白手起家女富豪：别让任何人替你做判断！
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| 0:00 | What is a failure that you've experienced that defined your life at the time? | 你当时经历的失败是什么? |
| 0:04 | I met my boyfriend at a diner and he gave me the $1,000 to start my business. | 我男朋友在餐馆里认识的 他给了我1000美元开始我的生意 |
| 0:08 | So he became my business partner. | 所以他成为了我的生意伙伴 |
| 0:10 | And then he married my secretary seven years later. | 7年后他娶了我的秘书 |
| 0:13 | And I was out, she was in. | 我出去了 她进来了 |
| 0:14 | She's younger, prettier than me. | 她比我年轻,漂亮 |
| 0:15 | Always my whole life, my forte was I just go for it. | 一辈子,我的前身就是我只为它 |
| 0:18 | But now I slow down and go, wait, can I really handle that? | 但现在我慢下来走了,等等,我可以处理吗? |
| 0:21 | You've been married for quite a bit. | 你结婚很久了 |
| 0:23 | This doesn't mean it's real love. | 这并不意味着这是真正的爱情。 |
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| 1 | What is a failure that you've experienced that defined your life at the time? | 你当时经历的失败是什么? |
| 2 | I met my boyfriend at a diner and he gave me the $1,000 to start my business. | 我男朋友在餐馆里认识的 他给了我1000美元开始我的生意 |
| 3 | So he became my business partner. | 所以他成为了我的生意伙伴 |
| 4 | And then he married my secretary seven years later. | 7年后他娶了我的秘书 |
| 5 | And I was out, she was in. | 我出去了 她进来了 |
| 6 | She's younger, prettier than me. | 她比我年轻,漂亮 |
| 7 | Always my whole life, my forte was I just go for it. | 一辈子,我的前身就是我只为它 |
| 8 | But now I slow down and go, wait, can I really handle that? | 但现在我慢下来走了,等等,我可以处理吗? |
| 9 | You've been married for quite a bit. | 你结婚很久了 |
| 10 | This doesn't mean it's real love. | 这并不意味着这是真正的爱情。 |
| 11 | Really? | 真的吗? |
| 12 | A few weeks ago, I interviewed 75 year old Barbara Corcoran, | 几周前 我采访了75岁的芭芭拉·科科兰 |
| 13 | who for a ton of reasons has vegered life out, | 他因某种原因使生命灭亡, |
| 14 | but surprisingly is also still trying to navigate it. | 但令人惊讶的是,它仍然试图导航。 |
| 15 | Aging sucks. | 衰老烂。 |
| 16 | Don't let anybody tell you differently. | 不要让任何人 告诉你不同。 |
| 17 | You probably know Barbara from Shark Tank. | 你可能认识鲨鱼坦克的芭芭拉 |
| 18 | She's made billions of dollars in her life. | 她一生赚了几十亿. |
| 19 | She has judged thousands of entrepreneurs and business people today | 她今天评了几千名企业家和商人 |
| 20 | with questions unlike any interview that she has done. | 问的问题 不像她做过的采访 |
| 21 | I'm sharing the extended conversation of Barbara's greatest life lessons | 我分享芭芭拉人生中最伟大课的长篇对话 |
| 22 | and experiences that I guarantee will change the way you think about life. | 以及我保证的经验 将会改变你对生活的看法 |
| 23 | How old are you? | 你几岁了? |
| 24 | That's how I start all my articles. | 我就是这样开始写文章的 |
| 25 | 75. | 75. 国家 |
| 26 | What does it feel like to be 75? | 75岁是什么感觉? |
| 27 | Aging sucks. | 衰老烂。 |
| 28 | Don't let anybody tell you differently. | 不要让任何人 告诉你不同。 |
| 29 | However, you put a pair of skis on my feet and I'll beat any guy down the mountain. | 然而,你把一对滑雪 在我的脚上,我会打败任何人下山。 |
| 30 | So that compensates. | 所以,这是补偿。 |
| 31 | Right. | 对 |
| 32 | Would you say you feel your age, still younger, older? | 你会说,你感觉你的年龄, 仍然年轻,年长? |
| 33 | It depends what day you're asking. | 这取决于你问的是什么日子。 |
| 34 | Some days I feel 100. | 有的时候我觉得有100个 |
| 35 | Most days I feel 50, thereabouts. | 大多数时候我感觉50岁左右 |
| 36 | What have you done in your life to get to be 75 and feel the way you feel? | 你做了些什么 在你的生活中得到75 和感觉的方式? |
| 37 | I've made some important choices, actually. | 我做了一些重要的选择 |
| 38 | I've had three faceless. | 我有过三无相. |
| 39 | A lot of people will do it. | 很多人会这么做的 |
| 40 | I've had three times. | 我有过三次了 |
| 41 | It makes me feel younger because I look younger. | 这让我觉得年轻 因为我看起来年轻。 |
| 42 | And what else have I done? | 我还能做什么? |
| 43 | I think I surround myself with young people. | 我想我身边都是年轻人 |
| 44 | I have a younger staff. | 我有一个年轻的员工。 |
| 45 | I have a younger family. | 我有一个年轻的家庭。 |
| 46 | I have everything younger but my husband. | 除了我丈夫,我还有其他东西 |
| 47 | And I want a younger man, by the way. | 顺便说一句,我想要一个更年轻的男人。 |
| 48 | I'm looking at you. | 我看着你。 |
| 49 | What about your husband? | 你丈夫怎么办? |
| 50 | Oh, he'll be okay. | 哦,他会没事的。 |
| 51 | He's a good egg. | 他是个好蛋。 |
| 52 | A lot of people, when they speak to you, they always talk to you about your successes | 很多人,当他们和你说话, 他们总是跟你谈论你的成功 |
| 53 | and everything that you've achieved. | 以及你成就的一切 |
| 54 | But I want to flip that on you to start and ask you, | 但我想把它推到你身上 开始问你 |
| 55 | what is a failure that you've experienced that defined your life at the time? | 你经历的失败 是什么决定了你当时的生活? |
| 56 | One, I can only pick one because there's been a series of many, many, many. | 第一,我只能选一个 因为有很多,很多,很多。 |
| 57 | I met my boyfriend at a diner and he gave me the thousand dollars to start my business. | 我男朋友在餐馆见过面 他给了我一千块来开我生意 |
| 58 | So he became my business partner. | 所以他成为了我的生意伙伴 |
| 59 | And then he married my secretary seven years later. | 7年后他娶了我的秘书 |
| 60 | And I was out. | 我出来了 |
| 61 | She was in. | 她进来了 |
| 62 | She's younger and prettier than me. | 她比我年轻 比我漂亮 |
| 63 | And it was a really hard hit. | 它是一个非常重的打击。 |
| 64 | I recovered but it was so easy. | 我康复了,但很轻松 |
| 65 | What was the lesson that you learned from that if you're looking back on the situation? | 你从中吸取的教训是什么? |
| 66 | That you'll always see an upside looking back and you can't see it at the moment. | 你总是会看到一个颠倒的回头看 而你现在看不到它。 |
| 67 | I mean, if he hadn't met her, I wouldn't have started the Corcoran Group. | 我的意思是,如果他没有遇到她, 我就不会发起科科兰集团。 |
| 68 | I wouldn't have had the success I have. | 我不会有我的成功。 |
| 69 | So thank God that all happened. | 谢天谢地一切都发生了 |
| 70 | I wish somebody was there to tell me at the time. | 我希望当时有人告诉我 |
| 71 | I learned that bad stuff happens that break your heart. | 我学会了坏事发生 让你心碎。 |
| 72 | But you can get up and get going again. | 但你可以站起来再去 |
| 73 | And that's exactly what I did. | 这就是我所做的。 |
| 74 | And there's always a plus to any bad side of a coin. | 硬币总是有好的一面 |
| 75 | You flip it over and you see something bright. | 你翻过它,你看到一些光明的东西。 |
| 76 | I think everything that's happened to me in my business career | 我觉得我生意上发生的一切 |
| 77 | certainly was a result of belly flops that I turned over and saw the bright side. | 我翻过身子看到了光明的一面 |
| 78 | Yeah. | 对 |
| 79 | Let's think about the person who is, let's say, around my age. | 想想我这个年纪的人 |
| 80 | I'm 25. | 我25岁了 |
| 81 | You look older. | 你看起来老了。 |
| 82 | Do I? | 是吗? |
| 83 | Yeah, you do. | 是的,你这样做。 |
| 84 | You look 31. | 你看起来31。 |
| 85 | Yeah, most people say that. | 是啊,大多数人这么说。 |
| 86 | Is it the beard or no? | 是胡子还是没有? |
| 87 | No, take your beard off. | 不,把你的胡子脱掉。 |
| 88 | You look about 35. | 你看起来大概35。 |
| 89 | Just joking. | 开玩笑的 |
| 90 | I'm not saying it at all. | 我根本没说 |
| 91 | You asked me how old I was and that's not a nice thing to do at my age. | 你问我我多大了,这对我这个年纪来说不是件好事. |
| 92 | So I'm asking you back. | 所以我问你回来。 |
| 93 | That's true. | 没错 |
| 94 | That's fair. | 这很公平。 |
| 95 | A lot of people who are around my age, old or younger, | 很多人都在我这个年纪,老的或年轻的, |
| 96 | are very lost in life, looking for answers. | 寻找答案 |
| 97 | They feel anxious. | 他们感到焦虑。 |
| 98 | If someone is starting their working life, | 如果有人开始他们的工作生活, |
| 99 | how do you recommend that they navigate it? | 你如何推荐他们导航? |
| 100 | And what's the relationship that we should have with money? | 我们用钱应该有什么关系? |
| 101 | I think you've got to question yourself on something like that. | 我想你必须质疑自己 类似的事情。 |
| 102 | A lot of it's forced on you because of peer pressure, what you see around you. | 很多都是因为同龄人的压力 以及你周围的景象而强迫你的 |
| 103 | I think you've got to really sit down quietly and ask yourself what's important to you. | 我想你必须静静地坐下来 问问自己什么对你很重要 |
| 104 | And money is not important to most people. | 钱对大多数人来说不重要 |
| 105 | They think it is. | 他们认为这是。 |
| 106 | But if you really ask yourself what are the values | 但是如果你真的问自己 价值是什么 |
| 107 | or what do you really want to be doing for a living | 或你真正想做什么为生 |
| 108 | or what do you really like to do or who do you want to be when you grow up, | 或者你真正喜欢做什么 或者你想成为谁 当你长大, |
| 109 | you get away from such a narrow definition because I want to make more money. | 你远离这么狭义的定义 因为我想赚更多的钱 |
| 110 | Easy for me to say because I have it. | 我很容易说 因为我有它。 |
| 111 | But believe me, when I didn't have it, | 但相信我,当我没有它, |
| 112 | because I had 23 jobs before I found real estate, | 因为我在找到房地产之前有23个工作 |
| 113 | I was poor for a long time. | 久而穷之. |
| 114 | And let me tell you something. | 让我告诉你一件事。 |
| 115 | I was as happy then as I was once I had my own business. | 那时我和以前一样开心 我有自己的生意 |
| 116 | And I keep reminding myself of that. | 我一直提醒自己这一点。 |
| 117 | The money doesn't really make a big difference. | 钱不会有什么大不了的 |
| 118 | Yeah, because I know already a comment that I've received before | 是啊,因为我知道一个评论 我之前收到过 |
| 119 | interviewing people of similar success to you that they say, | 与你们一样成功的人, |
| 120 | well, easy to say she has money, so easy for her to talk about it that way. | 很容易说她有钱 所以她可以那样说 |
| 121 | Yeah, it is though. | 是的,虽然如此。 |
| 122 | It's like cheating on the answer. | 这就像欺骗答案。 |
| 123 | A lot of the people I've spoken to will say at the point they're at in life, | 我和很多人谈过了,他们会说,在生活中, |
| 124 | they've made their money, they've gotten their success. | 他们赚了钱,他们成功了 |
| 125 | They never talk about how important money was or is at this stage in life. | 他们从不谈论金钱在生命的这个阶段有多重要。 |
| 126 | At this stage, because they've had everything they want. | 在这个阶段,因为他们已经得到了他们想要的一切. |
| 127 | But do they talk about how rough money is at times? | 但是他们有谈论过钱有多粗糙吗? |
| 128 | Because it is a complicator. | 因为它是一个复杂因素。 |
| 129 | It complicates life. | 它使生活变得复杂。 |
| 130 | Not that I would ever give it back. | 我绝不会还给你的 |
| 131 | I think it's still very nice to have it because you get to do whatever you want. | 我仍然觉得拥有它很好 因为你可以做你想做的 |
| 132 | You get freedom as a result of being rich. | 你因为有钱而得到自由 |
| 133 | But it complicates relationships and makes life | 但它使关系变得复杂 并让生活 |
| 134 | a little more rough to come out as a good person, I think. | 以好人的身份出来比较难受 |
| 135 | I hope I'm not stereotyping. | 我希望我没有刻板印象 |
| 136 | But generally, a lot of people I know that have come into a lot of money, | 但总的来说,我认识的很多人 都赚了很多钱 |
| 137 | made a lot of money, really made a mess of their life. | 赚了很多钱,真的弄得一团糟 |
| 138 | So I think in a way, life is more simple and more attainable to be happy | 所以我认为,从某种意义上说,生活更简单,更可以实现幸福 |
| 139 | if you don't overlay it with a lot of money. | 如果你不用很多钱来掩盖它。 |
| 140 | One of my favorite lessons in life, it's a stoic quote, | 我一生中最爱的一课, 是一个 stoic 引文, |
| 141 | and it reads easy life, hard choices, hard life, easy choices. | 它读了轻松的生活 艰难的选择 艰难的生活 轻松的选择 |
| 142 | It's true. | 这是真的。 |
| 143 | What is an easy choice that you made at some point in your life? | 你生命中某个时刻做出的选择是什么? |
| 144 | That proved to make your life very hard. | 这证明你的生活非常艰难。 |
| 145 | One of the choices I made was when I was young in my business, | 我所做的选择之一 是在我年轻的时候 |
| 146 | I thought I had to be fancy. | 我觉得我必须花样。 |
| 147 | So I started getting fancy, which was a real mistake. | 所以我开始迷恋,这是一个真正的错误。 |
| 148 | I had my hair done every week. | 我每周都做头发 |
| 149 | I only washed on Sundays because I had that big poof hair. | 我星期天才洗的,因为我有大毛 |
| 150 | Then I had to be who was out there in my marketplace. | 然后,我必须是谁 在我的市场。 |
| 151 | But the minute I became genuine and became myself again, | 但当我变得真实 并再次成为我自己, |
| 152 | because I got tired of getting my hair done. | 因为我厌倦了做头发 |
| 153 | People like me because I think I learned once and for all | 像我这样的人,因为我觉得我永远学会了 |
| 154 | that I had to be genuine because people accept you | 我必须要是真心的 因为人们接受你 |
| 155 | with all your faults if you're the real deal. | 如果你是真人的话 就会有你的错 |
| 156 | Do you notice that a lot in life or lack of authenticity? | 你注意到生活中很多事情 或缺乏真实性吗? |
| 157 | Well, I live in New York City. | 我住在纽约市 |
| 158 | What do you think? | 你觉得呢? |
| 159 | Of course I do. | 当然 |
| 160 | There's so much flash in New York and so much wealth. | 纽约有很多闪光和财富 |
| 161 | It's hard to keep focused on what's really important at times, I think. | 很难继续专注于什么 真正重要的有时,我想。 |
| 162 | For you, what is that? | 对你来说,那是什么? |
| 163 | What is important? | 有什么重要吗? |
| 164 | The only things that are important, my kids, my husband, on a good day. | 唯一重要的事情,我的孩子,我的丈夫,在一个美好的一天。 |
| 165 | And really valuing the time with people you love | 真正珍惜时间 与你爱的人 |
| 166 | and giving it the time that needs to be really a wonderful part of life. | 并给它时间 需要成为生命中一个美妙的部分。 |
| 167 | A lot of people make easy choices in life. | 很多人在生活中做出轻松的选择. |
| 168 | Like when I used to work at a bank and I quit my job, | 就像我以前在银行工作的时候 我辞了工作 |
| 169 | but everyone else that I knew who hated their job, | 但其他人,我知道谁讨厌他们的工作, |
| 170 | they said yes and they stuck with it. | 他们答应了,他们坚持了下去。 |
| 171 | Those hard choices I made ended up making my life what I would say is easier now. | 我所做的这些艰难选择 使我的生活变得容易一些 |
| 172 | I'm doing what I love and I'm very happy about it. | 我做我所爱的事,我对此非常高兴. |
| 173 | Why do people make easy choices? | 为什么人们做容易的选择? |
| 174 | Because it's easier. | 因为它更容易。 |
| 175 | You know, basically it's no choice. | 你知道,基本上,这是没有选择。 |
| 176 | Easy choices are usually no choice. | 容易的选择通常是没有选择的。 |
| 177 | The worst choice of all. | 最糟糕的选择 |
| 178 | But when you make a choice to change your life, there's a lot of effort involved. | 但是当你做出改变自己生活的选择时,需要付出很多努力. |
| 179 | You've got to change a lot of stuff. | 你必须改变很多东西。 |
| 180 | You've got to get people on your side. | 得令众生拥护. |
| 181 | You've got to do some explaining to people you're close to or you're supporting. | 你必须做一些解释 的人你接近或你支持。 |
| 182 | I think a tough choice is hard. | 我觉得很难选择 |
| 183 | It's hard to make a turn. | 转法轮难. |
| 184 | So it's much easier to just ride. | 所以骑马就容易多了 |
| 185 | Just ride. | 只是骑。 |
| 186 | Most people do. | 大多数人都这样 |
| 187 | It's almost the end of the year. | 年近已终. |
| 188 | And if you're someone in a situation like this | 如果你是这样的人 |
| 189 | and you want to be able to do things like this, this, and this, | 你想能够做这样的事情, 像这样,这样,这样, |
| 190 | I highly recommend you grab a copy of our goal setting journal. | 我强烈建议你拿一份 我们的目标设定期刊。 |
| 191 | In just three parts, this journal will help you figure out your ideal life. | 短短三段,这本日记会帮助你找出你的理想生活. |
| 192 | Turn that life into a set of specific and measurable and achievable goals | 将生活变成一套具体、可衡量和可实现的目标 |
| 193 | and then create the discipline structure through goal tracking | 然后通过目标跟踪创建纪律结构 |
| 194 | to track your progress over six months until your biggest dreams become your reality. | 追踪你六个月来的进展 直到你最大的梦想成为现实 |
| 195 | We're in the middle of our only and therefore best sale of the year | 我们正处于我们唯一的,因此最好的销售年度 |
| 196 | with discounts and bonuses worth up to $1,500 for the first 100 people | 头100人可享受最多1 500美元的折扣和奖金 |
| 197 | who click the link below and grab one. | 点击下面的链接并抓一个。 |
| 198 | So don't let another year slip by. | 所以不要再让一年过去了 |
| 199 | Click the link below to learn more about the journal and start upgrading your life | 点击下面的链接了解更多关于日记的内容并开始提升你的生活 |
| 200 | just like Barbara and many other people have managed to do. | 就像芭芭拉和很多人一样 |
| 201 | What were some sacrifices you made going through your whole journey? | 你在整个旅程中做出了什么牺牲? |
| 202 | There were a lot. | 有很多东西 |
| 203 | When I was a young 20-something year old, I worked 18-hour days, my whole 20s. | 当我还是个20多岁时 我工作了18小时 整整20多岁 |
| 204 | So I didn't go out with my friends. | 所以我没有和朋友约会 |
| 205 | I always stayed focused on work. | 我一直专心工作 |
| 206 | You give up a lot. | 你放弃了很多。 |
| 207 | But boy, by the time I was 30, they were giving up a lot all the time. | 但孩子,当我30岁的时候, 他们放弃了很多时间。 |
| 208 | And I was sailing. | 我当时在航行 |
| 209 | And I saw that dream. | 我看到那个梦 |
| 210 | I knew that it would happen that way. | 我知道事情是这样发生的 |
| 211 | So you didn't mind giving up those choices or I didn't mind. | 所以你不介意放弃那些选择 或者我不介意 |
| 212 | So in hindsight, you don't regret that? | 所以事后看 你不后悔吗? |
| 213 | I don't have any regrets. | 我没有遗憾 |
| 214 | I'm good at moving on. | 我擅长继续前进。 |
| 215 | That's my forte. | 这是我的要塞。 |
| 216 | I'm good at moving on. | 我擅长继续前进。 |
| 217 | I don't look back. | 不回头. |
| 218 | I mean, it's such a waste of time. | 我的意思是,这是在浪费时间。 |
| 219 | You can't change anything. | 你不能改变任何事情。 |
| 220 | So I just look forward. | 所以,我只是展望未来。 |
| 221 | Why do you not have regrets? | 你为什么不后悔? |
| 222 | What's your process of not? | 你没有做什么? |
| 223 | I mean, I wouldn't have regrets for two reasons, actually. | 我的意思是,我不会有遗憾 有两个原因,实际上。 |
| 224 | One, thinking it through and spending any time on it is a waste of time. | 一,思考过和花在它上的任何时间都是浪费时间. |
| 225 | You can't change anything. | 你不能改变任何事情。 |
| 226 | And secondly, when you dwell on a regret, you're apt to become a victim. | 其次,当你沉迷于遗憾时, 你就会成为受害者。 |
| 227 | And that's very dangerous. | 这很危险 |
| 228 | People who are victims are never happy because they feel like, oh, something got in the way. | 受害者从不高兴,因为他们觉得有碍事 |
| 229 | They meant to change it. | 他们打算改变它。 |
| 230 | They couldn't have a fair shot, whatever their reasons are. | 他们不可能有公平的机会 不管他们的理由是什么 |
| 231 | And they blame other people. | 他们责怪别人。 |
| 232 | And those people, those victims, which is a lot of people out there from what I could see, | 而那些人,那些受害者, 这是很多人在那里 从我可以看到, |
| 233 | are never really happy because they've never taken really accountability for themselves | 从来没有真正幸福,因为他们从来没有 真正为自己承担责任 |
| 234 | and taking the responsibility of being responsible for your own life. | 并承担为自己的生命负责的责任。 |
| 235 | You can change what you want or not change it, but don't blame the next guy. | 你可以改变你想要的或不改变它, 但不要责怪下一个家伙。 |
| 236 | Yeah, I think it lends itself to victimhood. | 是的,我想它 自己为受害者。 |
| 237 | And I think I'm afraid of that. | 我觉得我很害怕 |
| 238 | I don't want to be that person. | 我不想成为那个人。 |
| 239 | Why do we do that, though? | 我们为什么要这么做? |
| 240 | I mean, because it's easier. | 我的意思是,因为它更容易。 |
| 241 | Yeah. | 对 |
| 242 | It's easier to be a victim because you don't have to be a responsibility. | 成为受害者比较容易,因为你不必承担责任. |
| 243 | Like, I could have been a millionaire if only my father was rich. | 我本来可以成为百万富翁的 只要我父亲有钱 |
| 244 | Well, Esmer Cuban's dad was rich. | 埃斯梅尔的爸爸很有钱 |
| 245 | You could find many exceptions to every one of those truisms or excuses that people have. | 你可以找到很多例外 每一个这些教训或借口 人们有。 |
| 246 | It's just not true. | 这不是真的 |
| 247 | Over 15 seasons of Shark Tank, I've watched, obviously, a lot of episodes, | 超过15个赛季的鲨鱼坦克, 我显然看了很多场景, |
| 248 | but you have seen so many different people come to you, like a business proposal, | 但你已经看到这么多不同的人 来找你, 像一个商业建议, |
| 249 | but also it's a people proposal. | 但也是一种民意建议 |
| 250 | If you're analyzing all of those different proposals you've seen, | 如果你正在分析你看到的所有这些不同的建议, |
| 251 | what characteristics make somebody or something attractive to you? | 什么样的特质让你有吸引力? |
| 252 | A good entrepreneur, you mean? | 你是说一个好企业家? |
| 253 | Yeah. | 对 |
| 254 | A good entrepreneur is like a jack-in-the-box. | 一个好企业家就像一个插盒。 |
| 255 | That's what I'm always looking for. | 常求此义. |
| 256 | I'm looking for someone I think could be smashed on the head over and over, | 我在找一个我觉得可能 被一次又一次砸到头的人 |
| 257 | and they'd still pop back up. | 他们还是会回来的 |
| 258 | Because every investment that I've made, | 因为我所做的每一项投资 |
| 259 | if they didn't have the ability to get back up, boy, they never made it. | 如果他们没有能力 站起来,孩子,他们从来没有成功。 |
| 260 | So I really think resilience is the number one trait, and probably 90% of it. | 所以我真的认为韧性是头号特征, 大概90%。 |
| 261 | They don't even have to be smart. | 他们甚至不用聪明。 |
| 262 | Some of my biggest successes are not very smart. | 我的一些最大的成功并不非常聪明。 |
| 263 | But if they were smart, they'd lay low and wait till the trouble's over, | 但如果他们很聪明 他们会低调等待麻烦解决 |
| 264 | but they're right back up, give me more, give me more. | 但是他们马上就回来,给我更多,给我更多。 |
| 265 | So really, I have my biggest successes with people who are more of the second type. | 所以,真的,我有我最大的 成功的人 谁更属于第二类。 |
| 266 | I'm trying to analyze somebody in life, and I'm trying to figure out, | 我在分析生活中的某个人 我想弄清楚 |
| 267 | is this person worth my time? | 这个人值得我花时间吗? |
| 268 | Is this person worth investing in, regardless of whether that's an entrepreneur or not? | 这个人值得投资吗,不管他是不是企业家? |
| 269 | Yeah, you mean whether you want to spend time with them or not? | 是的,你是说你想不想和他们在一起? |
| 270 | Yeah, we could boil it down to that even. | 是的,我们可以把它煮成这样。 |
| 271 | You know what I do? | 你知道我做什么吗? |
| 272 | You have to analyze the person as much as the business too, right? | 你也要分析一个人和生意一样多,对吗? |
| 273 | Yes, but it's just as important in life. | 是的,但它同样重要 在生活中。 |
| 274 | How I analyze people in life is I surround myself with happy people, | 我如何分析生活中的人 是我身边的幸福的人, |
| 275 | and very often I'm fooled on the front end. | 我经常被蒙在鼓里 |
| 276 | Someone looks happy, or they'd be an addition to my life, | 有人看起来很快乐, 否则他们会是我的生活的附加品, |
| 277 | but then I find out they're an energy sucker or what have you. | 但后来我发现他们是一个 能量吸盘或你有什么。 |
| 278 | I think you could ask yourself, how do I feel when they leave the room? | 我想你可以问问自己 当他们离开房间时我有什么感觉? |
| 279 | When they leave the room, I get a happy puff of air, | 当他们离开房间时,我得到了一个快乐的气泡, |
| 280 | and I think that's a nice person that I want to be back with. | 我觉得那是个好人 我想回去陪他 |
| 281 | And when they leave the room, I just feel like, | 当他们离开房间时,我只是觉得, |
| 282 | now I should see them again. | 现在我应该再见到他们 |
| 283 | I don't know why, but get rid of them. | 我不知道为什么,但把他们赶走。 |
| 284 | They're never going to add to your life. | 他们永远不会增加你的生活。 |
| 285 | But on Shark Tank, there's a lot of hints that people give you. | 但是在鲨鱼坦克上 人们会给你很多暗示 |
| 286 | When they're standing in front of you, they make eye contact, or they don't. | 当他们站在你面前时,他们进行眼睛接触,或者他们不这样做. |
| 287 | They look at you genuinely, or they don't. | 他们真的看着你,或者他们不看。 |
| 288 | They're full of crap, or they're not. | 他们充满废话,或者他们不是。 |
| 289 | They use big words, or they don't. | 他们用大字,不然就不用了. |
| 290 | And very importantly, you ask them about their background, | 重要的是,你问他们的背景 |
| 291 | and generally in their background, they're either going toward victimhood | 在他们的背景中 他们要么走向受害者 |
| 292 | or steering away from it. | 或转身离开它。 |
| 293 | You want to get the guy or the gal who really is optimistic and willing to push forward, | 你想得到的家伙或女孩 谁真正乐观 并愿意向前, |
| 294 | and just isn't going to be held back by anything. | 而只是不会 被任何阻碍。 |
| 295 | If I was trying to figure my life out or piece it together, | 如果我想找出我的生活 或拼凑在一起, |
| 296 | think about someone who is dissatisfied with where they are at in life, | 想想一个人谁不满意 他们在哪里生活, |
| 297 | and they want to take the next step. | 他们想采取下一步。 |
| 298 | What are three questions I could ask myself that would lead me towards those answers? | 我能问自己三个问题是什么 才能让我找到答案? |
| 299 | I think the first thing is you have to ask what kind of tape you have in your head. | 我认为第一件事是 你必须问 你脑子里有什么磁带 |
| 300 | Everybody's got a tape, and it's usually an old tape that you got as a kid. | 每个人都有带子 通常都是你小时候的老带子 |
| 301 | You got to get rid of. | 得解脱. |
| 302 | I had a tape in my head that said, you shouldn't be here. | 我脑子里有盘录音带 上面写着 你不该来 |
| 303 | You won't do it, or whatever, a lot of negative stuff. | 你不会这样做,或者什么的, 很多负面的东西。 |
| 304 | And I change it to, Barbie, you're effing amazing. | 我把它改成,芭比,你令人惊讶。 |
| 305 | Every time I purposely kick it in, Barbie, you're effing amazing. | 每次我故意踢进去,芭比,你都很棒 |
| 306 | That puts my head in the right place. | 这让我的头在正确的地方。 |
| 307 | But if somebody's really lost, I think the best solution for that | 但是如果真的有人迷路了 我认为最好的解决办法是 |
| 308 | is find people who are less advantageous than you are, | 发现比你更不利的人 |
| 309 | or find someone who has less advantages than you have. | 或找到一个比你更弱的人 |
| 310 | And dedicate yourself to giving. | 并奉献给自己。 |
| 311 | I don't think you could be wrapped up in yourself and feeling sorry for yourself | 我不认为你会被包在自己身上 为自己感到难过 |
| 312 | and not getting ahead in life if you're giving. | 并且不会在生活中领先 如果你付出。 |
| 313 | I think if you give, like they say, it's a cliche, of course, but you get. | 我认为如果你像他们说的那样给, 那当然是一种陈词滥调, 但你得到。 |
| 314 | But it's really true. | 但这是真的。 |
| 315 | I have seen so many people turn themselves around | 我见过这么多人转身 |
| 316 | by getting not focused on them, but getting focused on the next guy. | 而不是专注于他们, 而是专注于下一个家伙。 |
| 317 | People are self-involved, and it can be a very negative spiral. | 人们是自发的,它可能是非常消极的螺旋. |
| 318 | 1988, you've been married since then, correct? | 1988年,你结婚以后,对不对? |
| 319 | How do you know that? | 你怎么会知道? |
| 320 | I don't know when I've been married. | 我不知道什么时候结婚的 |
| 321 | I have to ask my husband. | 我得问我丈夫 |
| 322 | He knows the date, the time. | 他知道日期和时间 |
| 323 | He's one of those. | 他是一个这样的。 |
| 324 | But he doesn't remember my anniversary, which really bugs me. | 但他不记得我的周年纪念日了 这让我很困扰 |
| 325 | Really? | 真的吗? |
| 326 | Honestly. | 说实话 |
| 327 | Do you know when is it? | 你知道什么时候吗? |
| 328 | When is it? | 什么时候? |
| 329 | I don't know. | 师曰. |
| 330 | Oh, no. | 哦,没有。 |
| 331 | February 14th. | 二月十四日th. |
| 332 | A lot of people cannot find real love in today's day and age. | 很多人在今天这个时代找不到真正的爱情. |
| 333 | You've been married for quite a bit. | 你结婚很久了 |
| 334 | That doesn't mean it's real love. | 这并不意味着这是真正的爱。 |
| 335 | Billy, don't be so quick to judge. | 比利,别这么急着判断 |
| 336 | Tell me. | 告诉我 |
| 337 | I'm not saying it's not, because I love my husband, Bill, very much. | 我没说不是 因为我非常爱我丈夫比尔 |
| 338 | But marriage, for me, is more challenging than building a business any day of the week. | 但对我来说,婚姻比每周任何一天都更具有挑战性。 |
| 339 | I think it takes great tolerance. | 我认为这需要极大的宽容。 |
| 340 | It gets boring. | 它变得无聊。 |
| 341 | Marriage gets boring. | 婚姻变得无聊。 |
| 342 | I've heard that before. | 我之前听说过 |
| 343 | Even I'm boring to myself. | 连我都觉得无聊 |
| 344 | I've said it before. | 我以前说过 |
| 345 | No, marriage is not the most exciting thing. | 不,婚姻不是最激动人心的事 |
| 346 | Marriage is really like a relationship of support when you need it. | 婚姻就像一个支持关系 当你需要它。 |
| 347 | That's how I see it. | 这就是我的看法。 |
| 348 | And he's a good guy who will always be there. | 他是个好人 他永远会在那里 |
| 349 | I'm a good gal and I'll always be there for him. | 我是个好女孩 我会永远陪着他 |
| 350 | But no, you don't have this true love thing exactly right. | 但是,不,你没有这个真爱的事情 完全正确。 |
| 351 | Can you define the word love in your opinion? | 你能定义你观点中的爱这个词吗? |
| 352 | Staying loyal. | 坚守忠义. |
| 353 | Staying loyal to your children, your husband, your family, your friends. | 忠于子孙,忠于丈夫,忠于家人,忠于朋友. |
| 354 | When you're thinking poorly of them, just stick it out, shut your mouth, | 当你想到他们不好的时候,只要坚持下去,闭上你的嘴, |
| 355 | and stay loyal and listen to them. | 并保持忠诚,倾听他们的声音。 |
| 356 | No, I think that's important. | 不,我觉得这很重要。 |
| 357 | You're painting it with one angle, but I'm assuming there's also good parts to it. | 你用一个角度画它, 但我假设它也有好的部分。 |
| 358 | Did I sound that negative that I didn't have a good side? | 我听起来有那么消极吗? |
| 359 | I just want to give you. | 我只是想给你。 |
| 360 | You're not sounding like for marriage. | 你听起来不像是结婚 |
| 361 | You're listening to me, right? | 你在听我说话,对吧? |
| 362 | I'm still going to go for it. | 我还是会去的。 |
| 363 | You really are. | 你真的是这样。 |
| 364 | Think about it. | 考虑一下 |
| 365 | It's for life, you know. | 是为命. |
| 366 | But what is the upside? | 但有什么好处? |
| 367 | You can take it for granted that you have someone in your corner. | 你可以理所当然地认为你身边有人 |
| 368 | You can take it for granted that you have someone who would make a good father | 你可以理所当然地认为 你有一个能做好父亲的人 |
| 369 | and always be there for your kids. | 永远陪着你的孩子 |
| 370 | And those are the substantial blocks in life that you really want to take for granted | 这些是生活中你真正想视为理所当然的 |
| 371 | without thinking about every day. | 而不考虑每一天。 |
| 372 | How's it going? | 怎么样? |
| 373 | I have a question here in my journal. | 我的日记里有个问题 |
| 374 | The question is, in your life, when did you feel the most proud about yourself? | 问题是,在你的生活中,你什么时候对自己感到最骄傲? |
| 375 | And what were you doing at that time? | 你当时在做什么? |
| 376 | For me, I was most proud of myself when— | 对我来说,我最骄傲的是... |
| 377 | maybe this sounds trite and goes back to your money question earlier— | 也许这听起来很老套 回到你之前的金钱问题 |
| 378 | but when I bought my mother and father a new car, I was 32. | 但当我给我父母买辆新车时,我32岁了。 |
| 379 | They had never had a new car because we had 10 kids. | 他们从来没有新车,因为我们有10个孩子。 |
| 380 | They had the same old jalopy their whole life, | 他们的一生都一样 |
| 381 | and they couldn't believe they got a new car. | 他们不敢相信他们有辆新车 |
| 382 | I felt rich, successful, satisfied, loving. | 我感到富有,成功,满足,爱 |
| 383 | All the good words came to my head, and that was me. | 所有好话都传到我脑海里,那就是我。 |
| 384 | I walked around, I'd say, for months proud as could be | 我四处走动,我会说, 几个月的骄傲,可能 |
| 385 | because of something like that. | 因为类似的事情。 |
| 386 | So, again, giving, you know. | 所以,再次,给,你知道的。 |
| 387 | Yeah, what did you prove to yourself at that moment? | 是啊,你证明自己在那一刻? |
| 388 | At that moment, I proved to myself that I had my priorities straight, | 那一刻,我向自己证明,我有我的优先事项, |
| 389 | that I did something for my parents that they couldn't do for themselves. | 我为我的父母做了一些 他们不能为自己做。 |
| 390 | Trade, I guess, because it was cars, | 交易,我想,因为它是汽车, |
| 391 | you know, something that makes such a big difference in life. | 你知道,的东西 使如此巨大的生活。 |
| 392 | But it was an extension of love. | 但这是爱的延伸 |
| 393 | It was a thank you. | 谢谢你 |
| 394 | It was a love letter. | 那是一封情书 |
| 395 | What is one thing that when you were younger, | 什么是一件事 当你年轻的时候, |
| 396 | you put a lot of importance on, | 你非常重视, |
| 397 | and as you got older, you realized it wasn't that important? | 当你长大了,你意识到 这不重要? |
| 398 | When I was a little kid, I couldn't read or write, | 当我还是个孩子的时候,我无法读写, |
| 399 | and so everybody thought I was stupid, which I wasn't. | 所以大家都认为我是愚蠢的, 我没有。 |
| 400 | I knew inside my head I wasn't stupid, | 我知道我的脑子里不傻 |
| 401 | but if you label that way, you start to believe it. | 但是如果你这样标注, 你开始相信它。 |
| 402 | In hindsight, it was the best thing that ever happened to me | 事后看来,这是我遇到的最好的事情 |
| 403 | because I think I have spent my entire life proving I'm not stupid. | 因为我认为我花了一辈子 来证明我不傻 |
| 404 | I think I worked this hard, and I prepared this hard, | 我想我努力工作, 我准备了这么辛苦, |
| 405 | and I pushed this hard because I'm so afraid | 我推这个硬 因为我很害怕 |
| 406 | that somebody's going to think I'm really stupid. | 有人会觉得我很蠢 |
| 407 | I don't think I'm really convinced, you know? | 我不认为我真的相信,你知道吗? |
| 408 | But no, that was a tough one. | 但是,不,这是一个艰难的。 |
| 409 | But that was only when I was a kid | 但那只是我小时候的事 |
| 410 | and it gave me so many talents to get through life. | 它给了我这么多的才能 度过生命。 |
| 411 | I got rejection early. | 我早被拒签了 |
| 412 | I kind of got ready for it early. | 我早就准备好了 |
| 413 | All I had was an early education, | 我只受过早期教育 |
| 414 | but tough on a kid, really tough on a kid. | 却对孩子很严厉,对孩子很严厉 |
| 415 | Happy I came through it. | 很高兴我通过它。 |
| 416 | People looking through life like me, | 像我这样的人 |
| 417 | I'm 25 and I can only imagine what life... | 我25岁,我只能想象什么样的生活... |
| 418 | Sure, you're 25. | 当然,你25。 |
| 419 | She'll say you're 31. | 她会说你31岁。 |
| 420 | I'm 35. | 我35岁了 |
| 421 | 31, I said. | 31,我说。 |
| 422 | 31, 31. | 31号,31号 |
| 423 | If I shave, I'm 35. | 如果我刮胡子,我35岁了。 |
| 424 | Does life get better as you get older? | 生活变老了吗? |
| 425 | You asked me at a time when I'm questioning that myself. | 你问我的时候, 当我质疑这个自己。 |
| 426 | Does life get better? | 生活会好起来吗? |
| 427 | Life gets better in terms of knowing what you want, | 生活变得更好 在知道你想要的, |
| 428 | being more satisfied, going where you want, | 更满意,去你想去的地方, |
| 429 | choosing to be people or letting them go | 选择做人还是放人 |
| 430 | if you don't want to be with them. | 如果你不想和他们在一起的话 |
| 431 | I think you have more power of what you want out of your normal day. | 我认为你拥有更多的力量 想要从正常的日子。 |
| 432 | But what is hard about life, or I'm finding hard, | 但生活有什么难的, 或者我发现很难, |
| 433 | is getting older in the physical way. | 身体上越来越老了 |
| 434 | I mean, I can't stand the fact that I can't run down the street anymore | 我的意思是,我不能忍受的事实 我无法运行在街道上了 |
| 435 | or I can't lift a heavy weight or something. | 或者我不能举重什么的 |
| 436 | It's not worth it to take up a new sport and hurt my knees. | 不值得参加新的运动 伤害我的膝盖 |
| 437 | So I'm afraid, actually, you know what? | 所以我害怕,其实,你知道吗? |
| 438 | That's what it is, to have fear for the first time in my life, | 这就是它,有恐惧 在我生命中第一次, |
| 439 | come in and to have to weigh the pros and cons. | 进来,必须权衡利弊 |
| 440 | I was always, my whole life, my forte was I just go for it. | 我一直,我的整个生活,我的前身是,我只是去做到这一点。 |
| 441 | But now I slow down and go, wait, can I really handle that? | 但现在我慢下来走了,等等,我可以处理吗? |
| 442 | And I hate that hesitation. | 我讨厌这种犹豫 |
| 443 | It's a rough one for me because I'm a one-goer. | 这对我来说是件很粗糙的事 因为我是一行人 |
| 444 | Maybe not tough for everybody, but not a fun one. | 也许对每个人都不难, 但不是一个有趣的。 |
| 445 | Yeah, not at all. | 是啊,一点也不。 |
| 446 | If you could go back in time to your 25-year-old self. | 如果你能回到你25岁的时候 |
| 447 | Oh, boy, that would be great. | 哦,孩子,那会是伟大的。 |
| 448 | I look good then. | 我看上去不错 |
| 449 | You look great now. | 你看起来棒极了 |
| 450 | I didn't even wear makeup then. | 我当时甚至没化妆 |
| 451 | You look great. | 你看起来棒极了 |
| 452 | If you could go back to your 25-year-old self, | 如果你能回到你25岁的自我 |
| 453 | knowing what you know today and give her one piece of advice, | 知道你今天知道什么 给她一个建议, |
| 454 | what would you say to her? | 你会跟她说什么? |
| 455 | Chill. | 冷静 |
| 456 | Don't be in such a rush. | 别这么着急 |
| 457 | I mean, I was always in a rush. | 我的意思是,我总是赶时间。 |
| 458 | I never hesitated for a second. | 我从未犹豫过 |
| 459 | Just chill out and smell the roses a little more. | 冷静点,再闻闻玫瑰的味道 |
| 460 | I don't think I was smelling the roses till I was 35, 40. | 我35岁40岁才闻到玫瑰的味道 |
| 461 | Probably when I had my first kid at 48, | 也许当我有我的第一个孩子 在48, |
| 462 | it was the first time I really slowed down and realized what I had. | 这是我第一次真正慢下来 并意识到我有。 |
| 463 | That appreciation, the thankfulness. | 感谢,感谢。 |
| 464 | I'm very thankful now, but as a young woman, I wasn't thankful. | 我现在很感激,但作为一个年轻女人,我并不感激。 |
| 465 | I just thought, I'm going to slay the dragon and see how far I could go. | 我只是在想,我要杀了龙 看看我能走多远 |
| 466 | Yeah. | 对 |
| 467 | Thank you so much. | 非常感谢 |
| 468 | You are welcome. | 不用谢 |
| 469 | I appreciate it. | 谢谢 |
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