等待，本身就充满魅力【TED演讲】
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| P1 | 等待，本身就充满魅力【TED演讲】 中英双语 | 16:28 |
| P2 | 等待，本身就充满魅力【TED演讲】 英文字幕(注释+中文外挂 | 16:28 |
| P3 | 等待，本身就充满魅力【TED演讲】 无字幕(中英外挂) | 16:28 |
P1 · 等待，本身就充满魅力【TED演讲】 p01 中英双语 (P1)
字幕摘录
| 时间 | 英文 | 中文 |
|---|---|---|
| 0:01 | You cannot date until you get married. | 你不能约会直到你结婚。 |
| 0:06 | Yeah, that was the only dating advice that I got | 是啊,这是唯一的约会建议 我得到了 |
| 0:08 | from my very strict immigrant Nigerian parents | 我非常严格的尼日利亚移民父母 |
| 0:11 | when at 16 I asked them if I could date | 16岁时,我问他们能不能约会 |
| 0:13 | like all my other American friends. | 就像其他所有美国朋友一样 |
| 0:15 | And all I got back was, | 我回来的只是 |
| 0:18 | Yvonne, you cannot date until you get married. | 伊冯娜,你结婚前不能约会 |
| 0:24 | What does that even mean, guys? | 这是什么意思,伙计们? |
| 0:27 | Guys, how can I get married if I never date? | 伙计们,我怎么结婚 如果我从来没有约会? |
| 0:29 | And more importantly, how can I have sex | 更重要的是,我怎么能做爱 |
展开字幕全文（392 条）
| 序号 | 英文 | 中文 |
|---|---|---|
| 1 | You cannot date until you get married. | 你不能约会直到你结婚。 |
| 2 | Yeah, that was the only dating advice that I got | 是啊,这是唯一的约会建议 我得到了 |
| 3 | from my very strict immigrant Nigerian parents | 我非常严格的尼日利亚移民父母 |
| 4 | when at 16 I asked them if I could date | 16岁时,我问他们能不能约会 |
| 5 | like all my other American friends. | 就像其他所有美国朋友一样 |
| 6 | And all I got back was, | 我回来的只是 |
| 7 | Yvonne, you cannot date until you get married. | 伊冯娜,你结婚前不能约会 |
| 8 | What does that even mean, guys? | 这是什么意思,伙计们? |
| 9 | Guys, how can I get married if I never date? | 伙计们,我怎么结婚 如果我从来没有约会? |
| 10 | And more importantly, how can I have sex | 更重要的是,我怎么能做爱 |
| 11 | if I never date? | 如果我从来没有约会? |
| 12 | But what my father managed to do in that very short sentence | 但是我父亲在那句很短的句子里 做了些什么 |
| 13 | other than utterly confuse me, | 而不是使我完全迷误, |
| 14 | is instilled the fear of God and his belt in my life. | 使我的生活中充满了对神的恐惧和对他的皮带。 |
| 15 | So I decided, you know what? | 所以我决定,你知道吗? |
| 16 | When I turn 18, I'm gonna be an adult, okay? | 当我18岁时,我会成为一个成年人,好吗? |
| 17 | I'm gonna be an adult, and I can make adult decisions, | 我将成为一个成年人, 我可以做成年人的决定, |
| 18 | and I don't need permission to date | 我约会不需要许可 |
| 19 | because I'm gonna be 18. | 因为我18岁。 |
| 20 | Also, when I turn 18, I'm gonna have sex. | 而且,当我18岁, 我要做爱。 |
| 21 | Yep, that's what I'm gonna do. | 是的,这就是我要做的。 |
| 22 | I'm gonna have sex when I turn 18. | 我18岁时就要做爱了 |
| 23 | And I had it all planned out, y'all. | 我已经计划好了,你们。 |
| 24 | I was gonna have rose petals, | 我会有玫瑰花瓣, |
| 25 | was gonna have candles, a water bit if I was lucky, | 本来要有蜡烛, 如果我是幸运的, |
| 26 | and Maxwell's This Woman's Work | 而麦克斯威尔的这个女人的工作 |
| 27 | was gonna be playing in the background. | 本来是要在背景里玩的 |
| 28 | Yes, because Love and Basketball is my favorite movie. | 是的,因为爱和篮球是我最喜欢的电影。 |
| 29 | But when I got to high school, | 但当我上高中, |
| 30 | all the girls kind of crushed my dreams | 所有的女孩都压碎了我的梦想 |
| 31 | because they were like, | 因为他们喜欢, |
| 32 | Yvonne, your expectations are way too high | 伊冯娜,你的期望太高了 |
| 33 | for your first time. | 这是你第一次 |
| 34 | You should be lucky if you get the backseat | 拿到后座就走运了 |
| 35 | of some guy's car, | 某人的车, |
| 36 | or the basement apartment in some dude's mama's house. | 或者在某人的妈妈家的地下室公寓里 |
| 37 | What, do you see my face? | 你看见我的脸了吗? |
| 38 | That was not the will of Jesus for my life. | 这不是耶稣对我生命的意志。 |
| 39 | That was not going to be what I told my daughter | 那不会是我对我女儿说的 |
| 40 | about my majestic first time. | 关于我最伟大的第一次。 |
| 41 | So I waited. | 所以我等了一会儿 |
| 42 | I was like, I can wait. | 我当时想,我可以等待。 |
| 43 | I waited it out. | 我等它出来。 |
| 44 | And sure, because I was never one to buckle | 当然,因为我从来没有一个扣 |
| 45 | under peer pressure, but year after year, | 年复一年, |
| 46 | I slowly realized that I was becoming | 我慢慢地意识到我变得... |
| 47 | the only member of the V-Club. | V俱乐部唯一的成员 |
| 48 | That's cool. | 这很酷。 |
| 49 | That's cool, because by senior year, | 这很酷,因为到大三, |
| 50 | I had even identified my accomplice. | 我甚至认出了我的同伙 |
| 51 | That's right. | 没错 |
| 52 | He was a black and Puerto Rican papiola, | 他是黑人和波多黎各人, |
| 53 | (原始内容存档于2018-09-21). mi guente es latino, pero tu sabe. | |
| 54 | And he was a freak too. | 他也是个怪胎 |
| 55 | I was like, look at Jesus, he coming through. | 我当时想,看看耶稣,他来了。 |
| 56 | I was like, this wait is gonna be worth it. | 我本来想,这个等待是值得的。 |
| 57 | And I told him the game plan. | 我告诉他游戏计划。 |
| 58 | I was like, all right, check it, check it. | 我当时想,好吧,检查它,检查它。 |
| 59 | All right, I'm 17. | 好吧,我17岁。 |
| 60 | Okay, I got a couple more months | 好,我还有几个月 |
| 61 | and my 18th birthday is going down. | 我18岁生日就要到了 |
| 62 | Candles, waterbed, rose petals. | 蜡烛,水床,玫瑰花瓣. |
| 63 | I laid it down. | 我把它放下来。 |
| 64 | I thought he was down for the count. | 我以为他已经倒下了 |
| 65 | I thought he was down for it. | 我以为他愿意这么做 |
| 66 | Until my freshman year of college, 17, | 直到我大一17岁 |
| 67 | with about three or four months left | 只剩三四个月了 |
| 68 | to go to my 18th birthday. | 去我的18岁生日。 |
| 69 | And I realized that there were other girls | 我意识到还有其他女孩 |
| 70 | who did not have the same timeline as I did. | 他们和我的时间不一样 |
| 71 | And they projected their offer to him. | 他们向他投下承诺 |
| 72 | And he took them up on their offer. | 他接受了他们的提议 |
| 73 | And that's cool, because I said, you know what, | 这很酷,因为我说,你知道吗, |
| 74 | Yvonne, you are in college, I am sure. | 伊冯娜,你上大学了,我确定 |
| 75 | There is a pretty young thing who has work study | 有个年轻有功课的人 |
| 76 | so he can afford these rose petals that you're looking for. | 这样他就能买得起你要找的玫瑰花瓣了 |
| 77 | And whose roommate goes home on the weekends | 谁的室友周末回家 |
| 78 | so you can get your set and she's girl. | 这样你就可以得到你的设定,她是女孩。 |
| 79 | And then life has a funny way of interrupting your plans | 然后生活有一个有趣的方式 打断你的计划 |
| 80 | because one faithful Thursday, a friend of mine invited me | 因为一个忠实的星期四 我的一个朋友邀请了我 |
| 81 | to a campus Bible study. | 到校园圣经研究。 |
| 82 | You know, I love Jesus, he cool, you know, why not? | 你知道,我喜欢耶稣, 他很酷,你知道,为什么不? |
| 83 | Let's go. | 我们走吧。 |
| 84 | I got to the Bible study | 我去了圣经书房 |
| 85 | and there was this beautiful minister. | 有一位美丽的部长。 |
| 86 | She was a med student and she talked about how she was 25 | 她是一个医学学生, 她谈到如何她25岁 |
| 87 | and waiting until marriage to have sex. | 等待到结婚 做爱。 |
| 88 | Hold up, what? | 坚持住,什么? |
| 89 | Time out, Jesus, what happened? | 暂停,耶稣,发生了什么事? |
| 90 | Who hurt her? | 谁伤害了她? |
| 91 | I don't understand. | 我不懂,我不懂你说什么 |
| 92 | Why would anybody do this? | 为什么有人会这样做? |
| 93 | This is unacceptable. | 这是不可接受的。 |
| 94 | What? | 你说什么? |
| 95 | I don't, I'm not here for this. | 我没有,我不是来这的。 |
| 96 | This is not why I came. | 这不是我来的原因 |
| 97 | And I sat there with my arms crossed like, no, I don't. | 我坐在那 手臂交叉一样,不,我不。 |
| 98 | This is not the will of Jesus for my life. | 这不是耶稣对我一生的意志 |
| 99 | And as I listened though, | 当我听到,虽然, |
| 100 | she talked about just how much God was so important to her | 她只说上帝对她有多重要 |
| 101 | and he had done so much for her | 他为她做了这么多 |
| 102 | that this ask was not a big deal in the grand scheme of things. | 这个要求在大计划里没什么大不了的 |
| 103 | And I was like, okay, what else you got? | 我当时想,好吧,你还有什么? |
| 104 | And then she kept talking | 然后她继续说话 |
| 105 | and her passion for Christ was really intriguing | 她对基督的热情令人着迷 |
| 106 | because she called God daddy. | 因为她叫上帝爸爸。 |
| 107 | I'd never heard anybody call him daddy. | 我从没听到有人叫他爸爸 |
| 108 | Like that was very intimate and very personal. | 感觉很亲密,很私人 |
| 109 | And so I found myself going like this to like this. | 所以我发现自己喜欢这样 |
| 110 | And by the time I knew it was y'all, | 等到我知道你们都来了的时候 |
| 111 | I'd been bamboozled by Jesus. | 我被耶稣蒙蔽了 |
| 112 | I got saved at 17. | 我17岁就被救了 |
| 113 | I told him I was going to wait till 18 | 我告诉他我要等到18岁 |
| 114 | and he swooped in at 17 and now 33. | 他17岁就冲进来了 现在33岁了 |
| 115 | We're still waiting. | 我们还在等 |
| 116 | We are still waiting. | 我们还在等待。 |
| 117 | But it's all good though. | 但也不错 |
| 118 | You know, I don't mind the wait. | 你知道,我不介意的等待。 |
| 119 | Thank you. | 谢谢 |
| 120 | I don't mind the wait, | 我不介意等一会 |
| 121 | but my parents are singing a different tune now. | 但我父母现在在唱不同的曲子 |
| 122 | When I remind them of their once sound dating advice, | 当我提醒他们 他们曾经的声音约会建议, |
| 123 | what I get back is, | 我回来的是, |
| 124 | Yvonne, time waits for nobody. | 伊冯娜,时间等待无人。 |
| 125 | You are no longer a spring chicken. | 你不再是一只春鸡了 |
| 126 | You are ripe for marriage. | 结婚的时机已经成熟了 |
| 127 | Right, that's what they call me guys, like I'm a mango. | 是啊,这就是他们叫我的家伙, 像我是芒果。 |
| 128 | I love this other one. | 我爱这另一个。 |
| 129 | Yvonne, I went to church today | 伊冯娜 我今天去教堂了 |
| 130 | and I lit five candles for you. | 我为你点了五根蜡烛 |
| 131 | Yes, maybe Jesus will see one of them | 是的,也许耶稣会看到其中之一 |
| 132 | and send you a husband. | 并给你一个丈夫。 |
| 133 | 谁需要Tinder? | |
| 134 | You got a candle lighting African mama, okay? | 你有蜡烛点亮非洲妈妈,好吗? |
| 135 | That's how this game works. | 游戏就是这样运作的. |
| 136 | But you know, I don't mind the wait | 不过你知道,我不介意等 |
| 137 | because here's the thing about it. | 因为事情是这样的 |
| 138 | I joke around a lot, | 我经常开玩笑 |
| 139 | 等待的,是宣读 riffraffs。 | |
| 140 | A lot of people think the wait is actually keeping me | 很多人都认为等待会让我难受 |
| 141 | from my Prince Charming, | 从我的白马王子, |
| 142 | but what the wait actually does | 但等待会做什么 |
| 143 | is keep me away from these dudes. | 让我远离这些家伙。 |
| 144 | But what you mean by commitment though? | 但你的承诺是什么意思? |
| 145 | Like commitment, commitment? | 像承诺,承诺? |
| 146 | Yeah, I don't have time for the foolishness, y'all. | 是啊,我没有时间 愚蠢的,你们。 |
| 147 | And so for me, if you ask, do I wanna have sex? | 所以,对我来说,如果你问, 我要做爱? |
| 148 | Of course I do, like today, like right now, | 当然了,像今天一样,像现在一样, |
| 149 | if you're here, like let me know. | 如果你在这里, 像告诉我。 |
| 150 | But that's just a short comfort, right? | 但这只是一个短暂的安慰,对不对? |
| 151 | And sometimes you gotta sacrifice short-term comforts | 有时你要牺牲短期的舒适 |
| 152 | to get long-term quality relationships that I want. | 得到长期的质量关系 我想要。 |
| 153 | Yeah, that's my face. | 是啊,这是我的脸。 |
| 154 | That's the short-term comfort look. | 这就是短期舒适的外观. |
| 155 | It ain't always sexy, y'all, but it is sexy. | 虽然并不总是性感,但很性感 |
| 156 | And so for me right now at 33, what the wait is, | 所以现在我33岁的时候 等待是什么 |
| 157 | the wait is powerful, it's disciplined, it's focused, | 等待是强大的, 它的纪律,它的焦点, |
| 158 | it keeps the main thing the main thing. | 它保持主要的东西 主要的事物。 |
| 159 | And I know some of you are all listening like, | 我知道你们有些人在听 |
| 160 | well, Yvonne, this sounds really good. | 伊冯娜 这听起来不错 |
| 161 | However, I'm not about this wait into marriage life, | 但是,我不是这个等待婚姻生活, |
| 162 | so you got anything else for me? | 那你还有什么要给我的吗? |
| 163 | I do, I do. | 我当然想 |
| 164 | I'm not here trying to sell you on wait into marriage. | 我不是在这里试图出卖你 等待结婚。 |
| 165 | My 17-year-old self is right there with you like, | 我17岁的自己就在你身边 |
| 166 | please stop talking right now, please, no. | 请停止说话 现在,请,不。 |
| 167 | But here are some things that I do feel | 但有些事我确实觉得 |
| 168 | that you can wait for in a relationship. | 你可以等待在关系。 |
| 169 | I feel like every relationship has things | 我觉得每段感情都有问题 |
| 170 | that are important that you can't wait for. | 这很重要,你不能等待。 |
| 171 | And so I'm gonna give you five things. | 并令五事. |
| 172 | One, wait on the person who sees you for you | 一,等着你的人 |
| 173 | and loves you regardless, because yours are real. | 爱你,不管怎样 因为你的确是真实的 |
| 174 | We all got issues, y'all. | 我们都有问题 |
| 175 | Like I didn't think I had issues, | 仿佛我不认为我有问题, |
| 176 | look at me, I'm amazing. | 看着我,我好厉害 |
| 177 | On the surface, there was no seven-year relationship | 从表面上看,没有七年的关系 |
| 178 | that left me hurt drinking red wine on a Thursday | 那让我在星期四喝红酒受伤 |
| 179 | and drinking popcorn like Olivia Pope, | 像奥利维亚·波普一样喝爆米花 |
| 180 | but we have issues. | 但我们有问题 |
| 181 | And it wasn't until a fight with a friend of mine | 直到和我的朋友吵架时 |
| 182 | that let me know I got some deep childhood issues | 让我知道 我有一些深刻的童年问题 |
| 183 | that I didn't even know about. | 我什至不知道关于。 |
| 184 | And that's the thing about wounds. | 伤口就是这样的 |
| 185 | You don't know you have them until they're scratched | 在他们抓伤之前你不知道自己有 |
| 186 | and then you realize the scab is still fresh. | 然后你意识到 恶疮仍然新鲜。 |
| 187 | So I had to dig deep. | 所以我必须深入挖掘。 |
| 188 | I had to dig deep and I had to unearth some ugly. | 我不得不深挖 和挖掘一些丑陋。 |
| 189 | But I believe that there is somebody | 但我相信有个人 |
| 190 | that is willing to get ugly with you down in the mud | 让你在泥地上丑陋 |
| 191 | and work on getting healed, his own healing | 并努力治愈,他自己治愈 |
| 192 | or their own healing on your own journey to getting healed. | 或者他们自己的治愈 在你自己的治愈旅程。 |
| 193 | So y'all can do it together. | 所以你们可以一起做 |
| 194 | Don't judge somebody else's process | 不要评判别人的过程 |
| 195 | because you're in a process as well. | 因为你也处在一个过程中。 |
| 196 | Number two, wait on the one who sees value | 第二,等着看价值的人 |
| 197 | in what you value. | 在你的价值。 |
| 198 | When you meet me, you know three things off the bat. | 当你见到我,你知道三件事 从蝙蝠。 |
| 199 | I love to laugh, I love being Nigerian. | 我喜欢笑 我爱当尼日利亚人 |
| 200 | My people, what you did? | 我的人,你们做了什么? |
| 201 | There it is. | 就是这样 |
| 202 | And I love Jesus. | 我爱耶稣。 |
| 203 | If you spend a little bit more time with me, | 如果你多花点时间陪我 |
| 204 | you know I'm a giver, I'm a connector of people, | 你知道我是个施舍者,我是人们的连接者, |
| 205 | I'm an encourager. | 我是一个鼓励者。 |
| 206 | You know, I went on a date one time with this guy | 我和这家伙约会过一次 |
| 207 | who was like, you know, Yvonne, | 他就像,你知道,伊冯娜, |
| 208 | I just think that in every relationship | 我只是觉得在每一个关系 |
| 209 | we need to, you know, compromise. | 我们要妥协 |
| 210 | Okay, I can compromise on what movie we see | 好吧,我可以妥协 我们看到的电影 |
| 211 | in the movie theater, y'all. | 在电影院,你们。 |
| 212 | I can compromise on whether or not | 我可以妥协是否 |
| 213 | we eat Chinese or Indian today. | 我们今天吃中国或印度。 |
| 214 | But a core value, what are we talking about? | 但核心价值,我们在说什么? |
| 215 | What are we talking about? | 我们在说什么? |
| 216 | And I'm not talking about like, y'all, | 我不是在说你们 |
| 217 | this dude likes Snicker bars and I like Babe Roots, | 这家伙喜欢Snicker酒吧 我喜欢贝贝根 |
| 218 | that's not it, okay? | 这不是它,好吗? |
| 219 | I'm talking core values. | 我说的是核心价值 |
| 220 | And I looked at him and I said, well, you know, | 我看着他,我说,嗯,你知道, |
| 221 | and of course, that was his sales pitch | 当然,那是他的销量 |
| 222 | to get me to try and sleep with him. | 让我和他上床 |
| 223 | And I said, babe, you know, it's cool if you don't value | 我说,宝贝,你知道,这是很酷的,如果你不重视 |
| 224 | the same thing I value, we're just not gonna make it. | 跟我珍视的一样,我们不会成功的 |
| 225 | See, I don't get mad if somebody doesn't like me for me. | 如果有人不喜欢我 我不会生气的 |
| 226 | You're just not the one for me. | 你只是不是一个对我来说。 |
| 227 | Number three, wait on purpose and not in fear. | 第三,故意等待而不恐惧. |
| 228 | You know, we all know the divorce rate in America | 你知道,我们都知道美国离婚率 |
| 229 | is 50% and then you throw in the retention rate in colleges | 50%,然后你投 在高校的续读率 |
| 230 | and then black women, the incarceration rate in black men | 然后黑人妇女 黑人男子的监禁率 |
| 231 | and blah, blah, blah, blah, blah. | 及诸众生. |
| 232 | It's all set in fear. | 皆以怖畏为定. |
| 233 | It's all set to make you feel like, | 都是为了让你觉得 |
| 234 | you ain't never gonna make it, boo. | 你不会成功的,嘘。 |
| 235 | But I don't subscribe to that because what is fear? | 但我不赞同,因为什么是恐惧? |
| 236 | And guys, you guys get it too. | 伙计们,你们也得到它。 |
| 237 | These girls ain't loyal, really? | 这些女孩不忠诚,真的吗? |
| 238 | Are we not? | 是吗? |
| 239 | I don't subscribe to fear because what is fear? | 我不认同恐惧,因为什么是恐惧? |
| 240 | Fear is false evidence appearing real. | 恐惧是假证据 显示真实。 |
| 241 | That's all that is. | 仅此而已. |
| 242 | It's not real. | 非实相. |
| 243 | I believe in faith. | 我坚信信仰 |
| 244 | Faith is the assurance of things hoped for | 信仰是希望得到的保证 |
| 245 | and the evidence of things not seen. | 和未见的证据。 |
| 246 | One deals in the negative, another one deals in the positive. | 一个是否定的,另一个是否定的。 |
| 247 | I choose to look for the positive. | 我选择寻找积极的。 |
| 248 | Jay -Z说: | |
| 249 | men lie, women lie, numbers don't. | 男人撒谎,女人撒谎,数字不。 |
| 250 | That's cool, you can have your numbers. | 这很酷,你可以有你的号码。 |
| 251 | I got a different set of numbers. | 我有一套不同的号码。 |
| 252 | 7.5 billion. | 75亿. |
| 253 | That's how many people on planet Earth. | 这就是地球上有多少人。 |
| 254 | 7.5 billion. | 75亿. |
| 255 | You mean to tell me that with 7.5 billion, | 你是说75亿? |
| 256 | there is one dude that, | 有一个家伙, |
| 257 | one dude has to have my name on him, okay? | 一个人必须有我的名字在他身上,好吗? |
| 258 | I don't know where he at. | 我不知道他现在在哪 |
| 259 | I may not have even traveled to where he's from. | 我可能甚至没去过他家乡 |
| 260 | Show of hands, has anybody here been to Wichita, Kansas? | 举起手来 有人去过堪萨斯州的威奇塔吗? |
| 261 | Exactly, my boo might be in Wichita, Kansas. | 没错,我的奶子可能在堪萨斯州的威奇塔 |
| 262 | Y'all know? | 你们都知道吗? |
| 263 | And we're not even, we're just dealing with one state. | 而且我们不是扯平的, 我们只是处理一个州。 |
| 264 | Has anyone been to every county in Pennsylvania | 有没有人去过宾夕法尼亚州的每一个县 |
| 265 | or in Maryland or, no. | 或者在马里兰州或者,没有。 |
| 266 | So there's a whole wild word out there | 外面有个疯狂的词 |
| 267 | and then we're not even factoring international. | 然后我们甚至不 考虑国际。 |
| 268 | Who been to New Zealand? | 谁去过新西兰? |
| 269 | Exactly, go to New Zealand. | 没错 去新西兰 |
| 270 | Oh, your boo may be waiting for you in seat 32B, | 哦,你的奶可能正在等你 在32B座位上, |
| 271 | is what I'm trying to tell you. | 这就是我想告诉你的 |
| 272 | So take us to Wichita, Kansas, just went up. | 带我们去堪萨斯州的威奇塔 刚刚上去 |
| 273 | You're welcome. | 不用谢 |
| 274 | Number four, wait on the one who makes you a priority. | 四号,等待一个 谁让你优先。 |
| 275 | You know, we've all heard it said, | 你知道,我们都听到它说, |
| 276 | you know, people make time for what's important to them. | 你知道,人们让时间 对于什么对他们很重要。 |
| 277 | And I believe that. | 我相信这一点。 |
| 278 | You know, earlier or late last year, | 你知道,去年早些时候或后期, |
| 279 | I was in a relationship or I was getting to know this guy. | 我恋爱了 或者我开始认识这个人了 |
| 280 | You know, he started off really good. | 你知道,他开始 非常好。 |
| 281 | They all do. | 他们都一样。 |
| 282 | Started off really good. | 开始真的很好。 |
| 283 | I, you know, I felt like we had a really good connection | 我,你知道,我觉得 我们有一个真正的良好联系 |
| 284 | and, you know, after a while, | 过了一段时间 |
| 285 | I realized that my communication | 我意识到我的沟通 |
| 286 | was not getting reciprocated at the same rate | 没有以同样的速度得到回报 |
| 287 | that I desired. | 我也希望这样 |
| 288 | So I take a step back, | 所以,我退一步, |
| 289 | because again, I don't have to beg anybody to like me | 再说一次,我不用求别人喜欢我 |
| 290 | because I like me. | 因为我喜欢我。 |
| 291 | So I just want to show you, | 所以我只想告诉你, |
| 292 | this was our last text message, | 这是我们最后的短信, |
| 293 | because this is what I do. | 因为这是我的工作。 |
| 294 | You know, I use you as a reference on my TED Talk. | 我在TED演讲中将你作为参考。 |
| 295 | January 4th, he says, can I call you later? | 1月4日,他说,我可以稍后给你打电话吗? |
| 296 | I say, yeah, sure. | 我说 是的 当然 |
| 297 | January 22nd? | 1月22日吗? |
| 298 | We're going to wait 18 days? | 我们要等18天? |
| 299 | And then he says, it's not because of negligence | 然后他说,这不是因为疏忽 |
| 300 | because you've surely been on my mind. | 因为你的确在我脑海里 |
| 301 | Here's what I don't need. | 这就是我不需要的。 |
| 302 | I don't need anybody thinking about me. | 我不需要任何人考虑我 |
| 303 | I don't need anybody thinking about me without actions. | 我不需要任何人不采取行动就考虑我 |
| 304 | Because here's what I think about. | 因为我是这样想的 |
| 305 | I think about cleaning my room. | 我想打扫房间 |
| 306 | I do. | 当然 |
| 307 | Here's what I don't do. | 这就是我不做的。 |
| 308 | I don't clean my room. | 我不清理我的房间。 |
| 309 | Here's who's not impressed with me thinking about them, | 这是谁没有印象 我思考他们, |
| 310 | my dirty floors, okay? | 我的脏地板,好吗? |
| 311 | So I don't, I'm happy that you thought about me, | 所以我没有,我很高兴你想起我, |
| 312 | but without follow through, | 但是没有跟随, |
| 313 | we're not going to make it. | 我们不会成功的。 |
| 314 | And Maya Angelou says, when people show you who they are, | 玛雅安杰卢说 当人们告诉你他们是谁时 |
| 315 | believe them. | 相信他们 |
| 316 | So I appreciate your effort, | 所以我感谢你的努力 |
| 317 | but clearly I'm not a priority in your life. | 但显然我不是你生活中的首要任务 |
| 318 | And that's cool because I believe that there's somebody | 这很酷 因为我相信有人 |
| 319 | who will make me and keep me their priority | 谁会让我和保持他们的优先 |
| 320 | and bring balance in your life. | 并给你的生活带来平衡。 |
| 321 | Furthermore, you waiting 18 days to get back to me, | 此外,你等待18天 回到我身边, |
| 322 | 但你的Instagram正在流行。 | |
| 323 | 就像你的Snapchat被点燃, | |
| 324 | but the same phone, you double tap it, | 但同一个电话,你双拍它, |
| 325 | you hit it and call me back, cool, cool, cool, | 你打了它,给我回电话,冷静,冷静,冷静, |
| 326 | cool, cool, cool, cool. | 冷静,冷静,冷静。 |
| 327 | So let's not excuse unexcusable behavior. | 因此,让我们不要原谅不可原谅的行为。 |
| 328 | You are a priority and you're worth somebody | 你是一个优先事项,你值得有人 |
| 329 | who will put you at the top of their list. | 谁会把你放在他们名单的首位。 |
| 330 | Now that's not to be mistaken for being ridiculous | 现在,这不应该被误认为是荒谬的 |
| 331 | and wanting to capitalize somebody's time. | 想要利用别人的时间 |
| 332 | You have to have balance | 你必须保持平衡 |
| 333 | and have a well-rounded life yourself. | 并有一个完美的生活你自己。 |
| 334 | Number five, weight on the man, | 5号,重男轻女 |
| 335 | on the one who meets your standards. | 一个符合你标准的人 |
| 336 | Here's the thing about standards. | 标准是这样的 |
| 337 | They're yours. | 他们是你的。 |
| 338 | They're yours to set as high or as low. | 都归你管了 |
| 339 | A lot of times when you hear single women, | 很多时候,当你听到单身女人, |
| 340 | you hear this said about them. | 你听说过这些关于他们的事 |
| 341 | Maybe you're still single | 也许你还是单身 |
| 342 | because your standards are way too high. | 因为你的标准太高了 |
| 343 | I don't know who talks like that, | 我不知道是谁这么说的 |
| 344 | but that's just, that's in my mind. | 但这只是,这是我的想法。 |
| 345 | That's, you know, or maybe you're still single | 也就是说,你知道,也许你还是单身 |
| 346 | because you're just so picky. | 因为你太挑剔了 |
| 347 | So, like, let me, let me, | 所以,像,让我,让我, |
| 348 | standards are yours to set as high or as low | 标准设定为高或低 |
| 349 | and sometimes people who can't meet your standards | 有时还有不符合你标准的人 |
| 350 | feel the need to diminish them. | 觉得需要减少它们。 |
| 351 | When I was in high school and told my friends | 我高中时跟朋友说了 |
| 352 | that my first time I wanted rose petals and candles | 我第一次想要玫瑰花瓣和蜡烛 |
| 353 | and they told me that, you know, | 他们告诉我,你知道, |
| 354 | no one's gonna meet that, yeah, of course. | 当然,没有人会遇到这个。 |
| 355 | No 15-year-old who's unemployed | 15岁没有失业 |
| 356 | and emotionally underdeveloped is gonna meet that. | 情感上不发达 就会遇到这种情况 |
| 357 | But I'm not looking to be with a 15-year-old. | 但我不想和一个15岁的孩子在一起 |
| 358 | That's okay. | 没关系 |
| 359 | So you have to know your own standards | 所以你必须知道自己的标准 |
| 360 | and you have to set them for yourself. | 你得自己订 |
| 361 | I play a character named Molly on HBO's Insecure. | 我在HBO的"不安全"上饰演了一个叫Molly的角色. |
| 362 | Thank you. | 谢谢 |
| 363 | And, you know, she's been accused of being | 而且,你知道, 她被指控为 |
| 364 | a little bad and bougie, been accused of being | 有点坏和布吉,被指责是 |
| 365 | a little shallow because she said she didn't wanna be | 有点浅 因为她说她不想成为 |
| 366 | with another character who didn't go to college. | 和另一个没上大学的角色在一起 |
| 367 | And she's a corporate attorney. | 她是个律师 |
| 368 | Hey, listen, that's your prerogative. | 听着 这是你的特权 |
| 369 | I just don't think that it's fair to tell someone | 我只是觉得告诉别人不公平 |
| 370 | that they can't have the preferences that they want. | 他们不能有他们想要的偏好。 |
| 371 | If they choose to have different preferences, | 如果他们选择有不同的偏好 |
| 372 | that's okay, too. | 没关系,太。 |
| 373 | That's the beauty of life, we have choices. | 这就是生命的美丽, 我们有选择。 |
| 374 | So as long as you're ordering off a menu | 只要你点了菜单 |
| 375 | that you can also prepare with your own ingredient, | 以便你们用自己的配料准备。 |
| 376 | like yourself, Abu. | 像你一样,阿布。 |
| 377 | But what I will say is I can't tell you | 但我要说的是 我不能告诉你 |
| 378 | how long you're gonna have to wait | 你还要等多久 |
| 379 | for this majestic perfect relationship, | 对于这个伟大的完美关系, |
| 380 | but I can tell you that the wait does not disappoint. | 但我可以告诉你 等待不会令你失望 |
| 381 | Remember the minister that I met when she was 25? | 记得我25岁时认识的部长吗? |
| 382 | Well, at 34, she got married to that handsome young man, | 她34岁时嫁给了那个帅哥 |
| 383 | and he's 6'4", holds an MBA, works in corporate America. | 他身高6尺4寸,持有MBA,在美国公司工作. |
| 384 | They have three, two lovely babies, | 他们有三个,两个可爱的婴儿, |
| 385 | and at 40, she's expecting her third. | 40岁时,她正在等待第三个 |
| 386 | So the wait doesn't disappoint. | 所以等待不会令人失望。 |
| 387 | So whoever you are that's in here that's holding on to hope, | 所以无论你是谁 都抱着希望 |
| 388 | I say hope against all hope, | 我对一切希望表示希望 |
| 389 | and fight the good fight. | 和好斗的战斗。 |
| 390 | Run the race, and keep the faith. | 赛跑,保持信念。 |
| 391 | It is worth it and it is sexy. | 这是值得的,它是性感的。 |
| 392 | pigeon- Olson's town. | 鸽子 奥尔森镇 |
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| 时间 | 英文 | 中文 |
|---|---|---|
| 0:01 | You cannot date until you get married. | 你不能约会直到你结婚。 |
| 0:06 | Yeah, that was the only dating advice that I got | 是啊,这是唯一的约会建议 我得到了 |
| 0:08 | from my very strict immigrant Nigerian parents | 我非常严格的尼日利亚移民父母 |
| 0:11 | when at 16 I asked them if I could date | 16岁时,我问他们能不能约会 |
| 0:13 | like all my other American friends. | 就像其他所有美国朋友一样 |
| 0:15 | And all I got back was, | 我回来的只是 |
| 0:18 | Yvonne, you cannot date until you get married. | 伊冯娜,你结婚前不能约会 |
| 0:24 | What does that even mean, guys? | 这是什么意思,伙计们? |
| 0:27 | Guys, how can I get married if I never date? | 伙计们,我怎么结婚 如果我从来没有约会? |
| 0:29 | And more importantly, how can I have sex | 更重要的是,我怎么能做爱 |
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| 序号 | 英文 | 中文 |
|---|---|---|
| 1 | You cannot date until you get married. | 你不能约会直到你结婚。 |
| 2 | Yeah, that was the only dating advice that I got | 是啊,这是唯一的约会建议 我得到了 |
| 3 | from my very strict immigrant Nigerian parents | 我非常严格的尼日利亚移民父母 |
| 4 | when at 16 I asked them if I could date | 16岁时,我问他们能不能约会 |
| 5 | like all my other American friends. | 就像其他所有美国朋友一样 |
| 6 | And all I got back was, | 我回来的只是 |
| 7 | Yvonne, you cannot date until you get married. | 伊冯娜,你结婚前不能约会 |
| 8 | What does that even mean, guys? | 这是什么意思,伙计们? |
| 9 | Guys, how can I get married if I never date? | 伙计们,我怎么结婚 如果我从来没有约会? |
| 10 | And more importantly, how can I have sex | 更重要的是,我怎么能做爱 |
| 11 | if I never date? | 如果我从来没有约会? |
| 12 | But what my father managed to do in that very short sentence | 但是我父亲在那句很短的句子里 做了些什么 |
| 13 | other than utterly confuse me, | 而不是使我完全迷误, |
| 14 | is instilled the fear of God and his belt in my life. | 使我的生活中充满了对神的恐惧和对他的皮带。 |
| 15 | So I decided, you know what? | 所以我决定,你知道吗? |
| 16 | When I turn 18, I'm gonna be an adult, okay? | 当我18岁时,我会成为一个成年人,好吗? |
| 17 | I'm gonna be an adult and I can make adult decisions | 我会是成年人 我可以做成年人的决定 |
| 18 | and I don't need permission to date | 我约会不需要许可 |
| 19 | because I'm gonna be 18. | 因为我18岁。 |
| 20 | Also, when I turn 18, I'm gonna get married. | 而且,当我18岁, 我要结婚。 |
| 21 | I'm gonna have sex. | 我要做爱了 |
| 22 | Yep, that's what I'm gonna do. | 是的,这就是我要做的。 |
| 23 | I'm gonna have sex when I turn 18. | 我18岁时就要做爱了 |
| 24 | And I had it all planned out, y'all. | 我已经计划好了,你们。 |
| 25 | I was gonna have rose petals, | 我会有玫瑰花瓣, |
| 26 | was gonna have candles, a water bit if I was lucky, | 本来要有蜡烛, 如果我是幸运的, |
| 27 | and Maxwell's This Woman's Work | 而麦克斯威尔的这个女人的工作 |
| 28 | was gonna be playing in the background. | 本来是要在背景里玩的 |
| 29 | Yes, because Love and Basketball is my favorite movie. | 是的,因为爱和篮球是我最喜欢的电影。 |
| 30 | But when I got to high school, | 但当我上高中, |
| 31 | all the girls kind of crushed my dreams | 所有的女孩都压碎了我的梦想 |
| 32 | because they were like, | 因为他们喜欢, |
| 33 | Yvonne, your expectations are way too high | 伊冯娜,你的期望太高了 |
| 34 | for your first time. | 这是你第一次 |
| 35 | You should be lucky if you get the back seat | 你坐后座应该很幸运 |
| 36 | of some guy's car | 有人的车 |
| 37 | or the basement apartment in some dude's mama's house. | 或者在某人的妈妈家的地下室公寓里 |
| 38 | What, do you see my face? | 你看见我的脸了吗? |
| 39 | That was not the will of Jesus for my life. | 这不是耶稣对我生命的意志。 |
| 40 | That was not going to be what I told my daughter | 那不会是我对我女儿说的 |
| 41 | about my majestic first time. | 关于我最伟大的第一次。 |
| 42 | So I waited. | 所以我等了一会儿 |
| 43 | I was like, I can wait. | 我当时想,我可以等待。 |
| 44 | I waited it out. | 我等它出来。 |
| 45 | And sure, because I was never one to buckle | 当然,因为我从来没有一个扣 |
| 46 | under peer pressure, but year after year, | 年复一年, |
| 47 | I slowly realized that I was becoming | 我慢慢地意识到我变得... |
| 48 | the only member of the V Club. | V俱乐部唯一的成员 |
| 49 | That's cool. | 这很酷。 |
| 50 | That's cool, because by senior year, | 这很酷,因为到大三, |
| 51 | I had even identified my accomplice. | 我甚至认出了我的同伙 |
| 52 | That's right. | 没错 |
| 53 | He was a black and Puerto Rican papiola, | 他是黑人和波多黎各人, |
| 54 | (原始内容存档于2018-09-21). mi guente es latino, pero tu sabe. | |
| 55 | And he was a freak too. | 他也是个怪胎 |
| 56 | I was like, look at Jesus, he coming through. | 我当时想,看看耶稣,他来了。 |
| 57 | I was like, this wait is gonna be worth it. | 我本来想,这个等待是值得的。 |
| 58 | And I told him the game plan. | 我告诉他游戏计划。 |
| 59 | I was like, all right, check it, check it. | 我当时想,好吧,检查它,检查它。 |
| 60 | All right, I'm 17. | 好吧,我17岁。 |
| 61 | Okay, I got a couple more months | 好,我还有几个月 |
| 62 | and my 18th birthday is going down. | 我18岁生日就要到了 |
| 63 | Candles, waterbed, rose petals. | 蜡烛,水床,玫瑰花瓣. |
| 64 | I laid it down. | 我把它放下来。 |
| 65 | I thought he was down for the count. | 我以为他已经倒下了 |
| 66 | I thought he was down for it. | 我以为他愿意这么做 |
| 67 | Until my freshman year of college, | 直到我大一的时候 |
| 68 | 17 with about three or four months left | 17个,还有三四个月 |
| 69 | to go to my 18th birthday. | 去我的18岁生日。 |
| 70 | And I realized that there were other girls | 我意识到还有其他女孩 |
| 71 | who did not have the same timeline as I did. | 他们和我的时间不一样 |
| 72 | And they projected their offer to him. | 他们向他投下承诺 |
| 73 | And he took them up on their offer. | 他接受了他们的提议 |
| 74 | And that's cool, because I said, you know what, Yvonne? | 这很酷,因为我说, 你知道吗,伊冯娜? |
| 75 | You are in college, I am sure. | 你上大学了,我确定 |
| 76 | There is a pretty young thing who has work study | 有个年轻有功课的人 |
| 77 | so he can afford these rose petals that you're looking for. | 这样他就能买得起你要找的玫瑰花瓣了 |
| 78 | And whose roommate goes home on the weekends | 谁的室友周末回家 |
| 79 | so you can get your set and she's girl. | 这样你就可以得到你的设定,她是女孩。 |
| 80 | And then life has a funny way of interrupting your plans | 然后生活有一个有趣的方式 打断你的计划 |
| 81 | because one faithful Thursday, | 因为一个忠实的星期四, |
| 82 | a friend of mine invited me to a campus Bible study. | 我的一个朋友邀请我去校园圣经研究 |
| 83 | You know, I love Jesus, he cool, you know, why not? | 你知道,我喜欢耶稣, 他很酷,你知道,为什么不? |
| 84 | Let's go. | 我们走吧。 |
| 85 | I got to the Bible study | 我去了圣经书房 |
| 86 | and there was this beautiful minister. | 有一位美丽的部长。 |
| 87 | She was a med student and she talked about how she was 25 | 她是一个医学学生, 她谈到如何她25岁 |
| 88 | and waiting until marriage to have sex. | 等待到结婚 做爱。 |
| 89 | Hold up, what? | 坚持住,什么? |
| 90 | Time out, Jesus, what happened? | 暂停,耶稣,发生了什么事? |
| 91 | Who hurt her? | 谁伤害了她? |
| 92 | I don't understand. | 我不懂,我不懂你说什么 |
| 93 | Why would anybody do this? | 为什么有人会这样做? |
| 94 | This is unacceptable. | 这是不可接受的。 |
| 95 | What? | 你说什么? |
| 96 | I don't, I'm not here for this. | 我没有,我不是来这的。 |
| 97 | This is not why I came. | 这不是我来的原因 |
| 98 | And I sat there with my arms crossed like, no, I don't. | 我坐在那 手臂交叉一样,不,我不。 |
| 99 | This is not the will of Jesus for my life. | 这不是耶稣对我一生的意志 |
| 100 | And as I listened though, | 当我听到,虽然, |
| 101 | she talked about just how much God was so important to her | 她只说上帝对她有多重要 |
| 102 | and he had done so much for her | 他为她做了这么多 |
| 103 | that this ask was not a big deal in the grand scheme of things. | 这个要求在大计划里没什么大不了的 |
| 104 | And I was like, okay, what else you got? | 我当时想,好吧,你还有什么? |
| 105 | And then she kept talking | 然后她继续说话 |
| 106 | and her passion for Christ was really intriguing | 她对基督的热情令人着迷 |
| 107 | because she called God daddy. | 因为她叫上帝爸爸。 |
| 108 | I'd never heard anybody call him daddy. | 我从没听到有人叫他爸爸 |
| 109 | Like that was very intimate and very personal. | 感觉很亲密,很私人 |
| 110 | And so I found myself going like this to like this. | 所以我发现自己喜欢这样 |
| 111 | And by the time I knew it was y'all, | 等到我知道你们都来了的时候 |
| 112 | I'd been bamboozled by Jesus. | 我被耶稣蒙蔽了 |
| 113 | I got saved at 17. | 我17岁就被救了 |
| 114 | I told him I was going to wait till 18 | 我告诉他我要等到18岁 |
| 115 | and he swooped in at 17 and now 33. | 他17岁就冲进来了 现在33岁了 |
| 116 | We're still waiting. | 我们还在等 |
| 117 | We are still waiting. | 我们还在等待。 |
| 118 | But it's all good though. | 但也不错 |
| 119 | You know, I don't mind the wait. | 你知道,我不介意的等待。 |
| 120 | Thank you. | 谢谢 |
| 121 | I don't mind the wait, | 我不介意等一会 |
| 122 | but my parents are singing a different tune now. | 但我父母现在在唱不同的曲子 |
| 123 | When I remind them of their once sound dating advice, | 当我提醒他们 他们曾经的声音约会建议, |
| 124 | what I get back is, | 我回来的是, |
| 125 | Yvonne, time waits for nobody. | 伊冯娜,时间等待无人。 |
| 126 | You are no longer a spring chicken. | 你不再是一只春鸡了 |
| 127 | You are ripe for marriage. | 结婚的时机已经成熟了 |
| 128 | Right, that's what they call me guys, like I'm a mango. | 是啊,这就是他们叫我的家伙, 像我是芒果。 |
| 129 | I love this other one. | 我爱这另一个。 |
| 130 | Yvonne, I went to church today | 伊冯娜 我今天去教堂了 |
| 131 | and I lit five candles for you. | 我为你点了五根蜡烛 |
| 132 | Yes, maybe Jesus will see one of them | 是的,也许耶稣会看到其中之一 |
| 133 | and send you a husband. | 并给你一个丈夫。 |
| 134 | 谁需要Tinder? | |
| 135 | You got a candle lighting African mama, okay? | 你有蜡烛点亮非洲妈妈,好吗? |
| 136 | That's how this game works. | 游戏就是这样运作的. |
| 137 | But you know, I don't mind the wait | 不过你知道,我不介意等 |
| 138 | because here's the thing about it. | 因为事情是这样的 |
| 139 | I joke around a lot, | 我经常开玩笑 |
| 140 | 等待的,是宣读 riffraffs。 | |
| 141 | A lot of people think the wait is actually keeping me | 很多人都认为等待会让我难受 |
| 142 | from my Prince Charming, | 从我的白马王子, |
| 143 | but what the wait actually does | 但等待会做什么 |
| 144 | is keep me away from these dudes. | 让我远离这些家伙。 |
| 145 | But what you mean by commitment though? | 但你的承诺是什么意思? |
| 146 | Like commitment, commitment? | 像承诺,承诺? |
| 147 | Yeah, I don't have time for the foolishness, y'all. | 是啊,我没有时间 愚蠢的,你们。 |
| 148 | And so for me, if you ask, do I want to have sex? | 所以,对我来说,如果你问, 我要做爱吗? |
| 149 | Of course I do. | 当然 |
| 150 | Like today, like right now, if you're here, | 就像今天一样,就像现在,如果你在这里, |
| 151 | like let me know. | 像告诉我。 |
| 152 | But that's just a short comfort, right? | 但这只是一个短暂的安慰,对不对? |
| 153 | And sometimes you got to sacrifice short-term comforts | 有时你不得不牺牲短期的舒适 |
| 154 | to get long-term quality relationships that I want. | 得到长期的质量关系 我想要。 |
| 155 | Yeah, that's my face. | 是啊,这是我的脸。 |
| 156 | That's the short-term comfort look. | 这就是短期舒适的外观. |
| 157 | Like it ain't always sexy, y'all, but it is sexy. | 就像它并不总是性感的,你们所有人,但它是性感的。 |
| 158 | And so for me right now at 33, what the wait is, | 所以现在我33岁的时候 等待是什么 |
| 159 | the wait is powerful, it's disciplined, it's focused, | 等待是强大的, 它的纪律,它的焦点, |
| 160 | it keeps the main thing the main thing. | 它保持主要的东西 主要的事物。 |
| 161 | And I know some of you are all listening like, | 我知道你们有些人在听 |
| 162 | well, Yvonne, this sounds really good. | 伊冯娜 这听起来不错 |
| 163 | However, I'm not about this wait into marriage life. | 但是,我不是这个等待婚姻生活。 |
| 164 | So, you got anything else for me? | 那么,你还有别的东西要给我吗? |
| 165 | I do, I do. | 我当然想 |
| 166 | I'm not here trying to sell you a way into marriage. | 我不是想卖给你结婚的方法 |
| 167 | My 17-year-old self is right there with you like, | 我17岁的自己就在你身边 |
| 168 | please stop talking right now, please, no. | 请停止说话 现在,请,不。 |
| 169 | But here are some things that I do feel | 但有些事我确实觉得 |
| 170 | that you can wait for in a relationship. | 你可以等待在关系。 |
| 171 | I feel like every relationship has things | 我觉得每段感情都有问题 |
| 172 | that are important that you can't wait for. | 这很重要,你不能等待。 |
| 173 | And so I'm gonna give you five things. | 并令五事. |
| 174 | One, wait on the person who sees you for you | 一,等着你的人 |
| 175 | and loves you regardless. | 爱你,不管怎样。 |
| 176 | Because here's the real, we all got issues, y'all. | 因为这是真的,我们都有问题 |
| 177 | Like I didn't think I had issues, | 仿佛我不认为我有问题, |
| 178 | look at me, I'm amazing. | 看着我,我好厉害 |
| 179 | On the surface, there was no like seven-year relationship | 从表面上看,没有像七年的关系 |
| 180 | that left me hurt drinking red wine on a Thursday | 那让我在星期四喝红酒受伤 |
| 181 | 喝爆米花 吃爆米花 像Olivia Pope | |
| 182 | but we have issues. | 但我们有问题 |
| 183 | And it wasn't until a fight with a friend of mine | 直到和我的朋友吵架时 |
| 184 | that let me know like I got some deep like childhood issues | 让我知道,就像我得到了一些深 像童年问题 |
| 185 | that I didn't even know about. | 我什至不知道关于。 |
| 186 | And that's the thing about wounds. | 伤口就是这样的 |
| 187 | You don't know you have them until they're scratched | 在他们抓伤之前你不知道自己有 |
| 188 | and then you realize the scab is still fresh. | 然后你意识到 恶疮仍然新鲜。 |
| 189 | So I had to dig deep. | 所以我必须深入挖掘。 |
| 190 | I had to dig deep and I had to unearth some ugly. | 我不得不深挖 和挖掘一些丑陋。 |
| 191 | But I believe that there is somebody | 但我相信有个人 |
| 192 | that is willing to get ugly with you down in the mud | 让你在泥地上丑陋 |
| 193 | and work on getting healed, his own healing | 并努力治愈,他自己治愈 |
| 194 | or their own healing on your own journey to getting healed. | 或者他们自己的治愈 在你自己的治愈旅程。 |
| 195 | So y'all can do it together. | 所以你们可以一起做 |
| 196 | Don't judge somebody else's process | 不要评判别人的过程 |
| 197 | because you're in a process as well. | 因为你也处在一个过程中。 |
| 198 | Number two, wait on the one who sees value | 第二,等着看价值的人 |
| 199 | in what you value. | 在你的价值。 |
| 200 | When you meet me, you know three things off the bat. | 当你见到我,你知道三件事 从蝙蝠。 |
| 201 | I love to laugh. | 我喜欢笑 |
| 202 | I love being Nigerian. | 我喜欢做尼日利亚人 |
| 203 | My people, what you did? | 我的人,你们做了什么? |
| 204 | There it is. | 就是这样 |
| 205 | And I love Jesus. | 我爱耶稣。 |
| 206 | If you spend a little bit more time with me, | 如果你多花点时间陪我 |
| 207 | you know I'm a giver. | 你知道我是个施舍者。 |
| 208 | I'm a connector of people. | 我是一个连接人。 |
| 209 | I'm an encourager. | 我是一个鼓励者。 |
| 210 | You know, I went on a date one time with this guy | 我和这家伙约会过一次 |
| 211 | who was like, you know, Yvonne, | 他就像,你知道,伊冯娜, |
| 212 | I just think that, you know, in every relationship, | 我只是觉得,你知道, 在每一个关系, |
| 213 | we need, you know, compromise. | 我们需要,你知道,妥协。 |
| 214 | Okay, I can compromise on what movie we see | 好吧,我可以妥协 我们看到的电影 |
| 215 | in the movie theater, y'all. | 在电影院,你们。 |
| 216 | I can compromise on whether or not | 我可以妥协是否 |
| 217 | we eat Chinese or Indian today. | 我们今天吃中国或印度。 |
| 218 | But a core value, what are we talking about? | 但核心价值,我们在说什么? |
| 219 | What are we talking about? | 我们在说什么? |
| 220 | And I'm not talking about like, y'all, | 我不是在说你们 |
| 221 | 这家伙喜欢Snicker酒吧 我喜欢Baby Roots | |
| 222 | That's not it. | 这不是它。 |
| 223 | Okay, I'm talking core values. | 好吧 我说的是核心价值 |
| 224 | And I looked at him and I said, well, you know, | 我看着他,我说,嗯,你知道, |
| 225 | and of course, that was his sales pitch | 当然,那是他的销量 |
| 226 | to get me to try and sleep with him. | 让我和他上床 |
| 227 | And I said, babe, you know, | 我说,宝贝,你知道, |
| 228 | it's cool if you don't value the same thing I value. | 如果你不珍惜我珍视的一样东西 那也很酷 |
| 229 | We're just not gonna make it. | 我们只是不能成功。 |
| 230 | See, I don't get mad if somebody doesn't like me for me. | 如果有人不喜欢我 我不会生气的 |
| 231 | You're just not the one for me. | 你只是不是一个对我来说。 |
| 232 | Number three, wait on purpose and not in fear. | 第三,故意等待而不恐惧. |
| 233 | You know, we all know the divorce rate in America is 50%. | 我们都知道美国离婚率为50% |
| 234 | And then you throw in the retention rate in colleges | 然后把大学的留学率提高 |
| 235 | and then black women, the incarceration rate in black men | 然后黑人妇女 黑人男子的监禁率 |
| 236 | and blah, blah, blah, blah, blah. | 及诸众生. |
| 237 | It's all set in fear. | 皆以怖畏为定. |
| 238 | It's all set to make you feel like | 都是为了让你觉得 |
| 239 | you ain't never gonna make it, boo. | 你不会成功的,嘘。 |
| 240 | But I don't subscribe to that because what is fear? | 但我不赞同,因为什么是恐惧? |
| 241 | And guys, you guys get it too. | 伙计们,你们也得到它。 |
| 242 | These girls ain't loyal, really? | 这些女孩不忠诚,真的吗? |
| 243 | Are we not? | 是吗? |
| 244 | I don't subscribe to fear because what is fear? | 我不认同恐惧,因为什么是恐惧? |
| 245 | Fear is false evidence appearing real. | 恐惧是假证据 显示真实。 |
| 246 | That's all that is. | 仅此而已. |
| 247 | It's not real. | 非实相. |
| 248 | I believe in faith. | 我坚信信仰 |
| 249 | Faith is the assurance of things hoped for | 信仰是希望得到的保证 |
| 250 | and the evidence of things not seen. | 和未见的证据。 |
| 251 | One deals in the negative, | 一个交易的负面, |
| 252 | another one deals in the positive. | 另一个交易是积极的。 |
| 253 | I choose to look for the positive. | 我选择寻找积极的。 |
| 254 | And here's the thing. | 事情是这样的 |
| 255 | Jay-Z said, men lie, women lie, numbers don't. | Jay -Z说,男人撒谎,女人撒谎,数字没有。 |
| 256 | That's cool. | 这很酷。 |
| 257 | You can have your numbers. | 你可以有你的号码。 |
| 258 | I got a different set of numbers. | 我有一套不同的号码。 |
| 259 | 7.5 billion. | 75亿. |
| 260 | That's how many people on planet Earth. | 这就是地球上有多少人。 |
| 261 | 7.5 billion. | 75亿. |
| 262 | You mean to tell me that with 7.5 billion, | 你是说75亿? |
| 263 | there is one dude that, | 有一个家伙, |
| 264 | one dude has to have my name on him, okay? | 一个人必须有我的名字在他身上,好吗? |
| 265 | I don't know where he at. | 我不知道他现在在哪 |
| 266 | I may not have even traveled to where he's from. | 我可能甚至没去过他家乡 |
| 267 | Show of hands, has anybody here been to Wichita, Kansas? | 举起手来 有人去过堪萨斯州的威奇塔吗? |
| 268 | Exactly, my boo might be in Wichita, Kansas. | 没错,我的奶子可能在堪萨斯州的威奇塔 |
| 269 | Y'all know? | 你们都知道吗? |
| 270 | And we're not even, we're just dealing with one state. | 而且我们不是扯平的, 我们只是处理一个州。 |
| 271 | Has anyone been to every county in Pennsylvania | 有没有人去过宾夕法尼亚州的每一个县 |
| 272 | or in Maryland or, no. | 或者在马里兰州或者,没有。 |
| 273 | So there's a whole wild word out there | 外面有个疯狂的词 |
| 274 | and then we're not even factoring international, | 然后我们甚至不考虑国际, |
| 275 | who's been to New Zealand? | 谁去过新西兰? |
| 276 | Exactly, go to New Zealand. | 没错 去新西兰 |
| 277 | Oh, your boo may be waiting for you in seat 32B, | 哦,你的奶可能正在等你 在32B座位上, |
| 278 | is what I'm trying to tell you. | 这就是我想告诉你的 |
| 279 | So take us to Wichita, Kansas, just went up. | 带我们去堪萨斯州的威奇塔 刚刚上去 |
| 280 | You're welcome. | 不用谢 |
| 281 | Number four, wait on the one who makes you a priority. | 四号,等待一个 谁让你优先。 |
| 282 | You know, we've all heard it said, | 你知道,我们都听到它说, |
| 283 | you know, people make time for what's important to them. | 你知道,人们让时间 对于什么对他们很重要。 |
| 284 | And I believe that. | 我相信这一点。 |
| 285 | You know, earlier or late last year, | 你知道,去年早些时候或后期, |
| 286 | I was in a relationship, | 我当时的关系, |
| 287 | or I was getting to know this guy. | 或者我开始认识这个人 |
| 288 | You know, he started off really good, they all do. | 你知道,他开始 非常好,他们都这样做。 |
| 289 | Started off really good. | 开始真的很好。 |
| 290 | I, you know, I felt like we had a really good connection | 我,你知道,我觉得 我们有一个真正的良好联系 |
| 291 | and, you know, after a while I realized | 而且,你知道, 过了一段时间,我意识到 |
| 292 | that my communication was not getting reciprocated | 我的通信没有得到回应 |
| 293 | at the same rate that I desired. | 和我想要的一样 |
| 294 | So I take a step back, | 所以,我退一步, |
| 295 | because again, I don't have to beg anybody to like me, | 再说一次,我不用求别人喜欢我 |
| 296 | because I like me. | 因为我喜欢我。 |
| 297 | So I just want to show you, | 所以我只想告诉你, |
| 298 | this was our last text message, | 这是我们最后的短信, |
| 299 | because this is what I do. | 因为这是我的工作。 |
| 300 | You know, I use you as a reference on my TED Talk. | 我在TED演讲中将你作为参考。 |
| 301 | January 4th, he says, can I call you later? | 1月4日,他说,我可以稍后给你打电话吗? |
| 302 | I say, yeah, sure. | 我说 是的 当然 |
| 303 | January 22nd? | 1月22日吗? |
| 304 | We're going to wait 18 days? | 我们要等18天? |
| 305 | And then he says, it's not because of negligence, | 然后他说 这不是因为疏忽 |
| 306 | because you've surely been on my mind. | 因为你的确在我脑海里 |
| 307 | Here's what I don't need. | 这就是我不需要的。 |
| 308 | I don't need anybody thinking about me. | 我不需要任何人考虑我 |
| 309 | I don't need anybody thinking about me without actions, | 我不需要任何人不采取行动就考虑我 |
| 310 | because here's what I think about. | 因为我是这样想的 |
| 311 | I think about cleaning my room, I do. | 我想打扫我的房间,我做的。 |
| 312 | Here's what I don't do. | 这就是我不做的。 |
| 313 | I don't clean my room. | 我不清理我的房间。 |
| 314 | Here's who's not impressed with me thinking about them, | 这是谁没有印象 我思考他们, |
| 315 | my dirty floors, okay? | 我的脏地板,好吗? |
| 316 | So I don't, I'm happy that you thought about me, | 所以我没有,我很高兴你想起我, |
| 317 | but without follow through, | 但是没有跟随, |
| 318 | mm, boo boo, we not going to make it. | 嗯,嘘,嘘, 我们不会做到这一点。 |
| 319 | And Maya Angelou says, when people show you who they are, | 玛雅安杰卢说 当人们告诉你他们是谁时 |
| 320 | believe them. | 相信他们 |
| 321 | So I appreciate your effort, | 所以我感谢你的努力 |
| 322 | but clearly I'm not a priority in your life, | 但显然我不是你生活中的首要任务 |
| 323 | and that's cool, because I believe that there's somebody | 这很酷,因为我相信有人 |
| 324 | who will make me and keep me their priority | 谁会让我和保持他们的优先 |
| 325 | and bring balance in your life. | 并给你的生活带来平衡。 |
| 326 | Furthermore, you waiting 18 days to get back to me, | 此外,你等待18天 回到我身边, |
| 327 | 但是,你的Instagram 弹出! | |
| 328 | Why, your Snapchat is lit, but the same phone, | 为什么,你的Snapchat被点燃, 但相同的电话, |
| 329 | you double tap it and you hear it call me back. | 你再拍两下,听到它给我回电话 |
| 330 | Cool, cool, cool, cool, cool, cool, cool, cool, cool. | 清凉 清凉 清凉 清凉 |
| 331 | So let's not excuse unexcusable behavior. | 因此,让我们不要原谅不可原谅的行为。 |
| 332 | You are a priority and you're worth somebody | 你是一个优先事项,你值得有人 |
| 333 | who will put you at the top of their list. | 谁会把你放在他们名单的首位。 |
| 334 | Now, that's not to be mistaken for being ridiculous | 现在,这不应该被误认为是荒谬的 |
| 335 | and wanting to capitalize somebody's time. | 想要利用别人的时间 |
| 336 | You have to have balance | 你必须保持平衡 |
| 337 | and have a well-rounded life yourself. | 并有一个完美的生活你自己。 |
| 338 | Number five, weight on the one who meets your standards. | 5号,重量 符合你标准的人。 |
| 339 | Here's the thing about standards. | 标准是这样的 |
| 340 | They're yours. | 他们是你的。 |
| 341 | They're yours to set as high or as low. | 都归你管了 |
| 342 | A lot of times when you hear single women, | 很多时候,当你听到单身女人, |
| 343 | you hear this said about them. | 你听说过这些关于他们的事 |
| 344 | Maybe you're still single | 也许你还是单身 |
| 345 | because your standards are way too high. | 因为你的标准太高了 |
| 346 | I don't know who talks like that, | 我不知道是谁这么说的 |
| 347 | but that's in my mind. | 但这是在我的脑海里。 |
| 348 | You know, or maybe you're still single | 要不然你还是单身 |
| 349 | because you're just so picky. | 因为你太挑剔了 |
| 350 | So, like, let me, let me, | 所以,像,让我,让我, |
| 351 | standards are yours to set as high or as low | 标准设定为高或低 |
| 352 | and sometimes people who can't meet your standards | 有时还有不符合你标准的人 |
| 353 | feel the need to diminish them. | 觉得需要减少它们。 |
| 354 | When I was in high school and told my friends | 我高中时跟朋友说了 |
| 355 | that my first time I wanted rose petals and candles | 我第一次想要玫瑰花瓣和蜡烛 |
| 356 | and they told me that, you know, no one's gonna meet that. | 他们告诉我,你知道, 没有人会遇到这一点。 |
| 357 | Yeah, of course, no 15-year-old who's unemployed | 是啊,当然,没有15岁 谁失业 |
| 358 | and emotionally underdeveloped is gonna meet that. | 情感上不发达 就会遇到这种情况 |
| 359 | But I'm not looking to be with a 15-year-old. | 但我不想和一个15岁的孩子在一起 |
| 360 | That's okay. | 没关系 |
| 361 | So you have to know your own standards | 所以你必须知道自己的标准 |
| 362 | and you have to set them for yourself. | 你得自己订 |
| 363 | I play a character named Molly on HBO's Insecure. | 我在HBO的"不安全"上饰演了一个叫Molly的角色. |
| 364 | Thank you. | 谢谢 |
| 365 | And, you know, she's been accused of being | 而且,你知道, 她被指控为 |
| 366 | a little bad and bougie, | 有点坏和布吉, |
| 367 | been accused of being a little shallow | 被指责有点浅 |
| 368 | because she said she didn't want to be | 因为她说她不想成为 |
| 369 | with another character who didn't go to college. | 和另一个没上大学的角色在一起 |
| 370 | And she's a corporate attorney. | 她是个律师 |
| 371 | Hey, listen, that's your prerogative. | 听着 这是你的特权 |
| 372 | I just don't think that it's fair to tell someone | 我只是觉得告诉别人不公平 |
| 373 | that they can't have the preferences that they want. | 他们不能有他们想要的偏好。 |
| 374 | If they choose to have different preferences, | 如果他们选择有不同的偏好 |
| 375 | that's okay, too. | 没关系,太。 |
| 376 | That's the beauty of life. | 这就是生命的美丽。 |
| 377 | We have choices. | 我们有选择 |
| 378 | So as long as you're ordering off a menu | 只要你点了菜单 |
| 379 | that you can also prepare with your own ingredient, | 以便你们用自己的配料准备。 |
| 380 | knock yourself out, boof. | 把你自己弄出来,笨蛋。 |
| 381 | But what I will say is I can't tell you | 但我要说的是 我不能告诉你 |
| 382 | how long you're gonna have to wait | 你还要等多久 |
| 383 | for this majestic, perfect relationship, | 对于这个伟大的,完美的关系, |
| 384 | but I can tell you that the wait does not disappoint. | 但我可以告诉你 等待不会令你失望 |
| 385 | Remember the minister that I met when she was 25? | 记得我25岁时认识的部长吗? |
| 386 | Well, at 34, she got married to that handsome young man, | 她34岁时嫁给了那个帅哥 |
| 387 | and he's 6'4", holds an MBA, works in corporate America. | 他身高6尺4寸,持有MBA,在美国公司工作. |
| 388 | They have three, two lovely babies, | 他们有三个,两个可爱的婴儿, |
| 389 | and at 40, she's expecting her third. | 40岁时,她正在等待第三个 |
| 390 | So the wait doesn't disappoint. | 所以等待不会令人失望。 |
| 391 | So whoever you are that's in here | 不管你是谁 都在这里 |
| 392 | that's holding on to hope, | 这是坚持的希望, |
| 393 | I say hope against all hope | 我说希望与一切希望 |
| 394 | and fight the good fight, | 与善战, |
| 395 | run the race, and keep the faith. | 运行比赛,并保持信心。 |
| 396 | It is worth it and it is sexy. | 这是值得的,它是性感的。 |
| 397 | Sound good. | 听起来不错。 |
| 398 | All right. | 好吧,我们走。 |
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| 时间 | 英文 | 中文 |
|---|---|---|
| 0:01 | You cannot date until you get married. | 你不能约会直到你结婚。 |
| 0:06 | Yeah, that was the only dating advice that I got | 是啊,这是唯一的约会建议 我得到了 |
| 0:08 | from my very strict immigrant Nigerian parents | 我非常严格的尼日利亚移民父母 |
| 0:11 | when at 16 I asked them if I could date | 16岁时,我问他们能不能约会 |
| 0:13 | like all my other American friends. | 就像其他所有美国朋友一样 |
| 0:15 | And all I got back was, | 我回来的只是 |
| 0:18 | Yvonne, you cannot date until you get married. | 伊冯娜,你结婚前不能约会 |
| 0:24 | What does that even mean, guys? | 这是什么意思,伙计们? |
| 0:27 | Guys, how can I get married if I never date? | 伙计们,我怎么结婚 如果我从来没有约会? |
| 0:29 | And more importantly, how can I have sex | 更重要的是,我怎么能做爱 |
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| 序号 | 英文 | 中文 |
|---|---|---|
| 1 | You cannot date until you get married. | 你不能约会直到你结婚。 |
| 2 | Yeah, that was the only dating advice that I got | 是啊,这是唯一的约会建议 我得到了 |
| 3 | from my very strict immigrant Nigerian parents | 我非常严格的尼日利亚移民父母 |
| 4 | when at 16 I asked them if I could date | 16岁时,我问他们能不能约会 |
| 5 | like all my other American friends. | 就像其他所有美国朋友一样 |
| 6 | And all I got back was, | 我回来的只是 |
| 7 | Yvonne, you cannot date until you get married. | 伊冯娜,你结婚前不能约会 |
| 8 | What does that even mean, guys? | 这是什么意思,伙计们? |
| 9 | Guys, how can I get married if I never date? | 伙计们,我怎么结婚 如果我从来没有约会? |
| 10 | And more importantly, how can I have sex | 更重要的是,我怎么能做爱 |
| 11 | if I never date? | 如果我从来没有约会? |
| 12 | But what my father managed to do in that very short sentence | 但是我父亲在那句很短的句子里 做了些什么 |
| 13 | other than utterly confuse me, | 而不是使我完全迷误, |
| 14 | is instilled the fear of God and his belt in my life. | 使我的生活中充满了对神的恐惧和对他的皮带。 |
| 15 | So I decided, you know what? | 所以我决定,你知道吗? |
| 16 | When I turn 18, I'm gonna be an adult, okay? | 当我18岁时,我会成为一个成年人,好吗? |
| 17 | I'm gonna be an adult, and I can make adult decisions, | 我将成为一个成年人, 我可以做成年人的决定, |
| 18 | and I don't need permission to date | 我约会不需要许可 |
| 19 | because I'm gonna be 18. | 因为我18岁。 |
| 20 | Also, when I turn 18, I'm gonna have sex. | 而且,当我18岁, 我要做爱。 |
| 21 | Yep, that's what I'm gonna do. | 是的,这就是我要做的。 |
| 22 | I'm gonna have sex when I turn 18. | 我18岁时就要做爱了 |
| 23 | And I had it all planned out, y'all. | 我已经计划好了,你们。 |
| 24 | I was gonna have rose petals, | 我会有玫瑰花瓣, |
| 25 | was gonna have candles, a water bit if I was lucky, | 本来要有蜡烛, 如果我是幸运的, |
| 26 | and Maxwell's This Woman's Work | 而麦克斯威尔的这个女人的工作 |
| 27 | was gonna be playing in the background. | 本来是要在背景里玩的 |
| 28 | Yes, because Love and Basketball is my favorite movie. | 是的,因为爱和篮球是我最喜欢的电影。 |
| 29 | But when I got to high school, | 但当我上高中, |
| 30 | all the girls kind of crushed my dreams | 所有的女孩都压碎了我的梦想 |
| 31 | because they were like, | 因为他们喜欢, |
| 32 | Yvonne, your expectations are way too high | 伊冯娜,你的期望太高了 |
| 33 | for your first time. | 这是你第一次 |
| 34 | You should be lucky if you get the backseat | 拿到后座就走运了 |
| 35 | of some guy's car, | 某人的车, |
| 36 | or the basement apartment in some dude's mama's house. | 或者在某人的妈妈家的地下室公寓里 |
| 37 | What, do you see my face? | 你看见我的脸了吗? |
| 38 | That was not the will of Jesus for my life. | 这不是耶稣对我生命的意志。 |
| 39 | That was not going to be what I told my daughter | 那不会是我对我女儿说的 |
| 40 | about my majestic first time. | 关于我最伟大的第一次。 |
| 41 | So I waited. | 所以我等了一会儿 |
| 42 | I was like, I can wait. | 我当时想,我可以等待。 |
| 43 | I waited it out. | 我等它出来。 |
| 44 | And sure, because I was never one to buckle | 当然,因为我从来没有一个扣 |
| 45 | under peer pressure, but year after year, | 年复一年, |
| 46 | I slowly realized that I was becoming | 我慢慢地意识到我变得... |
| 47 | the only member of the V-Club. | V俱乐部唯一的成员 |
| 48 | That's cool. | 这很酷。 |
| 49 | That's cool, because by senior year, | 这很酷,因为到大三, |
| 50 | I had even identified my accomplice. | 我甚至认出了我的同伙 |
| 51 | That's right. | 没错 |
| 52 | He was a black and Puerto Rican papiola, | 他是黑人和波多黎各人, |
| 53 | (原始内容存档于2018-09-21). mi guente es latino, pero tu sabe. | |
| 54 | And he was a freak too. | 他也是个怪胎 |
| 55 | I was like, look at Jesus, he coming through. | 我当时想,看看耶稣,他来了。 |
| 56 | I was like, this wait is gonna be worth it. | 我本来想,这个等待是值得的。 |
| 57 | And I told him the game plan. | 我告诉他游戏计划。 |
| 58 | I was like, all right, check it, check it. | 我当时想,好吧,检查它,检查它。 |
| 59 | All right, I'm 17. | 好吧,我17岁。 |
| 60 | Okay, I got a couple more months | 好,我还有几个月 |
| 61 | and my 18th birthday is going down. | 我18岁生日就要到了 |
| 62 | Candles, waterbed, rose petals. | 蜡烛,水床,玫瑰花瓣. |
| 63 | I laid it down. | 我把它放下来。 |
| 64 | I thought he was down for the count. | 我以为他已经倒下了 |
| 65 | I thought he was down for it. | 我以为他愿意这么做 |
| 66 | Until my freshman year of college, 17, | 直到我大一17岁 |
| 67 | with about three or four months left | 只剩三四个月了 |
| 68 | to go to my 18th birthday. | 去我的18岁生日。 |
| 69 | And I realized that there were other girls | 我意识到还有其他女孩 |
| 70 | who did not have the same timeline as I did. | 他们和我的时间不一样 |
| 71 | And they projected their offer to him. | 他们向他投下承诺 |
| 72 | And he took them up on their offer. | 他接受了他们的提议 |
| 73 | And that's cool, because I said, you know what, | 这很酷,因为我说,你知道吗, |
| 74 | Yvonne, you are in college, I am sure. | 伊冯娜,你上大学了,我确定 |
| 75 | There is a pretty young thing who has work study | 有个年轻有功课的人 |
| 76 | so he can afford these rose petals that you're looking for. | 这样他就能买得起你要找的玫瑰花瓣了 |
| 77 | And whose roommate goes home on the weekends | 谁的室友周末回家 |
| 78 | so you can get your set and she's girl. | 这样你就可以得到你的设定,她是女孩。 |
| 79 | And then life has a funny way of interrupting your plans | 然后生活有一个有趣的方式 打断你的计划 |
| 80 | because one faithful Thursday, a friend of mine invited me | 因为一个忠实的星期四 我的一个朋友邀请了我 |
| 81 | to a campus Bible study. | 到校园圣经研究。 |
| 82 | You know, I love Jesus, he cool, you know, why not? | 你知道,我喜欢耶稣, 他很酷,你知道,为什么不? |
| 83 | Let's go. | 我们走吧。 |
| 84 | I got to the Bible study | 我去了圣经书房 |
| 85 | and there was this beautiful minister. | 有一位美丽的部长。 |
| 86 | She was a med student and she talked about how she was 25 | 她是一个医学学生, 她谈到如何她25岁 |
| 87 | and waiting until marriage to have sex. | 等待到结婚 做爱。 |
| 88 | Hold up, what? | 坚持住,什么? |
| 89 | Time out, Jesus, what happened? | 暂停,耶稣,发生了什么事? |
| 90 | Who hurt her? | 谁伤害了她? |
| 91 | I don't understand. | 我不懂,我不懂你说什么 |
| 92 | Why would anybody do this? | 为什么有人会这样做? |
| 93 | This is unacceptable. | 这是不可接受的。 |
| 94 | What? | 你说什么? |
| 95 | I don't, I'm not here for this. | 我没有,我不是来这的。 |
| 96 | This is not why I came. | 这不是我来的原因 |
| 97 | And I sat there with my arms crossed like, no, I don't. | 我坐在那 手臂交叉一样,不,我不。 |
| 98 | This is not the will of Jesus for my life. | 这不是耶稣对我一生的意志 |
| 99 | And as I listened though, | 当我听到,虽然, |
| 100 | she talked about just how much God was so important to her | 她只说上帝对她有多重要 |
| 101 | and he had done so much for her | 他为她做了这么多 |
| 102 | that this ask was not a big deal in the grand scheme of things. | 这个要求在大计划里没什么大不了的 |
| 103 | And I was like, okay, what else you got? | 我当时想,好吧,你还有什么? |
| 104 | And then she kept talking | 然后她继续说话 |
| 105 | and her passion for Christ was really intriguing | 她对基督的热情令人着迷 |
| 106 | because she called God daddy. | 因为她叫上帝爸爸。 |
| 107 | I'd never heard anybody call him daddy. | 我从没听到有人叫他爸爸 |
| 108 | Like that was very intimate and very personal. | 感觉很亲密,很私人 |
| 109 | And so I found myself going like this to like this. | 所以我发现自己喜欢这样 |
| 110 | And by the time I knew it was y'all, | 等到我知道你们都来了的时候 |
| 111 | I'd been bamboozled by Jesus. | 我被耶稣蒙蔽了 |
| 112 | I got saved at 17. | 我17岁就被救了 |
| 113 | I told him I was going to wait till 18 | 我告诉他我要等到18岁 |
| 114 | and he swooped in at 17 and now 33. | 他17岁就冲进来了 现在33岁了 |
| 115 | We're still waiting. | 我们还在等 |
| 116 | We are still waiting. | 我们还在等待。 |
| 117 | But it's all good though. | 但也不错 |
| 118 | You know, I don't mind the wait. | 你知道,我不介意的等待。 |
| 119 | Thank you. | 谢谢 |
| 120 | I don't mind the wait, | 我不介意等一会 |
| 121 | but my parents are singing a different tune now. | 但我父母现在在唱不同的曲子 |
| 122 | When I remind them of their once sound dating advice, | 当我提醒他们 他们曾经的声音约会建议, |
| 123 | what I get back is, | 我回来的是, |
| 124 | Yvonne, time waits for nobody. | 伊冯娜,时间等待无人。 |
| 125 | You are no longer a spring chicken. | 你不再是一只春鸡了 |
| 126 | You are ripe for marriage. | 结婚的时机已经成熟了 |
| 127 | Right, that's what they call me guys, like I'm a mango. | 是啊,这就是他们叫我的家伙, 像我是芒果。 |
| 128 | I love this other one. | 我爱这另一个。 |
| 129 | Yvonne, I went to church today | 伊冯娜 我今天去教堂了 |
| 130 | and I lit five candles for you. | 我为你点了五根蜡烛 |
| 131 | Yes, maybe Jesus will see one of them | 是的,也许耶稣会看到其中之一 |
| 132 | and send you a husband. | 并给你一个丈夫。 |
| 133 | 谁需要Tinder? | |
| 134 | You got a candle lighting African mama, okay? | 你有蜡烛点亮非洲妈妈,好吗? |
| 135 | That's how this game works. | 游戏就是这样运作的. |
| 136 | But you know, I don't mind the wait | 不过你知道,我不介意等 |
| 137 | because here's the thing about it. | 因为事情是这样的 |
| 138 | I joke around a lot, | 我经常开玩笑 |
| 139 | 等待的,是宣读 riffraffs。 | |
| 140 | A lot of people think the wait is actually keeping me | 很多人都认为等待会让我难受 |
| 141 | from my Prince Charming, | 从我的白马王子, |
| 142 | but what the wait actually does | 但等待会做什么 |
| 143 | is keep me away from these dudes. | 让我远离这些家伙。 |
| 144 | But what you mean by commitment though? | 但你的承诺是什么意思? |
| 145 | Like commitment, commitment? | 像承诺,承诺? |
| 146 | Yeah, I don't have time for the foolishness, y'all. | 是啊,我没有时间 愚蠢的,你们。 |
| 147 | And so for me, if you ask, do I wanna have sex? | 所以,对我来说,如果你问, 我要做爱? |
| 148 | Of course I do, like today, like right now, | 当然了,像今天一样,像现在一样, |
| 149 | if you're here, like let me know. | 如果你在这里, 像告诉我。 |
| 150 | But that's just a short comfort, right? | 但这只是一个短暂的安慰,对不对? |
| 151 | And sometimes you gotta sacrifice short-term comforts | 有时你要牺牲短期的舒适 |
| 152 | to get long-term quality relationships that I want. | 得到长期的质量关系 我想要。 |
| 153 | Yeah, that's my face. | 是啊,这是我的脸。 |
| 154 | That's the short-term comfort look. | 这就是短期舒适的外观. |
| 155 | It ain't always sexy, y'all, but it is sexy. | 虽然并不总是性感,但很性感 |
| 156 | And so for me right now at 33, what the wait is, | 所以现在我33岁的时候 等待是什么 |
| 157 | the wait is powerful, it's disciplined, it's focused, | 等待是强大的, 它的纪律,它的焦点, |
| 158 | it keeps the main thing the main thing. | 它保持主要的东西 主要的事物。 |
| 159 | And I know some of you are all listening like, | 我知道你们有些人在听 |
| 160 | well, Yvonne, this sounds really good. | 伊冯娜 这听起来不错 |
| 161 | However, I'm not about this wait into marriage life, | 但是,我不是这个等待婚姻生活, |
| 162 | so you got anything else for me? | 那你还有什么要给我的吗? |
| 163 | I do, I do. | 我当然想 |
| 164 | I'm not here trying to sell you on wait into marriage. | 我不是在这里试图出卖你 等待结婚。 |
| 165 | My 17-year-old self is right there with you like, | 我17岁的自己就在你身边 |
| 166 | please stop talking right now, please, no. | 请停止说话 现在,请,不。 |
| 167 | But here are some things that I do feel | 但有些事我确实觉得 |
| 168 | that you can wait for in a relationship. | 你可以等待在关系。 |
| 169 | I feel like every relationship has things | 我觉得每段感情都有问题 |
| 170 | that are important that you can't wait for. | 这很重要,你不能等待。 |
| 171 | And so I'm gonna give you five things. | 并令五事. |
| 172 | One, wait on the person who sees you for you | 一,等着你的人 |
| 173 | and loves you regardless, because yours are real. | 爱你,不管怎样 因为你的确是真实的 |
| 174 | We all got issues, y'all. | 我们都有问题 |
| 175 | Like I didn't think I had issues, | 仿佛我不认为我有问题, |
| 176 | look at me, I'm amazing. | 看着我,我好厉害 |
| 177 | On the surface, there was no seven-year relationship | 从表面上看,没有七年的关系 |
| 178 | that left me hurt drinking red wine on a Thursday | 那让我在星期四喝红酒受伤 |
| 179 | and drinking popcorn like Olivia Pope, | 像奥利维亚·波普一样喝爆米花 |
| 180 | but we have issues. | 但我们有问题 |
| 181 | And it wasn't until a fight with a friend of mine | 直到和我的朋友吵架时 |
| 182 | that let me know I got some deep childhood issues | 让我知道 我有一些深刻的童年问题 |
| 183 | that I didn't even know about. | 我什至不知道关于。 |
| 184 | And that's the thing about wounds. | 伤口就是这样的 |
| 185 | You don't know you have them until they're scratched | 在他们抓伤之前你不知道自己有 |
| 186 | and then you realize the scab is still fresh. | 然后你意识到 恶疮仍然新鲜。 |
| 187 | So I had to dig deep. | 所以我必须深入挖掘。 |
| 188 | I had to dig deep and I had to unearth some ugly. | 我不得不深挖 和挖掘一些丑陋。 |
| 189 | But I believe that there is somebody | 但我相信有个人 |
| 190 | that is willing to get ugly with you down in the mud | 让你在泥地上丑陋 |
| 191 | and work on getting healed, his own healing | 并努力治愈,他自己治愈 |
| 192 | or their own healing on your own journey to getting healed. | 或者他们自己的治愈 在你自己的治愈旅程。 |
| 193 | So y'all can do it together. | 所以你们可以一起做 |
| 194 | Don't judge somebody else's process | 不要评判别人的过程 |
| 195 | because you're in a process as well. | 因为你也处在一个过程中。 |
| 196 | Number two, wait on the one who sees value | 第二,等着看价值的人 |
| 197 | in what you value. | 在你的价值。 |
| 198 | When you meet me, you know three things off the bat. | 当你见到我,你知道三件事 从蝙蝠。 |
| 199 | I love to laugh, I love being Nigerian. | 我喜欢笑 我爱当尼日利亚人 |
| 200 | My people, what you did? | 我的人,你们做了什么? |
| 201 | There it is. | 就是这样 |
| 202 | And I love Jesus. | 我爱耶稣。 |
| 203 | If you spend a little bit more time with me, | 如果你多花点时间陪我 |
| 204 | you know I'm a giver, I'm a connector of people, | 你知道我是个施舍者,我是人们的连接者, |
| 205 | I'm an encourager. | 我是一个鼓励者。 |
| 206 | You know, I went on a date one time with this guy | 我和这家伙约会过一次 |
| 207 | who was like, you know, Yvonne, | 他就像,你知道,伊冯娜, |
| 208 | I just think that in every relationship | 我只是觉得在每一个关系 |
| 209 | we need to, you know, compromise. | 我们要妥协 |
| 210 | Okay, I can compromise on what movie we see | 好吧,我可以妥协 我们看到的电影 |
| 211 | in the movie theater, y'all. | 在电影院,你们。 |
| 212 | I can compromise on whether or not | 我可以妥协是否 |
| 213 | we eat Chinese or Indian today. | 我们今天吃中国或印度。 |
| 214 | But a core value, what are we talking about? | 但核心价值,我们在说什么? |
| 215 | What are we talking about? | 我们在说什么? |
| 216 | And I'm not talking about like, y'all, | 我不是在说你们 |
| 217 | this dude likes Snicker bars and I like Babe Roots, | 这家伙喜欢Snicker酒吧 我喜欢贝贝根 |
| 218 | that's not it, okay? | 这不是它,好吗? |
| 219 | I'm talking core values. | 我说的是核心价值 |
| 220 | And I looked at him and I said, well, you know, | 我看着他,我说,嗯,你知道, |
| 221 | and of course, that was his sales pitch | 当然,那是他的销量 |
| 222 | to get me to try and sleep with him. | 让我和他上床 |
| 223 | And I said, babe, you know, it's cool if you don't value | 我说,宝贝,你知道,这是很酷的,如果你不重视 |
| 224 | the same thing I value, we're just not gonna make it. | 跟我珍视的一样,我们不会成功的 |
| 225 | See, I don't get mad if somebody doesn't like me for me. | 如果有人不喜欢我 我不会生气的 |
| 226 | You're just not the one for me. | 你只是不是一个对我来说。 |
| 227 | Number three, wait on purpose and not in fear. | 第三,故意等待而不恐惧. |
| 228 | You know, we all know the divorce rate in America | 你知道,我们都知道美国离婚率 |
| 229 | is 50% and then you throw in the retention rate in colleges | 50%,然后你投 在高校的续读率 |
| 230 | and then black women, the incarceration rate in black men | 然后黑人妇女 黑人男子的监禁率 |
| 231 | and blah, blah, blah, blah, blah. | 及诸众生. |
| 232 | It's all set in fear. | 皆以怖畏为定. |
| 233 | It's all set to make you feel like, | 都是为了让你觉得 |
| 234 | you ain't never gonna make it, boo. | 你不会成功的,嘘。 |
| 235 | But I don't subscribe to that because what is fear? | 但我不赞同,因为什么是恐惧? |
| 236 | And guys, you guys get it too. | 伙计们,你们也得到它。 |
| 237 | These girls ain't loyal, really? | 这些女孩不忠诚,真的吗? |
| 238 | Are we not? | 是吗? |
| 239 | I don't subscribe to fear because what is fear? | 我不认同恐惧,因为什么是恐惧? |
| 240 | Fear is false evidence appearing real. | 恐惧是假证据 显示真实。 |
| 241 | That's all that is. | 仅此而已. |
| 242 | It's not real. | 非实相. |
| 243 | I believe in faith. | 我坚信信仰 |
| 244 | Faith is the assurance of things hoped for | 信仰是希望得到的保证 |
| 245 | and the evidence of things not seen. | 和未见的证据。 |
| 246 | One deals in the negative, another one deals in the positive. | 一个是否定的,另一个是否定的。 |
| 247 | I choose to look for the positive. | 我选择寻找积极的。 |
| 248 | Jay -Z说: | |
| 249 | men lie, women lie, numbers don't. | 男人撒谎,女人撒谎,数字不。 |
| 250 | That's cool, you can have your numbers. | 这很酷,你可以有你的号码。 |
| 251 | I got a different set of numbers. | 我有一套不同的号码。 |
| 252 | 7.5 billion. | 75亿. |
| 253 | That's how many people on planet Earth. | 这就是地球上有多少人。 |
| 254 | 7.5 billion. | 75亿. |
| 255 | You mean to tell me that with 7.5 billion, | 你是说75亿? |
| 256 | there is one dude that, | 有一个家伙, |
| 257 | one dude has to have my name on him, okay? | 一个人必须有我的名字在他身上,好吗? |
| 258 | I don't know where he at. | 我不知道他现在在哪 |
| 259 | I may not have even traveled to where he's from. | 我可能甚至没去过他家乡 |
| 260 | Show of hands, has anybody here been to Wichita, Kansas? | 举起手来 有人去过堪萨斯州的威奇塔吗? |
| 261 | Exactly, my boo might be in Wichita, Kansas. | 没错,我的奶子可能在堪萨斯州的威奇塔 |
| 262 | Y'all know? | 你们都知道吗? |
| 263 | And we're not even, we're just dealing with one state. | 而且我们不是扯平的, 我们只是处理一个州。 |
| 264 | Has anyone been to every county in Pennsylvania | 有没有人去过宾夕法尼亚州的每一个县 |
| 265 | or in Maryland or, no. | 或者在马里兰州或者,没有。 |
| 266 | So there's a whole wild word out there | 外面有个疯狂的词 |
| 267 | and then we're not even factoring international. | 然后我们甚至不 考虑国际。 |
| 268 | Who been to New Zealand? | 谁去过新西兰? |
| 269 | Exactly, go to New Zealand. | 没错 去新西兰 |
| 270 | Oh, your boo may be waiting for you in seat 32B, | 哦,你的奶可能正在等你 在32B座位上, |
| 271 | is what I'm trying to tell you. | 这就是我想告诉你的 |
| 272 | So take us to Wichita, Kansas, just went up. | 带我们去堪萨斯州的威奇塔 刚刚上去 |
| 273 | You're welcome. | 不用谢 |
| 274 | Number four, wait on the one who makes you a priority. | 四号,等待一个 谁让你优先。 |
| 275 | You know, we've all heard it said, | 你知道,我们都听到它说, |
| 276 | you know, people make time for what's important to them. | 你知道,人们让时间 对于什么对他们很重要。 |
| 277 | And I believe that. | 我相信这一点。 |
| 278 | You know, earlier or late last year, | 你知道,去年早些时候或后期, |
| 279 | I was in a relationship or I was getting to know this guy. | 我恋爱了 或者我开始认识这个人了 |
| 280 | You know, he started off really good. | 你知道,他开始 非常好。 |
| 281 | They all do. | 他们都一样。 |
| 282 | Started off really good. | 开始真的很好。 |
| 283 | I, you know, I felt like we had a really good connection | 我,你知道,我觉得 我们有一个真正的良好联系 |
| 284 | and, you know, after a while, | 过了一段时间 |
| 285 | I realized that my communication | 我意识到我的沟通 |
| 286 | was not getting reciprocated at the same rate | 没有以同样的速度得到回报 |
| 287 | that I desired. | 我也希望这样 |
| 288 | So I take a step back, | 所以,我退一步, |
| 289 | because again, I don't have to beg anybody to like me | 再说一次,我不用求别人喜欢我 |
| 290 | because I like me. | 因为我喜欢我。 |
| 291 | So I just want to show you, | 所以我只想告诉你, |
| 292 | this was our last text message, | 这是我们最后的短信, |
| 293 | because this is what I do. | 因为这是我的工作。 |
| 294 | You know, I use you as a reference on my TED Talk. | 我在TED演讲中将你作为参考。 |
| 295 | January 4th, he says, can I call you later? | 1月4日,他说,我可以稍后给你打电话吗? |
| 296 | I say, yeah, sure. | 我说 是的 当然 |
| 297 | January 22nd? | 1月22日吗? |
| 298 | We're going to wait 18 days? | 我们要等18天? |
| 299 | And then he says, it's not because of negligence | 然后他说,这不是因为疏忽 |
| 300 | because you've surely been on my mind. | 因为你的确在我脑海里 |
| 301 | Here's what I don't need. | 这就是我不需要的。 |
| 302 | I don't need anybody thinking about me. | 我不需要任何人考虑我 |
| 303 | I don't need anybody thinking about me without actions. | 我不需要任何人不采取行动就考虑我 |
| 304 | Because here's what I think about. | 因为我是这样想的 |
| 305 | I think about cleaning my room. | 我想打扫房间 |
| 306 | I do. | 当然 |
| 307 | Here's what I don't do. | 这就是我不做的。 |
| 308 | I don't clean my room. | 我不清理我的房间。 |
| 309 | Here's who's not impressed with me thinking about them, | 这是谁没有印象 我思考他们, |
| 310 | my dirty floors, okay? | 我的脏地板,好吗? |
| 311 | So I don't, I'm happy that you thought about me, | 所以我没有,我很高兴你想起我, |
| 312 | but without follow through, | 但是没有跟随, |
| 313 | we're not going to make it. | 我们不会成功的。 |
| 314 | And Maya Angelou says, when people show you who they are, | 玛雅安杰卢说 当人们告诉你他们是谁时 |
| 315 | believe them. | 相信他们 |
| 316 | So I appreciate your effort, | 所以我感谢你的努力 |
| 317 | but clearly I'm not a priority in your life. | 但显然我不是你生活中的首要任务 |
| 318 | And that's cool because I believe that there's somebody | 这很酷 因为我相信有人 |
| 319 | who will make me and keep me their priority | 谁会让我和保持他们的优先 |
| 320 | and bring balance in your life. | 并给你的生活带来平衡。 |
| 321 | Furthermore, you waiting 18 days to get back to me, | 此外,你等待18天 回到我身边, |
| 322 | 但你的Instagram正在流行。 | |
| 323 | 就像你的Snapchat被点燃, | |
| 324 | but the same phone, you double tap it, | 但同一个电话,你双拍它, |
| 325 | you hit it and call me back, cool, cool, cool, | 你打了它,给我回电话,冷静,冷静,冷静, |
| 326 | cool, cool, cool, cool. | 冷静,冷静,冷静。 |
| 327 | So let's not excuse unexcusable behavior. | 因此,让我们不要原谅不可原谅的行为。 |
| 328 | You are a priority and you're worth somebody | 你是一个优先事项,你值得有人 |
| 329 | who will put you at the top of their list. | 谁会把你放在他们名单的首位。 |
| 330 | Now that's not to be mistaken for being ridiculous | 现在,这不应该被误认为是荒谬的 |
| 331 | and wanting to capitalize somebody's time. | 想要利用别人的时间 |
| 332 | You have to have balance | 你必须保持平衡 |
| 333 | and have a well-rounded life yourself. | 并有一个完美的生活你自己。 |
| 334 | Number five, weight on the man, | 5号,重男轻女 |
| 335 | on the one who meets your standards. | 一个符合你标准的人 |
| 336 | Here's the thing about standards. | 标准是这样的 |
| 337 | They're yours. | 他们是你的。 |
| 338 | They're yours to set as high or as low. | 都归你管了 |
| 339 | A lot of times when you hear single women, | 很多时候,当你听到单身女人, |
| 340 | you hear this said about them. | 你听说过这些关于他们的事 |
| 341 | Maybe you're still single | 也许你还是单身 |
| 342 | because your standards are way too high. | 因为你的标准太高了 |
| 343 | I don't know who talks like that, | 我不知道是谁这么说的 |
| 344 | but that's just, that's in my mind. | 但这只是,这是我的想法。 |
| 345 | That's, you know, or maybe you're still single | 也就是说,你知道,也许你还是单身 |
| 346 | because you're just so picky. | 因为你太挑剔了 |
| 347 | So, like, let me, let me, | 所以,像,让我,让我, |
| 348 | standards are yours to set as high or as low | 标准设定为高或低 |
| 349 | and sometimes people who can't meet your standards | 有时还有不符合你标准的人 |
| 350 | feel the need to diminish them. | 觉得需要减少它们。 |
| 351 | When I was in high school and told my friends | 我高中时跟朋友说了 |
| 352 | that my first time I wanted rose petals and candles | 我第一次想要玫瑰花瓣和蜡烛 |
| 353 | and they told me that, you know, | 他们告诉我,你知道, |
| 354 | no one's gonna meet that, yeah, of course. | 当然,没有人会遇到这个。 |
| 355 | No 15-year-old who's unemployed | 15岁没有失业 |
| 356 | and emotionally underdeveloped is gonna meet that. | 情感上不发达 就会遇到这种情况 |
| 357 | But I'm not looking to be with a 15-year-old. | 但我不想和一个15岁的孩子在一起 |
| 358 | That's okay. | 没关系 |
| 359 | So you have to know your own standards | 所以你必须知道自己的标准 |
| 360 | and you have to set them for yourself. | 你得自己订 |
| 361 | I play a character named Molly on HBO's Insecure. | 我在HBO的"不安全"上饰演了一个叫Molly的角色. |
| 362 | Thank you. | 谢谢 |
| 363 | And, you know, she's been accused of being | 而且,你知道, 她被指控为 |
| 364 | a little bad and bougie, been accused of being | 有点坏和布吉,被指责是 |
| 365 | a little shallow because she said she didn't wanna be | 有点浅 因为她说她不想成为 |
| 366 | with another character who didn't go to college. | 和另一个没上大学的角色在一起 |
| 367 | And she's a corporate attorney. | 她是个律师 |
| 368 | Hey, listen, that's your prerogative. | 听着 这是你的特权 |
| 369 | I just don't think that it's fair to tell someone | 我只是觉得告诉别人不公平 |
| 370 | that they can't have the preferences that they want. | 他们不能有他们想要的偏好。 |
| 371 | If they choose to have different preferences, | 如果他们选择有不同的偏好 |
| 372 | that's okay, too. | 没关系,太。 |
| 373 | That's the beauty of life, we have choices. | 这就是生命的美丽, 我们有选择。 |
| 374 | So as long as you're ordering off a menu | 只要你点了菜单 |
| 375 | that you can also prepare with your own ingredient, | 以便你们用自己的配料准备。 |
| 376 | like yourself, Abu. | 像你一样,阿布。 |
| 377 | But what I will say is I can't tell you | 但我要说的是 我不能告诉你 |
| 378 | how long you're gonna have to wait | 你还要等多久 |
| 379 | for this majestic perfect relationship, | 对于这个伟大的完美关系, |
| 380 | but I can tell you that the wait does not disappoint. | 但我可以告诉你 等待不会令你失望 |
| 381 | Remember the minister that I met when she was 25? | 记得我25岁时认识的部长吗? |
| 382 | Well, at 34, she got married to that handsome young man, | 她34岁时嫁给了那个帅哥 |
| 383 | and he's 6'4", holds an MBA, works in corporate America. | 他身高6尺4寸,持有MBA,在美国公司工作. |
| 384 | They have three, two lovely babies, | 他们有三个,两个可爱的婴儿, |
| 385 | and at 40, she's expecting her third. | 40岁时,她正在等待第三个 |
| 386 | So the wait doesn't disappoint. | 所以等待不会令人失望。 |
| 387 | So whoever you are that's in here that's holding on to hope, | 所以无论你是谁 都抱着希望 |
| 388 | I say hope against all hope and fight the good fight, | 我说希望与所有希望并肩作战 |
| 389 | run the race, and keep the faith. | 运行比赛,并保持信心。 |
| 390 | It is worth it, and it is sexy. | 这是值得的,它是性感的。 |
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