被激怒时如何应对｜特勤局训练
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| 时间 | 英文 | 中文 |
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| 0:00 | The first part of the course is understanding yourself. | 课程的第一部分是了解自己. |
| 0:02 | You have to understand yourself first | 你要先了解你自己,才对 |
| 0:04 | before you try to figure out other people. | 在你试着找出其他人之前 |
| 0:07 | I want you to think of it this way. | 我要你这样想 |
| 0:09 | You're 50% | 你占50%,你占50%,你占50%,你占50% |
| 0:10 | of the equation. | 等式的缩写。 |
| 0:11 | They are 50% of the equation. | 它们是方程式的50%。 |
| 0:13 | So we can't figure out other people if we don't | 所以,如果我们不找出别人 |
| 0:16 | know who you are. | 知道你是谁。 |
| 0:17 | And when I say this, I mean your strengths, your weaknesses, what's going on with | 当我说这些的时候,我是指你的长处,弱点, 发生了什么事 |
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| 1 | The first part of the course is understanding yourself. | 课程的第一部分是了解自己. |
| 2 | You have to understand yourself first | 你要先了解你自己,才对 |
| 3 | before you try to figure out other people. | 在你试着找出其他人之前 |
| 4 | I want you to think of it this way. | 我要你这样想 |
| 5 | You're 50% | 你占50%,你占50%,你占50%,你占50% |
| 6 | of the equation. | 等式的缩写。 |
| 7 | They are 50% of the equation. | 它们是方程式的50%。 |
| 8 | So we can't figure out other people if we don't | 所以,如果我们不找出别人 |
| 9 | know who you are. | 知道你是谁。 |
| 10 | And when I say this, I mean your strengths, your weaknesses, what's going on with | 当我说这些的时候,我是指你的长处,弱点, 发生了什么事 |
| 11 | you, your patterns, your behavior, how you think, how you speak, how you problem solve, or maybe | 你,你的规律,你的行为,你的想法,你说话的方式,你的问题是如何解决,或者也许 |
| 12 | don't problem solve so well. | 解决不了问题 |
| 13 | You have to assess yourself because here's the thing. | 你必须评估自己 因为事情是这样的 |
| 14 | You impact the | 你影响 |
| 15 | world. | 这个世界 |
| 16 | You do. | 没错 |
| 17 | We're so focused sometimes on the other person that we don't realize what am I doing | 我们有时把注意力集中在另一个人身上 却不知道我在做什么 |
| 18 | that is impacting the other person? | 影响他人? |
| 19 | What am I doing that's affecting the other person? | 我在做什么影响着另一个人? |
| 20 | We're | 我们是 |
| 21 | so isolated and we forget about ourselves. | 如此孤立 我们忘记了自己 |
| 22 | We play a role and that role can really either enhance | 我们扮演一个角色,这个角色可以真正加强 |
| 23 | our relationships, our lives, our situations, or it can crush it. | 我们的关系,我们的生活,我们的情况, 或者它可以粉碎它。 |
| 24 | Self-awareness is your ability | 自我意识是你的能力 |
| 25 | to understand what is going on around you. | 来了解你周围的情况 |
| 26 | You're 360. | 你是360岁。 |
| 27 | So what does that mean? | 这是什么意思? |
| 28 | It means the people | 代表着人民 |
| 29 | around you. | 环绕着你 |
| 30 | It means the environment that you are creating and cultivating. | 这意味着你正在创造和培育的环境。 |
| 31 | It means how you handle | 意思是你如何处理 |
| 32 | individuals. | 个人。 |
| 33 | It is a legit thing. | 这是合法的事情。 |
| 34 | It is a real thing. | 这是真的 |
| 35 | If your world and the people around you | 如果你的世界和周围的人 |
| 36 | are strong, guess what you're going to be? | 强壮的,猜猜你会是什么? |
| 37 | Strong. | 坚固. |
| 38 | If the people around you are weak, | 如果周围的人都软弱 |
| 39 | or they're a hot mess, guess what you're going to be? | 或他们是一个热乱, 猜猜你会是什么? |
| 40 | We absorb other people. | 我们吸收其他人。 |
| 41 | We take in | 我们接受 |
| 42 | and we mirror them. | 我们照着他们 |
| 43 | We mirror not just their behavior, but even the way they deal with the | 我们不仅反映了他们的行为, 甚至是他们处理 |
| 44 | world, the way they show up. | 世界,他们出现的方式。 |
| 45 | People are contagious. | 人有传染性. |
| 46 | They're infectious. | 它们是传染性的。 |
| 47 | They will infect you with what | 他们会传染给你什么 |
| 48 | they feel and what they think and how they move in their life. | 他们的感受,他们的想法 以及他们生活中的动静 |
| 49 | It can impact you in a strong way | 它可以强烈地影响你 |
| 50 | or it can pull you down. | 或者它能把你拉下来 |
| 51 | To be an effective problem solver and to understand | 成为一个有效的问题解决者 和理解 |
| 52 | how to deal with things, you have to have self-awareness. | 如何应对事物, 你必须有自我意识。 |
| 53 | You can't have self-awareness | 你不能有自我意识 |
| 54 | if you don't live in truth. | 如果你不活在真实中。 |
| 55 | You can't have self-awareness when you bend things, | 当你弯曲事物时,你不能有自我意识, |
| 56 | when you shift the story, when you shift the narrative to make it fit what you want it to | 当你改变故事, 当你改变叙述 使它适合你想要它 |
| 57 | You can do that, but then you're not having true self-awareness. | 你可以做到这一点,但是你没有 真正的自我意识。 |
| 58 | You're living in a fictional place | 你住在虚构的地方 |
| 59 | and then when you try to tackle problems or dilemmas, you can't because you're building a plan | 然后当你试图 解决问题或困境, 你不能 因为你正在建立一个计划 |
| 60 | around something that isn't accurate. | 周围的东西是不准确的。 |
| 61 | It's not about what we want things to be. | 这不是我们想要的东西。 |
| 62 | It's about what | 这是关于什么 |
| 63 | it is. | 没错 |
| 64 | It's not about the potential something could have. | 这与可能存在的可能性无关 |
| 65 | It's about where it is right now. | 这是关于它现在在哪里。 |
| 66 | It's not about how it used to be. | 何等为过去. |
| 67 | It's how it is now. | 今时如何. |
| 68 | Be honest with yourself and live where you are | 老实说,你住的地方 |
| 69 | Now, we cannot let, you cannot let the outside world impact you so much that it completely | 现在,我们不能让,你不能让外面的世界 影响你这么多,以至于它完全 |
| 70 | derails you. | 让你脱轨 |
| 71 | We're going to talk about your self-regulation. | 我们要谈谈你的自律 |
| 72 | What is that? | 这是什么? |
| 73 | Your self-regulation | 你们的自律 |
| 74 | is your governor, the governor that handles your emotional self. | 是你的州长 处理你情绪的州长 |
| 75 | You have to think of it like, | 你总得想想... |
| 76 | how do I handle what comes at me? | 我该怎么对付我? |
| 77 | There's a difference. | 有分别. |
| 78 | There's reactive and there's responsive | 有反应,有反应 |
| 79 | Reactive is, I am simply a reactionary force to what is done. | 反应是,我只是对所做的事情的反动力量。 |
| 80 | She did this to me. | 她这样对我。 |
| 81 | I'm going to react | 我会有所反应 |
| 82 | It's not my fault I blew up. | 不是我的错,我炸了。 |
| 83 | She said this. | 她说的 |
| 84 | That is very low when it comes to the self-governor | 说到自我总督,这是很低的 |
| 85 | Responsive is, she does something to me. | 反应是 她对我做了什么 |
| 86 | I may feel what I'm going to feel, but I am regulating it | 我也许能感觉到,但我正在调节它 |
| 87 | I'm going to think, I'm going to process, I'm going to regulate, then I am going to respond | 我会考虑,我会处理, 我会管理,然后我会回应 |
| 88 | When you do this, you own your response, not them. | 当你这样做,你拥有你的反应,而不是他们。 |
| 89 | Because when you are triggered, | 因为当你被触发, |
| 90 | when you are offended, that means you have no governor over yourself. | 当你被冒犯, 这意味着你没有州长 对自己。 |
| 91 | Everybody can do anything | 每个人都可以做任何事情 |
| 92 | they want to you and completely derail you. | 他们想要你 并完全脱轨你。 |
| 93 | The one thing you can do to help yourself when you're | 只有一件事你可以帮助自己 当你是 |
| 94 | triggered or manipulated or when you feel those emotions boiling, do nothing. | 被触发或操纵 或当你感到情绪沸腾, 什么也不做。 |
| 95 | Absolutely nothing. | 什么都没有 |
| 96 | Don't text it. | 别发短信 |
| 97 | Don't send it. | 别发. |
| 98 | Don't write it. | 别写. |
| 99 | Don't call. | 别打来 |
| 100 | Do nothing. | 什么都别做。 |
| 101 | Step away. | 走开 |
| 102 | And you can do it for | 你可以这么做 |
| 103 | a couple hours. | 几个小时。 |
| 104 | You could do it for 24 hours. | 你可以做24小时。 |
| 105 | You could do it for a week or you can never respond. | 你可以做一个星期 或者你永远不能回应。 |
| 106 | Do nothing is gold. | 做什么都不是黄金。 |
| 107 | I want you to feel the emotion, lean into it. | 我想让你感受一下情感 亲近它 |
| 108 | Don't avoid what you're | 不要回避你是什么 |
| 109 | feeling. | 感觉 |
| 110 | Let it roll through you. | 让它通过你。 |
| 111 | Do you follow? | 你明白吗? |
| 112 | Catch it, but then release it. | 抓住它,但然后释放它。 |
| 113 | Don't keep it in | 别塞进去 |
| 114 | you and then hold it in. | 你再坚持下去 |
| 115 | Because now you're just one big stress ball. | 因为现在你只是一个巨大的压力球。 |
| 116 | You're just one big mess of | 你只是一团糟 |
| 117 | emotion. | 情绪 |
| 118 | We want to absorb, release, and then move through. | 我们要吸收,释放,然后通过。 |
| 119 | Other thing I'm going to tell you to do, | 还有件事我要告诉你 |
| 120 | and I do this all the time, run it out of you. | 我总是这样, 跑出来你。 |
| 121 | Work out. | 努力点 |
| 122 | Working out and fitness are a massive | 锻炼和健身是一大堆 |
| 123 | thing. | 东西。 |
| 124 | It was drilled to us in the US Secret Service. | 在美国特勤局给我们钻的 |
| 125 | I mean, I would run through all the | 我的意思是,我会运行 通过所有的 |
| 126 | emotions. | 情绪 |
| 127 | You have to think all day, all you're doing is capturing stuff, people's dramas and | 整天想着,你所做的就是 捕捉东西,人们的戏剧和 |
| 128 | traumas and all the things going on in the world that you're absorbing. | 创伤和所有的事情 在世界上你正在吸收。 |
| 129 | You need a release. | 你需要释放 |
| 130 | And | 还有 |
| 131 | the movement of your body and the ability to release is huge. | 你的身体运动和释放的能力是巨大的。 |
| 132 | In fact, I work out at night. | 事实上,我晚上工作 |
| 133 | And the reason why I do it is because I want to release all the stuff that I capture in the day. | 我这样做的原因 是因为我想释放我白天所捕获的所有东西。 |
| 134 | So really think about the things that you can do to help yourself. | 所以,真的思考一些事情 你可以帮助自己。 |
| 135 | Most important thing, remember, when in doubt, do nothing, say nothing. | 最重要的是,记住,当怀疑时,什么都不做,什么都不说。 |
| 136 | And then two, move it | 第二,移动它 |
| 137 | out of your system. | 离开你的系统。 |
| 138 | Get it out of you. | 把它从你身上拿出来。 |
| 139 | You don't want to collect stuff. | 你不想收集东西。 |
| 140 | You want it to come in | 你想让它进来 |
| 141 | and then you want it to exit out. | 然后你想让它退出。 |
| 142 | You have to know when it is your problem and when it's not. | 你必须知道什么时候是你的问题,什么时候不是。 |
| 143 | And this clearly was not. | 这显然不是。 |
| 144 | When you seek respect outside of yourself, you get derailed. | 当你在自己之外寻求尊重时,就会出轨. |
| 145 | So here's a secret. | 所以这里有个秘密 |
| 146 | I'm about to free you. | 我要释放你 |
| 147 | You don't need respect. | 你不需要尊重 你不需要尊重你 你不需要尊重你 |
| 148 | People will distract you | 人们会分散你的注意力 |
| 149 | and derail you from what you are trying to do if you don't pay attention. | 并破坏你 试图做什么 如果你不注意。 |
| 150 | Respect is wonderful. | 尊重是绝妙的。 |
| 151 | Don't get me wrong. | 别误会 |
| 152 | If somebody gives it to you, great. | 如果有人给你,太好了。 |
| 153 | But there are times that no matter what | 但有时无论怎样 |
| 154 | you do, no matter how hard you try, you're not going to get it. | 你做,无论你多努力, 你都不会得到它。 |
| 155 | Leave it. | 别管了 |
| 156 | You don't need it. | 你不需要这个 |
| 157 | Respect is a gift. | 尊重是礼. |
| 158 | If somebody wants to give it to you, they will. | 如果有人想给你,他们会的 |
| 159 | And if they don't, they won't. | 如果他们不这样做,他们不会。 |
| 160 | Leave it there. | 放在那边。 |
| 161 | What is your goal? | 你的目标是什么? |
| 162 | Is your goal to execute something? | 你的目标是执行什么? |
| 163 | People are going to come | 人们会来 |
| 164 | along the way. | 沿着路走 |
| 165 | They're going to derail you. | 他们会破坏你的轨道 |
| 166 | They're going to confuse you. | 他们会迷惑你的 |
| 167 | They're going to | 他们打算 |
| 168 | go. | 开始 |
| 169 | Because if you don't pay attention, they're going to pull you off your path. | 因为如果你不注意, 他们会把你拉出你的道路。 |
| 170 | Also, to keep in mind this whole respect thing, trying to get everybody to respect you, speak up. | 另外,为了记住这整个尊重的事情, 试图让每个人都尊重你,说话吧。 |
| 171 | All in the room. | 皆入室内. |
| 172 | Let them see you. | 让他们看到你。 |
| 173 | Why? | 为什么? |
| 174 | Why do you need that? | 你为什么需要这个? |
| 175 | Are you that insecure that you need that | 你是那么的不安全 你需要那个 |
| 176 | from everybody else to validate you so that you know your self-worth? | 为了让你知道你的自我价值? |
| 177 | No, you don't. | 不,你没有。 |
| 178 | That's what | 就这样 |
| 179 | means. | 意味着。 |
| 180 | I know who I am. | 我知道我是谁。 |
| 181 | I know the integrity of who I am and how I show up to the world. | 我知道我是谁的正直,我是如何出现在世界的。 |
| 182 | I'm going to do me in the best way and I will give respect to other people. | 我会尽我所能 尊重别人 |
| 183 | We don't want to | 我们不想 |
| 184 | disrespect others. | 不尊重别人 |
| 185 | We're going to give it because it's the right thing for us and it's the image we | 我们要给它,因为它是正确的事情 对我们来说,这是我们的形象 |
| 186 | want to project out to the world. | 想要向世界投影。 |
| 187 | But what people choose to give you back, not your problem. | 但人们选择给你什么 而不是你的问题 |
| 188 | Please | 请 |
| 189 | don't get me wrong. | 别误会我 |
| 190 | It's nice when people like you. | 像你这样的人真好 |
| 191 | We all want that. | 我们都希望这样。 |
| 192 | It's nice when people respect | 别人尊重你真好 |
| 193 | us. | 我们 |
| 194 | We all want those sentiments and feelings. | 我们都想要这些感情。 |
| 195 | But the problem becomes if you make that your goal | 但如果你把目标变成这样,问题就变成 |
| 196 | and your focus, now you're trying to get into the head of somebody else to understand why they see | 而你的专注, 现在你试图进入别人的头脑 来理解为什么他们看到 |
| 197 | you the way they do. | 你和他们一样 |
| 198 | How about this? | 这个怎么样? |
| 199 | How about you focus on being solid? | 不如你专心于坚固? |
| 200 | How about you focus on being | 不如你专心做个 |
| 201 | on time? | 准时? |
| 202 | How about you focus on doing what you say you're going to do? | 如何是专注作如是言. |
| 203 | How about you focus on being | 不如你专心做个 |
| 204 | respectful and courteous? | 尊敬和礼貌? |
| 205 | How about you focus on all these different things and then allow people | 不如你专注于这些不同的事情 然后允许人们 |
| 206 | to organically show you respect? | 让你有组织地尊重你? |
| 207 | Then allow them to organically like you because otherwise you're | 那就让他们有机地喜欢你 否则你就是 |
| 208 | going to sit and you're going to run through these mental loops in your head and make yourself crazy | 坐在那,你会经历 这些精神循环 在你的脑海里,使自己疯狂 |
| 209 | trying to figure out why does this person not like me? | 想知道为什么这个人不喜欢我? |
| 210 | So this is why you need to kick likeability | 这就是为什么你需要踢 相似性 |
| 211 | to the curb. | 到路边去 |
| 212 | It is not about whether or not people like you because when you focus on that, | 问题不在于人们是否喜欢你 因为当你专注于这一点时 |
| 213 | you're focusing on you and that doesn't serve others and quite frankly it doesn't serve you. | 你专注于你 而这不为别人服务 坦率地说 它不为你服务 |
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