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为什么你要放弃追求完美|TED

为什么你要放弃追求完美|TED

为什么你要放弃追求完美|TED

发布于 2026-10-28 · 时长 15:10

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0:00Kind of funny because my speech actually starts with we have a problem有点好笑,因为我的发言 一开始我们有一个问题
0:03We nearly did because I just had hiccups and they were quite violent.我们几乎做到了 因为我刚刚打嗝 他们相当暴力。
0:07So luckily we're all good now so I can start幸运的是,我们现在都很好 所以我可以开始
0:12We do have a problem though我们确实有问题
0:13And that is the most important relationship we have in our lives is the one we have with ourselves这是我们人生中最重要的关系 就是我们自己
0:19And we're not taught about it我们没有被教导
0:22I want to challenge you to think about if we were taught how to look after ourselves using self-care我想挑战你考虑一下 如果我们学会如何用自我照顾照顾自己
0:29Could we help enrich our lives make us happier?我们可以帮助丰富我们的生活 使我们更快乐吗?
0:32Combat our insecurities and enable us to reach our full potential与不安全作斗争,使我们能够充分发挥潜力
0:37For example, have you ever blamed your body?比如,你有没有责怪过你的身体?
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1Kind of funny because my speech actually starts with we have a problem有点好笑,因为我的发言 一开始我们有一个问题
2We nearly did because I just had hiccups and they were quite violent.我们几乎做到了 因为我刚刚打嗝 他们相当暴力。
3So luckily we're all good now so I can start幸运的是,我们现在都很好 所以我可以开始
4We do have a problem though我们确实有问题
5And that is the most important relationship we have in our lives is the one we have with ourselves这是我们人生中最重要的关系 就是我们自己
6And we're not taught about it我们没有被教导
7I want to challenge you to think about if we were taught how to look after ourselves using self-care我想挑战你考虑一下 如果我们学会如何用自我照顾照顾自己
8Could we help enrich our lives make us happier?我们可以帮助丰富我们的生活 使我们更快乐吗?
9Combat our insecurities and enable us to reach our full potential与不安全作斗争,使我们能够充分发挥潜力
10For example, have you ever blamed your body?比如,你有没有责怪过你的身体?
11Oh瓳
12My god, that dress is so cute.天啊,那裙子真可爱
13I can't wear it.戴不着.
14I'd have rolls.我会有卷。
15I一、导 言
16Know why he didn't call me back because I put on ten pounds last week.知道为什么他不回我电话 因为我上周加了十磅
17Damn those burritos and该死的那些玉米饼和
18The thing is body image is often associated with teenage girls问题是身体形象常常和少女有关
19But in fact men and boys are affected too但事实上男人和男孩也受到影响
20Eastern disorders and mental health can affect anyone at any age at any time东方病症和精神健康随时会影响到任何人
21And that's why this is so important to me and why we're here today connecting with you all这就是为什么这对我来说如此重要, 为什么我们今天在这里与你们联系
22so many guys now are going to the gym and they're even abusing steroids because maybe their selfies would get more likes if they这么多人现在要去健身房 他们甚至滥用类固醇 因为也许他们的自拍会更喜欢 如果他们
23Had a six pack of abs not beer.有六包腹部 不是啤酒。
24I一、导 言
25Know that when I was younger, I would look in that mirror every single day and hate what I saw当我年轻的时候,我会每天看着镜子 恨我看到的东西
26Why don't I have a thigh gap?我为什么没有大腿间隙?
27Why does it look like this?为什么它看起来像这样?
28I ate the other one我吃了另一个
29More pimples.再来点皮条
30Are you kidding me?你在开玩笑吧?
31I hate myself and that's so sad because I can't get those years back of self-loathing我恨我自己,这太可悲了 因为我不能让那些年 自我厌恶的回来
32calorie obsession and jealousy卡路里迷恋和嫉妒
33So I decided to use those experiences that I've had to gain a better understanding of the relationship所以我决定利用这些经验 来更好地了解关系
34I have with my body and myself and by practicing self-care我的身体和我自己 通过练习自我护理
35I was able to change my life and I hope today I can encourage you all if you haven't already started我可以改变我的生活 我希望今天我可以鼓励你们所有人 如果你还没有开始
36To start that journey of self love开始自我爱的旅程
37It's crazy these days.现在很疯狂
38We have so many pressures and now we have social media with the rise of social media现在随着社交媒体的兴起,
39We literally have a weapon of mass destruction to our self-esteem我们实际上有 大规模毁灭性武器 我们的自尊
4024-7第24-7条
41You guys who consume social media have you ever lost one two, maybe even three hours你们这些食用社交媒体的人 曾经失去过两个 甚至三个小时
42You feel your life deep in someone's profile你对别人的描述很深刻
43Yeah对
44Thinking oh wow.想着哦 哇
45Look, they're so in love.你看,他们是如此的爱。
46Oh, they're going to all these amazing holidays.哦,他们要去所有这些惊人的节日。
47They have the dream job他们有梦想的工作
48They have this perfect life.他们的生活很完美
49Why isn't my life like that?为什么我的生活不是这样的?
50The scary thing is that's not real可怕的事情是,这是不是真的
51Social media is a curated filtered often airbrushed and sometimes even lifestyle illusion社交媒体是一种精细的过滤器 经常被空气压碎 有时甚至是生活方式的幻觉
52That's why we need to be taught about it所以我们才需要学习
53that is why we need to be taught how to cope with these pressures in schools and it's become my mission to teach self-care and这就是为什么我们需要被教导 如何应付这些压力 在学校,它已经成为我的使命 教导自我照顾和
54Get it into the education system because we need to be taught how to look after ourselves mentally physically and emotionally进入教育系统,因为我们需要 学会如何照顾自己 身心
55I'm very grateful我非常感谢
56I have over 3 million followers online and I commit to being authentic honest with them and not retouching my pictures that I own我在网上有超过三百万的追随者 我承诺要跟他们说实话 而不是重新整理我拥有的照片
57Because I have to forgive myself因为我必须原谅自己
58I've been in the industry for 13 years and I would get images back of myself that my family couldn't even recognize我在这个行业已经13年了,我会得到回 自己的照片,我的家人甚至都认不出
59Me when they flipped through the magazine literally couldn't find me and I would look at these pictures and think well当他们翻过杂志的时候 我根本找不到我 我看着这些照片好好想想
60Wow, where did half my arms go?哇,哪里有我的一半手臂去吗?
61My legs are so much skinnier.我的腿变瘦了
62I've got zero flaws我没有什么缺点
63Is that how I meant to look?这就是我的本意吗?
64I meant to be that perfected image我本想成为完美的形象
65Wow, well, I can't even look like that and that's me哇,好吧,我甚至不能 看起来像,这就是我
66That's wrong这不对
67So why is it that we feel these insecurities in the first place?那么,为什么我们一开始就感到这些不安全?
68Because from a very young age we've been conditioned to believe that our success and our happiness is highly dependent on our attractiveness因为从很小的时候起 我们就一直认为 我们的成功和幸福 高度依赖于我们的吸引力
69Think about all the prints and princesses you saw slim toned tall想想你看到的所有指纹和公主 瘦小的脚趾高大
70proportional features the magazines and比例化的杂志和
71Celebrating severe weight loss.庆祝严重减肥.
72It's actually unhealthy or those who have been nipped and tucked 20 years younger实际上是不健康 或者是20岁时被刺伤和被困的人
73Because if we are insecure因为如果我们没有安全感
74We are a motivated consumer我们是一个有动机的消费者
75we can be sold an anti wrinkle cream by 13 year old a我们可以在13岁之前卖出抗皱霜
76Been on set years ago where they're actually wearing a bra under the bra to give unattainable cleavage几年前,他们穿着胸罩 胸罩下面的胸罩 给无法达到的裂缝
77Yeah, that that happens.是啊,这是发生的。
78So the butt pads butt pads are in all those gene adverts you see just saying所以屁股垫 屁股垫 在所有这些基因广告 你看到的只是说
79and和
80I recently was trained by the National Eating Disorder Association of the US who I'm an ambassador for in something called the body project最近我接受了美国国家饮食失调协会的训练 我是一个大使 从事名为身体计划的项目
81It's the first scientifically proven cause to help prevent eating disorders in young people这是第一个科学证明 有助于防止年轻人饮食失调的原因
82And it's just four one-hour sessions the impact on these pupils was只有四个一小时的课 对学生的影响
83Outstanding and it confirmed to me that we need to be talking about this.很棒,它向我证实 我们需要谈论这一点。
84So I thought I'd share with you some of that today所以我想今天跟你分享一下这些
85The main concept we teach is the beauty ideal myth我们教的主要概念是美景理想的神话
86We get all the kids to have magazines and they pick out the perfect body and we then break it down for them我们让所有的孩子有杂志 他们挑出完美的身体 然后我们打破它给他们
87Okay, so what's the perfect body then?那么,什么是完美的身体吗?
88Well, it's tall is big boobs small waist or it's ridiculous abs.嗯,它的高是大胸小腰 或者它的荒谬的腹部。
89It's a tan这是晒黑的
90It's straight hair.直须发.
91It's no flaws.这不是缺陷。
92Is that real?这是真的吗?
93No, is that achievable?不,这是可能的吗?
94No没有
95So what are the sacrifices and costs for you to try and attain this?你为了达到这个目的付出了多少代价?
96it's so detrimental to your mental and physical health and它是如此有害 你的身心健康,
97Guess what?你猜怎么着?
98Who wins from this battle the brands the magazines the pharmaceutical industry and who loses?谁从这场战役中获胜 品牌杂志制药业谁输?
99We lose我们输了
100So we need to embrace our bodies for more than that因此,我们需要拥抱我们的身体 不止于此
101We need to stop trying to attain perfection because we're good enough already and if we could start我们需要停止试图达到完美 因为我们已经足够好 如果我们可以开始
102redefining the beauty ideal重新定义美貌的理想
103Imagine celebrating someone's achievements their accomplishments their personality their morals and their values to me.想象一下,庆祝一个人的成就 他们的成就,他们的个性 他们的道德和他们的价值观给我。
104That's beautiful.赞曰.
105I一、导 言
106Recently was challenged to get three women who would refuse to ever be in a bikini最近有人要三个女人 拒绝穿比基尼
107To go in a bikini live on national TV in front of three million people and on the streets of London in front of crowds and穿比基尼在三百万人面前 和伦敦的街道上 在人群面前
108These were women who I generally talked to kind of school kids they were older这些都是女人,我一般跟 学校的孩子说话 他们年纪较大
109There was actually a lady in her 70s who'd recently lost her partner and had excess skin其实70多岁的女士 刚刚失去了她的伴侣 皮肤过重
110There was another lady who was a mother and she'd had an eating disorder and really struggled with body image her whole life还有一位女士是一位母亲, 她有饮食障碍, 真的挣扎的身体形象 她的整个生活
111And the other woman had been horrifically body shamed by an ex-partner而另一个女人 被一个前伴侣吓坏了
112So we go backstage and I'm okay所以我们去后台,我没事
113I hope I can do this and they call me and they're like is screw you need to get in the changing room right now我希望我能做到这一点,他们打电话给我, 他们就像螺丝 你需要得到的更衣室现在
114They're all breaking down他们都崩溃了
115Well, no wonder they stuck three women in a room with one mirror and five bikinis and said you must choose one of these难怪他们把三个女人困在一个房间里 带着一面镜子和五个比基尼 说你们必须选一个
116And you're gonna go out there in it like come on.你会去那里 像来吧。
117That's a lot of pressure压力很大
118So I went in there and I taught them one of my biggest areas of self-care, which I call my mirror challenge于是我进去教他们自我护理的最大领域之一 我称之为镜面挑战
119So initially they're standing in that mirror the first thing they do and I'm sure many of you do as well is所以一开始他们站在镜子里 他们做的第一件事 我相信你们很多人也是
120See your insecurities.见诸无常.
121We need to change that discussion我们需要改变这种讨论
122So I get them in front of a mirror in their bikinis and I tell them pick out five things that you love about yourself所以我让他们在镜子前 穿着比基尼,我告诉他们挑五件你爱的东西
123I gave them a few examples and they started well, I'm the life of the party我给了他们几个例子,他们开始的很好,我是党的生活
124I'm an amazing friend.我是一个了不起的朋友。
125I'm creative.我很有创造力
126I'm independent.我是独立的。
127I'm hard-working我勤奋
128I'm courageous and then they start thinking oh, you know, I'm pretty cool我很勇敢,然后他们开始思考 哦,你知道,我很酷
129They started feeling proud of themselves他们开始感到骄傲
130And then I told them now pick out five things that you love about your body for what it does for you然后,我告诉他们,现在挑出五件事 你爱关于你的身体,因为它为你做什么
131Because we want to change that discussion.因为我们想改变这种讨论。
132It's not just about what your body looks like your body is an incredible thing这不只是关于你的身体是什么 看起来像你的身体是一个不可思议的事情
133So they started saying the most and it was so inspiring for me as well所以,他们开始说最 并且它是如此鼓舞人心
134Because you never know what people are gonna come up with so one woman said well these stretch marks因为你不知道人们会想出什么来 所以有个女人说得没错 这些拉伸的痕迹
135Even though I'm really insecure about them虽然我对他们很不安全
136They enabled me, you know, this stomach enabled me to birth my children and now I have grandchildren and that's the best part of my life他们让我,你知道,这个胃让我生了孩子 现在我有孙子了,这是我生命中最好的部分
137Another woman said I'm grateful for these hands because I was able to be a seamstress and provide for my whole family另一个女人说,我感激这些手 因为我能做裁缝 供养我全家
138The last woman said well, I love my legs because I love running through the English countryside最后一个女人说得好,我喜欢我的腿 因为我喜欢跑遍英国农村
139It calms me down and it's what makes me happy它让我冷静下来,它让我快乐
140These women were smiling they felt value这些女人笑着觉得自己很值钱
141They were so proud of themselves他们很骄傲
142I then proceeded to tell them that not only is it gonna change their life being able to embrace their bodies and go out there and be confident我接着告诉他们 不仅会改变他们的生活 能够拥抱他们的身体 并在那里充满自信
143But for the women and men at home who feel just the way they did但对于在家里的男女,谁感觉 就像他们做的
144It's gonna help them too也会有帮助的
145For them to stand up there and be able to do it.让他们站在那里 并能够做到这一点。
146It's hopefully going to empower them too as well也希望能增强他们的能力
147So I still didn't 100% know if they were gonna do it所以我还是不知道他们会不会这么做
148but we go out there right by the Thames in London and但我们去伦敦泰晤士河边
149Sure enough all three dropped their robes.当然,三个都掉了长袍
150There was tears there was hugging有眼泪,有拥抱
151Two of the women didn't even put the robes back on they went all the way straight through the TV show有两个女人连长袍都没穿上 直接穿过电视剧
152Back to back up to the dressing room.后至更衣室.
153We're like, well here I am now.我们就像,好了,我现在在这里。
154I'm doing it.我这样做。
155So I'm not going back所以我不会回去了
156It was life-changing这是改变生命
157And I've never felt so purposeful or so filled with hope我从来没有觉得如此有目的或如此充满希望
158And that's why I'm so excited to be here with you all today to kind of share those stories所以今天我很高兴能和你们在一起 分享那些故事
159And that's one of my main ways that I practice self-care the next one is called a gratitude list I这是我练习自我护理的主要方法之一 下一个叫做感恩单
160Have an example.举个例子
161It actually I had to use it not that long ago其实我不用多久就用过了
162I was in LA with my boyfriend and we went shopping我和男朋友在洛杉矶,我们去购物
163So we went to the store and I saw these gorgeous designer jeans and I was like, okay, I'm gonna treat myself于是我们去了商店,我看到这些 华丽的设计者牛仔裤,我像,好吧,我要对待自己。
164So the store associates like what size are you and I said mmm like a 12所以,商店的合伙人喜欢大小 你,我说毫米像12
165I don't know what that is.我不知道这是什么。
166Maybe a 31 and she goes well biggest size也许31岁,她身材最好
167We have is this one and it's a 29, but it's so stretchy.我们有这个,它是一个29,但它是如此舒展。
168It's definitely gonna fit everyone fits in it绝对适合每个人
169So that okay, so I go into the changing room, which is the worst place in the world a it's claustrophobic好吧,所以我走进更衣室, 这是世界上最糟糕的地方... ...
170It's hell is usually hot the lines from above the mirror is just the awful and then it just feels like you're in the demons通常地狱是热的 从镜子上面的线 只是可怕的,然后它只是感觉你像 在恶魔
171They're just there waiting to like pounce on you他们只是在那里等着喜欢扑你
172So I'm in there with these jeans and it's like me against the jeans and I'm there and I'm我穿着牛仔裤在里面 就像我和牛仔裤对着
173Okay, it's not going well and then she's shouting in I bet they look so good.好吧,情况不妙,然后她大喊大叫 我敢打赌,他们看起来很好。
174I'm like not yet getting there我好像还没到那里
175and I kind of got to here and I was like我有点到了这里,我就像
176It's great.赞曰.
177You're just gonna have to give up and that's when it hit I broke你只要放弃,我就要崩溃了
178That 15 year old me came back and said you're unworthy of being in these jeans.15岁我回来 说你不适合穿牛仔裤
179You're too big你这么大
180What(?
181Why can't you fit into the biggest pair of jeans in the store?为什么你不能穿进店里最大的牛仔裤?
182And that's when I was like, come on it's go come on use that self-care go go go那时我就想,来吧,来吧,来吧,来吧,来吧。 。 。
183Brought out my gratitude list and I want you all to start your own right now tonight拿出我的感恩清单 我希望你们今晚开始自己的生活
184Because it saved me in that moment因为那一刻它救了我
185Wow, okay.哇,还好。
186I'm on holiday.我在节日。
187I have a real boyfriend who loves me at this size.我有一个真正的男朋友 谁爱我这么大。
188So clearly that's good很明显,这很好
189I'm in LA.我在洛杉矶。
190I'm from England.我来自英国
191That's awesome.这是真棒。
192I'm healthy.我身体还好
193I'm alive我还活着
194I have clean water and then I started to think what the hell are these jeans right here?我有干净的水 然后我开始想 这些牛仔裤到底是什么?
195This piece of fabric trying to break me right now.这块织物想现在打破我
196These are not going to ruin my day这些不会毁了我的一天
197I refuse flat-out refuse to let this ruin how I feel about myself我拒绝平淡无奇地拒绝让这破碎... 我对自己的感觉
198So I used that self-care that knowledge.所以我利用了这种知识
199Thank God谢天谢地
200I had that because otherwise I would have gone out there a blubbering mess and my boyfriend would have been like what's wrong with you?我这样做是因为,否则我会去 在那里一个流鼻涕的烂摊子 我的男朋友会 喜欢什么是错的你?
201So that is my other piece of self-care that I'm giving to you if we go back所以,这是我的另一块 自我护理,我给你 如果我们回去
202The reason why this can seem shallow to some maybe某些人可能觉得这很浅
203But is actually really important because there are some shocking statistics out there但实际上真的很重要 因为那里有一些令人震惊的统计数据
204Did you know as a teenage girl you are 12 times more likely to die from an eating disorder than any other illness?你知道作为一个十几岁的女孩 你死于饮食障碍的可能性是其他疾病12倍吗?
205that there are over 30 million of us in the US alone that have an eating disorder and光是在美国就有三千万人 患有饮食障碍
206That 90% of all children who die from suicide have a mental health condition90%死于自杀的儿童患有精神疾病
207And as I mentioned earlier正如我刚才提到的
208social media is only growing the pressure is only getting worse and社会媒体只会增加压力,
20952% of US teens now say they've been cyber bullied52%的美国青少年 说他们已经被网络欺负
210I've experienced first-hand hate online trolling online and我亲身体验过网上的憎恨
211We also need to talk about that that to me is also part of self-care because the bullies are我们还需要谈谈 这对我来说也是自我照顾的一部分 因为欺负是
212Just putting their insecurities that they have onto you.只是把他们的不安全感 他们有你。
213I一、导 言
214Have a feeling inside内心有种感觉
215But we need to educate people we need to educate the victims and the bullies so this stops happening但我们需要教育人们 教育受害者和恶霸 这样就不再发生
216One way I like to do it is ignore it report it block it delete it act like it never happened我喜欢的一种方式是忽略它 报告它阻止它删除它 假装它从来没有发生过
217but I found another cool way, which was I recently got a comment and但我找到了另一个很酷的方法, 就是最近我得到了一个评论,
218It for me it was hysterical对我来说是歇斯底里
219But actually a few of my followers got really upset about it because they said you're the reason that the healthcare system is a mess但实际上我的几个追随者对此感到非常不快,因为他们说,你就是医疗体系一团糟的原因.
220You need to put down your McDonald's and stop eating crisps你得放下你的麦当劳 别再吃脆饼了
221How ridiculous is that I happen to be on set in my underwear doing a shoot with crisps around me and I thought hmm我刚好穿着内衣在拍片时 带着脆片
222This seems like a good opportunity to show them what I'm made of so I decided to do a picture of me covered in crisps这似乎是一个很好的机会 向他们展示我是什么做的 所以我决定拍张我的照片 覆盖的脆片
223Eating the crisps as an F you like hell.吃脆饼作为F 你喜欢地狱。
224No, are you gonna bring me down?不,你会带我下来吗?
225I'm gonna keep eating crisps even more now我现在还要继续吃脆饼
226actually, I really really like crisps now because I其实,我真的 真的喜欢脆饼现在,因为我
227Wanted to empower myself.想要增强我的能力
228I wanted to be able to use something that was negative and turn it into a positive我想用一些负面的东西 把它变成一个积极的
229And sure enough think that video got like 80 million views or something because that's what we want to see也足够肯定地认为那段视频 得到了8000万的浏览量或什么的 因为这就是我们想看到的
230We want to build each other up我们想互相建立
231We want to empower each other and I'm so grateful that I've been here today and being able to connect with you all我们想增强彼此的力量 我很感激我今天来到这里 并且能够和大家联系
232Because I want to encourage every single one of you to invest in yourself right now因为我想鼓励你们每个人 投资自己现在
233I want you to understand that if you learn self-care我希望你明白 如果你学会自我护理
234Practice self-care you can then gift self-care练习自我护理,然后可以给予自我护理
235Imagine being able to give your loved ones the gift of self-love想象一下能够给你的爱人 自我爱的礼物
236Speak to your body in a loving way.以慈心语汝身.
237It's the only one you've got.唯此'.
238It's your home and it deserves your respect这是你的家,值得你尊重
239if you see anyone tearing themselves down build them back up and如果你看到有人撕裂自己... ... ......
240What's your life positively grow when you give up the pursuit of perfection?当你放弃追求完美时 你的人生会怎样?
241Because the real beauty ideal is being imperfectly you因为真正的美丽理想是完美的你
242Thank you so much everybody非常感谢大家
243Thank you谢谢
244Thank you so much everybody, thank you非常感谢大家,谢谢
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