为什么成功无法带来幸福？【TED演讲】
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| P1 | 为什么成功无法带来幸福？【TED演讲】 中英双语 | 12:20 |
| P2 | 为什么成功无法带来幸福？【TED演讲】 英文字幕(注释+中文 | 12:20 |
| P3 | 为什么成功无法带来幸福？【TED演讲】 无字幕(中英外挂) | 12:20 |
P1 · 为什么成功无法带来幸福？【TED演讲】 p01 中英双语 (P1)
字幕摘录
| 时间 | 英文 | 中文 |
|---|---|---|
| 0:01 | Have you ever accomplished something | 你有没有完成过一些事情 |
| 0:03 | you weren't quite sure you could do? | 你不太确定你能做到吗? |
| 0:07 | It's energizing, it's exciting, it's amazing. | 令人兴奋,令人兴奋,令人惊叹. |
| 0:13 | Success feels kind of wonderful, right? | 成功感觉很好,对吧? |
| 0:18 | The work you did opened more doors | 你的工作打开了更多的门 |
| 0:20 | than you ever thought possible. | 比你想象的还可能 |
| 0:23 | And yet, that work also teased the opportunity | 然而,那份工作 也让机会 |
| 0:27 | of even more doors that you never thought possible. | 比你想象不到的更多门 |
| 0:31 | And maybe, just maybe, as you peeked through the doors | 也许,也许,只是也许, 当你偷看的门 |
| 0:35 | at what could be, you thought to yourself, | 在什么可能,你认为自己, |
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| 1 | Have you ever accomplished something | 你有没有完成过一些事情 |
| 2 | you weren't quite sure you could do? | 你不太确定你能做到吗? |
| 3 | It's energizing, it's exciting, it's amazing. | 令人兴奋,令人兴奋,令人惊叹. |
| 4 | Success feels kind of wonderful, right? | 成功感觉很好,对吧? |
| 5 | The work you did opened more doors | 你的工作打开了更多的门 |
| 6 | than you ever thought possible. | 比你想象的还可能 |
| 7 | And yet, that work also teased the opportunity | 然而,那份工作 也让机会 |
| 8 | of even more doors that you never thought possible. | 比你想象不到的更多门 |
| 9 | And maybe, just maybe, as you peeked through the doors | 也许,也许,只是也许, 当你偷看的门 |
| 10 | at what could be, you thought to yourself, | 在什么可能,你认为自己, |
| 11 | I think I want more. | 我想我还想要更多。 |
| 12 | Instead of success handing you happiness, | 而不是成功给你幸福 |
| 13 | it gave you a faster pace and increased hunger, bigger goals. | 它给了你更快的速度和 饥饿增加,更大的目标。 |
| 14 | And in that faster pace, increased hunger and bigger goals, | 以这个更快的速度, 饥饿的增加和更大的目标, |
| 15 | you also found uncertainty, self-doubt, anxiety, stress. | 你也会发现不确定性 自我怀疑 焦虑 压力 |
| 16 | Success is wonderful, but it's also kind of hell. | 成功是美妙的,但它也是一种地狱。 |
| 17 | It just might be that success is kind of wonder hell. | 也许成功是种奇迹 |
| 18 | Over the course of a 20-year career in executive search, | 在20年的人事调查中 |
| 19 | I was hired by my clients to go out and find for them | 我被委托人雇去帮他们找 |
| 20 | and recruit away on their behalf | 并代表他们招募人员 |
| 21 | some of the most successful people in the world. | 世界上最成功的一些人 |
| 22 | Now, that sounds like kind of a hard job, | 现在,这听起来像一种困难的工作, |
| 23 | except I was helped by the fact that | 只是我得到了帮助的事实 |
| 24 | despite all this success, which is why I was calling them, | 尽管取得了这些成功 所以我才叫他们 |
| 25 | they weren't all that happy, | 他们没有那么高兴, |
| 26 | which is why they were calling me back. | 这就是为什么他们给我回电话。 |
| 27 | Now, we think once we've achieved success, | 现在,我们想,一旦我们取得了成功, |
| 28 | everything gets easier. | 一切都变得更容易。 |
| 29 | So why doesn't it ever get easier? | 那么为什么它从来没有变得容易? |
| 30 | Why doesn't it feel better? | 为什么不感觉好点? |
| 31 | Why doesn't success equal happiness? | 为什么成功不等于幸福? |
| 32 | And why does it all too often feel like wonder hell? | 为什么它总是觉得奇怪地狱? |
| 33 | Now, I had my own wonder hell moment | 现在,我有我自己的奇迹地狱的时刻 |
| 34 | shortly after my last book came out. | 我最后一本书出版后不久 |
| 35 | I'd spent the previous few weeks existing on airplanes. | 我在飞机上度过了前几周 |
| 36 | I had gone to sleep in 20 different hotel beds. | 我睡了20张不同的酒店床 |
| 37 | I had woken up in 10 different time zones. | 我在10个不同的时区醒来 |
| 38 | At the moment of this realization, | 在这个认识的时刻, |
| 39 | I was 35,000 feet in the air. | 我当时在空中35,000英尺。 |
| 40 | I had 1,200 miles behind me and 1,200 more to go. | 我身后还有1200英里 还有1200英里 |
| 41 | The only thing I knew for certain | 我唯一知道的东西是肯定的 |
| 42 | was that somewhere between the blur that would be the past | 就是在模糊的过去之间 |
| 43 | and the blur that would be the future | 和模糊的未来 |
| 44 | was the space I was in at present. | 我当时的空间 |
| 45 | And the space I was in at present was upright and locked | 而我现在的空间是 直立和锁 |
| 46 | in a center seat on a red eye. | 坐在红眼中央的座位上 |
| 47 | And I was completely and utterly fried. | 我被完全和彻底的煎熬。 |
| 48 | Now, launching my book well meant I had to be bold. | 现在,推出我的书 意味着我必须大胆。 |
| 49 | I had no idea what I was doing, | 我不知道我在做什么,我这样做, |
| 50 | but I set these crazy goals for myself anyway. | 但我为我自己设定了这些疯狂的目标 |
| 51 | I let my mouth write a whole lot of checks | 我让嘴写了很多支票 |
| 52 | that my hustle had to cash. | 我不得不兑现。 |
| 53 | I'd spent those weeks existing on nothing but coffee | 我花了这些周时间 仅用咖啡 |
| 54 | and protein bars and the rush of adrenaline | 蛋白质棒和肾上腺素急促 |
| 55 | and that bowel-shaking terror offers by the fistful. | 和那大肠震颤的恐怖 由拳头提供。 |
| 56 | But it worked. | 但它奏效了。 |
| 57 | This thing that I created, I grew, I birthed, | 我创造的东西,我成长,我出生, |
| 58 | I pursued so very hard for those weeks and months | 我费了那么大劲的追逐了那几个星期和几个月 |
| 59 | and years leading up to it, it worked. | 和数年前,它的工作。 |
| 60 | I was pushing towards success | 我在争取成功 |
| 61 | and my mental GPS announced, you've arrived. | 我的精神GPS宣布, 你已经到了。 |
| 62 | And I was like, I know, right? | 而我就像,我知道,对不对? |
| 63 | But I was also pushing towards burnout. | 但我也在忙着忙着呢 |
| 64 | I was tired, so very tired, | 我太累了,太累了,我太累了。 |
| 65 | and somewhere in the alchemy of achievement and exhaustion, | 在精炼的精炼中, |
| 66 | the part of my brain that normally governs my humility | 我大脑中通常支配我谦卑的部分 |
| 67 | disappeared and all I was left with | 和所有我留下的东西 |
| 68 | was a tiny little voice whispering, | 一个很小的声音低语, |
| 69 | this thing has legs. | 这东西有腿 |
| 70 | This thing has legs. | 这东西有腿 |
| 71 | Now you might recognize this moment as the moment | 现在你可能认得这个时刻 |
| 72 | that the burden of potential walks into your psyche, | 潜在的负担 进入你的心灵, |
| 73 | unpacks its backpack and asks, | 打开背包问 |
| 74 | hey, what you got for me, huh? | 嘿,你有什么给我,是吧? |
| 75 | The burden of your potential plunks its weight | 你潜伏的包袱 使你的体重下降 |
| 76 | on your shoulders and demands that you carry it around | 要求你带着它到处走 |
| 77 | with you at all times. | 永远和你在一起。 |
| 78 | It's your wonder hell. | 这是你的奇迹地狱。 |
| 79 | And it starts the moment that you realize | 从你意识到的那一刻开始 |
| 80 | that your idea has promise, that it can be bigger, | 你的想法有承诺 它可以更大, |
| 81 | that you were meant for more. | 你本该为更多 |
| 82 | Ego has entered the chat. | 爱歌进入了聊天 |
| 83 | Now what comes next is a sea of turbulent emotions. | 接下来是一股动荡的情绪 |
| 84 | These necessary evils that we've been told | 这些必要的罪恶,我们被告知 |
| 85 | are just part of going after everything we've ever wanted. | 只是追寻我们想要的一切 |
| 86 | And we think we need to just struggle through | 我们认为,我们需要只是斗争 通过 |
| 87 | and get by all the time, | 和得到所有的时间, |
| 88 | wrestling with this never ending flip-flopping dialogue, | 摔跤永远结束 翻转的对话框, |
| 89 | I can handle this, I can't handle this. | 我可以处理,我不能处理。 |
| 90 | We think of success as a final destination, but it's not. | 我们认为成功是一个最终的目的地,但它不是。 |
| 91 | We think once we've achieved it, we've arrived, | 我们认为,一旦我们实现了它,我们到达了, |
| 92 | but we haven't. | 但我们没有。 |
| 93 | We think once they are easy, money, smooth sailing, | 我们以为一旦他们容易, 金钱,平稳的航行, |
| 94 | but it's not because wonder hell teaches us | 但不是因为神奇的地狱教我们 |
| 95 | that success is not a final destination at all, | 成功根本不是最终目标, |
| 96 | but merely an inflection point along the way. | 但只是一路上的漏洞点 |
| 97 | So once I realized I wasn't at the end of my journey, | 所以,一旦我意识到 我不是在我的旅程结束时, |
| 98 | but merely in the middle, | 只是在中间, |
| 99 | I started about to do some homework. | 我开始做一些功课。 |
| 100 | I read all the books. | 我读了所有的书。 |
| 101 | I read the books telling me to crush it | 我读过书,叫我把它压碎 |
| 102 | and to lean in and to 10X. | 并倾斜到10X。 |
| 103 | And I read their polar opposites, | 我读了他们的极性对面 |
| 104 | the ones telling me to stop apologizing and wash my face. | 那些让我停止道歉和洗脸的人 |
| 105 | And what was on offer on social media was not much better. | 在社交媒体上提供的东西并不更好。 |
| 106 | There were the slick back bros, | 有滑背的兄弟们, |
| 107 | the hustle born dudes jetting off | 刚出生的花花公子们纷纷离去 |
| 108 | to ink their next deal, yeah. | 写下他们的下一个交易,是的。 |
| 109 | And then there were the boho chic insta-fluencers | 之后是那些混混们 |
| 110 | telling me to follow my passion, | 让我跟着我的激情 |
| 111 | telling me I could find happiness if only | 告诉我,我可以找到幸福,如果 |
| 112 | I just breathed into the right energy crystals. | 我只是呼吸进正确的能量晶体。 |
| 113 | What even is an energy crystal anyway? | 能量晶体是什么来着? |
| 114 | Neither of these worked for me | 这些都不为我工作 |
| 115 | They didn't work for the thousands of leaders | 他们没有为成千上万的领导人工作 |
| 116 | who I stewarded through massive moments of career | 我为他服务过 伟大的事业时刻 |
| 117 | and life shift during this 20 years in executive search. | 和这20年的生活轮班 行政搜索。 |
| 118 | And they certainly didn't work for the nearly 100 | 他们肯定没有为近100人工作 |
| 119 | glass ceiling shatterers, Olympic medalists, | 玻璃天花板碎裂手 奥运会奖牌获得者 |
| 120 | startup unicorns, and everyday people like me and like you | 开始独角兽, 和日常的人喜欢我,喜欢你 |
| 121 | who I sought out to interview | 我找谁采访 |
| 122 | to find a way out of Wonder Health. | 找到一个出路 神奇健康。 |
| 123 | Each one of them told me how they did things | 他们每个人都告诉我他们怎么做的 |
| 124 | they never thought possible. | 他们从来没有想过可能。 |
| 125 | And each one of them also told me that at every phase | 每一个阶段都告诉我 |
| 126 | and at every stage they experienced | 在他们经历的每一个阶段 |
| 127 | crushing imposter syndrome, | 粉碎冒牌货综合症, |
| 128 | doubt, vulnerability, uncertainty, | 怀疑 脆弱 不确定 |
| 129 | envy, exhaustion, and burnout. | 嫉妒,疲惫, 和燃烧。 |
| 130 | But each one of them made it to the other side | 但每个都到了另一边 |
| 131 | and the better for it. | 并且对它更好。 |
| 132 | So how'd they do it? | 他们是怎么做到的? |
| 133 | Three ways. | 三法门. |
| 134 | First, they came to terms with their ambition. | 首先,他们接受了他们的野心。 |
| 135 | Do you know why internal candidates always leave | 你知道为什么 内部候选人总是离开 |
| 136 | if they don't get the job? | 如果他们得不到工作? |
| 137 | It's because the very process of interviewing | 因为面试的过程 |
| 138 | for that bigger job means that they literally had to, | 对于这个更大的工作 意味着他们实际上必须, |
| 139 | even just for a moment, answer questions in that role, | 即使只是片刻, 回答问题 在这个角色, |
| 140 | speak in the voice of that role, | 用这个角色的声音说话, |
| 141 | wear the clothes of that role. | 穿那个角色的衣服。 |
| 142 | And once they saw part of themselves in this new way, | 一旦他们以这种新方式看到自己的一部分 |
| 143 | they couldn't unsee themselves in this new way. | 他们无法以这种新方式发现自己。 |
| 144 | And just like these internal candidates, | 就像这些内部候选人一样 |
| 145 | you can't unsee this new you either. | 你也不能不看这个新的你。 |
| 146 | Each time we envision success, even before we achieve it, | 每次我们设想成功,甚至在我们实现它之前, |
| 147 | we see a version of ourselves | 我们看到了我们自己的版本 |
| 148 | that we never thought real, a potential, | 我们从来没有想过 真正的,潜在的, |
| 149 | we never thought possible, a promise of everything | 我们从来没有想过可能, 承诺的一切 |
| 150 | we can be and all that we can embody. | 我们可以和我们所能体现的一切。 |
| 151 | There is the you before this realization, | 在你意识到之前 |
| 152 | and then there's the you after. | 然后还有你之后。 |
| 153 | Second, the mixed emotions surrounding this realization, | 第二,围绕这种认识的混合情绪, |
| 154 | the good, the bad, and the ugly, | 善恶和丑恶 |
| 155 | they aren't limitations, but invitations. | 这不是限制 而是邀请 |
| 156 | For each of the people I spoke to | 我和每个人交谈 |
| 157 | who had a track record of thriving in WonderHell, | 他在神奇地狱有成功的记录, |
| 158 | they understood that these uncomfortable feelings | 他们明白这些不舒服的感受 |
| 159 | weren't just part of the process, | 不仅仅是过程的一部分, |
| 160 | they were actually incredibly helpful allies. | 他们实际上是非常有帮助的盟友。 |
| 161 | So they're able to stop, reflect on these emotions, | 所以他们可以停下来 反省这些情绪 |
| 162 | listen to these emotions, | 听这些情绪, |
| 163 | renegotiate their relationship with these emotions. | 重新谈判他们与这些情绪的关系. |
| 164 | Because we think about these chaotic reactions | 因为我们想到这些混乱的反应 |
| 165 | as slings and arrows to be absorbed in silence | 成为寂静中被吸收的箭头 |
| 166 | and pushed down and muscled through, | 被推倒,被拖过, |
| 167 | but that's a lie, and that lie is stopping us | 但这是谎言 谎言阻止了我们 |
| 168 | from capitalizing on our WonderHell. | 从利用我们的神奇地狱。 |
| 169 | Because WonderHell is the excitement and the fear. | 因为神奇地狱是刺激和恐惧 |
| 170 | It's the joy and the uncertainty. | 即是欢喜无常. |
| 171 | It's the possibility and the chaos. | 这是可能性和混乱。 |
| 172 | And it is the promise and the potential | 这是承诺和潜力 |
| 173 | that you feel when you see this new you | 当你看到这个新你的感觉 |
| 174 | and you realize the only one who gets to choose | 你意识到只有一个人可以选择 |
| 175 | which you, you become is, well, you. | 你,你变成,嗯,你。 |
| 176 | And that means changing the voice inside your head, | 这意味着改变你脑袋里的声音, |
| 177 | warning, you haven't done this before, | 警告,你以前没做过这种事 |
| 178 | and warning you to run away from your potential | 警告你远离你的潜力 |
| 179 | into a cheerleader, yelling, you haven't done this before, | 成为啦啦队长,大喊大叫, 你以前没有这样做, |
| 180 | and encouraging you to run towards it. | 又鼓励你们奔向大地。 |
| 181 | WonderHell是你走对路的标志 | |
| 182 | to new opportunity and new growth. | 新的机会和新的增长。 |
| 183 | And third, WonderHell loves itself a repeat visitor. | 第三,神奇地狱爱自己 一个重复的访客。 |
| 184 | We think that things will settle down after. | 我们认为事情会平息下来 |
| 185 | It'll get easier when all we need to do | 我们只要做点事,就容易办到 |
| 186 | is just get through this one stomach churning, | 刚穿过这个胃痛, |
| 187 | cut, clenching, fight or fight moment | 切,切,切,打或打的时刻 |
| 188 | as if it is a single, one-time, temporary hurdle. | 仿佛是一个一次性的暂时障碍 |
| 189 | But for everyone I spoke to, | 但对于所有我说话的人来说, |
| 190 | what was on the outside of this WonderHell | 这个神奇地狱外面是什么 |
| 191 | was the next one and the next one, | 是下一个和下一个, |
| 192 | and if they were lucky, the next one after that. | 如果他们走运, 下一个之后。 |
| 193 | Our journeys are a series of successes | 我们的旅程是一系列的成功 |
| 194 | punctuated by lessons and losses and life. | 被教训和损失和生命所吸引 |
| 195 | It's an ongoing cycle. | 持续循环. |
| 196 | There isn't one big finish line. | 没有一条大终点线 |
| 197 | There are a million different little ones. | 有一百万个不同的小的。 |
| 198 | So listen, I'm not telling you to suck it up, | 所以,听着,我不是要你吸它, |
| 199 | and I'm not telling you to get hard. | 我不会让你硬起来 |
| 200 | What I am telling you is that to define success | 我所告诉你的是, 定义成功 |
| 201 | as a finite destination would mean that you're accepting | 作为有限的目的地 意味着你接受 |
| 202 | that there's only a finite limit to your growth. | 你的成长只有有限限度 |
| 203 | And all that does is steal away all the wonder | 所做的事就是偷走所有的奇迹 |
| 204 | and leave us only in the hell. | 把我们留在地狱里 |
| 205 | So what if we redefine success, | 所以,如果我们重新定义成功, |
| 206 | not as an endpoint, but as a waypoint, | 不是作为终点 而是作为起点 |
| 207 | and allowed ourselves to sit in that deep, deep discomfort | 并让自己坐在 深,深的不适 |
| 208 | that is the only path to growth? | 这是实现增长的唯一途径? |
| 209 | What if we saw success not as a final destination, | 如果我们不把成功视为最终目的 |
| 210 | but as a portal, | 但作为一个传送门, |
| 211 | one that expanded our understanding of what is possible? | 扩大我们对什么是可能的的理解? |
| 212 | What if we stopped dreading WonderHell | 如果我们不再害怕神奇地狱 |
| 213 | and bracing to survive it, | 并且为生存而叹息, |
| 214 | and instead learn to look forward to it, | 而不是学会期待它, |
| 215 | to plan for it, to learn from it, to grow from it, | 计划它,学习它,成长它, |
| 216 | and thrive in it instead? | 却在其中兴旺, |
| 217 | What if WonderHell wasn't our breakdown, | 如果神奇地狱不是我们的崩溃, |
| 218 | but our breakthrough? | 但是我们的突破? |
| 219 | Because WonderHell invites us to dive into that discomfort. | 因为WonderHell邀请我们潜入这种不适之中 |
| 220 | WonderHell compels us to expand our boundaries. | 神奇地狱迫使我们扩大边界 |
| 221 | WonderHell urges us to embrace our newfound potential. | WonderHell敦促我们拥抱我们的新发现的潜力。 |
| 222 | So what will you do with the gift | 那你要拿礼物怎么办? |
| 223 | that is the burden of your potential? | 这就是你潜力的负担? |
| 224 | What will you do next time you find yourself in WonderHell? | 下次在神奇地狱时你会怎么做? |
| 225 | Thank you. | 谢谢 |
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P2 · 为什么成功无法带来幸福？【TED演讲】 p02 英文字幕(注释+中文外挂) (P2)
字幕摘录
| 时间 | 英文 | 中文 |
|---|---|---|
| 0:01 | Have you ever accomplished something | 你有没有完成过一些事情 |
| 0:03 | you weren't quite sure you could do? | 你不太确定你能做到吗? |
| 0:07 | It's energizing. | 其气动也. |
| 0:09 | It's exciting. | 令人兴奋. |
| 0:11 | It's amazing. | 不可思议. |
| 0:13 | Success feels kind of wonderful, right? | 成功感觉很好,对吧? |
| 0:18 | The work you did opened more doors | 你的工作打开了更多的门 |
| 0:20 | than you ever thought possible. | 比你想象的还可能 |
| 0:23 | And yet, that work also teased the opportunity | 然而,那份工作 也让机会 |
| 0:27 | of even more doors that you never thought possible. | 比你想象不到的更多门 |
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| 1 | Have you ever accomplished something | 你有没有完成过一些事情 |
| 2 | you weren't quite sure you could do? | 你不太确定你能做到吗? |
| 3 | It's energizing. | 其气动也. |
| 4 | It's exciting. | 令人兴奋. |
| 5 | It's amazing. | 不可思议. |
| 6 | Success feels kind of wonderful, right? | 成功感觉很好,对吧? |
| 7 | The work you did opened more doors | 你的工作打开了更多的门 |
| 8 | than you ever thought possible. | 比你想象的还可能 |
| 9 | And yet, that work also teased the opportunity | 然而,那份工作 也让机会 |
| 10 | of even more doors that you never thought possible. | 比你想象不到的更多门 |
| 11 | And maybe, just maybe, as you peeked through the doors | 也许,也许,只是也许, 当你偷看的门 |
| 12 | at what could be, you thought to yourself, | 在什么可能,你认为自己, |
| 13 | I think I want more. | 我想我还想要更多。 |
| 14 | Instead of success handing you happiness, | 而不是成功给你幸福 |
| 15 | it gave you a faster pace and increased hunger, bigger goals. | 它给了你更快的速度和 饥饿增加,更大的目标。 |
| 16 | And in that faster pace, increased hunger, and bigger goals, | 在这个更快的速度, 饥饿增加, 和更大的目标, |
| 17 | you also found uncertainty, self-doubt, anxiety, stress. | 你也会发现不确定性 自我怀疑 焦虑 压力 |
| 18 | Success is wonderful, but it's also kind of hell. | 成功是美妙的,但它也是一种地狱。 |
| 19 | It just might be that success is kind of wonder hell. | 也许成功是种奇迹 |
| 20 | Over the course of a 20-year career in executive search, | 在20年的人事调查中 |
| 21 | I was hired by my clients to go out and find for them | 我被委托人雇去帮他们找 |
| 22 | and recruit away on their behalf some of the most successful | 并替他们招募一些最成功的 |
| 23 | people in the world. | 在世界上的人们。 |
| 24 | Now, that sounds like kind of a hard job, | 现在,这听起来像一种困难的工作, |
| 25 | except I was helped by the fact that despite all | 只是我得到了帮助 事实,尽管所有 |
| 26 | this success, which is why I was calling them, | 我之所以叫他们成功 |
| 27 | they weren't all that happy, which is why | 他们没有那么快乐, 这就是为什么 |
| 28 | they were calling me back. | 他们给我回电话了 |
| 29 | Now, we think once we've achieved success, | 现在,我们想,一旦我们取得了成功, |
| 30 | everything gets easier. | 一切都变得更容易。 |
| 31 | So why doesn't it ever get easier? | 那么为什么它从来没有变得容易? |
| 32 | Why doesn't it feel better? | 为什么不感觉好点? |
| 33 | Why doesn't success equal happiness? | 为什么成功不等于幸福? |
| 34 | And why does it all too often feel like wonder hell? | 为什么它总是觉得奇怪地狱? |
| 35 | Now, I had my own wonder hell moment | 现在,我有我自己的奇迹地狱的时刻 |
| 36 | shortly after my last book came out. | 我最后一本书出版后不久 |
| 37 | I'd spent the previous few weeks existing on airplanes. | 我在飞机上度过了前几周 |
| 38 | I had gone to sleep in 20 different hotel beds. | 我睡了20张不同的酒店床 |
| 39 | I had woken up in 10 different time zones. | 我在10个不同的时区醒来 |
| 40 | At the moment of this realization, | 在这个认识的时刻, |
| 41 | I was 35,000 feet in the air. | 我当时在空中35,000英尺。 |
| 42 | I had 1,200 miles behind me and 1,200 more to go. | 我身后还有1200英里 还有1200英里 |
| 43 | The only thing I knew for certain was that somewhere | 我唯一能肯定的是 某个地方 |
| 44 | between the blur that would be the past | 在模糊的过去之间 |
| 45 | and the blur that would be the future | 和模糊的未来 |
| 46 | was the space I was in at present. | 我当时的空间 |
| 47 | And the space I was in at present was upright and locked | 而我现在的空间是 直立和锁 |
| 48 | in a center seat on a red eye. | 坐在红眼中央的座位上 |
| 49 | And I was completely and utterly fried. | 我被完全和彻底的煎熬。 |
| 50 | Now, launching my book well meant I had to be bold. | 现在,推出我的书 意味着我必须大胆。 |
| 51 | I had no idea what I was doing, | 我不知道我在做什么,我这样做, |
| 52 | but I set these crazy goals for myself anyway. | 但我为我自己设定了这些疯狂的目标 |
| 53 | I let my mouth write a whole lot of checks | 我让嘴写了很多支票 |
| 54 | that my hustle had to cash. | 我不得不兑现。 |
| 55 | I'd spent those weeks existing on nothing but coffee | 我花了这些周时间 仅用咖啡 |
| 56 | and protein bars and the rush of adrenaline | 蛋白质棒和肾上腺素急促 |
| 57 | and that bowel-shaking terror offers by the fistful. | 和那大肠震颤的恐怖 由拳头提供。 |
| 58 | But it worked. | 但它奏效了。 |
| 59 | This thing that I created, I grew, I birthed, | 我创造的东西,我成长,我出生, |
| 60 | I pursued so very hard for those weeks and months | 我费了那么大劲的追逐了那几个星期和几个月 |
| 61 | and years leading up to it, it worked. | 和数年前,它的工作。 |
| 62 | I was pushing towards success | 我在争取成功 |
| 63 | and my mental GPS announced, you've arrived. | 我的精神GPS宣布, 你已经到了。 |
| 64 | And I was like, I know, right? | 而我就像,我知道,对不对? |
| 65 | But I was also pushing towards burnout. | 但我也在忙着忙着呢 |
| 66 | I was tired, so very tired and somewhere in the alchemy | 我累了,太累了,在炼金术的某个地方 |
| 67 | of achievement and exhaustion. | 成就和疲劳。 |
| 68 | The part of my brain that normally governs my humility | 我大脑中通常支配我谦卑的部分 |
| 69 | disappeared and all I was left with | 和所有我留下的东西 |
| 70 | was a tiny little voice whispering, | 一个很小的声音低语, |
| 71 | this thing has legs. | 这东西有腿 |
| 72 | This thing has legs. | 这东西有腿 |
| 73 | Now you might recognize this moment | 现在你可能认出这一刻 |
| 74 | as the moment that the burden of potential | 作为潜在负担的时刻 |
| 75 | walks into your psyche, unpacks its backpack and asks, | 走进你的心理, 解开它的背包 问, |
| 76 | hey, what you got for me, huh? | 嘿,你有什么给我,是吧? |
| 77 | The burden of your potential plunks its weight | 你潜伏的包袱 使你的体重下降 |
| 78 | on your shoulders and demands that you carry it around | 要求你带着它到处走 |
| 79 | with you at all times. | 永远和你在一起。 |
| 80 | It's your wonder hell. | 这是你的奇迹地狱。 |
| 81 | And it starts the moment that you realize | 从你意识到的那一刻开始 |
| 82 | that your idea has promise, that it can be bigger, | 你的想法有承诺 它可以更大, |
| 83 | that you were meant for more. | 你本该为更多 |
| 84 | Ego has entered the chat. | 爱歌进入了聊天 |
| 85 | Now what comes next is a sea of turbulent emotions. | 接下来是一股动荡的情绪 |
| 86 | These necessary evils that we've been told | 这些必要的罪恶,我们被告知 |
| 87 | are just part of going after everything we've ever wanted. | 只是追寻我们想要的一切 |
| 88 | And we think we need to just struggle through | 我们认为,我们需要只是斗争 通过 |
| 89 | and get by all the time, | 和得到所有的时间, |
| 90 | wrestling with this never ending flip-flopping dialogue, | 摔跤永远结束 翻转的对话框, |
| 91 | I can handle this, I can't handle this. | 我可以处理,我不能处理。 |
| 92 | We think of success as a final destination, but it's not. | 我们认为成功是一个最终的目的地,但它不是。 |
| 93 | We think once we've achieved it, we've arrived, | 我们认为,一旦我们实现了它,我们到达了, |
| 94 | but we haven't. | 但我们没有。 |
| 95 | We think once they are easy, money, smooth sailing, | 我们以为一旦他们容易, 金钱,平稳的航行, |
| 96 | but it's not because wonder hell teaches us | 但不是因为神奇的地狱教我们 |
| 97 | that success is not a final destination at all, | 成功根本不是最终目标, |
| 98 | but merely an inflection point along the way. | 但只是一路上的漏洞点 |
| 99 | So once I realized I wasn't at the end of my journey, | 所以,一旦我意识到 我不是在我的旅程结束时, |
| 100 | but merely in the middle, | 只是在中间, |
| 101 | I started about to do some homework. | 我开始做一些功课。 |
| 102 | I read all the books. | 我读了所有的书。 |
| 103 | I read the books telling me to crush it | 我读过书,叫我把它压碎 |
| 104 | and to lean in and to 10X. | 并倾斜到10X。 |
| 105 | And I read their polar opposites, | 我读了他们的极性对面 |
| 106 | the ones telling me to stop apologizing and wash my face. | 那些让我停止道歉和洗脸的人 |
| 107 | And what was on offer on social media was not much better. | 在社交媒体上提供的东西并不更好。 |
| 108 | There were the slick back bros, | 有滑背的兄弟们, |
| 109 | the hustle born dudes jetting off | 刚出生的花花公子们纷纷离去 |
| 110 | to ink their next deal, yeah. | 写下他们的下一个交易,是的。 |
| 111 | And then there were the boho chic insta-fluencers | 之后是那些混混们 |
| 112 | telling me to follow my passion, | 让我跟着我的激情 |
| 113 | telling me I could find happiness if only | 告诉我,我可以找到幸福,如果 |
| 114 | I just breathed into the right energy crystals. | 我只是呼吸进正确的能量晶体。 |
| 115 | What even is an energy crystal anyway? | 能量晶体是什么来着? |
| 116 | Neither of these worked for me | 这些都不为我工作 |
| 117 | They didn't work for the thousands of leaders | 他们没有为成千上万的领导人工作 |
| 118 | who I stewarded through massive moments of career | 我为他服务过 伟大的事业时刻 |
| 119 | and life shift during this 20 years in executive search. | 和这20年的生活轮班 行政搜索。 |
| 120 | And they certainly didn't work for the nearly 100 | 他们肯定没有为近100人工作 |
| 121 | glass ceiling shatterers, Olympic medalists, | 玻璃天花板碎裂手 奥运会奖牌获得者 |
| 122 | startup unicorns, and everyday people like me and like you | 开始独角兽, 和日常的人喜欢我,喜欢你 |
| 123 | who I sought out to interview | 我找谁采访 |
| 124 | to find a way out of Wonder Health. | 找到一个出路 神奇健康。 |
| 125 | Each one of them told me how they did things | 他们每个人都告诉我他们怎么做的 |
| 126 | they never thought possible. | 他们从来没有想过可能。 |
| 127 | And each one of them also told me that at every phase | 每一个阶段都告诉我 |
| 128 | and at every stage they experienced | 在他们经历的每一个阶段 |
| 129 | crushing imposter syndrome, | 粉碎冒牌货综合症, |
| 130 | doubt, vulnerability, uncertainty, | 怀疑 脆弱 不确定 |
| 131 | envy, exhaustion, and burnout. | 嫉妒,疲惫, 和燃烧。 |
| 132 | But each one of them made it to the other side | 但每个都到了另一边 |
| 133 | and the better for it. | 并且对它更好。 |
| 134 | So how'd they do it? | 他们是怎么做到的? |
| 135 | Three ways. | 三法门. |
| 136 | First, they came to terms with their ambition. | 首先,他们接受了他们的野心。 |
| 137 | Do you know why internal candidates always leave | 你知道为什么 内部候选人总是离开 |
| 138 | if they don't get the job? | 如果他们得不到工作? |
| 139 | It's because the very process of interviewing | 因为面试的过程 |
| 140 | for that bigger job means that they literally had to, | 对于这个更大的工作 意味着他们实际上必须, |
| 141 | even just for a moment, answer questions in that role, | 即使只是片刻, 回答问题 在这个角色, |
| 142 | speak in the voice of that role, | 用这个角色的声音说话, |
| 143 | wear the clothes of that role. | 穿那个角色的衣服。 |
| 144 | And once they saw part of themselves in this new way, | 一旦他们以这种新方式看到自己的一部分 |
| 145 | they couldn't unsee themselves in this new way. | 他们无法以这种新方式发现自己。 |
| 146 | And just like these internal candidates, | 就像这些内部候选人一样 |
| 147 | you can't unsee this new you either. | 你也不能不看这个新的你。 |
| 148 | Each time we envision success, even before we achieve it, | 每次我们设想成功,甚至在我们实现它之前, |
| 149 | we see a version of ourselves that we never thought real, | 我们从不认为自己是真实的 |
| 150 | a potential we never thought possible, | 我们从未想过有这种潜力 |
| 151 | a promise of everything we can be | 保证我们能做的一切 |
| 152 | and all that we can embody. | 以及我们能体现的一切 |
| 153 | There is the you before this realization | 觉悟前还有你 |
| 154 | and then there's the you after. | 然后还有你之后。 |
| 155 | Second, the mixed emotions surrounding this realization, | 第二,围绕这种认识的混合情绪, |
| 156 | the good, the bad, and the ugly, | 善恶和丑恶 |
| 157 | they aren't limitations, but invitations. | 这不是限制 而是邀请 |
| 158 | For each of the people I spoke to | 我和每个人交谈 |
| 159 | who had a track record of thriving in Wonder Hell, | 他曾在火狱中创造许多迹象, |
| 160 | they understood that these uncomfortable feelings | 他们明白这些不舒服的感受 |
| 161 | weren't just part of the process, | 不仅仅是过程的一部分, |
| 162 | they were actually incredibly helpful allies. | 他们实际上是非常有帮助的盟友。 |
| 163 | So they're able to stop, reflect on these emotions, | 所以他们可以停下来 反省这些情绪 |
| 164 | listen to these emotions, | 听这些情绪, |
| 165 | renegotiate their relationship with these emotions. | 重新谈判他们与这些情绪的关系. |
| 166 | Because we think about these chaotic reactions | 因为我们想到这些混乱的反应 |
| 167 | as slings and arrows to be absorbed in silence | 成为寂静中被吸收的箭头 |
| 168 | and pushed down and muscled through, but that's a lie. | 并推倒和肌肉通过, 但这是一个谎言。 |
| 169 | And that lie is stopping us from capitalizing | 那谎言阻止了我们投资 |
| 170 | on our Wonder Hell. | 我们的神奇地狱。 |
| 171 | Because Wonder Hell is the excitement and the fear. | 因为神奇 地狱是兴奋和恐惧。 |
| 172 | It's the joy and the uncertainty. | 即是欢喜无常. |
| 173 | It's the possibility and the chaos. | 这是可能性和混乱。 |
| 174 | And it is the promise and the potential | 这是承诺和潜力 |
| 175 | that you feel when you see this new you | 当你看到这个新你的感觉 |
| 176 | and you realize the only one who gets to choose | 你意识到只有一个人可以选择 |
| 177 | which you, you become is, well, you. | 你,你变成,嗯,你。 |
| 178 | And that means changing the voice inside your head, | 这意味着改变你脑袋里的声音, |
| 179 | warning, you haven't done this before. | 警告,你以前没做过这种事 |
| 180 | And warning you to run away from your potential | 警告你放弃你的潜力 |
| 181 | into a cheerleader, | 成为啦啦队长, |
| 182 | yelling you haven't done this before | 喊你以前没干过 |
| 183 | and encouraging you to run towards it. | 又鼓励你们奔向大地。 |
| 184 | Wonder Hell is the sign that you are on the right track | 不可思议 火狱是你们在正路上的标志, |
| 185 | to new opportunity and new growth. | 新的机会和新的增长。 |
| 186 | And third, Wonder Hell loves itself a repeat visitor. | 第三,神奇地狱爱自己 一个重复的访客。 |
| 187 | We think that things will settle down after. | 我们认为事情会平息下来 |
| 188 | It'll get easier when all we need to do | 我们只要做点事,就容易办到 |
| 189 | is just get through this one stomach churning, | 刚穿过这个胃痛, |
| 190 | cut clenching fight or fight moment | 断开争斗或争斗 |
| 191 | as if it was a single one time temporary hurdle. | 就像是一个一次性的临时障碍 |
| 192 | But for everyone I spoke to, | 但对于所有我说话的人来说, |
| 193 | what was on the other side of this Wonder Hell | 神奇地狱的另一边是什么 |
| 194 | was the next one and the next one. | 是下一个和下一个。 |
| 195 | And if they were lucky, the next one after that. | 如果他们走运, 下一个之后。 |
| 196 | Our journeys are a series of successes | 我们的旅程是一系列的成功 |
| 197 | punctuated by lessons and losses and life. | 被教训和损失和生命所吸引 |
| 198 | It's an ongoing cycle. | 持续循环. |
| 199 | There isn't one big finish line. | 没有一条大终点线 |
| 200 | And there are a million different little ones. | 还有一百万个不同的小家伙。 |
| 201 | So listen, I'm not telling you to suck it up | 听着,我不是要你吸它 |
| 202 | and I'm not telling you to get hard. | 我不会让你硬起来 |
| 203 | What I am telling you is that to define success | 我所告诉你的是, 定义成功 |
| 204 | as a finite destination would mean that you're accepting | 作为有限的目的地 意味着你接受 |
| 205 | that there's only a finite limit to your growth. | 你的成长只有有限限度 |
| 206 | And all that does is steal away all the wonder | 所做的事就是偷走所有的奇迹 |
| 207 | and leave us only in the hell. | 把我们留在地狱里 |
| 208 | So what if we redefine success, | 所以,如果我们重新定义成功, |
| 209 | not as an endpoint, but as a waypoint | 不是终点,而是路标 |
| 210 | and allowed ourselves to sit in that deep, deep discomfort | 并让自己坐在 深,深的不适 |
| 211 | that is the only path to growth? | 这是实现增长的唯一途径? |
| 212 | What if we saw success not as a final destination, | 如果我们不把成功视为最终目的 |
| 213 | but as a portal, | 但作为一个传送门, |
| 214 | one that expanded our understanding of what is possible? | 扩大我们对什么是可能的的理解? |
| 215 | What if we stopped dreading Wonder Hell | 如果我们不再害怕神奇地狱 |
| 216 | and bracing to survive it | 并且为生存而叹息 |
| 217 | and instead learned to look forward to it, | 反而学会了期待 |
| 218 | to plan for it, to learn from it, to grow from it | 计划,学习,成长 |
| 219 | and thrive in it instead? | 却在其中兴旺, |
| 220 | What if Wonder Hell wasn't our breakdown, | 如果神奇地狱不是我们的崩溃, |
| 221 | but our breakthrough? | 但是我们的突破? |
| 222 | Because Wonder Hell invites us to dive into that discomfort. | 因为"神奇地狱"邀请我们潜入这种不适之中 |
| 223 | Wonder Hell compels us to expand our boundaries. | 神奇地狱迫使我们扩大我们的界限。 |
| 224 | Wonder Hell urges us to embrace our newfound potential. | "神奇地狱"敦促我们拥抱我们的新发现的潜力. |
| 225 | So what will you do with the gift | 那你要拿礼物怎么办? |
| 226 | that is the burden of your potential? | 这就是你潜力的负担? |
| 227 | What will you do next time you find yourself | 下次你会怎么做? |
| 228 | in Wonder Hell? | 在神奇地狱? |
| 229 | Thank you. | 谢谢 |
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| 时间 | 英文 | 中文 |
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| 0:01 | Have you ever accomplished something | 你有没有完成过一些事情 |
| 0:03 | you weren't quite sure you could do? | 你不太确定你能做到吗? |
| 0:07 | It's energizing, it's exciting, it's amazing. | 令人兴奋,令人兴奋,令人惊叹. |
| 0:13 | Success feels kind of wonderful, right? | 成功感觉很好,对吧? |
| 0:18 | The work you did opened more doors | 你的工作打开了更多的门 |
| 0:20 | than you ever thought possible. | 比你想象的还可能 |
| 0:23 | And yet, that work also teased the opportunity | 然而,那份工作 也让机会 |
| 0:27 | of even more doors that you never thought possible. | 比你想象不到的更多门 |
| 0:31 | And maybe, just maybe, as you peeked through the doors | 也许,也许,只是也许, 当你偷看的门 |
| 0:35 | at what could be, you thought to yourself, | 在什么可能,你认为自己, |
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| 1 | Have you ever accomplished something | 你有没有完成过一些事情 |
| 2 | you weren't quite sure you could do? | 你不太确定你能做到吗? |
| 3 | It's energizing, it's exciting, it's amazing. | 令人兴奋,令人兴奋,令人惊叹. |
| 4 | Success feels kind of wonderful, right? | 成功感觉很好,对吧? |
| 5 | The work you did opened more doors | 你的工作打开了更多的门 |
| 6 | than you ever thought possible. | 比你想象的还可能 |
| 7 | And yet, that work also teased the opportunity | 然而,那份工作 也让机会 |
| 8 | of even more doors that you never thought possible. | 比你想象不到的更多门 |
| 9 | And maybe, just maybe, as you peeked through the doors | 也许,也许,只是也许, 当你偷看的门 |
| 10 | at what could be, you thought to yourself, | 在什么可能,你认为自己, |
| 11 | I think I want more. | 我想我还想要更多。 |
| 12 | Instead of success handing you happiness, | 而不是成功给你幸福 |
| 13 | it gave you a faster pace and increased hunger, bigger goals. | 它给了你更快的速度和 饥饿增加,更大的目标。 |
| 14 | And in that faster pace, increased hunger and bigger goals, | 以这个更快的速度, 饥饿的增加和更大的目标, |
| 15 | you also found uncertainty, self-doubt, anxiety, stress. | 你也会发现不确定性 自我怀疑 焦虑 压力 |
| 16 | Success is wonderful, but it's also kind of hell. | 成功是美妙的,但它也是一种地狱。 |
| 17 | It just might be that success is kind of wonder hell. | 也许成功是种奇迹 |
| 18 | Over the course of a 20-year career in executive search, | 在20年的人事调查中 |
| 19 | I was hired by my clients to go out and find for them | 我被委托人雇去帮他们找 |
| 20 | and recruit away on their behalf | 并代表他们招募人员 |
| 21 | some of the most successful people in the world. | 世界上最成功的一些人 |
| 22 | Now, that sounds like kind of a hard job, | 现在,这听起来像一种困难的工作, |
| 23 | except I was helped by the fact that | 只是我得到了帮助的事实 |
| 24 | despite all this success, which is why I was calling them, | 尽管取得了这些成功 所以我才叫他们 |
| 25 | they weren't all that happy, | 他们没有那么高兴, |
| 26 | which is why they were calling me back. | 这就是为什么他们给我回电话。 |
| 27 | Now, we think once we've achieved success, | 现在,我们想,一旦我们取得了成功, |
| 28 | everything gets easier. | 一切都变得更容易。 |
| 29 | So why doesn't it ever get easier? | 那么为什么它从来没有变得容易? |
| 30 | Why doesn't it feel better? | 为什么不感觉好点? |
| 31 | Why doesn't success equal happiness? | 为什么成功不等于幸福? |
| 32 | And why does it all too often feel like wonder hell? | 为什么它总是觉得奇怪地狱? |
| 33 | Now, I had my own wonder hell moment | 现在,我有我自己的奇迹地狱的时刻 |
| 34 | shortly after my last book came out. | 我最后一本书出版后不久 |
| 35 | I'd spent the previous few weeks existing on airplanes. | 我在飞机上度过了前几周 |
| 36 | I had gone to sleep in 20 different hotel beds. | 我睡了20张不同的酒店床 |
| 37 | I had woken up in 10 different time zones. | 我在10个不同的时区醒来 |
| 38 | At the moment of this realization, | 在这个认识的时刻, |
| 39 | I was 35,000 feet in the air. | 我当时在空中35,000英尺。 |
| 40 | I had 1,200 miles behind me and 1,200 more to go. | 我身后还有1200英里 还有1200英里 |
| 41 | The only thing I knew for certain | 我唯一知道的东西是肯定的 |
| 42 | was that somewhere between the blur that would be the past | 就是在模糊的过去之间 |
| 43 | and the blur that would be the future | 和模糊的未来 |
| 44 | was the space I was in at present. | 我当时的空间 |
| 45 | And the space I was in at present was upright and locked | 而我现在的空间是 直立和锁 |
| 46 | in a center seat on a red eye. | 坐在红眼中央的座位上 |
| 47 | And I was completely and utterly fried. | 我被完全和彻底的煎熬。 |
| 48 | Now, launching my book well meant I had to be bold. | 现在,推出我的书 意味着我必须大胆。 |
| 49 | I had no idea what I was doing, | 我不知道我在做什么,我这样做, |
| 50 | but I set these crazy goals for myself anyway. | 但我为我自己设定了这些疯狂的目标 |
| 51 | I let my mouth write a whole lot of checks | 我让嘴写了很多支票 |
| 52 | that my hustle had to cash. | 我不得不兑现。 |
| 53 | I'd spent those weeks existing on nothing but coffee | 我花了这些周时间 仅用咖啡 |
| 54 | and protein bars and the rush of adrenaline | 蛋白质棒和肾上腺素急促 |
| 55 | and that bowel-shaking terror offers by the fistful. | 和那大肠震颤的恐怖 由拳头提供。 |
| 56 | But it worked. | 但它奏效了。 |
| 57 | This thing that I created, I grew, I birthed, | 我创造的东西,我成长,我出生, |
| 58 | I pursued so very hard for those weeks and months | 我费了那么大劲的追逐了那几个星期和几个月 |
| 59 | and years leading up to it, it worked. | 和数年前,它的工作。 |
| 60 | I was pushing towards success | 我在争取成功 |
| 61 | and my mental GPS announced, you've arrived. | 我的精神GPS宣布, 你已经到了。 |
| 62 | And I was like, I know, right? | 而我就像,我知道,对不对? |
| 63 | But I was also pushing towards burnout. | 但我也在忙着忙着呢 |
| 64 | I was tired, so very tired, | 我太累了,太累了,我太累了。 |
| 65 | and somewhere in the alchemy of achievement and exhaustion, | 在精炼的精炼中, |
| 66 | the part of my brain that normally governs my humility | 我大脑中通常支配我谦卑的部分 |
| 67 | disappeared and all I was left with | 和所有我留下的东西 |
| 68 | was a tiny little voice whispering, | 一个很小的声音低语, |
| 69 | this thing has legs. | 这东西有腿 |
| 70 | This thing has legs. | 这东西有腿 |
| 71 | Now you might recognize this moment as the moment | 现在你可能认得这个时刻 |
| 72 | that the burden of potential walks into your psyche, | 潜在的负担 进入你的心灵, |
| 73 | unpacks its backpack and asks, | 打开背包问 |
| 74 | hey, what you got for me, huh? | 嘿,你有什么给我,是吧? |
| 75 | The burden of your potential plunks its weight | 你潜伏的包袱 使你的体重下降 |
| 76 | on your shoulders and demands that you carry it around | 要求你带着它到处走 |
| 77 | with you at all times. | 永远和你在一起。 |
| 78 | It's your wonder hell. | 这是你的奇迹地狱。 |
| 79 | And it starts the moment that you realize | 从你意识到的那一刻开始 |
| 80 | that your idea has promise, that it can be bigger, | 你的想法有承诺 它可以更大, |
| 81 | that you were meant for more. | 你本该为更多 |
| 82 | Ego has entered the chat. | 爱歌进入了聊天 |
| 83 | Now what comes next is a sea of turbulent emotions. | 接下来是一股动荡的情绪 |
| 84 | These necessary evils that we've been told | 这些必要的罪恶,我们被告知 |
| 85 | are just part of going after everything we've ever wanted. | 只是追寻我们想要的一切 |
| 86 | And we think we need to just struggle through | 我们认为,我们需要只是斗争 通过 |
| 87 | and get by all the time, | 和得到所有的时间, |
| 88 | wrestling with this never ending flip-flopping dialogue, | 摔跤永远结束 翻转的对话框, |
| 89 | I can handle this, I can't handle this. | 我可以处理,我不能处理。 |
| 90 | We think of success as a final destination, but it's not. | 我们认为成功是一个最终的目的地,但它不是。 |
| 91 | We think once we've achieved it, we've arrived, | 我们认为,一旦我们实现了它,我们到达了, |
| 92 | but we haven't. | 但我们没有。 |
| 93 | We think once they are easy, money, smooth sailing, | 我们以为一旦他们容易, 金钱,平稳的航行, |
| 94 | but it's not because wonder hell teaches us | 但不是因为神奇的地狱教我们 |
| 95 | that success is not a final destination at all, | 成功根本不是最终目标, |
| 96 | but merely an inflection point along the way. | 但只是一路上的漏洞点 |
| 97 | So once I realized I wasn't at the end of my journey, | 所以,一旦我意识到 我不是在我的旅程结束时, |
| 98 | but merely in the middle, | 只是在中间, |
| 99 | I started about to do some homework. | 我开始做一些功课。 |
| 100 | I read all the books. | 我读了所有的书。 |
| 101 | I read the books telling me to crush it | 我读过书,叫我把它压碎 |
| 102 | and to lean in and to 10X. | 并倾斜到10X。 |
| 103 | And I read their polar opposites, | 我读了他们的极性对面 |
| 104 | the ones telling me to stop apologizing and wash my face. | 那些让我停止道歉和洗脸的人 |
| 105 | And what was on offer on social media was not much better. | 在社交媒体上提供的东西并不更好。 |
| 106 | There were the slick back bros, | 有滑背的兄弟们, |
| 107 | the hustle born dudes jetting off | 刚出生的花花公子们纷纷离去 |
| 108 | to ink their next deal, yeah. | 写下他们的下一个交易,是的。 |
| 109 | And then there were the boho chic insta-fluencers | 之后是那些混混们 |
| 110 | telling me to follow my passion, | 让我跟着我的激情 |
| 111 | telling me I could find happiness if only | 告诉我,我可以找到幸福,如果 |
| 112 | I just breathed into the right energy crystals. | 我只是呼吸进正确的能量晶体。 |
| 113 | What even is an energy crystal anyway? | 能量晶体是什么来着? |
| 114 | Neither of these worked for me | 这些都不为我工作 |
| 115 | They didn't work for the thousands of leaders | 他们没有为成千上万的领导人工作 |
| 116 | who I stewarded through massive moments of career | 我为他服务过 伟大的事业时刻 |
| 117 | and life shift during this 20 years in executive search. | 和这20年的生活轮班 行政搜索。 |
| 118 | And they certainly didn't work for the nearly 100 | 他们肯定没有为近100人工作 |
| 119 | glass ceiling shatterers, Olympic medalists, | 玻璃天花板碎裂手 奥运会奖牌获得者 |
| 120 | startup unicorns, and everyday people like me and like you | 开始独角兽, 和日常的人喜欢我,喜欢你 |
| 121 | who I sought out to interview | 我找谁采访 |
| 122 | to find a way out of Wonder Health. | 找到一个出路 神奇健康。 |
| 123 | Each one of them told me how they did things | 他们每个人都告诉我他们怎么做的 |
| 124 | they never thought possible. | 他们从来没有想过可能。 |
| 125 | And each one of them also told me that at every phase | 每一个阶段都告诉我 |
| 126 | and at every stage they experienced | 在他们经历的每一个阶段 |
| 127 | crushing imposter syndrome, | 粉碎冒牌货综合症, |
| 128 | doubt, vulnerability, uncertainty, | 怀疑 脆弱 不确定 |
| 129 | envy, exhaustion, and burnout. | 嫉妒,疲惫, 和燃烧。 |
| 130 | But each one of them made it to the other side | 但每个都到了另一边 |
| 131 | and the better for it. | 并且对它更好。 |
| 132 | So how'd they do it? | 他们是怎么做到的? |
| 133 | Three ways. | 三法门. |
| 134 | First, they came to terms with their ambition. | 首先,他们接受了他们的野心。 |
| 135 | Do you know why internal candidates always leave | 你知道为什么 内部候选人总是离开 |
| 136 | if they don't get the job? | 如果他们得不到工作? |
| 137 | It's because the very process of interviewing | 因为面试的过程 |
| 138 | for that bigger job means that they literally had to, | 对于这个更大的工作 意味着他们实际上必须, |
| 139 | even just for a moment, answer questions in that role, | 即使只是片刻, 回答问题 在这个角色, |
| 140 | speak in the voice of that role, | 用这个角色的声音说话, |
| 141 | wear the clothes of that role. | 穿那个角色的衣服。 |
| 142 | And once they saw part of themselves in this new way, | 一旦他们以这种新方式看到自己的一部分 |
| 143 | they couldn't unsee themselves in this new way. | 他们无法以这种新方式发现自己。 |
| 144 | And just like these internal candidates, | 就像这些内部候选人一样 |
| 145 | you can't unsee this new you either. | 你也不能不看这个新的你。 |
| 146 | Each time we envision success, even before we achieve it, | 每次我们设想成功,甚至在我们实现它之前, |
| 147 | we see a version of ourselves | 我们看到了我们自己的版本 |
| 148 | that we never thought real, a potential, | 我们从来没有想过 真正的,潜在的, |
| 149 | we never thought possible, a promise of everything | 我们从来没有想过可能, 承诺的一切 |
| 150 | we can be and all that we can embody. | 我们可以和我们所能体现的一切。 |
| 151 | There is the you before this realization, | 在你意识到之前 |
| 152 | and then there's the you after. | 然后还有你之后。 |
| 153 | Second, the mixed emotions surrounding this realization, | 第二,围绕这种认识的混合情绪, |
| 154 | the good, the bad, and the ugly, | 善恶和丑恶 |
| 155 | they aren't limitations, but invitations. | 这不是限制 而是邀请 |
| 156 | For each of the people I spoke to | 我和每个人交谈 |
| 157 | who had a track record of thriving in WonderHell, | 他在神奇地狱有成功的记录, |
| 158 | they understood that these uncomfortable feelings | 他们明白这些不舒服的感受 |
| 159 | weren't just part of the process, | 不仅仅是过程的一部分, |
| 160 | they were actually incredibly helpful allies. | 他们实际上是非常有帮助的盟友。 |
| 161 | So they're able to stop, reflect on these emotions, | 所以他们可以停下来 反省这些情绪 |
| 162 | listen to these emotions, | 听这些情绪, |
| 163 | renegotiate their relationship with these emotions. | 重新谈判他们与这些情绪的关系. |
| 164 | Because we think about these chaotic reactions | 因为我们想到这些混乱的反应 |
| 165 | as slings and arrows to be absorbed in silence | 成为寂静中被吸收的箭头 |
| 166 | and pushed down and muscled through, | 被推倒,被拖过, |
| 167 | but that's a lie, and that lie is stopping us | 但这是谎言 谎言阻止了我们 |
| 168 | from capitalizing on our WonderHell. | 从利用我们的神奇地狱。 |
| 169 | Because WonderHell is the excitement and the fear. | 因为神奇地狱是刺激和恐惧 |
| 170 | It's the joy and the uncertainty. | 即是欢喜无常. |
| 171 | It's the possibility and the chaos. | 这是可能性和混乱。 |
| 172 | And it is the promise and the potential | 这是承诺和潜力 |
| 173 | that you feel when you see this new you | 当你看到这个新你的感觉 |
| 174 | and you realize the only one who gets to choose | 你意识到只有一个人可以选择 |
| 175 | which you, you become is, well, you. | 你,你变成,嗯,你。 |
| 176 | And that means changing the voice inside your head, | 这意味着改变你脑袋里的声音, |
| 177 | warning, you haven't done this before, | 警告,你以前没做过这种事 |
| 178 | and warning you to run away from your potential | 警告你远离你的潜力 |
| 179 | into a cheerleader, yelling, you haven't done this before, | 成为啦啦队长,大喊大叫, 你以前没有这样做, |
| 180 | and encouraging you to run towards it. | 又鼓励你们奔向大地。 |
| 181 | WonderHell是你走对路的标志 | |
| 182 | to new opportunity and new growth. | 新的机会和新的增长。 |
| 183 | And third, WonderHell loves itself a repeat visitor. | 第三,神奇地狱爱自己 一个重复的访客。 |
| 184 | We think that things will settle down after. | 我们认为事情会平息下来 |
| 185 | It'll get easier when all we need to do | 我们只要做点事,就容易办到 |
| 186 | is just get through this one stomach churning, | 刚穿过这个胃痛, |
| 187 | cut, clenching, fight or fight moment | 切,切,切,打或打的时刻 |
| 188 | as if it is a single, one-time, temporary hurdle. | 仿佛是一个一次性的暂时障碍 |
| 189 | But for everyone I spoke to, | 但对于所有我说话的人来说, |
| 190 | what was on the outside of this WonderHell | 这个神奇地狱外面是什么 |
| 191 | was the next one and the next one, | 是下一个和下一个, |
| 192 | and if they were lucky, the next one after that. | 如果他们走运, 下一个之后。 |
| 193 | Our journeys are a series of successes | 我们的旅程是一系列的成功 |
| 194 | punctuated by lessons and losses and life. | 被教训和损失和生命所吸引 |
| 195 | It's an ongoing cycle. | 持续循环. |
| 196 | There isn't one big finish line. | 没有一条大终点线 |
| 197 | There are a million different little ones. | 有一百万个不同的小的。 |
| 198 | So listen, I'm not telling you to suck it up, | 所以,听着,我不是要你吸它, |
| 199 | and I'm not telling you to get hard. | 我不会让你硬起来 |
| 200 | What I am telling you is that to define success | 我所告诉你的是, 定义成功 |
| 201 | as a finite destination would mean that you're accepting | 作为有限的目的地 意味着你接受 |
| 202 | that there's only a finite limit to your growth. | 你的成长只有有限限度 |
| 203 | And all that does is steal away all the wonder | 所做的事就是偷走所有的奇迹 |
| 204 | and leave us only in the hell. | 把我们留在地狱里 |
| 205 | So what if we redefine success, | 所以,如果我们重新定义成功, |
| 206 | not as an endpoint, but as a waypoint, | 不是作为终点 而是作为起点 |
| 207 | and allowed ourselves to sit in that deep, deep discomfort | 并让自己坐在 深,深的不适 |
| 208 | that is the only path to growth? | 这是实现增长的唯一途径? |
| 209 | What if we saw success not as a final destination, | 如果我们不把成功视为最终目的 |
| 210 | but as a portal, | 但作为一个传送门, |
| 211 | one that expanded our understanding of what is possible? | 扩大我们对什么是可能的的理解? |
| 212 | What if we stopped dreading WonderHell | 如果我们不再害怕神奇地狱 |
| 213 | and bracing to survive it, | 并且为生存而叹息, |
| 214 | and instead learn to look forward to it, | 而不是学会期待它, |
| 215 | to plan for it, to learn from it, to grow from it, | 计划它,学习它,成长它, |
| 216 | and thrive in it instead? | 却在其中兴旺, |
| 217 | What if WonderHell wasn't our breakdown, | 如果神奇地狱不是我们的崩溃, |
| 218 | but our breakthrough? | 但是我们的突破? |
| 219 | Because WonderHell invites us to dive into that discomfort. | 因为WonderHell邀请我们潜入这种不适之中 |
| 220 | WonderHell compels us to expand our boundaries. | 神奇地狱迫使我们扩大边界 |
| 221 | WonderHell urges us to embrace our newfound potential. | WonderHell敦促我们拥抱我们的新发现的潜力。 |
| 222 | So what will you do with the gift | 那你要拿礼物怎么办? |
| 223 | that is the burden of your potential? | 这就是你潜力的负担? |
| 224 | What will you do next time you find yourself in WonderHell? | 下次在神奇地狱时你会怎么做? |
| 225 | Thank you. | 谢谢 |
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