【TED演讲】如何在逆境中培养韧性
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| 0:16 | grew up in Trinidad and Tobago and by the time I was 19 years old I felt like | 在特立尼达和多巴哥长大 在我19岁的时候 我觉得 |
| 0:23 | my life was coming together I had a dream job in the finance industry I had | 我的生活是在一起 我有一个梦想的工作 在金融行业,我有 |
| 0:30 | a great community and I was engaged in the love of my life but then everything | 一个伟大的社区,我从事 爱我的生活,但后来的一切 |
| 0:38 | changed my parents had moved to America and what that meant was that I had to go | 改变了我的父母 搬到了美国 这意味着我必须去 |
| 0:47 | I remember arriving in New York City and it was so noisy and everyone seemed to | 我记得我来到纽约市时 声音很吵 大家都觉得 |
| 0:54 | be in such a hurry I felt like I was dropped in the middle of the ocean | 这么着急,我觉得自己被扔在海里了 |
| 0:59 | without a life jacket things were out of control then it took the next two | 没有救生衣的东西是失控的 然后它用了接下来的两个 |
| 1:06 | decades of me struggling to make a life for myself in New York City and it's | 我在纽约市挣扎了几十年 为自己创造生活 |
| 1:15 | that time I felt like I've had my fair share of adversity now have you | 那个时候,我觉得我 得到了我的公平份额的逆境 现在有你 |
| 1:21 | experienced adversity okay okay by show of hands have you ever suffered loss in | 经历的逆境... |
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| 1 | grew up in Trinidad and Tobago and by the time I was 19 years old I felt like | 在特立尼达和多巴哥长大 在我19岁的时候 我觉得 |
| 2 | my life was coming together I had a dream job in the finance industry I had | 我的生活是在一起 我有一个梦想的工作 在金融行业,我有 |
| 3 | a great community and I was engaged in the love of my life but then everything | 一个伟大的社区,我从事 爱我的生活,但后来的一切 |
| 4 | changed my parents had moved to America and what that meant was that I had to go | 改变了我的父母 搬到了美国 这意味着我必须去 |
| 5 | I remember arriving in New York City and it was so noisy and everyone seemed to | 我记得我来到纽约市时 声音很吵 大家都觉得 |
| 6 | be in such a hurry I felt like I was dropped in the middle of the ocean | 这么着急,我觉得自己被扔在海里了 |
| 7 | without a life jacket things were out of control then it took the next two | 没有救生衣的东西是失控的 然后它用了接下来的两个 |
| 8 | decades of me struggling to make a life for myself in New York City and it's | 我在纽约市挣扎了几十年 为自己创造生活 |
| 9 | that time I felt like I've had my fair share of adversity now have you | 那个时候,我觉得我 得到了我的公平份额的逆境 现在有你 |
| 10 | experienced adversity okay okay by show of hands have you ever suffered loss in | 经历的逆境... |
| 11 | any way what about rejection have you experienced rejection okay how about | 不管怎么样 拒绝你都经历过拒绝 |
| 12 | oh yeah so we all have experienced adversity now according to the American | 哦,是的,所以我们都经历了逆境 现在根据美国人 |
| 13 | Psychological Association resilience is the process of adapting well in the face | 心理协会的适应能力是正面适应的过程 |
| 14 | of adversity so we all can benefit from being more resilient you see when I | 我们都能从更强的抗御力中获益 |
| 15 | think about it I can just only reflect on the days where I had difficulties and | 想想看,我只能回想那些我遇到困难的日子 |
| 16 | now that I look back at those difficult moments I can see how all of those | 现在,我回顾那些困难的时刻 我可以看到所有这些 |
| 17 | experiences has led to the development of my resilience and so that's what I | 经验导致我恢复力的发展 所以这就是我 |
| 18 | want to share with you today three key principles that I've learned that I | 今天想跟大家分享我学到的三项关键原则 |
| 19 | would help you to develop resilience so that you can adapt well in the face of | 帮助你发展适应能力,以便你能够很好地适应 |
| 20 | adversity so within my first month of arriving in America I remember standing | 所以在我抵达美国的第一个月里 我记得我站着 |
| 21 | {\fn黑体\fs22\bord1\shad0\3aHBE\4aH00\fscx67\fscy66\2cHFFFFFF\3cH808080}在寒冷的纽约街上 {\fn黑体\fs22\bord1\shad0\3aHBE\4aH00\fscx67\fscy66\2cHFFFFFF\3cH808080}看着这白色的维多利亚人 | |
| 22 | home and now that was the home that I would live in and work in six days a | 家,现在那是我6天后 生活和工作的家 |
| 23 | living nanny I had no idea what to expect and frankly I was terrified so I | 活着的保姆 我不知道该期待什么 坦白地说 我很害怕 所以我 |
| 24 | stood there and I rang the doorbell and I waited and the woman who answered the | 站在那里,我按门铃,我等待 和女人谁回答 |
| 25 | door she said hi I am mrs. Eskandarian it's lovely to meet you but she seemed | 门,她说你好,我是夫人。 Eskandarian 很高兴认识你 但她看起来 |
| 26 | friendly so this must work out really well so well within the first few weeks | 友好的,所以这 肯定真的很好 在前几周 |
| 27 | it did it really worked out quite well but one morning I have this very bad | 真的很成功,但有一天早上,我有一个非常糟糕的 |
| 28 | headache and as the day progressed the headache got worse and worse I felt like | 头痛 随着一天的推进 头痛愈发严重 |
| 29 | I needed to lay down so while I was laying there in the dark mrs. | 我需要躺下 当我躺在黑暗的夫人。 |
| 30 | Eskandarian came in the bedroom and she said I'm paying you to do a job and Tony | 埃斯坎达里安来到卧室 她说我付你钱让你做一份工作 托尼 |
| 31 | will be home soon and you can't make dinner if you too sick to do dinner then | 很快回家,如果你生病了不能做晚饭,你就不能做饭 |
| 32 | you get the bleep out of my bleeping house you bleep and she stormed out and | 你得到睡 从我的睡房 你睡了,她冲出去, |
| 33 | slammed the door behind her I laid there numb what just happened see I was totally | 撞上她身后的门 我躺在那 麻木了刚才发生的事 |
| 34 | stunned because no one had ever spoken to me like that in my entire life so I | 惊呆了,因为我这辈子从来没有人这样对我说话 所以我 |
| 35 | crept out and I called my fiancee grant Lee to come and get me and when the taxi | 哭出来,我打电话给我的未婚妻 允许李来接我,当出租车 |
| 36 | arrived he took one look at me and the next stop was the hospital when the | 他一眼看着我 下一站是医院 |
| 37 | doctor saw me he said thank goodness you got here when you did you have a fever | 医生看见我 他说谢天谢地 你发烧的时候来了 |
| 38 | 104 with asthmatic bronchitis this is very serious you're going to have to rest | 患哮喘支气管炎的104人 这很严重,你得休息了 |
| 39 | for a very long time I took the next three months to recover from pneumonia | 很久以来,我花了三个月 才从肺炎中恢复过来 |
| 40 | and during that time I had a lot of time to think I'm thinking well I got fired | 在那段时间里,我有很多时间 觉得自己被炒鱿鱼了 |
| 41 | from my job within two months and this is really hard and I it must have been | 两个月内从我的工作, 这真的很难,我一定是 |
| 42 | my fault I should have tried to stick this thing through a little bit more so | 都怪我,我本该把事情搞砸的 |
| 43 | I felt more guilty and more guilty and every day I felt more and more depressed | 我感到更内疚 更内疚 每天都觉得越来越沮丧 |
| 44 | but as I began to heal there was a shift in my thinking you see I was working for | 但当我开始痊愈时 我的想法发生了转变 你看到我在为 |
| 45 | that woman for six days a week doing my very best for just three dollars an hour | 那个女人一周六天 尽我最大的努力 只付每小时三块钱 |
| 46 | and I remember the doctor saying he got here just in time yeah so that's not | 我记得医生说他来得正是时候 所以... |
| 47 | just me making this up this is me taking care of myself so at the end I felt | 只是我编出来的 这是我照顾自己 所以最后我觉得 |
| 48 | proud I felt proud that I had the courage to stand up for my health I only | 骄傲的,我感到骄傲,我有勇气 捍卫我的健康,我只有 |
| 49 | wish I had done it sooner as of this experience has taught me something very | 真希望我早点做这个经历 让我学到了什么 |
| 50 | important it has taught me to value myself you see if you want to develop | 很重要的是它教会我珍惜自己 看你是否想发展 |
| 51 | resilience you've got to take care of yourself you can't run yourself down in | 适应力,你必须照顾好自己 你不能自己跑进去 |
| 52 | the ground and be resilient so to develop resilience the first key thing I | 地上有韧性 培养韧性 第一要紧的事 |
| 53 | learned was that it's easier to develop resilience when you're healthy than when | 学会了当身体健康时 更容易培养适应力 |
| 54 | you're running on empty so when I felt better I was off to my next nanny job | 你空空奔走 所以当我感觉好点了 我下一份保姆工作 |
| 55 | you know at this time with a middle-aged couple with their toddler son Max and | 你知道这时 和一对中年夫妇 和他们的幼子麦克斯 |
| 56 | Max really seemed to like me on the first day we were having fun while I was | Max似乎真的喜欢我 第一天我们玩的时候 |
| 57 | cleaning and so Mrs. Snyder she went out to the supermarket and left me at home | 所以斯奈德太太去超市 把我留在家里 |
| 58 | with Max well Max after about an hour wanted to go see his dad so he wandered | 约一个小时后,马克思想见他爸爸 所以他四处流浪 |
| 59 | off pushed the bedroom door and found his dad couple minutes later Mr. Snyder | 几分钟后 发现他的爸爸斯奈德先生 |
| 60 | comes out of the bedroom and says hey you come and get Max out of our bedroom | 从卧室出来说 嗨,你过来把Max带出我们的卧室 |
| 61 | now he was standing there and these grubby white underpants which were | 现在他站在那里 和这些恶心的白内裤 |
| 62 | clearly way too small with his tall gray socks on his hands on his head like | 显然太小了,他高高的灰色袜子 在他的头上像 |
| 63 | this was the most normal thing in the world well I took one look at him and I | 这是世上最正常的事 我一眼就看他一眼 |
| 64 | thought to myself there is no way I'm going into that bedroom with that man in | 认为我不可能和那个男人一起进卧室 |
| 65 | those underpants so I said I can't at the moment when Mrs. Snyder got home she | 那些内裤,所以我说 我不能在夫人的时候。 斯奈德回来了 |
| 66 | rushed to the kitchen where I was and she said this is not going to work out I | 赶到厨房,我当时在那里 她说这行不通 |
| 67 | called your taxi and he'll be here shortly okay I said I'll go get my bags | 打电话给你的出租车,他马上就到 我说我去拿行李 |
| 68 | then she said no need I put you things by the sidewalk goodbye and that was | 然后她说不用我把东西放在人行道上 告别了 |
| 69 | I was sacked for my second live-in nanny job without making it through the first | 我被炒鱿鱼 做第二个住家保姆的工作 却没完成第一个 |
| 70 | day but on the train ride back to Brooklyn my self-talk was a lot healthier | 一天,但乘坐火车回布鲁克林 我自言自语更健康 |
| 71 | this time I thought to myself I went over the events in my head I said well | 这一次,我想,我自己 经历了我脑海中的事件,我说得好 |
| 72 | I was fired because I won't go into the bedroom with her husband in his underpants | 我被炒了,因为我不会和她丈夫穿内裤进卧室 |
| 73 | well I wasn't brought up that way you see my parents had instilled very good | 我从小没有那样长大 你看见我父母教得很好 |
| 74 | core values in us and those values were important to me so if that was a | 我们的核心价值观和这些价值观对我很重要,因此,如果这是 |
| 75 | problem for them then that's not the job for me but let's get it clear I was | 对他们来说,问题不在于我的工作,但让我们明白,我是 |
| 76 | because I really needed that job but here's the thing when you have committed | 因为我真的很需要那份工作... ...但是当你做出承诺时... |
| 77 | Claire values you've already decided so the decision was much easier than I | 克莱尔很重视你已经决定了 所以这个决定比我容易得多 |
| 78 | thought you see when you have Claire committed core values you know what you | 以为Claire承诺了核心价值 你知道自己是什么 |
| 79 | stand for and what you will not stand for you will stand for what you believe | 你将拥护你所不拥护的,你将拥护你所信仰的, |
| 80 | in when you know what you believe in so the second key principle I learned is | 当你知道你相信什么 所以我学到的第二个关键原则是 |
| 81 | that if you want to develop resilience you must have Claire committed values so | 如果你想发展适应力 你必须让克莱尔承诺价值 |
| 82 | a couple weeks later I was off to my next house this time with Martha Martha | 几周后,我和玛莎去下家 |
| 83 | was a single working-class mom with a delightful three-year-old son called | 是个单身工人阶级的妈妈 有个可爱的三岁儿子 |
| 84 | Andy oh 我爱Andy 但Martha正在离婚 她和她离婚了 | |
| 85 | challenges but we got along really well couple months later Grant Lee and I got | 几个月后我们相处得很好 格兰特・李和我 |
| 86 | married and because I was living and working in her house for six days a week | 因为我一周在她家住和工作六天 |
| 87 | I thought I'd ask Martha can he come over that's reasonable right well so I | 我想问玛莎,他能过来吗? |
| 88 | said Martha is it okay if grant Lee can come over not to sleep over just to | 玛莎说如果李能过来 不睡觉就够了 |
| 89 | spend a few hours one day a week with me Martha looked at me and she said I don't | 每周一天陪我几个小时 玛莎看着我 她说我不 |
| 90 | think it's a good idea Jolanda you see grant Lee can come to my home anytime | Jolanda,你觉得这个主意不错吗? |
| 91 | but I don't think it's a good idea because it's not safe for a black man to | 但我不认为这是个好主意 因为黑人不安全 |
| 92 | be walking around in this neighborhood I felt like I was punching the gut | 在这附近走走,我感觉好像在冲动 |
| 93 | because this was a powerful reminder to me that I was not in home at home in | 因为这能有力地提醒我 我不在家 |
| 94 | Trinidad anymore so the more I thought about it I felt like this was not the | 特立尼达,所以我越想越觉得 |
| 95 | community for me you see my relationship with Martha remained very good and | 对我来说 我和玛莎的关系一直很好 |
| 96 | all that Andy I loved Andy but I had to make a decision you see when you're in a | 所有我爱的安迪 但我得做个决定 当你在一个 |
| 97 | situation that's not good and you say nothing or you do nothing about it you | 情况不妙,你什么都不说,或者你什么都不做 |
| 98 | play a role in maintaining the status quo and you become helpless but when you | 扮演维持现状的角色 你变得无助 但当你 |
| 99 | take action even when it's uncomfortable you make a stand for change and that | 行动起来,即使它不舒服 你的立场改变和 |
| 100 | increases your confidence and your your resilience develops so the third key | 增强信心,增强韧性 所以第三个关键 |
| 101 | principle I learned when you want to develop resilience you've got to take | 原则我学会 当你想发展适应力时 你必须接受 |
| 102 | action so I learned a lot about myself and life in New York City during those | 所以我学到了很多关于自己和纽约市生活的知识 |
| 103 | years I learned that you can become more resilient when you're healthy you can | 几年来我学会了,当你健康的时候,你可以变得更有弹性 |
| 104 | come become more resilient when you have clear committed core values and you | 当你有明确的核心价值 和你 |
| 105 | can become more resilient when you take action but in the most recent chapter of | 当你采取行动时,会变得更有韧性,但在最近一章中 |
| 106 | my life I discovered something wonderful about resilience that I didn't realize | 我的生活,我发现了一些奇妙的 恢复能力,我没有意识到 |
| 107 | before you see several years after I left Martha I landed a great job on | 在离开玛莎几年前 我找到了一份很棒的工作 |
| 108 | Wall Street I enjoyed it but it was hard you see I had to overcome racial and | 华尔街,我很喜欢它,但很难 你看我不得不克服种族和 |
| 109 | and also I had to work much longer hours than other people did plus I had to go | 我还得比别人工作的时间长得多... ...而且我还要离开 |
| 110 | back to school life became very hectic because grant the and I had then had two | 回到学校生活变得非常紧张 因为给予我和我有2个 |
| 111 | sons but somehow I managed to find time for my childhood passion of playing the | 儿子们,但不知怎的,我终于找到了时间 度过我童年的激情 |
| 112 | teaching others to play now life was hectic very chaotic but somehow I | 教别人玩,现在的生活 是紧张的非常混乱,但不知何故我 |
| 113 | managed to turn those three students I was teaching in my basement into a | 我在地下室教的三个学生变成了 |
| 114 | thriving business and today that business grew so much it's now a | 生意兴旺 今天生意发展到现在 |
| 115 | performing arts academy where we serve thousands of students in New York City | 表演艺术学院 我们在纽约市为数千名学生服务 |
| 116 | and recently we celebrated our 25th anniversary with performances at Carnegie | 最近我们庆祝25周年 在卡内基演出 |
| 117 | Hall but for every one of those 25 years every single week we had big problems to | 霍尔,但每25年 每星期我们都有大麻烦 |
| 118 | be solved had money problems permit problems and my goodness parent problems | 如果有金钱问题 和我的善良父母的问题 |
| 119 | I felt like quitting many times many times but I loved it it was hard but I | 我想放弃很多次 但我爱它 很难,但我 |
| 120 | loved it and I couldn't imagine not being a part of this Academy that I had | 喜欢它,我无法想象 没有成为这个学院的一部分,我有 |
| 121 | built so the challenges that we face in life has taught me something very | 因此我们面对的挑战 教会了我很多 |
| 122 | it has taught me that you can develop the determination the grit and the | 它教会我,你可以 发展决定精神和 |
| 123 | courage to keep pressing forward if you think I learned about resilience in this | 勇敢地继续前进 如果你认为我学会了适应力 |
| 124 | chapter of my life is that when you're passionate about something and you love | 我生命的一章是 当你对某件事充满激情,你爱 |
| 125 | what you're doing you stay in the game and so as Joseph Campbell says follow | 你所做的一切,你留在游戏中, 所以约瑟夫·坎贝尔说 |
| 126 | your bliss so now after half a century I do believe that the difficult moments | 半个世纪后,我确实相信 艰难的时刻 |
| 127 | that you have in life helps you to grow and now when you see people who are | 生命中你拥有的帮助你成长 当你看到人们 |
| 128 | truly resilient just know this they don't just take it easy in their comfort | 真正有弹性的只是知道这一点 他们不只是放松 以安慰 |
| 129 | zone and then become resilient when you see people who are truly resilient they | 当你看到真正有韧性的人 |
| 130 | don't just go through life they grow through life so as John Maxwell says | 别像约翰·麦克斯威尔所说那样 过着他们成长的生活 |
| 131 | sometimes you win and sometimes you learn see we celebrate the wins but it's | 有时候你赢了,有时你学着看 我们庆祝胜利,但它是 |
| 132 | during those dark and difficult moments that we grow so quite honestly we need | 在黑暗和困难的时刻,我们成长 如此诚实,我们需要 |
| 133 | both to become more and more resilient thank you | 既要变得更有韧性,又要谢谢你 |
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