【沟通训练】30天彻底提升沟通能力 · 记录+复盘实操指南
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| 0:00 | This is going to be you looking into the communication mirror because most people have never looked into the communication mirror | 这将会是你看着通讯镜 因为大多数人从来没有看过通讯镜 |
| 0:05 | I mean every morning you look into the mirror to style your hair to do your makeup | 我的意思是,每天早上你看着镜子 给头发梳妆 |
| 0:08 | You do all of this by looking into the mirror | 你看着镜子做这一切 |
| 0:10 | So let me give you the exact process of what I would do first of all | 让我告诉你我首先要做什么的具体过程 |
| 0:13 | I want you to record a five minute video | 我要你录下五分钟的视频 |
| 0:16 | Five minute video of yourself speaking | 5分钟的视频,你说话 |
| 0:18 | Now, why do you create this five minute video of yourself speaking? | 现在,你为什么 创建这5分钟的视频 自己说话? |
| 0:22 | Well, you create this five minute video so that you can have something to watch back | 好吧,你创造这5分钟的视频 这样你就可以有东西可以回看 |
| 0:25 | If I asked you now just to think about the way you communicate | 如果我现在让你考虑一下你的沟通方式 |
| 0:28 | You wouldn't have a very accurate idea of how you do that. | 你根本不知道自己是怎么做到的 |
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| 序号 | 英文 | 中文 |
|---|---|---|
| 1 | This is going to be you looking into the communication mirror because most people have never looked into the communication mirror | 这将会是你看着通讯镜 因为大多数人从来没有看过通讯镜 |
| 2 | I mean every morning you look into the mirror to style your hair to do your makeup | 我的意思是,每天早上你看着镜子 给头发梳妆 |
| 3 | You do all of this by looking into the mirror | 你看着镜子做这一切 |
| 4 | So let me give you the exact process of what I would do first of all | 让我告诉你我首先要做什么的具体过程 |
| 5 | I want you to record a five minute video | 我要你录下五分钟的视频 |
| 6 | Five minute video of yourself speaking | 5分钟的视频,你说话 |
| 7 | Now, why do you create this five minute video of yourself speaking? | 现在,你为什么 创建这5分钟的视频 自己说话? |
| 8 | Well, you create this five minute video so that you can have something to watch back | 好吧,你创造这5分钟的视频 这样你就可以有东西可以回看 |
| 9 | If I asked you now just to think about the way you communicate | 如果我现在让你考虑一下你的沟通方式 |
| 10 | You wouldn't have a very accurate idea of how you do that. | 你根本不知道自己是怎么做到的 |
| 11 | So I get you to film the video now | 所以我让你拍下录像 |
| 12 | You're going to have a very accurate example to go look at so just go to chat gbt and ask chat gbt | 你会有一个非常准确的例子去查看 所以去聊天 gbt 问聊天 gbt |
| 13 | A question like what are five questions to ask myself which would help me reveal | 问个问题 问自己有什么问题 能帮助我揭示 |
| 14 | Insights about who I am as a person hit record and then just talk and go | 洞察一下我作为个人的身份 记录下来,然后只是说话然后走 |
| 15 | Oh, the first question is and then just talk | 哦,第一个问题是,然后只是说话 |
| 16 | it's really important that you improvise the whole thing and the reason why it needs to be improvised is because | 这很重要,你必须即兴发挥 整个事情,为什么需要即兴发挥的原因是 |
| 17 | I now want to tease out the non-functional behaviors that show themselves when you're in an unprepared situation | 我现在想挑逗那些不起作用的行为 当你处于无备状态时 |
| 18 | And then you're going to get you as you not you as | 然后,你会得到你 作为你没有你 |
| 19 | Perfect you because you've rehearsed a five minute script and you get to do it over and over and over again, right? | 你完美是因为你排练了5分钟的剧本 一次又一次地完成,对吧? |
| 20 | And listen the more advanced version and I really mean this is not five. | 听着更高级的版本, 我真的觉得这不是五个。 |
| 21 | It's 20 minutes | 20分钟了 |
| 22 | You're probably thinking. | 你也许在思考 |
| 23 | Oh my are you serious 20 minutes? | 哦,我是认真的20分钟? |
| 24 | Yeah, i'm serious because once you go 20 minutes now | 是啊,我是认真的 因为一旦你走了20分钟了 |
| 25 | You're going to collect an incredible sample of all the different non-functional behaviors that exist within your communication | 你会收集出一个不可思议的样本 在你的交流中存在的所有不同的非功能行为 |
| 26 | Now after you do the 20 minute video, you must leave it for a day | 拍完20分钟的录像后 一定要放一天 |
| 27 | Okay, you must leave it for a day | 好吧,你必须离开它一天 |
| 28 | Don't look at it straight away because if you do you're going to hate the way you look you're going to hate the way you sound | 不要马上看,因为如果你这样做 你会讨厌你的样子 你会讨厌你的声音 |
| 29 | When you leave it for 24 hours, everybody looks more sexy sounds more sexy after 24 hours | 当你离开它24小时, 每个人都看起来更性感 听上去更性感 24小时后 |
| 30 | Okay, so make sure you do that now once you've left it for 24 hours | 好吧,所以确保你现在做到这一点, 一旦你离开它24小时 |
| 31 | Here's what you do and this is excruciating you have to do this over three days now | 这就是你所做的,这令人费解 你必须在三天内完成 |
| 32 | You record the video you leave it for 24 hours. | 你录下24小时的录像 |
| 33 | And then the next part i'm about to teach you is a three-day process | 接下来我要教你的是 三天的过程 |
| 34 | Okay, it takes three days to do this. | 好吧,这需要三天的时间。 |
| 35 | So then on day one of your review | 在你评论的第一天 |
| 36 | Day one of the review what you do is you do an auditory review | 第一天,你做一个听力检查 |
| 37 | And an auditory review this is where you get your video | 而听觉回顾 这也是你拿到视频的地方 |
| 38 | And you put the sound on as loud as you want but put it on pretty high | 大声点,但高点 |
| 39 | Then you press play and then you turn your phone around or you turn yourself around from the computer with a notepad | 然后按键,然后把手机转过来 或者用笔记本从电脑上转过来 |
| 40 | And then you just listen to yourself and the powerful thing here is you're listening to yourself for 20 minutes | 然后你只听自己和强大的事情 在这里,你正在听自己20分钟 |
| 41 | Don't do 1.5 speed. | 别做1.5速. |
| 42 | Don't do two times speed hear yourself as you are | 不要做两倍的速度 听到自己是 |
| 43 | So when you're listening to yourself just from the sound point of view | 所以,当你在听自己 从声音的角度 |
| 44 | You're going to hear things in your voice | 你会听到你的声音 |
| 45 | You've never heard before and you're going to hear things come out at the 10 minute mark at the 13 minute mark | 你从来没有听说过, 你会听到的东西出来 在10分钟 13分钟 |
| 46 | That didn't really come out in the first 10 minutes | 前10分钟没说出来 |
| 47 | But because you've recorded the 20 minute video with a better sample size | 但因为你录制了20分钟的录像 样本尺寸更好 |
| 48 | You're going to get better results and you're going to be working with better data | 你会得到更好的结果, 你会工作 与更好的数据 |
| 49 | So now in those 20 minutes take as many notes as you can and start thinking to yourself | 所以在这20分钟里 尽量多多的笔记 开始思考自己 |
| 50 | Vocal foundations rate of speech volume pitch and melody tonality pause | 语音音量投注和旋律音量暂停的声波基数率 |
| 51 | And now you're going through the process of knowledge application on yourself | 现在你正在经历知识应用的过程 |
| 52 | You'll notice so many different things about the way you use rate of speech or the lack of use of rate of speech | 你会注意到很多不同的事情 关于你如何使用语音率 或者没有使用语音率 |
| 53 | So many different things about the different emotions that you share | 这么多不同的事情 关于不同的情感 你分享 |
| 54 | You'll hear happiness. | 你会听到幸福。 |
| 55 | You'll hear joy. | 你会听到快乐。 |
| 56 | You'll hear sadness and then you'll hear also | 你会听到悲伤 然后你也会听到 |
| 57 | RBF one of the things that I used to do that I wasn't even aware of was I used to do a lip smack | RBF我以前做过的事之一 我甚至不知道我曾经做过一个唇拍 |
| 58 | When I speak my mouth starts to get a little bit dry and I do this. | 当我说话时,我的嘴开始变得有点干燥,我这样做。 |
| 59 | Okay | 还好 |
| 60 | I kept doing that. | 我一直这样 |
| 61 | It was ridiculous | 太荒谬了 |
| 62 | And it was a habit that I formed over 10 20 years that had become so ingrained into my mind that | 那是我十几年来形成的习惯 已经深深扎根在我的脑海里 |
| 63 | It became invisible to me. | 它变得我看不见。 |
| 64 | So what you're doing with this process is you're making the invisible now visible again | 所以,你正在做的这个过程 是,你使隐形 现在再次可见 |
| 65 | Then that's it. | 就这样 |
| 66 | That's all you do for the day one of the review | 这是你所做的 第一天审查 |
| 67 | Then now you move to the day two of the review now once you're at the day two of the review | 瞷瞷碞锣材Ω |
| 68 | Here you want to do a visual | 在这里,你想做一个视觉 |
| 69 | review | 审查 |
| 70 | And the visual review is when you grab your video whether it's on your computer or your phone | 而视觉评论是当你拿起你的视频 无论是在你的电脑或手机上 |
| 71 | You turn the sound completely down and completely off | 你把声音完全关掉 |
| 72 | now | 现在 |
| 73 | You just watch yourself and this one's a lot harder than the first one for many | 你只要小心一点,这个比第一个难很多 |
| 74 | Most people don't look like looking at themselves | 大多数人都不像是看着自己 |
| 75 | Learn to love what you got learn to love yourself for who you are flaunt what you got in this life. | 学会热爱你得到的 学会爱自己 为谁你炫耀 你在这人生中得到了什么。 |
| 76 | Come on | 来吧 |
| 77 | Come on already, right? | 来吧,对不对? |
| 78 | So once you learn to love yourself through this process | 所以,一旦你学会爱自己 在这个过程中 |
| 79 | So this is the part of the process | 所以这是过程的一部分 |
| 80 | This is a part of the process of learning to love yourself because the longer you look at yourself | 这是学习爱自己过程的一部分 因为看着自己越久 |
| 81 | The better looking you start to get too. | 你越看越好 开始得到。 |
| 82 | So it's true. | 故曰实. |
| 83 | So i've been looking at myself for a long time | 所以我看着自己很久了 |
| 84 | So I think i'm gorgeous. | 所以我觉得我很漂亮。 |
| 85 | So as you go through this video now when you're watching yourself | 所以当你在看视频的时候 |
| 86 | There are so many unfun non-functional behaviors that will start to reveal themselves slowly | 这么多的不好玩的不起作用的行为 将开始慢慢地显现出来 |
| 87 | You'll start to see it and there's actually a difference between watching yourself at two time speed and normal speed | 你会开始看到它, 实际上有区别 在观察自己 在两个时间的速度和正常的速度 |
| 88 | But I suggest watching yourself at normal speed first, but again now you're going through body language | 但我建议你先以正常的速度观察自己 但现在你又在学身体语言 |
| 89 | Think about your facial expressions get real specific here because you've got 20 minutes as you're doing this first review | 想想你的面部表情 这里变得非常具体 因为你有20分钟的时间做第一次评论 |
| 90 | Notice do I move my eyebrows at all? | 注意我有没有动眉毛? |
| 91 | Oh my goodness. | 天呐 |
| 92 | I'm watching myself. | 我看着自己。 |
| 93 | I'm not moving my eyebrows at all | 我完全不动眉毛 |
| 94 | What about your lips your mouth, right? | 你的嘴唇怎么样? |
| 95 | Pay attention | 注意一点 |
| 96 | Am I using my hand gestures? | 我在用手势吗? |
| 97 | Am I moving at all with movement? | 我动了吗? |
| 98 | What about my eye contact? | 我的眼睛接触怎么办? |
| 99 | What am I doing with my eyes? | 我的眼睛在干吗? |
| 100 | Start taking notes and really start looking at yourself with a magnifying glass and and do so lovingly | 开始做笔记 真正开始看着自己 用放大镜 并做如此可爱 |
| 101 | Don't do so don't write stuff like oh my god. | 不要这样做,不要写的东西 像我的上帝。 |
| 102 | I suck. | 我烂透了 |
| 103 | No, just just pay attention and observe | 不,只是注意观察 |
| 104 | There's no need to judge any of it | 没必要做任何判断 |
| 105 | Just write down what you see and what you currently notice and I want to remind you again what we're doing here is | 记下你现在所看到的一切 我想再次提醒你 我们在这里做什么 |
| 106 | We're applying the things we learn to ourselves | 我们把学到的东西应用到自己身上 |
| 107 | Most people never do that | 大多数人从不这么做 |
| 108 | Most people will listen to our podcast on financial freedom and and how to create financial independence | 大多数人会听我们的播客 关于金融自由 以及如何创造金融独立 |
| 109 | They'll go wow that concept's really cool this concept's really cool that concept's really cool | 他们会去哇,这个概念真的很酷 这个概念真的很酷,这个概念真的很酷 |
| 110 | But then they'll never look at their own investing portfolio and apply the things they've learned to their own | 但是他们从不看自己的投资组合 把自己学到的东西运用到自己身上 |
| 111 | Situation and it's the people who take knowledge learn knowledge and then immediately apply take knowledge immediately apply | 情况,是人们学习知识,然后立即应用,然后立即应用知识 |
| 112 | These are the people who succeed the most so please go through this process and apply all of the wonderful lessons | 这些人最成功 所以请通过这个过程 运用所有精彩的教训 |
| 113 | You're learning so far to yourself | 你学得这么远 |
| 114 | So now once you've done the visual review and the auditory review | 所以现在,一旦你完成了视觉审查和听力审查 |
| 115 | I want you to do a day three review then you leave it for day two now you move to day three | 我要你做三天的检讨 然后你就离开第二天 现在你搬到第三天 |
| 116 | the day three | 第3天时 |
| 117 | The day three review is when you get the video or the audio you've got of yourself transcribed | 3天的回顾是 当你得到的视频或音频 你得到了自己转写 |
| 118 | And once you get it transcribed | 一旦你得到它转写 |
| 119 | You print out the transcription and make sure you use a transcription service that doesn't | 你打印出笔录 确保你使用笔录服务 不 |
| 120 | Hide all of your ums and ahs your non-words and filler words a lot of them have options now where you can say make sure | 藏好你所有的东西,嗯,啊,你的非字和填充词 有很多可以选择的 |
| 121 | You transcribe exactly as I say make sure you put that in the prompt | 你照我说的做,确保你马上把书写好 |
| 122 | And once you've done that it will now transcribe for you exactly what you said sounds and everything print it out | 一旦你做了,它现在会给你转录 确切的你说的话 声音和一切打印出来 |
| 123 | Visually in front of you and then I want you to sit down with a highlighter | 直视你的面前,然后我要你坐下 与一个亮点 |
| 124 | Sit down with a highlighter and I want you to literally highlight all of the non-words and filler words | 坐下来用亮点来突出所有非字和填字 |
| 125 | That you say on a daily basis that you say more than five to ten times within that 20 minute | 你每天在20分钟内说5到10次以上 |
| 126 | 20 minute audio right or that 20 minute video and start to highlight it | 右转20分钟或右转20分钟的视频 开始强调 |
| 127 | What am I saying on a repetitive basis? | 我在重复地说什么? |
| 128 | Do I say the words? | 我会说那些话吗? |
| 129 | Do you know what I mean? | 你知道我的意思吗? |
| 130 | Do I say the words? | 我会说那些话吗? |
| 131 | Can you understand what I'm saying? | 你能明白我在说什么吗? |
| 132 | Do you know one of the ones that I used to say okay? | 你知道我曾经说过的吗? |
| 133 | I used to say the word okay all the time because when I was creating content | 我经常说"没事" 因为当我创作内容时 |
| 134 | I got no feedback from anybody because I'm sitting right now here with a camera, right? | 我没有得到任何人的反馈 因为我现在坐在这里 与相机,对不对? |
| 135 | There's other people in the studio. | 工作室里还有其他人 |
| 136 | I'm literally just talking to the camera | 我只是在和摄像机说话 |
| 137 | So because I'm talking to the camera, I was always looking for that validation. | 所以,因为我在和摄像机说话, 我总是在寻找这个验证。 |
| 138 | So I would say at the end of my sentences | 所以我在句子的最后说 |
| 139 | Okay, okay | 好吧,没关系 |
| 140 | Okay | 还好 |
| 141 | My goodness, it was ridiculous. | 我的上帝,这是荒谬的。 |
| 142 | It was nauseating. | 这太恶心了 |
| 143 | It was crazy | 太疯狂了 |
| 144 | Didn't really didn't realize I did that until I went through this process | 直到我经历了这个过程 我才意识到我这样做 |
| 145 | So after you've done the day one day two day three review you've done the auditory visual and the transcription review | 一天完成一天 两天 三天 完成听觉视觉和记录 |
| 146 | Once you've done that you will now have so many different notes | 一旦你做了,你现在会有这么多不同的音符 |
| 147 | That are tailored to you. | 这是适合你的。 |
| 148 | It's all tailored to you. | 都是为你量身定制的 |
| 149 | It's not generic advice | 这不是一般建议 |
| 150 | It's specific advice that you are applying to yourself because the person that's going to save you in this life | 这是你对自己的建议 因为这个生命中要救你的人 |
| 151 | The person that's going to help you the most in this life is you it's you | 这辈子最能帮你的人就是你 |
| 152 | It's you | 是你们 |
| 153 | So, please recognize this the biggest mistake | 所以,请承认这个最大的错误 |
| 154 | I see a lot of my students make in other areas of their life | 我看到很多我的学生 在他们生活的其他方面 |
| 155 | For example is when they're going to look for a new book to read they always go to | 例如,当他们要寻找一本新书 读他们总是去 |
| 156 | One of the top 10 books currently in the marketplace the top 10 books might have nothing to do with the goals | 目前市场上的十大书之一 这十大书可能与目标无关 |
| 157 | You're trying to achieve in your life | 你试图在你的生活中实现 |
| 158 | If you go and seek general advice, you're going to get general results | 如果你去寻求一般的建议, 你会得到一般的结果 |
| 159 | And that's the biggest problem I see in the self-help industry is people are going. | 这是我在自助行业看到的最大的问题 就是人们会去。 |
| 160 | Oh, what are the 10 books? | 10本书是什么? |
| 161 | I should read. | 我该念了 |
| 162 | Oh, what are the top 10 lessons? | 哦,什么是前十课? |
| 163 | I should learn you should think about what goal you're trying to achieve | 我该学会你该想一想 你想达到什么目标 |
| 164 | And then pick the specific books that's going to help you on your journey in this life | 然后选一些书 帮助你度过这段旅程 |
| 165 | I hope that helps you because what you're doing is exactly that with this process | 我希望这能帮助你,因为你正在做的 正是这个过程 |
| 166 | But then once you've got this now what you do then is you create a plan | 但是,一旦你得到了这个 现在,你做什么是 你创造一个计划 |
| 167 | So a 12-week plan what you do with the 12-week plan is you essentially just pick one | 所以,一个12周的计划,你做什么 12周的计划,你基本上 选择一个 |
| 168 | You just pick one thing you want to work on | 你只要选一件你想做的事 |
| 169 | So from your list of things you got from auditory visual and the transcription from the list of things you got to work on | 所以,从你的列表 从听力视觉 和复制 从列表 你的工作 |
| 170 | You just pick one and then at this point you're going to go but then which one do I pick? | 你只要挑一个 然后此时你要去 但我选哪一个? |
| 171 | Oh my god | 天呐 |
| 172 | Doesn't matter just pick one | 随便挑一个 |
| 173 | Don't fall victim to analysis paralysis. | 不要成为分析瘫痪的受害者。 |
| 174 | Just pick one. | 随便选一个 |
| 175 | So say for example you pick oh then I need to I need to pick volume | 举个例子,你挑 哦,然后我需要我挑音量 |
| 176 | Okay, great. | 好吧,伟大的。 |
| 177 | Well then the first thing you do is you work on volume | 那你首先要做的是研究音量 |
| 178 | That's the first thing you work on | 这是你第一件工作 |
| 179 | Is volume now once you've worked on volume | 现在的音量,一旦你研究过音量 |
| 180 | What you do is you work on volume for the next seven days | 接下来的七天你都在做体积研究 |
| 181 | That's what you work on for the entire week and for the seven days I highly suggest on your phone | 这就是你整个星期的工作 和七天 我强烈建议你的电话 |
| 182 | You replace the picture of your gorgeous family and you put the word volume | 你用你漂亮家庭的画来代替你 把字卷放进去 |
| 183 | Why because what you're doing here is you're undergoing behavioral change. | 为什么因为你在这里所做的是 你正在经历行为改变。 |
| 184 | You're literally going through behavioral change | 你正在经历行为改变 |
| 185 | So you need 200 reminders a day and we know that we look at our phones more than 200 times a day | 所以你每天需要200次提醒 我们知道我们每天看手机超过200次 |
| 186 | So because of that you need that constant reminder to change your behavior that you've been repeating for the last 10 20 30 years | 所以,因为你需要不断的提醒 改变你的行为 过去10,20,30年你一直在重复 |
| 187 | Of your life, you literally need that level of reminding | 你的生命中,你实际上需要 提醒的水平 |
| 188 | So once you've got that for that whole week | 所以,一旦你得到了它 这整个星期 |
| 189 | If your volume is normally a three out of ten you're trying to push it to a five or six out of ten as your base volume | 如果你的体积一般是十分之三 你就想把体积推到十分之五六 |
| 190 | Great. | 不错 |
| 191 | So you keep doing it every time you see a reminder you're like about to go into a meeting stronger volume vince stronger volume | 所以每次你看到提醒,你就会继续做 你就像要去参加一个会议 更强的体积,更强的体积 |
| 192 | Oh gotta remind it before I go into the seat of the family. | 哦,我得提醒它 在我进入家庭的座位之前。 |
| 193 | 嘿,大家好,我们走 Hey, everybody. | |
| 194 | Oh dad's home | 爸爸回来了 |
| 195 | Hello, right and you start playing with your voice, right? | 你好,你开始玩 你的声音,对不对? |
| 196 | And you keep doing this to the end of the week and what do you do at the end of the week? | 你一直这样到周末 你周末做什么? |
| 197 | Well at the end of the week what you do is very simple | 周末你做的很简单 |
| 198 | At the end of the week you record and review yourself again you record yourself again | 这周结束时,你再次记录和检讨自己 你再次记录自己 |
| 199 | On the phone and you do a very simple recording. | 在电话上你做一个非常简单的录音。 |
| 200 | It's a five minute recording at this point | 这是五分钟的录音 |
| 201 | You're not doing a 20 minute recording just doing a five minute recording of you answering more impromptu questions | 你没有做20分钟的录音 只是做了5分钟的录音 你回答更多的即兴问题 |
| 202 | And again, just go to chat gbt for this. | 再说一遍,去聊这个 |
| 203 | What are some great ice-breaking questions? | 什么是一些伟大的破冰问题? |
| 204 | I can ask a stranger when I first meet someone so practice those and we'll ask you a couple of questions | 我可以问陌生人 当我第一次遇到一个人 这样练习,我们会问你几个问题 |
| 205 | Just answer it on camera and when you're reviewing that video | 在镜头上回答 当你在看那段视频时 |
| 206 | Watch have I increased my base volume? | 看我有没有增加我的基数? |
| 207 | And what you're going to find is you'll probably watch that video and you go. | 你会发现你可能会看那段视频 然后离开 |
| 208 | Oh my goodness | 天呐 |
| 209 | I haven't improved my volume at all. | 我完全没有提高体积 |
| 210 | What why well then guess what you're doing for week two in week two | 猜猜你为什么在第二周做什么? |
| 211 | You're working on volume | 你在做体积研究 |
| 212 | Again. | 再来 |
| 213 | Yep. | 对 |
| 214 | That's right. | 没错 |
| 215 | You're working on volume again for the next seven days | 接下来七天你又在做体积研究 |
| 216 | And you're like what this is I don't want to do it again | 你就像现在这样 我不想再这样 |
| 217 | You must understand something a behavior that you've been repeating for the last 20 years | 你必须明白过去20年你一直重复的行为 |
| 218 | Do you think you're going to be able to change it within a week? | 你以为你一周内就能改变吗? |
| 219 | For some of you sure maybe but that's about 10 percent of my students for 90 percent of you | 对你们中有些人来说,也许可以肯定,但你们中90%的人 大约占我学生的10% |
| 220 | It's going to take you a little more time and that's okay | 这需要你多一点时间,没关系的 |
| 221 | So then what you do for the next seven days you keep focusing on volume | 那么接下来的七天里你做什么 你一直专注于体积 |
| 222 | What do you do at the end of that week? | 那周末你会做什么? |
| 223 | You guessed it you do record and review | 你猜你做记录和审查 |
| 224 | And as you do record and review this time you check again | 这次你再查一次 |
| 225 | Have I improved my base volume and what you're going to find is for some of you will take you three to four weeks | 我有没有改进我的基数 而你们中有些人需要三到四个星期 |
| 226 | And you're better change that | 你最好改变这一点 |
| 227 | And this is not a 12-week plan the whole 12-week plan thing that I wrote there that 12 there that's an illusion | 这不是一个12周的计划 整个12周计划的事情 我写在那里,12 这是一个幻觉 |
| 228 | It's an illusion that I create so that people don't get overwhelmed because it's not a 12-week plan | 那是我制造的幻觉 以免人们被压抑 因为这不是一个12周的计划 |
| 229 | Do you know what it actually is? | 你知道这是什么吗? |
| 230 | It's a life plan | 这是一个生活计划 |
| 231 | You keep doing this | 你继续这样 |
| 232 | I'm still doing this right now | 我现在还在做 |
| 233 | One of the things that i'm improving is because every time I run my classes | 我改善的一件事是 每次我办课 |
| 234 | I send my videos of my classes to different mentors and one of the key skills that i'm trying to improve is i'm trying to | 我把我的课堂录像发给不同的导师 我试图提高的关键技能之一 就是努力 |
| 235 | Learn to be more humorous | 学着幽默一点 |
| 236 | Again, i'm not trying to be a stand-up comedian. | 再说一遍,我并不想当喜剧演员 |
| 237 | I'm not maybe at some point in my life | 我这辈子也许不是在某个时候 |
| 238 | I might try that chapter, but i'm not trying to be a stand-up comedian, but I want to learn the art of humor | 我可能尝试那一章, 但我不想成为一个站立的喜剧演员, 但我想学习幽默的艺术 |
| 239 | Why well the art of humor is very powerful | 为什么幽默的艺术非常强大 |
| 240 | The art of humor is an absolute superpower in the world of communication and the people who are more humorous and can make people laugh | 幽默艺术是沟通世界中绝对的超级力量 以及那些更幽默、更能让人笑的人 |
| 241 | They are able to build rapport with people | 他们能够与人建立关系 |
| 242 | Like this so then I send my workshop to to andrew tarvin who's a good friend of mine | 这样我就派我的工作室去给 Andrew Tarvin 他是我的好朋友 |
| 243 | He's a he's a comedian and he gives me tips on how to improve | 他是一个喜剧演员 他给我如何改进的提示 |
| 244 | So then what am I doing with my current life plan? | 那我现在的人生计划怎么办? |
| 245 | Well my life plan right now | 我现在的生活计划 |
| 246 | Right now in my life plan. | 现在在我的人生计划中。 |
| 247 | It looks like this | 看起来像这样 |
| 248 | So if I was up to my let's say for example week three i'm working on humor | 所以,如果我在做我的,让我们说 例如第三周,我在研究幽默 |
| 249 | And it's the rules of three i'm working on something. | 这是三个规则,我在做一些事情。 |
| 250 | Oh i'm working on something exactly called the rules of three | 哦,我正在研究一个 完全叫规则三 |
| 251 | right during my lunchtime sessions during my | 就在我午餐时 |
| 252 | Classes i'm doing certain | 班级我肯定 |
| 253 | Humor moments i'm creating certain humor moments where i'm practicing the rules of three | 幽默的瞬间 我创造了一些幽默的瞬间 |
| 254 | So then i'm going to keep working on that until I get a little more proficient with it | 所以我要继续研究 直到我更熟练一点 |
| 255 | And then i'm going to move on to the next thing and that's the thing about communication skills is that it's a life plan | 接下来我要继续 接下来的事情 那就是沟通技巧 |
| 256 | I'm still working on it. | 我还在努力 |
| 257 | I've been working on this skill set for the last 15 plus years | 过去15年里我一直在研究这个技能 |
| 258 | So it never ends and you just keep going through this process | 所以,它没有结束,你只是 继续经历这个过程 |
| 259 | You don't stop and the reason why I bring this up is because of one word one of my biggest values in my life | 你没有停下来,我提出这个理由 是因为我生命中最大的价值之一 |
| 260 | Is what? | 是吗? |
| 261 | kaizen | 凯泽恩 |
| 262 | And kaizen is a japanese word that speaks to continuous improvement | 和kaizen是一个日本字 说不断改进 |
| 263 | Small incremental improvements every single day forever if you just improve one percent every single day | 如果你每天只提高1%, 每一天都会有小的增量改进 |
| 264 | Over a course of a year | 一年间 |
| 265 | You're 30 plus times better | 你是30倍以上,还好 |
| 266 | I think it was 37 times better right wild right isn't that crazy just by improving one percent a day | 我认为这是37倍的好 右 疯狂不是那么疯狂 只是通过提高1%的一天 |
| 267 | But I never stop and that's one of my superpowers. | 但我从未停止过,这是我的超能力之一。 |
| 268 | I'm relentless with it. | 我对它很无情 |
| 269 | So again | 还是这样 |
| 270 | Very long answer to a short question, but I wanted to give you the full depth of it | 回答一个简短的问题很长, 但我想告诉你它的全部深度 |
| 271 | So just create that plan first you build the awareness so you can apply everything you've learned you're learning to yourself | 所以,只要创造这个计划 首先你建立意识 这样你就可以应用 你学到的一切 自己学习 |
| 272 | Then you put it into a plan and you work on one thing at a time | 然后把它放进计划里 一次做一件事 |
| 273 | So | 这么说 |
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|---|---|---|
| 0:00 | This is going to be you looking into the communication mirror because most people have never looked into the communication mirror | 这将会是你看着通讯镜 因为大多数人从来没有看过通讯镜 |
| 0:05 | I mean every morning you look into the mirror to style your hair to do your makeup | 我的意思是,每天早上你看着镜子 给头发梳妆 |
| 0:08 | You do all of this by looking into the mirror | 你看着镜子做这一切 |
| 0:10 | So let me give you the exact process of what I would do first of all | 让我告诉你我首先要做什么的具体过程 |
| 0:13 | I want you to record a five minute video | 我要你录下五分钟的视频 |
| 0:16 | Five minute video of yourself speaking | 5分钟的视频,你说话 |
| 0:18 | Now, why do you create this five minute video of yourself speaking? | 现在,你为什么 创建这5分钟的视频 自己说话? |
| 0:22 | Well, you create this five minute video so that you can have something to watch back | 好吧,你创造这5分钟的视频 这样你就可以有东西可以回看 |
| 0:25 | If I asked you now just to think about the way you communicate you wouldn't have a very accurate idea of how you do that | 如果我现在让你考虑一下你沟通的方式 你就不会非常准确地理解你是如何做到的 |
| 0:30 | So I get you to film the video now. | 所以我让你现在拍录像。 |
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|---|---|---|
| 1 | This is going to be you looking into the communication mirror because most people have never looked into the communication mirror | 这将会是你看着通讯镜 因为大多数人从来没有看过通讯镜 |
| 2 | I mean every morning you look into the mirror to style your hair to do your makeup | 我的意思是,每天早上你看着镜子 给头发梳妆 |
| 3 | You do all of this by looking into the mirror | 你看着镜子做这一切 |
| 4 | So let me give you the exact process of what I would do first of all | 让我告诉你我首先要做什么的具体过程 |
| 5 | I want you to record a five minute video | 我要你录下五分钟的视频 |
| 6 | Five minute video of yourself speaking | 5分钟的视频,你说话 |
| 7 | Now, why do you create this five minute video of yourself speaking? | 现在,你为什么 创建这5分钟的视频 自己说话? |
| 8 | Well, you create this five minute video so that you can have something to watch back | 好吧,你创造这5分钟的视频 这样你就可以有东西可以回看 |
| 9 | If I asked you now just to think about the way you communicate you wouldn't have a very accurate idea of how you do that | 如果我现在让你考虑一下你沟通的方式 你就不会非常准确地理解你是如何做到的 |
| 10 | So I get you to film the video now. | 所以我让你现在拍录像。 |
| 11 | You're going to have a very accurate | 你会有一个非常准确的 |
| 12 | Example to go look at so just go to chat gbt and ask chat gbt a question like what are five questions to ask myself? | 举个例子去看看,所以去聊天 gbt 问聊天 gbt 像什么是五个问题问我自己? |
| 13 | Which would help me reveal | 这会帮助我透露 |
| 14 | Insights about who I am as a person hit record and then just talk and go | 洞察一下我作为个人的身份 记录下来,然后只是说话然后走 |
| 15 | Oh, the first question is and then just talk | 哦,第一个问题是,然后只是说话 |
| 16 | It's really important that you improvise the whole thing | 这真的很重要,你即兴发挥整个事情 |
| 17 | The reason why it needs to be improvised is because I now want to tease out the non-functional behaviors that show themselves | 之所以需要即兴表演,是因为我现在想挑逗那些不起作用的行为 |
| 18 | When you're in an unprepared situation | 当你处于无备状态 |
| 19 | And then you're going to get you as you not you as perfect you because you've rehearsed a five minute script | 然后,你会得到你 作为你没有你 完美的你 因为你已经排练了5分钟的剧本 |
| 20 | And you get to do it over and over and over again, right? | 然后你可以一遍又一遍地做,对吧? |
| 21 | And listen the more advanced version | 听着更先进的版本 |
| 22 | And I really mean this is not five. | 我真的说这不是五个。 |
| 23 | It's 20 minutes | 20分钟了 |
| 24 | You're probably thinking oh my are you serious 20 minutes? | 你大概在想哦 我是认真的20分钟? |
| 25 | Yeah, i'm serious because once you go 20 minutes | 是啊,我是认真的,因为一旦你走20分钟 |
| 26 | Now you're going to collect an incredible sample of all the different non-functional behaviors that exist within your communication | 现在你们要收集一个不可思议的样本 收集你们沟通中存在的 不同非功能行为 |
| 27 | Now after you do the 20 minute video, you must leave it for a day | 拍完20分钟的录像后 一定要放一天 |
| 28 | Okay | 还好 |
| 29 | You must leave it for a day | 你必须离开一天 |
| 30 | Don't look at it straight away because if you do you're going to hate the way you look you're going to hate the way you sound | 不要马上看,因为如果你这样做 你会讨厌你的样子 你会讨厌你的声音 |
| 31 | When you leave it for 24 hours, everybody looks more sexy sounds more sexy after 24 hours | 当你离开它24小时, 每个人都看起来更性感 听上去更性感 24小时后 |
| 32 | Okay, so make sure you do that now once you've left it for 24 hours | 好吧,所以确保你现在做到这一点, 一旦你离开它24小时 |
| 33 | Here's what you do and this is excruciating you have to do this over three days now | 这就是你所做的,这令人费解 你必须在三天内完成 |
| 34 | You record the video you leave it for 24 hours. | 你录下24小时的录像 |
| 35 | And then the next part i'm about to teach you is a three-day process | 接下来我要教你的是 三天的过程 |
| 36 | Okay, it takes three days to do this. | 好吧,这需要三天的时间。 |
| 37 | So then on day one of your review | 在你评论的第一天 |
| 38 | Day one of the review what you do is you do an auditory review | 第一天,你做一个听力检查 |
| 39 | And an auditory review this is where you get your video | 而听觉回顾 这也是你拿到视频的地方 |
| 40 | And you put the sound on as loud as you want but put it on pretty high | 大声点,但高点 |
| 41 | Then you press play and then you turn your phone around or you turn yourself around from the computer with a notepad | 然后按键,然后把手机转过来 或者用笔记本从电脑上转过来 |
| 42 | And then you just listen to yourself and the powerful thing here is you're listening to yourself for 20 minutes | 然后你只听自己和强大的事情 在这里,你正在听自己20分钟 |
| 43 | Don't do 1.5 speed. | 别做1.5速. |
| 44 | Don't do two times speed hear yourself as you are | 不要做两倍的速度 听到自己是 |
| 45 | So when you're listening to yourself just from the sound point of view | 所以,当你在听自己 从声音的角度 |
| 46 | You're going to hear things in your voice | 你会听到你的声音 |
| 47 | You've never heard before and you're going to hear things come out at the 10 minute mark at the 13 minute mark | 你从来没有听说过, 你会听到的东西出来 在10分钟 13分钟 |
| 48 | That didn't really come out in the first 10 minutes | 前10分钟没说出来 |
| 49 | But because you've recorded the 20 minute video with a better sample size | 但因为你录制了20分钟的录像 样本尺寸更好 |
| 50 | You're going to get better results and you're going to be working with better data | 你会得到更好的结果, 你会工作 与更好的数据 |
| 51 | So now in those 20 minutes take as many notes as you can and start thinking to yourself | 所以在这20分钟里 尽量多多的笔记 开始思考自己 |
| 52 | Vocal foundations rate of speech volume pitch and melody tonality pause | 语音音量投注和旋律音量暂停的声波基数率 |
| 53 | And now you're going through the process of knowledge application on yourself | 现在你正在经历知识应用的过程 |
| 54 | You'll notice so many different things about the way you use rate of speech or the lack of use of rate of speech | 你会注意到很多不同的事情 关于你如何使用语音率 或者没有使用语音率 |
| 55 | So many different things about the different emotions that you share | 这么多不同的事情 关于不同的情感 你分享 |
| 56 | You'll hear happiness. | 你会听到幸福。 |
| 57 | You'll hear joy. | 你会听到快乐。 |
| 58 | You'll hear sadness and then you'll hear also | 你会听到悲伤 然后你也会听到 |
| 59 | RBF one of the things that I used to do that I wasn't even aware of was I used to do a lip smack | RBF我以前做过的事之一 我甚至不知道我曾经做过一个唇拍 |
| 60 | When I speak my mouth starts to get a little bit dry and I do this. | 当我说话时,我的嘴开始变得有点干燥,我这样做。 |
| 61 | Okay | 还好 |
| 62 | I kept doing that it was ridiculous | 我不停地做,这是荒谬的 |
| 63 | And it was a habit that I formed over 10 20 years that had become so ingrained into my mind that | 那是我十几年来形成的习惯 已经深深扎根在我的脑海里 |
| 64 | It became invisible to me | 它变得我看不见 |
| 65 | So what you're doing with this process is you're making the invisible now visible again | 所以,你正在做的这个过程 是,你使隐形 现在再次可见 |
| 66 | Then that's it. | 就这样 |
| 67 | That's all you do for the day one of the review | 这是你所做的 第一天审查 |
| 68 | Then now you move to the day two of the review now once you're at the day two of the review | 瞷瞷碞锣材Ω |
| 69 | Here you want to do a visual | 在这里,你想做一个视觉 |
| 70 | review | 审查 |
| 71 | And the visual review is when you grab your video whether it's on your computer or your phone | 而视觉评论是当你拿起你的视频 无论是在你的电脑或手机上 |
| 72 | You turn the sound completely down and completely off | 你把声音完全关掉 |
| 73 | now | 现在 |
| 74 | You just watch yourself and this one's a lot harder than the first one for many | 你只要小心一点,这个比第一个难很多 |
| 75 | Most people don't look like looking at themselves | 大多数人都不像是看着自己 |
| 76 | Learn to love what you got learn to love yourself for who you are flaunt what you got in this life. | 学会热爱你得到的 学会爱自己 为谁你炫耀 你在这人生中得到了什么。 |
| 77 | Come on | 来吧 |
| 78 | Come on already, right? | 来吧,对不对? |
| 79 | So once you learn to love yourself through this process | 所以,一旦你学会爱自己 在这个过程中 |
| 80 | So this is the part of the process | 所以这是过程的一部分 |
| 81 | This is a part of the process of learning to love yourself because the longer you look at yourself the better looking you start | 这是学习爱自己过程的一部分 因为看着自己越长越好看 |
| 82 | To get to so it's true. | 为了达到这个目的 |
| 83 | So i've been looking at myself for a long time. | 所以我一直看着自己很长时间。 |
| 84 | So I think i'm gorgeous | 所以我觉得我很华丽 |
| 85 | So as you go through this video now when you're watching yourself | 所以当你在看视频的时候 |
| 86 | There are so many unfun non-functional behaviors that will start to reveal themselves slowly | 这么多的不好玩的不起作用的行为 将开始慢慢地显现出来 |
| 87 | You'll start to see it and there's actually a difference between watching yourself at two time speed and normal speed | 你会开始看到它, 实际上有区别 在观察自己 在两个时间的速度和正常的速度 |
| 88 | But I suggest watching yourself at normal speed first, but again now you're going through body language | 但我建议你先以正常的速度观察自己 但现在你又在学身体语言 |
| 89 | Think about your facial expressions get real specific here because you've got 20 minutes as you're doing this first review | 想想你的面部表情 这里变得非常具体 因为你有20分钟的时间做第一次评论 |
| 90 | Notice do I move my eyebrows at all? | 注意我有没有动眉毛? |
| 91 | Oh my goodness. | 天呐 |
| 92 | I'm watching myself. | 我看着自己。 |
| 93 | I'm not moving my eyebrows at all | 我完全不动眉毛 |
| 94 | What about your lips your mouth, right? | 你的嘴唇怎么样? |
| 95 | Pay attention | 注意一点 |
| 96 | Am I using my hand gestures? | 我在用手势吗? |
| 97 | Am I moving at all with movement? | 我动了吗? |
| 98 | What about my eye contact? | 我的眼睛接触怎么办? |
| 99 | What am I doing with my eyes? | 我的眼睛在干吗? |
| 100 | Start taking notes and really start looking at yourself with a magnifying glass and and do so lovingly | 开始做笔记 真正开始看着自己 用放大镜 并做如此可爱 |
| 101 | Don't do so don't write stuff like oh my god. | 不要这样做,不要写的东西 像我的上帝。 |
| 102 | I suck. | 我烂透了 |
| 103 | No, just just pay attention and observe | 不,只是注意观察 |
| 104 | There's no need to judge any of it | 没必要做任何判断 |
| 105 | Just write down what you see and what you currently notice and I want to remind you again what we're doing here is | 记下你现在所看到的一切 我想再次提醒你 我们在这里做什么 |
| 106 | We're applying the things we learn to ourselves | 我们把学到的东西应用到自己身上 |
| 107 | Most people never do that | 大多数人从不这么做 |
| 108 | Most people will listen to our podcasts on financial freedom and and how to create financial independence | 大多数人会听我们的播客 关于金融自由 以及如何创造金融独立 |
| 109 | They'll go wow that concept's really cool this concept's really cool that concept's really cool | 他们会去哇,这个概念真的很酷 这个概念真的很酷,这个概念真的很酷 |
| 110 | But then they'll never look at their own investing portfolio and apply the things they've learned to their own | 但是他们从不看自己的投资组合 把自己学到的东西运用到自己身上 |
| 111 | Situation and it's the people who take knowledge learn knowledge and then immediately apply take knowledge immediately apply | 情况,是人们学习知识,然后立即应用,然后立即应用知识 |
| 112 | These are the people who succeed the most so please go through this process and apply all of the wonderful lessons | 这些人最成功 所以请通过这个过程 运用所有精彩的教训 |
| 113 | You're learning so far to yourself | 你学得这么远 |
| 114 | So now once you've done the visual review and the auditory review | 所以现在,一旦你完成了视觉审查和听力审查 |
| 115 | I want you to do a day three review then you leave it for day two now you move to day three | 我要你做三天的检讨 然后你就离开第二天 现在你搬到第三天 |
| 116 | the day three | 第3天时 |
| 117 | The day three review is when you get the video or the audio you've got of yourself transcribed | 3天的回顾是 当你得到的视频或音频 你得到了自己转写 |
| 118 | And once you get it transcribed | 一旦你得到它转写 |
| 119 | You print out the transcription and make sure you use a transcription service | 你打印出笔录 确保使用笔录服务 |
| 120 | That doesn't hide all of your ums and ahs your non-words and filler words a lot of them have options now where you can say | 这并不能隐藏你所有的 ums和啊,你的非字和填充词 很多他们有选择 |
| 121 | Make sure you transcribe exactly as I say make sure you put that in the prompt | 记得按照我说的 准确的记下来 确保你及时把内容写下来 |
| 122 | And once you've done that it will now transcribe for you exactly what you said sounds and everything print it out | 一旦你做了,它现在会给你转录 确切的你说的话 声音和一切打印出来 |
| 123 | Visually in front of you and then I want you to sit down with a highlighter | 直视你的面前,然后我要你坐下 与一个亮点 |
| 124 | Sit down with a highlighter and I want you to literally highlight all of the non-words and filler words | 坐下来用亮点来突出所有非字和填字 |
| 125 | That you say on a daily basis that you say more than five to ten times within that 20 minute | 你每天在20分钟内说5到10次以上 |
| 126 | 20 minute audio right or that 20 minute video and start to highlight it | 右转20分钟或右转20分钟的视频 开始强调 |
| 127 | What am I saying on a repetitive basis? | 我在重复地说什么? |
| 128 | Do I say the words? | 我会说那些话吗? |
| 129 | Do you know what I mean? | 你知道我的意思吗? |
| 130 | Do I say the words? | 我会说那些话吗? |
| 131 | Can you understand what i'm saying? | 你能明白我在说什么吗? |
| 132 | Do you know one of the ones that I used to say okay? | 你知道我曾经说过的吗? |
| 133 | I used to say the word okay all the time because when I was creating content | 我经常说"没事" 因为当我创作内容时 |
| 134 | I got no feedback from anybody because i'm sitting right now here with a camera, right? | 我没有得到任何人的反馈 因为我现在坐在这里 与相机,对不对? |
| 135 | There's other people in the studio, but i'm literally just talking to the camera | 录音室里还有其他人 但我正和摄像机说话 |
| 136 | So because i'm talking to the camera, I was always looking for that validation. | 所以,因为我在和摄影机说话, 我总是在寻找这个验证。 |
| 137 | So I would say at the end of my sentences | 所以我在句子的最后说 |
| 138 | Okay, okay | 好吧,没关系 |
| 139 | Okay | 还好 |
| 140 | My goodness, it was ridiculous. | 我的上帝,这是荒谬的。 |
| 141 | It was nauseating. | 这太恶心了 |
| 142 | It was crazy | 太疯狂了 |
| 143 | Didn't really didn't realize I did that until I went through this process | 直到我经历了这个过程 我才意识到我这样做 |
| 144 | So after you've done the day one day two day three review you've done the auditory visual and the transcription review | 一天完成一天 两天 三天 完成听觉视觉和记录 |
| 145 | Once you've done that you will now have so many different notes | 一旦你做了,你现在会有这么多不同的音符 |
| 146 | That are tailored to you. | 这是适合你的。 |
| 147 | It's all tailored to you. | 都是为你量身定制的 |
| 148 | It's not generic advice | 这不是一般建议 |
| 149 | It's specific advice that you are applying to yourself because the person that's going to save you in this life | 这是你对自己的建议 因为这个生命中要救你的人 |
| 150 | The person that's going to help you the most in this life is you it's you | 这辈子最能帮你的人就是你 |
| 151 | It's you | 是你们 |
| 152 | So, please recognize this the biggest mistake I see a lot of my students make in other areas of their life | 所以,请承认这个最大的错误 我看到我的许多学生 在他们生活的其他领域。 |
| 153 | For example is when they're going to look for a new book to read | 例如,当他们要 寻找一本新书读 |
| 154 | They always go to one of the top 10 books currently in the marketplace | 他们总是到市场上的十大书之一 |
| 155 | The top 10 books might have nothing to do with the goals you're trying to achieve in your life | 前十本书可能与你一生中的目标无关 |
| 156 | If you go and seek general advice, you're going to get general results | 如果你去寻求一般的建议, 你会得到一般的结果 |
| 157 | And that's the biggest problem I see in the self-help industry is people are going | 这是我看到的最大问题 在自助行业 是人们去 |
| 158 | Oh, what are the 10 books I should read? | 我该读的十本书是什么? |
| 159 | Oh, what are the top 10 lessons I should learn you should think about what goal you're trying to achieve | 哦,什么是前十类 我该学到的教训 你应该思考 你试图实现的目标 |
| 160 | And then pick the specific books that's going to help you on your journey in this life | 然后选一些书 帮助你度过这段旅程 |
| 161 | I hope that helps you because what you're doing is exactly that with this process | 我希望这能帮助你,因为你正在做的 正是这个过程 |
| 162 | But then once you've got this now what you do then is you create a plan | 但是,一旦你得到了这个 现在,你做什么是 你创造一个计划 |
| 163 | So a 12-week plan what you do with the 12-week plan | 所以,一个12周计划 你做什么 12周计划 |
| 164 | Is you essentially just pick one | 你根本就是挑一个 |
| 165 | You just pick one thing you want to work on | 你只要选一件你想做的事 |
| 166 | So from your list of things you got from auditory visual and the transcription | 所以,从你的列表 从听觉视觉和抄录 |
| 167 | From the list of things you got to work on you just pick one and then at this point you're going to go | 从你的工作清单中,你只选择一个,然后,此时你要去 |
| 168 | But then which one do I pick? | 我选哪一个? |
| 169 | Oh my god | 天呐 |
| 170 | Doesn't matter just pick one | 随便挑一个 |
| 171 | Don't fall victim to analysis paralysis. | 不要成为分析瘫痪的受害者。 |
| 172 | Just pick one. | 随便选一个 |
| 173 | So say for example you pick oh vin | 举个例子,你选吴文 |
| 174 | I need to I need to pick volume. | 我需要选卷。 |
| 175 | Okay, great. | 好吧,伟大的。 |
| 176 | Well, then the first thing you do is you work on volume | 那你首先要做的是研究音量 |
| 177 | That's the first thing you work on | 这是你第一件工作 |
| 178 | Is volume now once you've worked on volume | 现在的音量,一旦你研究过音量 |
| 179 | What you do is you work on volume for the next seven days | 接下来的七天你都在做体积研究 |
| 180 | That's what you work on for the entire week and for the seven days I highly suggest on your phone | 这就是你整个星期的工作 和七天 我强烈建议你的电话 |
| 181 | You replace the picture of your gorgeous family and you put the word volume | 你用你漂亮家庭的画来代替你 把字卷放进去 |
| 182 | Why because what you're doing here is you're undergoing behavioral change. | 为什么因为你在这里所做的是 你正在经历行为改变。 |
| 183 | You're literally going through behavioral change | 你正在经历行为改变 |
| 184 | So you need 200 reminders a day and we know that we look at our phones more than 200 times a day | 所以你每天需要200次提醒 我们知道我们每天看手机超过200次 |
| 185 | So because of that you need that constant reminder to change your behavior that you've been repeating for the last 10 20 30 years | 所以,因为你需要不断的提醒 改变你的行为 过去10,20,30年你一直在重复 |
| 186 | Of your life, you literally need that level of reminding | 你的生命中,你实际上需要 提醒的水平 |
| 187 | So once you've got that for that whole week | 所以,一旦你得到了它 这整个星期 |
| 188 | If your volume is normally a three out of ten | 如果你的体积一般是十分之三 |
| 189 | You're trying to push it to a five or six out of ten as your base volume great | 你想把它推到十分之五六 作为你的基数 |
| 190 | So you keep doing it every time you see a reminder you're like about to go into a meeting stronger volume vince stronger volume | 所以每次你看到提醒,你就会继续做 你就像要去参加一个会议 更强的体积,更强的体积 |
| 191 | Oh gotta remind it before I go into the seat of the family. | 哦,我得提醒它 在我进入家庭的座位之前。 |
| 192 | 嘿,大家好,我们走 Hey, everybody. | |
| 193 | Oh dad's home | 爸爸回来了 |
| 194 | Hello, right and you start playing with your voice, right? | 你好,你开始玩 你的声音,对不对? |
| 195 | And you keep doing this to the end of the week and what do you do at the end of the week? | 你一直这样到周末 你周末做什么? |
| 196 | Well at the end of the week what you do is very simple | 周末你做的很简单 |
| 197 | At the end of the week you record and review yourself again you record yourself again | 这周结束时,你再次记录和检讨自己 你再次记录自己 |
| 198 | On the phone and you do a very simple recording. | 在电话上你做一个非常简单的录音。 |
| 199 | It's a five minute recording at this point | 这是五分钟的录音 |
| 200 | You're not doing a 20 minute recording just doing a five minute recording of you answering more impromptu questions | 你没有做20分钟的录音 只是做了5分钟的录音 你回答更多的即兴问题 |
| 201 | And again, just go to chat gbt for this what are some great ice-breaking questions? | 再说一遍,只是去聊gbt的这个 什么是一些伟大的破冰问题? |
| 202 | I can ask a stranger when I first meet someone so practice those and we'll ask you a couple of questions | 我可以问陌生人 当我第一次遇到一个人 这样练习,我们会问你几个问题 |
| 203 | Just answer it on camera and when you're reviewing that video | 在镜头上回答 当你在看那段视频时 |
| 204 | Watch have I increased my base volume? | 看我有没有增加我的基数? |
| 205 | And what you're going to find is you'll probably watch that video and you go. | 你会发现你可能会看那段视频 然后离开 |
| 206 | Oh my goodness | 天呐 |
| 207 | I haven't improved my volume at all. | 我完全没有提高体积 |
| 208 | What why well then guess what you're doing for week two in week two | 猜猜你为什么在第二周做什么? |
| 209 | You're working on volume | 你在做体积研究 |
| 210 | Again. | 再来 |
| 211 | Yep. | 对 |
| 212 | That's right. | 没错 |
| 213 | You're working on volume again for the next seven days | 接下来七天你又在做体积研究 |
| 214 | And you're like what this is I don't want to do it again | 你就像现在这样 我不想再这样 |
| 215 | You must understand something a behavior that you've been repeating for the last 20 years | 你必须明白过去20年你一直重复的行为 |
| 216 | Do you think you're going to be able to change it within a week? | 你以为你一周内就能改变吗? |
| 217 | For some of you sure maybe but that's about 10 percent of my students for 90 percent of you | 对你们中有些人来说,也许可以肯定,但你们中90%的人 大约占我学生的10% |
| 218 | It's going to take you a little more time and that's okay | 这需要你多一点时间,没关系的 |
| 219 | So then what you do for the next seven days you keep focusing on volume | 那么接下来的七天里你做什么 你一直专注于体积 |
| 220 | What do you do at the end of that week? | 那周末你会做什么? |
| 221 | Well, you guessed it you do record and review | 嗯,你猜它 你做记录和审查 |
| 222 | And as you do record and review this time you check again | 这次你再查一次 |
| 223 | Have I improved my base volume and what you're going to find is for some of you will take you three to four weeks | 我有没有改进我的基数 而你们中有些人需要三到四个星期 |
| 224 | And you'll be able to change that | 你会改变的 |
| 225 | And this is not a 12 week plan the whole 12 week plan thing that I wrote there that 12 there | 这不是一个12周计划 整个12周计划的事情 我写在那里,12在那里 |
| 226 | That's an illusion | 那是幻觉 |
| 227 | It's an illusion that I create so that people don't get overwhelmed because it's not a 12 week plan | 那是我制造的幻觉 以免人们被压抑 因为这不是一个12周的计划 |
| 228 | Do you know what it actually is? | 你知道这是什么吗? |
| 229 | It's a life plan | 这是一个生活计划 |
| 230 | You keep doing this | 你继续这样 |
| 231 | I'm still doing this right now | 我现在还在做 |
| 232 | One of the things that i'm improving is because every time I run my classes | 我改善的一件事是 每次我办课 |
| 233 | I send my videos of my classes to different mentors and one of the key skills that i'm trying to improve is i'm trying to | 我把我的课堂录像发给不同的导师 我试图提高的关键技能之一 就是努力 |
| 234 | Learn to be more humorous | 学着幽默一点 |
| 235 | Again, i'm not trying to be a stand-up comedian. | 再说一遍,我并不想当喜剧演员 |
| 236 | I'm not maybe at some point in my life | 我这辈子也许不是在某个时候 |
| 237 | I might try that chapter | 我可以试试那章 |
| 238 | But i'm not trying to be a stand-up comedian, but I want to learn the art of humor. | 但我不是想当个脱口秀的喜剧演员 但我想学习幽默的艺术 |
| 239 | Why? | 为什么? |
| 240 | Well, the art of humor is very powerful | 那么,幽默的艺术是非常强大的 |
| 241 | The art of humor is an absolute superpower in the world of communication and the people who are more humorous and can make people laugh | 幽默艺术是沟通世界中绝对的超级力量 以及那些更幽默、更能让人笑的人 |
| 242 | They are able to build rapport with people | 他们能够与人建立关系 |
| 243 | Like this so then I send my workshop to to andrew tarvin who's a good friend of mine | 这样我就派我的工作室去给 Andrew Tarvin 他是我的好朋友 |
| 244 | He's a he's a comedian and he gives me tips on how to improve | 他是一个喜剧演员 他给我如何改进的提示 |
| 245 | So then what am I doing with my current life plan? | 那我现在的人生计划怎么办? |
| 246 | Well my life plan right now right now in my life plan | 我的生命计划 现在在我的生命计划中 |
| 247 | It looks like this. | 看起来像这样 |
| 248 | So if I was up to my let's say for example week three i'm working on humor | 所以,如果我在做我的,让我们说 例如第三周,我在研究幽默 |
| 249 | And it's the rules of three i'm working on something. | 这是三个规则,我在做一些事情。 |
| 250 | Oh, i'm working on something exactly called the rules of three | 哦,我正在研究一个 完全叫做三的规则 |
| 251 | right during my lunchtime sessions during my | 就在我午餐时 |
| 252 | Classes i'm doing certain | 班级我肯定 |
| 253 | Humor moments i'm creating certain humor moments where i'm practicing the rules of three | 幽默的瞬间 我创造了一些幽默的瞬间 |
| 254 | So then i'm going to keep working on that until I get a little more proficient with it | 所以我要继续研究 直到我更熟练一点 |
| 255 | And then i'm going to move on to the next thing and that's the thing about communication skills is that it's a life plan | 接下来我要继续 接下来的事情 那就是沟通技巧 |
| 256 | I'm still working on it. | 我还在努力 |
| 257 | I've been working on this skill set for the last 15 plus years | 过去15年里我一直在研究这个技能 |
| 258 | So it never ends and you just keep going through this process | 所以,它没有结束,你只是 继续经历这个过程 |
| 259 | You don't stop and the reason why I bring this up is because of one word one of my biggest values in my life is what? | 你没有停下来,而我提出这个理由 是因为一个字 我生命中最大的价值之一是什么? |
| 260 | kaizen | 凯泽恩 |
| 261 | And kaizen is a japanese word that speaks to continuous improvement | 和kaizen是一个日本字 说不断改进 |
| 262 | Small incremental improvements every single day forever | 每天都有小进步 |
| 263 | If you just improve one percent every single day | 如果你每天只提高1% |
| 264 | over the course of a year | 一年期间 |
| 265 | You're 30 plus times better | 你是30倍以上,还好 |
| 266 | I think it was 37 times better right wild right isn't that crazy just by improving one percent a day | 我认为这是37倍的好 右 疯狂不是那么疯狂 只是通过提高1%的一天 |
| 267 | But I never stop and that's one of my superpowers i'm relentless with it. | 但我从未停止过,这是我的超能力之一 我对此毫不留情。 |
| 268 | So again | 还是这样 |
| 269 | Very long answer to a short question, but I wanted to give you the full depth of it | 回答一个简短的问题很长, 但我想告诉你它的全部深度 |
| 270 | So just create that plan first you build the awareness so you can apply everything you've learned you're learning to yourself | 所以,只要创造这个计划 首先你建立意识 这样你就可以应用 你学到的一切 自己学习 |
| 271 | Then you put it into a plan and you work on one thing at a time | 然后把它放进计划里 一次做一件事 |
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