audience, we did live. | 而考虑到我今天在这里, 她的观众,我们确实活着。 |
| 165 | So that's good. | 所以这是很好的。 |
| 166 | But the interesting thing about skydiving is that it doesn't at all feel how you expect. | 但跳伞的有趣之处在于 它完全感觉不到你的预期 |
| 167 | The world always made it seem so scary and chaotic. | 世界总是让它看起来如此可怕和混乱。 |
| 168 | But it's not that scary and it's not very chaotic. | 但它不是那么可怕,也不是非常混乱。 |
| 169 | You're falling too fast for your brain to even recognize what's happening. | 你坠落得太快了 你的大脑甚至都认不出发生了什么 |
| 170 | And before you know it, you're just slowly floating and you're enjoying the view. | 在你意识到之前,你只是慢慢地漂浮,享受着风景. |
| 171 | Skydiving is more serene than anything else. | Skydiving比其他任何东西都更安静. |
| 172 | And I've come to realize that making bold changes in our life is very much similar to skydiving. | 我逐渐意识到, 大胆地改变我们的生活 与跳伞非常相似。 |
| 173 | The people in our life that have never jumped, have never actually gone skydiving, are generally | 我们生活中从未跳伞过 从未真正跳伞过的人 一般来说 |
| 174 | the ones that are giving it the reputation of it being so scary and chaotic. | 那些给它留下如此恐怖和混乱的名声的人 |
| 175 | The same goes for making bold changes. | 做出大胆改变也是如此。 |
| 176 | The people that have never actually done it or understand that they even can are usually | 从来没有真正做到这一点或明白 他们甚至可以 |
| 177 | the people that are making us or contributing to us feeling afraid. | 那些让我们感到恐惧的人 |
| 178 | Quitting a job you hate or coming out to your parents, ending the relationship that you | 放弃你讨厌的工作 或出来找你的父母,结束你的关系 |
| 179 | know is not serving you is scary. | 知道不为您服务是可怕的。 |
| 180 | It is very scary. | 这是非常可怕的。 |
| 181 | But if it does feel right and there's a way to make it work, it will bring you more peace | 但是,如果它确实感觉正确,有办法让它发挥作用,它会给你带来更多的和平 |
| 182 | than chaos. | 而不是混乱。 |
| 183 | It will bring you more peace than chaos. | 这会给你带来更多的和平 比混乱。 |
| 184 | It will allow you to live more aligned. | 它可以让你更加团结 |
| 185 | And that is why it will bring you this underlying essence of peace. | 这就是为什么它会给你带来 和平的根本本质。 |
| 186 | The courage to jump when you know you're being self is urging you to do so. | 当你知道自己是自我的时候,跳起来的勇气就是敦促你这样做. |
| 187 | That is the art of pillar number three, doing. | 这是第三支柱的艺术,正在做。 |
| 188 | Unlearning, being, and doing. | 学不学,是,和做。 |
| 189 | The concepts that I teach are not wildly unique, and yet when I share them with young people, | 我所教的概念并不是独一无二的, 但是当我和年轻人分享这些概念时, |
| 190 | they harvest life-changing results. | 他们收获改变生命的成果。 |
| 191 | When I share these simple mental and emotional skills, I get feedback, DMs, and messages | 当我分享这些简单的心理和情感技巧时, 我得到反馈,DMs,和讯息 |
| 192 | like this. | 像这样 |
| 193 | I'm 18 years old, and I'm raising me and my little sister in a small apartment, and | 我18岁了 我和我的小妹妹在一间小公寓里长大 |
| 194 | your videos have helped with so much of the stress. | 您的视频帮助 这么多的压力。 |
| 195 | I read your book, and I don't feel so afraid anymore, or I considered making another suicide | 我读过你的书 我不再感到害怕 或者我考虑再自杀一次 |
| 196 | attempt last night, and your videos saved my life. | 昨晚的尝试, 你的视频救了我的命。 |
| 197 | We must stop this generational cycle of underdeveloped mental and emotional skills, as it is one | 我们必须停止这种智力和情感技能不发达的世代循环,因为它是 |
| 198 | of the deepest roots of societal suffering. | 社会苦难的根源。 |
| 199 | To any young person listening, our 20s don't need to be so confusing, and they don't need | 对听话的年轻人来说 我们20多岁的人不需要这么困惑 他们不需要 |
| 200 | to be miserable. | 变得悲惨。 |
| 201 | Start being intuitive and intentional as soon as possible, no waiting for a traumatic event | 尽快开始直觉和故意的 不要等待创伤事件 |
| 202 | or the stereotypical midlife crisis to change and to grow. | 或定型的中年危机 改变和增长。 |
| 203 | Take radical responsibility as soon as possible, as this is where joy and fulfillment are born. | 尽快承担重大责任,因为这是快乐和成就的诞生地。 |
| 204 | An idea we're spreading to every teen and 20-something. | 我们向每个十几岁和二十几岁的人传播一个想法。 |
| 205 | The sooner you grow, the better. | 越快成长越好 |
| 206 | Thank you. | 谢谢 |
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