【合集·英文字幕】15分钟让你自信爆棚_Leila · 商业
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| 0:00 | What if I told you that confidence has nothing to do with feeling ready | 如果我告诉你 信心和准备无关 |
| 0:04 | and everything to do with doing it scared? | 和一切 做它害怕吗? |
| 0:06 | I have built multiple businesses. | 我建了多个企业。 |
| 0:07 | I've led massive teams. | 我带领了大批队伍 |
| 0:09 | I've been on stages terrified out of my mind and somehow I'm still standing. | 不知怎么的,我还是站着 |
| 0:13 | So if you've ever wondered how to stay calm in a situation | 所以,如果你曾经想知道 如何保持冷静在一个情况 |
| 0:15 | or how to stop overthinking or how to build real confidence, here's how. | 或如何停止过度思考 或如何建立 真正的信任,这里是如何。 |
| 0:19 | I am here to tell you how to actually build confidence. | 我是来告诉你怎么建立信任的 |
| 0:23 | Most people have it backwards. | 大多数人都倒过来了 |
| 0:24 | Confidence is the output, not the input. | 自信是输出,而不是输入. |
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| 序号 | 英文 | 中文 |
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| 1 | What if I told you that confidence has nothing to do with feeling ready | 如果我告诉你 信心和准备无关 |
| 2 | and everything to do with doing it scared? | 和一切 做它害怕吗? |
| 3 | I have built multiple businesses. | 我建了多个企业。 |
| 4 | I've led massive teams. | 我带领了大批队伍 |
| 5 | I've been on stages terrified out of my mind and somehow I'm still standing. | 不知怎么的,我还是站着 |
| 6 | So if you've ever wondered how to stay calm in a situation | 所以,如果你曾经想知道 如何保持冷静在一个情况 |
| 7 | or how to stop overthinking or how to build real confidence, here's how. | 或如何停止过度思考 或如何建立 真正的信任,这里是如何。 |
| 8 | I am here to tell you how to actually build confidence. | 我是来告诉你怎么建立信任的 |
| 9 | Most people have it backwards. | 大多数人都倒过来了 |
| 10 | Confidence is the output, not the input. | 自信是输出,而不是输入. |
| 11 | A lot of people ask me, Leila, how do I build confidence? | 很多人问我,莱拉, 我如何建立信任? |
| 12 | And I get it because it's just like everyone's like, oh, believe in yourself. | 我得到它,因为它只是 像每个人都喜欢,哦,相信自己。 |
| 13 | You just need to believe in yourself. | 你只需要相信自己,你需要相信自己。 |
| 14 | And they think that you need to write these affirmations on the bathroom mirror every morning. | 他们认为你需要每天早上 在浴室的镜子上写下这些肯定 |
| 15 | And listen, that's what I did when I was in my early 20s. | 听着,这是我20多岁时做的。 |
| 16 | I literally did this. | 我确实做到了。 |
| 17 | I had it written on my mirror. | 我把它写在我的镜子上。 |
| 18 | It was like, I am beautiful. | 这就像,我很美丽。 |
| 19 | I am strong. | 我很坚强。 |
| 20 | I am capable. | 我是有能力的。 |
| 21 | I am confident. | 我充满信心。 |
| 22 | And guess what? | 你猜怎么着? |
| 23 | Nothing changed. | 什么都没有改变。 |
| 24 | It didn't do anything. | 它什么也没做。 |
| 25 | Having those things written on my mirror didn't do jack for how I felt the rest of my day. | 把那些东西写在我的镜子上 对我今天的感受没有好处 |
| 26 | And the reason for that is because confidence comes from action. | 其原因是信任来自行动。 |
| 27 | And that's why I say so often, f*** your mood, follow the plan. | 这就是为什么我经常说, 你的心情,按照计划。 |
| 28 | Because if you keep the promises that you make to yourself, | 因为如果你遵守你对自己的承诺 |
| 29 | especially when you don't feel like doing it, | 尤其是当你不想做的时候 |
| 30 | that's the input that leads to the output of confidence. | 这就是导致信心输出的输入. |
| 31 | And that's what most people miss. | 这也是大多数人所怀念的. |
| 32 | They're so busy chasing the result. | 他们忙于追查结果 |
| 33 | It's like if you think about it, if somebody's like, I really just want to be skinny, right? | 这就像如果你考虑它, 如果有人喜欢, 我真的只是想 瘦,对不对? |
| 34 | And so all they do is just like thinking about being skinny, wishing they could be skinny. | 所以他们所做的只是想着要瘦,希望他们能瘦。 |
| 35 | But you're like, just get in the f***ing gym. | 但你就像, 只是进入f***ing健身房。 |
| 36 | Get in the gym. | 进入健身房。 |
| 37 | Do the workout. | 做锻炼。 |
| 38 | Eat the food. | 食讫. |
| 39 | You can't just wish for it. | 岂可唯愿. |
| 40 | You have to work for it. | 你必须为此而努力。 |
| 41 | So I'll give you an example. | 故举一例. |
| 42 | At the age of 21, I moved across the country. | 21岁时移居全国. |
| 43 | I had no job. | 我没有工作。 |
| 44 | I had no money. | 我没有钱。 |
| 45 | And I had no clue what the hell I was doing. | 我根本不知道自己到底在干吗 |
| 46 | I certainly had no confidence in myself. | 我当然对自己没有信心 |
| 47 | And I wasn't confident in my ability to pull it off. | 我对成功的能力没有信心 |
| 48 | And so what I did is I said, okay, I'm at least going to put together a plan. | 所以我说,好吧,我至少要制定计划。 |
| 49 | So what I did is I moved to California. | 所以我就搬到了加州。 |
| 50 | I got an apartment. | 我有一个公寓。 |
| 51 | And then I looked for every place that I could work, | 然后我找遍了每个可以工作的地方 |
| 52 | which was a gym because I had my degree in exercise science, | 那是个健身房 因为我有运动科学学位 |
| 53 | within walking distance. | 在行走的距离内。 |
| 54 | And I had to do walking distance because I was like, | 我不得不走远 因为我喜欢, |
| 55 | I can't afford to pay for too much gas because I don't have money. | 因无钱,付不起太多的汽油费. |
| 56 | And so I ended up getting a job at 24 Hour Fitness. | 所以我在24小时健身时找到了一份工作 |
| 57 | And when I got the job, what I realized within the first two days | 当我得到这份工作,我发现 在头两天 |
| 58 | was that the job wasn't about fitness. | 工作不是健身问题 |
| 59 | It wasn't about everything I'd learned. | 这不是我学到的一切 |
| 60 | It was actually about marketing and sales. | 其实是市场营销和销售 |
| 61 | And I was terrified because I was like, | 我很害怕 因为我喜欢, |
| 62 | I have no idea how to do marketing and sales. | 我不知道如何做营销和销售。 |
| 63 | And I felt like this complete imposter syndrome. | 我觉得这完全是冒牌货综合症。 |
| 64 | I just felt like an out of my body experience because I was like, | 我只是觉得自己是体外的体验 因为我喜欢, |
| 65 | how am I supposed to do this? | 我该怎么做? |
| 66 | But at the same time, what I'm seeing is my bank account. | 但与此同时,我看到的是我的银行账户。 |
| 67 | Every single day, I had $5,000 and just down, down, down. | 每一天,我都有5000美元, 并且只是下降,下降,下降。 |
| 68 | My rent was $1,400 a month. | 我的租金是每月1400美元。 |
| 69 | Food, gas, everything else, insurance, | 食物 煤气 其他一切 保险 |
| 70 | paying off my student loan debt, all those things. | 偿还我的学生贷款债务,所有这些东西。 |
| 71 | Every single month, I was like, I've got three months. | 每一个月,我就像, 我有三个月。 |
| 72 | And so I was like, I have to learn how to do this. | 所以我想,我必须学会怎么做。 |
| 73 | And the thing is, is that I knew, I was like, | 问题是,我知道,我说, |
| 74 | I don't want to be the person who walks out. | 我不想成为走出去的人 |
| 75 | I don't want to be the person who quits | 我不想成为退出的人 |
| 76 | because I knew that was just going to make me feel worse about myself. | 因为我知道那只会让我觉得自己更糟糕 |
| 77 | And so I put in the reps. | 所以我把代表。 |
| 78 | I said, I'm going to read five books on sales. | 我说,我要读五本关于销售的书 |
| 79 | I'm going to be there at 4 a.m. | 我会在凌晨4点到那里。 |
| 80 | I'm going to leave at 9 p.m. | 我晚上9点离开 |
| 81 | I'm going to drill. | 我要去钻孔。 |
| 82 | I'm going to take every opportunity to meet with somebody who's better than me. | 我要利用一切机会 和比我强的人见面 |
| 83 | I'm going to take all the opportunity possible to learn the skill. | 我将尽一切可能的机会学习技能. |
| 84 | I was so nervous the first time I went to make my first sale | 我第一次去买我第一次卖时很紧张 |
| 85 | that I went into the bathroom because I thought I was going to throw up. | 我上厕所是因为我想吐 |
| 86 | I went into the bathroom. | 我去了厕所。 |
| 87 | I didn't leave. | 我没有离开。 |
| 88 | I didn't quit. | 我没有放弃。 |
| 89 | And what happened was that I was absolutely fucking terrified for the first 30 days. | 发生的事情是 我完全他妈的害怕 前30天。 |
| 90 | I remember the moment where I made my first sale | 我记得我第一次发售的那一刻 |
| 91 | and my manager, my team, everybody came. | 我的经理和团队都来了 |
| 92 | They all crowded around me and they were like, you did it. | 他们都挤在我周围 他们喜欢,你做到了。 |
| 93 | And what was crazy was that none of the celebration mattered. | 疯狂的是 庆祝活动都不重要 |
| 94 | It wasn't the fact that everyone was congratulating me. | 不是每个人都在祝贺我 |
| 95 | It wasn't the fact that I made the money. | 钱不是我赚的 |
| 96 | It was the fact of how I felt about myself. | 这是我对自己的感觉 |
| 97 | It was like this vision that I had of my future self just got pulled into reality. | 就像我对未来的憧憬 被逼入现实 |
| 98 | And every belief I had about myself was broken right then. | 我对自己的一切信念都打破了 |
| 99 | I didn't believe that I could make money. | 我不相信我能赚钱。 |
| 100 | I wasn't confident in my ability to sell or to market until the sale happened. | 在销售发生之前,我对自己的销售能力或市场能力并不有信心. |
| 101 | And all of a sudden, it was like more of what's possible came to mind for me. | 突然间,我想起了更多的事情 |
| 102 | Like I started to think about other things I could do. | 就像我开始思考其他我能做的事 |
| 103 | I started thinking about other skills I could acquire. | 我开始想其他能学的技能 |
| 104 | I started to think about other things beyond the box that I had built of the vision of myself. | 我开始思考其他的事情, 超越我所构建的盒子 我对自己的看法。 |
| 105 | That's absurd to think that if I was just reading affirmations in the mirror | 认为我只是在镜子里读肯定的话是荒谬的 |
| 106 | that I suddenly would have been good at sales. | 突然间我会很擅长销售 |
| 107 | Like I put in the reps to get good at sales. | 就像我放入代表 以获得良好的销售。 |
| 108 | And here's the thing. | 事情是这样的 |
| 109 | Success does not discriminate. | 成功是非歧视性的。 |
| 110 | Confidence does not discriminate. | 信心是非歧视性的。 |
| 111 | It doesn't care where you've come from. | 亦不思议从何处来. |
| 112 | It doesn't care about your background. | 它不关心你的背景。 |
| 113 | It doesn't care about your experience. | 它不关心你的经验。 |
| 114 | All it cares about is the fact that you put in the work to get it. | 它所关心的是你投入工作来得到它的事实. |
| 115 | So if you see people, you see people when you're younger | 所以,如果你看到人,你看到的人 当你年轻 |
| 116 | and you're like, how is that person so confident, right? | 你就像, 那个人怎么这么自信,对不对? |
| 117 | Given all their circumstances, maybe what they look like, maybe their job, their career. | 考虑到他们的所有情况, 也许他们是什么样子, 也许他们的工作,他们的事业。 |
| 118 | They've done work that you haven't done. | 他们做了你没有做的事 |
| 119 | And that's the thing. | 这就是问题所在。 |
| 120 | You have to work for it. | 你必须为此而努力。 |
| 121 | You have to put it into existence. | 你必须把它存在。 |
| 122 | You have to make it happen. | 你必须让它发生。 |
| 123 | Here's the thing. | 事情是这样的 |
| 124 | Your brain gathers evidence. | 你的大脑收集证据。 |
| 125 | And evidence is what builds the identity and confidence over time. | 证据是随着时间的推移 建立身份和信心的方法 |
| 126 | So someone says to me, Laila, you know, I want to go and speak at this event, | 所以有人对我说,莱拉, 你知道,我想去 说在这个活动中, |
| 127 | but I just I'm not confident to speak at that event. | 但我没有信心在那个场合发言 |
| 128 | I said it would be absurd to think that you would be confident | 我说认为你会有信心是荒谬的 |
| 129 | when you've never fucking spoken on stage before. | 你从没在舞台上说过话 |
| 130 | Of course, that's not going to happen. | 当然,那是不可能的。 |
| 131 | Our brains like to predict what's likely to happen. | 我们的大脑喜欢预测会发生什么 |
| 132 | If you've never done something before, your brain says, | 如果你从来没有做过什么, 你的大脑说, |
| 133 | I don't know what could happen. | 我不知道会发生什么。 |
| 134 | So I'm going to make you scared. | 所以我要让你害怕。 |
| 135 | And if you're scared, you're going to avoid it, | 如果你害怕 你会避免的 |
| 136 | which means that you won't die, right? | 这意味着你不会死,对不对? |
| 137 | Because our brains are wired for survival, not success. | 因为我们的大脑是用来求生存的 不是成功的 |
| 138 | And so it is crazy to think that you would actually have confidence | 所以,这是疯狂的认为 你会真正有信心 |
| 139 | when you haven't done the thing yet. | 当你还没有做这件事。 |
| 140 | You will become confident once you've done the thing | 一旦你做了这件事,你就会有信心 |
| 141 | because your brain does it. | 因为你的大脑做它。 |
| 142 | It sees you didn't die. | 它看到你没死 |
| 143 | And it says, it's OK, you can do it again. | 它说,没关系,你可以再做一次。 |
| 144 | Now, here's the thing. | 事情是这样的 |
| 145 | I wasn't like forever confident now because just like a muscle | 我现在不是永远自信 因为就像肌肉一样 |
| 146 | that you work out gets weak if you don't put it under pressure. | 工作会变得软弱 如果你不让它承受压力。 |
| 147 | So does confidence. | 自信也一样 |
| 148 | Confidence is like a muscle. | 信心犹如肌肉. |
| 149 | So if you don't work out that muscle, it's just going to get weaker | 所以,如果你不发挥出肌肉, 它只是会变弱 |
| 150 | and weaker over time. | 并逐渐变弱 |
| 151 | So if you want to build unshakable confidence, | 如果你想建立不可动摇的信心 |
| 152 | then you need a habit that tracks the truth, not your mood. | 那你需要一个跟踪真相的习惯 而不是你的心情 |
| 153 | Now, what do I mean by that? | 这是什么意思? |
| 154 | When I was 100 pounds overweight and I wanted to lose that 100 pounds, | 当我是100磅超重 我想失去那100磅 |
| 155 | I said, you know what? | 我说,你知道吗? |
| 156 | I'm just going to freaking start doing what fit people do. | 我只是要去他妈的开始 做适合的人做什么。 |
| 157 | I'm going to eat the way they do. | 我要吃他们的方式。 |
| 158 | I'm going to work out the way they do. | 我会想办法的 |
| 159 | I'm going to try and even dress the way they do. | 我要尝试,甚至穿他们的方式。 |
| 160 | And I'm going to hope and pray it actually works, right? | 我将希望和祈祷 它实际上工作,对不对? |
| 161 | Because I'm sick of being fat. | 因为我厌倦了肥胖 |
| 162 | But the most important thing I started doing is I started tracking | 但我开始做的最重要的事情是 我开始追踪 |
| 163 | every single day what I ate when I worked out. | 每天我工作时吃的东西 |
| 164 | It's not that within the day I lost 50 pounds between Monday and Tuesday, | 并不是在周一到周二之间我损失了50磅的一天之内 |
| 165 | right? | 对吧? |
| 166 | But I did notice that even if I felt like I overeat or even if I felt like I was slacking | 但我确实注意到,即使我觉得我吃得太饱了,即使我觉得我在偷懒 |
| 167 | or even if I felt like my workout wasn't perfect because I was on a trip, | 即使我觉得我的锻炼不完美 因为我在旅行 |
| 168 | I still consistently tracked and I still saw progress over time. | 我仍然始终如一地跟踪,我仍然看到一段时间以来的进展。 |
| 169 | Now, maybe it wasn't between Monday and Tuesday, | 也许不是在星期一和星期二之间 |
| 170 | but I could see it between Monday and Monday or Monday and two Mondays from now. | 但我可以在周一到周一或周一 以及两个周一之间看到 |
| 171 | And so I saw that the line wasn't like this. | 所以我看到线不是这样的。 |
| 172 | The line was like this. | 线是这样的。 |
| 173 | And over time, I did make a lot of progress. | 随着时间的推移,我确实取得了很大进展。 |
| 174 | And that's when I realized confidence comes from data, not dopamine. | 那时我意识到信心来自数据,而不是多巴胺。 |
| 175 | And over time, what happens is that evidence that you're feeding your brain | 随着时间的推移,发生的事情是 证明你正在喂养你的大脑 |
| 176 | helps override the emotional narratives that you tell yourself. | 帮助超越你对自己讲的情感叙事 |
| 177 | Your brain will follow the evidence. | 你的大脑会跟随证据 |
| 178 | And so tracking things and tracking our progress, | 所以跟踪事物 跟踪我们的进展 |
| 179 | the reason why it keeps people on track is because your brain looks at it | 因为它让人们走上正轨 是因为你的大脑看着它 |
| 180 | and it objectively says, oh, wow, this is evidence. | 客观上说 这是证据 |
| 181 | This is data. | 这是数据。 |
| 182 | This is important. | 这很重要。 |
| 183 | And I'm going to believe it. | 则信之. |
| 184 | Before that, all that's happening is that you feel like even when you're making progress. | 在那之前,所有发生的事情是, 你感觉就像,即使你正在进步。 |
| 185 | Have you ever felt that way before? | 你以前有这种感觉吗? |
| 186 | Have you ever felt like you're making progress, | 你有没有觉得自己进步了 |
| 187 | but you still feel like good about yourself? | 但你还是觉得自己很好? |
| 188 | Lots of people actually feel that way. | 很多人确实有这种感觉。 |
| 189 | And the reason why they feel like is because they don't track their progress | 因为他们没有跟踪自己的进步 |
| 190 | because progress doesn't go like this. | 因为进步不是这样的 |
| 191 | So you remember the days that you feel low, | 所以,你记得你感到低落的日子, |
| 192 | but you don't remember the days that you feel high. | 但你不记得你觉得嗨的日子 |
| 193 | But if you look at the progress and you track, you see all the days that were high. | 但是,如果你看看进展 和跟踪, 你可以看到所有的日子是高。 |
| 194 | And then you're like, oh, you know what? | 然后,你喜欢, 哦,你知道吗? |
| 195 | I actually had five good days this week and only two bad ones. | 其实我这周有五天好,只有两天不好。 |
| 196 | But it's just that our brains love to take the negative and make it bigger than it is. | 但我们的大脑喜欢接受负面反应 让它比它更大 |
| 197 | And so we have to fight that natural tendency by tracking our wins. | 因此,我们必须通过追踪我们的胜利来对抗这种自然趋势。 |
| 198 | Now, here's the thing. | 事情是这样的 |
| 199 | If you're struggling to stay consistent and you're like, I am tracking things, | 如果你一直坚持下去 而我在追踪事情 |
| 200 | but I still don't feel confident and I don't feel like I'm making progress, | 但我还是没有信心 也没有进步的感觉 |
| 201 | then my guess is this. | 那我猜是这个 |
| 202 | You're trying to go too big. | 你试图去太大。 |
| 203 | You're taking too big of a leap. | 你跳得太远了 |
| 204 | The fastest way to build competence is to start with something small, | 建立能力最快的方法就是从小事开始 |
| 205 | so small that you can't lose. | 小到不能输 |
| 206 | OK, great example of this is I had a friend who every single time he started with a new client, | 好吧,很好的例子是 我有一个朋友 他每次开始和一个新客户, |
| 207 | and this is a client who's trying to lose weight. | 这个客户想减肥 |
| 208 | He did not get them to try and eat less the first week. | 他没有让他们尝试 和少吃第一个星期。 |
| 209 | He didn't get them to try and go to the gym the first week. | 他没有让他们尝试 去健身房的第一个星期。 |
| 210 | He didn't even have them measure themselves the first week. | 他甚至没有让他们 测量自己的第一个星期。 |
| 211 | The first seven days of his program, he just asked them to make their bed and take a picture. | 他的节目前七天,他只是要求他们做床并拍照. |
| 212 | Isn't that crazy? | 是不是疯了? |
| 213 | Now, why is that? | 为什么? |
| 214 | Because he wanted to make it something so easy and so small that he knew that by the end of seven days, | 因为他想让事情变得这么简单 这么小 他知道到七天后 |
| 215 | they would feel good about the fact that they had made their bed every day. | 他们每天铺床都会感觉很好 |
| 216 | And so what that did is it created the confidence in that person | 因此,它创造了对那个人的信心 |
| 217 | so that they felt like they could take the next step. | 让他们觉得自己可以迈出下一步 |
| 218 | And people think, oh, it's so small, I'm not going to feel the reward of it. | 人们会想,哦,它是如此之小, 我不会感受到它的回报。 |
| 219 | That's not the case. | 则不然. |
| 220 | That's not how it works. | 这不是它的工作方式。 |
| 221 | You will feel good no matter how small the progress was as long as you get the reward. | 不管进展有多小 你都会感觉很好 只要你得到奖励 |
| 222 | For example, every quarter, every three months in my business, | 例如,每个季度,每三个月在我的业务中, |
| 223 | I decide what are my goals for that quarter, right? | 我决定这个季度的目标是什么,对吧? |
| 224 | And it's like, OK, I have these three or four big goals that I have for the quarter that I'm going to tackle. | 这就像,好吧,我有这三四个大目标, 我有一个季度,我要处理。 |
| 225 | But it's not that I just look at it and say, did I hit it? | 但这不是说,我只是看着它 说,我击中它了吗? |
| 226 | Yes or no. | 是或无. |
| 227 | I take each goal and I break it down as small as possible. | 我每进一个球,我打破 它尽可能小。 |
| 228 | And then every single day I go in and I'm like, what have I accomplished on the way to my goal? | 然后每一天,我走进去,我就像, 我取得了什么成就 在路上我的目标? |
| 229 | If I have 20 steps in each of the goals I have, I get to go in and I get to hit, check, check. | 如果我的每个进球都有20步, 我就可以进去,我就可以打,检查,检查。 |
| 230 | And it's funny because if I look at these goals, it feels very overwhelming | 这很有趣,因为如果我看 这些目标,感觉非常压倒性 |
| 231 | until I realize that almost every day I'm checking off at least one piece of one goal. | 直到我意识到几乎每天都在检查 至少一个进球的一部分 |
| 232 | And that has helped me so much in realizing that if I were to try and tackle | 这帮助我意识到 如果我试图解决 |
| 233 | all four of those goals in one week, I'm going to stumble. | 一周内我就要跌倒了 |
| 234 | I'm probably going to fail, right? | 我可能会失败,对不对? |
| 235 | And then I'm going to be really upset at myself. | 然后,我会 真的很难过自己。 |
| 236 | I'm going to feel bad. | 我会觉得很糟的。 |
| 237 | I'm going to beat myself up. | 将自击之. |
| 238 | I'm going to have less energy to attack the next thing. | 我要少一点能量来攻击下一件事 |
| 239 | But if I break it down into small steps and I just focus on, can I just accomplish one step a day? | 但如果我把它分解成小步骤,而我只专注于, 我一天就能完成一步吗? |
| 240 | Then I realize, like, I feel a sense of momentum and I feel good about myself. | 然后,我意识到,喜欢, 我感觉一种动力感 和感觉好自己。 |
| 241 | I feel like, wow, I'm making progress. | 我觉得,哇,我在进步。 |
| 242 | I'm the kind of person who keeps their word. | 我是那种遵守诺言的人 |
| 243 | I'm the kind of person who achieves their goals versus the other narrative, | 我是那种实现目标的人 而不是其他的叙述 |
| 244 | which is you try to take on something too big and then you're like, | 这就是你试图承担 的东西太大 然后你喜欢, |
| 245 | I'm the kind of person who doesn't achieve their goals. | 我是那种没有达到目的的人. |
| 246 | I don't feel good about myself. | 我对自己不好 |
| 247 | And then you spend all this time beating yourself up | 然后你花这么多时间打自己 |
| 248 | because you set a goal that was too big and is unrealistic. | 因为你设定了一个太大且不现实的目标 |
| 249 | The frame I use is tiny tweaks. | 我用的画框是微小的 |
| 250 | What is one tiny tweak I can make today? | 我今天能做的微软是什么? |
| 251 | And then what's one tiny tweak I can make tomorrow? | 那我明天能做的微软是什么? |
| 252 | And so on and so forth. | 及诸众生. |
| 253 | And so, like, for example, when I'm trying to lose five pounds, I'll be like, oh, gosh, | 所以,比如说,当我试图 减掉5磅,我会像,哦,天哪, |
| 254 | you know what? | 你知道吗? |
| 255 | I had too many bites of that ice cream tonight. | 今晚我吃过太多冰淇淋了 |
| 256 | What am I going to do tomorrow? | 我明天该怎么办? |
| 257 | I'm actually not even going to say that tomorrow I'm going to have zero dessert. | 其实我甚至不会说, 明天我会有零甜点。 |
| 258 | 我明天要吃Ghirardelli巧克力 | |
| 259 | Just one. | 只有一个 |
| 260 | Another example, I have a lot of people that join my team and they're really scared | 另一个例子是,我有很多人 加入我的团队,他们真的害怕 |
| 261 | and they want to be a leader in the company. | 他们想成为公司的领导者 |
| 262 | And so they're like, oh, my gosh, I don't even understand. | 所以,他们就像, 哦,我的天哪, 我什至不明白。 |
| 263 | You told me that we have this full team meetup next year. | 你告诉我,我们有 这个完整的团队明年见面。 |
| 264 | How am I going to get on stage and speak to the team? | 我该怎么上台跟球队说话? |
| 265 | I can't even barely do anything. | 我什至不能勉强做任何事情。 |
| 266 | And I'm like, listen, baby steps, tiny tweaks. | 我就像,听着,婴儿步,微小的微软。 |
| 267 | Here's what we're going to do on the huddle on Monday. | 下面是周一我们该做的 |
| 268 | I want you to just run this portion. | 我希望你能运行这部分。 |
| 269 | It's 60 seconds. | 这是60秒。 |
| 270 | Then on this meeting on Tuesday, I just want you to give a shout out to one person. | 然后,在星期二的这个会议, 我只是想你给一个大喊大叫。 |
| 271 | And then on the next week, I want you to own this portion. | 然后在下周,我要你拥有这个部分。 |
| 272 | It's 120 seconds. | 这是120秒。 |
| 273 | And I want you to also give two shout outs to this person. | 我要你也给这人两个大喊大叫 |
| 274 | And I've used that methodology over time where I take people from first they | 我用过这个方法 随着时间的流逝,我把人从第一。 |
| 275 | couldn't even speak on a meeting to then they're running a piece of the meeting | 连开会的事都说不出来 他们正在开会 |
| 276 | to then they're running half of the meeting to then they're running the whole | 到那时,他们运行 一半的会议,然后他们运行 整个 |
| 277 | meeting. | 会议。 |
| 278 | Then they say well, if you can run a meeting, you can do a presentation to the team | 然后他们说得好 如果你能开个会 你可以给团队做演示 |
| 279 | then they're doing a presentation to their team. | 然后,他们做一个演示 他们的团队。 |
| 280 | And then, all of a sudden, if you can do presentation on your team, | 然后,突然间, 如果你可以做展示 在你的团队, |
| 281 | you can do a presentation to the whole team | 你可以给整个团队做演示 |
| 282 | and they're doing a presentation to the whole team. | 他们正在给整个团队做介绍 |
| 283 | And eventually, they're speaking at an annual event. | 最终,他们在一年一度的活动上发言。 |
| 284 | And I've used this time to time, again, to take people who were terrified of | 我利用这个时间 又一次 带那些害怕 |
| 285 | speaking and turn them into people who are rock stars on stage but it starts | 并把它们变成在舞台上 成为摇滚明星的人 但开始 |
| 286 | with something as simple as I don't say let's go get you on stage I say let's | 用简单的东西,我不说 让我们让你上台,我说让我们 |
| 287 | have you speak for 60 seconds on a meeting on a zoom call but that | 在一个缩放的电话会议上,请您发言60秒 |
| 288 | confidence that they build in doing that that's what gets them eventually to the | 相信他们在这样做时建立信心 让他们最终到达 |
| 289 | stage so you now know confidence is an output not an input you need to track | 阶段, 您现在知道信任是输出而不是输入, 您需要跟踪 |
| 290 | your wins to even create that output and you need to break those tasks down into | 您的胜利甚至创建了输出, 您需要将这些任务细分为 |
| 291 | {\fn黑体\fs22\bord1\shad0\3aHBE\4aH00\fscx67\fscy66\2cHFFFFFF\3cH808080}但我知道你在想什么 {\fn黑体\fs22\bord1\shad0\3aHBE\4aH00\fscx67\fscy66\2cHFFFFFF\3cH808080}如果 | |
| 292 | I'm too scared to even start the baby steps what you need to understand is | 我太害怕了 连婴儿步都不敢开始 你需要明白的是 |
| 293 | that emotion follows motion not the other way around here's what I've | 情感随动而动 而不是相反 在这里,我已经 |
| 294 | learned choosing to tolerate fear and discomfort rather than trying to | 学会选择容忍恐惧和不适 而不是试图 |
| 295 | eliminate it is how I've been able to transform everything that I have done | 消除它,我是如何能够改变 我所做的一切 |
| 296 | everything I've been terrified from from content creation to public speaking to | 从内容创作到公众演讲到 |
| 297 | running a giant company to buying multiple buildings to doing everything I | 经营一家巨型公司 购买多栋楼做我的一切 |
| 298 | {\fn黑体\fs22\bord1\shad0\3aHBE\4aH00\fscx67\fscy66\2cHFFFFFF\3cH808080}不亚于你 {\fn黑体\fs22\bord1\shad0\3aHBE\4aH00\fscx67\fscy66\2cHFFFFFF\3cH808080}我决定 | |
| 299 | was willing to be scared I decided that I was willing to be uncomfortable here's | 我本想害怕的 我决定 我愿意在这里感到不舒服 |
| 300 | the thing fear is a mile wide and an inch deep fear means your brain is | 恐惧是一英里宽 深恐惧意味着你的大脑 |
| 301 | working properly it's not wrong that you feel scared the thing that's stopping | 正常工作,你害怕停止的东西是不会错的 |
| 302 | you is the fact that you feel like there's you must get rid of the fear in | 你只是觉得自己有恐惧感 |
| 303 | order to do the thing but that's not how your brain has been set up I'm sorry to | 但这不是你的大脑被设置的方式 对不起 |
| 304 | tell you your brain is wired for survival not success it will continue to | 告诉你你的大脑是线 生存不成功 它会继续 |
| 305 | feel scared until you do the thing the fear will be the strongest before you | 在你做之前 感觉害怕 恐惧会比你更强烈 |
| 306 | have the breakthrough and then when I tell people's this and what I've learned | 有了突破,然后当我告诉人们 这是,我学到了什么 |
| 307 | is that once you feel it right you step into the situation you're scared of you | 一旦你觉得对了 你就陷入你害怕的境地 |
| 308 | step on stage you're behind a camera you sign the document you can't control the | 站在舞台上,你在摄像机后面 你签了文件,你不能控制 |
| 309 | fear and so whether you want the fear to go away or not it will I promise you | 所以无论你是否希望恐惧消失 我保证 |
| 310 | because that's how we are physiologically wired so the moment you | 因为这就是我们如何 生理线 所以那一刻你 |
| 311 | step on stage here's what's gonna happen say you're terrified of public speaking | 站到台上,你害怕公开演讲 |
| 312 | you're gonna step on that stage this happens to me every time mouth dry palms | 你会踩在舞台上 每次嘴干棕榈时都会这样 |
| 313 | are sweating knees weak whatever it might be right step on stage that's how | 汗流的膝盖微弱 不管它可能是正确的台阶 |
| 314 | I feel then within 15 seconds my heart rate starts to go from like 190 to like | 我觉得在15秒之内 我心跳开始从190度升到190度 |
| 315 | 150 and then within a minute I start to feel like I've spit in my mouth again | 150,然后在一分钟内,我开始感觉 我吐了一次在我的嘴里 |
| 316 | and then within two minutes I don't feel any of it it's not because I try to get | 再过两分钟我就感觉不到了 不是因为我试图得到 |
| 317 | rid of the fear it's because I didn't run away from the situation and I didn't | 消除恐惧,是因为我没有逃过难关 |
| 318 | try to get rid of the fear and so what I learned in doing all these things is | 试着摆脱恐惧 所以我在做这些事情时学到的就是 |
| 319 | that my emotions follow my motion that is how you behave your way into | 我的情绪跟随我的动作,这就是你如何对待你的方式 |
| 320 | confidence and you build up so much evidence that it would be unreasonable | 自信,你积累了那么多证据 证明这是不合理的 |
| 321 | not to be confident so here's how I want this to feel for you I want you to | 不想自信 所以我希望你这样 |
| 322 | visualize what's the thing that you're so scared of that you wish you had | 想象一下你害怕的东西 你希望自己有 |
| 323 | confidence in order to confront it and now I want you to picture it like this | 现在我要你这样想象 |
| 324 | this is how you actually confront fear you say okay here's this thing that I'm | 这就是你如何面对恐惧,你说好 这里的东西,我 |
| 325 | really terrified of right maybe it's a conversation we have with my spouse | 真的很怕对 也许是和我的配偶谈话 |
| 326 | maybe it's I'm gonna tell my parents I'm not going to college maybe it's I'm | 也许我要告诉我的父母 我不会去上大学 也许是我 |
| 327 | going to fire somebody in my company whatever it is instead of trying to | 打算解雇我公司里的人 而不是试图 |
| 328 | meditate or trying to affirm or trying to manifest the fear away you're instead | 冥想或试图确认 或试图表现你的恐惧 |
| 329 | gonna say you know what I'm gonna take the fear I'm gonna put it all in my | 要去说你知道什么 我要拿的恐惧 我要把它放在我的所有 |
| 330 | purse and I'm gonna take it with me to wherever I go and whatever I do so I'm | 钱包和我要把它带去 无论我走到哪里 不管我做什么 |
| 331 | not gonna try and get rid of it in fact I'm going to try and take it with me | 而不是试图摆脱它 事实上,我要试着把它带走 |
| 332 | because I'm still gonna go do the thing I'm gonna have the fear with me it's | 因为我还是要去 做的事情,我要去 有我的恐惧 |
| 333 | just like my little friend in my purse I know it's there I feel it it's like in | 就像我的小朋友在我的钱包 我知道它在那里 我感觉它就像在 |
| 334 | my stomach it's like in my body I don't like it necessarily but I'm gonna take | 我的胃,就像我的身体,我不喜欢它 但我会采取 |
| 335 | it with me I'm gonna do the thing anyways and that is how I approach | 对我来说,我会做的东西 无论如何,这就是我的方式 |
| 336 | everything in life I'm not confident because I don't have fear I'm confident | 生活中的一切我都不自信 因为我没有恐惧 我有信心 |
| 337 | because I do things despite the fear here's the thing building confidence is | 因为尽管害怕,我还是会做一些事情 建立信任就是 |
| 338 | the first step to getting anything you want in life and learning the formula | 第一步 获得任何你想要的 在生活中和学习公式 |
| 339 | for how to build confidence that you just learned this video but maybe now | 如何建立信任 你刚刚学到了这段视频,但也许现在 |
| 340 | you want to take that you want to apply that to some other specific areas of | 您想将它应用到其它特定领域 |
| 341 | your life and if that's the case if you want to learn how to lead yourself | 你的生活,如果是这样的话 如果你想学习如何领导自己 |
| 342 | better if you want to learn how to lead people better you can go ahead and you | 如果你想学会如何更好地领导人们 你可以继续前进和你 |
| 343 | can watch this video on the five skills that you need to do that | 在你需要的五种技能上看这个视频 |
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