总是活在“过渡期”？5种方法，停止追逐，开始真正生活
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| 0:00 | There is probably something in your life right now that you used to dream about, | 你生命中可能有些东西 你曾经梦见 |
| 0:04 | something you used to wish for or pray for or tell yourself, | 你曾经希望或祈祷 或告诉自己, |
| 0:07 | one day I will have that and now you have it. | 有一天我会拥有它,现在你拥有它。 |
| 0:10 | But rather than enjoying it, you've already moved on to the next thing, | 但是,与其享受它, 你已经转移到下一个事情, |
| 0:14 | the next goal or the next milestone or the next version of yourself. | 下一个目标或下一个里程碑或下一个版本的自己。 |
| 0:18 | And I think so many of us have gotten caught up in this cycle of constantly achieving, | 我认为我们很多人 都陷入了不断实现的循环之中 |
| 0:24 | optimizing and improving our lives that we've forgotten to actually live them. | 优化和改善我们的生活 我们忘记了真实的生活。 |
| 0:29 | I know this because I have caught myself doing it. | 我知道这一点,因为我发现自己这样做。 |
| 0:32 | I have spent years building a life that I genuinely love, | 我花了很多年来 创造了我真心爱的生活 |
| 0:36 | and yet I've noticed that even when everything is going well, | 但我注意到 即使一切顺利 |
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| 1 | There is probably something in your life right now that you used to dream about, | 你生命中可能有些东西 你曾经梦见 |
| 2 | something you used to wish for or pray for or tell yourself, | 你曾经希望或祈祷 或告诉自己, |
| 3 | one day I will have that and now you have it. | 有一天我会拥有它,现在你拥有它。 |
| 4 | But rather than enjoying it, you've already moved on to the next thing, | 但是,与其享受它, 你已经转移到下一个事情, |
| 5 | the next goal or the next milestone or the next version of yourself. | 下一个目标或下一个里程碑或下一个版本的自己。 |
| 6 | And I think so many of us have gotten caught up in this cycle of constantly achieving, | 我认为我们很多人 都陷入了不断实现的循环之中 |
| 7 | optimizing and improving our lives that we've forgotten to actually live them. | 优化和改善我们的生活 我们忘记了真实的生活。 |
| 8 | I know this because I have caught myself doing it. | 我知道这一点,因为我发现自己这样做。 |
| 9 | I have spent years building a life that I genuinely love, | 我花了很多年来 创造了我真心爱的生活 |
| 10 | and yet I've noticed that even when everything is going well, | 但我注意到 即使一切顺利 |
| 11 | my brain still tries to find something to be dissatisfied with, | 我的大脑仍然试图找到 令人不满的东西, |
| 12 | something that needs fixing or something that I should be doing better. | 有些东西需要修复 或者我应该做得更好 |
| 13 | And lately I've been asking myself, | 最近我一直在问自己 |
| 14 | what is the point of achieving your goals or creating your dream life | 实现你的目标或创造你的梦想生活的意义是什么? |
| 15 | if you never allow yourself to actually enjoy it? | 如果你永远不要让自己 真正享受它? |
| 16 | So today I want to talk about the five truths that have really changed the way that I think about | 所以今天我想谈谈五大真理 真正改变了我的想法 |
| 17 | success, ambition, happiness, and what it means to actually live a fulfilled life. | 成功 野心 幸福 以及真正过上充实生活的意义 |
| 18 | Because I don't think the answer is to stop wanting more, | 因为我不认为答案 是停止想要更多, |
| 19 | stop setting goals, stop achieving. | 停止设定目标,停止实现。 |
| 20 | I think the answer is learning how to want more | 我认为答案是学会如何想要更多 |
| 21 | without making what you already have feel like it's not enough. | 不做你已经觉得 还不够。 |
| 22 | And if you're new here, hi, I'm Emily, also known as M on the Brain. | 如果你是新来的,嗨,我是Emily, 也叫大脑上的M。 |
| 23 | I am a neuroscientist, author, and coach to people in over 55 countries all over the world. | 我是一个神经科学家,作家, 并指导全世界超过55个国家的人。 |
| 24 | And I'm here to help you rewire your brain, level up, and live your best. | 我在这里帮助你重新连接你的大脑, 升起,并生活你最好的。 |
| 25 | Let's go straight into number one, | 让我们直接进入第一, |
| 26 | which is that you do not have to be dissatisfied to be ambitious. | 也就是你不必为野心而不满 |
| 27 | This is a myth that I get asked about so often every time I talk about this idea of | 我每次谈论这个想法 都会被问到这个神话 |
| 28 | being satisfied with your life and being grateful for everything that you have and | 对你的生活感到满意 并感激你的一切 |
| 29 | truly feeling like you have enough right now, I get asked, | 感觉你现在已经足够了 有人问我 |
| 30 | but won't that make me less motivated? | 但我不会失去动力吗? |
| 31 | Won't that make me not as driven to go toward my goals, less disciplined? | 那样我就不会被逼去追求我的目标 更没有纪律吗? |
| 32 | Won't that make me want it less? | 这样我就不能少点吗? |
| 33 | And I am here to tell you that no, that's not the truth at all. | 我来告诉你,不,那根本不是事实。 |
| 34 | In fact, being satisfied with the now is actually the state that unlocks your ability | 事实上,满足于现在的状态 实际上是打开你的能力 |
| 35 | to create the future that you desire. | 创造你渴望的未来 |
| 36 | When you are fully satisfied in the now, when you are truly feeling like you have enough | 当你现在完全满意的时候, 当你真的觉得你有足够的 |
| 37 | right now, and I want to invite you, if you've never done this practice before, | 现在,我想邀请你 如果你从来没有这样做过, |
| 38 | as long as you're not driving, to close your eyes and just ask yourself, | 只要你不开车 闭上眼睛 问问你自己 |
| 39 | what if I could just let it all be enough right now? | 如果我现在能让这一切足够呢? |
| 40 | And sit with how that makes you feel. | 和你的感受一样 |
| 41 | It's like this giant weight, this pressure lifts off of your shoulders. | 这就像这个巨大的重量, 这种压力从你的肩膀上升起。 |
| 42 | That doesn't mean that you're not going to want more, that you're not going to have desires. | 这并不意味着你不会想要更多,你不会有欲望。 |
| 43 | That's just inherent to the human brain. | 这是人类大脑所固有的 |
| 44 | We're going to continue to want to grow and evolve and achieve things. | 我们要继续想要成长,进化,实现事物. |
| 45 | You don't have to worry. | 你不必担心。 |
| 46 | You're still going to want that. | 你还是会想要的 |
| 47 | But when you allow yourself to be fully satisfied with the now, | 但当你允许自己 完全满意现在, |
| 48 | you actually allow your nervous system to shift into rest and digest, | 你实际上允许你的神经系统 转移到休息和消化, |
| 49 | into the parasympathetic branch of your nervous system, which is very regulating and calming. | 进入你神经系统的寄生虫分支, 这非常调节和平静。 |
| 50 | That is the state that all of our ideas flow to us, and the dots start connecting in our brains, | 这就是我们所有的想法都流向我们的状态, 点开始连接在我们的大脑中, |
| 51 | and your subconscious can actually start putting together puzzle pieces that you couldn't have | 你的潜意识可以开始 拼凑出你无法拥有的谜题 |
| 52 | possibly put together if you were trying to grip and control and force and push every single outcome. | 如果你试图控制 控制 强迫 推动每一个结果 |
| 53 | Because when you're constantly forcing and pushing and gripping and stressed and anxious, | 因为当你不停地强迫 推 抓 压力和焦虑 |
| 54 | you are actually blocking the flow of exactly what you desire to you. | 你实际上在阻止你想要的东西的流通 |
| 55 | Your brain is literally less able to perceive the things that you want when you're in that state, | 你的大脑从字面上看 不太能感知 当你处于那种状态时 |
| 56 | but also the ideas and the connections are less likely to happen as well when you are in fight | 但当你们在打仗时 想法和联系也不太可能发生 |
| 57 | or flight, when your sympathetic nervous system is active. | 或者逃跑 当你的同情神经系统活跃时 |
| 58 | And I'm not just saying this, they've shown in studies that chronic stress | 我不只是说, 他们已经在研究 显示慢性压力 |
| 59 | can interfere with cognitive flexibility and creative thinking. | 可以干扰认知灵活性和创造性思维. |
| 60 | So your ability to literally be creative and create the life that you want | 所以,你的能力 字面上的创造力 创造你想要的生活 |
| 61 | depends on your ability to regulate yourself. | 取决于你调节自己的能力。 |
| 62 | And allowing yourself to just be grateful and happy with everything you have right now, | 让自己对现在的一切感到感激和快乐 |
| 63 | it really does unlock the state of mind that is required for you to create the future that you | 它真的解开了你创造未来所需的精神状态 |
| 64 | desire. | 欲望 爱 |
| 65 | It is a huge misconception that contentment leads to complacency. | 一种巨大的误解是,满足导致自满。 |
| 66 | It's not the case. | 则不然. |
| 67 | In fact, I have had clients that I work with, they want to make content or work on their business, | 事实上,我有一个客户 和我合作, 他们想做内容或工作 他们的业务, |
| 68 | and they are feeling just burnt out and they're like they've hit a wall. | 他们觉得被烧焦了 好像撞上了墙 |
| 69 | One of my clients, she told me that in one of those moments, she actually just paused | 我的一个客户,她告诉我 在其中的某一刻, 她实际上只是暂停 |
| 70 | and took a step back and allowed herself to go move and stretch and flow. | 并退一步 让自己去移动 伸展和流动。 |
| 71 | And then an amazing idea came to her for a piece of content, | 然后一个神奇的主意来到她身上 来一个内容, |
| 72 | and it got like 10 million views and a whole bunch of new followers for her and clients. | 她和客户有1000万次观看 和一大批新追随者 |
| 73 | So do not underestimate the power of actually regulating yourself first and allowing yourself | 所以不要低估 真正调节自己和允许自己的力量 |
| 74 | to be happy in the present moment, because in that state, everything does flow to you. | 快乐的瞬间, 因为在这个状态下,一切都流向你。 |
| 75 | We are talking about the difference between operating from lack | 我们说的是从缺勤到缺勤的区别 |
| 76 | and operating from a feeling of wholeness. | 和运行 从一种完整的感觉。 |
| 77 | Number two is that self-improvement can become | 第二,自我改善可以变成 |
| 78 | a form of self-rejection if you are not careful. | 一种自我拒绝的形式,如果你不小心。 |
| 79 | At what point does becoming a better version | 什么时候成为更好的版本 |
| 80 | of yourself turn into constantly telling yourself that you're not good enough? | 自己变成 不断告诉自己 你不够好? |
| 81 | Only you can decide that, and I will let you in on a tool that I use to decide that. | 只有你才能决定 我会让你进入我用来决定的工具 |
| 82 | And I have shared this with all of my clients and the people that I coach, | 我和我的客户 和我的教练们分享了这个 |
| 83 | and I find this to be really helpful. | 我发现这真的很有帮助。 |
| 84 | The truth is that being critical of | 事实是, 批评 |
| 85 | yourself is good until it crosses the line and begins to drain you. | 在它超越界限开始耗尽你之前,你自己是好的。 |
| 86 | If constantly analyzing yourself or your numbers or your habits or your routines | 如果不断分析你自己,你的号码,你的习惯或你的日常 |
| 87 | gets to the point where it actually starts to drain you more than it fulfills you and | 达到它真正开始耗尽你 比它满足你和 |
| 88 | charges you up, then it's not helping you anymore. | 指控你,那就帮不了你了 |
| 89 | And it's not improving you the way | 它没有改善你的方式 |
| 90 | that you think it is. | 你认为是。 |
| 91 | I've been asked before, how often should I visualize? | 以前有人问过我,我该多久想象一次? |
| 92 | And my answer is, as often as it serves you. | 而我的答案是, 它经常为你服务。 |
| 93 | If visualizing every single day makes you feel good | 如果每一天的视觉都让你感觉很好 |
| 94 | and resets your energy and brings you forth into your day as the best version of yourself, | 重新注入你的能量 把你带入你的时代 作为你最好的版本 |
| 95 | then do that. | 那就这么做吧 |
| 96 | But as soon as it starts to drain you and when you think about doing it, you sort | 但一旦它开始耗尽你 当你考虑这样做,你排序 |
| 97 | of just dread it. | 仅仅害怕它。 |
| 98 | And then when you're in it, you're just like, oh, I guess I have to do it. | 然后当你在其中, 你只是喜欢, 哦,我想我必须做到这一点。 |
| 99 | And then afterwards you're like, okay, and it doesn't actually charge you up, then you need | 然后,你喜欢,好吧, 它实际上不收费你,然后你需要 |
| 100 | to take a break and just experience life and just go live it. | 休息一下 体验生活 然后去生活 |
| 101 | Because it's not actually | 因为其实不是 |
| 102 | improving you and it's not actually benefiting you. | 改善你,它实际上不会给你带来好处。 |
| 103 | I have a question that I like to ask myself | 我有个问题我想问自己 |
| 104 | in any moment where I'm feeling unmotivated or I'm feeling stuck or I'm in that position where I'm | 在任何时刻,我感到无动力或感觉卡住 或者我处于我的位置 |
| 105 | like, should I visualize or not? | 像,我是否应该想象? |
| 106 | I ask myself, what would my highest self do? | 我问自己,我最高的自我会做什么? |
| 107 | What would my | 我该怎么办? |
| 108 | highest self do right now? | 最高的自我做现在? |
| 109 | And I like this question so much more than the standard advice that I see | 我更喜欢这个问题 比标准的建议,我看到 |
| 110 | on social media, the self-improvement advice is like, ignore your feelings, like stick to the plan, | 在社交媒体上,自我改进的建议 就像,无视你的感受, 像坚持计划, |
| 111 | ignore your feelings. | 无视你的感受。 |
| 112 | I think it depends on what your goal is, right? | 我认为这取决于你的目标,对不对? |
| 113 | Like if your goal is | 就像如果你的目标是 |
| 114 | achieving money or a certain thing at all costs, regardless of whether you feel okay, then ignore | 不惜一切代价实现金钱或某种东西, 不论你是否感觉好,然后忽略 |
| 115 | your feelings and just keep going. | 继续你的感受 |
| 116 | But I have found that asking myself this question is really | 但我发现 问自己这个问题 真的 |
| 117 | helpful. | 帮助。 |
| 118 | What would my highest self do right now? | 我的最高自我会怎么做呢? |
| 119 | Or what would my best self do right now? | 或者我最好的自己会怎么做呢? |
| 120 | What | 什麽? |
| 121 | the version of me who has what I want do right now? | 我现在的版本谁有我想要的? |
| 122 | And sometimes I'm sitting on the couch | 有时候我坐在沙发上 |
| 123 | thinking about filming a podcast or something and I'm not feeling motivated and I ask myself, | 考虑拍摄播客什么的 我感到没有动机 我问自己, |
| 124 | what would my best self do right now? | 我最好的自己会怎么做呢? |
| 125 | And it's like, no, she would get up and yeah, | 这就像,不, 她会站起来,是啊, |
| 126 | ignore her feelings or charge yourself up, right? | 忽略她的感情 或指控自己,对不对? |
| 127 | And so this actually happened earlier today. | 所以今天早些时候就发生了这种情况。 |
| 128 | I was needing to get a few tasks done and I recognized that I was just feeling very low | 我需要完成一些任务 我意识到我只是感觉非常低落 |
| 129 | on energy. | 对能量。 |
| 130 | And so I called up my best friend and I was like, hey, I need a little energy boost really | 所以我打电话给我最好的朋友 然后我想,嘿,我需要一点能量,真的 |
| 131 | quick before I go into filming and talk to her for just like 20 minutes. | 趁我还没拍完 就跟她谈了20分钟 |
| 132 | Like she was at a tattoo | 就像她在纹身一样 |
| 133 | shop with her family and it was so cute. | 和家人一起购物,它是如此可爱。 |
| 134 | And I was like, damn, I'm jealous I'm not there. | 而我就像,该死的, 我嫉妒我不在那里。 |
| 135 | But just | 不过 |
| 136 | having that conversation with my friends and people that I love did charge me up. | 和我爱的朋友和人谈话时,确实指控我 |
| 137 | And then I | 接着我 |
| 138 | got off that call and felt energized to go and film, right? | 接到电话后觉得很兴奋 去拍电影,对吧? |
| 139 | So it's not always about ignoring | 所以,它并不总是 忽略 |
| 140 | your feelings. | 你的感觉。 |
| 141 | Sometimes it's about doing the thing that you need to do to get yourself into | 有时候是做你需要做的事 来让自己进入 |
| 142 | the state so that you can do what you need to do from a better energetic state because they have | 以便你能够做你需要做的事 从一个更好的活力状态,因为他们有 |
| 143 | shown in studies that the same action taken with different energy gets you different results. | 研究显示,用不同能量采取的同样行动 让你得到不同的结果。 |
| 144 | And | 还有 |
| 145 | so I am a firm believer of getting your energy right and then taking action. | 因此我坚信 得到你的能量,然后采取行动。 |
| 146 | Now that's not to | 现在不是 |
| 147 | say that your energy is always going to be right before you take action, right? | 说你的能量总是在行动前就到,对吧? |
| 148 | Like sometimes you | 就像有时你 |
| 149 | got to just do it even though you don't feel like doing it. | 尽管你不想做,但还是得去做 |
| 150 | But in those situations where you can | 但是在这些你能够 |
| 151 | give yourself a hug or hype yourself up or call up a friend or go outside into nature for 10 minutes | 抱抱自己,或乱叫自己,或叫朋友,或外出自然10分钟 |
| 152 | recharge yourself or go outside for that stretch rather than forcing yourself to push through | 给自己充气,或者去外面的拉伸 而不是强迫自己通过 |
| 153 | something. | 东西。 |
| 154 | Those little moments can actually set your energy right so that you can do the things | 这些小瞬间可以让你的能量得到正确的调节 这样你就可以做事情 |
| 155 | that you want to do and actually enjoy doing them and do them from a better mental state and feel | 你想做,实际上享受 做他们,做他们 从更好的精神状态和感觉 |
| 156 | good while doing them. | 做这些都很好 |
| 157 | Now I am team actually enjoying your life because something that I have | 现在我是团队 真正享受你的生活 因为我有的东西 |
| 158 | found to be true in my experience and in so many people that I know's experience and probably true | 在我的经验和很多人中 发现是真实的 我知道的经验,也许是真的 |
| 159 | your experience as well is that the things that we want are more likely to happen when we are in | 你的经验也是 我们想要的东西 更有可能发生 当我们在 |
| 160 | a positive energy state. | 一个正能量状态。 |
| 161 | I'm going to get super woo woo here but I have found that in times when | 我会得到超级宇在这里, 但我已经发现,有时 |
| 162 | I am forcing and gripping and stressed about something and as soon as I just let it go and | 我迫不得已 紧紧抓住 并强调的东西 只要我让它消失 |
| 163 | I'm like you know what I'm just going to go hang out with my friend and go see my friend literally | 就像你知道我要和我的朋友出去玩 去看我的朋友一样 |
| 164 | I have a vivid memory of driving in the car and let it see my friend and the thing that I was | 我对在车里开车有生动的记忆 让它看到我的朋友和我以前的样子 |
| 165 | stressed about literally somebody reached out to me hey let's do this meet here this call this | 我们来开会吧 这个叫这个 |
| 166 | and the thing that I wanted perfectly worked out as soon as I let go and just allowed myself to | 和我想要的事情 完美地解决 当我放手,只是允许自己 |
| 167 | have fun and go see my friend and so in my experience the things that I want come to me | 玩得开心,去看看我的朋友 以我的经验,我想来的东西 |
| 168 | when I am in a positive energy state not when I'm stressed and gripping and forcing and upset your | 当我处于正能量状态时... ... |
| 169 | brain filters reality differently when you are in a positive state you're more likely to notice the | 大脑过滤现实的方式不同 当你处于正态时 你更有可能注意到 |
| 170 | things that you want when you're in a positive state and so I invite you to become a little more | 当你处于积极状态时你想要的东西 所以我邀请你多做点 |
| 171 | aware of where in your life self-improvement is becoming self-rejection number three is that just | 知道你生命中自我改善 变成自我拒绝的第三点就是 |
| 172 | because you want something doesn't mean that it's actually your desire in psychology there | 因为你想要的东西 并不意味着这是你的心理欲望 |
| 173 | is something called automatic goal contagion where we subconsciously pick up on the goals of the | 我们潜意识中抓住目标 |
| 174 | people around us now this is so much more important to understand because it's so much more prevalent | 现在我们周围的人 更需要理解 因为这更普遍 |
| 175 | now with social media I see it all the time I see it with the people that I coach I see the people | 现在有了社交媒体,我一直看到它 与我教练的人,我看到人民 |
| 176 | that I know personally they say they want things and they think that they want these things but | 我个人知道 他们说他们想要的东西 他们认为他们想要这些东西 |
| 177 | they don't actually want these things and these things are not actually aligned with who they are | 他们其实并不想要这些东西 而这些东西实际上并不符合他们是谁 |
| 178 | and their values it's just that they see people on social media doing it you see people on social | 和他们的价值观 只是他们看到人们在社交媒体上这样做 你看到人们在社交上 |
| 179 | media making this money or having this business or creating content or living in this place and you | 媒体赚到这笔钱 或有这种业务 或创造内容 或生活在这个地方 和你 |
| 180 | be so happy if I had that too but that's not the truth the truth is that you can achieve everything | 如果我也有这种感觉 那就高兴吧 但事实并非如此 事实是你可以实现一切 |
| 181 | that you think you want and still not feel fulfilled if you're pursuing someone else's | 你以为你想要... ...但是如果你在追求别人的... |
| 182 | definition of success and this is why having your own definition of success based on your values | 成功的定义,这就是为什么你自己的成功定义是基于你的价值观 |
| 183 | and what lights you up what fulfills you is so important I have gotten caught up in this before | 而什么点燃你什么 满足你是如此重要 我被卷入了这个以前 |
| 184 | in business twice actually the first time was when I first started creating content when I first | 第一次是当我第一次开始创作内容时 |
| 185 | started creating content I was in my PhD studying neuroscience and I was just doing it for fun like | 开始创作内容 我在我的博士 研究神经科学 我这样做只是为了好玩喜欢 |
| 186 | I was not creating content to become a content creator I wasn't trying to get big on social | 我不是在创造内容 成为一个内容的创造者 我并不想在社交上占上风 |
| 187 | media like I was trying to become a full-time neuroscientist and have my own research lab like | 我试图成为一名全职神经科学家 拥有自己的研究实验室 |
| 188 | that was my goal and so anyway at that time though in the very early stages of content creation | 这正是我的目标,不管怎样,在当时,尽管在内容创作的初期阶段 |
| 189 | someone asked me they said you know how are you going to monetize off that because my content | 有人问我,他们说你知道 你如何去货币化 因为我的内容 |
| 190 | was doing well pretty early on and they were like how are you going to monetize off that | 那时很早就表现得很好 他们就像你打算怎么把那些货币化 |
| 191 | and I got stuck after they asked me that question and I actually had to take a break from content I | 他们问了我这个问题之后 我被困住了 我不得不从内容中走开 |
| 192 | think I took like a two-week break or something from creating content because it put my mind into | 我觉得我从创作内容中抽出两周的休息时间 因为它让我的头脑 |
| 193 | the wrong state I started thinking about the wrong thing when that was never my goal like monetizing | 错误的状态,我开始思考 错误的事情, 当那从来不是我的目标 像货币化 |
| 194 | my content was never my goal and as soon as I started to think of it that way it took the | 我从来就不是目标 当我开始这样想的时候 |
| 195 | passion and the joy out of it and then that made me less able to make the great content that I was | 激情和欢乐 使我更不能 做出我最伟大的内容 |
| 196 | making and it's funny because the same sort of thing popped up last year when I was growing my | 制造,这很有趣 因为同样的事物出现 去年当我正在成长 |
| 197 | business and I have noticed that in the past when my mind would slip into having a goal about making | 我注意到,在过去,当我的头脑 滑入一个目标 制作 |
| 198 | certain amount of money it took all of the joy out of pursuing my goals and there's nothing wrong | 为了追求我的目标 花光了那么多钱 也没什么不对的 |
| 199 | by the way of wanting to make a lot of money and there's absolutely nothing wrong with that | 顺便说一句 想赚很多钱 绝对没有错 |
| 200 | the problem for me comes when that is the goal like that is the driving force or the driving factor | 对我来说,问题就在于 目标就是驱动力或驱动力 |
| 201 | rather than I want to impact this many people the goal becomes I want to make this amount of money | 而不是想影响这么多人 目标变成了我想赚这么多钱 |
| 202 | I found when my mind slips into making a certain amount of money the goal I started putting all | 我发现当我的头脑溜进 赚到一定数额的钱 我开始把目标 |
| 203 | this pressure on myself and actually a year and a half ago I had set a goal to make a certain | 这压力对我本人,实际上一年半前 我设定了一个目标,要确定 |
| 204 | amount of money in a month and I ended up making a lot of money that month but felt so unfulfilled | 一个月里我赚了好多钱 却觉得没完成 |
| 205 | and unhappy I remember just beating myself up like why wasn't it even more like what could I | 和不高兴 我记得只是打自己 就像为什么它不是 更像我能 |
| 206 | have done to make even more blah blah blah blah and what I've realized through those experiences | 做了更多的事情 和通过这些经历我意识到的 |
| 207 | is that those goals don't fulfill me when I achieve them I can achieve making a certain | 也就是那些目标不能完成我 当我实现它们的时候... ...我可以实现一个特定的目标 |
| 208 | amount of money but I don't feel fulfilled when I do achieve that goal for me I feel so much more | 多少钱,但当我完成这个目标的时候,我觉得没有满足 |
| 209 | {\fn黑体\fs22\bord1\shad0\3aHBE\4aH00\fscx67\fscy66\2cHFFFFFF\3cH808080}我如何影响这么多人 {\fn黑体\fs22\bord1\shad0\3aHBE\4aH00\fscx67\fscy66\2cHFFFFFF\3cH808080}我怎么能教这么多人 | |
| 210 | people I want to coach this many people I want to coach x amount of people in this amount of time | 我想在这么长的时间里 教这么多人 |
| 211 | I want to impact this many lives for me that is a goal that when I achieve it I am fulfilled | 我想影响这么多生命 对我来说,这是一个目标 当我做到这一点,我完成 |
| 212 | and I am lit up and I am motivated to keep going and I'm not putting pressure on myself and asking | 我被点燃了 我激励着我继续前进 我没有对自己施压 |
| 213 | well why wasn't it more now that's a very personal example for me and from my own life but I have | 为什么现在不是更多的, 这是一个非常个人的榜样 对于我和从我自己的生活 但我有 |
| 214 | also worked with people that they want to make money but it actually is more enjoyable and | 也和他们想赚钱的人一起工作 但实际上更有趣 |
| 215 | fulfilling for them if they make the goal making a certain amount of money for their team because | 如果他们能为团队赚到一定的钱 就能完成他们的任务 |
| 216 | they have employees and a team and it's like I want my co-founder to make x amount of money and | 他们有员工和团队, 这就像我希望我的联合创始人 赚到x金额和 |
| 217 | when they make that the goal it's way more fulfilling and motivating for them and so the | 当他们把目标 更能满足和激励他们 |
| 218 | trick of the trade here is really to figure out like what are the things that actually fulfill | 这里交易的窍门 是真正想出 像什么是真正实现的东西 |
| 219 | you is it helping people is it making an impact is it helping maybe not the people in the world | 你是在帮助别人 是在影响别人 也许是在帮助世界上的人 |
| 220 | but the people that you love maybe it's providing for your family right like what are the things | 但你所爱的人... ...也许是为了你的家人... |
| 221 | that actually fulfill you and then making those the goal I have found that when you make impact | 真正满足你,然后使这些 目标,我发现,当你产生影响 |
| 222 | {\fn黑体\fs22\bord1\shad0\3aHBE\4aH | |
| 223 | money kind of as a byproduct but it's not like the forerunner it's really about understanding | 钱是副产品 但不是前辈 而是了解 |
| 224 | that other people's goals and what you see other people achieving and doing online it doesn't | 其他人的目标,你所看到的其他人 实现和在网上做它不 |
| 225 | necessarily mean that you are going to be fulfilled or happy by doing those same things | 一定意味着你也会通过做同样的事情而得到满足或快乐 |
| 226 | and you honestly don't even know if the people that you're seeing online are actually fulfilled | 你甚至不知道你在网上看到的人 是否真的满足了 |
| 227 | and happy number four what if happiness isn't something you achieve but something you stop | 快乐的四号 如果幸福不是你实现的 而是停止的 |
| 228 | interrupting sometimes the thing draining your happiness isn't your life it's your relationship | 有时候打断 耗尽你幸福的东西 不是你的生活 而是你的关系 |
| 229 | with your life I went through this recently actually where I noticed that I was the one | 你的生活,我经历了这个 最近,我注意到,我是一个人 |
| 230 | draining my own energy and you might relate to this in some way shape or form like | 耗尽我的能量 你可能会用某种方式 或形式来表达 |
| 231 | and so I asked myself like where am I draining my own energy like where am I | 于是我问自己 我在哪里消耗自己的能量 就像我在哪里 |
| 232 | managing my dream rather than living it where am I filtering for problems rather than allowing | 而不是生活在我过滤的问题 而不是允许 |
| 233 | {\fn黑体\fs22\bord1\shad0\3aHBE\4aH00\fscx67\fscy66\2cHFFFFFF\3cH808080}我亲身经历生活 {\fn黑体\fs22\bord1\shad0\3aHBE\4aH00\fscx67\fscy66\2cHFFFFFF\3cH808080}为什么我突然想到 | |
| 234 | wind of a year with writing a book and my book is coming out which by the way it is available | 一年的风,写一本书, 我的书就要出来了,通过它的方式 |
| 235 | for pre-order right now the link will be in the description to pre-order my book I have been on | 之前的订单,现在的链接 将会在描述 之前订购我的书 我曾经在 |
| 236 | an absolute whirlwind of a year but with that being said I sort of wasn't creating short form | 一年的一阵旋风... ...但是... |
| 237 | content as much as I used to I've been very much into creating this podcast it's something that's | 和以前一样 我非常喜欢制作这个播客 |
| 238 | really been fulfilling to me just because I can talk with you and share more and describe more | 我真的很满足我 只是因为我可以和你谈谈 分享更多 描述更多 |
| 239 | and make a bigger impact in my opinion but anyway I wasn't putting as much energy | 并产生更大的影响 在我看来,但无论如何,我 没有投入那么多的精力 |
| 240 | energy into short form content and now that my book is done and I am in the promotion stage I | 能量变成简短的内容 现在我的书完成,我正处于升级阶段 |
| 241 | have been wanting to get back into short form it's something that I genuinely enjoy like I love | 一直想回到简陋的形态 这是我真正喜欢的东西 |
| 242 | creating short form content it's something that actually lights me up I love the creative process | 创造简短的形式内容 真正点亮我的东西 我喜欢创造的过程 |
| 243 | I love it so I've gotten back into it and what I began to notice was that my brain was just so | 我喜欢这样,所以我已经回到了它, 我开始注意到的是,我的大脑只是如此 |
| 244 | problem aware when it came to creating short form content specifically either it was oh the | 在创建简短的形式内容时 问题在于 |
| 245 | content's not doing well enough or I'm not posting enough and it was always something | 内容不够好,或者我张贴得不够好 总是有些事 |
| 246 | and I noticed that it was always something and when I when I noticed that I checked myself right | 我注意到,它总是 东西 当我注意到 我检查自己的权利 |
| 247 | because it's one thing if there's one specific problem right if there's one problem then it's | 因为如果有一个问题 问题就是一个问题 |
| 248 | like all right that one problem might be needing to be fixed but if you notice in your mind that | 可能有一个问题需要解决 但如果你注意到 |
| 249 | it's always something whether it's you're not doing it good enough or you're not doing it | 无论你做得不够好,还是你没有做 |
| 250 | frequently enough or you're not you know showing up for it like if you are recognizing that | 频繁地,或者你不知道 出现它一样,如果你意识到 |
| 251 | somewhere in your life there is always something that's just not enough or always something wrong | 你生命中的某处 总是有些东西 不够或总是不对劲 |
| 252 | always something to be criticized then this is your opportunity to check yourself and label it | 总是要被批评... ...然后这是你检查自己和标签的机会 |
| 253 | as I am being too problem aware over this right now I'm draining my energy remember there is a | 我对这件事太不理解了 我现在正在耗尽精力 记得有个 |
| 254 | line that when you cross it it's fine to be critical and and look for feedback and analyze | 线条,当你穿过它 它的罚款是批评 和寻找反馈和分析 |
| 255 | data but there is a line over which when you cross it it doesn't help you it drains you and I | 数据,但有一条线 当你越过它 它没有帮助你 它耗尽你和我。 |
| 256 | {\fn黑体\fs22\bord1\shad0\3aHBE\4aH00\fscx67\fscy66\2cHFFFFFF\3cH808080}因为我停下来了 {\fn黑体\fs22\bord1\shad0\3aHBE\4aH00\fscx67\fscy66\2cHFFFFFF\3cH808080}我并没有创造那么多内容 {\fn黑体\fs22\bord1\shad0\3aHBE\4aH00\fscx67\fscy66\2cHFFFFFF\3cH808080}因为我打自己 | |
| 257 | so much and my brain was so problem aware that I took all of the joy out of the process of creation | 我脑海中充满了麻烦 我从创造过程中 夺走了所有的欢乐 |
| 258 | that I love and so I just decided I literally just made a decision you're like what's the tool here | 我喜欢,所以我刚刚决定 我只是做了一个决定 你喜欢什么是工具 |
| 259 | the tool is just to make the decision to allow yourself to enjoy it again and to stop being so | 工具只是做决定 让自己再次享受 不再这样 |
| 260 | problem aware and every time now now that you're hearing me say this you're going to be aware of | 现在每次你听到我说 你都会知道 |
| 261 | when you do it so now when you catch yourself in moments of being problem aware about something | 当你这样做,现在 当你发现自己 在一个问题时刻 了解一些事情 |
| 262 | you catch yourself and you snap out of it and you make the decision of we're not going to be | 你抓住自己,然后你振作起来 你做决定 我们不会是 |
| 263 | problem aware about of this anymore because it's taking the joy out of the experience of it and | 问题意识到这一点了,因为它正在 取悦它的经验, |
| 264 | keeping me from even doing it and that leads beautifully into number five which is to stop | 阻止我这样做, 并引导美丽的 进入第五,即停止 |
| 265 | monitoring your dream and start participating in it I was having a conversation recently with | 监听你的梦 开始参与其中 我最近和 |
| 266 | somebody with a very big podcast and I was talking to them about my experience of my podcast and just | 一个有非常大播客的人 而我正和他们谈论我对播客的经验 |
| 267 | kind of the way that I do it and they were asking me my numbers and I was like I don't know I don't | 那种方式我这样做, 他们问我我的号码, 我仿佛我不知道我不 |
| 268 | know those numbers off the top of my head and they were like you don't analyze this this this | 知道我头顶上那些数字 他们就像你不分析这个 |
| 269 | number this number this number and I was like no I mean I have a team that looks at those numbers | 数字这个数字,我就像没有 我的意思是我有一个团队 看那些数字 |
| 270 | for me but I don't do that and I I mean I go and I check YouTube because you could see like how many | 对我来说,但我不这样做, 我的意思是我走和检查YouTube 因为你可以看到多少 |
| 271 | views on a YouTube video it has so like of course like I can tell what's resonating with people by | 在YouTube的视频上看到它当然像 我可以分辨出什么与人们的共鸣 |
| 272 | just like how many views something has on YouTube and that's about as far as I take it there's a | 就像YouTube上有多少人看到一些东西 在我看来,这是个 |
| 273 | reason for that though there's a reason for that because I've been stuck in that mental state before | 原因虽然有原因 因为我以前一直处于精神状态 |
| 274 | with short form content bring it on back where when I start over analyzing and monitoring oh this | 带短表内容带回来 当我开始分析和监测 哦,这个 |
| 275 | circle people fell off this is where you know when I start over analyzing and monitoring it gets me | 圈子里的人从这里掉下来,你知道 当我开始分析 和监控它让我 |
| 276 | more in my head and then that takes me out of the creative mode and I find that it's better to just | 更多的在我的脑海里,然后 这让我走出 创作模式,我发现它更好 |
| 277 | create more and fail more if that's what it takes if it means that I fail more than I fail more | 创造更多 失败更多 如果这就是需要的 如果这意味着我失败多于我失败 |
| 278 | but I have found that it's better for me energetically and mentally to have an have | 但我发现,我最好有精力和精神 |
| 279 | a broad overview of you know what works what doesn't and and be learning also about how to | 纵观你了解什么是无效的 也学习如何 |
| 280 | do better and how to right like it's not that I'm not getting feedback and learning but I have | 做得更好,如何正确... ... ...... |
| 281 | noticed where over analyzing keeps you from taking action and I think so many people fall into this | 我注意到分析使你无法采取行动 我认为有这么多人陷入其中 |
| 282 | trap so many people I actually spoke at UCLA recently and I was on this panel and I was having | 我最近在加州大学洛杉矶分校讲过话 我在这个小组里 |
| 283 | students ask me questions about content creation and they were like oh is this true is this true | 学生们问我关于内容创作的问题 他们就像 哦,这是真的 |
| 284 | do we need this we have to do this and I'm like no you don't have to do any of things just just | и惠璶硂и眔暗 и谋眔ぃ暗ㄆ |
| 285 | create just start do it and this is a prime and beautiful example of where like over analyzing | 创造刚开始做, 这是一个最优美的例子 在那里像分析 |
| 286 | and strategizing and planning like it will keep you from taking action if you go too far down | 并像计划那样制定计划 让你无法采取行动 |
| 287 | rabbit hole learning is great feedback is great getting collecting data is great but recognize | 兔子洞的学习是伟大的反馈是伟大的 收集数据是伟大的,但承认 |
| 288 | when it starts keeping you from taking action and there's really a balance to be found there but for | 当它开始阻止你采取行动, 并且真的有一个平衡 在那里可以找到,但为了 |
| 289 | me for now I find it more helpful to just have a broad overview of like what works what doesn't in | 现在我觉得这样比较有帮助的 只是对什么是有效的 |
| 290 | my podcast and then just talk about what I want and what lights me up because I've noticed that | 我的播客,然后只是谈论什么 我想要,什么点亮我 因为我注意到 |
| 291 | that's what resonates with other people too but to close this video out I really just want to | 这也是别人的共鸣 但为了结束这段视频 我真的很想 |
| 292 | you to become aware of where you are unnecessarily searching for problems or managing outcomes or | 或管理结果,或 |
| 293 | draining your own energy become aware of it and shift because the truth is that so much of what | 消耗自己的能量 开始意识到它 并转变 因为事实是,这么多 |
| 294 | you currently have is a dream fulfilled I want to give you permission to enjoy your life right now | 你现在的梦想已经实现 我想让你享受现在的生活 |
| 295 | exactly as it is go tell someone that you love them give them a hug go pet your dog allow | 就像去告诉别人 你爱他们 拥抱他们 宠爱你的狗 |
| 296 | yourself to have fun with something and sit in the satisfaction of everything that you've already | 自己玩得开心,坐到满足你的一切 |
| 297 | created for yourself if you want to dive into the entire neuroscience backed framework for | 如果你想潜入整个神经科学 支撑框架 |
| 298 | reprogramming your subconscious mind and manifesting the life that you desire then check the link in the | 重新编程你的潜意识 并显示你想要的生活 然后检查链接在 |
| 299 | description to save your seat at my free live master class that is coming up very soon and again | 描述一下 省省你的座位 在我的免费现场主课 很快又来了 |
| 300 | my book is officially available for pre-order I'd be so honored and grateful if you did pre-order | 我的书可以正式订货了 如果你能订货的话 我会非常荣幸和感激 |
| 301 | my book and last but not least I am going on tour and we are collecting RSVPs so go to the link | 我的书和最后,但并非最不重要的是,我要去巡回演出 我们正在收集RSVP,所以去链接 |
| 302 | and RSVP for your city because that is how we are going to decide what cities we go to on tour | 和RSVP为你的城市, 因为这就是我们如何决定 我们去什么城市巡演 |
| 303 | thank you so much for watching I'm sending you so much love I believe in you I am rooting for you | 非常感谢你看着我给你发了这么多的爱 我相信,我为你加油 |
| 304 | you got this you can do it and if you're having a bad day or a bad hour just know that you can | 你得到了这个,你可以做到这一点 如果你有一个糟糕的一天或一个糟糕的小时 只是知道你可以 |
| 305 | always restart and you can always turn it around you got this okay I'll see you in the next one | 总是重启,你总是可以 转过身来,你得到了这个 好的,我会看到你在下一个 |
| 306 | I | 一、导 言 |
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