【心理成长】如何成为松弛感女人 · 松弛感修炼 中英字幕
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| 0:00 | Growing up, I never knew a relaxed woman. | 长大后,我从没见过一个放松的女人 |
| 0:02 | Successful women, yes. | 是的,成功的女人们。 |
| 0:03 | Productive women, plenty. | 有很多有生产力的女人 |
| 0:05 | But relaxed women, I'm not sure I've ever met a woman like that. | 但放松的女人,我不确定 我见过这样的女人。 |
| 0:08 | This quote went viral on Pinterest | 这首歌在普利西病毒上流传 |
| 0:10 | 和许多年前的Instagram。 | |
| 0:11 | And when something goes insanely viral like that, it's because it's | 当事情变得疯狂的病毒般, 这是因为它 |
| 0:15 | something that so many of us resonate with. | 我们很多人都喜欢的东西 |
| 0:17 | So in this video, I'm going to tell you how to actually | 因此,在这个视频中,我要告诉你 如何实际 |
| 0:20 | start becoming a relaxed woman, because a relaxed woman is not just a woman who takes a nice hot | 开始成为一个放松的女人, 因为放松的女人 不只是一个女人 谁服用一个漂亮的热 |
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| 序号 | 英文 | 中文 |
|---|---|---|
| 1 | Growing up, I never knew a relaxed woman. | 长大后,我从没见过一个放松的女人 |
| 2 | Successful women, yes. | 是的,成功的女人们。 |
| 3 | Productive women, plenty. | 有很多有生产力的女人 |
| 4 | But relaxed women, I'm not sure I've ever met a woman like that. | 但放松的女人,我不确定 我见过这样的女人。 |
| 5 | This quote went viral on Pinterest | 这首歌在普利西病毒上流传 |
| 6 | 和许多年前的Instagram。 | |
| 7 | And when something goes insanely viral like that, it's because it's | 当事情变得疯狂的病毒般, 这是因为它 |
| 8 | something that so many of us resonate with. | 我们很多人都喜欢的东西 |
| 9 | So in this video, I'm going to tell you how to actually | 因此,在这个视频中,我要告诉你 如何实际 |
| 10 | start becoming a relaxed woman, because a relaxed woman is not just a woman who takes a nice hot | 开始成为一个放松的女人, 因为放松的女人 不只是一个女人 谁服用一个漂亮的热 |
| 11 | bath every now and then. | 时时沐浴. |
| 12 | It is a state of being. | 这是一个状态。 |
| 13 | And so I'm going to break everything down why so | 所以我要打破一切 为什么 |
| 14 | many of us are struggling with this, what's holding us back and how to become her. | 我们当中很多人都在挣扎着 是什么阻碍着我们 以及如何成为她 |
| 15 | And I hope that you | 我希望你们 |
| 16 | do stick with me and watch this whole video, because learning how to operate from a relaxed | 跟着我,看这整个视频 因为学会如何操作 |
| 17 | state is the foundation for actually enjoying your life. | 国家是真正享受生活的基础。 |
| 18 | Hey friend, welcome back. | 嘿,朋友,欢迎回来 |
| 19 | If you're new here, | 如果你是新来的 |
| 20 | my name's Jills and I help women step into their power, tap into their divine feminine and become | 我叫吉尔斯,我帮助女人 进入她们的权力, 挖掘她们的神圣女性 |
| 21 | their best self, live their best life. | 他们最好的自我, 过他们最好的生活。 |
| 22 | So if that's something you want to do, you should subscribe | 所以,如果这是你想做的, 你应该订阅 |
| 23 | 腾讯网. Instagram. | |
| 24 | And if you want more from me, if you want to dive deeper into being a relaxed woman, | 如果你想从我这里得到更多 如果你想潜入一个放松的女人, |
| 25 | I have my deep dive feminine energy course or any of my other digital products or courses, | 我有深潜女性能量课程 或其他任何数字产品或课程 |
| 26 | they're all linked down below. | 它们都连接在下面 |
| 27 | So what do I mean when I say being relaxed is a state of being? | 我说放松是一种状态是什么意思? |
| 28 | Most of us think of it like getting to relax, taking a break, you know, something we earn after | 我们大部分人认为这就像放松, 休息,你知道的,我们挣的东西之后 |
| 29 | a hard day or a long week, or we operate from stress and anxiety all year. | 或者我们全年都在紧张和焦虑中工作 |
| 30 | And then we book | 然后我们订书 |
| 31 | a five day vacation in the Bahamas so that we can relax and recover. | 在巴哈马放假五天,这样我们才能放松和康复。 |
| 32 | That is the wrong approach. | 这样做是错误的。 |
| 33 | That's not being a relaxed woman. | 这不是一个放松的女人。 |
| 34 | That's being a stressed woman who occasionally takes breaks. | 那是个压力大的女人 偶尔会休息 |
| 35 | And let's be real, even when you give yourself those breaks, you're probably still stressing | 老实说,即使你给自己这些休息, 你可能仍然在强调 |
| 36 | about something or feeling anxious for some reason. | 或因为某种原因感到焦虑 |
| 37 | But a truly relaxed woman, on the other hand, | 但另一方面 一个真正放松的女人 |
| 38 | is where relaxed is her baseline. | 她的基线是放松的 |
| 39 | It's the state that she operates from the majority of the time. | 她从大部分时间开始运作 |
| 40 | She's relaxed while she works. | 她工作的时候放松了 |
| 41 | She's relaxed while she's tidying up her bedroom. | 她整理卧室时很放松 |
| 42 | She's relaxed | 她很轻松 |
| 43 | while she's driving to her appointment. | 她开车去约会的时候 |
| 44 | She's relaxed while she watches a movie. | 她看电影的时候很放松 |
| 45 | She's relaxed | 她很轻松 |
| 46 | while she's going about life. | 在她继续生活的时候 |
| 47 | And that relaxed state lives inside her nervous system. | 放松状态就生活在她的神经系统里 |
| 48 | That's | 这是 |
| 49 | what we want to cultivate a relaxed way of being, not just a state that we try to escape to every | 我们想培养一种放松的生活方式, 不仅仅是我们试图逃到每一个国家 |
| 50 | now and then. | 时时. |
| 51 | Okay, so in this video, we're going to go over why you're not able to live in this | 好吧,所以在这个视频中,我们要去 重温为什么你不能生活在这 |
| 52 | relaxed state, like the most common reasons, because there's not just one thing and it can | 放松状态,像最常见的原因, 因为不只是一件事,它可以 |
| 53 | be different for different people and what needs to shift and what we need to do to start becoming | 对不同的人不同 需要改变什么 我们需要做什么才能开始 |
| 54 | that relaxed woman. | 那个放松的女人 |
| 55 | And before I get into it, something that I've always loved is making | 之前,我一直爱的东西 是制作 |
| 56 | affirmation tracks and subliminals. | 肯定的轨道和潜意识。 |
| 57 | I absolutely feel a difference when I listen to them. | 当我听他们说话时,我绝对觉得有区别。 |
| 58 | And I | 还有我 |
| 59 | actually made one specifically for this concept of being a relaxed woman and being in your relaxed | 其实是专门为这个概念做的 一个放松的女人 和你放松 |
| 60 | feminine energy. | 女性的能量。 。 。 |
| 61 | And so I thought I'd share the one that I made with you just in case you want it. | 所以我想跟你分享我制作的 以防万一 |
| 62 | It's linked in the description. | 其联系在描述中. |
| 63 | It's free. | 自由无碍. |
| 64 | You can grab it if you want and listen to it as many | 你想听的话,可以随便听 |
| 65 | times as you want. | 随时随地 |
| 66 | And I hope it helps you. | 我希望这能帮你 |
| 67 | So let's get into the why. | 所以,让我们进入为什么。 |
| 68 | You have to understand | 你必须明白 |
| 69 | why this is happening and what's holding you back or else you're never going to get anywhere. | 为什么发生这一切 是什么让你退缩 否则你永远走投无路 |
| 70 | So | 这么说 |
| 71 | and it's actually really simple. | 这其实很简单。 |
| 72 | When you can't relax, that means that your body and your | 当你不能放松, 这意味着你的身体和你的 |
| 73 | subconscious mind are prioritizing something else over relaxation. | 潜意识的头脑正在把其他事情放在优先位置 而不是放松 |
| 74 | Let me say that again, | 让我再说一遍, |
| 75 | because that is a very important part of the video. | 因为那是视频中很重要的部分 |
| 76 | Okay. | 摆 |
| 77 | No matter how much you want to relax, | 无论你有多想放松 |
| 78 | your body has decided that something else matters more right now. | 你的身体已经决定了,其他的事情 现在更重要。 |
| 79 | So no matter how much time you | 所以不管你有多少时间 |
| 80 | give yourself, no matter how much free time you have, no matter how much you tell yourself to | 不管你有多少空闲时间 也不管你告诉自己多少 |
| 81 | out and no matter how many candles you light and how many baths you take, your body is prioritizing | 无论你点了多少蜡烛 洗了多少个澡 你的身体都是优先的 |
| 82 | for something else. | 为了别的东西 |
| 83 | So the question is, is what is it prioritizing? | 问题是,它是什么优先? |
| 84 | Because relaxation should be | 因为放松应该是 |
| 85 | our baseline state as human beings. | 我们的基线状态作为人类。 |
| 86 | So what is it prioritizing? | 那么,它是什么优先? |
| 87 | This is different for different | 这不一样 |
| 88 | people, but let me walk you through the most common roots of this problem. | 但让我告诉你这个问题的最常见根源 |
| 89 | And you're probably going | 你可能会去 |
| 90 | to recognize yourself in one or two of them. | 承认自己在其中一两个。 |
| 91 | One, your body is prioritizing safety over relaxation. | 第一,你的身体是优先 安全而不是放松。 |
| 92 | Your nervous system isn't here to keep you happy and relax. | 你的神经系统不是来让你开心放松的 |
| 93 | That's not its job. | 这不是它的工作。 |
| 94 | Its job is to keep | 它的工作是保持 |
| 95 | you alive and to do that job. | 你活着,做那个工作。 |
| 96 | Your nervous system is constantly scanning for threats. | 你的神经系统在不断地扫描威胁 |
| 97 | And when it | 当它 |
| 98 | anticipates any sort of danger, it turns on the stress response in your body. | 预料到任何危险 它会触发你体内的压力反应 |
| 99 | That is what it is | 就是这样 |
| 100 | supposed to do. | 应该的 |
| 101 | But as you probably know, sometimes our nervous systems can get a little finicky | 但如你所知 有时我们的神经系统会有点紧张 |
| 102 | and a little extra sensitive and reactive, especially if we experienced a lot of stress | 和一些额外的敏感和反应, 特别是如果我们经历了很多压力 |
| 103 | or instability earlier in our life. | 或者我们生命中的不稳定 |
| 104 | And because our nervous system learns to be more reactive, | 因为我们的神经系统学会了反应性更强的 |
| 105 | it can start turning on that threat response when it's not even needed. | 它可以在不需要的时候 启动威胁反应 |
| 106 | It'll start anticipating danger even when there's none there. | 它会开始预测危险 即使那里没有。 |
| 107 | And when your nervous system senses | 当你的神经系统感觉到 |
| 108 | the threat of danger, that will always, always take priority over relaxation. | 危险的威胁,这将永远,总是优先于放松。 |
| 109 | Always. | 永远 |
| 110 | You get | 你来 |
| 111 | an email from your boss and the tone is a little weird. | 你老板发的邮件 语气有点怪 |
| 112 | Uh oh, I might be in trouble. | 我可能会有麻烦 |
| 113 | Danger. | 危险 |
| 114 | You | 你们 |
| 115 | get a bill in the mail and it's a little higher than you thought it would be. | 在邮件里买张账单 比你想象的要高一点 |
| 116 | Uh oh, I'm not safe. | 嗯,哦,我不安全。 |
| 117 | My finances keep falling apart. | 我的财源不断瓦解 |
| 118 | What if this keeps happening? | 如果这种情况继续发生怎么办? |
| 119 | Danger. | 危险 |
| 120 | Even if you're sitting on a | 即使你坐在一个 |
| 121 | beach in the Bahamas and you know that you should feel totally relaxed right now and you paid a lot | 巴哈马的海滩,你知道 你应该感觉完全放松 现在,你付出了很多 |
| 122 | of money to feel relaxed right now, but instead your mind starts spinning about what's waiting | 有钱可以放轻松 但你却开始对等待着的东西心动 |
| 123 | for you when you get home or if you remembered to pay that bill or whether something bad is happening | 等你回家 或者你记得付帐单 或者是不是出了什么坏事 |
| 124 | while you're away. | 在你离开的时候 |
| 125 | Danger. | 危险 |
| 126 | None of these are actual dangerous situations, but to a reactive | 这些都不是真正的危险情况,而是反应性的 |
| 127 | nervous system, they feel like it or they feel like they could be. | 神经系统,他们有感觉 或他们觉得自己可以。 |
| 128 | So it stays on alert. | 保持警戒状态 |
| 129 | And when | 什么时候 |
| 130 | you try to relax, your nervous system literally won't let you. | 你尽量放松, 你的神经系统 字面上不会让你。 |
| 131 | Because to your body, staying alert | 因为对你的身体,保持警觉 |
| 132 | is more important than being relaxed. | 这比放松更重要 |
| 133 | What's the point of being relaxed if you're about to get hurt? | 欲伤人,何以放松? |
| 134 | Your body would rather have you anxious and safe than relaxed and caught off guard. | 你的身体宁可焦虑安全 也不愿放松和放松 |
| 135 | Number two, | 二号 |
| 136 | your body is prioritizing feeling worthy over feeling relaxed. | 你的身体是优先 感觉值得 而不是感觉放松。 |
| 137 | Almost all of us learn growing | 我们几乎都学会了成长 |
| 138 | up to some extent that our worthiness as a person is tied to what we do and what we produce, | 在某种程度上,我们作为一个人的价值 与我们做什么和生产, |
| 139 | that we have to be doing something, achieving something, contributing something to be a worthy | 我们必须有所作为 有所成就 有所贡献 |
| 140 | individual. | 个人。 |
| 141 | And if we're not worthy, then who are we? | 如果我们不值得,那我们是谁? |
| 142 | Am I still going to be loved? | 我还会被爱吗? |
| 143 | Am I still going | 我还要去吗? |
| 144 | to be safe? | 安全吗? |
| 145 | Am I still going to be important? | 我还会重要吗? |
| 146 | You know, when you were a kid, if you felt like when | 你知道,当你还是个孩子, 如果你感觉像什么时候 |
| 147 | you got straight A's, your parents loved you more, then you probably started to embody more of this | 你得到了A,你的父母更爱你, 然后你可能开始 体现更多的这个 |
| 148 | belief. | 相信这些 |
| 149 | And if we don't unlearn that belief, that your worthiness and your value as a person is | 如果我们不放弃这种信念 你的价值和作为人的价值 |
| 150 | tied to your output and your productivity, it'll keep pushing you to always be on, | 与你的输出和生产力挂钩, 它会一直推动你永远在, |
| 151 | always be doing something, perfectionism tendencies, never resting, never relaxing. | 总是做一些事情, 完美主义倾向, 永不休息,永不放松。 |
| 152 | Because feeling unworthy is an awful feeling, and we often correlate it with feeling unloved, | 因为感觉不值得 是一种可怕的感觉, 我们经常把它与 感觉不爱, |
| 153 | unwanted, and replaceable. | 不需要,而且可以替换。 |
| 154 | So your body decides proving our worth is the priority. | 所以,你的身体决定 证明我们的价值是优先。 |
| 155 | Producing is | 生产是 |
| 156 | the priority. | 优先级。 |
| 157 | Doing is the priority. | 工作是当务之急。 |
| 158 | Relaxation? | 放松点? |
| 159 | That can happen another time. | 以后再说吧 |
| 160 | I don't want to be | 我不想这样 |
| 161 | and so you stay on all day. | 所以你要整天呆在这 |
| 162 | Even when you're cooking dinner, you're thinking about tomorrow's | 即使你做饭,你也会想到明天 |
| 163 | to do list. | 要列出列表。 |
| 164 | Or even when you're with your husband, you're calculating what needs to get done. | 乃至与夫共行时,亦在计算所须之事. |
| 165 | Even | 连 |
| 166 | when you're driving somewhere, you're mentally drafting emails. | 当你开车的地方, 你的精神起草电子邮件。 |
| 167 | You can't be relaxed because | 你不能放松 因为... |
| 168 | your body is always pushing you towards that next thing to do to stay worthy and stay valuable. | 你的身体总是把你推向下一个方向 以保持价值和价值 |
| 169 | So | 这么说 |
| 170 | that state of relaxation, it never comes because there is always more that you can be doing. | 放松的状态,它永远不会出现 因为你总是可以做的更多。 |
| 171 | And | 还有 |
| 172 | so this belief keeps you in a trap and you will never be able to be a relaxed woman because your | 所以这种信念让你陷入陷阱 你永远无法成为一个放松的女人 因为你 |
| 173 | body is prioritizing feeling worthy, feeling loved, feeling important, feeling valuable over | 身体是优先 感觉值得, 感觉被爱, 感觉重要, 感觉价值超过 |
| 174 | feeling relaxed. | 感觉放松。 |
| 175 | It doesn't think that the two can go together. | 不以为二人能同去. |
| 176 | Three, your body is prioritizing | 三,你的身体是优先的 |
| 177 | control over relaxation. | 控制着放松 |
| 178 | If your body thinks that if you don't stay in control mode, aka managing | 如果你的身体认为 如果你不保持控制模式,Aka管理 |
| 179 | every detail and staying one step ahead of everything, that life might spiral out of control | 每一个细节 都比一切提前一步 生命可能会失控 |
| 180 | and that everything's going to fall apart. | 而一切将瓦解。 |
| 181 | Well, then why would your body relax? | 那为什么你的身体会放松? |
| 182 | Your body is | 你的身体是 |
| 183 | prioritizing being in control and being on top of everything instead of relaxation. | 重在掌控一切 而不是放松 |
| 184 | But when you | 但当你 |
| 185 | look at a relaxed woman, I want you to think about it. | 看看一个放松的女人 我要你考虑一下 |
| 186 | What's actually different about her. | 她有什么不同吗? |
| 187 | It's not | 这不是 |
| 188 | just that she wakes up a little early every day to take it slow in the morning. | 只是她每天醒来有点早 以慢慢地在早晨。 |
| 189 | What's really | 这到底是怎么回事? |
| 190 | different about a relaxed woman. | 和放松的女人不一样 |
| 191 | The core of it is that she trusts life. | 关键是她相信生命 |
| 192 | She trusts that things | 她相信这些 |
| 193 | are going to work out. | 一定会成功的 |
| 194 | She trusts herself to handle whatever comes. | 她相信自己能处理所有事情 |
| 195 | She trusts that even if | 她相信,即使 |
| 196 | be okay. | 没事的。 |
| 197 | You can only drop your grip on control if you have trust. | 只有信任你才能放弃控制 |
| 198 | Think about it. | 考虑一下 |
| 199 | It's like when | 就像什么时候 |
| 200 | you're in a relationship with a man who you do not trust. | 你和一个你不信任的人有关系 |
| 201 | You don't trust that they're going to do | 你不相信他们会这么做 |
| 202 | what they say. | 他们说什么。 |
| 203 | You don't trust that they're going to be able to handle what comes. | 你不相信他们能应付未来 |
| 204 | What happens? | 发生了什么事? |
| 205 | You start to become controlling. | 你开始变得控制。 |
| 206 | Same with life. | 与生俱来. |
| 207 | If you don't trust life, you'll step into control | 如果你不相信生活,你会步入控制 |
| 208 | mode. | 模式。 |
| 209 | And when control becomes the priority, relaxation never happens. | 当控制成为优先事项时 放松永远不会发生 |
| 210 | So these are the three | 这就是三个 |
| 211 | big deeper reasons that I found that will block you from ever being a relaxed woman. | 我发现的更深层的原因 将阻止你成为一个放松的女人 |
| 212 | Either when | 无论是何时 |
| 213 | she doesn't trust that she's safe, so she stays on alert. | 她不相信她的安全 所以她保持警觉 |
| 214 | She doesn't trust that she's worthy | 她不相信她值得这样 |
| 215 | without producing, so she's constantly in doing mode. | 不生产,所以她经常做模式。 |
| 216 | Even if not physically, it's happening | 就算不是身体上的 也会发生 |
| 217 | mentally. | 精神上 精神上 精神上 精神上 |
| 218 | Or she doesn't trust life and the flow of life, so she controls everything. | 或者她不相信生命和生命的流动,所以她控制了一切. |
| 219 | And it doesn't | 也不会 |
| 220 | matter how much free time you have. | 无论你有多少空闲时间 |
| 221 | If you struggle with one of these or all of these, | 如果你与其中之一或所有这些斗争, |
| 222 | your baseline state won't be relaxed. | 你的基线状态不会放松 |
| 223 | You know, about two or three years ago, I started outsourcing | 大约两三年前 我开始外包 |
| 224 | a bit more. | 再来一点 |
| 225 | And I started buying back my time. | 我开始买回我的时间。 |
| 226 | And when I did, when I got more of my time back, | 当我做了, 当我有更多的时间回来, |
| 227 | and I had so much more time to chill, it didn't automatically make me more chill and relaxed. | 我有更多的时间去冷静, 这并不自动地让我更加冷静和放松。 |
| 228 | Because no matter how much time you have, until that underlying thing gets addressed, | 因为不管你有多少时间, 直到那个基本的东西得到解决, |
| 229 | your body will put relaxation on the back burner. | 你的身体会让背部燃烧器放松 |
| 230 | It is simply prioritizing for something else. | 它只是把其他事情放在优先地位。 |
| 231 | Which none of these things are overnight quick fixes. | 这些东西没有一个是一夜之间快速解决的。 |
| 232 | You know, healing your nervous system, | 你知道,治愈你的神经系统, |
| 233 | untangling your worth from your productivity, learning to trust life and not control everything. | 把价值从生产力中剥离出来 学会相信生活而不是控制一切 |
| 234 | I realize it's not going to be an overnight fix for you, but once you get honest with yourself | 我知道这不会成为你过夜的修补 一旦你对自己说实话 |
| 235 | and figure out and identify what your body is prioritizing for instead, you can start | 找出你身体的轻重缓急,你可以开始 |
| 236 | actively working on that rather than just trying to like book yourself a massage here and then | 而不是想在这里给自己订按摩 |
| 237 | and hope that makes you feel better. | 希望那会让你感觉好点 |
| 238 | I just want you to think about that. | 我只是想让你考虑一下 |
| 239 | Relaxation is actually your natural state. | 放松其实是你的自然状态。 |
| 240 | It just gets blocked when your body decides that | 它只是被封锁 当你的身体决定 |
| 241 | needs your attention more. | 需要你更多的关注。 |
| 242 | Now, those are the deeper blocks, but beyond those, there's a lot | 现在,这些是更深的块, 但除了那些,有很多 |
| 243 | more that goes into being a relaxed woman and things that you can kind of start doing today. | 更适合做一个放松的女人 以及你今天可以开始做的事 |
| 244 | So let's get into those. | 所以,让我们进入这些。 |
| 245 | The first thing is to slow down and stop the rush to be a relaxed woman. | 第一件事是减慢速度,阻止冲动成为放松的女人. |
| 246 | It comes from the right mindset. | 它来自正确的心态。 |
| 247 | Yes, that's very important. | 是的,这很重要。 |
| 248 | But what I think a lot of people | 但我认为很多人 |
| 249 | underestimate and don't realize is that the mind is constantly taking cues from the body. | 低估了,而且没有意识到, 心灵不断地从身体中吸取暗示。 |
| 250 | You have to understand here, your nervous system is constantly scanning two things at all times. | 你得明白 你的神经系统 一直在扫描两件事 |
| 251 | What's happening outside in your environment, right? | 外面的环境怎么了? |
| 252 | And also what's happening inside your | 还有发生在你体内的事 |
| 253 | body. | 躯体。 |
| 254 | And it uses your body as one of the most reliable signals as what's actually going on. | 它利用你的身体 作为最可靠的信号之一 作为实际发生的事情。 |
| 255 | If your body is moving calmly, your muscles are relaxed. | 如果你的身体在平静地移动, 你的肌肉会放松。 |
| 256 | Your nervous system assumes that | 你的神经系统假设 |
| 257 | everything is probably fine. | 一切都会好起来的 |
| 258 | If your body is rushing and tense, quick stressful movements, | 如果你的身体急躁 紧张 紧张的动作 |
| 259 | breathing really shallow breaths, even if it doesn't see that there's anything in your | 呼吸真的很浅 即使它看不到你身上有什么 |
| 260 | environment that's dangerous, the nervous system figures out something must be wrong, | 神经系统发现一定有问题 |
| 261 | even if nothing actually is. | 即使实际上没什么 |
| 262 | Even if your nervous system is scanning the environment around you and | 即使你的神经系统正在扫描你周围的环境 |
| 263 | doesn't notice anything wrong, it doesn't pick up on any threats. | 没有注意到任何错误, 它不会发现任何威胁。 |
| 264 | If your body is tense like that, | 如果你的身体这么紧张 |
| 265 | it'll assume that I must be missing something in the environment because why else is the body | 它会假设我一定是 缺少的东西在环境中 因为为什么其他是尸体 |
| 266 | reacting like this? | 像这样的反应? |
| 267 | Your body is the most valuable data your nervous system uses to determine its | 你的身体是你神经系统用来 确定它的最有价值的数据 |
| 268 | state. | 状态。 |
| 269 | So my point is that that physical body tension, that frantic energy, the clenched muscles, | 所以我要说的是 身体的张力 疯狂的能量 坚韧的肌肉 |
| 270 | the hurrying, that will keep your nervous system on alert mode, on stress mode. | 使你的神经系统处于警戒状态 压力状态 |
| 271 | So if you want to | 如果你愿意的话 |
| 272 | feel like a more relaxed woman, like at the nervous system level, at the soul level, start with the | 感觉像个更放松的女人 就像在神经系统层面 在灵魂层面 |
| 273 | body. | 躯体。 |
| 274 | This is the easiest thing to do because it is purely physical. | 这是最容易做的,因为它纯粹是物理的。 |
| 275 | And once you start really | 一旦你真正开始 |
| 276 | paying attention, you'll notice that most of us are tense and rushing around for no reason. | 注意,你会注意到,我们大多数 紧张和匆忙无故。 |
| 277 | We're | 我们是 |
| 278 | eating standing up. | 吃饭站起来。 |
| 279 | We're replying to work emails with our jaws completely clenched. | 我们正用下巴来回答邮件的问题 |
| 280 | We're driving | 我们在开车 |
| 281 | with our shoulders all tight. | 我们的肩膀很紧 |
| 282 | None of that is required. | 这一切都不需要。 |
| 283 | And our nervous system is picking that | 我们的神经系统正在选择 |
| 284 | up. | 起来 |
| 285 | It's reading it and going, oh my gosh, I need to prioritize for safety because something must | 它正在读它,然后去, 哦,我的天哪, 我需要优先的安全,因为一定的东西 |
| 286 | be happening. | 正在发生。 |
| 287 | Relaxation? | 放松点? |
| 288 | No, I'm not going to let that happen right now. | 不,我不会让 发生现在。 |
| 289 | If you ever look at a | 如果你曾经看一个 |
| 290 | relaxed woman, you'll see this in how she moves. | 放松的女人,你会看到这个 在她的动作。 |
| 291 | Her muscles are just a little bit more relaxed. | 她的肌肉只是有点放松。 |
| 292 | She's looser. | 她比较松 |
| 293 | You'll see her hips flow a little bit more when she walks. | 你会看到她的臀部 在她走的时候会流得更深一些 |
| 294 | She's not rushing from | 她不急着离开 |
| 295 | one thing to the next. | 还有一件事 |
| 296 | Her body is relaxed and you can feel this in her aura too. | 她的身体放松了 你可以在她的气息里感觉到这一点 |
| 297 | So start with the | 所以,从 |
| 298 | body first, relax your muscles, unclench your jaw, relax your shoulders, let your hips move when you | 身体先放松肌肉 下巴伸伸 肩膀放松 臀部动起来 |
| 299 | walk. | 走开 |
| 300 | Stop rushing to and from everything. | 停止匆匆往来一切. |
| 301 | Stop rushing through every single task that you have | 别再匆匆忙忙地完成你的所有任务 |
| 302 | {\fn黑体\fs22\bord1\shad0\3aHBE\4aH00\fscx67\fscy66\2cHFFFFFF\3cH808080}今天来 | |
| 303 | You are not running out of time. | 你没有时间了 |
| 304 | You can relax. | 你可以放松点。 |
| 305 | Next is that a relaxed woman actually | 接下来,一个放松的女人实际上 |
| 306 | builds rest and spaciousness and breaks into her life. | 建立休息和宽敞 并打破她的生活。 |
| 307 | If you're running at 120% capacity every | 如果你以120%的速度运行 |
| 308 | single day, then how do you think your nervous system is going to feel? | 那你觉得你的神经系统会有什么感觉? |
| 309 | Women who are naturally | 自然而然的妇女 |
| 310 | relaxed do not overload their plate. | 放松不要超载他们的盘子。 |
| 311 | They don't overcommit to way too much. | 他们不会过分承诺太多。 |
| 312 | They're not afraid | 他们不怕 |
| 313 | to delegate when they could use the help. | 当他们需要帮助时,可以委托他们。 |
| 314 | And basically they've built room into their life | 基本上他们把房间建在生活中 |
| 315 | for decompression and not just constant productivity. | 为了减压,而不只是持续的生产力。 |
| 316 | Now I'm not a religious person, | 现在我不是一个虔诚的人, |
| 317 | but something that I do really love is that a lot of religions actually have a built-in day of rest. | 但我真正喜欢的是 很多宗教实际上有一个内在的休息日。 |
| 318 | Christians have Sundays as their day of rest and I believe the Jewish religion has Sabbath, | 我相信犹太教有安息日 |
| 319 | which is like Friday night to Saturday night as their day of rest. | 这就像周五晚上到周六晚上 是他们的休息日。 |
| 320 | Different forms of this exist | 存在不同形式 |
| 321 | in different religions and different traditions all over the world. | 在不同的宗教和不同的传统中,世界各地。 |
| 322 | I think there's something | 我觉得有东西 |
| 323 | really wise about that that we've lost. | 我们输了这点,真是明智 |
| 324 | You know, it's not, oh, you can rest once you've done this. | 你知道,这不是,哦,你可以休息 一旦你做了这一点。 |
| 325 | Once you're feeling burnt out, you can rest only once you've done enough. | 一旦你觉得被烧焦了, 你只能在你做的足够的时候休息。 |
| 326 | They built rest | 他们建立了休息 |
| 327 | into the week, into their life. | 进入一周,进入他们的生活。 |
| 328 | It's part of the rhythm of their life. | 这是他们生活节奏的一部分. |
| 329 | It's just how they operate. | 他们就是这么运作的 |
| 330 | And I think that that difference is key. | 我认为这种区别是关键。 |
| 331 | A relaxed woman doesn't just rest to recover. | 放松的女人不会为了恢复而休息 |
| 332 | She rests | 她躺着 |
| 333 | because it's part of who she is. | 因为这是她的一部分。 |
| 334 | It's part of her natural state. | 这是她自然状态的一部分。 |
| 335 | Here's the thing. | 事情是这样的 |
| 336 | Taking breaks does | 休息的时候 |
| 337 | not just all of a sudden create a relaxed life, but they do support it. | 不仅突然创造了轻松的生活, 但他们确实支持它。 |
| 338 | You have to be intentional | 你必须是故意的 |
| 339 | about building a life that has space and rest woven into it, not just something that you escape | 过着有空间和休息的生活 不只是你逃避的东西 |
| 340 | to. | 改为。 |
| 341 | And listen, you can have everything you want in this life, the career, the family, whatever, | 听着,你可以拥有你想要的一切 在这个生活中,事业,家庭,无论什么, |
| 342 | but you can't have all of it operating at 100% all the time. | 但你不能让全部的操作 100%的时间。 |
| 343 | Life doesn't work like that. | 生活不会这样 |
| 344 | There | 那边 |
| 345 | are seasons and you will never be a relaxed woman if you're trying to do all things at max capacity | 你永远也不会是个放松的女人 如果你是想尽最大能力做任何事 |
| 346 | all at once. | 都马上。 |
| 347 | Are you in a career busy season? | 你在事业繁忙的季节吗? |
| 348 | It's okay if your social life is a little bit | 过点社交生活也没关系 |
| 349 | lighter right now. | 现在打火机 |
| 350 | Do you have a young baby? | 你有小孩吗? |
| 351 | Let your fitness be lighter and less intense | 让你的体力更轻,更不强烈 |
| 352 | right now. | 现在 |
| 353 | Building a business? | 做生意吗? |
| 354 | It's okay if some of the home stuff slides sometimes. | 如果有些家用的东西有时候会滑动,那也没关系. |
| 355 | Another thing | 还有一件事 |
| 356 | relaxed women do differently is that they don't catastrophize little things and they let small | 放松的女人做不同的是 她们不会把小事搞大 |
| 357 | things stay small. | 事情还是小的 |
| 358 | Life is going to be annoying sometimes. | 生活有时会很烦人 |
| 359 | You know, the traffic gets bad. | 你知道,交通变得很糟糕。 |
| 360 | The | 那个 |
| 361 | flight gets delayed. | 飞行被推迟。 |
| 362 | Your kid spilled something. | 你的孩子洒了东西。 |
| 363 | Your husband forgot something. | 你丈夫忘了东西 |
| 364 | Let small things | 让小东西 |
| 365 | You will notice this pattern in chronically anxious and stressed women over and over again. | 你会注意到这种模式 长期焦虑和压力 女人反复。 |
| 366 | When something happens in inconvenience, yes, something annoying happens. | 当一些不便的事情发生, 是的,有些烦人的事情发生。 |
| 367 | They spiral and they | 它们会螺旋上升 |
| 368 | flip out and it becomes this huge deal. | 飞起来就成了这个大交易 |
| 369 | So the traffic isn't just a little bit of traffic. | 故交通不单是小交通. |
| 370 | It's | 这是 |
| 371 | ugh, this always happens to me. | 嗯,这总是发生在我身上。 |
| 372 | This is going to ruin my entire day. | 这会毁了我一整天 |
| 373 | Of course today of all days, | 当然,今天所有的日子, |
| 374 | I'm going to be late. | 我要迟到了。 |
| 375 | Yes, it's an inconvenience, but it's not a crisis. | 是的,这是一个不便,但它不是一个危机。 |
| 376 | And when you treat these | 当你治疗这些 |
| 377 | things as a crisis and you react as if it is kind of like a crisis, then again, your nervous system | 事情作为一个危机,你的反应 像它有点像危机, 然后再次,你的神经系统 |
| 378 | picks up on that, picks up on your body cues because that's what it's designed to do. | 捡起来,捡起你的身体提示 因为那是它的设计。 |
| 379 | And it's | 这是 |
| 380 | going to turn on fight or flight mode and keep you in stress mode. | 打开战斗或飞行模式 让你保持紧张状态 |
| 381 | My mother may she rest in peace. | 我的母亲愿她安息。 |
| 382 | She was the most amazing mother and had many amazing qualities, but she did this. | 她是最神奇的母亲,拥有许多惊人的品质,但她做到了这一点. |
| 383 | She would | 她会 |
| 384 | kind of flip out a little over the slightest inconveniences and the slightest stressors. | 有点不方便 也有点压力 |
| 385 | Everything was a big deal. | 一切都是一件大事,你觉得呢? |
| 386 | And watching her live her life like that kind of taught me to do the | 看着她过着她那样的生活 让我学会了 |
| 387 | exact opposite because she was the most stressed woman I knew. | 恰恰相反,她是我认识的最紧张的女人 |
| 388 | To be a relaxed woman, you must | 要成为一个放松的女人,你必须 |
| 389 | trust the flow of life. | 相信生命的流转 |
| 390 | Hiccups that happen in your life can just be hiccups and nothing more. | 你生命中发生的小嗝嗝 可能只是打嗝而已 |
| 391 | Next time an annoying inconvenience happens, like bad traffic or whatever, something that stresses | 下次发生麻烦事时 交通不便什么的 |
| 392 | you out a little bit, but it's not a crisis. | 你出去一点点,但这不是一个危机。 |
| 393 | As much as you want to react and spiral, | 尽管你想反应和螺旋, |
| 394 | accept the annoyance for what it is and stop fighting it. | 接受它是什么的烦恼 并停止战斗。 |
| 395 | The traffic is bad. | 交通不顺. |
| 396 | Okay. | 摆 |
| 397 | The flight is delayed. | 航班推迟了 |
| 398 | Okay. | 摆 |
| 399 | I forgot to pack my favorite dress that I bought just for this | 我忘了收拾我最喜欢的裙子 就为了这个 |
| 400 | vacation. | 度假时 |
| 401 | Okay. | 摆 |
| 402 | If you can't change anything, then what is that stress actually doing for your life? | 如果你什么也改变不了 那压力对你的生活有什么影响? |
| 403 | And it's the fight that creates that spiral, the fight against the stress, the resistance to it. | 而正是这场斗争创造了这种螺旋,与压力作斗争,抵抗压力. |
| 404 | You don't have to like it. | 你不必喜欢它。 |
| 405 | You don't have to be happy about it. | 不须欢喜. |
| 406 | But once you drop the fight, | 但一旦你放弃比赛 |
| 407 | so does the stress. | 压力也是 |
| 408 | And sometimes you can just let small things be small. | 有时候你可以让小事变得小。 |
| 409 | And lastly, there's another aspect of this that hardly ever gets talked about. | 最后,还有另一个方面 几乎没人讨论过。 |
| 410 | So many | 这么多 |
| 411 | women are blocked from living a relaxed life and they get to the point where relaxation | 女人无法过上轻松的生活 她们就到了放松的地步 |
| 412 | isn't even enjoyable anymore because they've become so detached from play and pleasure and | 已经不再享受了 因为他们已经脱离了游戏和乐趣 |
| 413 | their feminine energy. | 他们的女能量。 |
| 414 | Relaxation is a feel good state. | 放松是一种感觉良好的状态。 |
| 415 | It's a pleasure state. | 乐州. |
| 416 | And when you become | 当你变成 |
| 417 | disconnected from fun and pleasure and romanticizing your life, when you struggle | 当你挣扎时 与快乐和快乐脱节 使你的生活变得浪漫 |
| 418 | to access pleasure and feel pleasure, then there will be no relaxation state. | 享受快乐 享受快乐 就不会有放松状态 |
| 419 | And if you've been | 如果你已经 |
| 420 | stuck in your masculine energy for so long and really stuck in doing mode and output mode, | 沉浸在男性的能量中 如此之久 并真正停留在做模式和输出模式, |
| 421 | achieving, producing, optimizing for so long, the part of you that actually feels pleasure | 实现,生产,优化 这么久,你的一部分 真正感到快乐 |
| 422 | can start to go dormant and it's almost like a muscle. | 可以开始沉睡 几乎就像肌肉一样 |
| 423 | It's like you can't even really feel it | 好像你连感觉都感觉不到 |
| 424 | Your hobbies feel like work. | 你的爱好感觉像工作。 |
| 425 | Your meals are just purely functional. | 你的饭是纯粹的功能。 |
| 426 | There's no joy in | 没有欢乐 |
| 427 | getting dressed anymore. | 换衣服了 |
| 428 | Where did the pleasure go? | 快乐去哪儿了? |
| 429 | Where did the pleasure go in your life? | 你生活中的快乐去哪了? |
| 430 | This isn't a relaxation problem. | 这不是一个放松的问题。 |
| 431 | It's a pleasure problem. | 这是一个快乐的问题。 |
| 432 | It's a feminine energy disconnect. | 这是女性能量断裂 |
| 433 | This is one of the biggest signs a woman has lost her connection to her feminine energy. | 这是女性与女性能量失去联系的最大迹象之一。 |
| 434 | Pleasure isn't a part of her life anymore and it isn't easily accessed. | 快乐不再是她生活的一部分 也不容易获得 |
| 435 | And therefore, | 因此, |
| 436 | being a relaxed woman becomes impossible. | 作为一个放松的女人 变得不可能。 |
| 437 | Learning how to turn on and access your | 学习如何打开和访问您的 |
| 438 | feminine energy is learning how to let things feel good again. | 女性的能量正在学习 如何让事情再次好起来。 |
| 439 | And I teach all of this in my | 我教这一切在我的 |
| 440 | deep dive feminine energy course. | 深度潜水女性能量课程。 |
| 441 | It'll transform the way that you live your life and the way that | 它会改变你的生活方式 |
| 442 | you feel, and it'll teach you how to be a magnetic woman again. | 你的感觉, 它会教你如何 再次成为一个磁性女人。 |
| 443 | Reconnecting to my feminine energy | 重新连接到我的女性能量 |
| 444 | quite literally changed my life, my health, my relationships, my nervous system, and helped me | 完全改变了我的生活, 我的健康, 我的关系, 我的神经系统, |
| 445 | become that relaxed woman connected to play and pleasure again. | 成为那个放松的女人 与游戏和快乐再次联系在一起。 |
| 446 | And if that's something you feel | 如果你觉得 |
| 447 | to explore, the link for that is down below. | 以探索,其链接如下。 |
| 448 | Now, like I said, being a relaxed woman is heavily | 现在,就像我说的,做一个放松的女人是巨大的 |
| 449 | tied to the nervous system, which is not surprising, but in this video here, I break down | 和神经系统有关 这并不奇怪 但在这段视频里 我崩溃了 |
| 450 | exactly how to heal your nervous system. | 如何治愈你的神经系统 |
| 451 | And I promise you, this video will make it make sense. | 我向你保证,这段录像会讲得通 |
| 452 | It's such a big, confusing topic, but this video breaks it down in a way that you've | 这是一个如此大,令人困惑的话题, 但这个视频打破了它的方式,你已经 |
| 453 | probably never heard before. | 可能从来没有听说过。 |
| 454 | So I'll see you over there. | 所以,我会看到你在那里。 |
| 455 | Bye. | 再见。 |
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