【自我成长】必须默默从人生中剔除的10件事
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| 时间 | 英文 | 中文 |
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| 0:00 | There's a version of you that is buried under everything that | 有你的一个版本 埋在一切之下 |
| 0:04 | you were taught to tolerate the people pleasing and the | 你学会了容忍人们的欢乐和 |
| 0:08 | overthinking and the perfectionism, all of that. | 过度思考和完美主义 这一切。 |
| 0:12 | And I want you to understand that you're not stuck because | 我想让你明白 你并不是因为... |
| 0:14 | you're lazy or unmotivated or something wrong with you. | 你懒惰或没有动机 或者你有什么不对劲 |
| 0:18 | You're probably stuck because you're carrying so much dead | 你被困住了 可能是因为你带着这么多死人 |
| 0:22 | weight. | 重量。 |
| 0:23 | You have old beliefs, you have old identities, you have old | 你有旧信念,有旧身份,有旧身份 |
| 0:27 | And so this isn't about adding more to your to-do list. | 所以这不是要增加你的待办事宜清单。 |
| 0:31 | This is about removing what is quietly killing your momentum in | 这是关于去除 静静地杀死你的势头 |
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| 序号 | 英文 | 中文 |
|---|---|---|
| 1 | There's a version of you that is buried under everything that | 有你的一个版本 埋在一切之下 |
| 2 | you were taught to tolerate the people pleasing and the | 你学会了容忍人们的欢乐和 |
| 3 | overthinking and the perfectionism, all of that. | 过度思考和完美主义 这一切。 |
| 4 | And I want you to understand that you're not stuck because | 我想让你明白 你并不是因为... |
| 5 | you're lazy or unmotivated or something wrong with you. | 你懒惰或没有动机 或者你有什么不对劲 |
| 6 | You're probably stuck because you're carrying so much dead | 你被困住了 可能是因为你带着这么多死人 |
| 7 | weight. | 重量。 |
| 8 | You have old beliefs, you have old identities, you have old | 你有旧信念,有旧身份,有旧身份 |
| 9 | And so this isn't about adding more to your to-do list. | 所以这不是要增加你的待办事宜清单。 |
| 10 | This is about removing what is quietly killing your momentum in | 这是关于去除 静静地杀死你的势头 |
| 11 | life. | 活着 |
| 12 | And so let's talk about these things that you need to | 让我们来谈谈你需要的东西 |
| 13 | eliminate to finally feel free. | 消除最终感觉自由。 |
| 14 | And I'm going to just hammer home through these quickly. | 我将很快地用锤子敲回家。 |
| 15 | Okay. | 摆 |
| 16 | The first one is this weird loyalty that you feel to a | 第一个是你对一个奇怪的忠诚 |
| 17 | version of you that no longer exists. | 您的版本已经不存在。 |
| 18 | Like we all carry ghosts, old identities, old stories of | 就像我们都带着鬼魂 旧身份 旧故事 |
| 19 | But I want you to understand that staying loyal to an | 但我希望你明白 忠于一个 |
| 20 | outdated version of yourself is the fastest way to suffocate | 自己过时的版本是最快的窒息方式 |
| 21 | your own growth. | 你自己的成长。 |
| 22 | Your nervous system may still be wired for survival, not | 你的神经系统可能仍然被窃听 以生存,而不是 |
| 23 | expansion. | 扩张。 |
| 24 | And that's something that happened during childhood. | 这也是在童年时期发生的。 |
| 25 | But just because you had to play small or be quiet or not be | 但是,只是因为你不得不玩 小或安静与否 |
| 26 | seen back then doesn't mean that you still do now. | 那时看到的并不代表你现在仍然如此 |
| 27 | You have to understand that you're allowed to evolve. | 你必须明白 你被允许进化。 |
| 28 | You need to give yourself permission to evolve. | 你需要允许自己进化 |
| 29 | You're allowed to be unrecognizable to yourself and | 你被允许无法辨认自己和 |
| 30 | to the people who love you and your subconscious is wired to | 给那些爱你和你的潜意识的人 |
| 31 | repeat, not to reinvent. | 重复,不要重塑。 |
| 32 | So you're going to continue to repeat old versions of yourself | 所以你要继续重复你以前的版本 |
| 33 | over and over and over again. | 一次又一次 |
| 34 | If you do not step in the driver's seat and be intentional | 如果你不踩到驾驶座上 故意的 |
| 35 | about doing something different. | 关于做不同的事情。 |
| 36 | If your past is writing your present moment, then your | 如果你的过去是写你现在的时刻,那么你 |
| 37 | already predictable and dead. | 已经可以预测和死亡。 |
| 38 | Letting go isn't failure. | 放手不是失败 |
| 39 | It's the funeral of who you used to be that finally frees you. | 你曾经的葬礼终于让你自由了 |
| 40 | The next level of your life requires a new version of you, | 下一关你的生活需要一个新的版本, |
| 41 | not a recycled version of you who survived the last season | 不是你上季幸存下来的循环版 |
| 42 | that you went through. | 你经历了。 |
| 43 | If a snake does not shed its skin, it will suffocate and you | 如果蛇不脱皮,它会窒息,你 |
| 44 | will suffocate all of your dreams. | 会扼杀你所有的梦想 |
| 45 | If you do not let old parts of you die off. | 如果你不让你的老部分死去。 |
| 46 | So that's the first thing. | 所以这是第一件事。 |
| 47 | The second thing is this habit of self-sabotage right before | 第二件事是这种自我破坏的习惯 |
| 48 | you break through. | 你闯进来了 |
| 49 | Have you ever noticed that right when things are about to start | 你是否注意到当事情即将开始的时候 |
| 50 | working, you self-sabotage or you numb out or you disappear or | 工作,自我破坏或麻木或消失 |
| 51 | you burn out in some sort of way. | 你以某种方式烧掉了。 |
| 52 | That's not a coincidence. | 这不是巧合。 |
| 53 | It's conditioning. | 这是条件。 |
| 54 | Your nervous system may not feel safe with success. | 你的神经系统可能不觉得安全 |
| 55 | So you create chaos because chaos might feel familiar to you | 所以你制造混乱 因为混乱可能让你觉得熟悉 |
| 56 | or because burning it all down will keep you exactly where you | 或者因为烧掉会把你留在原地 |
| 57 | are. | 对 |
| 58 | Self-sabotage is often self-protection from a life that's | 自我破坏往往是自我保护 |
| 59 | bigger than you're used to or more than you're receiving in | 比你习惯的还要大 也比你接受的还要大 |
| 60 | your current life once you're used to receiving or more than | 一旦你习惯接受或超过 |
| 61 | you think that you actually deserve. | 你以为你该得到的 |
| 62 | The closer that you get to a breakthrough, the louder that | 你越接近突破 越大声 |
| 63 | your inner critic is going to get. | 你的内在评论家会得到的 |
| 64 | You're not afraid to fail. | 你不怕失败 |
| 65 | You're afraid of finally not failing, which is something that | 你害怕最终没有失败,这是一件 |
| 66 | you've never been comfortable with. | 你从来没有感到舒服过。 |
| 67 | Even if you're miserable, you can be comfortable in misery and | 即使你很痛苦 你也可以在痛苦中自在 |
| 68 | less comfortable in the unknown. | 不太舒服的未知情况。 |
| 69 | And so you would rather just repeat the misery than to step | 所以,你宁愿重复痛苦 而不是踩踏 |
| 70 | off into the unknown and create something greater than you ever | 并创造出比你更伟大的东西 |
| 71 | have. | 有过 |
| 72 | So that's number two. | 故为第二. |
| 73 | Number three is toxic people who drain your energy. | 第三个是消耗你能量的毒虫 |
| 74 | This one is quick and super easy. | 这一个是快速和超级容易的。 |
| 75 | You cannot heal in the same environment that hurts you. | 你不能在伤害你的同样环境中痊愈。 |
| 76 | No matter how strong your boundaries are, the wrong people | 不管你的界限有多强 错的人 |
| 77 | will always find a way to drain you. | 永远会想办法把你耗尽 |
| 78 | You get what you tolerate. | 你得到你容忍的东西。 |
| 79 | You have to ask yourself what you're willing to tolerate for | 你要问自己你愿意容忍什么 |
| 80 | this next chapter in your life. | 这是你人生的下一章 |
| 81 | You teach people how to speak to you. | 你教人如何与你说话. |
| 82 | You either need to teach people how to speak to you differently, | 你要么要教别人怎么跟你说话 |
| 83 | or you need to let go of the people who drain your energy. | 或者你需要让那些消耗你精力的人离开 |
| 84 | So that's number three. | 故为第三. |
| 85 | Number four is this addiction that you have to the approval of | 第四,你必须接受这种毒瘾 |
| 86 | others. | 别人。 |
| 87 | Most people don't live. | 多数人不活. |
| 88 | They perform. | 他们表演。 |
| 89 | They're like a jester that's dancing for a king. | 他们就像为国王跳舞的小丑 |
| 90 | And when you're addicted to the approval of other people, | 当你沉迷于别人的认可 |
| 91 | rejection doesn't just sting like it actually starts to feel | 拒绝不只是刺痛 就像它真正开始的感觉 |
| 92 | like an internal death because your identity is outsourced. | 就像内部死亡 因为你的身份被外包了 |
| 93 | And so you have been looking for other people to tell you that | 所以你一直在找别人告诉你 |
| 94 | you're good enough your entire life versus actually just slowing | 你这辈子都做得够好 反而只是减速 |
| 95 | down and realizing that you already are good enough. | 并意识到你已经足够好。 |
| 96 | You can't become who you're meant to be if you're constantly | 你不能成为你命中注定的人 如果你一直这样 |
| 97 | just playing a character for other people. | 只是给别人演个角色 |
| 98 | And if you're not careful, | 如果你不小心的话 |
| 99 | your dreams will slowly morph into whatever gets you the most | 你的梦想会慢慢化为什么 |
| 100 | praise from other people. | 赞美他人, |
| 101 | People pleasing is self abandonment. | 人们喜欢的是自我抛弃。 |
| 102 | Like let that one sink in for a minute. | 就像让那一个沉入一分钟。 |
| 103 | If you're a people pleaser, | 如果你是一个人民取悦者, |
| 104 | your self abandoning is what you're actually doing. | 自我抛弃才是你真正要做的 |
| 105 | Have you ever thought about that way? | 你有想过那样吗? |
| 106 | You have to be authentic. | 你必须是真实的。 |
| 107 | You have to figure out who you truly are. | 你得弄清楚你是谁 |
| 108 | Your authenticity will cost you the approval of other people. | 你的真实性需要别人的认可 |
| 109 | You need to be able to stomach that. | 你需要能够 胃这个。 |
| 110 | That's number four. | 即第四义. |
| 111 | Number five, you need to have everything figured out. | 五号,你需要把一切都弄清楚。 |
| 112 | You got to get rid of that. | 你得摆脱它。 |
| 113 | This obsession that you have with certainty is really just a | 你对这个迷恋的确定性 |
| 114 | trauma response. | 创伤反应 |
| 115 | It's control that's disguised as, Hey, I'm being responsible. | 控制是伪装成,嘿,我负责。 |
| 116 | If you want like a, a 10 year plan before you take one step | 如果你想要一个,10年的计划 在你迈出一步之前 |
| 117 | forward, that is just the fear of the unknown. | 这仅仅是对未知者的恐惧 |
| 118 | That's not wisdom. | 这不是智慧。 |
| 119 | You don't need the whole puzzle in place just to take the next | 你不需要把整个谜题放在原位 只为了接下一个 |
| 120 | step. | 步骤。 |
| 121 | Most of the clarity that you will get in your life is just | 你一生中最清楚的一点就是 |
| 122 | from movement in the right direction, not from sitting down | 从正确的方向前进,而不是从坐下来 |
| 123 | and thinking about it. | 考虑一下 |
| 124 | You're wasting a ton of energy trying to think your way through | 你浪费了一吨精力 想通过你的方式 |
| 125 | what can only be lived. | 只能活到现在 |
| 126 | And that's why you're overthinking. | 所以你才想得太过分了 |
| 127 | And that's why it doesn't seem to make any sense because you've | 这就是为什么它似乎没有任何意义 因为你已经 |
| 128 | actually got to take action towards that thing. | 实际上,必须采取行动 面对那个东西。 |
| 129 | You've got to learn to live your life in the headlights. | 得学住前灯. |
| 130 | If you get into a car in the middle of the night and go for a | 如果你半夜上车去买一辆 |
| 131 | drive, you can't see your destination. | 开车,你看不到目的地 |
| 132 | You can only see what the headlights light up in front of | 你只能看见前面灯光照亮 |
| 133 | you the next 100 feet. | 接下来的100英尺 |
| 134 | And after you drive those 100 feet, guess what happens? | 你开那100英尺的车之后 猜猜会发生什么? |
| 135 | You can now see the next hundred feet and then the next and then | 现在你可以看到 接下来的一百英尺,然后接下来,然后 |
| 136 | the next. | 下一个 |
| 137 | And so you're trying to plan out the entire route when in reality, | 所以,你试图规划 整个路线 当现实, |
| 138 | you can't see the next hundred feet in front of you. | 你看不到你面前接下来的一百英尺 |
| 139 | And so you've got to get better at ready fire aim, which means | 所以,你必须更好地 准备射击目标, 这意味着 |
| 140 | you get ready, you take action, and then you make adjustments. | 准备好就采取行动 然后进行调整 |
| 141 | Not you get ready and then you think for a little while and you | 你还没准备好,然后想一想,然后你 |
| 142 | think for a little bit longer and then you plan and then you | 想想再久一点 然后你计划然后你 |
| 143 | plan to plan and you plan to plan to plan. | 计划计划,你计划计划计划。 |
| 144 | It's like you get ready, you take action and you make | 这就像你准备好, 你采取行动,你制造 |
| 145 | adjustments along the way. | 沿途调整. |
| 146 | You've got to get rid of this living in some day mode. | 你必须摆脱这个生活 在某天模式。 |
| 147 | Some day is where your dreams go to die. | 总有一天你的梦想会死去 |
| 148 | That's where they wither away at a job that you hate because | 在那里,他们放弃了你讨厌的工作,因为 |
| 149 | you've just been pushing your dreams down the road. | 你只是把梦想推向了道路 |
| 150 | Really what it is more than anything else is it's | 其实它比什么都重要 |
| 151 | procrastination wrapped up in like the comfort of soon, soon | 等待就像很快的安慰 |
| 152 | I'll do it. | 我来 |
| 153 | Like you have to really be present. | 就像你必须真的在场一样 |
| 154 | I've done episodes on this before about the fact that one | 我之前也做过关于这个故事 |
| 155 | day you're going to die one day. | 有一天你会死 |
| 156 | So you've got to have that one day I'm going to die, bring | 所以,你一定要有 有一天我会死,带来 |
| 157 | urgency, this present moment, that phrase one day, like one | 紧急,此刻, 这句话有一天,像一个 |
| 158 | day I'll do it has buried more dreams than failure ever will. | 一天,我会做它 埋葬更多的梦想 比永远失败。 |
| 159 | The brain loves this illusion of future safety because taking | 大脑喜欢这种未来安全的幻觉 因为服用 |
| 160 | action right now requires risk. | 现在的行动需要风险。 |
| 161 | And so it rather just deflect and go, well, one day, some day | 有一天,有一天 |
| 162 | in the future, I'll do it. | 将来,我会做到这一点。 |
| 163 | You have to understand that the more overwhelmed you feel, the | 你必须明白 你越感到不堪重负 |
| 164 | more attractive later seems, but later never comes. | 以后看起来更吸引人 但后来就再也没有了 |
| 165 | You and I both know that. | 你和我都知道这一点。 |
| 166 | And if something really truly matters to you, you need to | 如果你真的要紧的话 你需要 |
| 167 | schedule it and you need to force yourself to do it. | 安排好时间,你必须强迫自己去做 |
| 168 | If you won't schedule it, stop pretending that it | 如果你不安排,就别装了 |
| 169 | actually matters to you. | 其实对你很重要。 |
| 170 | So that's number six. | 所以这是第六个。 |
| 171 | Number seven is this fantasy that success will | 第七点就是这个幻想 成功会 |
| 172 | magically fix you. | 神奇地修复你。 |
| 173 | The more money, the more followers, the more likes, the | 钱越多,追随者越多,喜欢. |
| 174 | more validation, none of that is going to heal your inner world. | 更多的验证, 这些都无法治愈你的内心世界。 |
| 175 | Success will only amplify what is already there. | 成功只会扩大已经存在的东西。 |
| 176 | And I've said it before, but the only problems that money | 我之前说过,但只有钱的问题 |
| 177 | solves are money problems. | 解决的是金钱问题。 |
| 178 | So if you're using your dreams and your success that you want | 所以,如果你利用你的梦想 和你想要的成功 |
| 179 | to escape yourself, you will build a life that will look | 为了逃避自己,你会 建立一种生活,将寻找 |
| 180 | really good to other people, but it's going to feel like a | 对别人很好,但会感觉像 |
| 181 | prison to you. | 监狱对你来说。 |
| 182 | Hustle is an amazing distraction from your emotional pain. | Hustle是一个惊人的分心 从你的情绪痛苦。 |
| 183 | Trust me, I've done it before. | 相信我,我以前做过 |
| 184 | I've kept myself busy. | 我忙着呢 |
| 185 | My addiction was being a workaholic to run away from all | 我的瘾是工作狂逃避一切 |
| 186 | of my problems and it feels good until the crash happens. | 我的问题,它感觉很好 直到坠机发生。 |
| 187 | So you have to understand you'll keep raising the bar and keep | 所以,你必须明白,你会 继续提高吧并保持 |
| 188 | raising the bar and keep raising the bar because you're | 举起吧,继续举起吧 因为你 |
| 189 | unconsciously running from your wounds. | 不知不觉地从你的伤口中逃出来 |
| 190 | I want you to understand that a bigger bank account and more | 我要你明白,一个更大的银行账户和更多的 |
| 191 | success doesn't fix a bankrupt sense of self-worth. | 成功并不能改变破产的自我价值感。 |
| 192 | So that's number seven. | 所以,这是第七个。 |
| 193 | Number eight, you need to stop neglecting your inner child. | 八号,你需要停止忽视你的内在孩子。 |
| 194 | And this might sound kind of weird if you've never heard this | 这听起来有点奇怪 如果你从来没有听说过这个 |
| 195 | before, but your inner child isn't gone. | 之前,但你的内在孩子没有消失。 |
| 196 | They're the one that is panicking inside of you when | 他们是你内心惊慌失措的人 |
| 197 | you're scared or where you're overreacting or when you're | 你害怕 或者你反应过度 或者当你在 |
| 198 | overthinking or when you're shutting down that tantrum that | 过度思考或当你关闭 怒气的 |
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| 200 | version of yourself that's looking for safety still. | 那种寻找安全的人 |
| 201 | So unprocessed childhood pain doesn't just go away. | 所以没有经过处理的童年时期的痛苦并不会消失. |
| 202 | It doesn't disappear. | 它不会消失的 |
| 203 | It just learns adult coping strategies like people pleasing | 它只是学习成人的应对策略 像人们喜欢 |
| 204 | or like being too controlling or learning to avoid. | 或者喜欢太控制或学习 避免。 |
| 205 | Most of your self-sabotage is actually self-protection from | 你大部分的自我破坏其实都是自我保护 |
| 206 | a wounded part of you. | 你受伤的部分。 |
| 207 | Think about that for a second. | 考虑一下 |
| 208 | That's one of the truest things that you will ever hear. | 这是你听过的最真实的事情之一 |
| 209 | Most of your self-sabotage is self-protection from a wounded | 你大部分的自毁行为都是自我保护 |
| 210 | part of you from childhood. | 从小就属于你 |
| 211 | Reparenting yourself means you giving yourself what you needed | 重现自我意味着你给自己需要的东西 |
| 212 | then right now. | 然后现在。 |
| 213 | And I want you to understand you're not crazy. | 我要你明白你没疯 |
| 214 | You're just carrying unmet needs that deserve some compassion, | 你只是背负着 需要一些同情心的未得到满足的需求 |
| 215 | not some criticism, not hate, but some compassion. | 不是批评,不是仇恨,而是同情 |
| 216 | You need to learn to develop a relationship with that child who | 你需要学会与那个孩子发展关系 |
| 217 | is still deeply inside of you. | 你内心仍然深处 |
| 218 | That child who needed a secure adult to give them something back | 那个需要一个安全的成年人 给他们一些东西的孩子 |
| 219 | then that an adult couldn't give them, whether that be safety, | 然后,一个成年人不能给他们, 无论是安全, |
| 220 | whether that be love, whether that be a hug, whether it be | 爱是爱是拥抱还是拥抱 |
| 221 | emotional intelligence, whatever it might have been. | 情感智慧,无论它可能是什么。 |
| 222 | You're healing the version of you that needed something back | 你正在治疗你的版本 那需要的东西回来 |
| 223 | then, but didn't get it. | 后来,但没有得到它。 |
| 224 | That's what it looks like to actually reparent yourself. | 这才是真正的父母 |
| 225 | Number nine, next thing you need to get rid of perfectionism that | 第九,接下来你要摆脱完美主义 |
| 226 | is dressed up as high standards. | 穿着高标准。 |
| 227 | Let's really call perfectionism what it is. | 让我们真正称之为完美主义是什么。 |
| 228 | You have a fear of being judged. | 你害怕被审判 |
| 229 | Perfectionism is just anxiety. | 完美主义只是焦虑。 |
| 230 | That's dressed up a little bit cuter. | 穿得有点可爱 |
| 231 | That's really what it is. | 这才是真正的。 |
| 232 | And we always say like, Oh, it's got to be perfect. | 我们总是说, 哦,它必须是完美的。 |
| 233 | If it's got to be perfect, it's got to be perfect. | 若得圆满如来. |
| 234 | Really what you're saying is if it's not perfect, I'm not safe. | 你说真的,如果它不完美,我不安全。 |
| 235 | And that's a trauma response. | 这是创伤反应 |
| 236 | You'll never build anything meaningful in your entire life. | 你这辈子永远也不会造出有意义的东西 |
| 237 | If you're obsessed with not messing up because you're a | 如果你沉迷于不要因为你是一个 |
| 238 | human and you will mess up. | 人类和你会搞砸了。 |
| 239 | Humans are flawed. | 人类是有缺陷的。 |
| 240 | We will make mistakes. | 我们将犯错误。 |
| 241 | And perfectionism kills all of the momentum in your entire life. | 完美主义会毁了你一生的全部动力 |
| 242 | So it's not about just going out and doing your best and all of that. | 所以,这不是只是出去 并尽你最大的努力和这一切。 |
| 243 | It's really just about doing it for the sake of doing it, whatever it is. | 这其实只是为了做它,不管它是什么。 |
| 244 | It's about putting yourself out there, doing it, making sure it gets done, | 这是关于让你自己在那里, 做到这一点,确保它完成, |
| 245 | screwing it up and just realizing that done is better than perfect. | 搞砸它,只是意识到 做这比完美更好。 |
| 246 | Why? | 为什么? |
| 247 | Because done exists. | 因为做了存在。 |
| 248 | Guess what? | 你猜怎么着? |
| 249 | Perfectionism doesn't exist and you know it, but you need to really, | 完美主义并不存在,你知道的, 但你需要真的, |
| 250 | really feel it is the difference and number 10. | 真正的感觉是10号的区别 |
| 251 | The 10th thing that you need to get rid of is your fear of failure. | 得十种解脱解脱因缘畏失. |
| 252 | Failure isn't about failure at all. | 失败根本不是失败 |
| 253 | It's about what you make it mean about you. | 这是关于你做它意味着你。 |
| 254 | And here's the truth that you need to understand. | 这就是你需要理解的真相 |
| 255 | You will fail. | 你会失败的 |
| 256 | You know, you'll fail. | 你会失败的 |
| 257 | And that's the point, but you're afraid that failure will confirm your worst | 这就是重点 但你担心失败会证明你最糟 |
| 258 | fear, not fear is that you're not good enough. | 恐惧,不是恐惧 是说你不够好。 |
| 259 | And so you try to avoid it. | 所以你尽量避免它。 |
| 260 | You try to run away from it. | 你试图逃避它。 |
| 261 | Most people rehearse failure in their minds so often that they never even | 多数人总是在脑海里排练失败 以至于他们从来没有 |
| 262 | risk success because they're so afraid of it. | 冒着成功的风险 因为他们害怕它。 |
| 263 | And so I want you to understand, you don't need more confidence. | 所以我想让你明白 你不需要更多的自信 |
| 264 | What you need more than anything else is more courage. | 你最需要的是勇气 |
| 265 | You need to develop a willingness to suck at something long enough until you get good. | 你需要培养一种意愿 吸的东西足够长,直到你康复。 |
| 266 | It's like the phrase I've said here many times. | 就像我在这里说过很多次的话 |
| 267 | You will never be a graceful master if you will not let | 你永远不会是一个优雅的主人,如果你不让 |
| 268 | yourself be a foolish beginner. | 你是一个愚蠢的初学者。 |
| 269 | You have to fail. | 你必须失败。 |
| 270 | Failure, you know, is part of success. | 失败是成功的一部分 |
| 271 | The creator of Honda has a quote that says success is 99% failure. | 本田的创造者有一句话说成功是99%的失败. |
| 272 | Failure is necessary to succeed. | 失败是成功的必要条件。 |
| 273 | Failure builds resilience. | 失败增强了复原力。 |
| 274 | And so you've got to learn to develop a muscle to run towards failure because | 所以,你必须学会 发展肌肉 跑向失败,因为 |
| 275 | really more than anything else, that is where your growth lives. | 最重要的是,这就是你的成长所在。 |
| 276 | And so I want you to understand if this hits you in your chest, good. | 所以我希望你明白 如果这击中你的胸口,好。 |
| 277 | It's not meant to shame you in any sort of way. | 这不是要让你羞愧 |
| 278 | This is really meant to wake up parts of you that know that you're meant for more. | 这真的是为了唤醒你的一部分 知道,你注定要更多。 |
| 279 | You can't carry the old with you into the new life. | 你不能带着旧东西去新生活 |
| 280 | One of them has to go. | 其中一个必须去。 |
| 281 | And so let it be the version of you that you really want to be, not the | 所以让它成为你真正想要的版本,而不是 |
| 282 | version of you that she used to be. | 她曾经的你 |
| 283 | Hey, thanks so much for watching this video based off of what you have been | 嘿,非常感谢收看这段视频 以你一直以来的情况为基础 |
| 284 | watching recently, YouTube and the algorithm has made sure that you | 最近,YouTube和算法确保你 |
| 285 | should watch this video next. | 接下来应该看这个视频。 |
| 286 | It pops up as a different video for every single person. | 弹出为每个人不同的视频. |
| 287 | Seriously. | 说真的 |
| 288 | So this one is for you. | 所以这个是给你的 |
| 289 | And if you want to make sure to never miss another video, hit that button right | 如果你想确保永远不要错过另一个视频,就按右键 |
| 290 | there, subscribe, and I'll see you on the next one. | 那里,订阅, 我会看到你在下一个。 |
| 291 | Seriously. | 说真的 |
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| 时间 | 英文 | 中文 |
|---|---|---|
| 0:00 | There's a version of you that is buried under everything that | 有你的一个版本 埋在一切之下 |
| 0:04 | you were taught to tolerate the people pleasing and the | 你学会了容忍人们的欢乐和 |
| 0:08 | overthinking and the perfectionism, all of that. | 过度思考和完美主义 这一切。 |
| 0:12 | And I want you to understand that you're not stuck because | 我想让你明白 你并不是因为... |
| 0:14 | you're lazy or unmotivated or something wrong with you. | 你懒惰或没有动机 或者你有什么不对劲 |
| 0:18 | You're probably stuck because you're carrying so much dead | 你被困住了 可能是因为你带着这么多死人 |
| 0:22 | weight. | 重量。 |
| 0:23 | You have old beliefs, you have old identities, you have old | 你有旧信念,有旧身份,有旧身份 |
| 0:27 | And so this isn't about adding more to your to-do list. | 所以这不是要增加你的待办事宜清单。 |
| 0:31 | This is about removing what is quietly killing your momentum in | 这是关于去除 静静地杀死你的势头 |
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| 1 | There's a version of you that is buried under everything that | 有你的一个版本 埋在一切之下 |
| 2 | you were taught to tolerate the people pleasing and the | 你学会了容忍人们的欢乐和 |
| 3 | overthinking and the perfectionism, all of that. | 过度思考和完美主义 这一切。 |
| 4 | And I want you to understand that you're not stuck because | 我想让你明白 你并不是因为... |
| 5 | you're lazy or unmotivated or something wrong with you. | 你懒惰或没有动机 或者你有什么不对劲 |
| 6 | You're probably stuck because you're carrying so much dead | 你被困住了 可能是因为你带着这么多死人 |
| 7 | weight. | 重量。 |
| 8 | You have old beliefs, you have old identities, you have old | 你有旧信念,有旧身份,有旧身份 |
| 9 | And so this isn't about adding more to your to-do list. | 所以这不是要增加你的待办事宜清单。 |
| 10 | This is about removing what is quietly killing your momentum in | 这是关于去除 静静地杀死你的势头 |
| 11 | life. | 活着 |
| 12 | And so let's talk about these things that you need to | 让我们来谈谈你需要的东西 |
| 13 | eliminate to finally feel free. | 消除最终感觉自由。 |
| 14 | And I'm going to just hammer home through these quickly. | 我将很快地用锤子敲回家。 |
| 15 | Okay. | 摆 |
| 16 | The first one is this weird loyalty that you feel to a | 第一个是你对一个奇怪的忠诚 |
| 17 | version of you that no longer exists. | 您的版本已经不存在。 |
| 18 | Like we all carry ghosts, old identities, old stories of | 就像我们都带着鬼魂 旧身份 旧故事 |
| 19 | But I want you to understand that staying loyal to an | 但我希望你明白 忠于一个 |
| 20 | outdated version of yourself is the fastest way to suffocate | 自己过时的版本是最快的窒息方式 |
| 21 | your own growth. | 你自己的成长。 |
| 22 | Your nervous system may still be wired for survival, not | 你的神经系统可能仍然被窃听 以生存,而不是 |
| 23 | expansion. | 扩张。 |
| 24 | And that's something that happened during childhood. | 这也是在童年时期发生的。 |
| 25 | But just because you had to play small or be quiet or not be | 但是,只是因为你不得不玩 小或安静与否 |
| 26 | seen back then doesn't mean that you still do now. | 那时看到的并不代表你现在仍然如此 |
| 27 | You have to understand that you're allowed to evolve. | 你必须明白 你被允许进化。 |
| 28 | You need to give yourself permission to evolve. | 你需要允许自己进化 |
| 29 | You're allowed to be unrecognizable to yourself and | 你被允许无法辨认自己和 |
| 30 | to the people who love you and your subconscious is wired to | 给那些爱你和你的潜意识的人 |
| 31 | repeat, not to reinvent. | 重复,不要重塑。 |
| 32 | So you're going to continue to repeat old versions of yourself | 所以你要继续重复你以前的版本 |
| 33 | over and over and over again. | 一次又一次 |
| 34 | If you do not step in the driver's seat and be intentional | 如果你不踩到驾驶座上 故意的 |
| 35 | about doing something different. | 关于做不同的事情。 |
| 36 | If your past is writing your present moment, then your | 如果你的过去是写你现在的时刻,那么你 |
| 37 | already predictable and dead. | 已经可以预测和死亡。 |
| 38 | Letting go isn't failure. | 放手不是失败 |
| 39 | It's the funeral of who you used to be that finally frees you. | 你曾经的葬礼终于让你自由了 |
| 40 | The next level of your life requires a new version of you, | 下一关你的生活需要一个新的版本, |
| 41 | not a recycled version of you who survived the last season | 不是你上季幸存下来的循环版 |
| 42 | that you went through. | 你经历了。 |
| 43 | If a snake does not shed its skin, it will suffocate and you | 如果蛇不脱皮,它会窒息,你 |
| 44 | will suffocate all of your dreams. | 会扼杀你所有的梦想 |
| 45 | If you do not let old parts of you die off. | 如果你不让你的老部分死去。 |
| 46 | So that's the first thing. | 所以这是第一件事。 |
| 47 | The second thing is this habit of self-sabotage right before | 第二件事是这种自我破坏的习惯 |
| 48 | you break through. | 你闯进来了 |
| 49 | Have you ever noticed that right when things are about to start | 你是否注意到当事情即将开始的时候 |
| 50 | working, you self-sabotage or you numb out or you disappear or | 工作,自我破坏或麻木或消失 |
| 51 | you burn out in some sort of way. | 你以某种方式烧掉了。 |
| 52 | That's not a coincidence. | 这不是巧合。 |
| 53 | It's conditioning. | 这是条件。 |
| 54 | Your nervous system may not feel safe with success. | 你的神经系统可能不觉得安全 |
| 55 | So you create chaos because chaos might feel familiar to you | 所以你制造混乱 因为混乱可能让你觉得熟悉 |
| 56 | or because burning it all down will keep you exactly where you | 或者因为烧掉会把你留在原地 |
| 57 | are. | 对 |
| 58 | Self-sabotage is often self-protection from a life that's | 自我破坏往往是自我保护 |
| 59 | bigger than you're used to or more than you're receiving in | 比你习惯的还要大 也比你接受的还要大 |
| 60 | your current life once you're used to receiving or more than | 一旦你习惯接受或超过 |
| 61 | you think that you actually deserve. | 你以为你该得到的 |
| 62 | The closer that you get to a breakthrough, the louder that | 你越接近突破 越大声 |
| 63 | your inner critic is going to get. | 你的内在评论家会得到的 |
| 64 | You're not afraid to fail. | 你不怕失败 |
| 65 | You're afraid of finally not failing, which is something that | 你害怕最终没有失败,这是一件 |
| 66 | you've never been comfortable with. | 你从来没有感到舒服过。 |
| 67 | Even if you're miserable, you can be comfortable in misery and | 即使你很痛苦 你也可以在痛苦中自在 |
| 68 | less comfortable in the unknown. | 不太舒服的未知情况。 |
| 69 | And so you would rather just repeat the misery than to step | 所以,你宁愿重复痛苦 而不是踩踏 |
| 70 | off into the unknown and create something greater than you ever | 并创造出比你更伟大的东西 |
| 71 | have. | 有过 |
| 72 | So that's number two. | 故为第二. |
| 73 | Number three is toxic people who drain your energy. | 第三个是消耗你能量的毒虫 |
| 74 | This one is quick and super easy. | 这一个是快速和超级容易的。 |
| 75 | You cannot heal in the same environment that hurts you. | 你不能在伤害你的同样环境中痊愈。 |
| 76 | No matter how strong your boundaries are, the wrong people | 不管你的界限有多强 错的人 |
| 77 | will always find a way to drain you. | 永远会想办法把你耗尽 |
| 78 | You get what you tolerate. | 你得到你容忍的东西。 |
| 79 | You have to ask yourself what you're willing to tolerate for | 你要问自己你愿意容忍什么 |
| 80 | this next chapter in your life. | 这是你人生的下一章 |
| 81 | You teach people how to speak to you. | 你教人如何与你说话. |
| 82 | You either need to teach people how to speak to you differently, | 你要么要教别人怎么跟你说话 |
| 83 | or you need to let go of the people who drain your energy. | 或者你需要让那些消耗你精力的人离开 |
| 84 | So that's number three. | 故为第三. |
| 85 | Number four is this addiction that you have to the approval of | 第四,你必须接受这种毒瘾 |
| 86 | others. | 别人。 |
| 87 | Most people don't live. | 多数人不活. |
| 88 | They perform. | 他们表演。 |
| 89 | They're like a jester that's dancing for a king. | 他们就像为国王跳舞的小丑 |
| 90 | And when you're addicted to the approval of other people, | 当你沉迷于别人的认可 |
| 91 | rejection doesn't just sting like it actually starts to feel | 拒绝不只是刺痛 就像它真正开始的感觉 |
| 92 | like an internal death because your identity is outsourced. | 就像内部死亡 因为你的身份被外包了 |
| 93 | And so you have been looking for other people to tell you that | 所以你一直在找别人告诉你 |
| 94 | you're good enough your entire life versus actually just slowing | 你这辈子都做得够好 反而只是减速 |
| 95 | down and realizing that you already are good enough. | 并意识到你已经足够好。 |
| 96 | You can't become who you're meant to be if you're constantly | 你不能成为你命中注定的人 如果你一直这样 |
| 97 | just playing a character for other people. | 只是给别人演个角色 |
| 98 | And if you're not careful, | 如果你不小心的话 |
| 99 | your dreams will slowly morph into whatever gets you the most | 你的梦想会慢慢化为什么 |
| 100 | praise from other people. | 赞美他人, |
| 101 | People pleasing is self abandonment. | 人们喜欢的是自我抛弃。 |
| 102 | Like let that one sink in for a minute. | 就像让那一个沉入一分钟。 |
| 103 | If you're a people pleaser, | 如果你是一个人民取悦者, |
| 104 | your self abandoning is what you're actually doing. | 自我抛弃才是你真正要做的 |
| 105 | Have you ever thought about that way? | 你有想过那样吗? |
| 106 | You have to be authentic. | 你必须是真实的。 |
| 107 | You have to figure out who you truly are. | 你得弄清楚你是谁 |
| 108 | Your authenticity will cost you the approval of other people. | 你的真实性需要别人的认可 |
| 109 | You need to be able to stomach that. | 你需要能够 胃这个。 |
| 110 | That's number four. | 即第四义. |
| 111 | Number five, you need to have everything figured out. | 五号,你需要把一切都弄清楚。 |
| 112 | You got to get rid of that. | 你得摆脱它。 |
| 113 | This obsession that you have with certainty is really just a | 你对这个迷恋的确定性 |
| 114 | trauma response. | 创伤反应 |
| 115 | It's control that's disguised as, Hey, I'm being responsible. | 控制是伪装成,嘿,我负责。 |
| 116 | If you want like a, a 10 year plan before you take one step | 如果你想要一个,10年的计划 在你迈出一步之前 |
| 117 | forward, that is just the fear of the unknown. | 这仅仅是对未知者的恐惧 |
| 118 | That's not wisdom. | 这不是智慧。 |
| 119 | You don't need the whole puzzle in place just to take the next | 你不需要把整个谜题放在原位 只为了接下一个 |
| 120 | step. | 步骤。 |
| 121 | Most of the clarity that you will get in your life is just | 你一生中最清楚的一点就是 |
| 122 | from movement in the right direction, not from sitting down | 从正确的方向前进,而不是从坐下来 |
| 123 | and thinking about it. | 考虑一下 |
| 124 | You're wasting a ton of energy trying to think your way through | 你浪费了一吨精力 想通过你的方式 |
| 125 | what can only be lived. | 只能活到现在 |
| 126 | And that's why you're overthinking. | 所以你才想得太过分了 |
| 127 | And that's why it doesn't seem to make any sense because you've | 这就是为什么它似乎没有任何意义 因为你已经 |
| 128 | actually got to take action towards that thing. | 实际上,必须采取行动 面对那个东西。 |
| 129 | You've got to learn to live your life in the headlights. | 得学住前灯. |
| 130 | If you get into a car in the middle of the night and go for a | 如果你半夜上车去买一辆 |
| 131 | drive, you can't see your destination. | 开车,你看不到目的地 |
| 132 | You can only see what the headlights light up in front of | 你只能看见前面灯光照亮 |
| 133 | you the next 100 feet. | 接下来的100英尺 |
| 134 | And after you drive those 100 feet, guess what happens? | 你开那100英尺的车之后 猜猜会发生什么? |
| 135 | You can now see the next hundred feet and then the next and then | 现在你可以看到 接下来的一百英尺,然后接下来,然后 |
| 136 | the next. | 下一个 |
| 137 | And so you're trying to plan out the entire route when in reality, | 所以,你试图规划 整个路线 当现实, |
| 138 | you can't see the next hundred feet in front of you. | 你看不到你面前接下来的一百英尺 |
| 139 | And so you've got to get better at ready fire aim, which means | 所以,你必须更好地 准备射击目标, 这意味着 |
| 140 | you get ready, you take action, and then you make adjustments. | 准备好就采取行动 然后进行调整 |
| 141 | Not you get ready and then you think for a little while and you | 你还没准备好,然后想一想,然后你 |
| 142 | think for a little bit longer and then you plan and then you | 想想再久一点 然后你计划然后你 |
| 143 | plan to plan and you plan to plan to plan. | 计划计划,你计划计划计划。 |
| 144 | It's like you get ready, you take action and you make | 这就像你准备好, 你采取行动,你制造 |
| 145 | adjustments along the way. | 沿途调整. |
| 146 | You've got to get rid of this living in some day mode. | 你必须摆脱这个生活 在某天模式。 |
| 147 | Some day is where your dreams go to die. | 总有一天你的梦想会死去 |
| 148 | That's where they wither away at a job that you hate because | 在那里,他们放弃了你讨厌的工作,因为 |
| 149 | you've just been pushing your dreams down the road. | 你只是把梦想推向了道路 |
| 150 | Really what it is more than anything else is it's | 其实它比什么都重要 |
| 151 | procrastination wrapped up in like the comfort of soon, soon | 等待就像很快的安慰 |
| 152 | I'll do it. | 我来 |
| 153 | Like you have to really be present. | 就像你必须真的在场一样 |
| 154 | I've done episodes on this before about the fact that one | 我之前也做过关于这个故事 |
| 155 | day you're going to die one day. | 有一天你会死 |
| 156 | So you've got to have that one day I'm going to die, bring | 所以,你一定要有 有一天我会死,带来 |
| 157 | urgency, this present moment, that phrase one day, like one | 紧急,此刻, 这句话有一天,像一个 |
| 158 | day I'll do it has buried more dreams than failure ever will. | 一天,我会做它 埋葬更多的梦想 比永远失败。 |
| 159 | The brain loves this illusion of future safety because taking | 大脑喜欢这种未来安全的幻觉 因为服用 |
| 160 | action right now requires risk. | 现在的行动需要风险。 |
| 161 | And so it rather just deflect and go, well, one day, some day | 有一天,有一天 |
| 162 | in the future, I'll do it. | 将来,我会做到这一点。 |
| 163 | You have to understand that the more overwhelmed you feel, the | 你必须明白 你越感到不堪重负 |
| 164 | more attractive later seems, but later never comes. | 以后看起来更吸引人 但后来就再也没有了 |
| 165 | You and I both know that. | 你和我都知道这一点。 |
| 166 | And if something really truly matters to you, you need to | 如果你真的要紧的话 你需要 |
| 167 | schedule it and you need to force yourself to do it. | 安排好时间,你必须强迫自己去做 |
| 168 | If you won't schedule it, stop pretending that it | 如果你不安排,就别装了 |
| 169 | actually matters to you. | 其实对你很重要。 |
| 170 | So that's number six. | 所以这是第六个。 |
| 171 | Number seven is this fantasy that success will | 第七点就是这个幻想 成功会 |
| 172 | magically fix you. | 神奇地修复你。 |
| 173 | The more money, the more followers, the more likes, the | 钱越多,追随者越多,喜欢. |
| 174 | more validation, none of that is going to heal your inner world. | 更多的验证, 这些都无法治愈你的内心世界。 |
| 175 | Success will only amplify what is already there. | 成功只会扩大已经存在的东西。 |
| 176 | And I've said it before, but the only problems that money | 我之前说过,但只有钱的问题 |
| 177 | solves are money problems. | 解决的是金钱问题。 |
| 178 | So if you're using your dreams and your success that you want | 所以,如果你利用你的梦想 和你想要的成功 |
| 179 | to escape yourself, you will build a life that will look | 为了逃避自己,你会 建立一种生活,将寻找 |
| 180 | really good to other people, but it's going to feel like a | 对别人很好,但会感觉像 |
| 181 | prison to you. | 监狱对你来说。 |
| 182 | Hustle is an amazing distraction from your emotional pain. | Hustle是一个惊人的分心 从你的情绪痛苦。 |
| 183 | Trust me, I've done it before. | 相信我,我以前做过 |
| 184 | I've kept myself busy. | 我忙着呢 |
| 185 | My addiction was being a workaholic to run away from all | 我的瘾是工作狂逃避一切 |
| 186 | of my problems and it feels good until the crash happens. | 我的问题,它感觉很好 直到坠机发生。 |
| 187 | So you have to understand you'll keep raising the bar and keep | 所以,你必须明白,你会 继续提高吧并保持 |
| 188 | raising the bar and keep raising the bar because you're | 举起吧,继续举起吧 因为你 |
| 189 | unconsciously running from your wounds. | 不知不觉地从你的伤口中逃出来 |
| 190 | I want you to understand that a bigger bank account and more | 我要你明白,一个更大的银行账户和更多的 |
| 191 | success doesn't fix a bankrupt sense of self-worth. | 成功并不能改变破产的自我价值感。 |
| 192 | So that's number seven. | 所以,这是第七个。 |
| 193 | Number eight, you need to stop neglecting your inner child. | 八号,你需要停止忽视你的内在孩子。 |
| 194 | And this might sound kind of weird if you've never heard this | 这听起来有点奇怪 如果你从来没有听说过这个 |
| 195 | before, but your inner child isn't gone. | 之前,但你的内在孩子没有消失。 |
| 196 | They're the one that is panicking inside of you when | 他们是你内心惊慌失措的人 |
| 197 | you're scared or where you're overreacting or when you're | 你害怕 或者你反应过度 或者当你在 |
| 198 | overthinking or when you're shutting down that tantrum that | 过度思考或当你关闭 怒气的 |
| 199 | {\fn黑体\fs22\bord1\shad0\3aHBE\4aH00\fscx67\fscy66\2cHFFFFFF\3cH808080}你总是在7岁那年 | |
| 200 | version of yourself that's looking for safety still. | 那种寻找安全的人 |
| 201 | So unprocessed childhood pain doesn't just go away. | 所以没有经过处理的童年时期的痛苦并不会消失. |
| 202 | It doesn't disappear. | 它不会消失的 |
| 203 | It just learns adult coping strategies like people pleasing | 它只是学习成人的应对策略 像人们喜欢 |
| 204 | or like being too controlling or learning to avoid. | 或者喜欢太控制或学习 避免。 |
| 205 | Most of your self-sabotage is actually self-protection from | 你大部分的自我破坏其实都是自我保护 |
| 206 | a wounded part of you. | 你受伤的部分。 |
| 207 | Think about that for a second. | 考虑一下 |
| 208 | That's one of the truest things that you will ever hear. | 这是你听过的最真实的事情之一 |
| 209 | Most of your self-sabotage is self-protection from a wounded | 你大部分的自毁行为都是自我保护 |
| 210 | part of you from childhood. | 从小就属于你 |
| 211 | Reparenting yourself means you giving yourself what you needed | 重现自我意味着你给自己需要的东西 |
| 212 | then right now. | 然后现在。 |
| 213 | And I want you to understand you're not crazy. | 我要你明白你没疯 |
| 214 | You're just carrying unmet needs that deserve some compassion, | 你只是背负着 需要一些同情心的未得到满足的需求 |
| 215 | not some criticism, not hate, but some compassion. | 不是批评,不是仇恨,而是同情 |
| 216 | You need to learn to develop a relationship with that child who | 你需要学会与那个孩子发展关系 |
| 217 | is still deeply inside of you. | 你内心仍然深处 |
| 218 | That child who needed a secure adult to give them something back | 那个需要一个安全的成年人 给他们一些东西的孩子 |
| 219 | then that an adult couldn't give them, whether that be safety, | 然后,一个成年人不能给他们, 无论是安全, |
| 220 | whether that be love, whether that be a hug, whether it be | 爱是爱是拥抱还是拥抱 |
| 221 | emotional intelligence, whatever it might have been. | 情感智慧,无论它可能是什么。 |
| 222 | You're healing the version of you that needed something back | 你正在治疗你的版本 那需要的东西回来 |
| 223 | then, but didn't get it. | 后来,但没有得到它。 |
| 224 | That's what it looks like to actually reparent yourself. | 这才是真正的父母 |
| 225 | Number nine, next thing you need to get rid of perfectionism that | 第九,接下来你要摆脱完美主义 |
| 226 | is dressed up as high standards. | 穿着高标准。 |
| 227 | Let's really call perfectionism what it is. | 让我们真正称之为完美主义是什么。 |
| 228 | You have a fear of being judged. | 你害怕被审判 |
| 229 | Perfectionism is just anxiety. | 完美主义只是焦虑。 |
| 230 | That's dressed up a little bit cuter. | 穿得有点可爱 |
| 231 | That's really what it is. | 这才是真正的。 |
| 232 | And we always say like, Oh, it's got to be perfect. | 我们总是说, 哦,它必须是完美的。 |
| 233 | If it's got to be perfect, it's got to be perfect. | 若得圆满如来. |
| 234 | Really what you're saying is if it's not perfect, I'm not safe. | 你说真的,如果它不完美,我不安全。 |
| 235 | And that's a trauma response. | 这是创伤反应 |
| 236 | You'll never build anything meaningful in your entire life. | 你这辈子永远也不会造出有意义的东西 |
| 237 | If you're obsessed with not messing up because you're a | 如果你沉迷于不要因为你是一个 |
| 238 | human and you will mess up. | 人类和你会搞砸了。 |
| 239 | Humans are flawed. | 人类是有缺陷的。 |
| 240 | We will make mistakes. | 我们将犯错误。 |
| 241 | And perfectionism kills all of the momentum in your entire life. | 完美主义会毁了你一生的全部动力 |
| 242 | So it's not about just going out and doing your best and all of that. | 所以,这不是只是出去 并尽你最大的努力和这一切。 |
| 243 | It's really just about doing it for the sake of doing it, whatever it is. | 这其实只是为了做它,不管它是什么。 |
| 244 | It's about putting yourself out there, doing it, making sure it gets done, | 这是关于让你自己在那里, 做到这一点,确保它完成, |
| 245 | screwing it up and just realizing that done is better than perfect. | 搞砸它,只是意识到 做这比完美更好。 |
| 246 | Why? | 为什么? |
| 247 | Because done exists. | 因为做了存在。 |
| 248 | Guess what? | 你猜怎么着? |
| 249 | Perfectionism doesn't exist and you know it, but you need to really, | 完美主义并不存在,你知道的, 但你需要真的, |
| 250 | really feel it is the difference and number 10. | 真正的感觉是10号的区别 |
| 251 | The 10th thing that you need to get rid of is your fear of failure. | 得十种解脱解脱因缘畏失. |
| 252 | Failure isn't about failure at all. | 失败根本不是失败 |
| 253 | It's about what you make it mean about you. | 这是关于你做它意味着你。 |
| 254 | And here's the truth that you need to understand. | 这就是你需要理解的真相 |
| 255 | You will fail. | 你会失败的 |
| 256 | You know, you'll fail. | 你会失败的 |
| 257 | And that's the point, but you're afraid that failure will confirm your worst | 这就是重点 但你担心失败会证明你最糟 |
| 258 | fear, not fear is that you're not good enough. | 恐惧,不是恐惧 是说你不够好。 |
| 259 | And so you try to avoid it. | 所以你尽量避免它。 |
| 260 | You try to run away from it. | 你试图逃避它。 |
| 261 | Most people rehearse failure in their minds so often that they never even | 多数人总是在脑海里排练失败 以至于他们从来没有 |
| 262 | risk success because they're so afraid of it. | 冒着成功的风险 因为他们害怕它。 |
| 263 | And so I want you to understand, you don't need more confidence. | 所以我想让你明白 你不需要更多的自信 |
| 264 | What you need more than anything else is more courage. | 你最需要的是勇气 |
| 265 | You need to develop a willingness to suck at something long enough until you get good. | 你需要培养一种意愿 吸的东西足够长,直到你康复。 |
| 266 | It's like the phrase I've said here many times. | 就像我在这里说过很多次的话 |
| 267 | You will never be a graceful master if you will not let | 你永远不会是一个优雅的主人,如果你不让 |
| 268 | yourself be a foolish beginner. | 你是一个愚蠢的初学者。 |
| 269 | You have to fail. | 你必须失败。 |
| 270 | Failure, you know, is part of success. | 失败是成功的一部分 |
| 271 | The creator of Honda has a quote that says success is 99% failure. | 本田的创造者有一句话说成功是99%的失败. |
| 272 | Failure is necessary to succeed. | 失败是成功的必要条件。 |
| 273 | Failure builds resilience. | 失败增强了复原力。 |
| 274 | And so you've got to learn to develop a muscle to run towards failure because | 所以,你必须学会 发展肌肉 跑向失败,因为 |
| 275 | really more than anything else, that is where your growth lives. | 最重要的是,这就是你的成长所在。 |
| 276 | And so I want you to understand if this hits you in your chest, good. | 所以我希望你明白 如果这击中你的胸口,好。 |
| 277 | It's not meant to shame you in any sort of way. | 这不是要让你羞愧 |
| 278 | This is really meant to wake up parts of you that know that you're meant for more. | 这真的是为了唤醒你的一部分 知道,你注定要更多。 |
| 279 | You can't carry the old with you into the new life. | 你不能带着旧东西去新生活 |
| 280 | One of them has to go. | 其中一个必须去。 |
| 281 | And so let it be the version of you that you really want to be, not the | 所以让它成为你真正想要的版本,而不是 |
| 282 | version of you that she used to be. | 她曾经的你 |
| 283 | Hey, thanks so much for watching this video based off of what you have been | 嘿,非常感谢收看这段视频 以你一直以来的情况为基础 |
| 284 | watching recently, YouTube and the algorithm has made sure that you | 最近,YouTube和算法确保你 |
| 285 | should watch this video next. | 接下来应该看这个视频。 |
| 286 | It pops up as a different video for every single person. | 弹出为每个人不同的视频. |
| 287 | Seriously. | 说真的 |
| 288 | So this one is for you. | 所以这个是给你的 |
| 289 | And if you want to make sure to never miss another video, hit that button right | 如果你想确保永远不要错过另一个视频,就按右键 |
| 290 | there, subscribe, and I'll see you on the next one. | 那里,订阅, 我会看到你在下一个。 |
| 291 | Seriously. | 说真的 |
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