【英音】如何在英国大学里交朋友
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| 时间 | 英文 | 中文 |
|---|---|---|
| 0:00 | Hey everyone and welcome to today's video. | 大家好 欢迎收看今天的录像 |
| 0:02 | So today, I'm doing a highly requested video in my Back to Uni series, and that is How to Make Friends, which when you first think about it, it sounds like a bit of a weird video, you think, oh, shouldn't that come quite naturally. | 所以今天,我在"回到Uni"系列中做了一个高度要求的视频, 那就是"如何让朋友"(Make Friends), 当你第一次想到它的时候, 它听起来像一个怪异的视频, 你认为,哦,那不应该很自然地出现。 |
| 0:15 | But starting uni or starting a new school or starting a new sixth form is really daunting. | 但是,开始单人学校或开办新学校或开办新的第六形式确实令人生畏。 |
| 0:21 | And sometimes it's good to go back to the basics and think, oh, gosh, this is how you make friends and some tips on how to meet new people. | 有时候,回到基本点 并思考,哦,天哪, 这就是你如何交朋友, 以及如何认识新人的一些提示。 |
| 0:29 | And this is basically the sort of video that I wished I had. | 这基本上就是我想要的视频。 |
| 0:32 | I really hope that you enjoy it. | 我真的希望你喜欢它。 |
| 0:34 | If you do, then make sure that you give it a thumbs up. | 如果你这样做,那么确保 给它一个拇指了。 |
| 0:37 | And yeah, without further ado, let's just get on to it. | 是的,不用再多说了,我们继续吧 |
| 0:40 | So some of these tips, you can definitely apply to starting school or starting sixth form. | 所以,有些小费,你肯定可以申请开始上学或开始第六期。 |
| 0:44 | But a lot of them are going to be quite uni related. | 但其中很多将会是 相当的单一关系。 |
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| 序号 | 英文 | 中文 |
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| 1 | Hey everyone and welcome to today's video. | 大家好 欢迎收看今天的录像 |
| 2 | So today, I'm doing a highly requested video in my Back to Uni series, and that is How to Make Friends, which when you first think about it, it sounds like a bit of a weird video, you think, oh, shouldn't that come quite naturally. | 所以今天,我在"回到Uni"系列中做了一个高度要求的视频, 那就是"如何让朋友"(Make Friends), 当你第一次想到它的时候, 它听起来像一个怪异的视频, 你认为,哦,那不应该很自然地出现。 |
| 3 | But starting uni or starting a new school or starting a new sixth form is really daunting. | 但是,开始单人学校或开办新学校或开办新的第六形式确实令人生畏。 |
| 4 | And sometimes it's good to go back to the basics and think, oh, gosh, this is how you make friends and some tips on how to meet new people. | 有时候,回到基本点 并思考,哦,天哪, 这就是你如何交朋友, 以及如何认识新人的一些提示。 |
| 5 | And this is basically the sort of video that I wished I had. | 这基本上就是我想要的视频。 |
| 6 | I really hope that you enjoy it. | 我真的希望你喜欢它。 |
| 7 | If you do, then make sure that you give it a thumbs up. | 如果你这样做,那么确保 给它一个拇指了。 |
| 8 | And yeah, without further ado, let's just get on to it. | 是的,不用再多说了,我们继续吧 |
| 9 | So some of these tips, you can definitely apply to starting school or starting sixth form. | 所以,有些小费,你肯定可以申请开始上学或开始第六期。 |
| 10 | But a lot of them are going to be quite uni related. | 但其中很多将会是 相当的单一关系。 |
| 11 | But there's definitely little hints and tricks and things that you can pick up and apply to whatever situation, whether it's a new job, literally anything. | 但绝对没有多少暗示和技巧, 你可以拿起并应用到任何情况, 无论是新工作,实际上任何东西。 |
| 12 | I'll talk a little bit about my experience of making friends. | 我略谈我交朋友的经历. |
| 13 | So before uni, I joined all of the group chats. | 所以在Uni之前 我加入了所有的团体聊天 |
| 14 | If you're not part of them yet, then definitely get on to that. | 如果你不是他们的一部分, 那么肯定得到这一点。 |
| 15 | And I met some nice people. | 我遇见了一些好人。 |
| 16 | I mean, a lot of people on there that I spoke to a lot, quite frankly, like I don't even think I ever spoke to in real life when I got to uni. | 我的意思是,很多人在那里,我说话 很多,非常坦率, 像我甚至不认为 我曾经说话 在现实生活中 当我到达uni。 |
| 17 | It was just comforting, though, to speak to some people before uni, because obviously, we're all going through the same thing. | 不过,在Uni之前和一些人说话只是安慰,因为很明显,我们都经历了同样的事情. |
| 18 | But when I arrived at uni, I threw myself into making friends. | 但当我到达uni, 我投身交朋友。 |
| 19 | And thankfully, I have some. | 谢天谢地,我有一些。 |
| 20 | It wasn't always easy for a lot of conversations that I had where I just felt a bit low and just a bit, oh, gosh, I'm not sure if I'm going to find my people here. | 对于很多对话来说,我并不是总容易的, 我只是觉得有点低, 只是有点,哦,天哪,我不知道我是否要在这里找到我的人。 |
| 21 | It is all a bit overwhelming. | 这一切都有点压倒性。 |
| 22 | And I was quite lucky that I have met some nice people. | 我很幸运,我遇到了一些好人。 |
| 23 | But there were days where I was like, I don't think I've made enough friends. | 但是,有几天我像, 我不认为我已经做了足够的朋友。 |
| 24 | I'm not sure if my friends like me. | 我不知道我的朋友是否喜欢我 |
| 25 | But at the end of this year, I'm so thankful and so glad that I have some lovely people around me. | 但在今年年底,我非常感激和高兴我身边有一些可爱的人. |
| 26 | And I'm excited to make even more friends next year, because I'm a firm believer you can never have too many friends. | 我很高兴明年能交到更多的朋友 因为我是坚定的信徒 你永远不能有太多的朋友 |
| 27 | So the first and most obvious thing to remember is that literally everyone is in the same boat, whether you're at a new sixth form or at a new university. | 所以,第一,也是最显而易见的一点, 就是每个人都在同一条船上, 无论是新的第六型还是新的大学。 |
| 28 | Everyone wants to make friends. | 每个人都想交朋友 |
| 29 | No one wants to be alone throughout their uni experience, because it's a crazy three or four years, you just want people or someone to share that journey. | 没有人想独自一人 在他们的单人经历, 因为这是一个疯狂的三四年, 你只是希望人们或某人分享那段旅程。 |
| 30 | There's so many weird to talk about things when they're going bad and have someone to, you know, help you out, or when things are good, you want some to celebrate with you want, you know, some to have a good time with. | 当事情发展不好,有人帮助你的时候,或者当事情好的时候,你希望有人与你一起庆祝,你知道,有些人想与你一起享受美好时光的时候,谈论事情有这么多怪怪的. |
| 31 | The main thing to remember is that A, everyone is in the same boat and B, everyone is just as nervous as you are, there's obviously so much anxiety surrounding starting a new place. | 要记住的主要是,A,每个人都在同一艘船上,B,每个人都和你一样紧张,显然有这么多的焦虑 围绕开始一个新的地方。 |
| 32 | And although you meet some people who seem so confident and that they've got it all sorted, trust me, even them inside are so worried. | 虽然你遇到了一些看起来很自信的人, 他们已经得到了所有排序, 相信我,甚至里面的人都很担心。 |
| 33 | Just always remember that no matter what situation you're in, if things aren't going that well, and you're struggling to find your sort of people, don't worry because there are also many other people who are thinking the exact same thing. | 只要永远记住,无论你处于什么状况, 如果事情发展得不太顺利, 而且你正在努力寻找你的那种人, 不要担心,因为还有其他许多人 也在想同样的事情。 |
| 34 | Obviously, if you're in sixth form, then probably the easiest ways to meet people are to chat to people who are sat next to you in lessons or in the common room. | 显然,如果你是第六型的, 那么最容易与人们见面的方法可能是 与坐在你旁边的 上课或共同房间的人聊天。 |
| 35 | In university, there are also many other places where you could possibly find a new friend. | 在大学里,还有其他很多地方 你可以找到一个新的朋友。 |
| 36 | Obviously in your hall, in your accommodation, in your flat, in your student house, whatever living situation you're in, they will be the first people you met and probably first friends that you find. | 很明显,在你的大厅里, 在你的住所里, 在你的公寓里, 在你的学生宿舍里, 无论你处于什么生活状况, |
| 37 | Not everyone is lucky and you are literally randomly allocated whoever you're with. | 不是每个人都是幸运的,你 字面上随机分配你与谁。 |
| 38 | Some uni's do some sort of personality test, I know Warwick did it for my friend, and they matched her so well, like she gets on so well with her flatmates. | 有些Uni的做某种个性测试, 我知道Warwick为我朋友做的, 他们非常吻合她, 就像她得到了这么好 与她的室友。 |
| 39 | But nine out of ten uni's are just going to chuck you in and you just have to make the best of it. | 但十分之九的Uni会把你扔进去 你只需要尽力而为 |
| 40 | And sometimes it can be really lucky, they literally become your lifelong friends, you live with them in second and third year. | 有时它会非常幸运, 他们实际上成为你的终身朋友, 你和他们一起生活,在第二年和第三年。 |
| 41 | But other times you may genuinely not get on with the people you're living with and that is okay. | 但有时你可能真的不 与你生活在一起的人, 这没关系。 |
| 42 | They are complete random strangers who are having to live with. | 他们是完全随机的陌生人 谁必须生活。 |
| 43 | So obviously it is great to try and make friends with the people you're living with and it also just makes it so easier to live with. | 因此,很明显,尝试和你生活在一起的人交朋友是件好事, 而且这也让生活变得如此容易。 |
| 44 | If you're quite friendly with them because if there's any situations like taking out the bins or tidying up, then if you're friendly with them, it's so easier to solve them situations. | 如果你对他们很友好,因为如果有 任何情况,比如取出垃圾箱或清理, 那么如果你与他们友好, 它是如此容易解决他们的情况。 |
| 45 | But equally, you know, you may not get on with them, but don't worry, that's not the end. | 但同样,你知道,你可能 没有得到他们, 但不用担心,这不是结束。 |
| 46 | It's not as if you've failed uni, you've got no friends. | 岂如失利于尼,无友于尼. |
| 47 | Because there are so many other scenarios where you can meet people. | 因为有很多其他的情景 你可以遇到人。 |
| 48 | This year is so good that all of the Freshers events pretty much are going ahead. | 今年是非常好的一年,所有新鲜人的活动 几乎都在进行之中。 |
| 49 | Obviously in my year we had some but it was so hard to meet people because it was in groups of six and you sort of already had to know people who was going. | 显然,在我这一年,我们有过一些, 但很难见到人,因为它是六组的, 你们已经知道谁去。 |
| 50 | Like it was really weird and selective and it made people left out and it just wasn't like I didn't really meet anyone new on any Freshers events because you couldn't you were sat down the entire time you can even leave your table. | 就像它真的很奇怪和有选择性, 它让人们被忽略了, 它只是不象我 真正没有遇到任何人新的 在任何新鲜人的活动 因为你不能坐下来 你甚至可以离开你的桌子。 |
| 51 | But this year you can go clubbing, you can go to so many other events. | 但是今年你可以去夜总会, 你可以去很多其他的活动。 |
| 52 | I know that Nottingham have such good Freshers events this year. | 我知道诺丁汉今年有这么棒的Freers活动 |
| 53 | And obviously they have like the typical going clubbing, drinking things. | 很明显,他们喜欢 典型的夜总会,喝酒的东西。 |
| 54 | Then it also has so many just nice day ones. | 还有这么多美好的一天 |
| 55 | So they have like ice skating, an Ikea trip, a trip to the Kitty Cafe, which I've been to it's really nice there, guided campus tours, crazy golf. | 所以他们喜欢滑冰,爱克亚之旅,去凯蒂咖啡馆, 我去过那里,那里非常不错,有导游,还有疯狂的高尔夫球。 |
| 56 | Definitely get onto your Student Union website and see what Freshers events that are and make sure you go. | 一定要登上学生联盟的网站 看看是什么新鲜人事件 确保你走。 |
| 57 | Don't go to so many that you burn yourself out and you're just socially tired. | 不要去这么多 你烧了自己,你只是 社会累了。 |
| 58 | But you know, two, three or four events will be great because it just maximises the amount of people that you meet from across the university. | 但你知道,两,三,四事件将会是伟大的, 因为它只是最大限度地 人,你遇到 从整个大学。 |
| 59 | And then obviously also on your course, that is a great way to meet people. | 很明显,在你的航线上, 这是和人们见面的好方法。 |
| 60 | Say you're in a seminar or a lecture, literally just pluck up the courage to talk to the person next to you. | 说你在研讨会或讲座上 鼓起勇气跟你身边的人说话 |
| 61 | It's so scary. | 惊骇不已. |
| 62 | But I'm telling you that person will be so appreciative that you have actually said hi and you want to make a conversation because often making the first move is the hardest bit done. | 但我告诉你,那个人会非常感激 你确实打过招呼,你想谈谈 因为经常做第一个动作是最困难的 |
| 63 | After that, the conversation should be the easier part. | 之后,对话应该是比较容易的部分. |
| 64 | We've got your accommodation. | 我们有你的住处。 |
| 65 | We've got your course as ways to make friends, people you might meet on nights out or during the day at Freshers events. | 我们有你的课程,作为交朋友的方式, 人你可能遇到 在晚上或白天 在Freshers的活动。 |
| 66 | And there's also obviously societies. | 显然还有社会。 |
| 67 | So societies are a great way to meet people because you all have the same interests. | 所以社会是满足人们的伟大方式, 因为你们都有同样的利益。 |
| 68 | So first of all, there's already some things to talk about. | 所以首先,已经有一些事情要谈。 |
| 69 | And second of all, they happen like quite regularly society meetups. | 其次,它们经常发生 就像社交聚会一样。 |
| 70 | So it's a chance to sort of evolve a friendship as you meet up with them more. | 所以当你和他们见面的时候 有机会发展友谊 |
| 71 | You can try out a new sport or a new activity, a new hobby, or you can stick with something that you already know. | 你可以尝试新的运动或者新的活动,新的爱好,或者你可以坚持你已经知道的东西. |
| 72 | So we talked about, you know, where you can find these potential friends. | 所以我们谈了,你知道,在哪里可以找到这些潜在的朋友。 |
| 73 | But now we're going to talk about actual conversation because it is so daunting speaking to people for the first time, especially if you're like me. | 但是现在我们要谈谈真正的对话 因为它是如此令人生畏 第一次对人们说话,特别是如果你像我一样。 |
| 74 | I went to the exact same school from year seven to year 13. | 我从七年级到十三年级都读同一所学校 |
| 75 | And obviously I did make some new sixth form friends who I'm still friends with now. | 显然,我做了一些新的第六组朋友 我现在仍然是朋友。 |
| 76 | But a lot of the time I was just with the same people that have known me since I was like this high. | 但很多时候,我只是 与同样的人 认识我,因为我是这样高。 |
| 77 | So I'm just going to talk about the actual logistics of a conversation, some conversation starters, what you can say. | 所以我要谈谈一个谈话的实际后勤问题, 一些对话的开始者,你可以说什么。 |
| 78 | If I would have had some of these prepared in my head, then it would have saved a lot of awkward conversations. | 如果我脑子里有这些东西的话 那会节省很多尴尬的对话 |
| 79 | So my go-to is to compliment someone's outfit, especially for us girls or even if a guy were wearing a cool t-shirt. | 所以我要去赞美某人的服装, 特别为我们的女孩, 或者甚至一个家伙穿着一件很酷的T恤。 |
| 80 | I went to a party a couple of weeks ago and I did not know a single person there apart from my boyfriend. | 几周前我去了一个派对 除了我的男朋友,我不认识一个人 |
| 81 | I was petrified. | 我吓坏了。 |
| 82 | And literally one of the first things I said to like everyone there was, oh my God, I love your outfit. | 我最先说到的一件事 就是,哦,我的上帝,我爱你的衣服。 |
| 83 | Where's your dress from? | 你的裙子从哪里来的? |
| 84 | But I think everyone was too drunk to notice that I basically said it to everyone I met. | 但我觉得每个人都喝得醉不醒 我基本上都跟我认识的人说了 |
| 85 | But if you genuinely like a bit of the outfit, why don't you tell them? | 但如果你真的喜欢这身衣服 为什么不告诉他们? |
| 86 | Because it's just so nice that everyone likes to hear that they look nice. | 因为它只是太好, 每个人都喜欢听到 他们看起来不错。 |
| 87 | One that I think is good when you meet people from uni, because obviously loads of people are coming from all over the UK. | 我认为,当你遇到来自Uni的人时,这是很好的, 因为很明显,很多人来自全英国。 |
| 88 | A good question is, I can't place your accent. | 一个好的问题是,我不能放 你的口音。 |
| 89 | Where are you from? | 你从哪里来? |
| 90 | You know, you can learn so much about someone when they talk about home. | 你知道,你可以了解这么多 当一个人谈论家。 |
| 91 | And obviously I can't place your accent. | 很明显,我不能放你的口音。 |
| 92 | Where are you from? | 你从哪里来? |
| 93 | Is a nice way in saying, oh my God, you sound so northern. | 说得好,哦,我的上帝,你的声音这么北。 |
| 94 | Like, are you from Manchester? | 你是曼彻斯特来的吗? |
| 95 | Like, you're not making an assumption straight away. | 就像,你不会马上做出假设 |
| 96 | She just opening up the question to them or even just asking someone, where do you live? | 她只是向他们敞开心扉 甚至问别人 你住哪儿? |
| 97 | Like, how far away are you from uni? | 像,你离uni有多远? |
| 98 | Was it a long journey? | 旅途漫长吗? |
| 99 | And are you sad to leave your friends behind? | 你离开你的朋友很伤心吗? |
| 100 | You got any siblings? | 你有兄弟姐妹吗? |
| 101 | How was school for you? | 学校怎么样? |
| 102 | Talking about someone's home, something that's quite familiar, is something that quite a lot of people like to talk about. | 谈论一个人的家, 一些相当熟悉的东西, 是相当多的人喜欢谈论。 |
| 103 | Just a careful one with that, though, make sure that you don't stereotype anyone and accidentally offend someone. | 不过要小心一点 千万别定型 无意中冒犯别人 |
| 104 | When you hear about where someone lives and maybe it's a place that you think, oh, I wouldn't like to be from there, don't tell them. | 当你听到有人住的地方, 也许这是一个你认为的地方, 哦,我不想在那里,不要告诉他们。 |
| 105 | I had quite a bad encounter when I told someone where I lived and it instantly just set a really bad tone. | 当我告诉别人我住在哪里时 我遇到了一个非常糟糕的遭遇 它瞬间就树立了一个非常糟糕的基调 |
| 106 | And it's not very nice to generalise people or stereotype people and chat rubbish about where someone lives, | 和它不是很好 一般人或 刻板印象的人 和聊天垃圾 关于一个人住的地方, |
| 107 | because obviously where you live is quite a big part of you and that sort of thing. | 因为很明显你住的地方是 你和那种事情的一大部分 |
| 108 | So, yeah, just be careful with that one. | 所以,是的,小心那个。 |
| 109 | But I think everyone likes talking about their home. | 但我认为每个人都喜欢谈论自己的家 |
| 110 | You could also ask about what A-levels or what BTECs they did, how they found it. | 你也可以问一下A级或BTEC 是怎么找到的 |
| 111 | Top tip, don't ask someone what A-levels they got. | 顶尖小费 别问别人他们有什么A级 |
| 112 | Like, don't ask them their actual grades. | 喜欢,不要问 他们的实际成绩。 |
| 113 | I don't think that's a very good conversation start-up. | 我不认为这是一个非常好的谈话启动。 |
| 114 | I mean, if they're your friend, like later down the line, I think it's so acceptable to talk about that. | 我的意思是,如果他们是你的朋友, 像后来的台阶, 我认为谈论这一点是可以接受的。 |
| 115 | But you don't want the first thing, you know, someone to say is, oh my God, I did maths too. | 但你不想说,你知道,有人说, 哦,我的上帝,我也做了数学。 |
| 116 | I got an A-star. | 我有一颗A星 |
| 117 | What did you get? | 你得到什么了吗? |
| 118 | Like, it just sets off in a bad tone. | 像,它只是启动 一个不好的语气。 |
| 119 | Obviously as well, their course. | 很明显,他们的路线。 |
| 120 | Course you do. | 当然 |
| 121 | Why did you pick that course? | 你为什么选那个课程? |
| 122 | What are you hoping to get out of it? | 你想从中解脱什么? |
| 123 | What job do you want from it in the end? | 你最后想从中找到什么工作? |
| 124 | Or do you have no idea yet? | 还是你还不知道? |
| 125 | What modules are you looking forward to? | 你期待什么模块? |
| 126 | Oh, I've got a friend who does that course. | 哦,我有一个朋友 谁做这个课程。 |
| 127 | Oh my God, let's get you in touch. | 哦,我的上帝,让我们联系你。 |
| 128 | Because at the end of the day, you are there to do a course or if you're at sixth form, you're there to do some A-levels. | 因为在一天结束时,你在那里做一个课程,或者如果你在第六层,你在那里做一些A级. |
| 129 | So it's just nice to talk about, you know, what you're actually there to do. | 所以,它只是很好的谈论, 你知道,你实际上在那里做什么。 |
| 130 | Especially in the first couple of weeks, if it's freshers, you can ask, oh, what events do you have booked? | 尤其是在头几周,如果是新鲜的, 你可以问,哦,你订了什么活动? |
| 131 | I'm going to this one. | 我要去这一个。 |
| 132 | Like, do you fancy coming along? | 你喜欢一起来吗? |
| 133 | I don't know where this nightclub is. | 我不知道夜总会在哪 |
| 134 | Like, do you fancy going together? | 喜欢,你想一起去? |
| 135 | Do you fancy going to Prees together? | 你想一起去Pres吗? |
| 136 | Just talking about what you've got lined up or if you've got no events booked. | 说说你排好了什么 或者你没有安排任何活动 |
| 137 | So if you've got any book, this SU event looks good. | 如果你有书的话 这个SU活动看起来不错 |
| 138 | Should we go to it together? | 我们应该一起去吗? |
| 139 | Never know. | 从不知道。 |
| 140 | You might bag yourself an invite to something. | 你可以给自己带个邀请函 |
| 141 | As well with societies, you could talk to someone and say, oh, have you got any societies in mind that you want to join? | 对社会来说,你也可以和某人交谈,然后说,哦,你有没有想到任何你想加入的社会? |
| 142 | Do you do any sports? | 你有运动吗? |
| 143 | What are your hobbies? | 你的爱好是什么? |
| 144 | What do you like to do outside of studying? | 你想在学习之外做什么? |
| 145 | 我很乐意谈论YouTube | |
| 146 | If you yourself think, oh my gosh, I have no hobbies, I don't do anything, | 如果你自己认为,哦,我的天啊, 我没有爱好,我什么都不做, |
| 147 | then just like think of something before uni that you could say. | 在Uni之前想点你能说的 |
| 148 | So you could say, oh, I don't really do much, but I do have a dog and, you know, take him on walks and all talk about, | 所以你可以说,哦,我真的没有做很多, 但我有一只狗,你知道,带他走 和所有谈论, |
| 149 | oh, actually, in uni, I'd like to try this. | 哦,实际上,在uni, 我想试试这个。 |
| 150 | I don't know if you've ever done it before. | 未审汝曾否. |
| 151 | Literally, it could be anything, but just have something in your head that if someone says, | 从字面上说,它可能是什么, 但只是有东西在你的头上,如果有人说, |
| 152 | oh, what do you do outside your geography degree or, you know, what do you do for fun on the weekends? | 哦,你做什么 你的地理学位之外, 或者,你知道, 你做什么乐趣 在周末? |
| 153 | Then you just have something to be prepared to say other than, oh, I just sort of watch Netflix. | 那你有话要说 除了看Netflix |
| 154 | One of the most crucial bits at the end of this conversation, so you've said hello, you've asked them their name, | 谈话结束时最关键的一点之一 所以你问了他们的名字 |
| 155 | you've asked them what course they do, where they're from back home, what society is they're joining, | 你问过他们做什么工作 他们从家乡来 加入什么社会 |
| 156 | have they got any events, but this week, et cetera, et cetera. | 他们有任何事件, 但本周,等等,等等。 |
| 157 | 然后,你想要求他们的Snap或Instagram。 | |
| 158 | I've really enjoyed talking to you. | 我真的很喜欢和你说话。 |
| 159 | 我能拿你的Snap或Instagram什么的吗? | |
| 160 | Follow it up with, oh, I'd like to go for a coffee with you one day or a drink or a walk or that event that I was talking about. | 跟着它,哦,我想去 咖啡与你一天 或喝一杯,散步, 或那个我谈到的事件。 |
| 161 | We could go to that on the weekend. | 我们可以周末去。 |
| 162 | 能拿到他们的Snap和Instagram真好 | |
| 163 | but then if you follow it up with, oh, let's actually do something together, I'll contact you about it. | 但是,如果你跟进它, 哦,让我们真正 做一些事情在一起, 我会联系你 关于它。 |
| 164 | I did that to some people at Freshers and some people did that to me, and it was just really nice because you never know what could come of that. | 我对一些在Freshers的人做了那样的事情 有些人对我做了那样的事情, 这真的很好,因为你永远不知道 会发生什么。 |
| 165 | In a really polite, informal way, just say, hi, can I have your Snap or Instagram? | 以非常礼貌的非正式方式,只是说,嗨, 我可以有你的Snap或Instagram? |
| 166 | Yeah, I wouldn't say get their number because I think that's a little bit too personal. | 是啊,我不会说得到他们的号码 因为我觉得这有点太私人了。 |
| 167 | And you get some people who are like, oh, I don't have Snap or Instagram. | 你得到一些人 谁喜欢,哦,我没有Snap或Instagram。 |
| 168 | If you're that person watching, get it, even if you don't use it very much. | 如果你是看的人,得到它, 即使你没有经常使用它。 |
| 169 | Just get it so that people have a way to contact you. | 只要得到它,以便人们有 方法与你联系。 |
| 170 | Then I'm going to talk about maybe some friendship don'ts at uni. | 然后,我要去谈论 也许一些友谊 不在uni。 |
| 171 | I mean, there aren't many and take all of these with a pinch of salt, but these are some big sisterly advice sort of thing. | 我的意思是,没有太多,把这些 和一串盐, 但这些是一些大姐妹的建议之类的东西。 |
| 172 | One thing I would say is just don't put your eggs all in one basket, which is a phrase that my mum has repeated many times over the years. | 我想说一件事 就是不要把鸡蛋都放进一个篮子里 这是我妈妈多年来重复多次的一句话 |
| 173 | If you don't know what that means, it's basically if you found one friend or found a group of people that you absolutely love and you think, you know what, these are my friendship soulmates. | 如果你不知道这意味着什么, 基本上,如果你找到一个朋友 或者找到一组人 你绝对爱,你认为,你知道, 这些是我的友谊 灵魂伴侣。 |
| 174 | You know, this is it. | 就是这样 |
| 175 | I'm moving in with them. | 我搬去跟他们住 |
| 176 | I love them. | 我爱他们。 |
| 177 | We're going to spend all of our time together. | 共度一切众生. |
| 178 | Don't think that because, you know, you have space and you have time to have lots of different friends. | 别这么想,因为,你知道, 你有空间和时间 有很多不同的朋友。 |
| 179 | And, you know, you may love these people right now and you may think you're having such a good time, but you never know in a couple of weeks or months time when the buzz of freshness died down. | 而且,你知道,你可能爱这些人 现在,你可能会认为 你有一个很好的时间, 但你从来没有知道 在几个星期或几个月的时间, 当新鲜气息 死。 |
| 180 | You know, you just see different sides to people and that is completely natural. | 你知道,你只是看到不同的 一边的人,这是完全自然的。 |
| 181 | You know, like when you meet someone, you are the best version of yourself. | 你知道,就像当你遇到某人, 你是最好的版本你自己。 |
| 182 | You are giving out the best first impression if you think you found amazing friends and you probably have. | 如果你觉得自己找到了很棒的朋友 并且你可能也找到了 |
| 183 | But there's no reason to stop there. | 但是,没有理由停下来。 |
| 184 | So, yeah, just don't put all your eggs in one basket. | 所以,是的,只是不要把你所有的鸡蛋放在一个篮子里。 |
| 185 | Try and make as many friends as you can. | 尽量多交朋友 |
| 186 | The grind doesn't stop because some people drop out of uni. | 由于有些人从uni中退学,磨磨不会停止. |
| 187 | So, yeah, just try and mingle with as many people as possible and don't think, oh, after two weeks, this is it. | 所以,是的,只是尝试 和尽可能多的人交配 并且不要思考, 哦,两周后,这就是它。 |
| 188 | I've made my friends. | 我结交了朋友 |
| 189 | Always be open to new opportunities and meeting new people. | 永远对新机会和新人开放。 |
| 190 | If you're finding it really, really hard, there are other ways that you can meet people. | 如果你发现它真的,真的很难, 你可以有其他的方式去见人。 |
| 191 | So on Facebook, there's this group. | 所以在脸书上,有一个团体。 |
| 192 | It's called Gals Who Graduate and they have subgroups for every city in the UK. | 叫做Gals Who Graduate 他们为英国的每一个城市都有分组 |
| 193 | So they have a Nottingham one, a Manchester one. | 他们有一个诺丁汉,一个曼彻斯特。 |
| 194 | And on there, people are always messaging. | 在那里,人们总是发信息。 |
| 195 | Hi, I've moved to a new city. | 嗨,我已经搬到了一个新的城市。 |
| 196 | I'm a new student. | 我是新来的 |
| 197 | Does anyone want to make friends? | 有人想交朋友吗? |
| 198 | That sort of thing. | 那种东西。 |
| 199 | Does anyone want to go out for coffee? | 有人想出去喝咖啡吗? |
| 200 | And it just seems like a really positive community. | 这似乎是一个非常积极的社区。 |
| 201 | You have to be approved to get in and obviously you still have to be really aware of the online world | 你必须获得批准才能进入 显然你仍然要真正了解网络世界 |
| 202 | and don't go meeting up with strangers without people knowing where you are. | 不要去和陌生人见面 没有人们知道你在哪里。 |
| 203 | Leave your snap maps on. | 把你的地图放好 |
| 204 | Make sure that someone texts you while you're there and rings you if you haven't replied. | 如果你还没回话,就叫人给你发短信 打电话给你 |
| 205 | All of the basic safety rules that you learned when you were younger. | 你年轻时学到的所有基本安全规则 |
| 206 | But if you're really struggling, something like that could be really positive. | 但是如果你真的在挣扎, 类似的东西可能是非常积极的。 |
| 207 | Bumble BFF显然是相当不错的。 | |
| 208 | So it's like a dating app, but literally purely just for making friends. | 所以它就像一个约会的应用程序, 但字面上纯粹只是为了交朋友。 |
| 209 | And I think the pandemic has taught us that it's so invaluable to keep up with people online. | 我认为,这个流行病告诉我们, 跟在线上的人保持同步是非常宝贵的。 |
| 210 | If you're finding it hard through the traditional routes, there is always the online world to help you out. | 如果你在传统路线上很难找到, 总是有在线世界帮助你。 |
| 211 | Basically, the take home message is to be the most confident version of yourself. | 基本上,带回家的信息是 成为你最自信的版本。 |
| 212 | Even if you don't feel like it, you just have to really put yourself out there. | 即使你不喜欢,你只需要 真正把自己在那里。 |
| 213 | Thanks so much for watching. | 谢谢你的观看 |
| 214 | If you have any comments or anything, then leave them below. | 如果你有任何评论或任何东西,请放在下面。 |
| 215 | If you're going to Nottingham, you know, I hope you make loads of friends and let me know how it all goes. | 如果你要去诺丁汉,你知道, 我希望你做很多朋友 并告诉我是怎么回事。 |
| 216 | Thanks so much for watching. | 谢谢你的观看 |
| 217 | 确保你跟我来Instagram和TikTok 以及所有好东西。 | |
| 218 | And I'll see you all soon in next week's video. | 下周的录影带里见 |
| 219 | Bye. | 再见。 |
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