【中英】纳瓦尔：关于人性的44个残酷真相（上）

【中英】纳瓦尔：关于人性的44个残酷真相（上）

发布于 2026-11-06 · 时长 1:35:55

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时间	英文	中文
0:00	Happiness is being satisfied with what you have.	幸福是满足于你所拥有的。
0:03	Success comes from dissatisfaction.	成功来自不满。
0:06	Is success worth it then?	成功值得吗?
0:08	Oof.	欧
0:09	I'm not sure that statement is true anymore.	我不确定这种说法是否属实了
0:12	Like, I made that statement a long time ago,	喜欢,我发表声明 很久以前,
0:14	and a lot of these things are just notes to myself,	而很多这些东西 只是笔记我自己,
0:16	and they're highly contextual, they come in the moment,	他们非常贴近环境,他们来了在那一刻,
0:18	they leave in the moment.	他们马上离开
0:21	Happiness, okay, so very complicated topic,	幸福,好吧,如此复杂的话题,

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序号	英文	中文
1	Happiness is being satisfied with what you have.	幸福是满足于你所拥有的。
2	Success comes from dissatisfaction.	成功来自不满。
3	Is success worth it then?	成功值得吗?
4	Oof.	欧
5	I'm not sure that statement is true anymore.	我不确定这种说法是否属实了
6	Like, I made that statement a long time ago,	喜欢,我发表声明 很久以前,
7	and a lot of these things are just notes to myself,	而很多这些东西 只是笔记我自己,
8	and they're highly contextual, they come in the moment,	他们非常贴近环境,他们来了在那一刻,
9	they leave in the moment.	他们马上离开
10	Happiness, okay, so very complicated topic,	幸福,好吧,如此复杂的话题,
11	but I always like the Socrates story,	但我总是喜欢苏格拉底的故事,
12	where he goes into the marketplace,	在那里他进入市场,
13	and they show him all these luxuries and fineries,	他们昭示他这些奢侈和精华,
14	and he says, how many things there are in this world	他说,世界上有多少东西
15	that I do not want, right?	我不想要,对不对?
16	And that's a form of freedom.	这是自由的一种形式。
17	So not wanting something is as good as having it.	所以,不想要的东西 和拥有它一样好。
18	In the old story with Alexander Dionysius, right?	在与亚历山大·狄奥尼修斯的旧故事中,对不对?
19	Alexander goes out and conquers the world,	亚历山大出去征服世界
20	then he meets Dionysius, who's living in a barrel,	然后他遇见了住在桶里的狄奥尼修斯
21	and Dionysius says, get out of the way,	狄奥尼修斯说 让开
22	you're blocking my son.	你挡住了我儿子
23	And Alexander says, oh, how I wish I could be like Dionysius	亚历山大说,哦,我希望我能像狄奥尼修斯一样
24	in the next life, and Dionysius says, that's the difference,	在来世, 和狄奥尼修斯说, 这就是区别,
25	I don't wish that I could, sorry, Diogenes, Diogenes.	我不希望我能,对不起,狄欧根尼斯,狄欧根尼斯。
26	Diogenes says, I don't wish to be Alexander.	狄欧根尼斯说 我不想做亚历山大
27	So two paths to happiness, and one path is to success,	所以幸福的两条道路 一条道路就是成功
28	you get what you want, you satisfy your material needs,	你得到你想要的, 你满足你的物质需求,
29	or like Diogenes, you just don't want it in the first place.	或者像狄欧根尼斯一样, 你只是不想它在一开始。
30	And I'm not sure which one is more valid.	我不知道哪个更有效
31	And it also depends what you define as success.	这还取决于你对成功的定义。
32	If the end goal is happiness,	如果最终目标是幸福,
33	then why not cut to the chase and just go straight for it?	那为什么不直说吧?
34	Does being happy make you less successful?	快乐让你不那么成功吗?
35	That is a conventional wisdom,	这是一个传统的智慧,
36	that may even be the practical earned experience	甚至可能是实际获得的经验
37	of your reality, you find that when you're happy,	现实中,当你高兴的时候
38	you don't want anything so you don't get up and do anything.	你什么都不想要 所以你不会站起来做任何事
39	On the other hand, you still gotta do something,	另一方面 你还得做点什么
40	you're an animal, you're here, you're here to survive,	你是动物,你在这里,你在这里生存,
41	you're here to replicate, you're driven, you're motivated,	你在这里复制, 你驱动,你动机,
42	you're gonna do something,	你会做一些事情,
43	you're not just gonna sit there all day, unlikely,	你不只是要坐在那里一整天, 不太可能,
44	some people do, maybe it's in their nature,	有些人这样做, 也许这是他们的性质,
45	but I think most people still want to act,	但我认为大多数人仍然想行动,
46	they want to live in the arena.	他们想在竞技场生活
47	I found for myself as I've become,	我发现自己已经变成,
48	happier is a big word, but more peaceful, more calm,	更快乐的是一个大词, 但更平静,更平静,
49	more present, more satisfied with what I have,	更现时,更满意我有什么,
50	I still want to do things, I just want to do bigger things.	我还是想做一些事情 我只是想做一些更大的事情
51	I want to do things that are more pure,	我想做一些更纯洁的事
52	more aligned with what I think needs to be done	更符合我认为需要做的事
53	and what I can uniquely do.	还有我唯一能做的
54	So in that sense, I think that being happier	因此,从这个意义上来说,我认为快乐
55	can actually make you more successful,	其实可以让你更成功
56	but your definition of success	但你对成功的定义
57	will likely change along the way.	可能会在路上改变
58	Is that a realization you think you could have gotten to	这是你意识到 你可以得到
59	had you have not had some success in the first place?	你一开始就没有成功吗?
60	At least for me, I always wanted to take the path	至少对我来说 我一直想走这条路
61	of material success first.	首先是物质上的成功
62	I was not going to go be an ascetic	我本来不想当个毒贩
63	and sit there and renounce everything.	坐在那里,放弃一切。
64	That just seems too unrealistic and too painful.	这似乎太不现实和太痛苦了。
65	In the story of Buddha, he starts out as a prince,	在佛陀的故事中,他从王子开始
66	and then he sees that it's all kind of meaningless	然后他发现这一切毫无意义
67	because you're still gonna get old and die,	因为你还是会老死
68	and then he goes into the woods looking for something more.	然后他进入树林寻找更多东西。
69	I'll take the happy route	我会走幸福的道路
70	that involves material success, thank you.	这涉及到物质上的成功,谢谢。
71	I think it's quicker in some ways.	我觉得在某些方面会更快
72	One of your insights is it's far easier to achieve	你的一个见解是: 要做到这样容易得多
73	our material desires than it is to renounce them.	我们的物质欲望 而不是放弃它们
74	It depends on the person,	这取决于一个人,
75	but I think you have to try that path.	但我认为你必须尝试那条路。
76	If you want something, go get it.	如果你想要东西,就去拿
77	I quipped that the reason to win the game	我打赌赢球的理由
78	is to be free of it.	是要摆脱它。
79	So you play the games, you win the games,	所以,你玩游戏, 你赢得游戏,
80	and then hopefully you get bored of the games.	然后希望你对游戏感到厌烦。
81	You don't want to just keep looping on the same game	你不想只 保持循环相同的游戏
82	over and over, although a lot of these games	一遍又一遍,虽然很多这样的游戏
83	are very enticing and have many levels	很有诱惑力,并且有很多层次
84	and are relatively open-ended.	并且相对开放。
85	And then you become free of the game	然后你就不再玩游戏了
86	in the sense that you're no longer trying to win it.	你不再试图赢得它
87	You know you can win it,	你知道你可以赢得它,
88	and either you move to a different game	或移动到不同的游戏
89	or you play the game for the sheer joy of it.	或者你玩游戏是为了它的快乐
90	Another one of yours, most of the gains in life	又一个,你的生活大部分收益
91	come from suffering in the short term	短期内受苦受难
92	so you can get paid in the long term, I think.	这样你就可以长期得到报酬了
93	That's classic.	这是经典。
94	Winning the marshmallow test on a daily basis.	每日赢得棉花糖测试.
95	But there's an interesting challenge	但有一个有趣的挑战
96	where I think people need to avoid	我觉得人们需要避开的地方
97	becoming a suffering addict,	成为一个痛苦的瘾君子,
98	sort of using suffering as the proxy for progress	将痛苦作为进步的代名词
99	as opposed to the outcome of the suffering, right?	而不是痛苦的结果,对不对?
100	It's like I was in pain not eating the marshmallow.	我好像很痛苦,没吃棉花糖
101	I was in pain doing this work.	我做这个工作很痛苦
102	I have attached wellbeing and satisfaction to pain,	我将幸福和满足与痛苦联系在一起
103	not to what the pain gets me on the other side of it.	而不是痛苦让我在另一边。
104	If you define pain as physical pain,	如果你把痛苦定义为身体痛苦
105	then it's a real thing.	那这是真的
106	It happens and you can't ignore it.	它发生,你不能忽视它。
107	But that's not what we mean by suffering.	但我们不是说痛苦
108	Suffering is mostly mental anguish and mental pain.	痛苦主要是精神痛苦和精神痛苦。
109	And it just means you don't wanna do the task at hand.	它只是表示你不想 完成手头的任务。
110	If you were fine doing the task at hand,	如果你能胜任手头的任务
111	then you wouldn't be suffering.	那你就不会受苦了
112	And then the question is what's more effective	然后问题是,什么是更有效的
113	to suffer along the way	一路受苦受难
114	or just to interpret it in a way that is not suffering?	或者只是用不痛苦的方式解释它?
115	You hear from a lot of successful people,	你听到很多成功的人说
116	they look back and they say,	他们回头看,他们说,
117	oh, the journey was a fun part, right?	旅途很愉快,对吧?
118	That was actually the entertaining part	这其实是娱乐部分
119	and I should have enjoyed it more.	我应该更享受的
120	It's a common regret.	常见悔过.
121	There's a little thought exercise I like to do,	我想做点思考练习
122	which is you can go back into your own life	那就是你可以回到自己的生活中
123	and try to put yourself in the exact position	并尝试让自己 在准确的位置
124	you were in five years ago, 10 years ago,	你在五年前,十年前,
125	15 years ago, 20 years ago.	15年前, 20年前。
126	And you try to remember, okay, who was I with?	你试着记住 我和谁在一起?
127	What was I doing?	我当时在做什么?
128	What was I feeling?	我是什么感觉?
129	What were my emotions?	我的情绪是什么?
130	What were my objectives?	我的目标是什么?
131	And really try to transport yourself back	并真正尝试 运输自己回来
132	and see if there's any advice you'd give yourself,	看看你有没有建议
133	anything you'd do differently.	任何你会做的不同。
134	Now, you don't have new information.	现在,你没有新的信息。
135	Don't pretend you could have gone back	别假装你可能回去了
136	and bought a stock or bought Bitcoin or whatever.	还买了股票或者买比特币什么的
137	But just knowing what you know now	但只是知道你现在知道什么
138	in terms of your temperament	从你的脾气来看
139	and a little bit of age related experience,	和一些与年龄有关的经验,
140	how would you have done things differently?	你怎么会做不同的事情?
141	And I think it's a worthwhile exercise to do.	我认为这是值得的练习。
142	So don't let me rob you of the conclusion,	所以,不要让我抢你的结论,
143	but I'll tell you for me,	但我会告诉你,
144	I would have done everything the same	我也会做同样的事情
145	except I would have done it with less anger,	除非我少点愤怒
146	less emotion, less internal suffering	少一点感情,少一点内部痛苦
147	because that was optional.	因为那是可选的。
148	It wasn't necessary.	没必要
149	And I would argue that someone who can do the job	而我会说,谁能做这个工作
150	at least peacefully, but maybe happily	至少和平,但也许快乐
151	{\fn黑体\fs22\bord1\shad0\3aHBE\4aH00\fscx67\fscy66\2cHFFFFFF\3cH808080}会更加有效的
152	than someone who has unnecessary emotional turmoil.	而不是一个不必要情绪动荡的人
153	Well, you end up with a series of miserable successes, right?	你最后会得到一系列不幸的成功 对吧?
154	The outcome may have been the same,	结果可能是一样的
155	but the entire experience of getting there.	但整个经验 到达那里。
156	And the journey is not only the reward,	旅途不仅是报酬,
157	the journey is the only thing there is.	旅行是唯一的东西。
158	Even success, it's human nature	即使成功,也是人类的本性
159	to bank it very, very quickly, right?	以非常,非常快的银行,对不对?
160	Because the normal loop that we run through	因为我们所经历的正常循环
161	is you sit around, you're bored,	你坐在这里,你无聊,
162	then you want something,	然后,你想的东西,
163	then when you want something,	当你想要的东西,
164	you decide you're not gonna be happy	你决定你不会快乐
165	until you get that thing.	直到你得到那个东西。
166	Then you start your bout of suffering or anticipation	然后开始你的痛苦或期待
167	while you strive to get that thing.	当你努力得到它。
168	If you get that thing, then you get used to it,	如果你得到的东西, 然后你习惯了它,
169	and then you get bored again,	然后你又变得无聊了
170	then a few months later, you want something else.	几个月后,你想要别的东西
171	And if you don't get it, then you're unhappy for a bit,	如果你得不到它, 那么你不高兴一点点,
172	and then you get over it,	然后你克服了它,
173	then you want something else, right?	那你想要别的,对吧?
174	That's the normal cycle.	这是正常的循环。
175	So whether you're happy or unhappy at the end,	所以不管你最后是快乐还是不快乐
176	it tends not to last.	它不会持续。
177	Now, I don't wanna be glib and say that,	现在,我不想成为glib说,
178	oh, there's no point in making money or being successful.	赚钱或成功都没用
179	There absolutely is.	当然有
180	Money solves all your money problems.	钱能解决你所有的钱问题
181	So it is good to have money.	有钱是好事
182	That said, there are those stories.	说来话长
183	I don't know if you've seen those studies.	我不知道你有没有看过这些研究
184	I don't know how real these are.	我不知道这些有多真实
185	A lot of these psych studies don't replicate,	很多这些心理研究没有复制,
186	but it's a fun little study	但它是一个有趣的小研究
187	that shows that people who break their back	显示有人 打破他们的背
188	and people who win the lottery	和中奖的人
189	are back to their baseline happiness two years later.	两年后,他们恢复了基本幸福
190	Again, I don't know if that's entirely true.	再说一遍 我不知道这是否完全正确
191	I think money can buy you happiness if you earned it,	我认为钱可以买你幸福 如果你赢得它,
192	because then along the way,	因为那时,
193	you have both pride and confidence in yourself,	你对自己既自豪又自信,
194	and you have a sense of accomplishment,	你有一种成就感,
195	and you set out to do something and you were right.	你开始做一些事情 你是对的
196	So I'll bet that lingers.	所以,我敢打赌, 停留。
197	And then, as I said, money solves your money problems.	然后,正如我所说,钱可以解决你的钱问题。
198	So I don't wanna be too glib about it,	所以,我不想太glib 关于它,
199	but I would say in general,	但我总的说,
200	this loop that we run through of desire, dopamine,	这个循环,我们通过欲望,多巴胺,
201	fulfillment, unfulfillment.	实现,不实现.
202	Like you have to enjoy the journey.	就像你必须享受旅程一样
203	The journey is all there is, right?	旅程是所有,对不对?
204	99% of your time is spent on the journey.	99%的时间都在旅途中度过.
205	So what kind of a journey is it	所以这是什么样的旅程
206	if you're not gonna enjoy it?	如果你不喜欢的话?
207	How do you shortcut that desire contract?	你怎么捷径 欲望契约?
208	You could focus.	你可以专心
209	You could decide that I don't want most things.	你可以决定我不要很多东西
210	I think we have a lot of unnecessary desires	我觉得我们有很多不必要的欲望
211	that we just pick up everywhere.	我们只是到处捡。
212	We have opinions on everything, judgments on everything.	我们有关于一切的意见, 判断一切。
213	So I think just knowing that those are the source	所以我觉得只要知道这些是来源
214	of unhappiness will make you be choosy about your desires.	不幸福会让你对自己的欲望感到羞耻
215	And frankly, if you wanna be successful,	老实说 如果你想成功
216	you have to be choosy about your desires.	你必须挑剔你的欲望。
217	You have to focus.	你得专心
218	You can't be great at everything.	你不可能在一切方面都很好
219	You're just gonna waste your energy and waste your time.	你会浪费你的精力 浪费你的时间。
220	Is fame a worthwhile goal?	名声是值得的吗?
221	It gets you invited to better parties.	它让你被邀请参加更好的聚会。
222	Gets you to better restaurants.	让你去更好的餐厅
223	Fame, so fame is this funny thing	名气,名声这么好笑
224	where a lot of people know you, but you don't know them.	很多人认识你 但你不认识他们
225	And it does get you put on the pedestal.	它确实让你穿上了台阶。
226	It can get you what you want at a distance.	它能让你得到你想要的远处。
227	So I wouldn't say it's worthless.	所以我不会说没有价值
228	Obviously, people want it for a reason.	显然,人们想要它是有原因的。
229	It's high status, so it attracts the opposite sex,	地位很高,所以吸引异性
230	especially for men, it attracts women.	尤其对男人来说,它吸引了女性。
231	That said, it is high cost.	尽管如此,费用很高。
232	It means you have no privacy.	这意味着你没有隐私。
233	You do have weirdos and lunatics.	你有怪人和疯子
234	You do get hit up a lot for weird things.	你确实经常因为奇怪的事情而被打
235	And you're on a stage, so you're forced to perform.	而你在舞台上,所以被迫表演.
236	So you're forced to be consistent	所以你不得不坚持
237	with your past proclamations and actions,	与你的过去宣言和行动,
238	and you're gonna have haters and all that nonsense.	你会有仇恨者 和所有的废话。
239	But the fact that we do it,	但事实上,我们这样做,
240	the fact that we all seem to want it,	我们似乎都想要这个事实,
241	means that it would be disingenuous to say,	意思是说,
242	oh, no, no, I'm famous, but you don't wanna be famous.	哦,不,不,我出名了, 但你不想出名。
243	That said, I think fame, like anything else,	也就是说,我认为名声, 像任何其他,
244	is best produced as a, or pursued as a byproduct	最佳生产,或作为副产品追求
245	of something potentially more worthwhile.	可能更有价值的东西。
246	Wanting to be famous and craving to be famous	想出名 渴望出名
247	and being famous for being famous,	并因出名而出名,
248	these are sort of traps.	这些都是陷阱
249	Fame for fame's sake.	名为名故.
250	Yeah, exactly.	没错
251	So it's better that it's earned fame.	故宜以得名为业.
252	So for example, earned respect in the tribe	比如,在部落里赢得了尊重
253	is you do things that are good for the tribe.	你是在为部落做好事吗?
254	Who are the most famous people in human history?	谁是人类历史上最有名的人?
255	There are people who sort of transcended the self,	有些人有点超越了自我
256	the Buddhas and the Jesuses and the Muhammads of the world.	诸佛及诸耶稣及世间穆罕默德.
257	Who else is famous?	还有谁出名?
258	The artists are famous.	艺术家声名大噪.
259	Art lasts for a long time.	艺术持续了很长时间.
260	The scientists are famous.	科学家闻名.
261	They discover things.	他们发现了一些东西。
262	The conquerors are famous,	征服者是著名的,
263	presumably because they conquered for their tribe.	可能是因为他们为部落而征服。
264	There was someone that they were fighting for.	他们为某人而战
265	So generally, the higher up you rise	一般来说,你升得越高
266	by doing things for greater and greater groups of people,	为更多和更多的人做事
267	even though it may be considered tyrannical or negative,	即使它可能被认为是暴虐或阴性,
268	like Genghis Khan is famous,	就像成吉思汗出名一样
269	but to the Mongols, he was doing good.	但是对蒙古人来说,他做得很好
270	To the rest of them, not so much.	对其余的来说,不是太多。
271	The higher level you're operating at,	你的操作水平越高
272	the more people you're taking care of,	你照顾的人越多
273	the more you sort of earn respect and fame.	你赢得了更多的尊重和名声。
274	And I think those are good reasons to be famous.	我认为这些是出名的好理由。
275	If fame is empty, if you're famous	如果名声是空的,如果你是出名的
276	just because your name showed up in a lot of places	就因为你的名字出现在很多地方
277	or your face showed up in a lot of places,	或者你的脸出现在很多地方,
278	then that's a hollow fame.	那这是个空洞的名声
279	And I think deep down, you will know that.	我深思熟虑 你会知道的
280	And so it'll be fragile	所以它会变得脆弱
281	and you'll always be afraid of losing it.	你会永远害怕失去它。
282	And then you'll be forced to perform.	后又强迫演出.
283	So the kind of fame that pure actors	所以那种名声 纯洁的演员
284	and celebrities have, I wouldn't want,	和名人有, 我不想,
285	but the kind of fame that's earned	但这种名声是赢得的
286	because you did something useful, why dodge that?	因为你做了一些有用的事 为什么要逃避?
287	There's a challenge, I think,	有个挑战,我想,
288	especially if people make very loud	特别是如果人们大声地说
289	public proclamations about things.	公开宣布的事情。
290	You mentioned there about,	你刚才提到,
291	you're almost a hostage to the things that you used to say,	你几乎是一个人质 你过去说的话,
292	that being able to update your opinions	能够更新你的意见
293	and change your mind looks very similar	改变你的想法看起来非常相似
294	to the internet as hypocrisy does.	和虚伪的网络一样
295	No, the difference between me saying something in the past	不,我以前说的话不同
296	and saying something different now is,	说一些不同的是,
297	perhaps I've learned, perhaps I've updated my beliefs,	也许我学到了,也许我已经更新了我的信仰,
298	but so few people do it in a legitimate way.	但很少有人以合法的方式这样做。
299	I think that the grifter shill,	我认为,骗子 sill,
300	you see, this is the smoking gun that shows	你看,这是烟枪显示
301	that he didn't really believe that thing all along.	他一直不相信这件事
302	And yeah, I went to a retreat in LA a couple of years ago	是的,我几年前去洛杉矶的退伍
303	and there was a guy that I used to follow,	有个家伙,我曾经跟踪,
304	a big business and productivity advice,	大型商业和生产力建议,
305	content creator, really, really successful.	内容创建者,真的,真的很成功。
306	And he just totally stepped back from everything	他完全放弃了一切
307	and went like monk mode and focused on his business.	然后像和尚模式一样 专注于他的生意
308	I asked him why and he said,	我问他为什么 他说
309	I started feeling like I had to live up to in private	我开始感觉我不得不私下生活
310	the things that I was saying in public.	我当众说的话
311	Yeah, it's a, what was it then?	是啊,这是一个,是什么呢?
312	Who said it was a Menken that a foolish consistency	谁说这是个孟肯 愚蠢的一致性
313	is a hobgoblin of little minds, right?	是一个小头脑的霍布林,对不对?
314	But essentially, look, all life is,	但基本上,看,所有的生活是,
315	all learning is error correction, right?	所有学习都是错的,对吗?
316	Every knowledge creation system	每个知识创造系统
317	works through correcting errors,	工作通过纠正错误,
318	making guesses and correcting errors.	猜测和纠正错误。
319	So by definition, if you're learning,	所以说,如果你在学习,
320	you're gonna be wrong most of the time	你大部分时间都会错的
321	and you'll be updating your priors.	你会更新你的前科。
322	And so, for example, I did this Joe Rogan podcast,	比如说 我做了乔·罗根播客
323	I don't know, it was like eight or nine years ago.	我不知道,这就像八九年前。
324	And people will call out like the one thing	人们会喊出来 像一件事
325	that didn't turn out to be correct, right?	事实并非如此,对不对?
326	And it's just like, and they just beat on it	就像,他们只是打它
327	because it helps them in their mind	因为这能帮助他们思考
328	raise their status a little bit.	提高他们的地位一点点。
329	Aha, I caught him in an error.	啊哈,我发现他犯错了
330	Well, I think if you catch someone in a blatant lie	好吧,我想如果你抓住一个人 在公然的谎言
331	where there's believe one thing and they say another,	相信一件事 他们又说另一件事
332	that's legit, that's a character flaw.	这是合法的, 这是一个性格缺陷。
333	They shouldn't be lying.	他们不应该撒谎。
334	But on the other hand,	但另一方面,
335	if they just made a guess at something	如果他们只是猜测
336	and they got it wrong, and by the way,	他们弄错了,顺便说一句,
337	mostly it's about the AI, AGI thing.	大部分是关于AI,AGI的事情.
338	And I think I'm still right about that.	我觉得我还是是对的。
339	But it's a different story.	却作别传.
340	People who think we have achieved AGI	认为我们实现了AGI的人
341	just fail the Turing test from their side.	只是没有通过图灵测试 从他们一方。
342	It's funny how people latch on to single proclamations,	有趣的是人们是如何 紧紧抓住单一的公告,
343	but the reality is all of us are dynamical systems.	但现实是我们所有人都是动态系统。
344	We're always changing, we're always learning,	我们总是在改变 我们总是在学习
345	we're always growing,	我们总是在成长,
346	and hopefully we're correcting errors.	希望我们在纠正错误
347	What you don't wanna be doing is lying in public	你不想做的是当众撒谎
348	because you're trying to look good.	因为你看起来很帅
349	And I think people can smell that.	我想人们能闻到这种味道
350	What this world really lacks right now is authenticity.	这个世界现在真正缺乏的是真实性。
351	And because everybody wants something,	因为每个人都想要的东西,
352	they wanna be seen as something,	他们想被看成是什么东西,
353	they wanna be something that they're not.	他们想成为他们不是的东西。
354	And so you do catch a lot of people	所以,你确实抓住很多人
355	saying things that they don't really believe.	说一些他们不相信的事
356	And I think people are very sensitive to that.	我认为人们对此非常敏感。
357	Bullshit radars have become hypersensitized	废话雷达已经超敏化了
358	to try and work out whether or not	尝试并研究是否
359	this person means the thing that they're saying.	这个人是他们要说的
360	Yeah, I mean, a lot of people are wrong.	是啊,我的意思是,很多人是错的。
361	Most of us are wrong most of the time,	我们大多数时候都是错的
362	especially in any new endeavor.	尤其是在任何新的努力中
363	Difference between being wrong and disingenuous.	分别是错是假.
364	Purposefully wrong.	故意错了
365	Correct, exactly.	没错
366	So I think that's the big difference.	所以,我认为这是很大的区别。
367	If someone is wrong, no big deal,	如果有人错了 没什么大不了的
368	as long as they have a genuine reason	只要他们有真正的理由
369	for saying what they're saying	因为说了他们说的话
370	or believing what they're believing.	或者相信他们所相信的
371	But if they are lying to elevate their status	如果他们是说谎以提升自己的地位,
372	or their appearance or to live up to some expectation,	或出现,或满足某种期望,
373	that's the mistake.	这是错误的。
374	And that's a mistake not just for the listener,	这不仅仅是听众的错误
375	it's a mistake for themselves	這對自己來說是個錯誤
376	because then you're gonna get trapped in a hall of mirrors.	因为那样你就会被困在镜子的大厅里
377	You yourself are gonna be consistent	你自己会坚持的
378	with your past proclamations.	与你的过去宣言。
379	So if you're lying to others,	所以如果你在骗别人
380	you're gonna be lying to yourself.	你会骗自己的
381	You're puppeted by a person that you are not even.	你被一个你根本不是的人所傀儡
382	That's right, yeah.	没错
383	It's like, what was that line?	这就像,是什么台词?
384	You're basically trying to impress people	你根本就是想讨人喜欢
385	who don't care about you.	谁不在乎你。
386	They don't like the real you	他们不喜欢真正的你
387	and if they saw the real you, they wouldn't care.	如果他们看到真正的你, 他们不会在乎。
388	And the people who would like the real you	以及那些想要真正的你的人
389	don't get to see the real you, so they pass you by.	不要看到真正的你, 所以他们通过你。
390	Right, you only want the respect	对,你只想得到尊重
391	of the very, very few people that you respect.	你所尊重的人很少
392	Trying to demand respect from the masses	试图要求群众尊重
393	is the fools they're in.	他们的傻瓜。
394	Status games, the allure of accruing,	状态游戏, 创造的诱惑,
395	whether it's fame, actual fame,	不管是名声还是名声
396	or just the competition comparison trap, it's always there.	或者只是竞争比较陷阱, 它总是在那里。
397	There's a real drawer of being swayed by social approval.	有一个真正的抽屉 摇摆的社会批准。
398	How should people learn to get less distracted	人们应该如何学会少分心
399	by status games in that way?	通过状态游戏的方式?
400	I think it just helps to see that status games	我觉得这只有助于看状态游戏
401	don't matter as much as they used to.	别跟以前一样重要
402	In old society, let's go back hunter gatherer times,	在旧社会,让我们回到猎人收集时间,
403	there was no such thing as wealth.	世上没有财富
404	You just had what you could carry.	你刚刚有你能带的东西。
405	There was no stored wealth.	没有储存的财富。
406	So wealth games didn't really exist	所以财富游戏并不存在
407	to wealth creation games.	到创造财富的游戏。
408	All that existed was status games.	仅存的是状态游戏。
409	If you were high status,	如果你地位高的话
410	then you got what little was available first.	然后,你得到了什么是 少先有。
411	But even back then, you had to earn your status	但即使在那个时候,你也必须获得自己的地位
412	by taking care of the tribe.	通过照顾部落。
413	Now we have wealth creation,	现在我们有了财富创造,
414	where you can actually create a product or a service.	在那里,你可以实际创建一个产品或服务。
415	You can scale that product or service	你可以量度产品或服务
416	and you can provide abundance for a lot of people.	你可以为许多人提供丰富的食物。
417	And that's not zero sum, that's a positive sum game.	这不是零和,这是一个正和游戏。
418	I can be wealthy, you can be wealthy,	我有钱,你有钱
419	we can create things together.	我们可以一起创造东西。
420	And clearly, since we are all collectively	很明显,因为我们都是集体的
421	far, far wealthier than we were in hunter gatherer times,	远比我们猎人收集时间更富有
422	wealth creation is positive, but status is limited.	创造财富是积极的,但地位有限。
423	There's limited status to go around.	有有限的地位去绕.
424	It's a ranking ladder, it's a hierarchy.	排名阶梯,等级分明.
425	And so to rise in status,	为了提升地位
426	somebody else has a lower end status.	别人有低端状态。
427	Now you can have multiple kinds of status.	现在,你可以有多种状态。
428	So you can expand some kinds of status,	这样你就可以扩大一些地位
429	but it's not like wealth creation	但不像创造财富
430	where it can go infinitely, where we can all be,	在那里,它可以去 无限,我们都可以,
431	living in the stars and moon bases	生活在恒星和月球基地
432	or Mars colonies or what have you.	或者火星殖民地 或者你有什么
433	So just realize the status games are inherently limited.	所以,只要意识到状态游戏本身是有限的。
434	They're always combative.	他们总是有战斗力的
435	They always require direct combat.	他们总是需要直接战斗。
436	Whereas wealth creation games can be	而创造财富的游戏
437	just you're creating products.	只是你正在创造产品。
438	You don't have to fight anybody else.	你不必跟别人打架
439	Yes, in the marketplace, your product has succeed,	是的,在市场上,你的产品已经成功,
440	but that's not quite the same as	但是这和
441	invective against other people	对他人的报复
442	or being angry with other people	或生别人的气
443	or feeling pushed down or pushed up	或感觉被推倒或推倒
444	or having a beef with somebody.	或者跟别人吃牛肉
445	So I would argue that wealth creation games	所以我认为财富创造游戏
446	are both more pleasant.	都比较愉快
447	They're positive some,	他们是积极的一些,
448	and they actually have concrete material returns.	他们实际上有 具体的物质回报。
449	If you have more money, you can buy more things.	如果你有更多的钱,你可以买更多的东西。
450	Show me where you can exchange your status at the bank.	告诉我你在哪里可以交换 在银行的地位。
451	Exactly, yeah, it's vague and it's fuzzy.	没错,很模糊,很模糊
452	Now you see people get rich.	现在你看到人们发财了
453	They have money, what do they want?	他们有钱,他们想要什么?
454	They want status.	他们想要地位。
455	So they go to Hollywood, start starring in movies.	于是他们去了好莱坞,开始主演电影.
456	They donate to nonprofits.	他们向非营利组织捐款。
457	They go to cans or Davos or what have you.	他们去罐头或达沃斯 或者你有什么。
458	And they start trying to trade the money for status.	他们开始用钱换身份
459	So people always want what they don't have.	所以人们总是想要自己没有的东西.
460	And we are evolutionarily hardwired for status	我们进化的硬线地位
461	because as I said, wealth creation didn't really exist	因为我说过 财富创造并不存在
462	until the agricultural revolution,	直到农业革命,
463	when you could store grain	当你可以储存谷物时
464	and then the industrial revolution took it to another level	然后工业革命把它带到另一个层次
465	and now the information age is taking it to yet another level.	而现在信息时代 正在把它带到另一个层次。
466	But there's never been an easier time to make money.	但从未有过更轻松的时间赚钱.
467	Yes, it's still hard,	是的,它仍然很难,
468	but there's never been an easier time to create wealth	但创造财富的时机从未如此轻松过
469	because there's so much leverage out there.	因为有这么多杠杆在那里。
470	There's so much opportunity.	有这么多的机会。
471	You still have to go find it.	你还得去找它
472	It's not easy.	岂不易哉.
473	It's not gonna fall on your lap	它不会落在你的腿上
474	and you have to learn something and know something	你必须学一些东西,知道一些东西
475	and do something interesting.	做点有趣的事
476	But nevertheless, it's possible to many more people.	不过,这对更多的人来说是可能的。
477	A few hundred years ago, you were born a serf,	几百年前,你出生的农奴,
478	you were gonna die a serf.	你会死一个农奴。
479	There was almost no way out of that.	几乎没有出路。
480	That's changed.	情况变了
481	And so I would argue that you're better off focusing	所以我认为你最好集中精神
482	on wealth games and status games.	关于财富游戏和地位游戏。
483	If you're trying to build up, for example,	如果你试图建立,例如,
484	you're following on a social network and get famous	你跟踪一个社交网络 并变得出名
485	and then get rich off of being famous,	然后因为出名而发财
486	that's a much harder path than getting rich first.	这条路比先发财难得多
487	And then go for your fame afterwards would be my advice.	然后去取你的名声 之后会是我的建议。
488	Well, a lot of people do that, as you said.	嗯,很多人这样做,正如你说的。
489	It's funny how people who have achieved such a level	滑稽的是,谁已经达到这样的水平
490	of wealth, you don't think, why do you need the status?	财富,你不认为, 为什么你需要地位?
491	Given that most people use status to then try	鉴于大多数人使用状态 然后尝试
492	and cash in to achieve wealth.	以现金换取财富。
493	If you've achieved fucking money already,	如果你已经得到了他妈的钱,
494	if you're post-money or asset heavy, as it's known,	如果你是后钱或资产重, 众所周知,
495	why are you trying to go in the other direction?	你为什么要往另一个方向走?
496	Well, as you said, because we've got an illustrious history	就像你说的,因为我们有辉煌的历史
497	biologically of wanting status and wealth is kind of novel.	从生物学上来说,缺乏地位和财富是种新奇。
498	It新.
499	Wealth is something that you have to understand	财富是你们必须明白的
500	more intellectually.	更有智识.
501	Yeah, there's a physical component, more food, more survival,	是的,有一个物理成分, 更多的食物,更多的生存,
502	but to truly understand the effects and the powers	但真正理解影响和权力
503	and the abilities and limitations and the advantages	能力、限制和优势
504	and disadvantages of wealth,	和财富的亏损,
505	you have to use your neocortex a lot more.	你必须多用你的新科特克斯。
506	Does that mean?	这是什么意思?
507	It's not limbic.	亦非毗卢遮那.
508	The reason to play the game is to win the game	玩游戏是为了赢游戏
509	and be done with it is harder to win and be done with	和完成它 很难赢得和完成
510	for status than it is for wealth?	地位比财富还重要吗?
511	That's a good observation.	善观察.
512	I hadn't thought that through, but you're right.	我没想清楚 但你是对的
513	Yeah, I think that's right.	是的,我想这是正确的。
514	I think people will always want more status,	我认为人们总是想要更多的地位,
515	but I think you can be satisfied at a certain level of wealth.	但我认为你可以满足于某种程度的财富。
516	Well, as well, you always have this sort of sense,	你总是有这种感觉
517	and this is what leaderboards are, right?	这就是领导板,对不对?
518	This is the iTunes billboard chart,	这是iTunes公告牌图表,
519	and it is zero sum, and it is, I guess,	这是零和, 我猜,
520	the Forbes richest people on the planet.	福布斯最富有的人 在地球上。
521	Yeah, that one's harder to climb the ladder on,	是啊,那个更难爬上梯子,
522	但事实上,例如iTunes和YouTube
523	can put you in competition against your contemporaries	可以让你与时局竞争
524	every single day and make you go up and down	每天让你上下
525	and show you likes and comments and ratings.	并显示你喜欢 评论和收视率。
526	This is how much you fell.	这就是你跌了多少。
527	This is how much you're up.	这是多少你起来。
528	Exactly.	没错
529	They'll keep you running on that treadmill forever.	他们会让你永远在跑步车上跑步
530	Jimmy Carr has this cool idea where he says	吉米・卡尔有一个很酷的想法 他说
531	trajectory is more important than position.	轨迹比位置更重要
532	So if you are number 101 in the world,	如果你是世界上第101个
533	but last year you were number 200,	但是去年你是第200个
534	versus you're number two in the world,	与你的世界第二,
535	but last year you were number one,	但去年你还是第一
536	there is this sense of the deceleration	有一种减速的感觉
537	is very, very tangible.	非常,非常明显。
538	Again, it goes back to evolution.	再次,它回到进化。
539	Something that is bleeding eventually dies	最终会死
540	unless you stop the bleeding.	除非你能止血 否则你就会死
541	So you're hardwired not to lose what you have.	所以,你硬线 不失去你所拥有的。
542	And because we evolved in conditions	因为我们在条件上进化
543	where we're so close to just not surviving,	我们差一点就活不下去
544	you don't want to give anything up.	你不想放弃任何东西。
545	It's hardwired into us to not give anything up.	我们很难不放弃任何东西
546	So you grip tightly.	所以,你紧紧抓住。
547	That's right.	没错
548	If you struggle to stay asleep	如果你挣扎着睡着
549	because your body gets too hot or too cold,	因为你的身体太热或太冷
550	this is going to help.	这会有所帮助。
551	Just add an eight-sleep Pod4 Ultra to your mattress	在你的床垫上加一个八声睡波德4 Ultra
552	like a fitted sheet, and it will automatically cool down	犹如一个固定的床单,它会自动降温,
553	or warm up each side of your bed up to 20 degrees.	或者让你的床每边暖和20度
554	It's got integrated sensors that track your sleep time,	它有集成传感器 跟踪你的睡眠时间,
555	your sleep phases, your HRV, your snoring,	你的睡眠阶段,你的HRV,你的打呼噜,
556	and your heart rate with 99% accuracy.	你的心率99%准确
557	It even starts cooling or heating your bed	甚至开始冷却或暖暖床
558	an hour before you get into it.	在你进入前一小时
559	That is why eight-sleep has been clinically proven	所以8号睡眠被临床证明
560	to increase total sleep up to one hour every night.	每天晚上都睡一个小时
561	Best of all, they've got a 30-day sleep trial.	最好的,他们有一个30天的睡眠试验。
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571	The worst outcome in the world is not having self-esteem.	世界上最糟糕的结果是没有自尊心。
572	Yeah, it's a tough one.	是啊,这是一个艰难的。
573	I look at the people and I don't want to offend anybody,	我看着人民 我不想冒犯任何人
574	but I look at the people who don't like themselves	但我看着不喜欢自己的人
575	and that's the toughest slot	这是最难的插槽
576	because they're always wrestling with themselves	因为他们总是自相残杀
577	and it's hard enough to face the outside world.	面对外界是够困难的
578	And no one's going to like you more than you like yourself.	没有人会比你更喜欢你自己
579	So if you're struggling with yourself,	所以,如果你在挣扎自己,
580	then the outside world becomes an insurmountable challenge.	然后,外部世界成为一个无法克服的挑战。
581	And it's hard to say why people have low self-esteem.	亦难说众生自卑之因.
582	It might be genetic, it might just be circumstantial.	可能是遗传性的,只是间接的
583	A lot of times I think it's because they just weren't	很多时候我认为这是因为他们不是
584	unconditionally loved as a child	小时候无条件的爱
585	and that sort of seeps in at a deep core level.	那种深层核心层的渗漏
586	But self-esteem issues can be the most limiting.	但自尊问题可能是最有限的。
587	One interesting thought is that,	一个有趣的想法是,
588	to some extent, self-esteem is a reputation	在某种程度上,自尊是一种名誉
589	you have with yourself.	你拥有自己。
590	You're watching yourself at all times,	你时刻都在看着自己
591	you know what you're doing	你知道你在做什么吗?
592	and you have your own moral code.	你有自己的道德准则。
593	Everyone has a different moral code.	每个人都有不同的道德规范。
594	But if you don't live up to your own moral code,	但是如果你不遵守自己的道德准则
595	the same code that you hold others to,	和你所持有的密码一样,
596	it will damage your self-esteem.	这将损害你的自尊。
597	So perhaps one way to build up your self-esteem	因此,也许一种方法 建立你的自尊
598	is to live up to your own code.	即遵守你自己的密码
599	Very rigorously have one and then live up to it.	非常严格地拥有一个,然后做到这一点。
600	Another way to raise your self-esteem	另一种提高自尊的方法
601	might be to do things for others.	也许是为了别人
602	If I look back on my life	如果我回头看我的生活
603	and what are the moments that I'm actually proud of,	我真正引以为荣的时刻是什么
604	there's very far and few between.	距离很远 之间也很少
605	And it's not that often,	也没那么频繁
606	it's not the things you would expect.	这不是你所期望的
607	It's not the material success,	这不是物质上的成功,
608	it's not having learned this thing or that.	它不是已经学会了这个或那个东西。
609	It's when I made a sacrifice for somebody	是我为某人牺牲的时候
610	or something that I loved.	或者我爱的东西
611	And that's when I'm actually ironically most proud.	这时,我实际上 讽刺地感到最骄傲。
612	Now that's through an explicit mental exercise,	现在,这是通过 一个明显的心理运动,
613	but I'll bet you at some level	但我敢打赌,你一定在某种程度上
614	I'm recording that implicitly.	我隐含地录下了这个
615	So that tells me that even if I am not being loved	所以,这告诉我,即使我没有被爱
616	and the way to create love is to give love,	创造爱的方式就是给予爱,
617	to express love through sacrifice and through duty.	通过牺牲和义务表达爱情
618	And so I think doing things like that	所以我想做这样的事情
619	can build up your self-esteem really fast.	能很快地建立自尊心
620	It's interesting when you talk about sacrifice	说到牺牲是很有趣的
621	because a lot of the time people say,	因为很多人说,
622	why sacrifice so much for my job?	为什么要为我的工作牺牲这么多?
623	It's like, yeah, but that was you sacrificing something	这就像,是的,但那是你牺牲的东西
624	that you wanted less for something that you wanted more	你更想要的东西
625	as opposed to genuinely taking some sort of cost.	而不是真正承担某种费用。
626	And yeah, I wonder whether if self-esteem	是的,我想知道,如果自尊
627	is you adhering to your internal,	你们是坚忍的,
628	your actions and your values aligning,	您的动作和您的价值观对齐,
629	even when it's difficult	即使在困难的时候
630	or perhaps even more so when it's difficult.	也许更难
631	I wonder whether there is a price	不知道有没有代价
632	that people who are more introspective, high integrity pay	更有内向性,高廉的人
633	because you think, well, you've got this	因为你认为,嗯,你有这个
634	heavier set of overheads that you need to pay in some way.	您需要以某种方式支付更重的间接费用。
635	Well, if being ethical or profitable,	好吧,如果道德或盈利,
636	everybody would do it, right?	人人都会这么做 对吧?
637	So at some level it does involve a sacrifice,	所以从某种程度上来说 这的确涉及牺牲
638	but that sacrifice can also be thought of	但牺牲也是可以想到的
639	{\fn黑体\fs22\bord1\shad0\3aHBE\4aH00\fscx67\fscy66\2cHFFFFFF\3cH808080}当你想着长期
640	rather than the short-term.	而不是短期。
641	For example, the virtues are the set of beliefs	例如,美德是一套信仰
642	that if everybody in society followed them as individuals,	如果社会上每个人都以个人身份跟随他们
643	it would lead to win-win outcomes for everybody.	它将给每个人带来双赢的结果。
644	So if I am honest and you are honest,	如果我是诚实的,你是诚实的,
645	then we can do business more easily,	这样我们就能更容易地做生意了
646	we can interact more easily	我们可以更容易地互动
647	because we can trust each other.	因为我们可以互相信任
648	So even though there might be a few liars in the system,	因此,即使可能有一些骗子 在系统中,
649	as long as there aren't too many liars and too many cheaters,	只要没有太多的骗子和骗子,
650	a high trust society where everybody's honest	一个人人诚实的高度信任的社会
651	is better off.	最好还是这样
652	And I think a lot of the virtues work this way, right?	我认为很多美德 是这样工作的,对不对?
653	If I don't go around sleeping with your wife	如果我不跟你老婆上床的话
654	and you don't sleep with mine,	你不跟我睡觉,
655	and if I don't take all the food	如果我不带走所有的食物
656	that's at the table first and so on,	这是在桌子上的第一个,等等,
657	then we all get along better	然后我们相处得更好
658	and we can play win-win games.	我们可以玩双赢游戏
659	In game theory, the most famous game is Prisoner's Dilemma,	在游戏理论中,最著名的游戏是"囚犯的困境".
660	but that's all about everybody cheating	但这是所有的人欺骗
661	and the Nash equilibrium,	和纳什均衡,
662	the stable equilibrium there is everybody cheats.	稳定平衡是每个人都在作弊。
663	And the only way you can play a win-win game	只有这样你才能打双赢
664	is if you have long-term iterated moves.	如果你有长期运动的话。
665	But that's not actually the most common game	但这其实不是最常见的游戏
666	played in society.	在社会中扮演。
667	The most common game played is one called a stag's hunt,	最常玩的游戏叫猎鹿
668	where if we cooperate, we can bring down a big stag	在那里,如果我们合作, 我们可以把一个大鹿
669	and both have big dinners,	并吃大餐,
670	but if we don't cooperate,	但如果我们不合作
671	then we have to go hunt like rabbits	那我们得像兔子一样去打猎
672	and we each have small dinners.	我们每个人都有小晚餐。
673	So most of, and that game has two stable equilibriums.	所以,大多数,和那个游戏有两个稳定的平衡。
674	And one could be where we're both hunting the rabbit	一个可能是我们一起猎兔子的地方
675	and one could be where we're hunting	一个可能是我们打猎的地方
676	the stag.	这只鹿。
677	So the high trust society is a more virtuous society	因此,高度信任的社会是一个更加善良的社会
678	where I can trust you to come hunt the stag with me	在那里我可以信任你 和我一起猎杀鹿
679	and show up on time and do the work	并及时出现 并做工作
680	and divide it up properly.	并正确划分它。
681	So you want to live in a system	所以,你想生活在一个系统
682	where everybody has their own set of virtues	每个人都有自己的美德
683	and follows them and then we all win.	跟着他们 然后我们都赢了
684	But I would argue you don't need to do that for sacrifice.	但我认为你不必为了牺牲而这么做
685	You don't need to do that for other people.	你不必为别人这么做
686	You can do it just purely for yourself.	你可以只为自己做。
687	You will have higher self-esteem.	你会有更高的自尊心。
688	You will attract other high virtue people.	你会吸引其他高贵的人
689	Would I go on a stag hunt with me?	我会和我一起去猎鹿吗?
690	Correct.	没错
691	And if you're the kind of person,	如果你是那种人的话
692	if you're the kind of person who long-term signals	如果你是那种 长期信号的人
693	ethics and virtues,	道德和美德,
694	then you will attract other people	然后你会吸引别人
695	who are ethical and virtuous.	他们是道德的,是善良的。
696	Whereas if you are a shark,	如果你是鲨鱼,
697	you will eventually find yourself swimming	你会最终发现自己游泳
698	entirely amongst sharks and that's an unpleasant existence.	完全在鲨鱼之间 这是一种令人不快的存在
699	But again, this goes back to the equivalent	再说一遍,这又回到了同等的
700	of the Marshmallow test.	棉花糖测试
701	And by the way, the Marshmallow test does not replicate.	顺便说一句,马什马洛测试没有复制.
702	I've saw it get replication crisis hard recently.	我最近看到它很难复制危机
703	But it is about trading off the short-term for the long-term	但是,这是关于短期交易 对于长期
704	and so I think for a lot of these so-called virtues,	所以我想这些所谓的美德,
705	there are long-term selfish reasons to be virtuous.	有长期自私的理由是善良的。
706	Yeah.	对
707	Did you deal with self-doubt in the past?	你过去有处理过自我怀疑吗?
708	Is that something that was a hurdle for you to overcome?	这是你要克服的障碍吗?
709	Yes and no.	是亦无.
710	I think I dealt with self-doubt in the sense that,	我想我处理的自我怀疑 的意义上,
711	oh, I don't know what I'm doing and I need to figure it out.	哦,我不知道我在做什么 我需要弄清楚这一点。
712	But I didn't doubt myself	但我没有怀疑自己
713	in the way of somebody else knows better than me for me	在别人的方式 比我更了解我
714	or that I'm an idiot or I'm not worthwhile or anything.	或者说我是个白痴 或者我不值得什么
715	I guess I had the benefit of I grew up with a lot of love.	我想我得到了好处 我长大后有很多爱。
716	The people around me love me unconditionally.	我身边的人无条件爱我
717	And so that just gave me a lot of confidence.	所以这给了我很大的信心
718	Not the kind of confidence that would say I have the answer,	而不是那种信心 会说,我有答案,
719	but the kind of confidence that I will figure it out	但那种信心 我会想出它
720	and I know what I want	我知道我要什么,我爱什么
721	or only I am a good arbiter of what I want.	或者只有我才是我想要的好仲裁者
722	Yeah, that level of self-belief, I suppose,	是啊,这种程度的自信心, 我想,
723	allows you to determine what is it that matters to me.	让你确定我在乎的是什么
724	My self-esteem, should I chase this thing or not?	我的自尊心,我该不该追这个东西?
725	I can make a fair judgment on that	我可以做出公正的判断
726	as opposed to being so swayed.	而不是被如此摇摆。
727	But it's such a good point about,	但它是一个很好的观点,
728	even if you think you're not consciously logging	即使你觉得你没有在自觉地伐木
729	the stuff that you're doing,	你所做的一切,你正在做的,
730	there is some that's in the back of your mind.	有些是在你的脑后。
731	Was it the daemon?	是守护神吗?
732	Is that what the ancient Greeks	这就是古希腊人
733	or something used to talk about?	还是以前聊过的事?
734	Yeah, also in computer science,	是啊,同样在计算机科学,
735	like there's a concept of a daemon,	就像有一个守护神的概念,
736	which is a program that's always running in the background.	这是一个总是在背景中运行的程序。
737	You can't see it.	你看不见它。
738	Okay.	摆
739	But yeah, it probably comes from the ancient Greek daemon.	可能来自古希腊守护神
740	But yeah, what you know that you don't even know you know	但是,你知道的 你甚至不知道你知道的
741	is far greater than what you know you know, right?	比你知道的要大得多,对吧?
742	You can't even articulate most of the things you know.	你甚至无法解释你所知道的大部分事情。
743	There are feelings you have that have no words for them.	有些感觉你没有话要说
744	There are thoughts you have that are felt within the body	体内有你的想法
745	or subconsciously that you never articulate to yourself.	或潜意识中,你从来不对自己说。
746	You can't articulate the rules of grammar,	你不能阐明语法规则,
747	yet you exercise them effortlessly when you speak.	你说话的时候,却不费力地锻炼他们。
748	So I would argue that your implicit knowledge	所以我认为你的隐性知识
749	and your knowledge that is unknown to yourself	还有你自己所不知道的知识
750	is far greater than the knowledge you can articulate	远超你所能表达的知识
751	and that you can communicate.	和你可以沟通。
752	And so at some level, you're always watching yourself.	所以从某种程度上来说 你总是在看着自己
753	That's what your consciousness is, right?	这就是你的意识,对不对?
754	It's the thing that's watching everything,	看着一切
755	including your mind, including your body.	包括你的思想,包括你的身体。
756	So if you want to have high self-esteem,	如果你想有很高的自尊,
757	then earn your own self-respect.	然后赢得你自己的自尊。
758	I had this idea, the internal golden rule.	我有这个想法, 内部黄金规则。
759	So the golden rule says treat others	所以,黄金规则说待别人
760	the way that you should be treated.	对待你的方式
761	The internal golden rule says treat yourself	内部的黄金规则说,对待自己
762	like others should have treated you.	像其他人应该对待你。
763	And it was a repost to maybe people that didn't grow up	或许是给没长大的人的
764	with unconditional love in that way.	以无条件的爱的方式。
765	On the love thing, one of the interesting things	关于爱情,有趣的事情之一
766	about love is you can try to remember	关于爱,你可以试着记住
767	the feeling of being loved.	被爱的感觉
768	So go back to when someone was in love with you	所以回到有人爱上你的时候
769	or someone did love you.	或者有人确实爱你
770	And like really you remember that feeling,	就像你还记得那种感觉一样
771	like really sit with it and try to recreate it	像真的坐在一起,试着再创造它
772	within yourself.	在你体内。
773	And then go to the feeling of you loving someone	然后去感觉 你爱一个人
774	and when you were in love.	当你恋爱时
775	And I'm not even talking about romantic love necessarily.	我甚至不谈浪漫的爱情
776	So be a little careful there.	所以小心点
777	I'm talking more about like love for...	我说的是爱...
778	Sometimes get complex if you're talking	有时候你说话会变得复杂
779	about past romantic love.	关于过去浪漫的爱情。
780	Right, a sibling or a child or something like that,	对,兄弟或孩子之类的
781	or a parent.	或父母亲。
782	And think about when you felt love	想想当你感受到爱
783	towards someone or something.	对着某个人或什么的。
784	And now which is better?	现在哪个更好?
785	And I would argue that the feeling of being in love	而我会说 恋爱的感觉
786	is actually more exhilarating	其实更令人兴奋
787	than the feeling of being loved.	而不是被爱的感觉
788	Being loved is a little cloying.	被爱是有点血淋淋的
789	It's a little too sweet.	有点太甜了
790	You kind of want to push the person away.	你有点想把人推开
791	It's a little embarrassing.	有点尴尬
792	And you know that if that person is too much into it,	而且你知道,如果 那个人太投入它,
793	that you feel constrained.	你感到被束缚。
794	On the other hand, the feeling of being in love	另一方面 恋爱的感觉
795	is very expansive.	范围很广
796	It's very open.	甚开.
797	It actually makes you a better version of yourself.	这实际上让你 更好的版本自己。
798	It makes you want to be a better person.	这让你想成为一个更好的人。
799	And so you can create love anytime you want.	这样你就可以随时创造爱
800	It's just that craving to receive it that's the problem.	只是渴望得到它才是问题所在
801	The most expensive trait is pride.	最昂贵的特征是骄傲。
802	How come?	为什么?
803	Oh, that was a recent one.	哦,这是最近一个。
804	I tweeted that just because I think that	我推特上说是因为我觉得
805	pride is the enemy of learning.	骄傲是学习的敌人。
806	So when I look at my friends and colleagues,	所以当我看着我的朋友和同事
807	the ones who are still stuck in the past	那些仍然被困在过去的人
808	and have grown the least are the ones who were the proudest	至於自大者,是最卑贱的,
809	because they sort of feel like they already had the answers.	因为他们觉得自己已经得到了答案
810	And so they don't want to correct themselves publicly.	他们不想公开纠正自己
811	And so this goes back to the fame conversation.	所以这又回到了名人对话。
812	You get locked into something you said.	你被锁在你说的东西。
813	It made you famous.	让你出名了
814	You're known for that.	尔时世尊闻名.
815	And now you want to pivot or change.	而现在你想要选择或改变。
816	So pride prevents you from saying I'm wrong.	所以骄傲阻止你说我错了
817	What's pride in this context here?	这里有什么自豪感?
818	It could be as simple as you're trading stocks	跟你交易股票一样简单
819	and then you don't want to admit you were wrong.	然后你不想承认你错了
820	So you hang on to a lousy trade.	所以你坚持一个糟糕的交易。
821	It could be that you made a decision to marry someone	可能是你决定嫁给一个人
822	or move somewhere or enter a profession.	或移动某处或进入某一职业。
823	It doesn't work out.	事无成.
824	And then you don't want to admit that you were wrong.	然后你不想承认你错了
825	So you get stuck in it.	所以,你被困在它。
826	It's mostly about getting trapped in local maxima	主要是被困在本地最大
827	as opposed to going back down	而不是退缩
828	and climbing up the mountain again.	然后又爬上山来
829	And that's why it's an expensive trait	这就是为什么它是一个昂贵的特性
830	because you continue to need to repay it	因为你需要继续偿还
831	in one form or another.	以某种形式。
832	Yeah, you're just stuck at a suboptimal point.	是啊,你只是被卡在一个次优点。
833	将须 cost钱.
834	It's going to cost you success.	这会花费你的成功。
835	And time.	还有时间
836	The great artists always have this ability to start over,	伟大的艺术家总是有这种能力 重新开始,
837	whether it's Paul Simon or Madonna or you two,	不管是保罗·西蒙还是麦当娜 还是你们两个
838	and I'm dating myself a little bit.	我在和自己约会
839	But even the great entrepreneurs,	但即使是伟大的企业家,
840	they're just always willing to start over.	他们总是愿意重新开始。
841	I'm always struck by the Elon Musk story	我总是被伊隆·穆斯克的故事震撼
842	在那里他做了PayPal 作为x.com最初,
843	actually it was his financial institution	其实是他的金融机构
844	被合并为PayPal。
845	It's good that you've got the domain.	尔时优娄频螺迦叶.
846	You know what I mean?	你知道我的意思吗?
847	Yeah, exactly.	没错
848	I'll park that.	我停车
849	I'll hold on to it.	吾当持之.
850	He's consistent.	他是一贯的。
851	He's been using it for quite a while.	他已经用了很久了
852	And he said something like along the lines	他说了类似的话
853	of I made $200 million from the sale of PayPal.	我从PayPal的销售中赚了2亿美元
854	I put $100 million in the SpaceX,	我给SpaceX投了1亿美元
855	80 million in Tesla, 20 in the solar city,	特斯拉8000万 太阳城20万
856	and I had to borrow money for rent.	我不得不借钱租房
857	This guy is a perennial risk taker.	这家伙是一个常年冒险者。
858	He's always willing to start over.	他总是愿意重新开始。
859	He doesn't have any pride about being seen as successful	他对被看成成功并不骄傲
860	as being seen as a failure.	被视为失败。
861	He's willing to put it all on the line.	他愿意把一切都放在线上。
862	He'll back himself again each time.	他每次都会回来的
863	Back himself again each time.	每次都会回来
864	But the key thing is he's always willing to start over.	但关键是他总是愿意重新开始
865	Even now when he's sort of made his new startup as a USA.	即使现在他又开始成为美国
866	He's basically trying to fix it	他基本上在努力修补
867	like he would fix one of his startups.	就像他修补了他的创业者
868	And I think that is a willingness to look like a fool.	我认为这是 愿意看起来像一个傻瓜。
869	And that is a willingness to start over.	这是重新开始的意愿。
870	And a lot of people just don't have that.	而很多人只是没有。
871	They become successful.	他们成功。
872	They become rich.	他们变得富有。
873	They become famous and that's it.	他们成名了 就这样
874	They're stuck.	他们卡住了。
875	They don't wanna go back to zero.	他们不想回到零。
876	And creating anything great requires zero to one.	创造任何伟大的东西都需要0比1
877	And that means you go back to zero.	这意味着你回到零。
878	And that's really painful and hard to do.	这真的很痛苦,很难做到。
879	Talking about risk,	说到风险,
880	something I've been thinking about a lot to do with you.	我一直在想与你有关的事
881	Any moment when you're not having a good time,	当你不开心的时候
882	when you're not really happy,	当你不开心的时候
883	you're not doing anyone any favors.	你没有做任何人的任何帮助。
884	And lots of people have become unusually familiar	很多人变得非常熟悉
885	with suffering silently in that sort of a way.	以那种方式默默受苦
886	And not having a high bar for your expectation	也没有一个高的酒吧 你的期望
887	for quality of life.	为了生活质量。
888	Yeah, a lot of it is just you're memeing yourself	是啊,很多都是因为你自以为是
889	into a bad outcome because you think	变成一个不好的结果 因为你认为
890	that somehow suffering is glorious	不知何故痛苦是荣耀
891	or that it makes you a better person.	或者让你成为一个更好的人
892	Or my old quip was if you're so smart,	或者说,我的老字号是 如果你这么聪明,
893	why aren't you happy?	你为什么不高兴?
894	Why can't you figure that one out?	你为什么不想明白?
895	The reality is you can be smart and happy.	现实是,你可以聪明快乐。
896	There are plenty of people in human history	人类历史上有很多人
897	who are smart and happy.	他们是聪明而快乐的。
898	And I think it just starts with saying,	我想它只是开始说,
899	yeah, you know what?	是啊,你知道吗?
900	I'm gonna be happy.	我会很高兴的。
901	It was a guy that I met in Thailand a long time ago.	很久以前我在泰国遇到的一个人
902	And he used to work for Tony Robbins.	他曾经为托尼·罗宾斯工作.
903	He had a great attitude.	他态度很好
904	And we were sitting around and he said,	我们坐在周围,他说,
905	I realized one day that someone out there	有一天我意识到 外面有人
906	had to be the happiest person in the world.	必须是世界上最幸福的人。
907	That person just has to exist.	那个人必须存在
908	He said, why not me?	他说,为什么不是我?
909	I'll take on that burden.	我会承担这个负担。
910	I'll be that guy.	我会是那个人。
911	And I heard that and I was like, wow, that's pretty good.	我听到了,我就像,哇, 这是相当不错的。
912	That's a good frame.	这是一个很好的框架。
913	He knew how to reframe things.	他知道如何重构东西。
914	And so I think a lot of happiness is just a choice	所以我认为很多幸福只是选择
915	in the sense that first you just identify yourself	意思是,首先你只是 表明自己
916	as actually I'm gonna be a person who's gonna be happy.	事实上,我会成为一个快乐的人。
917	I'm gonna figure it out.	我会想办法的
918	And you just figure it out along the way.	你只要在路上想出办法
919	You're not gonna lose your other predilections.	你不会失去其他的偏执
920	You're not gonna lose your ambition or desire for success.	你不会失去你的野心 或成功的愿望。
921	I think a lot of people have this fear that,	我认为很多人有这种恐惧,
922	oh, if I'm happy, then I won't wanna be successful.	哦,如果我高兴,那我就不想成功。
923	No, you'll just wanna do things that are more aligned	不,你只是想做一些更合拍的事情
924	with the happy version of you	与你快乐的版本
925	and you'll be successful at those things.	你会成功的
926	And believe me, the happy version of you	相信我,你的快乐版本
927	is not gonna look back at the unhappy version and say,	不会回头看不开心的版本 然后说
928	oh man, that guy was gonna be more successful.	那家伙会更成功
929	Had more success.	取得了更多的成功。
930	I wish that was him.	我希望那是他,他是谁?
931	You're actually trying to be successful	你其实是想成功
932	so you'll be happy.	所以你会很幸福的
933	That's the whole point.	这才是重点
934	You've gotten it backwards.	你倒过来了
935	You unlocked one of my trap cards.	你解锁了一张我的陷阱卡
936	One of my favorite insights is that we sacrifice	我最喜欢的洞察力之一是我们牺牲
937	the thing we want for the thing that's supposed to get it.	我们想要的东西 它应该得到它。
938	So we sacrifice happiness in order to be successful	所以我们为了成功牺牲幸福
939	so that when we're finally sufficiently successful,	因此,当我们终于 足够成功,
940	we can actually be happy.	我们实际上可以快乐。
941	And if you have some sort of simultaneous equation	如果你有一个同步的方程式
942	and you just sort of stripped success off from both sides.	你只是把两边的成功都剥光了
943	Yeah, at least in my own life,	是啊,至少在我自己的生活中,
944	I have not found there to be a trade-off.	我没有找到一个权衡。
945	If anything, I have found that the happier I get,	如果有什么,我发现 我得到的快乐,
946	the more I am going to do the things that I'm good at	我越想做我擅长的事
947	and aligned with, and that will make me even happier.	并配合, 这将让我更快乐。
948	And so I actually end up more successful, not less.	所以我最终会更成功,而不是更少。
949	The aligned with thing is interesting.	与事物一致是有趣的。
950	I'm gonna try and put this across as delicately as I can.	我会尽量小心地把这事处理好
951	I would say from the bit of time that we've spent together,	从我们在一起的时间来看
952	you have a really interesting trait of holistic selfishness.	你有一个非常有趣的特点 整体自私。
953	You're sort of prepared to put yourself first.	你准备把自己放在第一位
954	You seem largely unfazed by saying or doing things	你说话或做事情似乎很不爽
955	that might result in other people	可能导致其他人
956	feeling a little bit awkward if it's truthful for you.	感觉有点尴尬,如果你是诚实的。
957	It's like unapologetically self-prioritizing, I guess.	我想这就像无意识的自我优先。
958	Yeah, I think everybody is.	是的,我想每个人都是。
959	Maybe unapologetic is the part that's relatively rare,	也许不爱听是比较少见的
960	but I think everybody puts themselves first.	但我认为每个人都是第一位的
961	That's just human nature.	那是人类的本性
962	You're here because you survive.	你来是因为你活下来了
963	You're a separate organism.	你是一个单独的有机体。
964	That's interesting.	这很有趣。
965	Maybe, but-	也许,但...
966	I know we like to virtue signal.	我知道我们喜欢美德信号
967	I'll pretend we're doing it for each other.	我会假装我们是为彼此而做的
968	How many times does somebody say,	多少次有人说,
969	yeah, of course, I'd love to come to the wedding?	是啊,当然,我愿意参加婚礼?
970	They're like, I don't wanna be at the fucking wedding.	他们喜欢,我不想 在他妈的婚礼。
971	How many times does someone say,	多少次有人说,
972	how are you doing today?	你今天好吗?
973	And they don't tell you.	他们不告诉你。
974	I don't go to weddings.	我不参加婚礼。
975	But this is my point.	但这就是我的观点。
976	So I don't think you're necessarily right with that.	所以我不认为你是对的。
977	I think that people do,	我认为人们会
978	I don't think they put themselves first.	我觉得他们不是先把自己放在第一位的
979	I sometimes think that they compromise	有时我觉得他们妥协了
980	what it is that they want in order to appease socially	他们想要什么来安抚社会
981	what's in front of them.	什么在他们面前。
982	Yeah, I just view it as everyone's wasting their time on it.	是的,我只是把它看作是 每个人都在浪费时间在上面。
983	Don't do something you don't wanna do.	别做你不想做的事
984	Why are you wasting your time?	你为什么要浪费时间?
985	There's so little time on this earth.	这世上时间太少了
986	Life goes fast.	生活进展迅速.
987	What are the 4,000 weeks?	四千个礼拜是什么?
988	That's your lifespan.	那是你的寿命
989	And yes, we hear that, but we don't remember it.	是的 我们听到了 但我们不记得了
990	But I guess I'm keenly aware of how little time I have.	不过我想我很清楚我的时间有多少
991	So I'm just not gonna waste it.	所以我不会浪费它
992	How have you got more comfortable	你怎么比较舒服呢
993	at being the unapologetic self-prioritizer?	成为无耻的自我优先?
994	Yeah, I've gotten utterly more and more ruthless on it.	对,我越来越无情了
995	Mainly it's that I see or hear people's freedom	主要是我看到或听到人们的自由
996	and then that liberates me further.	然后那让我更自由
997	So I read a blog post by P. Marka,	所以我读了P. Marka的博客文章
998	aka Mark Andreessen, where he said,	马克·安德烈森,他在那里说,
999	don't keep a schedule.	不要保持时间表。
1000	And I took that to heart.	我将这一点放在心上。
1001	So I deleted my calendar and I don't keep a schedule.	所以我删除了我的日历 并且没有保持一个时间表。
1002	I try to remember it all in my head.	我试图记住这一切在我的脑海。
1003	If I can't remember it,	如果我不记得了
1004	I'm not gonna add it to my schedule.	我不会把它加入我的日程
1005	I'm glad you got your own time.	我很高兴你有空
1006	Yeah, exactly.	没错
1007	I had to look things up at the last minute.	我最后一刻还得查一下
1008	So, but ironically,	所以,但讽刺的是,
1009	I don't even know if Mark himself follows that,	我什至不知道马克自己是否遵循这一点,
1010	but he made the correct point.	但他说对了
1011	I read a little story about Jack Dorsey	我读了一个关于杰克・多西的故事
1012	他的iPhone和iPad的生意
1013	and not even going into a Mac.	甚至连Mac都没有
1014	And I said, okay, I wanna do that.	我说,好吧,我想这样做。
1015	So I'm gonna operate through text messaging	所以我要通过短信操作
1016	and I put up my nasty email.	我放了我的讨厌的电子邮件。
1017	Does that feel like more freedom?	这感觉像更多的自由吗?
1018	It does, yeah, cause you're on the go.	是的,是的,因为你开始。
1019	So I have a nasty email autoresponder that says,	所以我有一个讨厌的电子邮件自动通讯员说,
1020	I don't check email and don't text me either.	我不检查电子邮件,也不给我发短信。
1021	If you need to find me, you'll find me.	如果你需要找到我 你会找到我的
1022	Obviously some of this is a luxury of success,	显然,有些是成功的奢侈品
1023	but some of these habits I adopted long before actually,	但有些习惯我早就习惯了
1024	the hostile email autoresponder started a long time ago.	敌对的电子邮件自动通讯器 很久以前就开始了。
1025	I used to own the domain.	我曾经拥有这个领域。
1026	I let it go.	我让它走了。
1027	Don't do coffee.com.	别喝咖啡. com.
1028	我不做coffee.com. (英语).
1029	I used to reply from that email	我以前从那封邮件里回信
1030	just so people would get the point,	为了让人们明白这一点,
1031	but I stopped being rude about it.	但我不再无礼了
1032	And now I just ghost, I just disappear.	现在我只是鬼魂,我只是消失。
1033	My wife knows not to ever book or schedule me for anything.	我妻子知道永远不要预订或安排我什么。
1034	I'm not expected to go to couples dinners.	我不会去 夫妇晚餐。
1035	I'm not expected to go to birthdays.	我不会去生日。
1036	I'm not expected to go to weddings.	我不会去参加婚礼的
1037	If somebody tries to rope her into having me show up,	如果有人想逼她让我出现
1038	she says, he makes his own decisions.	她说他自己做决定
1039	You gotta ask him directly and vice versa.	你得直接问他 反之亦然
1040	Well, are you not killing serendipity in a way, dad?	老爸,你是不是在某种意义上 杀了赛伦蒂?
1041	No, no, I'm freeing up all my time.	不,不,我总是放空。
1042	So my entire life is serendipity.	所以我的一生都是自恋
1043	I get to interact with whoever I want,	我可以和任何我想要的人互动
1044	whenever I want, wherever I want.	随时随地
1045	I hear the invite, but make the decision.	我听到邀请,但做出决定。
1046	Because if there's fewer things in coming,	因为如果来得更少
1047	you're assuming that you know what's best for you.	你假设你知道什么对你最好
1048	I don't commit to anything in the future.	我今后不承诺任何事。
1049	So I'll say, okay, if that thing is interesting,	所以,我会说,好吧, 如果这是有趣的,
1050	I'll see if I can get in that day when I'm in the mood.	我看看心情好的时候能不能进去
1051	But there's nothing worse than something coming up	但是,没有什么比事情的出现更糟糕的了
1052	that your past self committed you to,	你过去的自我承诺,
1053	present self doesn't wanna do.	现在的自我不想做。
1054	God damn it, past and of all.	该死的,过去和所有的一切。
1055	Yeah, and then it destroys your entire calendar.	是啊,然后它毁了你的整个日历。
1056	It destroys your day because there's like,	它毁了你的一天,因为,
1057	oh, this one hour slot,	哦,这个一小时的时间档,
1058	which is sitting like a turd on my calendar	坐在我的日历上就像粪便
1059	that I have to like schedule my whole day around.	我不得不喜欢 安排我一整天周围。
1060	And I can't do anything at 20 minutes before	20分钟前我什么都做不了
1061	or the 20 minutes afterwards.	或20分钟后。
1062	Even for phone calls, if someone wants to do a phone call,	就算是电话 如果有人想打电话
1063	say, okay, just text me when you're free.	你有空就发短信给我
1064	I'll text you when I'm free	我有空再给你发短信
1065	and we'll just do it on the fly.	我们只是做在苍蝇上。
1066	It's a much better way of living	这是更好的生活方式
1067	than this overly scheduled, you know, cal.com or iCal,	比这个太多的计划,你知道,cal.com或iCal,
1068	whatever.	随便吧
1069	Or is that the over-scheduled life is not worth living?	或者,过度安排的生活 不值得生活?
1070	It's not.	这不是。
1071	I think it's a terrible way to live life.	我觉得生活很糟
1072	That's not how we evolve.	这不是我们进化的方式。
1073	It's not how we grew up.	这不是我们如何成长。
1074	It's not how we were as children, hopefully,	希望我们小时候不是这样
1075	unless you have a helicopter parent or a tiger mom.	除非你有直升机家长或老虎妈妈
1076	Your natural order is freedom.	你的自然秩序是自由
1077	I had a friend who said to me once, you know,	我有个朋友曾经对我说过
1078	I never want to have to be at a specific place	我从不想去某个地方
1079	at a specific time.	在一个特定的时间。
1080	And I was like, oh my God, that's freedom.	而我就像,哦,我的上帝, 这是自由。
1081	When I heard that, that changed my life right there.	当我听到这个, 这改变了我在那里的生活。
1082	You still alarm clock-less?	你还在闹钟吗?
1083	Yes, I'm alarm clock-less.	是的,我没有闹钟。
1084	Today I did set my alarm clock,	今天我订了闹钟
1085	just so I wouldn't miss this.	以免我错过这个
1086	Very important.	非常重要的,我需要你帮忙
1087	Yeah, if you would still-	是啊,如果你仍然会...
1088	But just so you know, I set the alarm clock from 11 a.m.	但是,只是让你知道, 我设置的闹钟 从上午11点。
1089	in case I was stricken with a flu and slept in.	以防我染上流感 睡了觉
1090	I wasn't going to set my alarm clock for 8 a.m. or 9 a.m.	我本来不打算把闹钟定在早上8点或9点
1091	And sure enough, I got up many hours before that,	当然,我早起很多小时了
1092	but it was sort of a backup emergency alarm.	但它是一种备用的紧急警报。
1093	In fact, sometimes when I have something that I need to do,	事实上,有时当我有事要做的时候,
1094	I don't want to look at a calendar,	我不想看日历
1095	so I'll just set an alarm for it.	所以我会设置警报器
1096	Just sink a little bit more into that,	再往里面沉一点
1097	like kind of like that fuck you energy,	像那种他妈的你能量,
1098	that self-prioritizing energy,	自我优先的能量,
1099	because I think people rationally love the idea of this.	因为我认为人们理性地喜欢这个想法。
1100	I'm going to do what only I want to do,	我会做我唯一想要做的事
1101	even if they've got the level of freedom.	即使他们有 自由的水平。
1102	It's not fuck you energy in the sense that	这不是操你的能量,因为
1103	I think everyone should live their life that way	我觉得每个人都应该这样生活
1104	to the greatest extent possible.	尽最大可能。
1105	Obviously, we have our requirements around work	很明显,我们有我们的工作要求
1106	and obligations that are genuinely important to us,	和对我们真正重要的义务,
1107	but don't fiddle away your life on randomly scheduled things	但不要轻视你的生活 随机安排的东西
1108	and on things that aren't important, don't matter,	对于不重要的事,没关系,
1109	and events and weddings and tedious dinners	婚礼和无聊的晚餐
1110	with tedious people that you don't want to go to.	与乏味的人 你不希望去。
1111	To the extent you can bring freedom into your life,	只要能给生活带来自由
1112	optimize for that, you'll actually be more productive.	最佳效果,你会更有成效。
1113	You won't just be happier, more free.	你不只是更快乐,更自由。
1114	You will be more productive,	你会更有成效,
1115	because then you can focus on what is in front of you,	因为那样你就能专心于眼前的事了
1116	whatever the biggest problem of that day.	不管那天最大的问题是什么
1117	When I wake up in the morning,	当我早上醒来时
1118	the first four hours are when I have the most energy,	前四个小时是我精力充沛的时候
1119	and that's when I want to solve all the hard problems.	那时我想解决所有难题
1120	And the next four hours are when I kind of want to	接下来的四小时就是我想
1121	do some more outdoorsy activities,	做一些更多的户外活动,
1122	or I want to work out, or maybe I can have some meetings,	或者我想工作, 或者我可以有一些会议,
1123	but I'll try to do those last second based on	但我会试着做那些最后一秒 基于
1124	whatever the day's priorities demand.	无论今天的要务是什么
1125	The last four hours, I kind of want to wind down.	过去四个小时,我想结束。
1126	I want to hang out with the kids,	我想和孩子们一起玩
1127	and I want to play games or read a book	我想玩游戏或看书
1128	or something like that.	或者类似的东西。
1129	So having that flexibility and freedom is really important.	因此,拥有这种灵活性和自由是非常重要的。
1130	So you can just put whatever is most needed	所以你可以随便放点最需要的东西
1131	into the slot at that moment.	进入那个位置
1132	And instead, if I have a meeting at 2 p.m.	相反,如果我在下午2点有个会议。
1133	and then I have to get a thing and some emails done,	然后,我得到了一件事 和一些电子邮件,
1134	and I put that off till 6 p.m. and I'm rushing,	我把它放到下午6点,我赶时间
1135	I'm not going to be productive.	我不会有所作为的
1136	I'm not going to be...	我不会...
1137	You're certainly not free.	你当然不自由。
1138	I'm definitely not free.	我绝对不自由。
1139	But also, another thing that I really believe	但还有一件事,我真的相信
1140	is that inspiration is perishable.	灵感是易腐烂的。
1141	Act on it immediately.	立即行动
1142	So when you're inspired to do something, do that thing.	所以,当你被启发做一些事情, 做那个事情。
1143	If I'm inspired to write a blog post,	如果我被启发写一篇博客文章
1144	I want to do it at that moment.	我想在那一刻做到这一点。
1145	If I'm inspired to send a tweet, I want to do it at that moment.	如果我被启发发微博,我想在那一刻做.
1146	If I'm inspired to solve a problem, I do it at that moment.	如果我被启发去解决一个问题,我就是在那一刻这样做的.
1147	If I'm inspired to read a book, I want to read it right then.	如果我被启发去读一本书,我想马上读出来。
1148	If I'm inspired to solve a problem, I solve it right there.	如果我被启发来解决一个问题,我就解决它。
1149	If I want to learn something,	如果我想学点什么
1150	I do it at the moment of curiosity.	我这样做是在好奇的时刻。
1151	The moment the curiosity arrives,	好奇心一来,
1152	I go learn that thing immediately.	我马上去学
1153	I download the book, I get on Google,	我下载了这本书,我得到了谷歌,
1154	I get on ChatGPT, whatever.	我上"查特GPT",随便你
1155	I will figure that thing out on the spot.	我会当场解决的
1156	and that's when the learning happens.	那时才开始学习
1157	It doesn't happen because I've scheduled time,	它不会发生,因为我已经安排了时间,
1158	because I've set an hour aside,	因为我留了一小时
1159	because when that time arrives,	因为当那个时间到来的时候,
1160	I might be in a different mood,	我可能心情不一样了
1161	I might just wanna do something different.	我也许只是想做点别的
1162	So I think that spontaneity is really important.	所以我认为自发性是非常重要的。
1163	You're gonna learn best when you're having fun,	当你玩得开心的时候 你会学到最好的
1164	when you generally are enjoying the process,	当你普遍享受这个过程时,
1165	not when you're forced to sit there and do it.	不是当你被迫坐在那里做。
1166	How much do you remember from school?	你在学校记得多少?
1167	You were forced to learn geography, history, mathematics	你被迫学习地理、历史、数学
1168	on this schedule at this time, according to this person.	根据这个人的说法,此时此刻的日程安排。
1169	Didn't happen.	没有发生。
1170	All the stuff that sticks with you	所有与你在一起的东西
1171	is you learned it when you wanted to,	你学会了当你想,
1172	when you genuinely have a desire.	当你们有欲望的时候,
1173	And that freedom, that ability to act on something	自由 行动的能力
1174	the moment you want to is so liberating	你想解放的时刻
1175	that most of us go through our lives	我们大多数人的生活
1176	with very, very little tastes of that.	很少尝到这种味道
1177	If you live your entire life that way,	如果你一辈子都这样生活
1178	that is a recipe for happiness.	这是幸福的秘方
1179	It feels like efficiency, that you have the-	这感觉就像效率, 你有...
1180	It's efficient also.	这也很有效率
1181	You have the inspiration	你有灵感
1182	that is going to be the most frictionless time	这将是最无摩擦的时间
1183	to ever do that particular task.	永远完成这一特殊任务。
1184	So, oh, I've had the inspiration to do that.	所以,哦,我有 灵感做到这一点。
1185	I'll put that off until a time	我会一直拖下去
1186	when I no longer really want to do it quite so much.	当我不再真正想这样做的时候
1187	And while I do want to do that thing,	当我真的想这样做的时候,
1188	I'll do something else that I needed to do	我会做我需要做的事
1189	because it's on the schedule.	因为它的日程安排。
1190	It does not work.	没用的
1191	Procrastination is because you don't want	拖延是因为你不想
1192	to do that thing right now.	现在做那个
1193	You want to do something else.	你想做点别的
1194	Go do that something else.	去做别的事吧
1195	I reject this frame that efficiency and productivity	我拒绝这种效率和生产力的框架
1196	and success are counter to happiness and freedom.	成功与幸福和自由背道而驰
1197	They actually go together.	他们实际上一起走。
1198	How so?	为什么?
1199	The happier you are,	你越高兴,
1200	the more you can sustain doing something,	你越能继续做点什么
1201	the more likely you're going to do something	你越有可能做点什么
1202	that will in turn make you even happier	那样你就会更快乐
1203	and you'll continue to do it	你会继续做下去
1204	and you'll outwork everybody else.	你会比其他人都工作。
1205	The more free you are,	你越自由,你就会自由
1206	the better you can allocate your time.	越好的时间分配。
1207	And the less you're caught up in a web	越少陷入网络
1208	of obligations and commitments	义务和承诺
1209	and the more you can focus on the task at hand.	越能专注于手头的任务
1210	In other news, this episode is brought to you by Function.	在其他新闻中,本集由函数带给你.
1211	Staying on top of your health requires more	保持健康需要更多时间
1212	than just an annual physical,	不只是一年一度的体操,
1213	which is why I partnered with Function.	这就是为什么我与函数合作。
1214	They run lab tests twice a year	他们每年做两次化验
1215	to track over a hundred biomarkers	追踪一百多个生物标记
1216	and monitor for early signs of thousands of diseases.	并监测数千种疾病的早期迹象。
1217	They even screen for 50 types of cancer at stage one,	在第一阶段甚至对50种癌症进行筛查
1218	which is five times more data	这是5倍多的数据
1219	than you get from an annual physical.	比你一年一度的体操成绩还要好
1220	You receive insights from a team of expert physicians	你从一个专家医生小组那里得到洞察力
1221	who provided detailed written clinician summary	他们提供了详细的临床医生书面摘要
1222	for all their observations	他们的所有意见
1223	and then phone consultations for any critical findings.	然后打电话咨询 任何关键的调查结果。
1224	Getting these lab tests done would usually cost thousands,	完成这些实验室测试通常要花费上千美元,
1225	but with Function, it is only $499.	但是,在函数,它只有499美元。
1226	And right now you can get the exact same blood panels	现在你可以得到 完全相同的血面板
1227	that I get and bypass their wait list	我得到和绕过他们的等待名单
1228	by going to the link in the description below	通过到以下描述中的链接
1229	or heading to functionhealth.com slash modern wisdom.	或走向函数健康.com slash 现代智慧.
1230	That's functionhealth.com slash modern wisdom.	这就是功能健康.com slash 现代智慧.
1231	This is related to another insight of yours.	这和你的另一个见解有关
1232	The less you want something,	越不想要的东西,
1233	the less you're thinking about it,	你越不考虑它,
1234	the less you're obsessing over it,	你越是迷恋它
1235	the more you're going to do it in a natural way,	越以自然的方式做到这一点,
1236	the more you're going to do it for yourself,	越是为自己做,
1237	you're going to do it in a way that you're good at	你要用你擅长的方式
1238	and you're going to stick with it.	你会坚持下去的
1239	The people around you will see	你周围的人会看到
1240	the quality of your work is higher.	您的工作质量更高。
1241	But this seems like a difficult tension to navigate	但是,这似乎是一个困难的紧张 导航
1242	because an obsessive attention to detail	因为沉迷于细节
1243	is a competitive advantage of your work as well.	也是你工作的竞争优势
1244	So you have these two things	这么说你有两样东西
1245	sort of conflicting with each other.	有点相互矛盾
1246	No one is going to beat you at being you.	没有人会打你当自己。
1247	If it, so one of the things I like to say is like,	如果是这样,那么我想说的一件事就是,
1248	find what feels like play to you,	找到什么感觉 像玩你,
1249	but looks like work to others.	但看起来像工作对别人。
1250	So it looks like work to them,	所以,看起来像工作 他们,
1251	but to you it feels like play.	但对你来说 感觉就像玩游戏
1252	It's not work.	这不是工作。
1253	So you're going to out-compete them	所以,你会 超越他们的能力
1254	because you're doing it effortlessly.	因为你没有费力
1255	You're doing it for fun.	你这样做是为了好玩
1256	They're doing it for work.	他们是为了工作
1257	They're doing it for some by-product.	他们这样做是为了一些副产品。
1258	To you, it's art, it's beauty, it's joy,	对你来说,这是艺术,是美,是快乐
1259	it's flow, it's fulfilling.	它的流量, 它的满足。
1260	You must enjoy podcasting.	你一定喜欢播客
1261	If you didn't, you wouldn't be good at it.	若不尔则不善.
1262	You would have lost.	你会输的
1263	You wouldn't have done 900 episodes either.	你也不会拍900集的
1264	Right.	对
1265	If you would, if you decided that the right way	如果你愿意,如果你决定了正确的方式
1266	to get ahead in life was to go write books,	人生的前进就是去写书
1267	you would, nobody would have heard of you.	你会,没有人会听说过你。
1268	Chris Williamson's book would be a complete flop.	克里斯・威廉森的书会是一个彻底的失败。
1269	That's not who you are.	这不是你是谁。
1270	You're a podcaster.	你是一个脚踏车。
1271	You enjoy talking to people.	你喜欢跟人说话
1272	You enjoy interviewing them.	你很喜欢采访他们
1273	The more you do things that are natural to you,	你越做你自然的事情,
1274	the less competition you have.	你的竞争越少
1275	You escape competition through authenticity	通过真实性逃避竞争
1276	by being your own self.	成为你自己。
1277	If I had to summarize how to be successful in life	如果我不得不总结 如何成功的生活
1278	in two words, I would just say productize yourself.	用两句话,我只想说 生产你自己。
1279	That's it.	就这样
1280	Just figure out what it is that you naturally do	想想你自然会做什么
1281	that the world might want that you can scale up	世界可能希望你能扩大
1282	and turn into a product.	然后变成一个产品。
1283	And it'll eventually be effortless for you.	对你来说,这终究是无功而返
1284	Yes, there's always work required,	是的,总是需要工作,
1285	but it won't even feel like work to you.	但它甚至不会感觉 像工作给你。
1286	It'll feel like play to you.	它会感觉像玩你。
1287	And modern society gives us that opportunity.	现代社会给了我们这个机会。
1288	If you were 2,000 years ago, you're born on a farm,	如果你是两千年前 你出生在一个农场
1289	your choices are very limited, right?	你的选择非常有限,对吧?
1290	You're gonna do stuff on that farm.	你要在那农场做点什么
1291	Now you can literally wake up	现在你可以醒来了
1292	and you can move to a different city.	你可以搬到另一个城市
1293	You can switch careers.	你可以调换职业。
1294	You can switch jobs.	你可以调换工作。
1295	You can change the people that you're with.	你可以改变你身边的人
1296	You can change so many things about who you are	你可以改变这么多事情 关于你是谁
1297	and who you're with and what you're doing	你和谁在一起,你在做什么
1298	that there is infinite opportunity out there for you,	外面有无限的机会给你,
1299	literally infinite.	绝对是无限的。
1300	And so it's much better to treat this like a search function	所以最好把这当成搜索功能
1301	to find the people who need you the most,	为了找到最需要你的人
1302	to find the work that needs you the most,	为了找到最需要你的工作
1303	to find the place you're best suited to be at.	找到最适合你的地方
1304	And it's worthwhile to spend time in that exploration	值得花时间去探索
1305	before diving into exploitation.	在潜入开采之前
1306	The biggest mistake in a world with so many choices	世界上最大的错误 有这么多的选择
1307	is premature commitment.	这是不成熟的承诺。
1308	If you prematurely commit to being a lawyer or a doctor	如果你过早地承诺做律师或医生
1309	and now you've got five years invested into that,	现在你有五年投资了
1310	you might have just completely missed.	你可能只是完全错过。
1311	You might just end up in the wrong profession,	你可能只是结束了错误的职业,
1312	the wrong place, the wrong people	错误的地方,错误的人
1313	for 30 years of your life grinding away.	30年来你的生活磨碎了。
1314	And yes, the best time to figure that out was before,	是的,最好的时间 找出这一点之前,
1315	but the second best time is now.	但第二好时机是现在
1316	So just change it.	所以,只是改变它。
1317	And also presumably kill things	还可能杀人
1318	that aren't working very quickly.	工作不快点
1319	By default, you should kill everything.	默认你应该杀光一切
1320	If you can't decide, the answer is no.	如果你不能决定,答案是否定的。
1321	And most things you should just be saying no to.	大多数事情你应该只是说不。
1322	Part of my keeping my calendar free	我的一部分保持我的日历自由
1323	is just by default saying no to everything.	只是默认对一切说不。
1324	Do I want to create a calendar just to add your event,	我是否想要创建一个日历 只是为了添加您的活动,
1325	or to add your need or your desire?	还是想补充你的需要或欲望?
1326	One of the other things about,	还有一件事
1327	early on in life, you're looking for opportunities.	早年你在找机会
1328	So you're saying yes to everything.	所以,你对一切说是的。
1329	And that is a phase that you go through.	这是你经历的一个阶段。
1330	That is the exploration phase.	这就是勘探阶段。
1331	Later, when you found the thing you want to work on,	后来,当你发现的东西 你想工作,
1332	you're in the exploitation phase.	你正处于开发阶段
1333	You have to say no to everything by default.	你必须默认地拒绝一切
1334	And if you don't say no to everything by default,	如果你不默认拒绝一切
1335	if you have to even explicitly go out of your way	如果你甚至必须明确 走出你的方式
1336	to say no to something, that will take up time.	说不的东西, 这将需要时间。
1337	For example, there are a lot of people out there	比如说,外面有很多人
1338	who are into hustle culture.	他们喜欢杂耍文化
1339	And a big piece of hustle culture is like,	和一大块的皮条客文化是,
1340	well, you're not going to get something	好吧,你不会得到的东西
1341	if you don't ask for it.	如果你不要求的话。
1342	So they'll hustle people.	所以他们会把人拉出来
1343	They'll always be sending you requests, messages.	他们总是会给你发送请求,信息。
1344	Yeah, this is a famous person problem, but I have it.	是的,这是一个名人的问题, 但我有它。
1345	And people are always asking me for things.	人们总是问我的东西。
1346	And I kind of squirm when I get these messages.	当我收到这些消息时,我有点冲动。
1347	And I'm sure you get these two text messages, emails saying,	我敢肯定,你得到这两个短信, 电子邮件说,
1348	hey, Chris, my friend so-and-so should really be	嘿,克里斯,我的朋友 如此和如此,真的应该
1349	on your podcast, or you should come to my event,	或者你应该来参加我的活动
1350	you should write a forward for my book.	你应该为我的书写个预告
1351	And you kind of squirm when you get this, right?	当你得到这个的时候,你有点冲动,对吧?
1352	And you have to figure out how to say no.	你得想办法拒绝
1353	And one of the things I learned along the way is that,	我一路学到的一件事是,
1354	if you wouldn't ask somebody else to do it,	如果你不要求别人做,
1355	and then you get that request yourself,	然后你得到这个请求自己,
1356	you can just dismiss it.	你可以直接放弃它。
1357	You don't have to respond.	不须应.
1358	You don't even let it enter your brain.	你甚至不让它进入你的大脑。
1359	You have to be able to delete emails and text messages	您必须能够删除电子邮件和短信
1360	without flinching if you want to scale.	如果想要缩放,则不畏缩。
1361	And scaling is very important.	而缩放是非常重要的。
1362	Scaling your time is really important.	延长时间很重要
1363	Every interruption will take you out of flow.	每次中断都会把你弄出水面
1364	So the only way you can remain in flow is if you get	所以,你能够保持流动的唯一方式是 如果你得到
1365	either very good at ignoring these things by default	要么很擅长默认忽略这些东西
1366	or closing yourself off like a hermit,	或者像隐士一样把自己关起来
1367	like our mutual friend Tim Ferriss does,	就像我们共同的朋友蒂姆·费里斯一样
1368	or you just become emotionally capable	否则你就会变得有情感能力
1369	of not registering these as something	不注册这些东西
1370	that causes turbulence inside of you.	导致你内心的动荡
1371	That not registering it emotionally thing,	没有在情感上注册
1372	is that a-	这是...
1373	It's fundamental.	这是根本的。
1374	It's so fundamental to so many things in life.	这对生活中的很多事情来说都是根本性的.
1375	Okay, can we dig into that a little bit?	好吧,我们可以挖 一点点?
1376	Because again, I've only seen you as you, right?	再说一遍,我只把你当成你,对吧?
1377	I didn't know you 20 years ago.	我20年前就不认识你了
1378	I didn't know you as a child.	我小时候不认识你
1379	So I've only seen you with this holistic selfishness,	所以,我只见过你 这种整体自私,
1380	the integrated self-prioritization,	综合的自我优先,
1381	whatever we, I don't know what we called it.	不管我们是什么 我不知道我们叫它什么
1382	Selfish is fine.	自私是罚款。
1383	I'll take selfish.	我会很自私的
1384	I'm selfish.	我是自私的。 我自私的。
1385	I'm a very selfish person.	我是个自私的人
1386	Don't contact me.	别跟我联系
1387	Yeah, that emotional reaction.	是啊,那个情绪反应。
1388	I also get the sense too,	我也感觉到了
1389	that maybe people have lived obligation life for so long,	也许人们已经 义务生活这么久,
1390	that they actually kind of struggled to tap into	他们实际上有点挣扎 利用
1391	what it is that they want.	他们想要什么?
1392	They've hidden their wants and their desires and their needs	他们隐藏着他们的欲望和欲望和需求
1393	and they've deprioritized themselves so much for so long.	并且他们把自己排到第一位已经太久了
1394	They go, what do I want actually?	他们走了,我到底想要什么?
1395	What is it?	这是什么?
1396	Do I want to go to this thing or not?	我到底想不想去看这个?
1397	Because all I've done is be fucking puppeted, right?	因为我做的一切 都是他妈的傀儡,对不对?
1398	I've been marionetted by other people's desires	我被别人的欲望所迷惑
1399	for so, so, so long.	所以,那么,再见。
1400	I can't even tap into that anymore.	我甚至无法再去挖掘。
1401	And saying no feels like a war crime.	并说没有感觉 像战争罪。
1402	So I think it's really good to be able to view	所以,我觉得它真的很好 能够看到
1403	your own mind and your own thoughts objectively.	客观地讲,你自己的思想和思想。
1404	And that is the big benefit of meditation.	这就是冥想的巨大好处。
1405	It creates a small gap between your conscious observation,	它在你的感知观察之间造成了一个小缺口
1406	self and your mind.	自我和你的心灵。
1407	And that lets you then look at your thoughts	让你看看自己的想法
1408	and evaluate them a little bit	并稍作评价
1409	like you would a third party's statements.	就像你愿意接受第三方的陈述
1410	And if you just take your mind to be you	如果你只想成为你
1411	and they're integrated in one of the same at all times	并被整合到一个相同的时刻
1412	and you're reacting from the mind,	你正在从脑海中反应
1413	then you're not even gonna question	那你甚至不会质疑
1414	things that come into your mind.	你心里想的东西
1415	Anything that comes in that creates a reaction	任何产生反应的东西
1416	will immediately create a reaction.	将立即产生反应。
1417	But if you can observe your thoughts a little bit	但是如果你能观察一下你的想法
1418	and not in some woo way,	而不是以某种方式,
1419	but you can even just do it through therapy.	但你甚至可以通过治疗做到这一点。
1420	You can do it through journaling.	你可以通过日记来完成
1421	You can do it any way you'd like.	随所欲行.
1422	You can just take long walks.	你可以长途跋涉
1423	You don't have to meditate and do lotus position.	不须冥想作莲花姿势.
1424	All that is unnecessary.	这些都是不必要的。
1425	But if you can observe your own thoughts	但是如果你能观察你自己的想法
1426	and view them a little objectively,	你应当客观地观察他们,
1427	then you can start being a little more choosy,	然后你可以开始有点挑剔,
1428	a little more critical.	更要紧一点
1429	And you can realize that there are no problems	你可以意识到没有问题
1430	in the real world other than maybe things	在现实世界里,除了可能的事情
1431	that inflict pain on your body.	让你的身体痛苦
1432	Everything else has to become a problem in your mind first.	其它一切首先必须成为你心中的一个问题.
1433	You have to view it and interpret it	你一定要看出来 解读出来
1434	and create a narrative that it is a problem	并编造一个描述 这是一个问题
1435	before it becomes a problem.	在它成为一个问题之前。
1436	And then you realize that a lot of your emotional energy	然后你意识到你的情感能量
1437	is spent on reacting to things	用于对事物的反应
1438	that your mind is automatically saying are problems.	你的思想在自动地说有问题
1439	And you don't need all those problems.	你不需要这么多麻烦
1440	Do you really need that many problems in your life?	你真的需要这么多麻烦吗?
1441	Again, I would say,	我再说一遍,
1442	try to focus on just one overarching problem	试着专注于一个最重要的问题
1443	and then go solve that problem.	然后去解决这个问题。
1444	If you wanna be successful,	如果你想成功的话
1445	define success very concretely,	具体界定成功与否,
1446	focus on that and everything else.	专注于这一点和一切。
1447	When it enters your mind, it becomes a problem,	当它进入你的大脑, 它成为一个问题,
1448	whether it's the judgment	无论是判断
1449	about the girl walking down the street	关于那个女孩走在街上
1450	or the car that just cut in front of you	或刚刚在你面前剪掉的车
1451	or whether it's your accountant did this stupid thing.	或者是你的会计干的蠢事
1452	Yes, it's gonna trigger you,	是的,它会触发你,
1453	but observe for a moment that it's triggering me.	但观察一下,它正在触发我。
1454	I've created a problem.	我制造了一个问题。
1455	Do I really wanna have this problem right now?	我现在真的想有这个问题吗?
1456	Do I wanna spend the energy in this problem	我想把精力花在这件事上吗?
1457	or do I want that going somewhere else?	还是我想去别的地方?
1458	And it doesn't have to be that over.	也不必就这么结束了
1459	The mind mud wrestling with itself is also a problem,	脑泥自相残杀也是一个问题
1460	because it loves to do that.	因为它喜欢这样做。
1461	My problems have got problems	我的问题有问题
1462	and I have a real problem about fixing my problems.	我有一个真正的问题 解决我的问题。
1463	Yeah, exactly.	没错
1464	So you're gonna be much happier and much more focused.	所以你会更快乐 更专注
1465	Again, I think happiness and focus and success	再说一遍,我觉得幸福和专注和成功
1466	can kind of compliment each other.	可以互相称赞
1467	You're gonna have much more energy.	你会有更多的精力。
1468	Just think about it as mental energy.	就当是精神能量吧
1469	You're gonna have much more mental energy	你会有更多的精神能量
1470	to focus on the actual problems you want to solve	关注您想要解决的实际问题
1471	if you don't start unconsciously, subconsciously,	如果你不无意识地 潜意识地开始
1472	reactively picking up problems everywhere.	反应性地到处找问题
1473	So before anything can be a problem	所以在任何事情都成为问题之前
1474	that takes up your emotional energy,	这占用了你的情绪能量,
1475	you have to accept it as a problem.	你必须接受它作为一个问题。
1476	You can be choosy about your problems.	你可以挑剔你的问题。
1477	And I'm not saying I'm perfect in that regard,	我不是说我在这方面是完美的,
1478	but I think I'm better than I used to be.	但我觉得我比以前好
1479	Well, lots of people are addicted to solving problems,	很多人都沉迷于解决问题
1480	so much so that sometimes people create problems	所以有时候人们会制造麻烦
1481	when we don't have any simply so that we can solve them.	等我们没有简单的答案 就能解决问题
1482	We have that going on and then even worse	我们一直这样,然后更糟
1483	is we take on problems that we can't affect.	我们处理的问题是我们不能影响。
1484	So, another one of my little quips was,	所以,另一个小问题是,
1485	a rational person should cultivate indifference	理性的人应该培养冷漠
1486	to things that are out of their control, right?	对超出他们控制范围的东西,对不对?
1487	Or a rational person can find peace	或者一个理性的人可以找到和平
1488	by cultivating indifference to things	对事物漠不关心
1489	that are out of their control.	他们已经失控了
1490	And I'm as guilty as anybody of doomsurfing on X	我和在X上冒着厄运的人一样有罪
1491	or social media and getting worked up about things	或社交媒体 和对事物感到兴奋
1492	that I can't do anything about, right?	我不能做任何事情,对不对?
1493	Do I want to be fighting those battles in my mind	我想在脑海中战斗吗?
1494	when I literally cannot do anything about it?	当我真的不能做任何事情吗?
1495	So, if you find yourself looping on a problem	所以,如果你发现自己 环绕一个问题
1496	like you're watching the news too much	就像你太看新闻了
1497	and you're getting caught up in a problem	你正陷入一个问题
1498	you can't do anything about,	你什么都做不出来,
1499	you have to step away from that.	你必须远离那。
1500	And modern media is a delivery mechanism	现代媒体是一种传播机制
1501	for mimetic viruses.	对于模仿病毒。
1502	And what's happened now is 100 years ago, 500 years ago,	现在发生的事是100年前,500年前
1503	if something wasn't happening in your immediate vicinity	如果你附近没有发生什么
1504	you wouldn't hear about it.	你不会听说的
1505	It wouldn't be a problem for you.	这对你来说不会是一个问题。
1506	But now every single one of the world's problems	但现在世界上每个问题
1507	has turned into a mimetic virus	已经变成了模仿病毒
1508	which is going into the battlefield of the news	它将进入新闻的战场
1509	and is trying to infect your mind in real time.	并试图感染 你的思想实时。
1510	Hyperspeed.	超速飞行
1511	Yeah, so that you become obsessed with the war in Ukraine	对,这样你就会沉迷于乌克兰的战争
1512	which is really far away	很远的地方
1513	or you get obsessed with climate change	或者你沉迷于气候变化
1514	or you get obsessed with AI doom	或者你沉迷于AI的末日
1515	or you get obsessed with whatever	要么你迷恋上什么
1516	and there's nothing as riveting as the old religion,	没有什么比旧宗教更疯狂的了
1517	the world is ending, the world is ending,	世界即将结束 世界即将结束
1518	pay attention, the world is ending.	注意,世界即将终结
1519	And if you don't-	如果你们不...
1520	It's a Cassandra complex at global scale.	它是全球规模的卡桑德拉综合体.
1521	Cassandra complex at global scale	全球范围的卡桑德拉建筑群
1522	and I would argue that large percentages of population	我认为,人口比例很高
1523	are essentially just infected with these mimetic viruses	基本上只是感染了这些模仿病毒
1524	that are taken over their brain	他们的大脑被占据了
1525	and are causing them to do incredible gyration	并使他们妄自尊大,
1526	about things that probably aren't even true	关于可能不是真的的事情
1527	or are greatly exaggerated.	或者夸大其词
1528	But even to the extent they are true,	但即使它们是真的
1529	there are things that that person can do nothing about.	有些事情是 人可以无所作为。
1530	And they should put their own house in order first.	他们应该先把自己的房子摆好
1531	So another little line I have for myself is,	我还有一条线要说
1532	your family is broken, but you're gonna fix the world.	你的家人已经破碎了 但你会修复这个世界的
1533	People are running out there to try and fix the world	人们跑到外面去修补世界
1534	when their whole lives are a mess.	当他们的整个生活是一团糟。
1535	Oh my God.	天呐
1536	And I think it defies credibility	我觉得这有损信誉
1537	if you can't fix your own life first.	如果你不能先修自己的生活的话
1538	I'm not gonna take you seriously	我不会认真对待你的
1539	if you can't fix your own life.	如果你无法修复自己的生活。
1540	Like all these philosophers	像所有这些哲学家
1541	who seem like people you emulate and so smart	他们看起来像人 你模仿,如此聪明
1542	or like these brilliant celebrities	或喜欢这些杰出的名人
1543	and they go off and commit suicide.	他们去自杀。
1544	Well, you just kind of invalidated your whole way of life.	好吧,你只是有点 使你的整个生活方式无效。
1545	It's like that line in No Country for All Men	这就像在"没有国家为所有人"中的一行
1546	where the killer is waiting for the protagonist	凶手在等着主角
1547	and protagonist shows up and the killer says,	主角出现了 凶手说
1548	well, you know, if your set of rules brought you here,	好吧,你知道,如果你的 规则带你在这里,
1549	then what good are your rules?	那你的规矩又有什么用?
1550	It didn't work.	没有用
1551	I'm holistically selfish in that I want to be	我太自私了 我想成为
1552	objectively successful in everything I set out to want.	客观上是成功的 所有我想要的东西。
1553	Yeah, you have one life, don't settle for mediocrity.	是啊,你只有一条命,别太平庸
1554	Don't settle for mediocrity.	勿以平庸为定.
1555	People debate intelligence, for example, right?	人们辩论情报,比如,对不对?
1556	We talk about IQ tests and all that.	我们谈智商测试之类的
1557	But I think the only true test of intelligence	但我认为唯一真正的智慧测试
1558	is if you get what you want out of life.	如果你从生活中得到你想要的东西
1559	And there are two parts to that.	这有两个部分。
1560	One is getting what you want so you know how to get it.	一是得到你想要的 让你知道如何得到
1561	And the second is wanting the right things,	第二是想要正确的东西,
1562	knowing what to want in the first place.	知初发心所求.
1563	I could want to be a six foot eight basketball player	我本来想当个六英尺八的篮球运动员
1564	and I'm not gonna get that.	我不会得到这一点。
1565	So it's wanting the wrong thing.	所以它想要错的东西。
1566	So that's wanting something that you can't get.	所以这就是想要一些你得不到的东西。
1567	That's wanting something you can't get.	那就是想要你得不到的东西
1568	Is also wanting something that you don't want.	还想要一些你不希望的东西
1569	Yeah, wanting something that's a booby prize.	是啊,想要的东西 一个诱杀奖。
1570	There are plenty of booby prizes out there too, right?	外面也有很多诱杀奖 对吧?
1571	I haven't heard that word in about 20 years.	我已经20年没有听到这个词了
1572	Prizes that are just not worth having	奖品只是不值得拥有
1573	or that create their own problems.	或造成他们自己的问题。
1574	But if you're not careful, you can end up in a place in life	但是,如果你不小心, 你会在生活中一个地方
1575	not only that you don't want to be,	不仅你不想成为,
1576	but one that you didn't even mean to get to.	但有一个你甚至不想得到。
1577	That's if you're kind of proceeding unconsciously.	如果你是在无意识地行事的话
1578	But how many people are?	但有多少人吗?
1579	And usually I think people end up there	通常我觉得人们最终会在那里
1580	because they are going on autopilot	因为他们要自动驾驶
1581	with sort of societal expectations	有某种社会期望
1582	or other people's expectations.	或者别人的期望
1583	So, or out of guilt or out of like mimetic desire.	所以,或者因为内疚或者像模仿的欲望。
1584	彼得,别这样 Thiel从René Girard那里得到这整件事
1585	about how mimetic desires, our desires	关于如何模仿欲望,我们的欲望
1586	are picked up from other people.	是从别人那里捡来的
1587	And some of those are automatically baked into society	有些会自动烘焙成社会
1588	like go to law school, go to med school,	就像上法学院,上医学院
1589	go to whatever, go to business school.	上商学院
1590	Or they might be from watching what your friends are doing	或者他们可能是从 看着你的朋友在做什么
1591	and the other monkeys are doing.	而其他猴子也在做着
1592	Or it might just be what your parents' expectations are.	或者可能只是你父母的期望
1593	It might be out of guilt.	可能是因为内疚
1594	Guilt is just society's voice speaking in your head,	罪责只是社会的声音 在你的脑海里说话,
1595	socially programmed so you'll be a good little monkey	社会程序,这样你就会是个好猴子
1596	and do things that are good for the tribe.	做对部落有利的事
1597	But I think the best outcomes come	但我觉得最好的结果是
1598	when you think it through for yourself	当你自己想清楚的时候
1599	and decide for yourself.	自己决定
1600	And I don't think people spend enough time deciding.	而且我不认为人们花 足够的时间决定。
1601	For example, we run on these four year cycles.	例如,我们按这四年周期进行。
1602	In Silicon Valley, you go join a startup,	在硅谷,你去参加一个启动,
1603	you vest your stock over four years.	你背负你的股票 超过四年。
1604	That's the standard.	这是标准。
1605	In college, you go for four years.	在大学,你去四年。
1606	High school, you go for four years.	高中,你学了四年
1607	Some things take longer.	有些事情需要更长的时间。
1608	You have children, they hit puberty nine years later.	你有孩子,他们九年后就进入青春期了
1609	That's like a nine year cycle	这就像一个九年周期
1610	until that relationship changes.	直到这种关系改变。
1611	But we're used to these fairly long cycles,	但我们习惯了这些漫长的循环
1612	multi-year cycles in which we are committed to things.	我们致力于多年周期。
1613	You go to law school, four or five year cycle.	你上法学院,四五年
1614	You go be a lawyer, 40 year cycle.	你当律师40年
1615	These are very long cycles.	这些循环非常长。
1616	The amount of time we spend deciding what to do	我们花很多时间决定该怎么做
1617	and who to do it with, very short, very, very short, right?	和谁做它,非常短, 非常短,对不对?
1618	We spend three months deciding, one month deciding	我们花了三个月决定,一个月决定
1619	on a job where we're gonna be for 10 years or five years.	做个十年或五年的工作
1620	And because a lot of discovery is path dependent,	因为很多发现都取决于路径
1621	{\fn黑体\fs22\bord1\shad0\3aHBE\4aH00\fscx67\fscy66\2cHFFFFFF\3cH808080}你找到的下一个东西
1622	is dependent on where you were on the previous path,	取决于您在前一条道路上的位置,
1623	you sort of start going down this vector	你开始向下走
1624	that is a very long distance.	很远的距离
1625	People decide frivolously which city to live in,	人们轻而易举地决定住哪座城市
1626	and that's gonna decide who their friends are,	那会决定他们的朋友是谁
1627	what their jobs are, their opportunity, their weather,	他们的工作是什么,他们的机会,他们的天气,
1628	their food supply, their air supply, quality of life.	食物供应、空气供应、生活质量
1629	It's such an important decision,	这是一个很重要的决定,
1630	but people spend so little time thinking it through.	但人们很少花时间去思考
1631	I would argue that if you're making a four year decision,	我会说 如果你要做出四年的决定
1632	spend a year thinking it through.	花了一年时间去思考
1633	25% of the time.	25%的时间。
1634	Yeah, exactly.	没错
1635	There's the secretary theorem.	有秘书定理.
1636	I don't know if you know that one.	我不知道你是否知道那个
1637	After you've done this many people,	在你做了这么多人之后
1638	pick the best one of the next however many.	选择最好的之一 接下来多少。
1639	That's right.	没错
1640	Yeah, the secretary theorem is this computer science	对 秘书定理就是计算机科学
1641	professor is trying to figure out how much time	教授在想 有多少时间
1642	he's just spent interviewing secretaries	他只是在面试秘书
1643	and then how long to keep the secretary.	然后多久 保持秘书。
1644	So let's say he's gonna have a secretary for 10 years.	所以说他会有个秘书十年
1645	Does he keep searching for one year, two years,	他是否一直在寻找一年,两年,
1646	three years, one month, two months?	三年,一个月,两个月?
1647	What is the optimal time?	最佳时机是什么?
1648	And it turns out that the optimal time	结果发现最好的时机
1649	is somewhere around a third,	大约三分之一左右
1650	about a third of the way through,	约三分之一的路程,
1651	you take the best person you've worked with	你带最好的人 你曾经工作过
1652	and try to find someone that good or better.	试着找到一个那么好或更好的人
1653	So by the time you've gone about a third of the way through,	所以,当你走了大约三分之一的路程,
1654	you have, excuse me, seen enough	你,对不起,看够了
1655	that you now have a sense of what the bar is.	你现在能感觉到酒吧是什么了
1656	And then anybody who meets or exceeds that bar	遇到或超过酒吧的人
1657	is good enough.	够好了
1658	And this applies to dating,	这适用于约会,
1659	this applies to jobs and careers, this applies generally.	这适用于工作和职业,一般适用。
1660	But the interesting thing about the secretary theorem	但秘书定理的有趣之处
1661	is that it's actually not time-based.	其实不是时间性的
1662	It's not based on one third of the time,	这不是基于三分之一的时间,
1663	it's iteration-based.	这是基于迭代的。
1664	The number of candidates.	考生数.
1665	The number of shots you took on goal, that's right.	你射门的子弹数,没错。
1666	So you want to have lots and lots of iterations.	所以你想有很多的重复。
1667	So in that sense-	所以从这个意义上说...
1668	So it means that you need to bail out quickly	也就是说你需要尽快保释出来
1669	and you need to be decisive quickly.	你得快点下定决心
1670	That's right.	没错
1671	You need to take opportunities quickly	你要抓紧机会
1672	and that's right.	这是正确的。
1673	So you want to have lots and lots of iterations.	所以你想有很多的重复。
1674	You need to take opportunities quickly	你要抓紧机会
1675	and you need to take opportunities quickly	并且你需要迅速抓住机会
1676	bail out quickly.	快保释出来
1677	Correct.	没错
1678	Like if you go back and you look through failed relationships, probably the biggest regret	就像你回去,你看看 失败的关系,也许最大的遗憾
1679	will be staying in the relationship after you knew it was over.	在你知道事情结束之后 就会保持感情
1680	You should have left sooner.	你应该早点离开的
1681	The moment you knew it wasn't going to work out, you should have moved on.	你一知道事情不会成功 就应该继续前进
1682	So in that sense, I think Malcolm Gladwell popularized this idea of 10,000 hours to mastery.	因此,从这个意义上讲,我认为马尔科姆·格拉德韦尔(Malcolm Gladwell) 普及了这个一万小时才能掌握的想法.
1683	I would say it's actually 10,000 iterations to mastery.	我想说其实是一万遍的重复
1684	It's not actually 10,000.	其实不是一万.
1685	It's some unknown number, but it's about the number of iterations that drive the learning	这是未知数,但关于 重复数驱动学习
1686	curve.	曲线。
1687	And iteration is not repetition.	重复不是重复。
1688	Repetition is a different thing.	复次如是分别.
1689	Repeating is doing the same thing over and over.	复次复作如是事.
1690	Iteration is modifying it with the learning and then doing another version of it.	迭代是用学习来修改,然后做另一个版本.
1691	So that's error correction.	所以这是错误的校正。
1692	So if you get 10,000 error corrections in anything, you will be an expert at it.	所以,如果你得到1万个错误的校正, 你会是一个专家。
1693	Don't partner with cynics and pessimists.	别和愤世嫉俗的人合作
1694	You mentioned there about the people who've got a nightmare going on at home and are trying	你提到过那些在家里做恶梦的人
1695	to fix the world.	以修一切众生.
1696	But a lot of the time that cynicism and pessimism we find in ourselves, we see the world whether	但是,很多时候,我们发现这种 愤世嫉俗和悲观 我们自己,我们看到世界是否
1697	we want to, whether it's because we've imbibed what the news or the negative people around	我们想,无论是因为我们潜入了什么新闻还是负面人物
1698	us have said, or it's a bit more kind of endogenous than that.	我们说过了,不然就更内生了
1699	It's just sort of in us.	它只是有点在我们身上。
1700	It's the way that we see the world.	观世音之道.
1701	How can people avoid cynicism and pessimism within themselves?	人们怎么能在自己内部避免愤世嫉俗和悲观?
1702	Yeah, cynicism and pessimism is a tough one.	是啊,愤世嫉俗和悲观是很难的。
1703	We're naturally hardwired for it.	我们自然是铁丝网的
1704	Again, I go back to evolution.	再说一遍,我回到进化。
1705	I'm sorry to keep harping on evolution, but within biology, there's very few good explanatory	很抱歉一直强调进化论 但是在生物学界 很少有很好的解释
1706	theories and theory of evolution, but natural selection is probably the best one.	进化论和理论,但自然选择可能是最好的.
1707	So if you can't explain something about life or psychology or human nature through evolution,	所以如果你不能通过进化来解释 生活、心理学或人性
1708	then you probably don't have a good theory for it.	那你可能没有很好的理论
1709	And I would say that pessimism is another one that comes out of this, which is in the	我要说,悲观主义是另一个 由此而来的,它存在于
1710	natural environment, you're hardwired to be pessimistic.	自然环境,你硬线 悲观。
1711	Because let's say that I see something rustling in the woods, and if I move towards it and	因为我在树林里看到一些生锈的东西 如果我朝它前进
1712	it turns out to be food and prey, then good, I get to eat one meal.	原来是食物和猎物, 然后好,我吃一顿饭。
1713	But if it turns out to be a predator, I get eaten.	但如果是食肉动物 我就会被吃掉
1714	And that's the end of that.	亦复如是.
1715	So we are hardwired to avoid ruin and just dying.	所以,我们是硬线 以避免毁灭和死亡。
1716	So we are naturally hardwired to be pessimists.	因此,我们自然是悲观主义者。
1717	But modern society is very different.	但现代社会却大相径庭.
1718	Despite whatever problems you may have with modern society, it is far, far safer than	尽管你和现代社会有什么问题 但远比
1719	living in the jungle and just trying to survive.	生活在丛林里,只是想生存
1720	And the opportunities and the upside are nonlinear.	而机会与颠倒非线性.
1721	For example, when you're investing, if you short a stock, the most money you can make	例如,当你投资时,如果你缺了股票,你就能赚到的钱最多
1722	为 2x。
1723	If the stock goes to zero, you double your money.	如果股票跌到零,你加倍的钱。
1724	But if the stock is the next Nvidia and it goes 100x or 1000x, you make a lot of money.	但是,如果股票是下一个Nvidia 它去100x或1000x, 你赚了很多钱。
1725	So upside, because of leverage, is nearly unlimited.	所以,颠倒,因为杠杆,几乎是无限的。
1726	Also in modern society, because there's so many different people you can interact with,	同样在现代社会, 因为有这么多不同的人 你可以与,
1727	if you go on a date and it fails, there are infinite more people to go on a date with.	如果你去约会,它失败了, 有无限的人去约会。
1728	In a tribal system, there might have been 20 people and you can't even get through all	在一个部落体系中,可能有20个人 你甚至无法通过所有
1729	of them.	他们。
1730	So modern society is far more forgiving of failure.	因此,现代社会更宽容失败。
1731	And you just have to sort of neocortically realize and override that.	你只需要有点反常地意识到 并克服它。
1732	You have to realize that you're much more running a search function to find the thing	你要意识到你更需要运行一个搜索功能 才能找到它
1733	that will work.	这会工作。
1734	And then that one thing will pay off in massive compounding.	那样的话 大规模复合就会得到回报
1735	Once you find your mate for the rest of your life, you find your wife or your husband,	一旦你找到了你的伴侣,你的余生, 你找到你的妻子或丈夫,
1736	then you can compound in that relationship.	那样你就可以混入那段感情了
1737	It's okay if you had 50 failed dates in between.	如果你有50个失败的约会
1738	The same way, once you find the one business you're meant to plow into and it'll compound	同样的方式,一旦你找到 你本该耕的一个 业务,它会复合
1739	returns, it's okay if you had 50 small failed ventures or 50 small failed job interviews.	返回时,如果您有50个小失败的企业或50个小失败的工作面试,那就没事了。
1740	The number of failures doesn't matter.	失败的次数并不重要.
1741	And so there's no point in being a pessimist.	故曰悲观者无用.
1742	You want to be an optimist.	你想成为一个乐观主义者。
1743	But I would say you want to be skeptical about specific things.	但我会说,你想对具体的事情持怀疑态度。
1744	Every specific opportunity is probably a fail, but you want to be optimistic in the general.	每一个具体的机会都可能是失败的,但你希望总体上乐观.
1745	In the general, you want to be like, something in here is going to work out.	总而言之,你想成为一样, 这里的东西是要去工作。
1746	How would you navigate that tension?	你会如何克服紧张?
1747	I mean, exactly as I said, I'm optimistic in the general that if something fails right	我的意思是,正如我所说的,我对总的乐观 如果某件事失败了
1748	now, then this is a little woo-woo, but it wasn't meant to be.	现在,那么这是有点呜呜, 但它不是注定的。
1749	It was a learning experience.	这是一个学习经验。
1750	It was an iteration.	这是重复。
1751	As long as I learned something from it, then it's a win.	只要我从中学到了些东西,那么这就是胜利.
1752	If I didn't learn from it, then it's a loss.	若不从中修习,则有失矣.
1753	But as long as you're learning and you keep iterating fast and cutting your losses quickly,	但只要你学会了,你不停地 快速地延缓,并迅速削减你的损失,
1754	then when you find the right thing, you have to be optimistic and compound into it.	然后当你找到正确的东西, 你必须乐观 并加进它。
1755	So you don't want to jump into the first thing.	所以你不想跳进第一件事
1756	You don't want to marry the first person you date necessarily unless you got very lucky.	你不会想嫁给你约会的第一个人 除非你很幸运
1757	But you want to investigate and explore very, very quickly until you find the match.	但是,你想调查 和探索非常,非常快 直到你找到匹配。
1758	And then you have to be willing to go all in.	然后你必须愿意 全部进入。
1759	You have to be willing to move your chips to the center of the table.	你必须愿意把你的筹码移到桌子中央
1760	So both those approaches are required.	因此,这两种做法都是必要的。
1761	So it's a barbell strategy.	所以这是巴贝尔策略
1762	It's sort of black or it's white.	有点黑色或白色.
1763	And most people are sort of stuck in this gray bit and they're like half in, but I'm	大多数人被困在这灰色的片段 他们就像一半,但我
1764	kind of don't really know if I am.	有点不知道我是不是
1765	I also think like labels like pessimists, optimists, cynic, introvert, extrovert.	我也认为标签像悲观主义者,乐观主义者,愤慨主义者,内向主义者,外向主义者.
1766	These are very self-limiting.	这些都是非常自我限制的。
1767	Humans are very dynamic.	人类非常活跃.
1768	There are times when you feel like being introverted.	有时候你觉得自己是内向的
1769	There are times when you feel like being extroverted.	时有感受外道.
1770	There are contexts in which you'll be pessimistic.	有些情况下你会感到悲观
1771	Leave all those labels alone.	离开所有的标签。
1772	It's better just to look at the problem at hand, look at reality the way it is.	最好只是看看手头的问题,看看现实的样子.
1773	Try to take yourself out of the equation in a sense.	从某种意义上说 试着脱离方程式
1774	Like obviously you're involved, but motivated reasoning is the worst kind of reasoning.	很明显你参与其中 但动机推理是最糟糕的推理
1775	You're not going to find truth through highly motivated reasoning.	你不可能通过高动机的推理找到真相。
1776	You have to be objective.	你必须客观。
1777	And objective means trying to take yourself out of it as much as possible, or at least	客观意味着要尽量从中解放出来 至少
1778	your personality out of it as much as possible.	你个性越好越好
1779	And so to the extent you run with this thick idea of what you're doing, you're not going	所以,你运行的程度 这个厚厚的想法 你在做什么,你不会
1780	to find truth through identity and personality, it's going to cloud your judgment.	要通过身份和个性找到真相 这会影响你的判断
1781	It's going to try and lock you into the past.	它会试着把你锁进过去
1782	If you say, I'm a depressed, unhappy person, yeah, I'm going to be unhappy.	如果你说,我是一个抑郁,不快乐的人, 是的,我会不快乐。
1783	That's a way of locking yourself into your past.	将自己锁在你的过去里
1784	Even saying, I have trauma.	即使说,我有创伤。
1785	I have PTSD.	我有创伤后精神紧张症。
1786	Yeah.	对
1787	You feel something.	你感觉到什么了
1788	There are memories.	有回忆
1789	There are flashes.	有闪光。
1790	There are occasional bad feelings, but don't define yourself by it because then you'll	偶尔会有不好的感受 但不要用它来定义自己 因为那样你会
1791	lock it into your identity and you're just going to loop on it.	把它锁进你的身份,你只是要循环它。
1792	It's better to stay flexible because reality is always changing and you have to be able	保持灵活比较好 因为现实总是在改变 你必须有能力
1793	to adapt to it.	以适应它。
1794	Adaptation is also intelligence.	适应也是智慧.
1795	Adaptation is survival.	适应就是生存。
1796	Adaptation is kind of how you're here.	适应是种如何你在这里。
1797	You're here because you're an adapter and your ancestors were adapters.	你在这里是因为你是一个适配器 你的祖先是适配器。
1798	So to adapt, you'll see things clearly.	因此,为了适应,你会清楚地看到事情。
1799	And if you're seeing them through your own identity, it's going to cloud your judgment.	如果你通过自己的身份看到他们 就会影响你的判断
1800	A quick aside, you've probably heard me talk about element before.	你可能听过我讲过元素
1801	In fact, you might be thinking, for f*** sake, Chris, will you shut up about element?	事实上,你可能会在想, 看在上帝的份上,克里斯, 你能不能闭嘴关于元素?
1802	And the answer is no, I won't because when I take it, I genuinely feel the difference.	答案是不,我不会,因为当我接受它, 我真正感觉到了区别。
1803	I genuinely believe that proper hydration makes a massive difference to your performance.	我真心相信 适当的水合会大大改变你的性能
1804	So I'm going to keep talking about it until you start drinking it.	所以我会继续谈论它 直到你开始喝它。
1805	Element is a tasty electrolyte drink mix with everything that you need and nothing that	元素是一种美味的电解质饮料 混合你需要的一切,没有什么
1806	you don't.	你没有。
1807	Each Grab and Go stick pack contains a science-backed electrolyte ratio of sodium, potassium and	每个Grab和Go棒包中包含一个科学后置电解质比钠、钾和
1808	magnesium with no sugar, no coloring, no artificial ingredients or any other junk.	镁无糖,无色,无人工配料或任何其他垃圾.
1809	It plays a critical role in reducing muscle cramps and fatigue while optimizing brain	它在减少肌肉抽筋和疲劳同时优化大脑方面起着关键作用
1810	health, regulating appetite and curbing cravings.	健康,调节食欲,抑制欲望.
1811	This orange flavor in a cold glass of water is how I've started my morning every single	冷水杯里的橙色味儿 是我每天早上开始的
1812	day for over three years now.	已经过了三年了
1813	And I genuinely feel the difference versus when I don't.	我真正感觉到了与我不这样做时的区别。
1814	Best of all, they have a no questions asked refund policy with an unlimited duration so	最重要的是,他们没有问题 问的退款政策 无限期。
1815	you can buy it and try it for as long as you want.	你可以买下它 并尝试的时间,你想要的。
1816	And if you don't like it for any reason, they'll just give you your money back.	如果你出于任何原因不喜欢的话 他们会把钱还给你的
1817	You don't even need to return the box.	你甚至不用还盒子
1818	That's how confident they are that you'll love it.	这就是他们有多自信 你会喜欢它。
1819	Plus, they offer free shipping within the U.S.	此外,它们还提供美国国内的免费航运.
1820	And right now you can get a free sample pack of all eight flavors with your first box by	现在,你可以免费的样本包 所有八种口味 与你的第一盒
1821	转到下面描述的链接或标题为www.drinklmnt.com
1822	slash modern wisdom.	斜击现代智慧.
1823	这是www.drinklmnt.com 斜线现代智慧.
1824	Moving on to sort of thinking about happiness, obviously a topic of yours that's a...	继续思考幸福 显然你的话题是...
1825	It's honestly the one that I feel least qualified to talk about.	老实说,我最不想谈这个
1826	Is it like a guy that's got long arms teaching you how to bench press or a dude	就像一个有长臂的男人 教你如何板凳媒体或男人
1827	that's really tall teaching you how to deadlift someone that feels like they came	教你怎么把感觉像来的人
1828	from behind the eight ball?	从8球后面?
1829	Yeah, you're asking a crazy person about their thoughts.	是啊,你问一个疯子 他们的想法。
1830	So just thought it through.	所以就考虑过了
1831	Is happiness still more about peace than it is about joy?	快乐比快乐更重要吗?
1832	It's just one of those overloaded words that means different things to different people.	这只是那些超载的词之一,对不同的人意味着不同的东西.
1833	So I'm not even sure we're communicating the same language, but what is happiness?	所以,我甚至不确定我们在沟通 相同的语言, 但什么是幸福?
1834	I think it's just basically being okay with where you are.	我觉得你现在在哪就没事了
1835	Not wanting?	不想吗?
1836	Not wanting things to be different than the way they are.	不想让事情变得跟现在不一样
1837	Not having the sense that anything is missing in this moment.	感觉不到这瞬间 什么都不见了
1838	Needing something to change your current positive situation being contingent on an adjustment.	需要一些东西来改变你当前的积极状况 取决于调整
1839	Correct, on getting something from the outside world.	对,从外面得到东西
1840	Ironically, I think most people, if you were to ask them when they were happiest	讽刺的是,我认为大多数人, 如果你要问他们 当他们最快乐
1841	for a sustained period of time, not for a brief moment,	持续的时间,而不是短暂的时间,
1842	because pleasure can override happiness and create kind of this illusion of happiness.	因为快乐可以压倒幸福 并产生这种幸福的幻觉
1843	But if you ask people when they were happy for a sustained period of time,	但是如果你问人们什么时候快乐 一段时间,
1844	they were probably doing some variation of nothing.	他们可能正在做一些变化 什么。
1845	That's interesting.	这很有趣。
1846	Because in the chase is this sort of lack, this contingency.	因为在追逐中是这种缺乏, 这种应急。
1847	That's right.	没错
1848	But then you get bored.	但你会觉得无聊
1849	If you just sit around all the time, you get bored.	如果你一直坐着 就会无聊
1850	So you want adventure, you want surprise.	所以,你想冒险,你想惊喜。
1851	Like there's the funny thought experiment of the bliss machine, right?	就像有有趣的思想实验 幸福机器,对不对?
1852	Which is suppose I could drill a hole in your head and put an electrode in,	假设我能在你头上钻个洞 然后把电极放进去
1853	and they did this with monkeys, and I can put a wire in there	他们用猴子来做,我可以把电线放进去
1854	and I can stimulate just the right part of your brain and I can put you in bliss.	我可以刺激你大脑的正确部分 让你幸福
1855	And you'll just be in bliss.	你会在幸福中。
1856	Would you want that?	你想吗?
1857	Might be nice.	也许不错。
1858	For how long?	多长时间?
1859	Do it and I'll tell you.	做到这一点,我会告诉你。
1860	Right.	对
1861	So most people will say, well, I don't want that.	所以大多数人会说,嗯,我不想。
1862	I want meaning.	我想要意义。
1863	I don't want just bliss.	我不想只是幸福。
1864	I want meaning.	我想要意义。
1865	And you're like, OK, well, I'll put an electrode in there and I'll give you meaning.	你就像,好吧,好吧, 我会把一个电极在那里, 我给你意义。
1866	How about that?	怎么样?
1867	And if you kind of run this thought experiment long enough,	如果你做这个想法实验足够久的话
1868	I think most people realize actually what I want is I want surprise.	我想大多数人都意识到 我想要的是惊喜
1869	I want the world to surprise me and I want to wrestle with it	我想让世界给我惊喜 我想和它搏斗
1870	in ways that are somewhat predictable, but somewhat not.	在某种程度上可以预测,但有些不可预测。
1871	And you kind of end up back where you started.	你终于回到你开始的地方
1872	So I don't know if necessarily for some people, pure happiness is the ultimate goal.	所以我不知道对于有些人来说,纯幸福是否必然是最终目标.
1873	They want to just be blissfully happy wherever they are, whenever they are.	他们只是希望快乐地快乐 无论他们在哪里,无论何时。
1874	But I think other people, most people would say, well, I'm here in this world.	但我认为其他人,大多数人会说, 我在这里的世界。
1875	I'm here in this life.	我今此生如来.
1876	I don't understand it or why, but I want to be engaged.	我不知道为什么 但我想订婚
1877	I want to be surprised.	我想感到惊讶。
1878	I want to do things.	我想做点什么
1879	I want to accomplish things.	我想做点事
1880	I want to want things and then get them.	我想要的东西,然后得到它们。
1881	Right.	对
1882	That's kind of the whole game that we're all playing here.	这就是我们在这里玩的游戏
1883	Surprises are really interesting.	惊喜真的很有趣。
1884	There's sort of unpredictability.	有点不可预测
1885	I think total bro science here, but I'm pretty sure that that's kind of how	我觉得这里是彻头彻尾的兄弟科学, 但我很肯定,这是如何
1886	dopamine works, that things are a bit better than you expected.	多巴胺起作用了 事情比你想象的要好
1887	That within that, it means that if you, for the perennial insecure overachievers	也就是说,如果你 永远的无保障的过度成就者
1888	that claw you for control, that really want to be able to, the schedule is	那爪子你控制, 那真的想 能够,时间表是
1889	perfectly done and we know the itinerary, we know where we're going to be at this	完美地完成,我们知道行程, 我们知道我们在哪里会 做到这一点
1890	You're in some ways, I guess, reducing down the capacity for surprise because	你在某些方面,我想, 降低能力 惊喜,因为
1891	everything has become very contrived, prescribed, done in advance, laid out.	所有事情都变得非常周密,规定,事先完成,规定.
1892	Your ability to be surprised actually diminishes.	你感到惊讶的能力实际上减弱了。
1893	Yeah.	对
1894	If, if nothing worked out the way you expect it, if it was all serendipity	如果,如果什么事情都达不到你的预期, 如果这一切都是沉默
1895	and you didn't want that, you would just be a ball of anxiety.	你不希望那样, 你只会是一个焦虑的球。
1896	On the other hand, if everything worked out as you expected and wanted,	另一方面,如果一切都如你所期望和所希望的那样
1897	you'd be so bored, you might as well be dead.	你会很无聊的,你最好死了
1898	So there's some, you know, the river of life kind of flows	生命的河流流淌着
1899	between these two banks and enjoy it.	在这两家银行之间享受吧
1900	You say thinking about yourself as the source of all unhappiness,	你说想着自己是所有不幸福的根源
1901	but presumably you need to work on yourself and your weaknesses as well.	但大概你需要努力 自己和你的弱点。
1902	So some degree of reflection is important.	所以某种程度的反思很重要.
1903	And if thinking about yourself as a source of unhappiness,	如果将自己视为不幸福的源泉
1904	is this a price that you need to pay?	这是你需要付出的代价吗?
1905	I need to sort of reflect inward.	我需要有点反射内部。
1906	I'm going to have to diminish this level of happiness for a little while.	我得暂时降低这种幸福水平.
1907	And then I can use this new level.	然后,我可以使用这个新的关卡。
1908	I've got my brown belt on and I can go out into the world as a brown belt.	我戴上了棕色的皮带,我可以像棕色的皮带一样走进世界.
1909	What I'm specifically referring to that is if you're thinking about your personality	我具体指的是 如果你在考虑你的个性
1910	and your ego and the character of you, and you're obsessing over that,	和你的自我 和你的性格, 你迷恋这一点,
1911	that's where a lot of depression and unhappiness sort of lingers and gets cultivated.	这就是许多抑郁症和不幸福症 被种植。
1912	So thinking about woe is me, this happened to me, that happened to me.	所以想着悲伤就是我, 发生在我身上,发生在我身上。
1913	I have this personality.	我有这样的个性。
1914	I have this issue.	我有这个问题。
1915	I deserve this.	我活该
1916	I didn't get that.	我没听懂
1917	That's, you're just strengthening a little beast in there that is insatiable.	也就是说,你只是加强 一个小野兽在那里,这是无厌。
1918	And that's where I think a lot of unhappiness comes from.	亦复如是想种种不乐自在.
1919	What's the beast?	什么是野兽?
1920	It's the ego.	这是自负。
1921	But that word is so overused that I kind of hate to use the word.	但这个词被过度使用,我有点讨厌使用这个词。
1922	But it's like a, it's a recurrent collection of thoughts	但它就像一个,它是一个经常性的集思广益
1923	that are very self-obsessed and will never be satisfied.	那是自恋的,永远不会满足。
1924	And very concretized as well.	而且非常具体
1925	So they're not malleable, not particularly flexible.	所以它们不是可折叠的,也不是特别灵活的.
1926	You're just adding to them by thinking about them all the time.	你只是一直想着它们来补充它们
1927	You're creating narratives and stories and identities.	你在编故事 故事 身份
1928	But that's different from solving personal problems.	但这与解决个人问题不同.
1929	So if you encounter something, you learn from something,	所以,如果你遇到什么, 你学习的东西,
1930	you're reflecting upon the learning, then you can reflect upon it, absorb it,	你思考学习, 然后你可以思考,吸收它,
1931	and then just move on.	然后继续前进
1932	But sitting there saying, I'm Chris, I'm Naval, I deserve this.	但坐在那里说 我是克里斯 我是海军 我活该
1933	This happened to me.	这发生在我身上。
1934	That person wronged me.	那个人伤害了我。
1935	This is who I am.	这就是我
1936	This shouldn't have happened.	这不应该发生。
1937	I need to go get revenge on this.	我要去报仇了
1938	I need to fix that or change this.	我要修好它或改变这个
1939	I mean, that I think is where a lot of mental illness comes from.	我的意思是,我认为 有很多精神疾病来自哪里。
1940	So it depends if you are thinking about something to solve a problem	所以这取决于你是否在想一些办法解决问题
1941	and get it off your chest and get it off your mind.	并把它从你的胸口 并把它从你的脑海里。
1942	If it leaves your mind clearer at the end of it,	如果它让你的头脑更清晰 在它的结尾,
1943	then I think it was worthwhile.	那么我觉得这是值得的。
1944	If it leaves your mind busier at the end of it,	如果它让你的心更忙 在它的结尾,
1945	then you're probably going in the wrong direction.	那你可能走错方向了
1946	Is this a justification for detachment, cultivated ignorance, distraction?	难道这是分裂、无知和分散注意力的理由吗?
1947	Detachment is not a goal.	分遣不是目标。
1948	Detachment is a byproduct.	拆解是一种副产品.
1949	It's just a byproduct of just realizing what matters and what doesn't.	这只是一个副产品 仅仅意识到什么是重要和什么不是。
1950	And just for one moment on the self thing,	就一瞬间
1951	I think everybody craves thinking about something more than themselves.	我想每个人都在想比自己更多的事
1952	If you want to be happy to some extent,	如果你想在某种程度上快乐,
1953	you have to forget about your personal problems.	你必须忘记你的个人问题
1954	And one way to do that is take on other problems, bigger problems.	其中一个方法就是处理其他问题, 更大的问题。
1955	And that could be a mission.	这可能是一个任务。
1956	That could be spirituality.	这可能是精神上的。
1957	That could be kids.	这可能是孩子。
1958	It could be caring about the planet,	它可能关心地球,
1959	although I think people take that a little far.	虽然我想人们会走远一点。
1960	And then they get kind of oppressive and tyrannical	然后他们变得暴虐暴虐
1961	in support of abstract concepts.	支持抽象的概念。
1962	So these can be taken too far.	因此,这些可以采取太远。
1963	Just like religion, for example, just like-	就像宗教一样 比如说 就像...
1964	Anything in excess.	任何多余的东西。
1965	Anything in excess, right?	有超量的吗?
1966	But generally, the less you think about yourself,	但总的来说,你越不考虑自己
1967	the more you can think about a mission or about God	你越想着任务或上帝
1968	or about a child or something like that.	或者说一个孩子什么的
1969	我记得卢姆的创始人Vinny Heimath说过
1970	I am rich and I have no idea what to do with my life.	我有钱,我不知道该怎么办 我的生活。
1971	And you replied, God, kids on mission, pick at least one.	你回答,上帝,孩子们在执行任务, 选择至少一个。
1972	That's right.	没错
1973	Preferably all three.	最好是三个
1974	It's very liberating.	这是非常自由的。
1975	Yeah, I think overthinking about yourself is probably the-	是的,我认为过度思考 对自己可能是...
1976	It may not be the cause of depression,	这也许不是抑郁的原因,
1977	but it certainly doesn't help.	但它肯定没有帮助。
1978	Rumination.	传言.
1979	Yeah, I kind of had a self-induced Stockholm syndrome	是的,我有点自发的斯德哥尔摩综合症
1980	from this sort of a thing, because I like to think about stuff	从这种东西, 因为我喜欢思考的东西
1981	and you provide you with an endless number of things to think about.	你为你提供 无数的事情来思考。
1982	So you're kind of, yeah, you have this,	所以,你有点,是的,你有这个,
1983	you're the prisoner and the prison guard at the same time.	你同时是囚犯和狱警
1984	我让Abigail Schreier上节目了
1985	She wrote this book called Bad Therapy,	她写了一本名为"坏治疗"的书
1986	sort of pushing back against therapy culture specifically for kids.	那种推回 治疗文化 专门针对儿童。
1987	But there was a blast radius that covered pretty much everything,	但有一个爆炸半径 几乎覆盖了一切,
1988	including kind of CBT.	包括某种CBT.
1989	I'm like, we're getting perilously close	我觉得,我们越来越接近了
1990	{\fn黑体\fs22\bord1\shad0\3aHBE\4aH00\fscx67\fscy66\2cHFFFFFF\3cH808080}对一些真正基于证据的东西来说
1991	But the more that I've thought about it	但我考虑得越多
1992	and the more that I've looked at the evidence,	我越看证据,
1993	there is basically a direct correlation	基本上有直接的关系
1994	between how much you think about yourself and how miserable you are.	从你对自己有多想到你有多痛苦
1995	Therapy is great if it lets you vent and it solves the thing.	治疗是伟大的,如果它让你发泄 并解决的事情。
1996	And then X session later, you're done, you're clear.	然后X会后,你完成了,你很清楚。
1997	But if you're just looping on the same thing forever,	但是,如果你只是循环 同样的事情永远,
1998	then it's actually the opposite.	那其实正好相反
1999	You're bathing in it, you're indulging in it.	沐浴其间,'然不已.
2000	Yeah, yeah.	对 对
2001	How have your become happy techniques developed over time?	你的快乐技术是怎样发展起来的?
2002	Yeah, I used to have a lot of them.	是啊,我曾经有很多。
2003	Now I kind of try not to have any,	现在,我尝试没有任何,
2004	because I think the techniques themselves are kind of a struggle.	因为我认为这些技巧本身就是一种挣扎。
2005	It's sort of like bidding for status implies your low status.	这有点像竞价 地位意味着你的低地位。
2006	It reveals that your low status.	它显示你的低地位。
2007	So someone who's basically trying to show off	所以一个基本上想炫耀的人
2008	comes across as low status.	身处低位
2009	The same way someone who's trying to be happy is sort of saying,	试图快乐的人也是这么说的
2010	I'm unhappy and creating that frame.	我很不高兴和创造这个框架。
2011	So it's better just to not even think in terms of that.	所以最好还是不要考虑这个问题
2012	So you position yourself as being in lack in order to attain.	故你认为自己是不足的,以便实现。
2013	Yeah, I don't even think in terms of happiness, unhappiness anymore.	是啊,我甚至不思考 关于幸福,不幸福了。
2014	I just kind of just do my thing.	我只是有点做我的事情。
2015	Again, another question that's similar to a bunch of them.	再说一遍,另一个问题和一堆相似
2016	Do you think you could have got that?	你觉得你能拿到吗?
2017	How do you have not done the procedural systematic sort of step by step by step?	你怎么没有一步一步地按程序系统进行呢?
2018	This is what it is.	这就是它是什么。
2019	And then come out the other side.	然后从彼而出.
2020	I don't think there are any formulas.	不思议一切法.
2021	I think it's unique to each person.	我觉得这是每个人独有的
2022	It's like asking a successful person, how did you become successful?	就像问一个成功的人 你是怎么成功的?
2023	Each one of them will give you a different story.	每个都会给你一个不同的故事。
2024	You can't follow anyone else's path.	不得随从他人道.
2025	And most of them are even probably telling you some	他们中的大多数甚至可能告诉你一些
2026	narratized version of it that isn't quite true.	叙事的版本并不完全正确。
2027	I mean, that's something that I continually realize,	我的意思是,这是一件事 我不断意识到,
2028	especially as I get to spend more time around people that are successful.	尤其是当我能花更多的时间 与成功的人。
2029	And you hear it's very important to prioritize work-life balance, right?	你听说把工作与生活平衡放在首位很重要,对吧?
2030	That's one of the most common things that people who have attained success say.	这是获得成功的人常说的一件事。
2031	That's not my experience.	这不是我的经验。
2032	But if you look at, you shouldn't be asking somebody who is successful	但是,如果你看,你不应该问 某人谁是成功的
2033	what they do to continue their success now.	他们现在为继续成功所做的一切。
2034	You should be asking them what did they do to attain their success	你应该问他们,他们做了什么来成功
2035	when they are where you were.	当他们在那里,你。
2036	And the people who are really extraordinarily successful	和那些真正非常成功的人们
2037	didn't sit around watching success porn.	没有坐视成功色情。
2038	They just went and did it.	他们只是去做了。
2039	They had such an overwhelming desire to be successful	他们非常渴望成功
2040	at the thing that they were doing that they just went and did that thing.	在他们正在做的事情, 他们只是去做了那件事。
2041	They didn't have time to study and learn and listen and they just did it.	他们没有时间学习,学习和倾听,他们就做到了.
2042	It's the overwhelming desire that's the most important	这是压倒性的欲望是最重要的
2043	and the focus that comes from that.	以及由此而来的重点。
2044	It's that tweet of yours that was people who are good at making wealth	你那条微博是那些擅长赚钱的人
2045	or people who are good at attaining wealth	或善于致富的人,
2046	don't need to teach anybody else how to do it.	不需要教别人怎么做
2047	Yeah, you don't need mentors.	是的,你不需要导师。
2048	You need action.	你需要行动。
2049	That was one of them.	这是其中之一。
2050	Another one is the people who actually know how to make money	另一个是真正懂得赚钱的人
2051	don't need to sell your course on it.	用不着卖你的课程
2052	There it is.	就是这样
2053	Yeah, there's lots of variations on it.	上面有很多变化
2054	But if you don't, another one, if you don't lie awake at night	但是,如果你不这样做, 另一个,如果你不睡 晚上
2055	thinking about it, you don't want it badly enough.	想想看,你并不想要它足够严重。
2056	Yeah, I think I've heard you talk before about how	是啊,我想我听说过 你之前谈论如何
2057	sort of unclosed loops problems that you're working on can cause you to be sleepless.	某种不封闭的循环问题,你正在研究 可能导致你无眠。
2058	And this...	这个...
2059	I'm not a good sleeper.	我睡不着觉
2060	Tell me about that.	告诉我
2061	Oh, I mean, my eight sleep hates me.	哦,我的意思是,我的八个睡眠讨厌我。
2062	It's always telling me I failed at sleeping again.	总是说我又睡不着
2063	Brian Johnson thinks I'm going to die early.	布莱恩·约翰逊认为我会早死.
2064	He's probably right.	他可能是对的。
2065	How much do you reckon you sleep a night?	你觉得你睡了多久?
2066	You got any idea?	你知道什么吗?
2067	Oh, it's so random.	哦,这是如此随机。
2068	Some nights I'll sleep eight hours, some nights I'll sleep four hours.	有些晚上我会睡8小时 有些晚上我会睡4小时
2069	But it's literally just random.	但它只是随机的。
2070	Are you bothered about that?	你介意吗?
2071	No.	没有
2072	Are you trying to optimize?	你想优化吗?
2073	Are you a sleep coach teaching you how to...	你是睡眠教练教你如何...
2074	I don't flog myself over things.	我对事情不感兴趣
2075	If I want to sleep, I'll sleep.	若欲眠卧.
2076	If I don't want to sleep, I don't sleep.	若不觉睡不觉.
2077	It's not a...	这不是...
2078	I don't think I'm doing anything right or wrong.	我觉得我做错什么了
2079	You don't label it good night, bad night.	你不标注它晚安,糟糕的夜晚。
2080	No, I work out every day because I think it gives me more energy	不,我每天都工作,因为我觉得这能给我更多的精力
2081	and I've gotten into a good habit with it.	我有一个很好的习惯。
2082	Maybe I'll do the same thing with sleep.	也许我会做同样的事情与睡眠。
2083	Maybe I'll develop a good habit, but I'm not going to beat myself up over it.	也许我会养成一个好习惯 但我不会因为它而自暴自弃
2084	There'll come a point where it's important to me.	这对我来说很重要
2085	When it's important to me, I'll just do it.	对我很重要的时候,我就做
2086	You know, for example, you look at people with addictions,	比如说,你看着瘾君子
2087	overeating or smoking or whatever.	吃多了,抽烟什么的
2088	They can kind of go through all the different methods, but it's half-hearted.	他们可以通过所有不同的方法, 但这是半心半意。
2089	And then one day they're like, oh shit, I've got lung cancer.	然后有一天,他们喜欢, 哦狗屎,我有肺癌。
2090	My dad has lung cancer and they drop it immediately.	我爸得了肺癌,他们立刻就放弃了
2091	So I think a lot of change is more about desire and understanding	所以,我认为很多变化 更多的是欲望和理解
2092	than it is about forcing yourself or trying to domesticate yourself.	而不是强迫自己或试图驯化自己
2093	It's efficiency again, I guess, aligning the thing that you want to do	这也是效率,我想, 调整的事情,你想做
2094	the way that you feel about what it is that you want to do.	你对你想做的事的感受
2095	Yeah, it's not getting caught up in a half desire or a mimetic desire.	是啊,它不会陷入 一半的欲望或模仿的欲望。
2096	It's really just being aware of what it is that you actually want at this point in time.	它只是意识到你真正想要的是什么。
2097	And when you want something, then you will act on it with maximal capability.	当你想要的东西, 然后,你会发挥最大的能力。
2098	And that's the time to act on it.	现在是时候采取行动了
2099	In the meantime, just doing it because other people tell you you should do it	在此期间,只是因为别人叫你做
2100	or society tells you you should do it or you feel slightly guilty about it.	或者社会告诉你你应该这样做 或者你觉得有点内疚
2101	These are half-hearted efforts and half-hearted efforts don't get you there.	这些是半心半意的努力 半心半意的努力无法让你到达那里
2102	As you get older, one thing that becomes harder to ignore is your testosterone levels.	越老越难忽视的一件事 就是你的睾丸酮水平
2103	They impact everything from your energy to your mood and how well you recover.	从你的能量到你的心情 以及你恢复的状态 都会影响一切
2104	However, there are science-backed supplements like Tonkat	不过,还有科学支持的补品,如Tonkat
2105	that support testosterone strength and recovery.	支持睾丸酮的强度和复苏
2106	And that is why I'm such a huge fan of Moentis' product,	这就是为什么我是一个巨大的粉丝 莫恩蒂斯的产品,
2107	because they make the only NSF certified Tonkat LE on the planet.	因为他们做了唯一的NSF 认证Tonkat LE 在地球上。
2108	That means it's so rigorously tested that even Olympic athletes can use it.	这意味着它经过如此严格的测试,甚至连奥运运动员都可以使用.
2109	Why I partnered with them because they make the most carefully tested,	为什么我和他们合作 因为他们做了最仔细的测试
2110	highest quality supplements on earth.	地球上质量最高的辅料
2111	This is a huge part of my brain, body and sleep stack,	这是我大脑、身体和睡眠堆的一大部分
2112	which makes a big impact on my cognition, my strength and my recovery.	这对我的认知、力量和康复都有很大影响。
2113	And if you're still unsure, Moentis offers a 30-day money-back guarantee.	如果你还不确定 Moentis会提供30天的退款担保
2114	So you can buy it and try it for 29 days.	故能买之而试之二十九日.
2115	If you don't love it, they'll give you your money back.	如果你不喜欢,他们会把钱还给你
2116	Plus they ship internationally.	加上他们在国际上的船。
2117	Right now you can get 35% off your subscription and that 30-day money-back guarantee	现在你可以拿到35%的订阅费 还有30天的回贷担保
2118	by going to the link in the description below or heading to	通过到下面描述中的链接或标题
2119	livemomentis.com slash 现代智慧并使用代码 现代智慧的检查。
2120	这就是L-I-V-E-M-O-M-U-U-S dot com slash 现代智慧和现代智慧在退出.
2121	You mentioned anxiety before.	你之前提到过焦虑
2122	Imagine how effective you'd be if you weren't anxious all the time is one of yours.	想象一下,如果你不紧张的话,你会有多有效。
2123	And anxiety is the emotion du jour of the 21st century.	焦虑是21世纪的情感
2124	And lots of driven people, very anxious, very paranoid.	很多被驱使的人 非常焦虑 非常偏执
2125	That's what's caused them to be affected.	令其受诸影响.
2126	It pays so much attention, detail-oriented, not letting things go.	它如此关注,注重细节,而不是让事情发生。
2127	Staying up at night thinking about it.	夜卧思惟.
2128	That's the paranoia coming in.	那是妄想症的发作
2129	What have you come to learn about anxiety and dealing with it?	你来了解什么 关于焦虑和处理它?
2130	So anxiety and stress are interesting.	所以焦虑和压力是有趣的。
2131	They're very related.	他们关系很密切
2132	Stress is when, like if you look at an iron beam, when an iron beam is under stress,	压力是,当你看着铁梁, 当铁梁在压力下,
2133	it's because it's being bent in two different directions at the same time.	因为它被弯曲 在两个不同的方向 同时。
2134	So when your mind is under stress, it's because it has two conflicting desires at once.	所以当你的思想压力很大, 因为它同时有两个相互冲突的欲望。
2135	So for example, you know, you want to be liked, but you want to do something selfish	举个例子,你想被喜欢 但你想做一些自私的事
2136	and you can't reconcile the two.	你不能调和两者。
2137	And so you are under stress.	所以你压力很大
2138	You want to do something for somebody else.	你想为别人做点什么
2139	You want to do something for yourself, right?	你想为自己做点什么吗?
2140	These are examples.	这些都是例子。
2141	You don't want to go to work, but you want to make money.	你不想去工作,但你想赚钱。
2142	So you're under stress, right?	所以,你的压力,对不对?
2143	So you have two conflicting desires.	所以你有两个相互矛盾的欲望
2144	And I think one of the ways to get through stress is to acknowledge that,	我认为克服压力的方法之一是承认
2145	oh, I actually have two conflicting desires and either I need to resolve it.	哦,我其实有两个相互矛盾的欲望 要么我需要解决它。
2146	I need to pick one and then be okay losing the other, or I will decide later.	我需要选择一个然后可以失去另一个, 否则我会决定。
2147	But at least just being aware of why your stress can help alleviate a lot of stress.	但至少只是意识到你的压力 能够帮助缓解很多的压力
2148	And then anxiety, I think is sort of this pervasive, unidentifiable stress	然后焦虑,我觉得是那种 普遍,无法识别的压力
2149	where you're just kind of stressed out all the time and you're not even sure why.	你总是压力很大 你甚至不知道为什么
2150	And you can't even identify the underlying problem.	你甚至无法识别潜在的问题。
2151	And the reason for that is because you have so many unresolved problems,	原因是你有很多未解决的问题
2152	unresolved stress points that have piled up in your life	在你生命中积聚的未解决的压力点
2153	that you can no longer identify what the problems are.	无法再找出问题所在。
2154	There's this mountain of garbage in your mind	你脑子里有一堆垃圾
2155	and it's a little bit of it poking out the top like an iceberg.	它有点像冰山一样从顶部爬出来
2156	And that's anxiety.	而这就是焦虑。
2157	But underneath, there's a lot of unresolved things.	但是在下面,有很多未解决的事情.
2158	And so you just need to kind of go through very carefully every time you're anxious.	所以每次你感到焦虑的时候 你都需要非常小心地经历
2159	Like, okay, why am I anxious this time?	好吧,为什么我这次会紧张?
2160	I don't know why.	我不知道为什么。
2161	Oh, well, let me sit here and just think about it.	哦,好吧,让我坐在这里, 只是考虑一下。
2162	Let me write down what the possible causes could be.	让我写下可能的原因。
2163	Let me meditate on it.	让我好好想想
2164	Let me journal.	让我来日记
2165	Let me talk to a therapist.	让我跟治疗师谈谈
2166	Let me talk to my friends.	让我和我的朋友谈谈。
2167	Let me just kind of see when does that stress go away.	让我看看压力什么时候消失
2168	If you can kind of identify and unravel and resolve these issues,	如果你能找出、破解和解决这些问题
2169	then I think that helps get rid of anxiety.	那我觉得这能消除焦虑
2170	A lot of the anxiety is piled up because we move through life too quickly	很多焦虑都堆积起来 因为我们过得太快了
2171	not observing our own reactions to things.	不观察我们自己对事物的反应。
2172	We don't resolve them.	我们不解决他们。
2173	So this goes counter to what I was saying earlier	所以这跟我刚才说的不符
2174	about not reflecting too much on things.	关于不要过多反射的东西。
2175	But you reflect on the problems to observe them and solve them.	但是,你思考 的问题 观察和解决它们。
2176	You don't reflect on them to feel better about yourself.	你没有思考他们 感觉自己更好。
2177	To indulge them.	来放纵他们
2178	Well, if you're doing it to just feel better about yourself,	如果你这样做只是为了让自己感觉好点
2179	that could be strengthening your personality and your ego	这可能会加强你的个性和自我
2180	and could be creating a more fragile personality.	并可能创造一个更脆弱的人格。
2181	You know, one big anxiety resolver for me is just ruminating on death.	你知道,一个巨大的焦虑解 对我来说只是反射死亡。
2182	I think that's a good one.	我觉得这个不错
2183	You're going to die.	你会死的
2184	It's all going to zero.	皆为零.
2185	You cannot take anything with you.	你不能带走任何东西
2186	And I know this is trite.	我知道这很老套
2187	And I know we don't spend enough time thinking about the big questions.	我知道我们没有花足够的时间去思考大问题。
2188	We kind of give up on them when we're very, very young.	我们很年轻的时候就放弃了他们
2189	You know, a little child might ask the big questions like,	你知道,一个小孩可能会问大问题 比如,
2190	why are we here?	为什么我们在这里?
2191	What's the meaning of life?	生何义.
2192	What is this all about?	这是怎么回事?
2193	You know, is there Santa Claus?	你知道,有圣诞老人吗?
2194	Is there God?	有上帝吗?
2195	But then as adults, we're taught not to think about these things.	但是作为成年人,我们被教导不要去想这些东西。
2196	We've given up on them.	我们放弃了他们。
2197	But I think the big questions are the big questions for good reasons.	但我认为,大问题是大问题,原因很好。
2198	And if you can keep the idea in front of you at all times,	如果你能随时把想法放在面前
2199	that you're going to die and that everything goes literally to zero,	你会死 一切都会变成零
2200	what's there to stress about?	有什么好紧张的?
2201	Yeah, for better or worse, life is very short.	是啊,无论好坏,生活都非常短暂。
2202	How should people deal with its briefness?	人们应该如何处理其短暂性?
2203	Enjoy it.	尽情享受吧
2204	Make the best of it.	令其精进.
2205	You know, it's even briefer than that.	你知道,它甚至更简洁。
2206	Each moment just disappears.	每时每刻都会消失
2207	It's gone.	不见了
2208	There's only a present moment and it's gone instantly.	只有现在,它立刻消失了。
2209	So if you're not there for it,	所以,如果你不在那里为它,
2210	if you're stressed out or you're anxious	如果你压力很大或者你很焦虑
2211	or you're thinking about something else, you missed it.	或者你在想别的事 你错过了
2212	So any moment when you're not in that moment,	所以当你不在那一刻
2213	you are dead to that moment.	那一刻你已经死了
2214	You might as well be dead	你还是死了吧
2215	because your mind is off doing something else	因為你的腦袋沒了別的事
2216	or, you know, living in some imagined reality	或者,你知道,生活在一些想象中的现实
2217	that is just a very poor substitute for the actual reality.	这只是一个非常糟糕的替代 现实。
2218	So one of my recent realizations was,	因此,我最近的一个认识是,
2219	what is wasted time?	什么是浪费时间?
2220	What is a waste of time?	什么是浪费时间?
2221	So I don't like to waste time, but what is wasted time?	所以我不喜欢浪费时间,但什么是浪费时间?
2222	And everything is wasted time in a sense	从某种意义上讲,一切都是浪费时间
2223	because nothing matters in the ultimate.	因为没有什么在最终。
2224	But in each moment, the thing matters.	但在每一刻,事情都很重要。
2225	In each moment, it's the only thing that matters, actually.	在每一刻,这是唯一重要的,实际上。
2226	What's happening in front of you	你面前发生了什么
2227	literally has all the meaning in the world.	从字面上讲,这世界的意义。
2228	And so what matters is just being present for the thing.	所以,重要的是 仅仅是在场 的东西。
2229	So if you're doing something that you want to do	所以如果你在做一些你想做的事的话
2230	and you're fully there for it, then it's not wasted time.	你全力以赴,不会浪费时间
2231	If you don't want to do it	如果你不愿意的话
2232	and your mind is running away from it	你的思想正在逃离它
2233	and you're reacting against it	你却在反抗
2234	and you're wishing you were somewhere else	你却希望自己在别的地方
2235	and you're thinking about some other thing	你在想别的事
2236	or you're anticipating some future thing	或者你预想着未来的事情
2237	or regretting some past thing	或者后悔过去的事
2238	or being fearful of something,	或畏惧什么,
2239	then that's wasted time.	那就浪费时间了
2240	That's time that's being wasted	时间被浪费了
2241	when you're not actually present for the reality in front of you.	当你没有真正出席 在你面前的现实。
2242	So my definition of wasted time,	所以我对浪费时间的定义
2243	yes, I do want some material things in life	是的,我确实想要一些物质的东西在生活中
2244	and there are things that have more value	有些东西更有价值
2245	than others within this life,	比其他人在今世生活中,
2246	but this life is very short and bounded.	但这种生活非常短暂和有限度。
2247	So the true wasted time is a time that you're not present for	所以,真正的浪费时间 是时间,你不在场
2248	when you're not there for it,	当你不在的时候
2249	when you're not doing the thing you want to do	当你不做你想做的事
2250	to the best of a capability such that you're immersed in it.	尽其所能 让你沉浸其中
2251	If you're not immersed in this moment,	如果你不沉浸在这个时刻,
2252	then you're wasting your time.	那你就是在浪费时间
2253	People get worried about dying and no longer being here,	人们担心死亡 不再在这里,
2254	but they don't realize that so much of their life	但他们没有意识到 这么多的生活
2255	{\fn黑体\fs22\bord1\shad0\3aHBE\4aH00\fscx67\fscy66\2cHFFFFFF\3cH808080}无论如何都不在这里
2256	That's right.	没错
2257	And I think people crave being here for it.	我认为人们渴望在这里为它。
2258	And when you're here for it,	当你来这的时候
2259	you're actually not thinking about yourself,	你其实不是在想你自己,
2260	you're more immersed in the thing, the moment, the task at hand.	你更沉浸在事情, 那一刻,手头的任务。
2261	We don't want peace of mind.	我们不希望平静。
2262	We want peace from mind.	我们希望和平从心。
2263	That's right.	没错
2264	Yeah, the mind is what will eat you alive if you let it	是啊,思想是什么 会吃你活着,如果你让它
2265	and there's more to you than the mind.	你比心智还重要
2266	How so?	为什么?
2267	Well, I mean, I don't want to disassemble the body, so to speak.	嗯,我的意思是,我不想拆解 尸体,所以说。
2268	Please, go on.	请继续
2269	Yeah.	对
2270	At the end of the day,	临终时.
2271	everything arises within your consciousness.	一切都在你的意识中产生
2272	You've got nowhere else to experience it.	你无处可去
2273	Sorry?	你说什么?
2274	You've got nowhere else to experience it.	你无处可去
2275	That consciousness is relatively static in a sense	这种意识在某种意义上是相对静止的
2276	that it's been exactly the same for the moment you were born	在你出生的那一刻,一切都是一样的
2277	to the moment you die.	直到你死的时候
2278	And everything that you experience from your body,	你从身体里经历的一切
2279	from your mind to the world, to everything	从你的思想到世界 到一切
2280	is within that consciousness.	是在这种意识中。
2281	And that thing, that base layer of being,	那东西, 底层是,
2282	and this is what the Buddhists will tell you,	这就是佛教徒要告诉你的
2283	is the real thing.	是真实的
2284	Everything that comes and goes in the middle,	所有来去在中间,
2285	including your mind, including your body, is unreal.	包括你的思想,包括你的身体, 是不真实的。
2286	And trying to find stability in those transient things	并试图找到稳定 在这些瞬间的东西
2287	is your castle that you're building on sand	是你们在沙子上建造的城堡
2288	that's going to crumble.	那会崩溃的
2289	Life is going to play out the way it's going to play out.	人生将发挥出它的作用
2290	There will be some good and some bad.	会有好坏的
2291	Most of it is actually just up to your interpretation.	大部分都取决于你的解释
2292	You're born, you have a set of sensory experiences,	你出生了,你有一套感官体验
2293	and then you die.	然后你会死
2294	How you choose to interpret those experiences is up to you	你选择如何解释这些经历取决于你
2295	and different people interpret them in different ways.	不同的人以不同的方式解释它们。
2296	Yeah, it's the old line about two people walking down the street.	是啊,这是旧线 关于两个人走在街上。
2297	They're having the exact same experience.	他们也有同样的经历。
2298	One is happy, one is sad, right?	一个快乐,一个悲伤,对不对?
2299	It's a narrative in their heads.	这是他们脑中的叙事
2300	It's how they choose to interpret.	这就是他们选择的诠释方式.
2301	So I think when I said that, it was a long time ago,	所以我想当我说, 这是很久以前,
2302	I was talking more about having positive interpretations	我说的是有正面的解释
2303	and negative interpretations.	和负面解释。
2304	But these days, I think it's better just not to have any interpretations.	但是现在,我觉得最好不要有任何解释。
2305	And to just allow things to be.	并且只是让事情是。
2306	You're still going to have interpretations.	你还会有解释的
2307	You can't stop it, and nor should you try.	你不能阻止它,你不应该尝试。
2308	But even that having an interpretation	但即使有解释
2309	is just a thing you can leave alone.	只是你可以一个人离开
2310	Yeah, I really want to try and just dig in a little more to	是啊,我真的想尝试 只是挖一点点
2311	the best way to remind people that they should value their time.	是提醒人们应该珍惜时间的最佳方法。
2312	Just how brief it is that the time that you spend	你花的时间有多短
2313	ruminating, being distracted, fears of the past, regrets.	反省 分心 恐惧过去 后悔
2314	Well, I don't want to tell anybody how to live their life.	我不想告诉任何人如何生活
2315	I would just say that to the extent that you want to improve your quality of life,	我只想说,只要你想提高你的生活质量,
2316	the easiest and best way to do that is to observe your own mind	最简单和最好的方法 就是观察你自己的思想
2317	and your own thoughts and be a little, not necessarily critical,	和你自己的想法 并有点,不一定批评,
2318	but be observant of yourself more objectively.	但要更客观地观察自己
2319	And then you'll kind of realize your own loops and patterns.	然后你就会意识到你自己的循环和规律。
2320	It takes time.	这需要时间。
2321	It's not overnight.	这不是一夜之间。
2322	It's not instantaneous.	不是瞬间.
2323	So you mean letting go is not a one-time event?	你是说放手不是一次性的?
2324	Yeah, and letting go is not necessarily even the right answer.	是啊,放手不一定是正确答案
2325	Yes, if you're trying to be an enlightened being	是的,如果你想成为一个开明的人
2326	and you want to live like a god and everything's going to be perfect	你想活得像神一样 一切都会完美
2327	and be a Buddha, sure, you can let go.	并作佛事,诚可释之.
2328	But I think in practice, it's actually quite hard to do.	但我认为实际上,这是相当困难的。
2329	I think I would say that you're going to find a lot of fulfillment out of life	我想我会说,你会 找到很多满足的生活
2330	by just doing what you want to do	通过做你想做的事
2331	and genuinely exploring what it is that you want	真正探索你想要的东西
2332	rather than doing what other people expect you to do	而不是做别人期望你做的事
2333	or society expects you to do	或社会期待你做
2334	or what you might just think should be done by default.	或者你可能只是认为 应该做默认。
2335	I think most older, successful people will tell you	我想最年长,成功的人会告诉你
2336	that their life was best when they lived it unapologetically	他们的生活是最好的 当他们生活的时候, 令人不快
2337	on their own terms.	他们自己的条件。
2338	Be selfish.	自私点
2339	Holistic selfishness.	整体自私.
2340	We can clip that little post out about being selfish.	我们可以剪掉那个小帖子 关于自私。
2341	Yeah, yeah, yeah, that's it.	是啊,是啊,是啊,就是这样。
2342	Just keep running it back.	继续运行它回来。
2343	Great.	不错
2344	I had this insight or a question, I guess.	我想,我有一个洞察力或一个问题。
2345	How much do you think that we should trust the voice in our heads?	你觉得我们应该相信我们的声音吗?
2346	Because half of wisdom suggests to rely on your sort of bottom-up intuition	因为有一半的智慧建议依靠你的自下而上的直觉
2347	and then half of it has to be sort of top-down rational as possible.	一半必须尽量合理
2348	How do you navigate the tension between head and gut in this way?	你怎么用这种方式 解决头部和肠胃之间的紧张?
2349	I think the gut is what decides.	我觉得决定权在于直觉
2350	The head is kind of what rationalizes it afterwards.	头部是那种它合理化 之后。
2351	The gut is the ultimate decision-maker.	肠道是终极决定者.
2352	And what is a gut?	直觉是什么?
2353	The gut is refined judgment.	肠胃是精细的判断。
2354	It's taste.	尝曰.
2355	Aggregated.	结集.
2356	And it could be aggregated through evolution	它可以通过进化来综合
2357	and it's in your genes and your DNA	它在你的基因和你的DNA中
2358	or it could be aggregated through your experiences	也可以通过你的经验来总结
2359	and what you've thought through.	和你的想法一样
2360	The mind is good at solving new problems	头脑很能解决新问题
2361	and new problems in the external world that have defined edges,	以及外部世界中已经确定优势的新问题,
2362	beginnings and ends and objectives.	始末和目标。
2363	What the mind is actually really bad at is making hard decisions.	脑海中真正不好的是做出艰难的决定。
2364	When you have a hard decision to make, I find it's better to,	当你有艰难的决定时 我觉得最好
2365	yes, you ruminate on it.	是的,你乱来
2366	You think through all the pros and cons, but then you sleep on it.	你通过所有的利弊思考, 但你睡在它上。
2367	You wait a couple of days.	你等两天
2368	You wait until the gut answer appears with conviction and it feels right.	你等着直觉的回答 带着信念出现 感觉是对的
2369	And when you're younger, it takes longer	当你年轻的时候,需要更长的时间
2370	because you just don't have as much experience.	因为你没有那么多经验
2371	And when you're older, it can happen much faster, which is why...	等你长大了 事情会更快发生 这就是为什么...
2372	And you have less time to...	你没有多少时间...
2373	Yeah, and old people are more set in their way as a consequence.	是啊,老人们也因此被困住了
2374	They know what they want.	他们知道自己想要什么。
2375	They know what they don't want.	他们知道自己不想要什么
2376	So it takes time to develop your gut instinct and judgment.	所以需要时间发展你的直觉和判断力。
2377	But once you've developed them, don't trust anything else	但一旦你开发了它们 就别相信别的了
2378	because you can't go against your gut.	因为你不能违背你的直觉
2379	It'll bite you in the end.	终会咬你.
2380	Usually in relationships that fail, you can look back and say,	通常在失败的关系中,你可以回顾并说,
2381	oh, actually, I knew it was going to fail because of this reason,	哦,实际上,我知道它会失败 因为这个原因,
2382	but I kind of went ahead anyway because I wanted it to be this way.	但我还是喜欢这样
2383	I wanted this person to be a different way than they are.	我希望这个人和他们不一样
2384	I wanted to get a different thing out of it	我想从中找点别的
2385	than I knew I was going to get, but I just wanted it.	比我知道我会得到, 但我只是想得到它。
2386	So sometimes desire will override your judgment and then trap you.	所以有时欲望会超越你的判断 然后困住你
2387	Wishful thinking.	发愿思惟.
2388	Yeah, wishful thinking.	是啊,愿望的想法。
2389	It traps you into a pathway that you choose at time.	它会把你困入你及时选择的路径
2390	What's that insight of yours?	你的见解是什么?
2391	We think we can't change ourselves, but we can.	我们认为我们不能改变自己,但我们可以。
2392	We think we can change other people, but we can't.	我们认为我们可以改变其他人,但我们不能。
2393	Exactly.	没错
2394	I think to add to that, you can't change other people.	我想补充一下 你不能改变别人
2395	You can change your reaction to them.	你可以改变你对他们的反应。
2396	You can change yourself.	你可以改变自己
2397	But other people only change through trauma	但其他人只会因为创伤而改变
2398	or their own insight on their own schedule	或他们自己的见解 在自己的日程安排
2399	and never in a way that you like.	也从来不像你喜欢的那样
2400	Alain de Botton says that people do sometimes change,	阿兰·德·博顿说人们有时会改变
2401	but rarely in relationships and never when they're told to.	但很少在关系 和从来没有当他们被告知。
2402	Absolutely.	当然
2403	Yeah, the fastest way to kind of alienate somebody is to tell them to change.	是啊,最快的方式 那种疏远某人 是告诉他们改变。
2404	In fact, the Dale Carnegie School of Public Speaking,	事实上 戴尔·卡内基公共学院
2405	the way that operates is they get you up there	操作的方式是他们让你在那里
2406	and they realize that the number one problem with public speaking	他们意识到头号问题 公开演讲
2407	is that people are very self-conscious.	人是自觉的
2408	And so people who are practicing in the Dale Carnegie School of Public Speaking,	在戴尔·卡内基公共演讲学院练习的人
2409	I don't know, I never went through it.	我不知道,我从来没有经历过它。
2410	I heard the second hand, so I could be wrong.	我听到了第二只手,所以我可能错了。
2411	But I like the story where they get up and they start speaking	但我喜欢他们起身开始说话的故事
2412	and the people in the audience are only allowed to compliment them.	观众只能赞美他们
2413	Genuine compliments, not fake compliments on things that they did well.	真正的恭维,而不是假的恭维 他们做得很好的事情。
2414	But you're not allowed to criticize them on things that they did poorly.	但不允许你批评他们做坏事
2415	And eventually they kind of get through it and they develop self-confidence.	最终,他们能挺过来,培养自信。
2416	The same way there's like the Michelle Thomas School of Language Learning.	和米歇尔·托马斯语言学习学院一样
2417	And on that one, what they do is you listen to a teacher talking to a student.	他们做的就是听老师跟学生说话
2418	They're not teaching you.	他们没教你
2419	You're not expected to remember or memorize anything.	你不可能记得或记住任何事
2420	You just listen to a student stumbling over the language.	你只是听一个学生 绊脚石在语言。
2421	And it's a better way to learn because you yourself don't feel flustered.	这是更好的方法去学习 因为你自己不觉得害怕。
2422	You're being tested, graded.	你正在接受测试,分级。
2423	Oh, so you're not in your own head as much.	哦,所以你没有在你自己的头脑 太多。
2424	Correct.	没错
2425	You're not in your own head.	你脑子里没有你
2426	And you're just, you might even be laughing at the student	而你只是, 你甚至可能嘲笑学生
2427	or you might be agreeing with the teacher or vice versa	或者你可能同意老师的意见 或者反之亦然
2428	or sympathizing with the student.	或者同情学生。
2429	But because you are a passive observer, you can be more objective about it	但因为你是一个被动的观察者,你可以更加客观
2430	and you aren't threatened or fearful and you can learn better.	而且你没有受到威胁或恐惧 你可以学得更好
2431	And coming back to the original point of you can't change people.	回到原来的点 你无法改变人。
2432	If you do want to change someone's behavior,	如果你想改变别人的行为
2433	I think the only effective way to do it	我觉得这是唯一有效的办法
2434	is to compliment them when they do something you want.	是在他们做你想做的事时赞美他们
2435	Positive or impulsive.	阳或冲.
2436	Exactly.	没错
2437	Not to insult them or be negative or critical	不要侮辱他们 或消极或批评
2438	when they do something you don't want.	当他们做你不想做的事时
2439	And we can't help it.	且道无奈.
2440	It's obviously in our nature to criticize and I do it as well.	这显然属于我们的本性 批评,我也这样做。
2441	But it just reminds me that like when somebody does something praiseworthy,	但它只是提醒我, 就像当有人做一些值得称赞的事情,
2442	don't forget to praise them.	别忘了赞美他们
2443	Like definitely go out of your way.	就像绝对是离开你的方式。
2444	And it'll be genuine.	而会真如.
2445	It has to be genuine.	须是真如.
2446	It can't be a fake thing.	这不可能是假的
2447	This is not one of those just dropping compliments type thing	这可不是那种随心所欲的恭维
2448	eventually that people will see through that.	最终人们会看到这一点。
2449	They want authenticity.	他们想要真实性
2450	But just don't forget to praise people when they do something praiseworthy	但别忘了当人们做值得称赞的事时 赞美他们
2451	and you'll get more of that behavior.	你会得到更多的行为。
2452	There was a really famous thread on Reddit about five questions	Reddit上有一条非常有名的线索 是关于五个问题
2453	to ask yourself if you're uncertain about your relationship.	问问你自己 你是否对自己的关系有疑问
2454	One of the questions was, are you truly in love with your partner	其中一个问题是 你真的爱上你的搭档了吗?
2455	or just their potential or the idea of them?	或者只是他们的潜力 或者他们的想法?
2456	And that's the, you know, they show such great promise.	这就是,你知道, 他们表现出如此伟大的承诺。
2457	Look at their ability for change and growth.	看看他们改变和增长的能力。
2458	They're on the right path.	他们走对了
2459	The partner matching thing is so hard.	搭档的配对太难了
2460	You know, when people come and ask me like,	你知道,当人们来问我喜欢,
2461	oh, should I be with this person?	我应该和这个人在一起吗?
2462	Like, well, if you're asking me, the answer is clearly no, right?	如果你问我 答案显然不是 对吧?
2463	Because you wouldn't have to ask if you were with the right person.	因为你不需要问 如果你是合适的人。
2464	Or when you ask someone like why they're in a relationship with somebody	或者当你问别人 为什么他们和别人有关系
2465	and they start reading out his or her resume, right?	他们开始读他的简历,对不对?
2466	That's also a bad sign.	这也是一个坏兆头。
2467	What do you mean?	你说什么?
2468	Oh, it's like, oh, we have so much in common.	我们有很多共同点
2469	We like to golf together.	我们喜欢一起打高尔夫
2470	It's like, it's not a basis for a relationship.	这就像,这不是一个关系的基础。
2471	Or, oh, is, you know, she's a ballerina or, you know,	或者,哦,是,你知道, 她是一个芭蕾舞演员或,你知道,
2472	he went to Harvard or what have you.	他上过哈佛,或者你有什么。
2473	This is a resume item.	这是一个恢复项目。
2474	So that's not who the person is or what have you.	所以那不是那个人是谁 或者你有什么

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