【TED演讲】金缮人生
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| 时间 | 英文 | 中文 |
|---|---|---|
| 0:05 | Thank you for inviting me here to speak at TEDx. | 谢谢你邀请我来TEDx演讲。 |
| 0:09 | I'm Deepika Trehan, a founder CEO, a leadership mentor, | 我是迪皮卡崔汉 创始人CEO 领导导师 |
| 0:13 | and a startup advisor. | 和一个启动顾问。 |
| 0:16 | Hello, everyone. | 大家好,你们好 |
| 0:17 | And it's such a joy to see so many smiling faces. | 看到这么多笑脸 真是太高兴了 |
| 0:22 | But let me begin with a fact check, | 但让我先检查一下事实 |
| 0:25 | a reality that I've gathered through the thousands | 一个我从数千人中收集到的现实 |
| 0:28 | of people I've interacted with across the globe, | 与我在全球交往过的人 |
| 0:31 | that it takes just one candid conversation and a shoulder | 只要开诚布公的谈话和肩膀 |
| 0:37 | to lean on to realize something deeply universal, | 依靠 实现一些 深刻的普遍, |
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| 1 | Thank you for inviting me here to speak at TEDx. | 谢谢你邀请我来TEDx演讲。 |
| 2 | I'm Deepika Trehan, a founder CEO, a leadership mentor, | 我是迪皮卡崔汉 创始人CEO 领导导师 |
| 3 | and a startup advisor. | 和一个启动顾问。 |
| 4 | Hello, everyone. | 大家好,你们好 |
| 5 | And it's such a joy to see so many smiling faces. | 看到这么多笑脸 真是太高兴了 |
| 6 | But let me begin with a fact check, | 但让我先检查一下事实 |
| 7 | a reality that I've gathered through the thousands | 一个我从数千人中收集到的现实 |
| 8 | of people I've interacted with across the globe, | 与我在全球交往过的人 |
| 9 | that it takes just one candid conversation and a shoulder | 只要开诚布公的谈话和肩膀 |
| 10 | to lean on to realize something deeply universal, | 依靠 实现一些 深刻的普遍, |
| 11 | that we're all broken, scarred, shattered, broken by fear, | 我们都是破碎的 伤痕累累的 被恐惧打碎的 |
| 12 | broken by doubt, broken by shame. | 毁于疑惑,毁于羞耻. |
| 13 | And as a defense mechanism to protect us | 作为保护我们的防御机制 |
| 14 | from breaking further, we put on a mask. | 从进一步突破, 我们戴上面具。 |
| 15 | We wear a facade. | 我们穿外衣 |
| 16 | And in the process, consciously, unconsciously, | 在这个过程中,有意识的,无意识的, |
| 17 | we start breaking others, too, through our words, | 我们开始破解别人, 通过我们的话, |
| 18 | through our reactions, through our indifference. | 通过我们的反应, 通过我们的冷漠。 |
| 19 | And the cycle of being broken and breaking others | 和被打破 和打破他人的循环 |
| 20 | continues, leaving us even more broken, | 继续,让我们更加破碎, |
| 21 | because somewhere deep inside, our conscious soul whispers, | 因为内心深处 有意识的灵魂在低语 |
| 22 | this isn't me. | 这不是我。 |
| 23 | I'd never want to break anyone. | 我永远不会想打破任何人。 |
| 24 | But what if I told you there is a beautiful way out, | 但是如果我告诉你,有一个美丽的出路, |
| 25 | a way to discard the spiral of being broken and broken others, | 一种抛弃被打破和被打破的螺旋的方法, |
| 26 | of breaking others? | 破坏别人? |
| 27 | Well, this is where, ladies and gentlemen, | 女士们先生们,这里是... |
| 28 | I take you to an ancient Japanese philosophy, | 我带你去日本古老的哲学 |
| 29 | 一个叫做Kintsugi的概念。 | |
| 30 | Kintsugi是一个艺术组合 | |
| 31 | broken pieces of pottery, not by hiding its cracks, | 破碎的陶器,不是隐藏它的裂缝, |
| 32 | but by filling them with gold, making the object even | 却以金子填满,使物偶, |
| 33 | more valuable than before. | 比以前更有价值。 |
| 34 | The piece of pottery, now put together, owns its scars, | 陶器,现在拼凑起来, 拥有它的伤疤, |
| 35 | wears its imperfections, and is put together | 戴着它的不完美,被组合在一起 |
| 36 | as a whole, but transformed. | 整体上,但转变。 |
| 37 | In times where replace is easy, repair | 在易更换的时候,修理 |
| 38 | takes patience, perseverance, and a deep faith, | 你应当坚忍,应当坚忍,应当坚信, |
| 39 | a deep belief in rebuilding. | 坚信重建 |
| 40 | 因此,Kintsugi不仅仅是 | |
| 41 | for broken porcelain bowls. | 为破碎的瓷碗。 |
| 42 | It is for us, as individual, as professional, as people. | 它是对我们,作为个人,作为专业,作为人。 |
| 43 | Well, the concept of kintsugi goes further on in depth. | kintsugi的概念更深入地发展。 |
| 44 | And I'm going to take you through three moments | 我带你度过三分钟 |
| 45 | from my own life to somewhere establish | 从我自己的生活 到某处建立 |
| 46 | that kintsugi isn't poetic. | 动静不是诗意 |
| 47 | It's practical. | 这是实用的。 |
| 48 | Those three moments, one personal, | 这三刻,一个个人, |
| 49 | the other professional, and the other deeply emotional. | 其他专业的, 和另一个深深的情感。 |
| 50 | Now, let me take you back a couple of decades. | 现在,让我带你回去几十年。 |
| 51 | Here was a young girl, an adolescent, | 这里有一个年轻女孩, 一个青少年, |
| 52 | already grappling with the jeans that she was carrying. | 已经和她的牛仔裤搏斗过了 |
| 53 | And those jeans, they weren't too kind to her appearance. | 那些牛仔裤对她的外表不太友好 |
| 54 | She was a plump teenager. | 她是一个丰满的少年。 |
| 55 | In a world where beauty has a very specific definition, | 在一个美有一个非常具体的定义的世界里, |
| 56 | she knew that she was nowhere near it. | 她知道她离这里不远 |
| 57 | Relentlessly bullied, mocked, and shamed | 肆无忌惮地欺负、嘲弄和羞辱 |
| 58 | for the way she looked. | 她的样子。 |
| 59 | The bullying hit her so deep that in order to fit in, | 欺负她太深了 为了适应 |
| 60 | she was almost anorexic. | 她几乎厌食症。 |
| 61 | In fact, one night while preparing for her 12th board | 事实上,有一晚,在准备她的十二板的时候 |
| 62 | exams, she fainted. | 考试,她晕倒了。 |
| 63 | The blackout was due to excessive weight loss, | 断电是因为体重过重 |
| 64 | due to emotional trauma and fatigue. | 因为精神创伤和疲劳 |
| 65 | Ladies and gentlemen, not only did this impact her | 女士们,先生们,这不仅影响了她 |
| 66 | in her scores as the scores suffered, | 在她的分数中,作为受苦的分数, |
| 67 | they also shattered her confidence. | 他们也打破了她的信心。 |
| 68 | And as a college student, she was a young girl | 作为一名大学生,她是一个年轻的女孩 |
| 69 | full of self-doubt. | 充满了自我怀疑。 |
| 70 | It didn't stop there. | 它没有停止在那里。 |
| 71 | She carried the fear into her marriage, too. | 她也把恐惧带入婚姻 |
| 72 | As an newlywed, she would wake up earliest | 作为新婚夫妇 她会早起 |
| 73 | before anyone was awake to wear her contact lenses. | 在醒过来之前 戴着她的隐形眼镜 |
| 74 | And she would wait till late night for everyone | 她会等到深夜 每个人 |
| 75 | to sleep for her to remove the contact lenses. | 让她去除隐形眼镜 |
| 76 | That's how ashamed she was of her spectacles, | 这就是她有多羞愧 她的眼镜, |
| 77 | or rather, her not being perfect. | 或者说,她并不完美。 |
| 78 | Until one day, her partner said that you look equally | 直到有一天,她的伴侣说,你看起来平等 |
| 79 | beautiful with your glasses as you look without them. | 戴着眼镜很漂亮,没有眼镜 |
| 80 | That one moment, that one word planted a seed of acceptance. | 那一刻,那个词种下了接受的种子。 |
| 81 | It transformed her, still cracked, | 它改变了她,仍然崩溃, |
| 82 | but put together with the gold of belief, of empathy. | 以信仰和慈悲的金子盟誓, |
| 83 | And today, she flaunts her glasses | 今天,她炫耀着她的眼镜 |
| 84 | whenever she chooses to. | 每当她选择。 |
| 85 | She wears her imperfections on her shoulders. | 她肩上戴着她的不完美. |
| 86 | She knows she is beautiful inside out. | 她知道自己很美丽 |
| 87 | She doesn't seek external validation. | 她不寻求外部验证。 |
| 88 | That girl was me. | 那个女孩就是我 |
| 89 | Let's move on from personal to professional. | 让我们从个人转向专业。 |
| 90 | After a fairly long sabbatical, I finally | 经过相当长的休假,我终于 |
| 91 | found my footing as an entrepreneur. | 找到了我作为一个企业家的地位。 |
| 92 | Every rupee I earned wasn't just money. | 我赚的每个卢比都不只是钱 |
| 93 | It was identity. | 这是身份 |
| 94 | It was financial independence. | 这是财政独立。 |
| 95 | It was a reclaiming of self-identity | 这是自我认同的恢复 |
| 96 | that I had lost over the years. | 多年来我一直输掉 |
| 97 | One day, for a very important project, | 有一天 对于一个非常重要的项目 |
| 98 | I hired a consultant and his team. | 我雇了一位顾问和他的团队 |
| 99 | They promised the moon in terms of deliverables, | 他们以可达到的目标向月亮盟誓, |
| 100 | and I trusted their word. | 我信任他们的话 |
| 101 | I was naive. | 我当时很天真 |
| 102 | I didn't focus much on the documentation. | 我不太关注文件 |
| 103 | I didn't double check the deliverables. | 我没有加倍检查 交付品。 |
| 104 | I didn't even read the contract line by line. | 我甚至没有逐行看合同 |
| 105 | And when the big day came, the deliverables | 当大日子来临时, 交付品 |
| 106 | were nowhere in sight. | 都看不见 |
| 107 | My hard-earned money was gone, and I was devastated. | 我辛苦挣的钱不见了,我受了打击 |
| 108 | Devastated not because just of the loss of money, | 不是因为钱的流失, |
| 109 | but my faith in word shattered, and I was angry at myself. | 但我对言语的信念破灭了 我对自己很生气 |
| 110 | How could I just believe someone so easily? | 我怎么会这么容易相信别人呢? |
| 111 | Why didn't I protect my work and my money? | 我为什么不保护我的工作和钱? |
| 112 | Was I foolish for being so trusting? | 我这么信任你是不是太傻了? |
| 113 | Well, in a twist, we still pulled out the event gracefully | 嗯,一个曲折,我们仍然 优雅地拉出活动 |
| 114 | with resilience and a lot of last-minute hustle, | 有弹性 和很多最后的动作, |
| 115 | for which we're still applauded. | 我们仍受到赞扬 |
| 116 | But the crack that happened then | 但当时发生的裂缝 |
| 117 | got filled with a never-to-be-forgotten wisdom. | 充满了永远忘不了的智慧 |
| 118 | That wisdom was from then on to date, and I hope beyond. | 从那时起,这种智慧一直延续到今天,我希望能够发扬光大。 |
| 119 | No contract goes signed without scrutiny, no blind trust, | 合同没有经过审查 没有盲目信任 |
| 120 | only informed decisions and confidence. | 只有知情的决定和信心。 |
| 121 | That kintsuki moment, though broke me, | 那个动静,虽然打破了我, |
| 122 | the gold of wisdom put me back together. | 智慧之金让我重归于好 |
| 123 | But what I learned was something that no business school would | 但我学到的东西是 商学院不会 |
| 124 | teach. | 师曰. |
| 125 | And therefore, on that note, ladies and gentlemen, | 因此, 女士们,先生们, |
| 126 | let's talk about love. | 让我们谈谈爱。 |
| 127 | For as much as love is to be hailing, | 虽然爱是冰雹, |
| 128 | with the numerous lives that I've touched across the globe | 与无数的生命 我触动了全球 |
| 129 | and mentored, it's heartbreaking to observe | 和导师,这是令人心碎的观察 |
| 130 | that love can also be the most potent shatterer. | 爱也可以是最强大的破坏者。 |
| 131 | As humans, we don't just invest in careers. | 作为人类,我们不只是投资于事业. |
| 132 | We invest in people. | 我们投资于人。 |
| 133 | Sometimes those people value us. | 有时那些人会珍视我们 |
| 134 | Sometimes they take us for granted. | 有时他们会把我们视为理所当然的。 |
| 135 | And sometimes they break us. | 有时他们会打垮我们 |
| 136 | Very recently, I was broken again, too, not by work, | 最近我又被打碎了 不是因为工作 |
| 137 | not by image, but by love. | 不是通过形象,而是通过爱。 |
| 138 | I gave my best to someone so dear. | 我向这么亲爱的人问好 |
| 139 | What I received in return was neglect, indifference, | 我得到的回报是忽视,漠不关心, |
| 140 | and even abusive language. | 甚至是虐待语言。 |
| 141 | And that broke me. | 这让我心碎。 |
| 142 | Nights and nights of tears, silence, pain, I endured it all. | 夜夜流泪 寂静 痛苦 我忍受了这一切 |
| 143 | I wondered how to someone you give your everything | 我好奇你如何把一切都给别人 |
| 144 | can be so unbothered to see you crumble. | 看着你崩溃,会很冷淡 |
| 145 | But life doesn't wait, and you can't stay broken. | 但是生活是不会等待的,你不能一直被打破。 |
| 146 | That's when I remembered that loving others is beautiful, | 那时我记得爱别人是美丽的 |
| 147 | but loving self is foundational. | 但爱的自我是基础性的。 |
| 148 | And self-love, it's not just about bubble baths | 和自我爱, 它不只是关于泡泡浴 |
| 149 | and chocolate cakes. | 还有巧克力蛋糕 |
| 150 | Self-love is looking straight into the mirror | 自爱是直视镜子 |
| 151 | with moist eyes, with torn faith, | 有湿眼,有破碎的信仰, |
| 152 | with all your cracks showing, and you still saying, | 你所有的裂缝都露出来了 你还在说 |
| 153 | I choose you. | 我选择你 |
| 154 | I choose purity over deceit. | 我选择纯洁而不是欺骗 |
| 155 | I choose compassion over criticism. | 我选择同情而不是批评 |
| 156 | I choose truth over pleasing. | 我选择真理而不是满足。 |
| 157 | And that's where, ladies and gentlemen, | 女士们先生们, |
| 158 | this time the gold that I put in myself was that of self-love. | 这一次我放的金子 是自爱的。 |
| 159 | And believe you me, out of all the kintsugi moments | 相信我,从所有关节中 |
| 160 | that I've had so far, this one was most powerful. | 这个最厉害的 |
| 161 | On that note, ladies and gentlemen, | 女士们,先生们, |
| 162 | I also want to tell you that life isn't kind, | 我也想告诉你, 生活是不善良的, |
| 163 | and it is on to us to create a more empathetic world, one | 我们有责任创造一个更悲观的世界 |
| 164 | where vulnerability isn't shamed, it's celebrated, | 在不羞耻的脆弱, 它的庆祝, |
| 165 | where we don't break others, because we've finally | 因为我们终于 |
| 166 | put in the time and effort to repair ourselves. | 投入时间和精力来修复自己 |
| 167 | Let's stop hiding our cracks. | 别再隐瞒我们的裂缝了 |
| 168 | Let's start owning them. | 让我们开始拥有它们。 |
| 169 | Let's stop breaking others. | 让我们停止破坏别人。 |
| 170 | Let's start building together, because broken can be beautiful. | 我们一起开始建设吧 因为破碎会很美 |
| 171 | And you are the masterpiece of your version | 你是你版本的杰作 |
| 172 | of the kintsugi life. | 至死不渝, |
| 173 | Ladies and gentlemen, life isn't fair. | 女士们先生们 生活不公平 |
| 174 | And there will be times ahead where | 还会有未来 |
| 175 | we will all be broken again, sometimes | 我们都会再次被打破 有时 |
| 176 | through our own faults, sometimes | 我们自己的过失,有时 |
| 177 | by being mishandled by someone. | 被别人搞错了 |
| 178 | In fact, unintentionally, we might just | 事实上,我们可能只是无意中 |
| 179 | contribute towards breaking others as lovers, | 帮助破除别人的恋人, |
| 180 | as parents, as leaders, and so on. | 作为父母,作为领导者,等等。 |
| 181 | But you know what? | 但你知道吗? |
| 182 | Ignorance isn't in our control. | 我们控制不了无知 |
| 183 | Awareness is. | 意识是. |
| 184 | Let kintsugi be that significant awareness | 让Kintsugi成为如此重要的认识 |
| 185 | so that next time when life happens the way it does, | 所以下次当生命发生时 |
| 186 | to all alike, young and old, we pour in gold. | 不论老幼,我们都会倾注黄金 |
| 187 | After all, why would you want to be just broken when you can? | 毕竟,你为什么要 刚刚打破 当你可以? |
| 188 | We're broken and gold. | 我们断了金子 |
| 189 | Stay gold in your kintsugi life. | 住金刚般若金刚般若经. |
| 190 | Thank you. | 谢谢 |
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